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Falling down on the journeys of your life is inevitable. Stumbles are the reminders we need to keep us moving forward on our path of truth. Don’t see them as a setback, accept them as an opportunity to learn and grow. Extend yourself grace. Everyday. When you make a mistake, or cultivate a setback, if you don’t show up as your best, forgive yourself and the carry on. Your inner critic doesn’t need the co-pilots seat any longer. You’ve got you. . . . #cultivation #forgiveness #takeaseat #selfsabbotage #igtruths #madeformore #youvegotyou #havegracewithyourself #igniteyourlight #staythecourse #yourtruthyourjourney #lets_chat #unabashed #uncontrollablyme #coached #peaceisprecious #be_love #blogsohard (at Virginia Beach, Virginia)

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I had the privilege of sharing my lunch with @ignitethefireswithin and hearing her amazing story. Her will to live, to thrive, survive, overcome... is one that will stay with me forever. Listening to her recount the attack on her at the someone who said “I love you” felt like I was there with her. She is passionate, humble, grateful and real. She is the type of person that makes you want to do and be better. Thank you Sarah for always inviting me and being such an advocate for victims. You and everyone at @samaritanhouseva are striving to stop the violence, the abuse... to give a voice back to the victims. What they’re doing is the work we all should strive to mimic. I’m so grateful to be around such like-minded, strong, resilient, determined individuals. . . #loveshouldnthurt #Samaritanhouseva #wav #stoptheviolence #breakthecycleofabuse #enablevictims #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #survivalmakesusbetter #isharebecauseican #domesticviolencesurvivor #resiliencesquad #lets_chat (at Virginia Beach, Virginia)

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Perseverance: persistence in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. Each morning I pull a focus card. I made decks of cards that have 52 focus words. Through a process of intuition, I go through the stack until I am left with one card. Stay with me in my woo woo... It's different from oracle cards in the sense that these are simply words to focus on or that may need attention in my life. Recently, I have pulled PERSEVERANCE at least a couple times per week. And It is SO applicable! The synonyms persistence, tenacious, and determined have been accurate throughout my entire life. One of my favorite quotes, altered to keep it right... ”It is not the fight in the woman; it is the distance she is willing to go.” Where are you running into difficulty in your life? When you do, how are you showing up for yourself? Do you cower in the face of opposition or do you rise to the occasion with resilience and grace and shout, ”Not today!”? Do you allow yourself space to matter and recognize that it takes us time and consistency in the face of exhaustion to overcome? Who do you need to be, what do you need to embody to persevere today? Small steps still make a mile, take up the space for each step, own your walk with certainty and conviction, and remember that you matter this much! . . . . . I also have these cards in my shop if you're interested in learning more, shoot me a message. . . Photo: the amazingly talented @daniellemcveyphotography #uncontrollablyme #perspectiveshift #dothework #shifthappens #my_story #survivalmakesusbetter #ahadowwork #madhope #unabashedly #perseverence #liveoutloud #isharebecauseican #realisttalk #linkisinthebio #humancondition #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #focuscards Spot: @theannexvb such an amazing space! (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B0lRWe6Bnll/?igshid=1fr5a195hg8hv

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Do your truths and beliefs align? There is a difference between knowing a truth or rationalizing the facts and believing it in our core, our heart of hearts, in our soul. Some examples from a million long list. I am good enough. I am deserving. Their divorce wasn’t about me. It was not my fault. I am a good person. I get that I shouldn't let it define me. I am not my past. I know I did my best. What they did is about them. I am whole regardless of the pieces they tried to take from me. I am not damaged. I am not broken. I matter. Saying I know how or why, or I understand this or that, can be wholly different from actually and genuinely believing it. I can say, ”I am kind and compassionate to myself because I deserve love.” but if I don't believe that, keep down, if it doesn't resonate in my bones, there is a gap where negativity and guilt and shame can grow. Not only do we not believe the thing we are speaking about, we then add shame on top, or guilt, for not embodying what we say. For not aligning our truths and values and actions. It is not enough to say I understand something or that I know it. I have to believe it so thoroughly that it feels impossible to act/speak against it or show up in a way that doesn't honor it. Thoughts become feelings which become our emotions and then translate into our energy and belief systems. And that is how we show up in this world. It is not enough to know it, you must drop in, put the work in, and proceed with intention to believe it. Love yourself like that. Make yourself matter that much. Honor yourself that way. Take up space and own your truths beautiful one because the world needs you, desperately. Xx T . . . . Photo @daniellemcveyphotography #icanhelp #coachesareus #uncontrollablyme #perspectiveshift #dothework #speakyourtruth #believeittoo #survivalmakesusbetter #madhope #mentalhealthawareness #liveoutloud #isharebecauseican #shifthappens #domesticviolencesurvivor #linkisinthebio #humancondition #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #shadowwork #alignment (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bz0d7TcBcHR/?igshid=1sxvveu1xaoz9

