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[quillkiller]

dorlily but i’m a cheerleader au with butch dorcas as graham and lily as megan..

[nel-world]

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[capitalism-is-parasitism]

ADHD

Disorganization is one of the “hallmark symptoms” of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder, said Terry Matlen, a psychotherapist and author of “The Queen of Distraction.” “Executive functioning is universally impaired in the ADHD brain.” https://www.huffpost.com/entry/reasons-for-being-messy_l_665f3974e4b061658ffa62ad

[mirandamckenni1]

Navigating ADHD: My Aunt’s Strategies and Path to Acceptance Thanks to Babbel for sponsoring this video! Start speaking a new language in 3 weeks with Babbel 🎉. Get up to 60% OFF your subscription ➡Here: https://ift.tt/PKMYwWN Jessica sits down with her Aunt Susie to talk about her Aunt’s experience of being diagnosed later in life in the early 90’s. They talk about the strategies Aunt Susie used and what she found important in learning to work with her brain, not against it, and how it led her towards self-acceptance. Terry Matlen Psychotherapist, author, consultant, and ADHD coach, specializing in ADHD in adults, with a special focus on women: https://ift.tt/mIGPr90 Support us on Patreon: https://ift.tt/Sq0RlP4 Buy my book!! https://ift.tt/d9KwWv4 Check out our website: https://howtoadhd.com Follow us on all the things: Twitter: http://twitter.com/howtoadhd TikTok: https://ift.tt/j1O7K3G Instagram: https://ift.tt/m23U05X Facebook: https://ift.tt/iGHWy8I Our Merch Shop: https://ift.tt/OG5k9lH Need translation? Learn how to turn on auto-translated captions here: https://ift.tt/OcsAq7i Jessica McCabe is not a licensed mental health provider, but information presented on How to ADHD is reviewed by researchers and approved by licensed clinical psychologist Patrick LaCount, PhD (https://ift.tt/9zLyTVB). While information presented on How to ADHD has historically been built in consultation with researchers and licensed providers, videos posted prior to April 2023 were not subjected to the same formal approval process required by the YouTube Health program. For more information on the YouTube Health program and verification of health-related content, please visit: https://ift.tt/QrtKANZ via YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yq_zGq3LjcY

[kevinjmann]

UK Independent: Episode 269 is now here on Mixcloud

This episode is featuring

1. Mike Hernandez - Battle Scars

2. Slyder Smith & The Oblivion Kids - The NeverEnding Story

3. Matlen Starsley - Lighter Shade Of Blue

4. Ashley Pater Music - Tell It Like It Is

5. Hayley McKay - Unspoken

6. The Rach Allen Band - Adrenaline Rush

7. Slant Six - Spinning My Wheels

8. Suicide Clutch - Chick Machine

9. Damion Lee Taylor - Superhero

10. Skamp Vera - Heavenly Curse

11. DAVA- Back To Myself

12. Bluebyrd - Song And Dance

13. Look Back Luna - Molly, Molly

14. The Deep Drags - Wake Up Cinderella

15. CHICKEN MAN & THE BAD EGGS - Sleazeball

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[messybrained]

Wow, it's been a while since I wrote this out. I'm now officially diagnosed and medicated but it got *dark* before it got better.

I'm unemployed now but I am so so so much happier. Life feels worth living and I am so excited for whats ahead of me. I had to leave my toxic work environment, and then realised how dysfunctional it was. I've begun to recover, and I feel so damn proud of myself for being brave and quitting. I am on the bones of my ass, and yep, I'm scared, but I have so much more resilience now. I'm hunting for work left right and centre but because of this diagnosis, I have been able to discover who I actually am. I'm not aiming for some vague, fuzzy promise of career and upward movement in corporate to define myself and my worth. I am worthy now, even if I get a crappy little job with no esteem or significance attached - I'm working on my own passions in the meantime.

