#love relatioship

[anaugust]

The game's name is lesbianism and I'm loosing.

[sl8tersstuff]

I can’t love you the same.

[marcelinestreehouse]

Worst part about having a long distance relationship is that you have to say goodnight and still be up for hours without them. I already miss them enough ):

They are coming back home soon though, counting the days!!!

[imitationgame77]

What is Aromanticism???

Here on Tumblr, I see many posts mentioning aroace, aromantic, queer-platonic, etc., and I have been trying to understand, but still find it difficult.

If a person describes self as aromantic (= have no experience of romantic feelings towards others), this is fine. It is subjective definition, so must be respected.

But I don't know what it means when a relationship between two individuals is just described as aromantic, I don't know how to interpret that, unless there are more descriptions.

It is almost like dividing all the fruits into apple and non-apple. We can accept that it is NOT an apple, but then what is it?

Obviously, if we are talking about two individuals who can agree on their interpersonal relationship, that is fine. But when there is not necessarily agreement between the two participating individuals, how do the outsiders know?

Even more so, if these are fictional characters.

An American psychologist Robert Sternberg developed the famous "Triangular Theory of Love" in 1980s, where he characterised love between individuals with 3 factors: Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment. When these are combined you get 7 types of love. (Liking, infatuation, empty love, romantic love, companionate love, fatuous love, and non-love).

Generally, passion is interpreted as related to physical/sexual attraction.

So, if you see two individuals who seem to like each other a lot, but remove Passion from the picture, you are left with either "Liking" or "Companionate Love".

Companionate love is great for long-term relationship where the excitement is gone, but trust, caring feeling and understanding are still there. But I feel uncertain about calling ALL the GREAT relationships minus the Passion part as just "companionate". Something feels missing.

Why can we not call that excitement when you get to know someone and you just click? Instant chemistry, and you know that this person is going to be a great friend to you. Sometimes you can get infatuated with your new friend.

Friend or best friend are also good terms, but they don't encapusulate the specialness - some people have lots of best friends. (Or so they say.) Sometimes, there is a sense of exclusivity - resulting in jealousy when a third party comes along.

I wish there is a term to describe a relationship where two individuals care for each other greatly, can understand and accept each other with all the differences and irritating bits about each other, so special and valuable that do not want to lose each other, and gain greatest pleasure in each other's company above everything else.

I think it is possible to have this without sexual or physical attraction, can even have other friends or sexual relationships elsewhere. But this is THE most significant relationship that transcends everything else.

When people see some of these traits, we tend to think of them romantic. Even when we do not expect them to have relationships like lovers do. Because we see chemistry, bond, trust and everything that we desire. Maybe, the same brain areas that process very romantic things respond in a similar way.

I see this in Holmes and Watson (original), Sherlock and John (BBC Sherlock), House and Wilson (House, MD), Myron Bolitar and Win (Harlan Coben's Myron Bolitar series), and recently, Murderbot and ART. (That used to include Aziraphale and Crowley while their passion bit was subtext)

I don't imagine them in sexual or other physically intimate relationships, but the special bond between each of these pairs feels romantic. Because they are so special.

I need a simple word. Not a word meaning "not-something"...

[theballadofthesunandthestars]

A buff! Nico has hit The Ballad of the Sun and the Star sequel

[insomniaticvoids]

Taps the sign just because someone is aromantic or asexual doesn't mean they don't enjoy sex or doing things deemed romantic. I just means the attraction they experience is little to none depending on the person.

Many people still have preferences and many also just don't like people in that way entirely. There is no lived experience that fits all. But it's important to understand that a person can be aro or ace or aroace and be gay they can be bi even without experiencing one form or the other or even both. Cause guess what there isn't only one form of.love and attraction isn't the only indicator of decision making shocking.

