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inch resting how mainstream forcefem focuses on becoming weak and submissive, letting it happen to you, while mainstream forcemasc is about taking agency and becoming powerful..... inch resting
#live posting from the gender studies lecture haha#I like what trans girls did to forcefem but c'mon trans guys get some new material#anyway this is about the notion that men are inherently better/stronger humans and to become a woman is a failure#that you level up when u transmasc and level down when u transfem#some might say this is the basis of the different forms of discrimination trans people face.... but it may just be a myth#jk its NOT thats where transmisogyny comes from
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There are at least as many bi and pansexual people in the world as lesbians and gay men combined, at least according to surveys of western countries. But bisexuality is poorly understood - leaving bi and pansexual people feeling that their sexuality is invisible or invalid.
In Episode 1 of the new season of BANG!, people who are "attracted to more than one gender" share their experiences, and Dr Nikki Hayfield highlights some particularly damaging, often "biphobic", stereotypes.
To the outside world, Rose and Sam* look like any other straight couple. They're in their mid 20s, affectionate and obviously really into each other. The thing is, they're not straight.
Sam identifies as pansexual and Rose is bisexual. People define each of these sexualities in different ways, but for Sam pansexuality means that he's attracted to people irrespective of gender (as in, it's not important) and for Rose bisexuality means she's attracted to people "across the spectrum of genders".
For those shouting "but bi means two!", some people still use bisexuality to mean they're into just men and women, but others have broadened the definition as a response to the increase in trans identities and in resisting binary understandings of gender.
Both Sam and Rose came out in their early 20s, both had same-sex experiences and attractions in their teens and, initially, both put them down to teenaged "confusion" or "acting out".
As Sam tells me in this episode of BANG!, "Heterosexuality was expected of me and that's why it took quite a while to realise I wasn't that. It's why my parents still don't know [I'm pan]… I wouldn't be disowned or anything, but it would confirm that I'm the sort of black sheep, and that I'm less of a man in some way, and that doesn't feel good."
Rose grew up with an openly lesbian aunt; her family environment was welcoming of queerness. But she thought bisexuality meant 50 per cent attracted to men and 50 per cent attracted to women, and that the label didn't fit her because she's attracted to men more of the time.
That's until she turned 21 and stumbled across a Tumblr post.
"It said, 'you can be 70 per cent attracted to men, 30 per cent attracted to women' and I was like 'Oh! I think I could be not-straight then!'"
Soon after, Rose came out to her mum.
"When I told her… she was like 'Oh, I think I'm bi too!', I was like, 'What?! Why didn't you tell me! That would've really helped my coming out journey if you'd told me'," she laughs.
Rose's mum explained she had tried to come out as bi to some lesbian friends in the 1980s, but they told her she needed to "pick a side". This kind of discrimination from within queer circles makes bisexuals particularly vulnerable to social isolation, with many reporting that they feel "not straight enough" for straight circles and "not gay enough" for LGBTQ+ communities.
Rose and Sam are part of an open and supportive friend group, but even so - people close to them make incorrect assumptions about their sexualities because they are in a male/female relationship.
"We have had a friend who we know and love so much come up to us really drunk… and be like, 'You're just so straight! Look at you two!'... and I was like, 'No we're not!' It was sort of a funny situation but also… I don't think it's a funny joke to be like 'you're straight, haha!' Because you just don't know," she says.
Dr Nikki Hayfield is a senior lecturer at UWE Bristol, whose research explores bisexualities, pansexualities, asexualities, and LGBTQ+ sexualities generally. She's also bisexual herself.
"People do tend to take our relationships status as a signifier of our identity, and so it's much more difficult for bisexual people to be out about their sexuality, because their partner… doesn't indicate their sexuality in the way that it does for heterosexual people or for lesbians and gay men," she says.
"Bisexual people find that even if they've been explicitly out about their bisexuality, to say their friends and their family and their work colleagues, when they're in a relationship all of a sudden it's as if they didn't make that declaration of their bisexuality, and they find that people around them assume that they're 'gay now' or they're "straight now'."
Author and columnist Emily Writes was happily married to her husband when she came to terms with her attractions towards women. While her husband was incredibly supportive, coming out to some of her friends and family was trickier.
"A lot of people saw it as 'Are you getting a divorce then? Which I thought was really odd because that never crossed out minds… We have a really happy marriage and I don't see how that changes anything," says Emily.
