#marabel morgan

[campgender]

from Saving Sex: Sexuality and Salvation in American Evangelicalism by Amy DeRogatis (2015)

behind the Total Woman Workshops, which taught evangelical women how to please their husbands in all aspects of daily life but most especially in the bedroom. Morgan’s book is a product of its time, responding to the sexual revolution and the feminist movement by claiming female sexual power while maintaining sex-defined roles in the household. Morgan urges married women to reprogram their minds to eliminate negative views of sexuality and to learn to be the object of their husband’s greatest sexual fantasies.

Morgan suggests, for example, that wives dress up in costumes and play roles: “You can be lots of different women to him. Costumes provide a variety without him ever leaving home... You may be a smoldering sexpot or an all-American fresh beauty. Be a pixie or a pirate—a cowgirl or a show girl.” She also encourages women to set sexual scenes in different rooms in the house, to use props (such as a trampoline), to initiate sex, and above all to learn to respond positively to their husbands’ sexual overtures.

Men, she explains, are less complicated than women, and while women want to be loved, men simply want to be admired. It is relatively simple, according to Morgan’s formula, to keep your husband happy. The easiest and most effective way is to openly praise his virility and sexual performance.

For women to feel loved, they must make themselves beautiful to their husbands by fully submitting to him: “It is only when a woman surrenders her life to her husband, reveres and worships him, and is willing to serve him, that she becomes really beautiful to him.” Morgan’s primary interest is in building strong marriages by exploiting the husband’s “natural” sexual longings and reaping the wife’s material desires.

[waiting-eyez]

The days were sunny, the nights were star-studded. Indeed married life was strawberries for breakfast and loving all the time.

(Marabel Morgan)

[maperezstuff]

Mrs. C

We affectionately called her Mrs. C. In her six­ties, with remarkable zeal, she possessed a charismat­ic and gregarious personality. She was a Bible teacher, an author, a missionary, a powerhouse, and a woman of great faith. She exuded genuine friendship in a Godly persona and took me under her wings. She held many prayer meetings in her home and often prostrated herself on the floor on her face…

[bellestarot]

Juyeon's Reading

December 07, 2024

Right Now

He might have ended a partnership or some type of contract he previously had with someone, and this time he decided to break it. I think he has new ideas about how he wants to move forward with his career. He seems to be more selective about what he should and wants to do. Right now, he’s very tired.

He feels pain all over his body, but he doesn’t talk about it. It’s something very personal, as if he can’t express to others that he needs rest.

He’s been working with an older man, possibly his boss or manager, and they’ve been working a lot together. This is someone he’s familiar with. Also, there’s a situation in his life that’s making him feel really bad, even to the point of crying. It could involve someone close to him who has deeply hurt him.

Love Life

He has feelings for someone. This could be someone he’s known for a long time, perhaps a friend. He truly has genuine feelings and might even be in love. This person could also be in the spotlight like him. However, it seems like while he has feelings, the other person doesn’t feel the same way.

His work is interfering significantly with his love life, making it very stressful.

It seems like there are two women involved. One of them was unexpected in his life, possibly older than the other, who is closer to his age. But he’s not looking for a serious relationship. He has many options to have fun or enjoy life, but he’s focusing on building his self-esteem and taking time to love himself.

Career

He feels like he doesn’t enjoy performing on stage anymore. It used to bring him joy, but now it feels purely like work. He’s lost passion for what he’s doing and feels buried in his career.

He wants to leave everything behind and live with his family, as he seems to have a strong bond with them.

There’s also a lot of conflict at his workplace, including arguments, yelling, and disrespect. He feels disappointed with a colleague he used to trust and value, realizing that person has changed and is no longer worth his trust.

Family

He needs to make a quick decision. It seems like he’s under pressure to act and communicate rapidly.

His family is facing financial difficulties, which worries him a lot. He spends significant time with his father, whom he trusts and talks to frequently.

He’s also expecting something from a male family member, possibly a brother or cousin close to his age.

Friendships

He has many friends who support him. One of them is very positive and constantly encourages him, telling him how talented he is. This friend also enjoys giving gifts.

He has friendships with both men and women, though there’s a female friend he finds toxic and doesn’t trust, as he believes she speaks poorly about others behind their backs.

Future

He needs to be cautious in the future. There’s a risk he might get involved in harmful behaviors that could affect his mental and physical health. It’s essential for him to avoid negative influences and stay on the right path because the entertainment industry, particularly K-pop, can be overwhelming. Despite the challenges, I see him making money with The Boyz, which will improve his family’s financial situation.

Fortunately, I believe he’ll protect himself from negative influences. In the future, he’ll enter a romantic relationship where he’ll feel deeply connected and physically attracted. However, he’ll need to wait a little for this person to arrive in his life.