Medication has worked incredibly well for me, and I am very lucky that the first one I've tried worked. It was also so validating to hear a registered psychiatrist reassure me that the traits I displayed was not a moral failing, word for word. They were also able to diagnose me within 20 minutes of meeting me - it was that obvious! The whole session took around an hour but within 20 minutes I had been confirmed as having severe ADHD, the combined type. It has changed my life in so many ways. The radio in my head isn't frantically replaying songs overtop of constant running thoughts, I don't ruminate anymore, if I want to do things I can just do them???

It's WILD.

I also ardently wish that if anyone comes across this now it gives them hope. It can get better, I promise you. Is it hard? Yes. Is it expensive? Absolutely, I had to acquire more debt to even be seen. Is it worth it?

BIG HECK YEAH DUDE.

If you're reading this and struggling to hold on for any reason, please, please, please take note.

It. Gets. Better.

1000% it gets better. Know that you are worthy now, even if it doesn't feel like it.

Time passes. You can get out of debt. You can live a life of meaning.

I am so glad you're here. Love to you ❤️

PS: Here are some books that helped me in case you're interested!

- The Gifts of Imperfection, by Brene Brown

- Will the Drama Ever End?, by Karyl McBride

- The Queen of Distraction, Terry Matlen

I very rarely make posts because 1) I'm terrified of people and 2) I'm just a wee bit private, I don't have too much to say. I think I just needed to speak this out into the void, be a bit vulnerable and imagine connecting with other weirdos like me.

I have undiagnosed, and unmedicated adult ADHD. Honestly, it's one of my favourite things about myself - I'm eager, I'm funny, I find everyday things really exciting. I'm quick to strike up a conversation with people, I love hearing about what they do because I can find interest in just about everything. I love the experience of living with such a messy brain (lol, there's a point to the username).

But somedays, like today, I'm experiencing the suckier side. The side that rears it's head when you've somehow wormed your way in to a very high-pressure, very repetitive and boring, very *neurotypical* job. I'm not sure how I got here, but man, a pay above minimum wage was mint enough for me to try. So by some stroke of fate and perhaps lapse of my employers judgement, I'm in a job that pays bloody well but my God it hurts my brain so badly. I could cope, I think, if it weren't for the social agony this has caused.

My boss is quick to criticise my work, and because I'm in such a high performing team, work that I am busting my ass to make adequate isn't good enough. She's told me "you're doing a good job, we just need to make you great!". I get the job done, but it might be a day later. There might be a small mistake every once in a while. I might have to ask questions about something you've told me before. It's led to me being put on an HR mandated performance improvement plan. I think I would be doing better if I wasn't under constant surveillance, as part of this means that my boss has asked to be bcc'd into all my emails to keep track of my work.

I did warn people about the issues I have when I was hired 10 months ago, so they were aware. I've tried to be as open in my communications as possible to everyone and say "hey, real sorry for this, here's what I'll do next time to make it better".

And yet, people have started ostracising me in those little ways they do when they're wanting to push you out. They've become really annoyed with me and started doing small things, like telling you last minute that the meeting has changed rooms. Speaking to me differently as if I wasn't able to comprehend basic instructions. But it's grown to leaving the office at the end of the day, turning the lights off, and not saying goodbye while I'm still there, now a little confused and a bit lonely sitting in a dark room. They make jokes out loud in an open plan office and subtly ignoring my contributions. It's not outright to anyone else looking in, but given that I don't do those things to people, even if I dislike them, I find it hard not to take offence.

It feels like primary school all over again. High school was a little different, I was able to be more me. But this is soul sucking. I woke up this morning about to cry because I didn't want to go in, and had a vivid memory of 7 year old messybrain breaking down in tears, screaming and kicking and refusing to go to school. The echoes of that so neatly fit into the wavelengths of what I was feeling this morning.

This is only my second fulltime job, I'm very new on the scene. But my first was not at all like this. I maybe would have stayed longer if the pay were as good as this one. I had a community and it made all the difference. Once a job was done, it was done until a year's time when it came around again.

