#might be a server problem

[glowsticcc]

so i got java recently

[pechaberriesandsoju]

Godddd I fucking hate this ugh

This isn't about the rain btw

[no27-autonation-honda]

i dont think any sentence i ever write is ever gonna beat "santino is a spotted lantern fly btw" in sheer terms of comedy

[rainbowtvz]

tiny selfship friendly art server!

queer ran

selfship, s/i, and oc friendly

18+ only! sorry minors (it's primarily sfw but suggestive/nsfw is allowed if spoilered properly)

no proship/comship/etc content

no pro-para shit! (this is a dog whistle term, non harmful paraphiles are welcome lol)

vexillology channel included for pride flags but please no radqueer or radinclus stuff! (aldernic and other mogai stuff welcome tho!)

color roles

oc bot similar to pluralkit but specifically for ocs and/or rp

gartic bot for chat only art games

one word story bot

weirdcore maker bot

utility bots for sourcing images and helping you pick winners for raffles/giveaways

rat fact bot cuz why not lol

more bots for other fun stuff! https://discord.gg/bJFRxm5M3n

pssst: we have automod that kicks people who's account is younger than a month. if you recently remade or just made an account for the first time either use your old one (if the former) or wait until your account is old enough! also i DO enforce the 18+ thing! if you're less than a month away from turning 18, sorry, you're getting banned. dm me if you want to appeal after your birthday.

[cha1cedony]

I love that Discord has the ability to be so cozy and close-knit, but I hate that it’s so blocked off from the rest of the internet. And you can’t lurk; you HAVE to be active (or at least active enough to get in in the first place). Ahem anyway. you should invite me to your Discord servers.

🌀 Oooooo you want to invite me to your extremely niche DnDads Discord servers so bad ooooooooooooooooooooo 🌀

…or send me an anonymous ask about my favorite uhhhhhhh? mustelid or something. Ask me for good Lieder on a specific theme.. I’ve been listening to them all day. Maybe this shouldn’t be on my fandom blog???? It has been derailed ANYWAY idk I’m just feeling antsy and rambly hi 😁 How are you HAHA

[gildedphoenix]

I want to dip my toes into writing and I've got the beginning premise to a fanfic crossover piece, but I cannot thing of the rest of the plot. I’ve got some opening conflict. I’ve got a romantic pairing. I’ve got a fair bit of background which sets up the architecture of the ‘verse. But no driving plot. No conflict to be resolved at the climax of the fic. 

 Help! How do I do plot.

[tierra-paldeana]

// me, who enjoys rping on discord but is deeply terrified of rp discord servers unless i am familiar with every single person there and it's why i made this blog in the first place:

[ooc-miqojak]

People love to say they support neurodivergent people - but I've found that this is lip service, more often or not, because it requires a lot of patience - and the ability not to assume the worst about a person (especially in a digital space). Every ND person is unique, and has their quirks! But in an online space, I've found that people just tend to assume the worst about you, and kick you/block you/ghost you for your behavior or words, instead of taking the time to have an emotionally mature talk about what happened, and explain why this thing that happened/thing that was said was upsetting or problematic - you're never given the opportunity to explain that you meant no harm. Many of these people, in my case, I've spoken to at length when I was getting to know them about how important communication is - if I've said or done something upsetting, I can't read your mind! I have to know, before I can amend things, and adjust my behavior.

Sometimes I'm oblivious to what I've said/done, because my 'normal' is different. For instance, I love to debate - not argue - but debate. It's interesting to see others' POV! Variety is the spice of life after all, and if we all had the same beliefs and outlooks, that would be boring! But for some reason, most people seem to see a debate as an emotional argument? It's as though you can't disagree - not even respectfully - without people assuming you're angry or mad or attacking them. I don't understand people who get intensely emotionally invested in these debates (when they're not about typical hot button topics, as I don't do religious/political debates) - to me it's like a football player claiming someone on the opposing team was legitimately attacking them, not tackling them as a normal part of the game.

But I also don't engage in 'sub-text' as many neurotypicals do, either - to me, it's not only a waste of time, but a quick way to end up tangled in miscommunication. I say what I mean, and I tell people this... and they'll still apply some hidden meaning to it that is entirely fabricated... then get angry at me for sub-text that isn't really there. (When I was reprimanded in an online space earlier this year, I kept asking what I did wrong... and got told that I was arguing by asking what I was being scolded for/why I was being condescended to.)