Advice

"Persistence is the twin sister of excellence. One is the mother of quality, the other is the mother of time."

— Marabel Morgan

[maaarine]

Right-Wing Women (Andrea Dworkin, 1983)

“Love is always crucial in effecting the allegiance of women. The Right offers women a concept of love based on order and sta­bility, with formal areas of mutual accountability.

A woman is loved for fulfilling her female functions: obedience is an expression of love and so are sexual submission and childbearing.

In return, the man is supposed to be responsible for the material and emo­tional well-being of the woman.

And, increasingly, to redeem the cruel inadequacies of mortal men, the Right offers women the love of Jesus, beautiful brother, tender lover, compassionate friend, per­fect healer of sorrow and resentment, the one male to whom one can submit absolutely—be Woman as it were—without being sex­ually violated or psychologically abused. (…)

In Bless This House, Anita Bryant describes how each day she must ask Jesus to “help me love my husband and children.”

In The Total Woman, Marabel Morgan explains that it is only through God’s power that “we can love and accept others, including our husbands.”

In The Gift of Inner Healing, Ruth Carter Stapleton counsels a young woman who is in a desperately un­ happy marriage:

“Try to spend a little time each day visualizing Jesus coming in the door from work. Then see yourself walking up to him, embracing him. Say to Jesus, it’s good to have you home Nick.’” (…)

Marabel Morgan’s description of her own miserable marriage in the years preceding her discovery of God’s will is best summarized in this one sentence: “I was helpless and unhappy.”

She describes years of tension, conflict, boredom, and gloom.

She took her fate into her own hands by asking the not-yet-classic question, What do men want?

Her answer is stunningly accurate: “It is only when a woman surrenders her life to her husband, reveres and worships him, and is willing to serve him, that she becomes really beautiful to him.”

Or, more aphoristically, “A Total Woman caters to her man’s special quirks, whether it be in salads, sex, or sports.”

Citing God as the authority and submission to Jesus as the model, Morgan defines love as “unconditional acceptance of [a man] and his feelings.””

[haggishlyhagging]

The sado-ritual of excision and infibulation bestows acceptability upon gynocidal behavior— even to the extent of making it normative. This is illustrated in the precept of the president of Kenya, Jomo Kenyatta, that "no proper Gikuyu would dream of marrying a girl who has not been circumcised," since this operation "is regarded as the conditio sine qua non for the whole teaching of tribal law, religion, and morality." With these words, one chief in the Higher Order of phallocratic morality dictates its chief lesson: that women should suffer. Typically, the justification for the atrocious ritual under the reign of phallic morality involves a reversal in which the unnatural becomes normative. Only a mutilated woman is considered 100 percent feminine.* By removal of her specifically female-identified organ, which is not necessary for the male's pleasure or for reproductive servitude, she "becomes a woman." At first the reversal might seem astonishing, if one hears the term woman as representing a state of natural integrity. But if we understand this term to refer to an embodiment of the feminine, which is a construct of phallocracy, then the meaning of the expression becomes clear.**

* It is interesting to compare these attempts to feminize women with the feminization of male-to-constructed-female transsexuals. The latter, who consider themselves to be "women" (referring to "other" women as "native women") undergo operations which remove the testicles and penis and give them artificial vaginas, but no clitoris. Both of these mutilating attempts at feminization receive a large amount of legitimation by phallocracy. See Janice Raymond, The Transsexual Empire: The Making of the She-Male (Boston: Beacon Press, 1979).

** It may be helpful in this connection to recall Simone de Beauvoir's famous axiom: "One is not born, but rather becomes a woman." (The Second Sex, trans. and ed. by H. M. Parshley [New York: Vintage, 1974], p. 301). In this book of course, I use the term women to refer to females generally and reserve the term feminine to connote the male-created construct/stereotype. However, woman is often used by others to refer to the androcratically constructed (destroyed) female, who is, of course, considered "natural." There is, for example, the "total woman" of Marabel Morgan, and the "true woman" of Pope Pius XII and Pope Paul VI.

