#like. i dont know how to tell u that some conventionally attractive ppl in general have 0 personality

[ji-lixie]

every time i see ppl randomly bash men for their looks completely unprompted im like some of u would be writing letters to deeply misogynistic serial killers just bc theyre conventionally attractive

[exfriends]

lil pride questionnaire thing

this was originally an ask meme, but i wanted to just do it all the way! 

stuff under the cut

1. describe your idea of a perfect date

probably staying in, ordering food (date must do the phone call and the opening of the door to collect the food in order for it to be considered the perfect date). vidya games. youtube vids. the works. 

2. whats your “type”

i really like alternative looking girls! piercings and tattoos? right up my alley. however, i literally think all types of girl are attractive, so this is a terrible question. 

3. do you want kids?

not really, only bc i don’t think i could ever be a good parent. i’m open to it though.

4. if you do, will you adopt or use some other form of child birth?

probably adoption from the foster system cause i dont want my children biologically related to me

5. describe the cutest date you’ve ever been on

uuuuughhh probably me and tash’s second first date in november, we went to applebees and literally wandered around a home goods and it was just, the best time. 

6. describe your experience having sex for the first time (were you nervous? or was it easy peasy?)

 7. are you a morning time gay or night time gay?

i am an afternoon gay bc all of me wants to say night time gay but whenever im at my girlfriends house i fall asleep at grandma hour 

8. opinion on nap dates?

hell yeah

9. opinion on brown eyes?

hell yea

10. dog gay or cat gay?

dog gay

11. would you ever date someone who owned rodents or reptiles?

yeah!! id be very nervous holding them tho, reptiles look very brittle to me and i wouldnt want to hurt them

12. whats a turn off you look for before you start officially dating someone

certain opinions on things, how often and how they text in general, communication preferences 

13. what is a misconception you had about lgb people before you realized you were one?

that only “ugly” girls could be gay. i was in middle school and my idea of ugly was basically traits that resembled my own--i never thought conventionally attractive ppl could be gay. also before middle school i didn’t even know gay was a thing, like it was just never mentioned as a possibility. 

14. what is a piece of advice you would give to your younger self

don’t believe boys when they tell you they like you lol u gay af

15. (if attracted to more than one gender) do you have different “types” for different genders?

16. who is an ex you regret?

ALL OF THEM though most recent, first srs relationship, def regret. he has a kid with the girl he left me for now lol 

17. night club gay or cafe gay?

cafe gay! 

18. who is one person you would “go straight” for

Raúl Esparza

19. video game gay, book gay, or movie gay?

video game gaaaay but like i never play i just watch letsplays

20. favourite gay ship (canon or not)

victuuri, patater, zimbits, barisi... 

21. favourite gay youtuber

i’m literally just gonna say shane cause thats the first that comes to mind but i really dont keep up with him or any other lgbtq youtubers

22. have you ever unknowingly asked out a straight person?

several times!

23. have you ever been in love?

yes!

24. have you ever been heartbroken?

yes!

25. how do you determine if you want to be them or be with someone

i don’t! i just die. i’ve never heard of this phenomenon. 

26. favourite lgb musician/band

probably the spook school or diet cig? 

27. what is a piece of advice you have for young / baby gays

Don’t be afraid to use a label for yourself and eventually have to change it. I was afraid of the word lesbian my entire life because it seemed too...final. and even now i dont use it for a medley of reasons, but don’t let that stop you from embracing it. 

28. are you out? if so how did you come out

i didnt really “come out” i just kind of, started openly liking girls and no one really believed me until i brought tash home?

29. what is the most uncomfortable / strange coming out experience you have

probably trying to explain to my cousin that just because i was gay i didn’t want to hang out with the one lesbian we had in our high school. he was insisting that it would be a learning experience for the new lifestyle i had chosen. literally? what? he wasn’t trying to hook us up he just wanted us to hang out for some reason. wild. 

also trying to explain to my bio mom that i was dating a girl last year. she just, asked me if i had sex with her, and i was like what. but of course she didnt use the word sex she had to be like “did you do the hatchy matchy with her? have you done the smoochy poochy?” and im like. this is why we never speak to each other. 

30. what is a piece of advice for people who may not be in a safe place to express their sexuality

the day you can be away and be yourself will be the most freeing time in your life! take it from me. it’s worth waiting for. some people will never change, but you can be happy. 

[cranberrygoon]

i tried getting into parks n rec (twice) bc i’d heard it was similar to the office but ive kinda given up bc while the characters are usually nice and likable, there’s times when the narrative glosses over or allows certain things where maybe it’s just me but i really dont like it. the show has some really good jokes but overall... i cant get into it. one of the big things is i dont like how unnecessarily cruel the show treats jerry. i get thats the point but? i still dont like it? and in the episode where the others supposedly ‘learn’ from their mistakes and decide to treat him nicer, it didnt last and it was also treated as if it was oh no such a huge inconvenience and loss

if jerry had been portrayed with bad qualities like, god idk, making gross comments about a teen girl or smth, then yeah by all means treat him like shit. but it just feels like a “being mean to someone literally only because they’re happy with their life”. i just dont find that funny bc the ppl behind it are always super bitter. and if they seem nice, are fake as hell. honestly it reminds me of this phrase i’ve literally heard irl, “i think we all need at least one fat friend so they can make us feel better about ourselves” and honestly u can miss me with that bullshit

another thing i dont like is ann’s character. granted, maybe this all changes and the characters develop but how they act in earlier seasons isnt smth i’m really interested in sitting through. but anyway ann feels like in order to have a ‘proper’ relationship she and her bf need to fight? she didnt like the relationship bc they didnt fight enough? thats absolute bullshit and yeah it’s something she needs to work through but again, im not interested in sitting through this drama that’s also super hetero. im just not a big fan. i’m also not a big fan of april. i feel like we’re supposed to applaud and cheer for her sour attitude and character and it just reminds me of tumblr’s culture awhile ago where it was Cool to be mean and sarcastic lol. this is a specific personal thing but she reminds me of my abusive ex as well bc said ex really liked her and i guess wanted to be like her? idk but Feels  Bad Scoob

guess i’ll get into Problematique Stuff now but speaking of super het, i can handle cishet romance stories if theyre handled well but i dont think the show does that? if anything its just not to my liking. Also i didnt appreciate the “i know we look like a lesbian couple but we’re not gay i swear!!” joke lol. im in no way saying the office didnt have its problems, but while michael is really awful i can’t recall his behavior being portrayed as a good thing? or a likable quality or that we’re supposed to like it. it’s obvious he’s obnoxious and can be really bigoted sometimes but everyone else reacts negatively and it’s shown as Bad Thing. and he does change and get better. i haven’t seen it in a while but leslie used to be thought of as like, The Perfect Feminist on here and it kinda feels that’s how we’re supposed to think of her on the show? when she is very much Not lmao. honestly i can’t tell if we’re supposed to admire her aggressive feminism or be annoyed by it. which is another Bad Thing on the writers’ part. i find myself liking andy despite his generic sleazy-white-guy-who’s-a-slob-but-he’s-nice-so-give-him-a-chance! character, probably just bc christ pratt really good at lovable acting and is conventionally attractive

this is just personal preference but i find the main cast of the office more likeable than the main cast of parks n rec. i really like donna and jerry, tom and ron too (i have some issues with their characters but imo they have other redeeming qualities where im able to look past it). but my point about the main casts- to compare, i like pretty much everyone in the office. imo the office feels more neutrally presented to me, while the parks n rec narrative feels more biased