#might be a server problem

[glowsticcc]

so i got java recently

[pechaberriesandsoju]

Godddd I fucking hate this ugh

This isn't about the rain btw

[north-wilkesboro-moonshine-cave]

i dont think any sentence i ever write is ever gonna beat "santino is a spotted lantern fly btw" in sheer terms of comedy

[beegswaz]

[rainbowtvz]

tiny selfship friendly art server!

queer ran

selfship, s/i, and oc friendly

18+ only! sorry minors (it's primarily sfw but suggestive/nsfw is allowed if spoilered properly)

no proship/comship/etc content

no pro-para shit! (this is a dog whistle term, non harmful paraphiles are welcome lol)

vexillology channel included for pride flags but please no radqueer or radinclus stuff! (aldernic and other mogai stuff welcome tho!)

color roles

oc bot similar to pluralkit but specifically for ocs and/or rp

gartic bot for chat only art games

one word story bot

weirdcore maker bot

utility bots for sourcing images and helping you pick winners for raffles/giveaways

rat fact bot cuz why not lol

more bots for other fun stuff! https://discord.gg/bJFRxm5M3n

pssst: we have automod that kicks people who's account is younger than a month. if you recently remade or just made an account for the first time either use your old one (if the former) or wait until your account is old enough! also i DO enforce the 18+ thing! if you're less than a month away from turning 18, sorry, you're getting banned. dm me if you want to appeal after your birthday.

[cha1cedony]

I love that Discord has the ability to be so cozy and close-knit, but I hate that it’s so blocked off from the rest of the internet. And you can’t lurk; you HAVE to be active (or at least active enough to get in in the first place). Ahem anyway. you should invite me to your Discord servers.

🌀 Oooooo you want to invite me to your extremely niche DnDads Discord servers so bad ooooooooooooooooooooo 🌀

…or send me an anonymous ask about my favorite uhhhhhhh? mustelid or something. Ask me for good Lieder on a specific theme.. I’ve been listening to them all day. Maybe this shouldn’t be on my fandom blog???? It has been derailed ANYWAY idk I’m just feeling antsy and rambly hi 😁 How are you HAHA

[gildedphoenix]

I want to dip my toes into writing and I've got the beginning premise to a fanfic crossover piece, but I cannot thing of the rest of the plot. I’ve got some opening conflict. I’ve got a romantic pairing. I’ve got a fair bit of background which sets up the architecture of the ‘verse. But no driving plot. No conflict to be resolved at the climax of the fic. 

 Help! How do I do plot.

[ofdarklands]

second attempt at the raid, only died once per boss with a bonus one at the last one. progress

i wish the final boss' sword swing signal was closer to the ground so i could see it better. i literally cannot zoom far enough to see it in a way i understand. we'll not get into the remembering the order part

[icewindandboringhorror]

Recent things.. mostly just writing screenshots lol

[le-velo-pour-dru]

I know this is the most immature and childish way to react to it, but it's been really stressful to me how much I've been confronted and contradicted and corrected about the things I say and do recently :(

[mbat]

honestly my biggest wonder about yesterdays drama was like... who even was that? not the person being called out, but the one calling them out. like, its one thing to make a throwaway to make a callout post, but to go on anon and try to pull unrelated people into it? this was clearly someone still in the taleblr server since they had screenshots from literally the same day in their callout

this isnt me taking sides because genuinely i have more important things to worry about than all that, but its different when it comes to this person because like... i just thought yall were different than that? maybe we all dont totally consider eachother friends entirely but i liked to think we were all somewhere around there for the most part

theres only so many of us and we all try to stay chill (to more or less success) because like... theres probably less than 100 of us left, and we're all adults by now as far as i know, and i know age doesnt really equal maturity, but its just so immature to try and stir drama by messaging unrelated parties.

honestly even if the person told me in private who they were its not like id make shit worse by posting about them or something because, again, i have bigger things to worry about, im just curious at this point. its not even an obligation for them to come forward, im just admitting that im curious.

if anything all i have to say is be the bigger person and block and move on when you dont like someone or something someone did. i get that you saw stuff that you found gross and you wanted everyone to feel the same way you did, but the rest of us just want to live our lives. plus i think the people that were messaged arent even in the discord so it was honestly even weirder to do that

ive had my fair share of seeing things that made me feel gross to see or read or know about, like, seriously i found out one of my friends was a pedo last year (and i promptly blocked the cunt). but it doesnt do anything to pull other people into the mess and try to start shit.

basically, just be more mature, cause i know yall are better than that. you dont have to read fics that you dont like, and you dont have to interact with people you dont like. your online experience is yours and the best option is always to block and move on. ive had my fair share of drama, and all it does is ruin peoples days, and not much else.

my biggest point, honestly, is that this is such a small fandom and i dont want whats left to come crashing down because some drama makes everyone left hate it here. i dont care whos right or wrong because literally whatever its internet drama, i just dont want this community to die out.