I guess I'm just feeling sad and rejected. This is not the place for me and I need to find a kinder tide. There is hope. There really is, if I've found community once I can do it again. I refuse to let this dim my spark.

But for now, I'm a little melancholy, a little broke due to debt, and a little tired and in need of a soft place to curl into. And a few moments scrolling on this cursed website to remind me that there are other wonderful weirdos out there like me.

I hope everyone who reads this knows that you are already worthy of love and belonging just as you are. You don't have to hustle for it. And it's okay if we want to curl into a soft place for a bit and feel sad and down. I'm right there with you. There are other people like us out there. There's space for us in this beautiful world. You matter and I'm glad you're here.

[colouredkitty]

👽ALIEN HALLOWEEN SPECIAL👽 Mein neues Video ist online❗Link in meiner Bio 💌 . . . #alien #außerirdisch #weltall #weltraum #makeupartist #makeuoart #kunst #makeup #artist #beauty #blogger #influencer #matlens #bodypaint #scleralinsen #scleralens #nyxcosmetics #nyyprofessionalmakeup #galaxy #bhcosmetics #scifi #ufo #essence #catrice #cosmicmetals #electromagnetic #cosmicstar #shootingstar #tutorial #halloween (hier: Sachsen, Germany)

[cameocosplay]

How can this wig look so different, when I wearit... Normally wigs look better on my wig head xD But well... I wanted to show you a lil before 'n after make up transformation *insert sparkle sound* Left with (nearly) no make up (except the eyebrows xD <-obviously) and in the right with a lot of make up #cos #cosplay #cosplayer #コスプレイヤー #コスプレ#makeup #powerofmakeup #makeuptest #contacts #matlens #wig #diy #princess #princesspeach #peach #peachmakeup #casualpeach #supermariocosplay #supermario #crown (hier: Berlin, Germany) https://www.instagram.com/cameocosplay/p/BxBJlXxJWIe/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ow5wuqrtfr6o

[cheese-greater-official]

“-people who know he’s gay ship him with Remus, as god intended it...”

- @hildy-dont-be-hasty two seconds ago on the topic of Sirius black

[luckychocolatemaidcafe]

Groooße, niedliche Kulleraugen sind nur eines der vielen Markenzeichen eurer Zuckermaids! ✨ Natürlich brauchen wir dabei aber ein wenig Hilfe! Wer sich fragt, an wen wir uns wenden, wenn es mal wieder Zeit wird, Goshujin-sama & Ojou-sama mit den perfekten dolly eyes zu begrüßen, sollte sich unbedingt durch den <3 Matlens - Onlineshop für farbige Kontaktlinsen <3 wühlen! 🌸 Ideal für Cosplayer, die noch das passende Paar für die nächste Convention suchen! 💝 Vielen Dank auch an twmia für das schöne Bild!

[julymaryblog]

Lenses @matlens 💕 #purple #eyes #bigeyes #purplehair #purpleeyes #purplelove #mangaeyes #animeeyes #cosplay #makeup #blackeyes #fashion #potd #girl #spring #summer #matlens #matlensdaily #matlenscosplay

[adhdpodcast]

Shortcuts & Automations

Co-hosts Tara McGillicuddy & Lynne Edris talk about creating shortcuts and automations to improve productivity & make your repetitive to-dos easier and faster.

Tara McGillicuddy has been known and celebrated in the ADHD community for decades of practical and long-lasting shifts in tens of thousands in her communities. The creator of ADDClasses.com, The ADHD Awareness Expo and ADHD Support Talk Radio Tara is one of the longest-standing leaders in the field. Over the years she has also honed her natural skills as an empath. She now also combines the rare gift of sight and energetic knowing and her latest project is Empath Now a resource to help Empower Empaths.

