#maybe ill be proven wrong but i mean. the evidence is there isnt it

[cringefail-clown]

hear me out, but i dont think alt!calliope is that much concerned about canonicity of the story all that much. theres some deeper motive going on here

when john defeats lord english (and gets promptly unsubscribed from life, since his narrative purpose is completed) and davepeta hurls him into the black hole, on the other side in candyverse alt!calliope waits for him to appear and, when he does, devours him to gain the power-up needed to escape the timeline and goes on a hunt for ult dirk to stop him from starting another sburb session

and this is where lord english storyline should be put to rest, but its not as simple as that. this dudes like a cockroach, you just cant get rid of him, he just doesnt disappear, hes always there no matter what, looming over the narrative. and, now thats he was absorbed into alt!calliope, whats left of him? his masterpiece self now residing inside ult dirk

and dirk always had a close connection to caliborn - cal liked dirk the most from all the alpha kids, chatting with him regularly, hal - dirks splinter - became a part of cal and also doc scratch, who was also the host that brough lord english into the universe after beta kids created the green sun (which he also manipulated them into)

basically what im trying to say, dirk wanting to start another sburb session isnt really about maintaining their connection to canon, but it also is about it. caliborn lords over the alpha timeline, and is intrinsically tied to the canon. hes always there, hes already there, and he will always come back. and dirk is narratively tied to the one guy that was responsible with brining him into the story. excellent host, you might say

the point of starting another session is ultimately to bring caliborn back to life, and this is the goal of ult dirk, as the one whos carrying the last splinter of his soul. and thats why alt!calliope is so focused on stopping him. its all about the powerstruggle between the two cherubs, once again

(would also like to point out that rose got fooled twice into bringing lord english into the narrative - once through doc scratch manipulating her into believing deploying the tumor would destroy the green sun, and now through dirk manipulating her into believing starting another session will stop the timeline from deteriorating. girl cannot catch a break jesus)

tldr ult dirk is acting as another doc scratch, and the goal is to revive lord english

but tHATS JUST A THEORY-

[mysanityisruined]

i like the ii16 twist actually, mb

so. I'm probably going to get flayed for this, but after a long conversation with my friend [who doesn't watch II; i kinda just ranted to her], my opinion on the recent arc has changed. that DOESN'T make me a hypocrite though, i just gained my own views rather than listening to who sounded smarter

you can disagree with me and thats fine but if you invalidate anyone else's view on the show because you think the arc sucks, that's sad. point blank. the creators have been planning this for years, i doubt they're doing this for kicks

and while there is some evidence to Cobs lying about MePhone4 creating everyone, theres much more evidence for it rather against, at least in my perspective [aka FORESHADOWING]

so, again in MY OPINION WHICH COULD BE PROVEN WRONG, being created by mephone doesn't invalidate the character's arcs. its mirroring [similar to the 3GS and MePhone4 scenes]

Cobs created MePhone4 to be a war machine, he rebelled, and became his own person. what says that the people created BY MEPHONE [repeated cycle of abuse ig] CANT BE THEIR OWN PEOPLE TOO. sure they don't have families. sure they were made from stereotypes [mephone doesn't know any better because he WASN'T TAUGHT BETTER, NOT BECAUSE HES A CHILD], but they've deviated from the norm

yes, making people like Tissues perpetually sick was kinda mean, but i doubt he made suitcase with her hallucinations though. she developed those because shes her own PERSON, even if not beyond the show. some characters could've be modeled after mephone's experiences himself [ill go into that on a follow up post]

and yes, time is screwed. not sure about the whole 'mephone leaving for half a day and creating a whole season' but maybe he messed with time unintentionally? we already know his sense of time is shitty anyways

and paintbrush being nonbinary? that could've been out of his control. his reign over what he creates isnt the best

Inanimate Insanity is his, yes, unhealthy coping mechanism. he doesn't have anyone to turn to but his own creations because guess what, i think cobs is like that too, and the cycle repeats until the cycle is broken by the predecessors. mephone needs to let go, and get some help, yeah, but that doesnt mean who he created cant be real people. THE PEOPLE HE CREATED MADE BOT, SO THEY'VE EFFECTIVELY CONTINUED THE CYCLE, YET DEVIATED FROM IT BY LETTING THEM BE THEIR OWN PERSON

[wigglecoin]

RON STAMPLER IS A FAILED CLONE

YES i got some people on bord so now i feel like i can lay this out, thanks @flute-mob​ and @heizehearts​ !

So I put it in the title but it really does make sence to me that Ron Stampler is not a person created under conventional means. I wont beat around the bush I think that Ron was artificialy created to be a direct replica of William Stampler but either a calculation was off, something happened in Rons development process that impacted the result, magic goes wrong, or just anything to make Ron the way he is.

First ill deal with Willy because he is the person related to some of the more crucial evidence to this theory

So what do we know about willy so far (ep 45)?