[tierra-paldeana]

// me, who enjoys rping on discord but is deeply terrified of rp discord servers unless i am familiar with every single person there and it's why i made this blog in the first place:

[ooc-miqojak]

People love to say they support neurodivergent people - but I've found that this is lip service, more often or not, because it requires a lot of patience - and the ability not to assume the worst about a person (especially in a digital space). Every ND person is unique, and has their quirks! But in an online space, I've found that people just tend to assume the worst about you, and kick you/block you/ghost you for your behavior or words, instead of taking the time to have an emotionally mature talk about what happened, and explain why this thing that happened/thing that was said was upsetting or problematic - you're never given the opportunity to explain that you meant no harm. Many of these people, in my case, I've spoken to at length when I was getting to know them about how important communication is - if I've said or done something upsetting, I can't read your mind! I have to know, before I can amend things, and adjust my behavior.

Sometimes I'm oblivious to what I've said/done, because my 'normal' is different. For instance, I love to debate - not argue - but debate. It's interesting to see others' POV! Variety is the spice of life after all, and if we all had the same beliefs and outlooks, that would be boring! But for some reason, most people seem to see a debate as an emotional argument? It's as though you can't disagree - not even respectfully - without people assuming you're angry or mad or attacking them. I don't understand people who get intensely emotionally invested in these debates (when they're not about typical hot button topics, as I don't do religious/political debates) - to me it's like a football player claiming someone on the opposing team was legitimately attacking them, not tackling them as a normal part of the game.

But I also don't engage in 'sub-text' as many neurotypicals do, either - to me, it's not only a waste of time, but a quick way to end up tangled in miscommunication. I say what I mean, and I tell people this... and they'll still apply some hidden meaning to it that is entirely fabricated... then get angry at me for sub-text that isn't really there. (When I was reprimanded in an online space earlier this year, I kept asking what I did wrong... and got told that I was arguing by asking what I was being scolded for/why I was being condescended to.)

ADHD people are regularly called 'passionate' - so much so that I almost want to roll my eyes when I hear it, now... but it remains a decent word to explain, for neurotypical people, our seemingly 'over the top' behaviors - be they positive or negative. And I've had people online assume I'm mad, or attacking them... when I'm just excited... or "passionate." Emotional dysregulation can be hell - some compare it to a car with no brakes. Normal people apply the brakes before the words come out - ADHDers lack those brakes. It means I try to be hyper aware, instead, and apply the Fred Flinstone brakes. I don't always catch myself, either - and in-person/on voice chat, this can result in things that seem rude - like interrupting others; but this isn't meant to be rude, and I don't realize I've done it! I'm excitable, and with the way ADHD works, I feel as though I have to get this comment out before I forget it! If I have to hold onto this thought, I'll either forget it, or spend the entire time the other person is talking trying to hold onto that thought, and miss what's said. But other people just tend to assume I'm being rude by interrupting - so I told a friend I upset this way that he's allowed to notify me in some manner when I've done this - because I don't want to be rude! I don't want to steamroll a conversation - and sometimes I need a gentle reminder that I've done so. I often jokingly compare myself to a jumpy golden retriever - I love people! But no one really wants a big dog jumping all over them, even if the dog means well - sometimes you have to say 'down', and the dog will stop jumping! They just forgot not to do this unwanted behavior because they were so excited!

Emotional dysregulation to me is like my emotions are a volume dial on a radio that was cranked way too high, and the dial broke off. The volume is permanently too loud - which is great when I'm happy, and devastating when I'm sad. But I don't get to turn them down, either way - the volume is stuck at max.

So yeah, sometimes people online need a little grace - a little patience, and for others not to jump to the worst possible assumption. Your normal isn't the same as everyone else's normal, and you might have to take extra time to understand where someone is coming from, and what they meant. Sometimes you might need to explain something that seems obvious to you, but it isn't to someone else. Sometimes that 'rude' thing that happened wasn't at all intended to be upsetting/rude, and talking to the person who said/did that thing can clear the air, and they can apologize and note that this is something they should not do or say, or that they should be more aware of.

Sometimes, the dog is just jumpy and excitable - not aggressive.

[daeranilen]

Look, you don't have to like Discord, but I see people complaining about how bad its search function is all the time and I truly cannot understand where this is coming from. As long as you realize it can only find exact words and phrases, if you can recall a single word in the message you want to find, it WILL find it for you. If you can recall roughly how long ago it was said, then knowing Discord search presents results in strict reverse chronological order will help you find it. If you can recall who said it, what channel it was said in, whether it had a link or attachment, and/or what kind of attachment it had, the excellent filter functions will help you narrow it down even faster. It's one of the best search experiences you will ever get to have in 2023 outside of Ao3 and I will not stand for this slander.

[mental-breakdown-machine]

GUESS WHO I SEEN LAST NIGHT!!!!!

[aph-estonia]

i am So sorry to my irls and any of my other friends named madison or madeleine or anything that can be shortned to maddy because now when i think of maddy i think of this very lovely discord user who gets so fucking pissed whenever they get reminded of my existence like we are in a public server and i will type in a channel, not at all referencing or vagueing them, saying something relating to the channel subject, and they will respond, fuming, with shit like "nobody wants you here. nobody cares about you. you should leave the server. kill yourself." instead of doing the sane normal person thing of just leaving themself. they've stopped responding to me lately tho, makes me think they've actually learned that i feed off their negativity.