#meanwhile on facebook

[shabbytigers]

[creekfiend]

I used to get an arguments on facebook and it bit me in the ass enormously because it turns out that when you get an arguments on facebook habitually, you'll be interacting with a lot of other people who get an arguments on facebook habitually, and most of these people are deeply unpleasant and they will be super mean to you in really fucked up ways. so for a couple of years I just sort of dropped off ever interacting with anyone who said things that I did not agree with. I would just scroll past stuff or I would get upset about it privately and move on. I did not ever engage. and the last couple of weeks I've started being able to say things in response to things I don't agree with in ways that I feel lay out what my perspective is but do not get overly invested in "winning" or "proving" anything -- I will say my piece generally for the benefit of other people who might be reading the conversation and need to hear what I have to say. and then I will turn notifications off and go do something else.

anyway. wow. y'all heard about this? pretty cool shit.

[nabaath-areng]

Sometimes I think to myself "actually maybe I'm exaggerating the terror I felt from being stalked", but then I remember that the person in question followed me and waited for me outside my school every day, tracked me down on every website I'd spent even the slightest time on, left physical letters in my mailbox, sent creepy as hell novel length messages on a near daily basis on FB. And then when I was living abroad and I answered the phone I told the caller to text me cause I couldn't hear, after which I had to read "I was saying that you would probably be VERY scared if you knew who's calling... hehe" with my own damn fucking eyes...

And then I'm like yknow what nevermind!!!! the fact that I'm still terrified of being perceived and seen in public not just IRL but also FFXIV might be understandable actually!!!

[unproduciblesmackdown]

little shop images....

[synthshenanigans]

HMS are all different types of facebook moms

[generic-internet-name]

my dad has always cared so much about the quality of kitchenware and yet acts like i'm making bad decisions when i spend money on good clothing? man you spent $100 on a stainless steel salad spinner i think my $60(small business made! cotton! well-fitting and durable!) dress is not the problem here

[frontlinebicepsoftheninth]

in light of a second migration to this site i just need to speak my truth which is that harrow is a redditor gideon is a twitter user and ianthe is a tumblrina hope this helps

[wewontbesleeping]

think i might delete all of my social media (besides tumblr... of course) bc i'm really not enjoying how much time i'm wasting on social media apps. and i think i'm becoming dumber.

[maple-writes]

It’s a strange feeling being a woman but not being able to relate to a lot of common challenges faced by women.

Like I know women get sexual harassed and hit on inappropriately and I’ve seen it or heard of it happening to friends but I’ve never experienced it myself. I’ll hear or see claims saying it’s something all women experience, or it’s a near universal experience etc… and though on one hand I’m glad to seemingly escaped that so far, on the other I can’t help but feel weird about it. Is there something wrong with me? Am I not seen as a woman by those kinds of people? Am I that ugly or something?

And maybe it says something about ~society~ or something that not experiencing these negative things has me insecure at times and wonder if I’m somehow less of a woman but damn is it ever strange and isolating to be the in a conversation venting about the creepy weird shit men have said or done and be the only one who can’t relate

[shabbytigers]

[the-smiling-wolf]

😊🐺💖

[victusinveritas]

[dsgustng]

Thinking about how transphobes are always like "debate with me! Justify your existence to me! Explain why you're mad! Make this make sense to me!" But you can be as levelheaded and straightforward as possible, you can beat yourself down and make yourself small and nonthreatening or you can be stern and hold your ground. You can post countless sources and news articles. You can give them statistics. Undeniable proof. But they just don't fuckin care. And the second we become mad and aggressive they use it against us. They say they don't take us seriously because we're too sensitive and irrational. But that's a lie. They won't listen to us or take us seriously no matter how we act because they just fucking hate us! There is nothing we can possibly do to be better to these people.

[thekimspoblog]

Demon trying to feed on my insecurities: "You're a bad driver"

Me: "Of course I am. I hate driving. Going 80 mph surrounded by tons of metal is nerve-wrecking. I try to do it as little as possible. Of course I'm bad at it"

Demon: "You're a bad writer"

Me: "Well that part's simply not true. I never claimed I was the greatest author of my generation, but when I put pen to paper I know what I want to communicate and I usually do it well. If someone isn't impressed with my work, that's unfortunate but they're entitled to their opinion"

Demon: "You're a bad leader"

Me: "Well I don't know about that! I mean there was that one time when... Ok look just because people don't see me as an authority figure doesn't mean... 😠 You know you can be a real asshole, demon!"

[alsaurus-loves-dean]

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