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Hands up if you can’t remember the last time you let yourself play? 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 Like really let loose, laughed, danced, acted silly. Without judgement or worry about others, when was the last time you just played? If you’re like me it feels like way to long! Studies have recently shown that play is just as poignant to our brain function as rest is!! And I know so many do not get enough rest either! (Another days post). This photo is a true capture, pure joy on a day I needed it deeply... I had to even pause at one point from laughing so hard! My inner child felt glee and release and safety. Things that often come few and far between when life gets hard. We need to make time to play. Whether dancing, singing, running around with kids, writing, drawing, jumping, swinging, laughing, or any of the other ways your mind feels it’s freest and most creative. Do more of that. At minimum schedule it in a few times a week, make a point to play! We need to make time for ourselves to matter. What would it feel like to just let loose? To matter? To play? To let yourself push pause on everything else for a few minutes and truly let yourself be? Breathing deeply with joy and gratitude... give it a try! See what is possible! Photo: @daniellemcveyphotography . . . . . . . . . . . . #maketimetomatter #safespace #uncontrollablyme #perspectiveshift #dothework #leanin #shifthappens #my_story #love_pop #unabashedly #mentalhealthawareness #liveoutloud #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #soulworker (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BynXVD7BVWy/?igshid=nfbbbbrw55zd

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One of my favs is getting a message from a friend saying "I instantly thought of you" and then reading something like this! I love being seen, truly, deeply, as I am. Grateful. #doingsomethingright #livingoutloud #canyouseeme #resiliencesquad #love_pop #livenandlovin #unabashedly #uncontrollablyme #shineondarlin #wildchild #lovewildly #loveherwild #happinessinthelight #lightupthesky #mytruth #humancondition #realisttalk #lets_chat #wordsporn #jmstorm

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There is a lesson in it all. I am a constant student, always learning, starting over every morning in love. . : . : . : . #shifthappens #lets_chat #everydayisanewchance #alwayslearningalwaysgrowing #coachingwithT (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BwP_o2Th6v8/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1dihj1z759b62

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Meditate. It will get you clear. It will get you through. It will get you where you want to go. It will teach you so much. It helps you set boundaries. It will affirm your self worth and value, faith and trust in yourself, set your truths free and into action, and open you expansively. Meditation allows your vulnerability to become your strength. It allows your mind to play and create which is just as essential for our brains as rest. #fact It’s free. It can be easy. (I can help) It’s rewarding and one of the kindest things you can do for yourself. Do more. Meditate yo’self! . . . . . . . . . . . #plottwist #waldo #meditateandcreate #justsitquietly #youreloveinthismoment #meditationiskey #worthandvalue #coachesareus #uncontrollablyme #whereswaldo #shesawildflower #lets_chat #lifecoaching #guidedmeditations #healingdwounds #clearit #micromeditation #giftyourself #vulnerabilityisstrength #deepwork #dothework #traumarecovery ##coachesareus #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #love_pop #madhope #berad #unabashedly #compelledtolove #linkisinthebio #humancondition #resiliencesquad (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvSD7xvh7cK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1erjynsx18kkb

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She is me, but I am no longer her. Yesterday I found some old journals. The black holes of my past. Like reading a book someone else wrote. Tales of another life, sorrowful then painful, questioning and then overcoming. It contained a stagnancy of abuse, a litany of soul crushing, me caught it a place I couldn’t stay in or flee from. A literal hell. I mused at my questions, my meditations from over ten years ago. I anguished over how hard I was on myself, in the most difficult times of my life. Compounding the trauma and suffering. A complete cycle of abandonment. It captured me, sucked me back in time. It taught me how loyal I am. I see now that I am the exact stuff resilience is made of. The wreckage behind me, always a part of my journey, no longer defines me. I am no longer her. Fierce in place of sad. Whole where it was once fractured. Strong and sure instead of weak and unable. Stable in growth where I once begged for understanding. Proud now, of how far I’ve come, versus overwhelmed by how much further I have yet to go. Excited for the future, no longer dreading the days. Loving and wholeheartedly open rather than shackled to abuse and emptiness. She is me but I am no longer her. . . . . . . . . . . Photo: @daniellemcveyphotography #sheisme #resilienceismadeof #wholehearted #blackholes #pasttense #purposefulliving #imperfectionsarebeautiful #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #survivalmakesusbetter #madhope #unabashedly #mentalhealthawareness #compelledtolove #domesticviolencesurvivor #linkisinthebio #humanwork #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #survivallooksgood #journalling #heartmatters (at 64th Street Seashore State Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/BttDg1LhPer/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=10swfusmlcroc

