#masculine closet

[cedimond]

San Francisco Walk-In Closet Walk-in closet - large traditional men's dark wood floor and brown floor walk-in closet idea with raised-panel cabinets and gray cabinets

[jaredpadapuppy]

Traditional Closet Inspiration for a large timeless men's dark wood floor and brown floor walk-in closet remodel with raised-panel cabinets and gray cabinets

[thisisacommentary]

Modern Closet

Example of a mid-sized minimalist men's ceramic tile, gray floor and vaulted ceiling walk-in closet design with flat-panel cabinets and medium tone wood cabinets

[queer-tier]

Closet in Denver Mid-sized minimalist men's ceramic tile, gray floor and vaulted ceiling walk-in closet photo with flat-panel cabinets and medium tone wood cabinets

[bubzywubzy]

Denver Closet Flat Panel Example of a mid-sized minimalist men's ceramic tile, gray floor and vaulted ceiling walk-in closet design with flat-panel cabinets and medium tone wood cabinets

[screenandscripts]

Walk-In Closet in Denver Photograph of a medium-sized, minimalist men's walk-in closet with flat-panel cabinets and medium-toned wood cabinets, gray flooring, and a vaulted ceiling.

[mdwaxx]

Dallas Sauna Bathroom Large transitional white tile marble floor and white floor bathroom photo with white walls and a hinged shower door

[dissolvedshadows]

Walk-In Miami Inspiration for a large transitional gender-neutral carpeted walk-in closet remodel with flat-panel cabinets and white cabinets

[yorkfactorycomplaint]

Walk-In Orange County Walk-in closet - mid-sized contemporary men's medium tone wood floor and brown floor walk-in closet idea with flat-panel cabinets and medium tone wood cabinets

[francysbelle]

Traditional Closet in San Francisco Example of a large classic men's dark wood floor and brown floor walk-in closet design with raised-panel cabinets and gray cabinets

[queerism1969]

[rebellum]

"Men have power over women so trans men have power over trans women" hi. What the fuck are you saying.

[paul-newmans-sauce]

better call saul tumblr fandom hear me out. howard was probably a rlly flamboyant child and george hamlin probably couldnt stand it. are you picking up what im putting down here

[thethespacecoyote]

gonna write bill picking at ford's internalized homophobia like a scab

[gh0stz404]

"our grandpa made a respectful gay joke? i didn't know he knew how to do that!" -me when my grandpa makes a respectful gay joke

and the joke, for those of you who might be curious: "Someone told me my jacket looked gay, and so i told them "it just came out of the closet!""

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

do you have any tips for subtly looking more masculine? I can’t fully transition now because I’m a minor in a confirmed to be transphobic household, and if you have any suggestions that would be amazing

Lee says:

You can try starting slowly incorporating more masculine-styled women's clothing into your wardrobe. This is usually a gradual process anyway since it can take time to save up enough money to purchase enough new shirts/pants/shoes etc. to fully replace your current wardrobe, especially if you're working part-time as a babysitter, dog-walker, etc.

Clothes that are more structured or straight-cut, like button-down shirts or straight-leg pants, can help create a more traditionally masculine silhouette. Layering with hoodies or jackets can also be effective. You can sometimes find these things styled as "boyfriend" clothes, and you can tell your parents that it's the current trend/style. You can see our post on finding masculine clothing in the women's section here.

Another easy change is dropping the accessories. That means not wearing feminine necklaces/earrings/bracelets/hairbands, not painting your nails, etc. It's easy to say you want to keep things basic and sporty and that's why you're going without the accessories. Wearing a neutral watch or a smart watch is another accessory to consider instead of a thin-strapped "women's watch" if you wear watches at all that is.

You can see our post on purse alternatives here since bags are often the biggest practical change in the accessory category. Not carrying a purse when you hang out with your friends in the mall, go out on a trip, etc is obviously a high-impact change to make.

If possible, choose a haircut that's more typically masculine. Shorter haircuts, or styles that are longer on the top and shorter on the sides, can subtly change your appearance. If you use a female reference for your photo when you show your parents what you want they may not suspect anything. You can see our post on convincing your parents to let you get a haircut without coming out here.

If a haircut isn’t possible, consider styles like pulling your hair back in a low bun or wearing hats. If you're Black, cornrows, box braids, and locs are styles that can be gender neutral depending on how you wear them. There's a few links on that here.

There are also things you can do to come across as subtly more masculine without buying anything at all.

Sometimes, adopting a more traditionally masculine posture and body language can make a difference. This doesn't usually have a big impact on passing, but it can help you feel better about yourself and boost your self-confidence and reduce dysphoria, and it's something that your family may not notice because it's easy to alter when you're with them. You can see a post about masculine body language here.

Similarly, you can try voice training and practice speaking in a slightly lower tone or in a more monotone style, which is often perceived as more masculine. Be careful not to strain your voice, though, and maybe avoid doing it while you're with your family. You can see a post about voice training here.

Engaging in exercises that build upper body strength can also help in achieving a more masculine physique. Focus on workouts that target the shoulders, back, and arms. You can often do body weight workouts at home in your room without needing a gym membership or specialized exercise equipment.

Find a support system, whether it's friends, online communities, or a counselor/therapist, who understand and support your gender identity. This can provide a safe space to express yourself and explore your identity. It can help to have other friends who are also masculine to feel like you're not isolated.

Observing and adopting some masculine behavioral cues, like how men typically occupy space or interact in social settings, can also be a subtle way to express masculinity, but you want to be careful that you're not imitating toxic masculinity / obnoxious guys. Similarly, engaging in hobbies or interests that are stereotypically masculine can be a subtle way to align with male peers, but always choose activities that genuinely interest you and you can probably find other guys out there who are also interested in the things you already care about to be friends.

The above suggestions are all things that you can do without your parents necessarily noticing. Binding is something that may not be subtle depending on your chest size, so while it is possible to sometimes bind in front of family without them noticing (saying it's a sports bra, for example) I would recommend keeping your binder in your backpack and only changing into it at school in the bathroom / at a friend's house / in a public bathroom when you're out with friends but not family, etc. unless you really are wearing only a single well-fitting sports bra. You can see more about buying a binder and that whole process in this post.

It's harder to be seen as masculine or male when you're pre-medical transition and not passing which means people often have to "overcompensate" by being more masculine than they would otherwise choose to be, but as always, I'd like to note that it can be possible to pass as male / be masculine while doing any of the things I recommended changing!

So while I might advise someone who wants to come off as more masculine "don't paint your nails" for example, that is a general rule and doesn't mean that you have to follow those guidelines if you're really passionate about painting your nails. You can always choose whatever gender expression you're comfortable with. There are plenty of guys who wear nail polish and otherwise come across as masculine or who are recognized as men. It's important to remember that masculinity is diverse and there's no one right way to be masculine.

Followers, any other tips on performing subtle masculinity that won't make transphobic parents suspicious?