#its worse because my friends (online) that i made in 2020 arent interested in me anymore because

[kasarian]

gah its starting to get super lonely on the internet again

[st5lker]

im pretty sure people are already calling this post "reactionary" so let me clarify some things:

believe it or not i am a transfem. i have been speaking from the beginning of this stupid debate about how centering conversations of transmisogyny almost exclusively around the concerns of a handful of people online with a few thousand followers on a dead website complaining, while doing no irl activism or work against legislative bigotry (transmisogyny or otherwise) is wasting time, yours and ours, against transmisogyny and racism that has a tangible effect on people's lives. i guarantee none of you had this much energy during the 2020 blm protests. i guarantee none of you are standing in at state senate hearings until you're dragged out to defend gender affirming care.

I know you all would have worshipped truefaggot's cartoonishly racist ass if he was still on this website.

this post is NOT saying that this topic is completely divorced from transmisogyny or that it has no place in the conversation. literally two days ago i posted about how trans lesbians get treated worse than tme people or even trans people who arent attracted to women when it comes to sex and thats directly bc of transmisogyny and people subconsciously seeing us as men. i AGREE with that.

what this post is actually saying is that debates about whether or not x fetish is okay or weird or normal or should never be made fun of, should never start and end with transmisogyny. because be real for a second now. do you think trans women are the only ones with these fetishes? the only ones on the planet? you really think that someone saying vore or schoolgirl outfits or animalgirlboob urls are weird in reaction to nobody on their own blog is a thinly veiled attack on all trans women? you dont think that maybe these debates can be separated and still intetwine. that its possible to acknowledge trans women get treated worse for their sexuality without saying that anything besides publicly posting "i love furry vore and everyone who posts about it is so hecking valid" is actually an instant checkbox that makes you a "vile transmisogynist".

its also saying that all of those listed debates are fucking pointless because there will never be an objectively "correct" take on an inherently subjective subject. you think your trauma justifies your consumption of something, other people are fueled by that same trauma to think it's unjustifiable. its a neverending debate. the entire point of this rant is that if you TRULY are confident youre healthy, that youre not hurting anybody, then you should be able to be like "i don't care what you think bc i know me, my friends know me, my partner knows me," and just keep fucking exploring your kinks. my entire point is that if you're trying to make it into an objective moral stance that's a sign that you are in fact not secure in your own sexuality and you acknowledge that your opinion of your own sexuality is possible to be swayed by other people's opinions.

and for the love of god this post is not saying theres anything wrong with any fetishes or that everyone should make fun of peoples fetishes. this post is specifically taking a non stance because the point isnt what fetishes you have its about how you react to other people's opinions of them.

before im called a puritan who just doesnt Get it. believe it or not i have fetishes. i consume porn real and drawn. i am genuinely hypersexual. and no my fetishes dont end with armpit sniffing that's just what I talk about publicly because I'm a private person and i don't see reason to talk about them all. i hear people even friends of mine call my interests weird without knowing and I don't take it as some "reactionary" hate speech because im secure enough in my own mind and sexuality to know that there will Always be people with "ick" reactions the majority of which just come from it being something they dont understand, and that's not going to change or affect my own ability to explore my sexuality in private. and trying to get on some soapbox about how everyone who makes fun of my fetishes is An Enemy Of All Leftism is just fucking pointless and stupid and does nothing and gets us nowhere.

if this post doesn't apply to you then its... not fucking about you?? feel free to ignore it. sorry everyone caught up in the Popular Discourse thinks everything posted on the internet is a direct vague about them but just because you don't see people acting like this doesn't mean it's not happening

im just gonna post this rant because i am so tired and angry i hate everyone on this website with such an intense passion.