-Mary Daly, Gyn/Ecology

[acrrsolutions]

Fulfillment Quotes

Persistence is the twin sister of excellence. One is a matter of quality; the other, a matter of time. – Marabel Morgan

#fulfillment #fulfillmentquote #quoteoftheday #acrrsolutions #orderfulfillment

[diamondeyes-deluxe]

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Rick Perlstein’s Reaganland:

The best-selling paperback of 1974, still on the New York Times paperback list for seven weeks in 1976, was a book from a fundamentalist press by a born-again Christian in Miami named Marabel Morgan. The media paid most attention to The Total Woman’s naughty advice to housewives about how to spice things up in the bedroom. A more typical passage, however, argued that if your husband was driving recklessly, you could pray for a policeman, but you mustn’t complain; a wife’s duty, Morgan wrote, was to “listen attentively to her husband, to admire his every trait, to pander to his every whim.” As Scripture said, in Ephesians 5:22–23: “Wives, submit yourself to your husband, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church.” “The total woman is not a slave,” Morgan reassured readers. “She graciously chooses to adopt to her husband’s way, even though at times she desperately may not want to.” Because “it is only when a woman surrenders her life to her husband, reveres and worships him and is willing to serve him, that she becomes really beautiful to him.”

A similar book sold two million copies. Fascinating Womanhood: A Guide to a Happy Marriage by the Mormon author Helen Andelin advised women to “visit a shop for little girls and study their clothes,” because “childlikeness will make a man feel bigger, manlier, and more like the superior male.” Eleven thousand trained instructors taught “Fascinating Womanhood” seminars around the country. The Spirit-Controlled Woman, by Beverly LaHaye, a pastor’s wife from suburban San Diego, sold 500,000 copies. “The woman who is truly Spirit-filled will want to be totally submissive to her husband. This is a truly liberated woman,” she explained. “As the woman humbles herself (dies to self) and submits to her husband (serves him), she begins to find herself within that relationship. A servant is one who gets excited about making somebody else successful.… You can live fully by dying to yourself and submitting to your husband.” The Secret Power of Femininity, by Maurine and Elbert Startup, advised women to practice saying into the mirror, “I am just a helpless woman at the mercy of you big, strong men.”

these guys were way too horny

[thoughtsandstripes]

If Men Could Menstruate

Gloria Steinem, Ms. Magazine, October 1978 

A white minority of the world has spent centuries conning us into thinking that a white skin makes people superior—even though the only thing it really does is make them more subject to ultraviolet rays and to wrinkles. Male human beings have built whole cultures around the idea that penis-envy is “natural” to women—though having such an unprotected organ might be said to make men vulnerable, and the power to give birth makes womb-envy at least as logical. 

In short, the characteristics of the powerful, whatever they may be, are thought to be better than the characteristics of the powerless—and logic has nothing to do with it. 

What would happen, for instance, if suddenly, magically, men could menstruate and women could not? 

The answer is clear—menstruation would become an enviable, boast-worthy, masculine event: 

Men would brag about how long and how much. 

Boys would mark the onset of menses, that longed-for proof of manhood, with religious ritual and stag parties. 

Congress would fund a National Institute of Dysmenorrhea to help stamp out monthly discomforts. 

Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free. (Of course, some men would still pay for the prestige of commercial brands such as John Wayne Tampons, Muhammad Ali’s Rope-a-dope Pads, Joe Namath Jock Shields—“For Those Light Bachelor Days,” and Robert “Baretta” Blake Maxi-Pads.) 

Military men, right-wing politicians, and religious fundamentalists would cite menstruation (“menstruation”) as proof that only men could serve in the Army (“you have to give blood to take blood”), occupy political office (“can women be aggressive without that steadfast cycle governed by the planet Mars?”), be priest and ministers (“how could a woman give her blood for our sins?”) or rabbis (“without the monthly loss of impurities, women remain unclean”). 

Male radicals, left-wing politicians, mystics, however, would insist that women are equal, just different, and that any woman could enter their ranks if she were willing to self-inflict a major wound every month (“you MUST give blood for the revolution”), recognize the preeminence of menstrual issues, or subordinate her selfness to all men in their Cycle of Enlightenment. Street guys would brag (“I’m a three pad man”) or answer praise from a buddy (“Man, you lookin‘ good!”) by giving fives and saying, “Yeah, man, I’m on the rag!” TV shows would treat the subject at length. (“Happy Days”: Richie and Potsie try to convince Fonzie that he is still “The Fonz,” though he has missed two periods in a row.) So would newspapers. (SHARK SCARE THREATENS MENSTRUATING MEN. JUDGE CITES MONTHLY STRESS IN PARDONING RAPIST.) And movies. (Newman and Redford in “Blood Brothers”!) 

Men would convince women that intercourse was more pleasurable at “that time of the month.” Lesbians would be said to fear blood and therefore life itself—though probably only because they needed a good menstruating man. 

Of course, male intellectuals would offer the most moral and logical arguments. How could a woman master any discipline that demanded a sense of time, space, mathematics, or measurement, for instance, without that in-built gift for measuring the cycles of the moon and planets—and thus for measuring anything at all? In the rarefied fields of philosophy and religion, could women compensate for missing the rhythm of the universe? Or for their lack of symbolic death-and-resurrection every month? 