ADHD people are regularly called 'passionate' - so much so that I almost want to roll my eyes when I hear it, now... but it remains a decent word to explain, for neurotypical people, our seemingly 'over the top' behaviors - be they positive or negative. And I've had people online assume I'm mad, or attacking them... when I'm just excited... or "passionate." Emotional dysregulation can be hell - some compare it to a car with no brakes. Normal people apply the brakes before the words come out - ADHDers lack those brakes. It means I try to be hyper aware, instead, and apply the Fred Flinstone brakes. I don't always catch myself, either - and in-person/on voice chat, this can result in things that seem rude - like interrupting others; but this isn't meant to be rude, and I don't realize I've done it! I'm excitable, and with the way ADHD works, I feel as though I have to get this comment out before I forget it! If I have to hold onto this thought, I'll either forget it, or spend the entire time the other person is talking trying to hold onto that thought, and miss what's said. But other people just tend to assume I'm being rude by interrupting - so I told a friend I upset this way that he's allowed to notify me in some manner when I've done this - because I don't want to be rude! I don't want to steamroll a conversation - and sometimes I need a gentle reminder that I've done so. I often jokingly compare myself to a jumpy golden retriever - I love people! But no one really wants a big dog jumping all over them, even if the dog means well - sometimes you have to say 'down', and the dog will stop jumping! They just forgot not to do this unwanted behavior because they were so excited!

Emotional dysregulation to me is like my emotions are a volume dial on a radio that was cranked way too high, and the dial broke off. The volume is permanently too loud - which is great when I'm happy, and devastating when I'm sad. But I don't get to turn them down, either way - the volume is stuck at max.

So yeah, sometimes people online need a little grace - a little patience, and for others not to jump to the worst possible assumption. Your normal isn't the same as everyone else's normal, and you might have to take extra time to understand where someone is coming from, and what they meant. Sometimes you might need to explain something that seems obvious to you, but it isn't to someone else. Sometimes that 'rude' thing that happened wasn't at all intended to be upsetting/rude, and talking to the person who said/did that thing can clear the air, and they can apologize and note that this is something they should not do or say, or that they should be more aware of.

Sometimes, the dog is just jumpy and excitable - not aggressive.

[daeranilen]

Look, you don't have to like Discord, but I see people complaining about how bad its search function is all the time and I truly cannot understand where this is coming from. As long as you realize it can only find exact words and phrases, if you can recall a single word in the message you want to find, it WILL find it for you. If you can recall roughly how long ago it was said, then knowing Discord search presents results in strict reverse chronological order will help you find it. If you can recall who said it, what channel it was said in, whether it had a link or attachment, and/or what kind of attachment it had, the excellent filter functions will help you narrow it down even faster. It's one of the best search experiences you will ever get to have in 2023 outside of Ao3 and I will not stand for this slander.

[beegswaz]

[mental-breakdown-machine]

GUESS WHO I SEEN LAST NIGHT!!!!!

[aph-estonia]

i am So sorry to my irls and any of my other friends named madison or madeleine or anything that can be shortned to maddy because now when i think of maddy i think of this very lovely discord user who gets so fucking pissed whenever they get reminded of my existence like we are in a public server and i will type in a channel, not at all referencing or vagueing them, saying something relating to the channel subject, and they will respond, fuming, with shit like "nobody wants you here. nobody cares about you. you should leave the server. kill yourself." instead of doing the sane normal person thing of just leaving themself. they've stopped responding to me lately tho, makes me think they've actually learned that i feed off their negativity.

[vanillabat99]

The other day I was hanging out with my partner and I got overwhelmed and wasn't able to communicate verbally, which happens sometimes, and I ended up stringing together various discord emojis to communicate. This then prompted my partner to provide me with my own communicative emojis to use, which is so sweet!! Even though I am able to communicate through words the majority of the time, it has been fantastic to have the addition of special emojis :3

I have been worried about trying alternative communication, and while the reasoning behind taking this step was a frustrating necessity, I am very glad to have gotten access to a wider range of ways to communicate :3

[miss-atropine]

I impulsively set up a discord server at 3am... 😣

the apothecary

Pay a visit, so long as you’re 18+ :)

[ghostprinceiii]

"You're going to need a compelling reason to gain entry to Inazuma..."

My compelling reason is I need wood from there to make a purple bed for my teapot house.

[nanowired-lover]

putting the lil "Japanese 80s City Pop Songs" playlist to destroy my morning executive dysfunction because the vibes are immaculate and it feels like you're in those domestic movies where you see the characters living their little routine in their house and so you're just mimicking the energy

Also it cures depression, i forgor world is a fuck and i'm going to be so happy while filling paperworks ✨