He 1) Doesnt work well with others 2) Is power driven 3) Is unsettilingly smart and 4) Doesnt want to use (or come off as using) effort to get what he wants, hence the other grand-daddys pretty much working for him, he doesnt ever use his face to work against what he thinks as ‘below him’ because if he were to show effort personally it would be a sign of weakness. Even if it would have given all of them more power to show their faces much sooner.

These things together on its own would (in a world without daddy magic) suggest he would never want a kid. And hardly even a wife!

But he is power driven. And daddy magic is one of the most powerful. Obviously you want to get in on that. Adoption would require having the kid know you wanted it so thats not even a possibility. A co-parent would only be someone who would get in the way of your plans and drag you down, even associating with a pregnant person for 9 months so you can just take the baby and run would be insufferable for him (and likely the partner as well) So? When you want something done right

you do it yourself

wether he creates Ron by science or magic isnt clear, both are possible options. But either way it leads to the same result for the same purpose. The creation of a ‘biological’ child. But kids in general are unpleassing. Just making a kid would leave too many variables up to chance. He needs this kid to be perfect so he can raise it perfectly and with ease. But to know how would require knowlege of the child. And why whould you want to work to learn what your child is like when you can just already know because that child is you

Ron as a person 

From the very begining Ron has been a little less normal. His behavior itself is proof of that. Theres been a running gag that ron doesnt know what sex is, this is a joke but it would make sence if not only did he never get the birds and the bees talk, but if the act itself was never relavent to his creation

Rons relationship with his father is a sad one, but when talking about his dad Ron almost always mentions that his dad wanted Ron to be like him. That his dads expectaions were so high they are unreasonable to be placed on any child. any kid can’t be expected to be just like their parent. But a clone? A clone, it would be so expected that the idea that it would be just like its replica isnt even questioned. Obviously these expectations would be placed on Ron regardless even after he was proven to be his own person because Willy’s an awful human being, but it is slightly more understandable as to why they were put on Ron in the first place.

Maybe Willy thought they could fix it by raising him as one that would become more like him as it grows. But it never worked.  Ron was still Ron no matter how hard Willy may have tried. 

So Willy stopped trying at one point, and seperated himself from his son. His failure. Being absent for most of Rons life .

But it didnt matter that he wasnt a perfect clone, because Willy was now a daddy. He got what he wanted! Sure the results were dissapointing, but he was officially a daddy in the forgoton realms. 

This is where this theory transistions into the one where Willy faked his death. Though I think this theory could go with or without that idea.

So yeah! The more I think about ron the more this theory makes sence to me and the more I am hoping it will be canon because I think its super cool and could possibly blow the reveal that Henry was born in the forgotton realms out of the water! Now watch as it turns out someone else made this theory already and im actually late to the party of the well known ‘Ron’s a clone’ theory!

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Therapy Isn’t Something to Be Ashamed Of

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Therapy Isn’t Something to Be Ashamed Of

As a therapist, as well as someone who goes to therapy, I can speak firsthand about the importance of attending therapy. Think of it this way: you are driving your car and suddenly you hear a funny noise. At first, you ignore it and hope it goes away. But over time, the noise starts to get worse and soon you realize you need to repair whatever’s wrong.

Would you try to fix the car yourself, even though you have no training or experience with car repair? Or would you take it in to a mechanic with years of training and experience and ask them to make the repairs?

Most of us would take our car to the mechanic, get the repairs, and move on with our lives.

Why is it that we will trust a mechanic with our car, a contractor with house repairs, or a doctor when we are injured or ill, but we have difficulty trusting a therapist with our thoughts and feelings? Why do some of us avoid seeking professional help when it comes to our mental health and well-being? And if we do go to a therapist, why it is seen as something to keep quiet about and not share with others?

Mental health is just as important as physical health, and the two are intimately related. Many people, at some point in their lives, will struggle with their mental health. Research shows that 1 in 5 people will be diagnosed with a mental illness. Unfortunately, people may be discouraged from reaching out to professionals because of the misconceptions and stigmas that exist around therapy and mental health.

You are not alone in your struggles, just as you are not alone in overcoming them, and it is important to recognize the stigma that surrounds psychotherapy and treatment. Here are a number of misconceptions regarding the treatment of mental health.

Going to therapy indicates weakness or instability

Sometimes, we feel like we must be able to solve our problems on our own. Admitting you need help is not always easy, but everyone needs help sometimes, and reaching out for help is a courageous and strong act!

By seeking help, it shows that you value yourself and that you want to make positive changes in your life. Therapy can help you work through difficulties, make positive changes, and support you in your personal development, no matter how big or small your particular struggles may be.

Therapy will only focus my childhood

This is a big myth that is often portrayed by the media, which could be a result of Sigmund Freud’s original focus on childhood in psychoanalysis. While many mental health concerns can stem from childhood trauma or neglection, a therapist can help you cope with the difficulties you face today, even if you have to discuss your childhood.

But much of what a therapist will discuss with you regards present and future struggles and how to overcome them. Previous experiences can be important in understanding your thoughts and feelings, but the focus is usually set on how you can use skills gained from therapy to make positive forward progress in your life.