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I WISH I COULD SHOW YOU, WHEN YOU ARE LONELY OR IN DARKNESS, THE ASTONISHING LIGHT OF YOUR OWN BEING. -HAFIZ This is one of my favorite quotes. The rest I wrote for you and then when I was finished I realized I wrote it for me too. I wish I could. If I could show you, I would share a glimpse of the beauty, the love and light that resides in your soul no matter how life tries to break you down. You have endured the unimaginable, survived through the unsurvivable, defied the countless odds and statistics against you. You have lived in defiance of everything that has worked against you and for good measure you threw up a middle finger while never succumbing to the darkness. Weakened and tired you carry on. You have learned how to take care of yourself. You learned that those who let you down also gave you the gift of resilience, strength and survival. Their inability to love, care for, and protect you showed you how to do it for yourself. Their darkness was a gift, you see, they helped your light shine even brighter. Your struggles, your pain, your suffering are tremendous - but they have shown you how to soar despite the weight. Don't you for one second think you are not resilient and beautiful with your scars, inside and out. Survival suits you. It is a pillar of strength for others that also fuels your soul with the will and drive to continue. Take your time, lift your head, care for yourself, and then continue. I know you can. Sending you my love and light.. . . . . . . . Photos: @daniellemcveyphotography #Coachesareus #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #love_pop #survivalmakesusbetter #madhope #berad #unabashedly #shineondarlin #liveoutloud #isharebecauseican #compelledtolove #realisttalk #linkisinthebio #humancondition #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #lifecoaches #seashore #virginibeach #reflection #iwishicouldshowyou #astonishinglight #lightworkers (at 64th Street Seashore State Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bs8hORahklX/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=7pnu07xq9p4v

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A bath feels like a ten tonight, give yourself 10’s!!! Everything else is a big eff no, especially when it comes to self-care! When starting anything new, think “hell yess this is exciting” in place of “whoa this is scary”... then take the next smallest step and keep doing that until the mountain is climbed!!! I can help! (Well with what’s next, not a bath!) ha! #lets_chat (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BswAaizB5Sf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1qmqf3z9wbl3v

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Love shouldn’t hurt tanks for sale! All proceeds will go toward #paint757purple for @samaritanhouseva domestic violence awareness month! $20 each, or 2 for $35... HMU if you’re interested! . . . . . . #loveshouldnthurt #paint757purple #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #survivalmakesusbetter #madhope #berad #unabashedly #shineondarlin #iliveoutloud #isharebecauseican #compelledtolove #domesticviolencesurvivor #humancondition #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #survivors #stopdomesticviolence (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpEvRRmlqZZ/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=qvgi6rle4lrx

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All. The. Yes. We must nurture ourselves, find out truths and definitely be brave enough to stand up for and in our own existence. Be kind to yourself. Stand up for yourself. Be proud of you! . Also find the @theunspokenpodcast and listen. To every one. @milesadcox and @ruthielindsey explore all of the feels unabashedly, so good! . . . . . . . . . . . #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #livenandlovin #survivalmakesusbetter #madhope #berad #unabashedly #shineondarlin #iliveoutloud #isharebecauseican #compelledtolove #realisttalk #humancondition #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat https://www.instagram.com/p/BoxZRaYFdtf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ix2cx1hsfnhu

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Sometimes it is not what you say or do, but your lack of words and actions that explain how you feel. Get curious about that. . . . #silencespeaks #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #livenandlovin #survivalmakesusbetter #unabashedly #mentalhealthawareness #shineondarlin #blogsohard #iliveoutloud #isharebecauseican #compelledtolove #realisttalk #domesticviolencesurvivor #humancondition #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BowQ-rxlWSG/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=beqm5ci8kq6u

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We all have it in us. Hold the door, say bless you after a sneeze, buy a coffee in the pay it forward way. Give because that is what’s in your heart regardless of what the receiver does with it. Your kindness and compassion could have a resounding ripple effect, don’t underestimate its power. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #kindnessisfree #smallacts #bigchanges #startwithasmile #compassionforall #judgementdetox #lets_chat #madeformore #betruetowhoyouare #uncontrollablyme (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BotwvWhloqq/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=16bdvl6a4ck3z

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We heal in our rest, in all ways. Physically, emotionally, mentally, rest allows us to process, embody, mend. You have to make time for it, make yourself a priority. The dishes, the friends, the work, will all be there tomorrow... and with rest you will show up better to do, be, help. . You can not pour from an empty cup, so the saying goes... but you also certainly cannot fill your cup back up if there is a whole in it. Mend. Have grace. . Centering yourself sometimes equals being self-centered. Be a little selfish with yourself, when you need it. It’s not bad, it’s smart. . We all need a break sometimes. . . . . . . #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #madeformore #survivalmakesusbetter #madhope #berad #unabashedly #mentalhealthawareness #iliveoutloud #isharebecauseican #compelledtolove #realisttalk #humancondition #lets_chat #restwhenyouneedit #selfcare #nonjudjement (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/BopuxPWl_A2/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1g6bkwqje3wjm