Liberal males in every field would try to be kind: the fact that “these people” have no gift for measuring life or connecting to the universe, the liberals would explain, should be punishment enough. 

And how would women be trained to react? One can imagine traditional women agreeing to all arguments with a staunch and smiling masochism. (“The ERA would force housewives to wound themselves every month”: Phyllis Schlafly. “Your husband’s blood is as sacred as that of Jesus - and so sexy, too!” Marabel Morgan.) Reformers and Queen Bees would try to imitate men, and pretend to have a monthly cycle. All feminists would explain endlessly that men, too, needed to be liberated from the false idea of Martian aggressiveness, just as women needed to escape the bonds of menses envy. Radical feminists would add that the oppression of the nonmenstrual was the pattern for all other oppressions (“Vampires were our first freedom fighters!”) Cultural feminists would develop a bloodless imagery in art and literature. Socialist feminists would insist that only under capitalism would men be able to monopolize menstrual blood . . . . 

In fact, if men could menstruate, the power justifications could probably go on forever. 

If we let them.

[campgender]

from The Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Allison Barr (2021)

[…] praised Cecilia for her “good and prudent behavior” even while describing her as shouting rude insults at her Roman judges and preaching for three days with blood gurgling out of her throat, lying in her gore after a botched beheading. I can’t help but wonder what Marabel Morgan, who in her book The Total Woman advised women to be “feminine, soft, and touchable,�� would think about Cecilia. By the time of the Reformation, Cecilia’s brand of biblical womanhood was already disappearing and being replaced by an emphasis on female distinctiveness that included a more passive submission.

In a fascinating conclusion to her book Women and Religion in Early America, 1600–1850, Marilyn Westerkamp argues that from 1600 to 1850 even the words women used to describe their spiritual callings became more passive while the words men used became more active. She writes that “while men and women used many of the same descriptions, labels and formulas in their testimonies, their spiritual autobiographies were not telling the same story.”

Women were controlled by God and spoke only when God spoke through them; men made bold choices as leaders for God and spoke with their own voices, empowered by God. Women were passive; men were active. While men were the fleet feet of Jesus carrying the good news, women were stationary vessels overflowing with what God poured into them. The touchstone of holiness had shifted so much for women that—in quite a contrast to Cecilia shouting vulgar threats at Roman officials—women’s self-described spiritual callings now included being quiet and still.

[waiting-eyez]

A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle. life with ups and downs is better than a flat life or one that goes in circles. Persistence is the twin sister of excellence. One is a matter of quality; the other, a matter of time.

(Marabel Morgan)

[touchn2btouched]

“The days were sunny, the nights were star-studded. Indeed married life was strawberries for breakfast and loving all the time.”

― Marabel Morgan

[gisellemazer]

“Persistência é irmã gêmea da excelência. Uma é mãe da qualidade, a outra a mãe do tempo”. (Marabel Morgan) (em Ribeirão Preto) https://www.instagram.com/p/CfBzSlpudUM/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[robbialy]

From • @igormozzarella Found a new demon to haunt my nightmares: Marabel Morgan. From a stance grounded in Evangelical Christianity, she vocally opposed the second-wave feminism that arose in the US in the 60's, and wrote a number of books in polemic against this movement, including the 1974 bestseller The Total Woman, which sold over 10 million copies. She is seen as the prime female exponent of the American "anti-feminism"-movement. I read with amazement and horror about her incredibly backwards stance in the excellent study of adult life crises "Passages" by Gail Sheehy. Very strange to see such self-deprecating rhetoric coming from a vocal, intelligent woman... Of course, she also published a cook book with recipes for the submissive housewife to make for her adored, dominating husband who took her and her work for granted.. https://www.instagram.com/p/CW9VAl5jyBjsQM3y74ZJ3C76OqIiXMoC2b6upA0/?utm_medium=tumblr

[fxiscatti]

“Persistência é irmã gêmea da excelência. Uma é mãe da qualidade, a outra a mãe do tempo”. (Marabel Morgan) #coffee #coffeeplease #coffeefirst #coffeecoffeecoffee #coffeeislife #coffee_time #coffeeaddict #instacoffee #coffeeshots #coffeeathome #coffeebreak #coffeegeek #coffiecup #goodcoffee #cafelife #baristadaily #barista #baristacoffee #coffeeculture #butfirstcoffee #coffeelife #coffeegram #coffeelover #coffeelove #coffeeshop #coffeetime #coffeeporn #coffeevibes #vscocoffee #coffeeroasters (em São Paulo, Brazil) https://www.instagram.com/p/CNyPE2Hh4EN/?igshid=ck0sp8mmn858