#enablevictims

[uncontrollablyme]

I had the privilege of sharing my lunch with @ignitethefireswithin and hearing her amazing story. Her will to live, to thrive, survive, overcome... is one that will stay with me forever. Listening to her recount the attack on her at the someone who said “I love you” felt like I was there with her. She is passionate, humble, grateful and real. She is the type of person that makes you want to do and be better. Thank you Sarah for always inviting me and being such an advocate for victims. You and everyone at @samaritanhouseva are striving to stop the violence, the abuse... to give a voice back to the victims. What they’re doing is the work we all should strive to mimic. I’m so grateful to be around such like-minded, strong, resilient, determined individuals. . . #loveshouldnthurt #Samaritanhouseva #wav #stoptheviolence #breakthecycleofabuse #enablevictims #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #survivalmakesusbetter #isharebecauseican #domesticviolencesurvivor #resiliencesquad #lets_chat (at Virginia Beach, Virginia)

[uncontrollablyme]

Here is real life after an abusive relationship. . This is an everyday, even every minute, and definitely most situations occurrence. . Self doubt, blame, judgement... we don’t need it from anyone else because we are harder on ourselves then you ever could be. . We question and wonder if there is any single thing we could have done, breaking our backs and our spirits in the process, to please the abuser knowing that no matter what, we were going to get the bad either way. We fought to stay and make it work, we leave and face the world alone, we lose both ways. And at the end of it all, we think “this is my fault” they said this is what I deserve. . Whether in words or actions, often both. The physical damage heals, the emotional and mental battles we face even years later. NO ONE who says they love you, should hurt you. Read that again! They should not belittle you or doubt you, they shouldn’t bring out the worst in you and then blame you for your unhinged being. They shouldn’t leave marks on the skin or on your heart. . More than all of that damage done though, is the doubt we maintain in ourselves. Even clear of the situation, at times our voice mimics theirs until we are bleeding all over again. The wake of their behavior creating a disastrous trail of who we used to be. . Meanwhile the abuser loses no sleep, their menacing ways unfaltering. . When these times leave you in pieces battling to go on, remember the facts. Remember that love should not hurt. . Remember that you are not alone and that there is hope available. . There is peace again, on the other side. . . . #sendingoutmylove #uncontrollablyme #speakyourtruth #my_story #survivalmakesusbetter #unabashedly #shineondarlin #blogsohard #iliveoutloud #isharebecauseican #compelledtolove #realisttalk #domesticviolencesurvivor #linkisinthebio #thankyouforreading #humancondition #wildchild #resiliencesquad #lets_chat #breakthecycle #stopdomesticabuse #enablevictims #bethelight (at Virginia Beach, Virginia)