#lifelong people

[mlrecords]

Hello, we're Lifelong People. It took about six months to come up with LP7. It is finished.

We'll let you know the details coming soon.

[lycandrophile]

I love you lifelong vaginal atrophy

i love you topical estrogen that treats atrophy and doesn’t interfere with testosterone at all. i love you modern medicine that makes safe and harmless transitions possible. i love you health professionals who explained the risks of taking testosterone to me calmly and told me exactly how we would respond to each one if they ever became an issue because they’re not scary or unmanageable if you have good, competent people on your side.

i hate you terf rhetoric that completely ignores the actual reality of testosterone hrt in favor of portraying it as poison. i hate you transphobes who try to make me scared of the medication that gave me my life back.

[mueritos]

happy pride to all queer children of immigrants

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[chronicpaingirlie]

it’s interesting to me how nondisabled people seem to have such a hard time grasping the idea that my illnesses are forever. for me it took some time for it to sink in, yeah, but other people seem to just like. refuse to even acknowledge the possibility (or reality) of disability and chronic illness.

like what’s your problem lol. why can’t you even try to imagine a world in which i am disabled forever and still a person living my life. why do you equate disabled with bad & unhappy & impossible to go on living with. why can’t you believe me when i say this is forever and im still a person and i still want to live

[fishyfishyfishtimes]

Sometimes I feel like celiac disease doesn't actually count as a disability since it's so easy and stress free compared to deadly allergies, but then I remember that I have to meticulously plan every trip I go to and play 4D chess with uni campus restaurant menus and for a brief moment there was genuine consideration if I should be put on growth hormones because I was so small from not getting enough nutrients

[cozylittleartblog]

when valve has enough money to buy god, but they let bots ruin their game for 5 years and dox people 🤖🔫 #FIXTF2

everyone who signs this 100k+ petition will have their name printed and sent to valve HQ. this shit is unacceptable.

[spikemd]

Just reblogged a post about harm reduction, and it reminded me that in my own personal life, learning about harm reduction was what finally started the cognitive dissonance that allowed me to start questioning my conservative Catholic upbringing. I was doing basic science research and shadowing with an infectious disease doctor once a week the summer after my freshman year of college, and he gave me ‘And the Band Played On’ to read as homework (which as a teen who read the focus on the family book on puberty as “sex ed” was truly a startling experience), and in the midst of that I met real life gay men who’d live through the start of the AIDS epidemic. And I just couldn’t understand how it made sense to say “condoms are bad, hard stop,” when even if I didn’t “agree with the lifestyle” (deep sigh from my now-bisexual self), I still didn’t want people to die or get a disease if we could prevent it. That’s where I started questioning the mentality of consequences and punishments and burdens that had been deeply instilled in me from childhood. That concept opened the door to supporting needle exchange and rejecting my anti-abortion upbringing and making the speed run from homophobic to ally to oh wait this is me. The next decade of questioning everything while I trained in medicine was exhausting and unsettling and fundamentally changed me, but I’m so grateful I had the chance to change.

For me, the concept of harm reduction was the crack that let the light in.

[ryusaidate]

she is going to end the cycle of violence by participating in the cycle of violence. wish her luck!

[virsancte]

just straight up copying grandpa in her big girl chair, crazy

[marisatomay]

That woman is so overexposed. And yet she seems to think that the solution is just to double down on her own overexposure. Like it’s two negatives that cancel out. It doesn’t work like that.

[shinynewmemories]

"Gale says I never smile except in the woods."

Well that's strange, considering Peeta can make Katniss smile/laugh-

- on the train to the Capitol:

"Peeta unexpectedly laughs. 'He was drunk,' says Peeta. 'He’s drunk every year.'

'Every day,' I add. I can’t help smirking a little."

- while waiting to be paraded around like livestock:

"'Where is Haymitch, anyway? Isn’t he supposed to protect us from this sort of thing?' says Peeta.

'With all that alcohol in him, it’s probably not advisable to have him around an open flame,' I say.

And suddenly we’re both laughing."

- in the training center:

"When we finally escape to bed on the second night, Peeta mumbles, 'Someone ought to get Haymitch a drink.'

I make a sound that is somewhere between a snort and a laugh."

- at the dinner table:

"'I hope that’s how people interpret the four I’ll probably get,' says Peeta. 'If that. Really, is anything less impressive than watching a person pick up a heavy ball and throw it a couple of yards. One almost landed on my foot.'

I grin at him and realize that I’m starving."

- in the Arena:

"Peeta, it turns out, has never been a danger to me. The thought makes me smile."

- in the Arena:

"I lean over and put my good ear to his lips, which tickle as he whispers. 'Remember, we’re madly in love, so it’s all right to kiss me anytime you feel like it.'