As someone with a public profile, Emily copped the same social media flack as bisexual celebrities like Lady Gaga and Miley Cyrus: That they are claiming queer sexualities as a marketing stunt. Another common biphobic trope.
"When I see somebody being like 'Oh now she's gay coz it's cool.' I just have this thing in my head where I'm like 'I've been gay! I've been gay! The whole time I was gay!' She says. "It's this thing around bisexuality or queerness, that people want you to perform it for them and if you don't then are you allowed to say that you're queer or bi?"
Here's why this stuff is so important:
- The Youth '12 survey, of 8,500 New Zealand secondary school students found young people who experience "both and same sex attraction" (gay, lesbian, bi and pansexual students were lumped together in this survey) are more likely to be bullied.
The majority of them had deliberately self-harmed. 18.3% had attempted suicide in the past year.
- Also - the proportion of them experiencing significant depressive symptoms has increased from 27 per cent in 2001 to 41.3 per cent in 2012. Opposite-sex attracted students had no significant change.
- Several overseas studies also suggest that bisexual people are at a higher risk for poor mental health outcomes than both straight and lesbian and gay people.
What can we do to help?
Sai, Charlie and Emma are students at Wellington High School who identify as pan and bisexual.
"Just normalise it. As much as you can," says Emma. "A lot of TV shows are having a lot of casual background queer characters and not making their queerness who they are… Let's hope it continues."
"I do think the term "it's just a phase' is so strange," Charlie says. "Because, if it is a phase why can't that person, like, live in that phase and be comfortable with that?"
"People are a lot more quick to shut it down the younger you are because they're like 'oh you don't know any better'," says Emma.
"It's just people with ideas about what things should be, having a go at people who don't fit their expectations, just like it happens with just your regular old homophobes," says Sai.
"I guess I just wish I had bi parents, then I'd know it was a thing. Or just bi people that are open and in my life,"
Rose, the bi woman in a relationship with pansexual Sam, has some good advice, too.
"Until I meet this new person coming into my friend's life, I'm not gonna presume what gender they're going to be, that's just putting my friend in a box... I kinda just assume everyone's bi unless they tell me otherwise."
* Rose and Sam are not their real names
#bi tumblr#lgbtq pride#pride#bi pride#bisexuality is valid#bisexuality#lgbtq community#lgbtq#support bisexuality#bi#panseuxal#pansexual community#bisexual community#bisexual education#bisexual youth#bisexual nation#not half straight#not half gay#100% bisexual#pansexual rights#bisexual rights#bisexual info#bisexual tips#tips/info#bisexual injustice#bisexual representation#lgbt bisexual politics#support bisexual people#bisexual struggle
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tagged by @darkthestars and @pearloftheorient
1. What do you prefer to be called name-wise? bia ig, by close friends. tho i like any sorts of nicknames like peaches or knight
2. When is your birthday? the 4th of dec
3. Where do you live? romania
4. Three things you are doing right now? trying to calm down coz i was the imposter lol and i always get anxious (but i won haha) - listening to a kdrama ost playlist hehe - and eating some austrian sweet i got from my sis, it's called waldviertler nusszelten.
5. Four fandoms that have piqued your interest? i haven't really followed any fandoms lately idk i got a lot on my mind. but ive been listening to day6/eaj/nive/sondia/sasha sloan a lot lately and well ive been watching kdramas (the liar and his lover, tempted, while you were sleeping) and there's this cute as heck animated tv show called "green eggs and ham" and idk man the good vibes are real and also a german show called "dark" about time travel and multiple universes.
6. How has the pandemic been treating you? i didn't suffer much from it actually, got used to the whole situation ig, so im quite fortunate.
7. A song you can’t stop listening to right now? aah, i listen to like 15 songs and 2 albums on repeat, can't choose just one, but like "pacman" and "50 proof" by eaj and "adults" and "our souls at night" by sondia and albums like "the album" by bp and "only child" by sasha sloan and "folklore" by taylor swift.
8. Recommend a movie? hmm, haven't watched any films lately but ig "the half of it"(wlw) or "hidden figures"(black women working for nasa) or "parasite"(the poor exploit the wealth and naivety of a rich family, korean)
9. How old are you? almost 18 ig
10. School, university, occupation, other? i'm in 12th grade, completely unprepared and anxious about my college choices hahah.
11. Do you prefer heat or cold? i prefer cold weather but like me in my bed, under the blankets, all warm and snuggled up, and the room's cold, also tea, rain and bg music.