My struggles aren’t serious enough for therapy

Many people believe that you have to have deep, serious, or even traumatic struggles to benefit from therapy, but that isn’t true. Like the car analogy, you wouldn’t wait for the wheels to fall off before getting repairs. You’d take care of small issues to make sure the car is safe and sound. The misconception that your struggles aren’t “serious” enough for therapy is dangerous as it could cause someone not to seek the help that they need.

Therapy can help you through any kind of struggle if you’re having difficulty resolving it on your own. Every mental health concern is valid and worth treating, and you don’t have to tackle them alone. And remember, it’s important not to compare your difficulties with others who “might have it worse” because the most important thing is to take care of yourself.

Why go to therapy when you can talk to friends or family?

Good friends are great to have, and can certainly support you in many areas of your life. Their friendships can be helpful in getting through tough times, but they are not trained and licensed mental health professionals, and they may not give the best advice even if they have good intentions.

We must remember that friends should not be put into the role of a therapist. Not only are your friends not professionally trained, but placing them in this position can put a strain on your relationship. These expectations can be more harmful than helpful, so in order to protect you, your friends, and your relationships, it’s important to keep this boundary in place. Instead, seek the help of a trained professional.

Therapy isn’t worth the money

Cost is a big factor that many people will consider when seeking professional help. However, when it comes to therapy, there is a misconception that the financial cost of therapy outweighs the benefits.

If you’re worried about cost, try to focus on the impact that your mental health has on you and different areas of your life. Does it impact your happiness? Relationships? Work? Therapy can help you improve every area of your life, and despite the financial cost, therapy is a solid investment in your well-being that will provide positive returns well into the future.

If I start therapy, will it ever end?

Therapy is often viewed as something that must be done over a long period time, perhaps even for the rest of your life. However, the length and frequency of sessions depends entirely on the person, their struggles, and their goals.

You may only need two or three sessions to set things right, and you can apply the tools you learned to your own life once you’ve finished treatment. Or maybe it’s beneficial to take sessions over a longer period of time to work through deeper struggles. Therapists are trained to know when you’ve made progress, and you may come to a point in a session where you no longer need any help because you’ve gained the skills you need to keep yourself mentally healthy.

Therapy is pseudoscience

Therapy has been inaccurately represented as frivolous or lacking in scientific backing. Therapists are often portrayed as inferior to other healthcare professionals, which has contributed to the stigma that therapy has little to no accuracy or validity. Some even call it “pseudoscience” or “psychobabble.”

This isn’t true at all. All forms of therapy use scientific, evidence-based research, like the results from Dr. John Gottman’s Love Lab, to provide you with useful information. You cannot become a licensed therapist without thoroughly studying the science that informs therapeutic methods. The strategies and tools that qualified therapists share with you are proven to work because they are based on scientific research concerning the impact of therapy on hundreds or even thousands of people over the course of many years, even decades.

Therapists can only help if they’ve had the same experience as you

Everyone wants to be understood and validated, and we tend to believe that this understanding comes from experiencing the same situations and struggles. This is true, but understanding can also come from sharing different experiences as well. Understanding another’s experience requires empathy, which therapists are trained to express even if they haven’t encountered the same difficulties that you have.

Therapists can gain an understanding of your situation as they may have encountered your struggle in a different context. Therapists have the education and experience to support you in the appropriate way. They have different styles and approaches to therapy, so sometimes a specific therapist may not be the right fit for you, but they can always refer you to someone who will be of better assistance.

Isn’t medication more effective than therapy?

There is a misconception that prescribed medication from a psychiatrist is more useful and beneficial than participating in therapy with a mental health professional. This can lead people to think that medication is the only solution for them, which is particularly harmful. Research shows that the most positive outcomes come to people who have a combination of both the appropriate medication and therapy, especially when receiving treatment for addiction or substance abuse.

While medication is effective for treating mental illness, it is not the only option. You have to find a balance of what works best for you. Therapy in combination with medication from a psychiatrist can be beneficial in helping you with your mental health struggles. Discuss medication with your therapist, who can refer to you to the appropriate psychiatrist that can help with your particular difficulties. Some psychiatrists are also trained therapists, so you might find a professional that can provide both therapy and prescriptions.

Therapists have it all figured out, right?

The idea that therapists always have happy, harmonious lives is another misconception about therapy. Many think that because therapists have such extensive training and experience, their lives will be wrinkle-free and perfect and that they’ve figured it all out.

However, just because someone is trained in the mental health field doesn’t mean they don’t have their own struggles. Remember that therapists are everyday people, too. You will find that many of the best therapists have their own therapists as well. Just like everyone else, they struggle in certain areas of their life, and some therapists even choose their occupation because of their own personal experiences with therapy and their desire to pass along the help they received.

If you need help, don’t wait

Forget the stigma around therapy; if you need help, it is in your best interest to seek assistance from a trained professional. Attending therapy allows you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and actions, and helps you form a deep understanding of yourself and what will bring you satisfaction and peace in your life.

If you are in need of a therapist, The Gottman Referral Network is a great way to find a Gottman-trained therapist near you.

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