#menopause sucks

[runs-4-pinkcupcakes]

Update! 12/1/2024

Hello December!

I have finally reached a weight and size that makes me happy and less obsessive with the scale. I no longer weigh every day. Feels incredibly freeing.

But I do want to say: women clothing sizes are stupid. They range so dramatically between brands. It’s crazy how a certain size or number on the scale can make or break your day. It’s never ending.

But for me, 2025 I can focus on healthy gains versus weight loss!

Hugs to you all!

💋

Picture: 2019: size 12-14. Now: size 4-6. Total loss over 3 years #75 in my 50’s! It’s not been easy. But worth it!!

[flowerscentedartist]

Me, in my tweenties: I can't wait for meno pause, when this all ends

Me, now: Make it stooop.

[sesshy380]

No Wordcount (unless you count all the answered asks lol)

Too hot and muggy to do anything other than just be a bump on a random piece of furniture with a fan directed at me. That's what happens when 85% of the year is cold as fuck degrees, and then I just start getting used to the other 15% of 'yay, sun and heat!' when it swings back to 'fuck it's cold'. Lovely 'womanly time-of-life' doesn't help (menopause sucks ass, and not just because of the hot flashes. If you are ever curious, feel free to ask. Won't go into detail in this post).

Only bonus for today is I managed to brainstorm my next chapter a bit. I have nothing against Yugi, but when I write from his PoV in my longfic, it is guaranteed to be a hell chapter. And I apparently enjoy self torture, because what needs to come next works best from his PoV. I feel really bad too. I'm about to snap that poor boy like a glowstick. Long story short, he can hear his OC twin's thoughts when twin get's upset/stressed, and only when they are in close proximity to one another. They share a room and are enrolled in the same class. Due to recent events, twin has been in the 'majorly upset/super stressed about it' state for THREE DAYS. I think Yugi is about to drop his first F-bomb in this fic. I could only imagine how homicidal my sister would be if she could hear my thoughts for three days lol.

[on-a-lucky-tide]

One of the student support staff came over very coyly while I was on duty to ask me whether I'd been working out, since they (plural, meaning there had been discussions) were wondering. When I asked her what had changed, she went the colour of a Stop Sign, so that was funny. But also, I am now feeling buff as fuck.

[breadandblankets]

Elaine's umbrakinesis makes her skin sooo cold, especially her hands and feet. Doug has had many nights of jolting awake due to ice cold toes on him.

Sometimes you just have to chuck your abnormally warm child at your ice wife to sleep through the night.

[midgeonsmidgeon]

Last night I couldn't sleep due to cramps, surgical menopause is the least fun thing I can think of. Anyway, hilariously, I woke up and found this series of google searches that I DO NOT REMEMBER making.

[pepperpatrol]

I fall into a deep burnout depression every year in November until about the middle of January like clock work bc strangers berate me, physically threaten me, throw shit at me, scream about how I'm ruining christmas etc etc all coinciding with the time of year that the sun starts going down at 3PM, a moratorium on sickdays and vacation time and hundreds of stupid fucking boxes every day but I don't get to send any of them to jail for 15 years.

[freckledsweetpea]

so bloated I couldn't button the top button of the button-fly on my pants. so yeah I want to die.

[littledancingphoenix]

Today's still not a good day. Honestly, I don't wanna do anything except stay in bed. Maybe I'll feel more up to doing my drafts later. Sorry, everyone..

[runs-4-pinkcupcakes]

How about a before and after photo? I’ve come a long way. Be kind to yourself! 💋

[jay-arts-t]

Cold gf/hot bf, not Yenralt. Yennefer? Furnace. That woman has no uterus, she has menopause. Geralt? Furnace too. He grew up in the damn mountains. Sleeping in bed together is unbearable. Yes they both want cuddles but no!! Because!!! it's too!!!! Hot!!!!! When they adopt Ciri and she wants to cuddle in bed with them, she quickly learns why she shouldn't! It's like a sauna in there. Even though Yennefer would probably enchant her bedsheets to always stay cool, they both Still manage to make it unbearably hot. This results in Geralt getting kicked out of bed a lot, or voluntarily sleeping on the hardwood floor. And/or Yennefer opens all of the windows.

[labelleizzy]

I love you knees that crackle, I love you muscles that ache after Doing Things, I love you feet that carry me places and that I have to stretch out and readjust after a long walk ...I love you confidence I never had in my twenties, I love you peace of mind I didn't have till my thirties, I love you knowledge I don't even realize that I have till I'm talking to someone and can share it... I love you menopause, and the cessation of the brain weasels and mood swings, gods I'm so glad of that part!

Aging doesn't always suck. It can be a joyful change (though there's going to forever be adjusting my expectations)

We should all be so lucky as to age well, in beloved community, fighting for and feeding each other.

[trash-and-trash-accessories]

tw: suicide, suicidal ideation

not being able to talk to anyone when I feel suicidal - because I could be literally swatted (police wellness check) or involuntarily hospitalized which would ruin my life - is actually a nightmare. Like I would love to just talk to a professional and be able to tell them "I would like very much to die and I could absolutely make that happen" would help my mental health so much but I literally can't do that. Because of the carceral mental health system. And I can't talk to my friends about it because just saying that to your friend who you love can be deeply traumatic for that friend.

Of course I would want my friends to tell me and I would never ever call in a wellness check but I can't trust other people not to do that. Being mentally ill in the US is an absolute nightmare.

[vamptastic]

its like so fucked to me that PCOS is almost always diagnosed in middle aged women bc of fertility issues unless the person in question has a very obvious and severe case or lobbies their doctor at length about it. this would not be so upsetting to me if PCOS didn't massively increase your risk of developing type 2 diabetes in a way that is largely preventable! or if PCOS didn't make it damn near impossible to lose weight, meaning many people have their symptoms dismissed be it for other health problems or PCOS symptoms themselves over something they have next to no control over.

[the-acid-pear]

Lights cigar I feel what's truly tragic about Henry and Dave is that even if Henry DID love Dave like Dave thought he did probably nothing much would've changed. Because just loving him wouldn't have changed anything. After all, look at DSaF 2. We didn't meet Henry until 3 so by then we had every reason to believe he did Somewhat care for Dave.

I mean that is honestly part of why I like 2 as much as I do because it really is a story about grief, and the thing about grief is that it doesn't matter if the love was there, it could not save anyone.

[jk-scrolling]

If you're in the US and you're serious about not having a baby, get an IUD while they're still legal.