12. Name one fact others may not know about you? i avoid situations and ignore ppl when scared or anxious, which is all the time hahahahahah. also overthink and self-exclude myself?? sorry to my friends but yeah, ig it's relatable for most ppl tho.
13. Are you shy? i am both intrigued and scared of human interactions. i don't think ppl view me as shy, more like uninterested or not talkative, but also carefree and random??? but idk coz i'd also blush and smile and jump around whenever id make a new friend or talk to strangers? i dont really know, it depends a lot.
14. Preferred pronouns? she/they worked for me so far and ig i feel comfortable using them but idk, i don't understand my gender identity enough yet.
15. Biggest pet peeve? when teachers or adults in general think they are surely always right and also when they switch their words w/o any warning like "oh no, you don't have to bring the textbook, it's okay" and then "you didn't bring it? are you not here to study? prepare coz imma give you a 10min lecture/scolding" like WTF MAN.
16. What is your favourite “dere” type? don't have one ig?
17. Rate your life 1-10, 1 being crappy and 10 being the best it could be: idk anywhere between 5 and 8 ig, right now it's an 8 i think (coz im ignoring all my responsibilities hahah ugh)
18. What’s your main blog? this one
19. List your side blogs and what they’re used for: uhh, they're mostly blogs for trashing, like when a post is too long for me to read right then lol.
20. Is there anything people need to know about you before becoming friends? as ive said lol, my mental health/stability is no joke so imma overthink shit and decide i don't belong in your life anymore, or think our bond isn't as strong as it used to be and just severe it, hell knows why damn.
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do you have any sources on the claims you made? im always willing to change my stance if you have legitimate backing for it haha
So first, I’m sorry for blowing up at you the way that I did. I’m not proud that I reacted in such a kneejerk, aggressive fashion. Thank you for being open to hearing what I have to say. I’m sorry for mistaking you for a TERF, and I’m sorry my response has caused other people to direct their own hostility towards you.
So, here’s the thing. “You can’t call bi women femmes” is pretty intrinsically a radfem thing to say, and I am deeply opposed to letting radfems tell me what to do. I’m trying to write this during a weekend packed with childcare and work. I’ll try to hit all the high notes.
The one thing I am having trouble finding is the longass post I talked about in my reply, that was a history of butch/femme relationships in lesbian bars, which had frequent biphobic asides and talked about “the lesbophobic myth of the bi-rejecting lesbian”; the friend who reblogged it without reading it thoroughly has deleted it, and I can’t find it on any of the tags she remembers looking at around that time. If anyone can find it, I’ll put up a link.
As far as possible, I’m linking to really widely accessible sources, because you shouldn’t intrinsically trust a random post on Tumblr as secret privileged knowledge. People have talked about this at length in reputable publications that your local library either has, or can get through interlibrary loan; you can look up any of the people here, read their work, and decide for yourself. This is a narrative of perspectives, and while I obviously have a perspective, many people disagree with me. At the end of the day, the only reason I need for calling bi women femmes is that You Are Not The Boss Of Me. There is no centralized authority on LGBT+ word usage, nor do I think there should be. Hopefully this post will give you a better sense of what the arguments are, and how to evaluate peoples’ claims in the future.
I looked up “butch” and “femme” with my library’s subscription to the Oxford English Dictionary because that’s where you find the most evidence of etymology and early use, and found:
“Femme” is the French word for “woman”. It’s been a loanword in English for about 200 years, and in the late 19th century in America it was just a slangy word for “women”, as in, “There were lots of femmes there for the boys to dance with”
“Butch” has been used in American English to mean a tough, masculine man since the late 19th century; in the 1930s and 1940s it came to apply to a short masculine haircut, and shortly thereafter, a woman who wore such a haircut. It’s still used as a nickname for masculine cis guys–my godfather’s name is Martin, but his family calls him Butch. By the 1960s in Britain, “butch” was slang for the penetrating partner of a pair of gay men.
Butch/femme as a dichotomy for women arose specifically in the American lesbian bar scene around, enh, about the 1940s, to enh, about the 1960s. Closet-keys has a pretty extensive butch/femme history reader. This scene was predominantly working-class women, and many spaces in it were predominantly for women of colour. This was a time when “lesbian” literally meant anyone who identified as a woman, and who was sexually or romantically interested in other women. A lot of the women in these spaces were closeted in the rest of their lives, and outside of their safe spaces, they had to dress normatively, were financially dependent on husbands, etc. Both modern lesbians, and modern bisexual women, can see themselves represented in this historical period.