It's like eating a piece of cake you don't need that cake but it sounds nice so you have it. You have a preference but don't love cake but you may uave some on occasion. That's how I would describe loosely my relation with people I don't have that attraction but it's nice and the actions done are chill. I just wouldn't obsess or go out of my way to seek that cake it's just cake. I'm not going to go head over heels for it. This does apply both in the case of romantic and/or sexual relationships mind you.

[okaydays22]

[qtubbo]

Morning crew is family in the way they care not in the way they fit any nuclear family dynamic. There is a certain level of reliance and genuine love that they give each other, that feels like family. They’d give everything for each other because they care so much.

Tubbo sees them as the people who took care of him but also states over and over again that it isn’t parental. While he still sees them as some sort of family. I think for a lot of people it’s hard to realize that you can love someone like family without them fulfilling any stereotypical role. All of them have tried to place their relationship on some sort of family scale, uncles, cousins, ect. . Fandom often placing them into a parental relationship, or even sometimes considering Tubbo their brother. But no box they have ever been categorized in really encapsulates how they feel for each other. People want them to be family in a way we can label it but nothing is the perfect title because there is no dynamic that says it all, they love and care like family and that is it. That’s all it has ever been.

[mud-castle]

There's something satisfying about making fool/jester inspired character designs.

[kyliafanfiction]

I am always baffled by people who manage to trick themselves into thinking the show's main character would be in a gay relationship when it was obvious from word 1 it wasn't, and then you act like it's a betrayal when she's not.

Like, they didn't even fucking queerbait under even the most expansive definition.

[candlebel]

I cared. I still do. I still think of you and I still cry over you. You were importat to me. You still are.

[nonbinarymlm]

Green Flags for Cis Male Partners (based on my fiance)*

1) Loves (complex) evil female characters - Cersei is his major GOT fave

2) Is not okay with other men being misogynistic - low bar and yet

3) Is deeply uncomfortable with random sexualized women being all over media and advertisements - okay, he might actually have a trauma response to this in part due to comphet so I don’t know if it counts, but

4) Can be little spoon  - big spoon is good too, but accepting the little spoon vulnerability at least sometimes is important

5) Is bi/pan/queer - look it’s a given, right?

6) Has female and trans friends

7) Is more concerned with sexual violence than false accusations of sexual violence - if this is the other way around then be concerned

8) Is huggable - important

*Disclaimer: this is not a serious post and all kinds of people may be toxic/abusive in relationships as human relationships are very complex. Don’t @ me

[magicdashworkss]

🌟 Star Wars fanfic: Mona & Luke 🌟 Discover how love transforms the galaxy! 💫 Character growth 💖 Deep connection 🚀 New adventures See Luke become his best self with Mona. Read now: A dream is just the beginning... - Part 1 - Wattpad

StarWars #Fanfic #LukeSkywalker

[alivenova]

I just finished my Swedish lesson and my language knowledge is like super low, right? So my absolute loveliest teacher was telling me about the difference between å ö ä, right? It was very..interesting👍 she showed me words that had all those letters and said that it was just for pronunciation but I wrote some down just for fun because why are the so long 😭

[debzcorner]

FOR THOSE WHO CAN RELATE

Please tell me I am not the only one who feels this way.

“To be, is an action that starts in the mind but can be mutilated by one’s shortcomings or incapacity. The mind is a power house for the development of many ideas. And this is where my inspiration starts from”

I’m amazed at how I constantly see it in my head, and the way my mind and body speak to me. Telling me of the pleasures to come. I see it in my head even before the experience. The thought of it and the confidence my imagination gives me, arouses a special kind of feeling within me. this is my trigger. This is what stops me from holding back.

I’m whining my waist while slowing unbuttoning my shirt. Swaying to the slow song, that very old one song with all the right and wrong words, sending a sensation down my spine and slowly making its way, down to the part, the very one. My dress shirt will then slide down falling so casually but yet so sexily to the floor, making his eyes grow wide, wild and wondering. Knowing he enjoys this, gives me so much pleasure. I’m super excited, it’s telling. But only I know the intensity of this excitement as I start to feel that little skin underneath, coming alive. I can feel the soft, smooth and yielding part, building a rhythm as it rises and falls like a beating heart from a race. A race my entire body will soon engage in.