https://www.taramcgillicuddy.com/

Podcast Co-Host Lynne Edris s a Productivity & ADHD Coach who helps distracted professionals from all over the world learn to accomplish what they intend and take control of their days with ease so that they can perform at the level of their abilities and have more time, more energy and more bandwidth for what matters most to them.  Lynne is a woman, wife, and mom with ADHD herself, so she understands the struggles and challenges of living with ADHD. She has gone from living in the constant state of chaos, overwhelm, and under-performance that adults with ADHD know far too well, to living a life of more success and fulfillment than she once dreamed possible. Her passion is to help others fulfill their own potential and start “firing on all cylinders” in all areas of your life. You can learn more about Lynne at www.CoachingADDvantages.com, and text keyword “HACK” to 33777 to get her 7 Fool-Proof Productivity Hacks for unfocused professionals!

ADHD Support Talk Radio is an award winning Podcast for Adults with ADD / ADHD. Co-hosts Tara McGillicuddy and Lynne Edris are joined by Adult ADHD experts and they cover important topics related to Adult ADD / ADHD. Podcast guests include Dr. Edward Hallowell, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, Dr. Ari Tuckman, Laurie Dupar, Terry Matlen and many more.

Tara McGillicuddy is the Producer, Owner and Co-host of the ADHD Support Talk Radio Podcast. You may contact Tara with general questions or feedback about the podcast,

Lynne Edris is the Co-host of the ADHD Support Talk Radio Podcast. You may contact Lynne with feedback about her episodes or if you are interested in having her interview you as a guest.

https://adhdsupporttalk.com/about-podcast/

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ADHD Podcast

[dummerjan]

Matlene Dietrich - Du, du liegst mir im Herzen

[barrebard]

Reading in 2020 - June Edition

The year is half over, and I’m not quite halfway with my overall reading goal this year. Time to power through some manga and comics!

Complete 

1. The Hazel Wood by Melissa Albert

2. The Queen of Distraction: How Women with ADHD Can Conquer Chaos, Find Focus, and Get More Done by Terry Matlen, MSW

3. Sorcery of Thorns by Margaret Rogerson

4. Kaguya-Sama: Love is War, Volume 4 by Aka Akasaka

In Progress

1. We Ride Upon Sticks by Quan Barry

Progress to Goals

- 19/52 books read

- 3/24 books on Read Harder Challenge

- 6/10 items on Reading Glasses Challenge

- 0/20 books read from TBR spreadsheet

[adhdtogether]

You mentioned reading a book on women with adhd before getting diagnosed - what was the book?

The Queen of Distraction by Terry Matlen, MSW

It was extremely helpful for me. It focused mostly on practical situations that predominantly or stereotypically affect women more than men.

For example, there was a lot of information about how executive dysfunction manifests in household management and chores, which is something I struggle with a lot but rarely see discussed. Or the fact that grocery shopping, meal prepping, and cooking take a lot executive function!

There were a few times when I felt like the book leaned too heavily on gender roles/norms or was cishet-normative. Like, there’s a whole chapter on organizing your closet and getting better at choosing what clothes to wear. There was also a chapter on motherhood which I skipped because I don’t have children and don’t plan to anytime soon.

I also wrote about the book in a post on my main blog back in June when I read it, so check that out for more: https://barrebard.tumblr.com/post/623294406592790528/reading-in-2020-june-edition

[mindingmyownbrain]

Excerpt: 

Many women with ADHD live with a painful secret: “Shame, unfortunately, seems to be the name of the game, for many women I have worked with who have ADHD,” said Terry Matlen, MSW, ACSW, a psychotherapist and ADHD coach.

Even women with advanced degrees in demanding, high-powered positions feel incredibly overwhelmed once they get home, stressed out by all the household details, she said. “They feel like they are living a lie — that their accomplishments are simply due to good luck.”

Even for women who understand how ADHD makes daily life difficult, one minor mistake or overlooked task can send them reeling from humiliation — “like simply forgetting to sign their child’s school-related paper in time.”

This triggers a barrage of negative, cruel thoughts: “Oh no! I’ve done it again. What is wrong with me? I’m such an idiot!”