These spaces cross-pollinated heavily with ball culture and drag culture, and were largely about working-class POC creating spaces where they could explore different gender expressions, gender as a construct and a performance, and engage in a variety of relationships. Butch/femme was a binary, but it worked as well as most binaries to do with sex and gender do, which is to say, it broke down a lot, despite the best efforts of people to enforce it. It became used by people of many different genders and orientations whose common denominator was the need for safety and discretion. “Butch” and “femme” were words with meanings, not owners.
Lesbianism as distinct from bisexuality comes from the second wave of feminism, which began in, enh, the 1960s, until about, enh, maybe the 1980s, maybe never by the way Tumblr is going. “Radical” feminism means not just that this is a new and more exciting form of feminism compared to the early 20th century suffrage movement; as one self-identified radfem professor of mine liked to tell us every single lecture, it shares an etymology with the word “root”, meaning that sex discrimination is at the root of all oppression.
Radical feminism blossomed among college-educated women, which also meant, predominantly white, middle- or upper-class women whose first sexual encounters with women happened at elite all-girls schools or universities. Most of these women broke open the field of “women’s studies” and the leading lights of radical feminism often achieved careers as prominent scholars and tenured professors.
Radical feminism established itself as counter to “The Patriarchy”, and one of the things many early radfems believed was, all men were the enemy. All men perpetuated patriarchy and were damaging to women. So the logical decision was for women to withdraw from men in all manner and circumstances–financially, legally, politically, socially, and sexually. “Political lesbianism” wasn’t united by its sexual desire for women; many of its members were asexual, or heterosexual women who decided to live celibate lives. This was because associating with men in any form was essentially aiding and abetting the enemy.
Look, I’ll just literally quote Wikipedia quoting an influential early lesbian separatist/radical feminist commune: “The Furies recommended that Lesbian Separatists relate “only (with) women who cut their ties to male privilege” and suggest that “as long as women still benefit from heterosexuality, receive its privileges and security, they will at some point have to betray their sisters, especially Lesbian sisters who do not receive those benefits”“
This cross-pollinated with the average experience of WLW undergraduates, who were attending school at a time when women weren’t expected to have academic careers; college for women was primarily seen as a place to meet eligible men to eventually marry. So there were definitely women who had relationships with other women, but then, partly due to the pressure of economic reality and heteronormativity, married men. This led to the phrase LUG, or “lesbian until graduation”, which is the kind of thing that still got flung at me in the 00s as an openly bisexual undergrad. Calling someone a LUG was basically an invitation to fight.
The assumption was that women who marry men when they’re 22, or women who don’t stay in the feminist academic sphere, end up betraying their ideals and failing to have solidarity with their sisters. Which seriously erases the many contributions of bi, het, and ace women to feminism and queer liberation. For one, I want to point to Brenda Howard, the bisexual woman who worked to turn Pride from the spontaneous riots in 1969 to the nationwide organized protests and parades that began in 1970 and continue to this day. She spent the majority of her life to a male partner, but that didn’t diminish her contribution to the LGBT+ community.
Lesbian separatists, and radical feminists, hated Butch/Femme terminology. They felt it was a replication of unnecessarily heteronormative ideals. Butch/femme existed in an LGBT+ context, where gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people understood themselves to have more in common with each other than with, say, cis feminists who just hated men more than they loved women.
The other main stream of feminist thought at the time was Liberal Feminism, which was like, “What if we can change society without totally rejecting men?” and had prominent figures like Gloria Steinem, who ran Ms magazine. Even today, you’ll hear radfems railing against “libfems” and I’m like, my good women, liberal feminism got replaced thirty years ago. Please update your internal schema of “the enemy”
Lesbian separatism was… plagued by infighting. To maintain a “woman-only” space, they had to kick out trans women (thus, TERFs), women who slept with men (thus, biphobia), women who enjoyed kinky sex or pornography or engaged in sex work (thus, SWERFS) and they really struggled to raise their male children in a way that was… um… anti-oppressive. (I’m biased; I know people who were raised in lesbian separatist communes and did not have great childhoods.) At the same time, they had other members they very much wanted to keep, even though their behaviour deviated from the expected program, so you ended up with spectacles like Andrea Dworkin self-identifying as a lesbian despite being deeply in love with and married to a self-identified gay man for twenty years, despite beng famous for the theory that no woman could ever have consensual sex with a man, because all she could ever do was acquiesce to her own rape.