I jerk my head back but end up laughing."

- in the Arena:

"'Katniss?' Peeta says. I meet his eyes, knowing my face must be some shade of green. He mouths the words. 'How about that kiss?'

I burst out laughing because the whole thing is so revolting I can’t stand it."

- in the Arena:

"Peeta’s struggling to get up when I reach the cave. 'I woke up and you were gone,' he says. 'I was worried about you.'

I have to laugh as I ease him back down."

- in the Arena:

"'So that day, in music assembly, the teacher asked who knew the valley song. Your hand shot right up in the air. She stood you up on a stool and had you sing it for us. And I swear, every bird outside the windows fell silent,' Peeta says.

'Oh, please,' I say, laughing."

- in the Arena:

"'Hey, Effie, watch this!' says Peeta. He tosses his fork over his shoulder and literally licks his plate clean with his tongue making loud, satisfied sounds. Then he blows a kiss out to her in general and calls, 'We miss you, Effie!'

I cover his mouth with my hand, but I’m laughing."

- during the Victory Tour:

"'Isn’t it strange that I know you’d risk your life to save mine . . . but I don’t know what your favorite color is?' [Peeta] says.

A smile creeps onto my lips."

- all the way from the Capitol when she's in District 13:

"'You’re alive,' I whisper, pressing my palms against my cheeks, feeling the smile that’s so wide it must look like a grimace. Peeta’s alive."

[mlrecords]

New Horizon has its sister album. Lifelong People gives you the new album, Sightseeing Scenes. More things to explore.

[serpentface]

Question about Couya! Since she is a bastard what are the reasons about her being brought into the main family by her father. Was it genuine care for his child or a way to save face politically/socially? Is her birth mother alive? Do you think she would have had a better life growing up anywhere else?

This is in large part due to how cultural perceptions and legal punishment of adultery varies between male and female citizens, looped into the very strictly patrilineal kinship system.

By legal definition, the word for 'adultery' applies only to situations where a man has an affair with a married woman, or a married woman has an affair with any man. Other forms of affairs (eg a married man having an affair with an unmarried woman) are wrapped into a broader set of sexual misdemeanors and aren't often charged or punished in practice, and the punishments are comparatively minor (if an unwed woman's father pursues charges, the man in the affair is likely to just pay a fine). On a social level, extramaritial affairs in general are certainly not Approved of and seen as lowly and dishonorable, but the average response is significantly less harsh/more willing to entertain Nuance with men than with women.

In this society there's differentiated shades of bastardry depending on the contexts of the child's birth, as well as a distinction for 'nameless bastards' (has not been claimed by their biological father or maternal grandfather, or claimed in adoption).

a) A child born to an unmarried woman via an unmarried man: non-issue for father, potentially serious social harm for the woman (especially if she has never been married and expected virginal, much less severe as a widow or divorcee). The child will not be notably disadvantaged in of themselves (their status will depend more on whether they are claimed and thus provided the social security of a family patriarch), the father will experience no hard disadvantages in claiming them.

b) A child born to an unmarried woman via a married man: mild sexual misdemeanor for the father carrying levels of social shame, even more serious social harm for the woman (often framed as not just loose but a manipulative Seductress of a married man). The child might experience minor to moderate social disadvantages, the consequences of the father claiming them are purely social and will not typically be severe. (Couya is this)

c) A child born to a married woman via an unmarried or married man: both man and woman have committed a crime and can be severely punished. The biological father can technically claim the child but will be disincentivized from doing so. This is the form of bastardry most comparable to the conventional definition, in that it is heavily stigmatized and has effects on concerns of kinship and inheritance.

In addendum to this, if the adulterous wife's legal husband claims the child, this may be punishable if determined to be active concealment of adultery (which is also a crime), and has EXTREME social consequences either way. (Either you're a cuckold too stupid to notice that your wife has been skipping out on you, or you're a MEGAcuckold adultery-accessory willingly rearing another man's child after being horribly shamed by him).

(This is separate from adoption- a man who marries a woman with an unclaimed child after the fact (whether it was a product of adultery or just a general out of wedlock birth) and claims the child is an adoptive father, he is not concealing adultery or being cuckolded.)

A child born in an affair can be considered an heir to their biological fathers (descent and kinship is fully patrilineal and on a Basic level it doesn't matter who the mother is), and can very smoothly and legally be claimed when the affair was not considered criminal adultery. The concern on that front is social perception rather than material legal consequences or kinship issues.

Couya's birth mother was an unwed servant working as a housekeeper for her father Saizen, so the Crime of adultery did not take place. It would be considered a minor sexual misdemeanor, and the woman's father was not about to pursue charges against a nobleman who could Ruin him (and had also formally expressed that he would claim the child, which meant he would not be saddled with a nameless bastard granddaughter). So the concerns here were entirely social.