The sexy lacy and all so revealing under garment is revealed, heightening the sensation. He’s never seen that on me. The way my curves are accentuated by the custard yellow lingerie gives his pecker a rise in a manner of readiness. My flat smooth tummy, with my belly button pierced, are some of the things I know makes him go crazy. And they are all in the open. Now it’s beginning to get really slippery and I can feel it. I want it already but I am willing to wait. I want to get to the same heightened level together with him, to a point where none of us,can hold back.

One touch to my back frees my huge melons. They bounce out like babies eager to come into the world. The tiny dots, swollen and hard. You could see it’s surrounding, squeezed. Now he’s up. The tension so hot. He’s walking over. Then I turned, backing him. Just when he was a few steps away, and in a very sensual manner, I bend over, picking up my favorite shirt like it was of any importance in that moment.  My cheeks round with a path in the middle. A path he’s walked severally and yet never satiated. The path that makes his peckers want to burst out and get dipped. And as if sensing he was near, I began walking towards our cradle of desire, while them cheeks keeps swaying both ways, bouncing like it was in a dance of its own, acting like I had no idea i had triggered an internal war.  And just as I made it to our haven of love, I felt the long hard smooth silky skinned pipe hit me where it belonged. My mind was bent over it already, having the whole of it where it should be. But in reality, I wasn’t giving in. I was enjoying the tease. Seeing how much he wanted me gave me joy unimaginable.

And now he’s grabbing, he’s touching and lips are joined. My hands, on a journey, treading familiar territories. Territories not fully charted. It makes several stops at destinations, the ones that triggers a new kind of wanting. I knew all the right places he wanted me to stop but, not so fast mister. I play a little around some areas, the ones just above my favorite destination, taunting him some more and enjoying the look of his dilated pupils. And just when he thought I wasn’t going for it, I slide it down to them peckers. They were waiting. Just like I wanted them to. Lips began helping my hands. They work in harmony, pleasuring my darling. I call him P, because HE’S POISON. An irresistible poison. One I dare not say no to. Loads of slippery and wetness began to emerge from several areas. And we both birth our first sound. That gasp, it sent a warmth down my entire body ……

So much is happening right now. I am doing all the works, squatting, bending over, sliding, lifting, it felt like we are in a tangled dance. I am taking all the positions. Then the best part comes, when all has been fully explored and two become one with sweats and shivering, names called and a release that brings the best satisfaction one could never imagine.

For it is at these moments I jolt back to reality, remembering how bad my knees are and how I would always lie flat on my back and make him do the work. How that my best was turning my cheeks up and staying put on the spot. And of course, I remember where the story started from and reminded myself of my stretch marked filled, protruding belly that hides what should have been the best sight away from view. Yes, they get slippery. But what good is slippery with no action. However, its so hard to make me picture myself otherwise when in the act because that’s how I see myself even though in reality it’s a far cry. Who cares.

I hate to disappoint him. But the strength in my knees is gone with days of child bearing and so many untold struggles. The tummy was a major concern till I couldn’t do anything anymore and started liking them after trying out numerous skin care this, skin care that and weight loss programs that never seemed to work. Ah, I won’t forget to mention my love handles, always piled up on one another like books on a shelf.  Those curves described in the beginning were from years before child bearing.

I must say here that this is no story of regrets. This is just an illustration of how my mind works while in the act. And the pleasure it gives me in that moment, knowing that I feel good with myself.

Yeah, that’s it. My wild bedroom experience.

I’m sensing you enjoyed this read up until the end. So perhaps, at my next attempt, I will read him a story that would create my imagination. Perhaps that will make me less boring.

[acarmencita86]

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