There’s a reason radical feminism stopped being a major part of the public discourse, and also a reason why it survives today: While its proponents became increasingly obsolete, they were respected scholars and tenured university professors. This meant people like Camille Paglia and Mary Daly, despite their transphobia and racism, were considered important people to read and guaranteed jobs educating young people who had probably just moved into a space where they could meet other LGBT people for the very first time. So a lot of modern LGBT people (including me) were educated by radical feminist professors or assigned radical feminist books to read in class.
The person I want to point to as a great exemplar is Alison Bechdel, a white woman who discovered she was a lesbian in college, was educated in the second-wave feminist tradition, but also identified as a butch and made art about the butch/femme dichotomy’s persistence and fluidity. You can see part of that tension in her comic; she knows the official lesbian establishment frowns on butch/femme divisions, but it’s relevant to her lived experience.
What actually replaced radical feminism was not liberal feminism, but intersectional feminism and the “Third Wave”. Black radical feminists, like Audre Lorde, bell hooks, and Kimberlé Williams Crenshaw, pointed out that many white radical feminists were ignoring race as a possible cause of oppression, and failing to notice how their experiences differed from Black womens’. Which led to a proliferation of feminists talking about other oppressions they faced: Disabled feminists, Latina feminists, queer feminists, working-class feminists. It became clear that even if you eliminated the gender binary from society, there was still a lot of bad shit that you had to unlearn–and also, a lot of oppression that still happened in lesbian separatist spaces.
I’ve talked before about how working in women-only second-wave spaces really destroyed my faith in them and reinforced my belief in intersectional feminism
Meanwhile, back in the broader queer community, “queer” stuck as a label because how people identified was really fluid. Part of it is that you learn by experience, and sometimes the only way to know if something works for you is to try it out, and part of it is that, as society changed, a lot more people became able to take on new identities without as much fear. So for example, you have people like Pat Califia, who identified as a lesbian in the 70s and 80s, found far more in common with gay leather daddies than sex-negative lesbians, and these days identifies as a bisexual trans man.
Another reason radical feminists hate the word “queer”, by the way, is queer theory, which wants to go beyond the concept of men oppressing women, or straights oppressing gays, but to question this entire system we’ve built, of sex, and gender, and orientation. It talks about “queering” things to mean “to deviate from heteronormativity” more than “to be homosexual”. A man who is married to a woman, who stays at home and raises their children while she works, is viewed as “queer” inasmuch as he deviates from heteronormativity, and is discriminated against for it.
So, I love queer theory, but I will agree that it can be infuriating to hear somebody say that as a single (cis het) man he is “queer” in the same way being a trans lesbian of colour is “queer”, and get very upset and precious about being told they’re not actually the same thing. I think that actually, “queer as a slur” originated as the kind of thing you want to scream when listening to too much academic bloviating, like, “This is a slur! Don’t reclaim it if it didn’t originally apply to you! It’s like poor white people trying to call themselves the n-word!” so you should make sure you are speaking about a group actually discriminated against before calling them “queer”. On the other hand, queer theory is where the theory of “toxic masculinity” came from and we realized that we don’t have to eliminate all men from the universe to reduce gender violence; if we actually pay attention to the pressures that make men so shitty, we can reduce or reverse-engineer them and encourage them to be better, less sexist, men.
But since radfems and queer theorists are basically mortal enemies in academia, radical feminists quite welcomed the “queer as a slur” phenomenon as a way to silence and exclude people they wanted silenced and excluded, because frankly until that came along they’ve been losing the culture wars.
This is kind of bad news for lesbians who just want to float off to a happy land of only loving women and not getting sexually harrassed by men. As it turns out, you can’t just turn on your lesbianism and opt out of living in society. Society will follow you wherever you go. If you want to end men saying gross things to lesbians, you can’t just defend lesbianism as meaning “don’t hit on me”; you have to end men saying gross things to all women, including bi and other queer women. And if you do want a lesbian-only space, you either have to accept that you will have to exclude and discriminate against some people, including members of your community whose identities or partners change in the future, or accept that the cost of not being a TERF and a biphobe is putting up with people in your space whose desires don’t always resemble yours.
Good god, this got extensive and I’ve been writing for two hours.
So here’s the other thing.
My girlfriend is a femme bi woman. She’s married to a man.
She’s also married to two women.
And dating a man.
And dating me (a woman).
When you throw monogamy out the window, it becomes EVEN MORE obvious that “being married to a man” does not exclude a woman from participation in the queer community as a queer woman, a woman whose presentation is relevant in WLW contexts. Like, this woman is in more relationships with women at the moment than some lesbians on this site have been in for their entire lives.