The affair might have started beforehand but the pregnancy that produced Couya occurred after his wife's third viable pregnancy ended in the premature birth of a underdeveloped boy deemed necessary to euthanize (and tbr would Not have survived either way). This was after Livya Haidamane had a couple early term miscarriages, two viable but very difficult pregnancies wherein one child was very weak and sickly for the first several years of life, and struggled to conceive every time. A lot of people are going to be at least a little sympathetic to a married man having an affair and claiming a bastard in this context. It's definitely ideal and practical to have more than two children, and his wife (while not outright infertile) clearly could not reliably bear healthy children. (The average response is going to be "Well he shouldn't have done it but like, I get it")

Couya being claimed by her father was a mix of genuine care and saving face. Initially it was MUCH more the latter than the former. Saizen made attempts to hide the servant's pregnancy and to keep his own wife out of sight during the late term (to prevent the baby appearing after his wife had been seen Extremely not pregnant). But there's some levels of care involved, he could very easily have fired the pregnant servant and had nothing to do with his bastard and she would have no recompense whatsoever. The choice to keep and claim the baby and ensure its entrance into the world bore as little social scrutiny as possible is an act of care for his own progeny.

This was Not an act of care for Couya's birth mother (beyond the fact that concealing her pregnancy would benefit her in hiding that she is not only Not a virgin prior to marriage but had a child). She probably would have been about 17-19 at the time and was fired a few months after giving birth, and most likely never saw Couya again after this point (if she did, it would most likely be in the context of seeing her as an adult Odonii in public and noting her to look Scarily familiar). She has an Okayish chance at still being alive, she'd be around 50 (and a person who survives the high infant mortality and birth casualty rates stands a good chance of hitting their 60s), though she could very well be a casualty of the drought+famine.

Whether or not Couya's life would have been better is kind of a mixed bag. She had an awful fucking childhood in large part because her adoptive mother Livya Haidamane hated her. (Livya was ultimately a pretty horrible person but not just like. An Evil Bitch. She had A Lot going on and Couya was a living breathing insult to her and reminder of like, every one of her dashed hopes and dreams). Couya is also autistic and presented very intense symptoms as a child in a society that is Not equipped for a mass-understanding and support of cognitive differences. But she still did have an immensely privileged life with profound physical/economic levels of security inaccessible to the vast majority of people in this region, including her birth mother. Saizen also actually Liked her and cared about her, he just wasn't a routine physical presence in any of his children's lives.

Had she been left with her biological mother, she would be in a very disadvantaged situation as a nameless bastard to an unwed mother. Her biological grandfather may or may not have been willing to claim her, and her mother would have great difficulties in finding a husband (which is ultimately necessary for the security of women in this society). I think her mother was a relatively kind person but not like, a perfect angel. She would probably have complicated feelings about her bastard daughter, especially one whose very existence materially disadvantages her and was very, very difficult as a child. So this probably would not have been a good situation for Couya either.

If you broaden the question to ANY other family completely divorced from the circumstances of her birth, yeah it definitely could have been better. But in her case it's like either "Life of grotesque socioeconomic privilege but in an abusive household" or "Life of profound socioeconomic disadvantages in a household that Probably wouldn't have been this abusive but certainly wouldn't be healthy". There wasn't really a good option for her.

[communistkenobi]

reading orientalism some more and I like that the introduction is mostly Said listing all the caveats to his thesis. like for pages and pages he’s like I’m NOT saying this or this or this so don’t respond to me like I said any of that shit. I love when academics preface their work with “here are all the reasons why you’re not allowed to get mad at me”

[amadryades]

ten years ago my dream was to study history & archaeology and I remember the teacher I was closest to discouraging me because I think and write like I do literature not history, my mind has a tendency to alter facts in favor of beauty // seven years ago she said that if I leave law school for the humanities I'll end up just as miserable as her // seven years ago I did leave law school and did not become miserable but philology faculties in Greece (and modern Greek faculties abroad) are toxic to a radioactive level// one year ago I was offered a place, then got snaked and rejected by a dream literature institution for reasons still unknown to me// the same day I vowed that within a year I will have found a job 3 times better// today I am working in a cultural heritage project where 90% of my colleagues are... historians and archaeologists and computer scientists// it's funny how life works in concentric circles and ring compositions to land you where you should have been from day one, truly the most talented author

[youandthemountains]

it probably is insane how much I wish I could express the thing about spones. the vibes about spones. Like there's the joking fun fandom vibes and I love them, I love to play with them, of course of course. but the THING. the CORE to me. i wish i could capture it and share it.