#love relatioship

[anaugust]

The game's name is lesbianism and I'm loosing.

[sl8tersstuff]

I can’t love you the same.

[marcelinestreehouse]

Worst part about having a long distance relationship is that you have to say goodnight and still be up for hours without them. I already miss them enough ):

They are coming back home soon though, counting the days!!!

[imitationgame77]

What is Aromanticism???

Here on Tumblr, I see many posts mentioning aroace, aromantic, queer-platonic, etc., and I have been trying to understand, but still find it difficult.

If a person describes self as aromantic (= have no experience of romantic feelings towards others), this is fine. It is subjective definition, so must be respected.

But I don't know what it means when a relationship between two individuals is just described as aromantic, I don't know how to interpret that, unless there are more descriptions.

It is almost like dividing all the fruits into apple and non-apple. We can accept that it is NOT an apple, but then what is it?

Obviously, if we are talking about two individuals who can agree on their interpersonal relationship, that is fine. But when there is not necessarily agreement between the two participating individuals, how do the outsiders know?

Even more so, if these are fictional characters.

An American psychologist Robert Sternberg developed the famous "Triangular Theory of Love" in 1980s, where he characterised love between individuals with 3 factors: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. When these are combined you get 7 types of love. (Liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, and non-love).

Generally, passion is interpreted as related to physical/sexual attraction.

So, if you see two individuals who seem to like each other a lot, but remove Passion from the picture, you are left with either "Liking" or "Companionate Love".

Companionate love is great for long-term relationship where the excitement is gone, but trust, caring feeling and understanding are still there. But I feel uncertain about calling ALL the GREAT relationships minus the Passion part as just "companionate". Something feels missing.

Why can we not call that excitement when you get to know someone and you just click? Instant chemistry, and you know that this person is going to be a great friend to you. Sometimes you can get infatuated with your new friend.

Friend or best friend are also good terms, but they don't encapusulate the specialness - some people have lots of best friends. (Or so they say.) Sometimes, there is a sense of exclusivity - resulting in jealousy when a third party comes along.

I wish there is a term to describe a relationship where two individuals care for each other greatly, can understand and accept each other with all the differences and irritating bits about each other, so special and valuable that do not want to lose each other, and gain greatest pleasure in each other's company above everything else.

I think it is possible to have this without sexual or physical attraction, can even have other friends or sexual relationships elsewhere. But this is THE most significant relationship that transcends everything else.

When people see some of these traits, we tend to think of them romantic. Even when we do not expect them to have relationships like lovers do. Because we see chemistry, bond, trust and everything that we desire. Maybe, the same brain areas that process very romantic things respond in a similar way.

I see this in Holmes and Watson (original), Sherlock and John (BBC Sherlock), House and Wilson (House, MD), Myron Bolitar and Win (Harlan Coben's Myron Bolitar series), and recently, Murderbot and ART. (That used to include Aziraphale and Crowley while their passion bit was subtext)

I don't imagine them in sexual or other physically intimate relationships, but the special bond between each of these pairs feels romantic. Because they are so special.

I need a simple word. Not a word meaning "not-something"...

[daughter-of-lethe]

Chronological Order:

This is what happens after Nesta tells Ember that Cassian -who still thinks he isn't worthy of both being Rhysand's brother and Nesta's mate- is the most furious with her of everyone:

Bryce comes back to give the mask back and for her parents. Bryce finds Ember, Randall, Nesta and Cassian sitting around a table, chatting, enjoying tea and chocolate cake.

Bryce recognizes by the smell that Cassian is Nesta’s mate and she finds him fascinating, vaguely familiar. (Hunt?)

Then Nesta stood up holding a knife, while Cassian reaches out for a hidden weapon as fast as thought. (Ready to end every threat to his mate, like a protective mate would).

Both Nesta and Cassian stiffen when Hunt enters in their world. And Ember reassures Cassian about Rhys' behavior.

When Bryce extracts Truthteller, Cassian is ready to jump between Bryce -with the knife- and Nesta (Again he is ready to give his life for Nesta)

Ember tells that she explained Bryce’s behavior to Rhys and Azriel (not to Cassian, because Cassian believes Nesta’s words and doesn't doubt her)

Cassian must have done something for Randall and Ember with Rhys as an intermediary, otherwise what reason would Randall have to thank him?

Then Cassian smiles and Bryce understands why Nesta is in love with him.