You can start out with really clear-cut ideas about “THIS is what my life is gonna be like” but then your best friend’s sexual orientation changes, or your lover starts to transition, and things in real life are so much messier than they look when you’re planning your future. It’s easy to be cruel, exclusionary, or dismissive to people you don’t know; it’s a lot harder when it’s people you have real relationships with.
And my married-to-a-man girlfriend? Uses “butch” and “femme” for reasons very relevant to her queerness and often fairly unique to femme bi women, like, “I was out with my husband and looking pretty femme, so I guess they didn’t clock me as a queer” or “I was the least butch person there, so they didn’t expect me to be the only one who uses power tools.” Being a femme bi woman is a lot about invisibility, which is worth talking about as a queer experience instead of being assumed to exclude us from the queer community.
#cherryhearrts#staranise original#answered asks#ranting in bisexual#lgbt discourse#terf shit#exclusionist shit#radfem shit#apologies to my girlfriend for not including carole queen in this post#she just didn't fit baby
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11 Question Tag
@vukica10 thank you baby for giving me questions to answer, I LOVE QUESTIONS. So for people that don’t care just go a head and ignore these fascinating questions and the opportunity to read more ABOUT ME ITS FINE.
I DON’T CARE.
1. If you could go back at any time in history what would it be? (Ancient Egypt, Victorian era…)
I’m not gonna lie I’ve thought about this so much. I would have to go with the Golden Age of Greece, I debated the Renaissance but that’s too religiously involved for me. But it would be so beautiful to live in the fucking Golden Age of humanity like all the humanism, art, and architecture it’s just a beautiful time to be around.
2. Fictional world you’d like to be a part of (except for SJM worlds)
Susan Dennard’s Truthwitch world, probably.
3. If you could visit only one country in your life, which one would it be?
Italy!
4. Describe your perfect boy/girl
Lol, this is going to be incredible disgustingly lovey dovey because I currently have a partner so I’m gonna describe them. I am also going to be using they/them/their pronouns because I prefer to keep their gender ambiguous at the moment.
-There’s gonna be nights where I don’t wanna do anything but fight but they’ll make a joke out of it and make me laugh, reluctantly.
- They know I focus on my career and becoming successful so when I mentioned studying over seas they told me to make sure I call them every night.
- I have a very serious problem with my self esteem so they make sure to tell me I look beautiful when I don’t have any make up.
- They’re patient with me and they know I have trust issues so when I accuse them of cheating, even though they never have, they don’t get mad at me they only tell me they’re too in love with me to fall for anyone else.
- They always try to include me in their plans.
- They are super super intelligent and share books with me, they are also super confident just borderline cocky, mega hot.
- They’re my best friend.
5. If you could change one thing in history, what would it be
I’d save the Library of Alexandria, I just feel such sorrow from loosing a beautiful piece of human history.
6. Tell me one embarrassing story
HAHA. Ohhh boi. So this isn’t super embarrassing but just really cringey.
So I went to the club with my two friends once, the only time I’ve ever been to a club, and we took a party bus. Now we pre-gamed the club by drinking shots of tequila in the back of a promoters car. When we got in the bus every body had drinks and they were passing them around, so we had a nice buzz before we left the parking lot. BUT I WAS FUCKING BLASTED by the time we got to the club. We get in and we’re dancing and a lot of guys are hitting on one of my friend she’s fucking beautiful of course, but I pull her away because they keep touching on her uncomfortably. My friend goes to sit down just to relax and I’m sitting there trying to get us water when I come back and she’s just puking over the side of the couch. We’re both so fucked up so an hour or two into the night she was hugging a toilet and I was too, so we got gently kicked out of the club and my friend was crying until we got picked up.
7. What language would you like to know?
Either Latin or Arabic
8. What was the happiest day of your life
The day I took a road trip with my friends to Halloween Horror Nights, it was just the best fucking day ever.
9. If you have a chance to meet any celebrity and ask them one question, who would it be and what would you ask?
LIN-MANUEL MIRANDA, I’d ask them to marry me please be my mentor. He’s so brilliant and passionate and just amazing I could think of no greater mentor.
10. Have you ever done something illegal/dangerous?
Is it illegal to be this witty? Lol, jk, But no yeah all the time especially since I’m an underaged low key alcoholic.
11. What was on the latest photo you took?
It was a picture I took during lecture we were reviewing Dadaism and I posted it on my snapchat. Lmao.
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