When Nesta is waving to Bryce, Cassian realizes it’s a personal moment and takes a few steps back, giving the girls their moment, but staying nearby to be ready if danger arises and Nesta’s life is in danger.

Bryce says that as all good mates do, she knows that Cassian is monitoring every move she's doing and that if she missteps against Nesta, Cassian will tear her apart.

When Bryce draws the star sword, Cassian stiffens.

Doesn't seem like he doesn't care at all for her, on the contrary Nesta feels that he is protective of her. She even with amused look defines he and Hunt "Alphaholes."

[theballadofthesunandthestars]

A buff! Nico has hit The Ballad of the Sun and the Star sequel

[insomniaticvoids]

Taps the sign just because someone is aromantic or asexual doesn't mean they don't enjoy sex or doing things deemed romantic. I just means the attraction they experience is little to none depending on the person.

Many people still have preferences and many also just don't like people in that way entirely. There is no lived experience that fits all. But it's important to understand that a person can be aro or ace or aroace and be gay they can be bi even without experiencing one form or the other or even both. Cause guess what there isn't only one form of.love and attraction isn't the only indicator of decision making shocking.

It's like eating a piece of cake you don't need that cake but it sounds nice so you have it. You have a preference but don't love cake but you may uave some on occasion. That's how I would describe loosely my relation with people I don't have that attraction but it's nice and the actions done are chill. I just wouldn't obsess or go out of my way to seek that cake it's just cake. I'm not going to go head over heels for it. This does apply both in the case of romantic and/or sexual relationships mind you.

[okaydays22]

[qtubbo]

Morning crew is family in the way they care not in the way they fit any nuclear family dynamic. There is a certain level of reliance and genuine love that they give each other, that feels like family. They’d give everything for each other because they care so much.

Tubbo sees them as the people who took care of him but also states over and over again that it isn’t parental. While he still sees them as some sort of family. I think for a lot of people it’s hard to realize that you can love someone like family without them fulfilling any stereotypical role. All of them have tried to place their relationship on some sort of family scale, uncles, cousins, ect. . Fandom often placing them into a parental relationship, or even sometimes considering Tubbo their brother. But no box they have ever been categorized in really encapsulates how they feel for each other. People want them to be family in a way we can label it but nothing is the perfect title because there is no dynamic that says it all, they love and care like family and that is it. That’s all it has ever been.

[mars-rnr]

I like CaitVi for the toxic yuri that it is. I like it as this remaining innocence the other woman clings to in their lives. This false hope they assign the other to be, to play into, because they’ll snap if they don’t have that kind of hope, that innocence to protect anymore

So much lose, all that remains is someone who embodies what could’ve been and what has been.

If the future Arcane media picks up on their relationship, perhaps it will hint to more toxic lover behavior

[mud-castle]

There's something satisfying about making fool/jester inspired character designs.

[kyliafanfiction]

I am always baffled by people who manage to trick themselves into thinking the show's main character would be in a gay relationship when it was obvious from word 1 it wasn't, and then you act like it's a betrayal when she's not.

Like, they didn't even fucking queerbait under even the most expansive definition.

[candlebel]

I cared. I still do. I still think of you and I still cry over you. You were importat to me. You still are.

[nonbinarymlm]

Green Flags for Cis Male Partners (based on my fiance)*

1) Loves (complex) evil female characters - Cersei is his major GOT fave

2) Is not okay with other men being misogynistic - low bar and yet

3) Is deeply uncomfortable with random sexualized women being all over media and advertisements - okay, he might actually have a trauma response to this in part due to comphet so I don’t know if it counts, but

4) Can be little spoon  - big spoon is good too, but accepting the little spoon vulnerability at least sometimes is important

5) Is bi/pan/queer - look it’s a given, right?

6) Has female and trans friends

7) Is more concerned with sexual violence than false accusations of sexual violence - if this is the other way around then be concerned

8) Is huggable - important

*Disclaimer: this is not a serious post and all kinds of people may be toxic/abusive in relationships as human relationships are very complex. Don’t @ me

[magicdashworkss]

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StarWars #Fanfic #LukeSkywalker

[alivenova]

I just finished my Swedish lesson and my language knowledge is like super low, right? So my absolute loveliest teacher was telling me about the difference between å ö ä, right? It was very..interesting👍 she showed me words that had all those letters and said that it was just for pronunciation but I wrote some down just for fun because why are the so long 😭