#its not about coddling them

[catgoesboom]

There is a reply on this post asking on how this somehow changes their point and whatnot and felt like sharing my reply to that here:

Sometimes a lot of it comes down to lack of knowledge of both sides (this is not me both siding shit, hear me out). As one of the replies presented, most people don't actually care about interactions with opressive groups as their priority is in protecting the opressed groups. The catch is when you actually learn about the processes of opression in deep and not just "group good/group bad" and how to separate the person from the group in the proper context, you understand how to work with them. A lot of guys easilly turn to the pipeline not because "society treats men too badly", even if that's what they believe in the surface because they're speaking from their personal opinion and experience without the proper tools to actually recognize the core of the issue. Even if it's obviously not true, the feeling of alienation and agression is still there and most of the time are guys that their only knowledge and exposure to these concepts of opression is school (that even when there is it still does a shitty job in getting the point across) and media (which totally skips the explanation and goes straight to conclusion because it presumes everyones on the same page), and if they have no incentive to branch out it's going to stay that way, because the process of the patriachy starts since birth and there's no one willing to teach them about how this shit it's their own poison being sold back to them as the solution. Whether you like it or not, the same right you have of not "caring about men's feelings" or whatever deterministic activism bs because you came to the conclusion opression is just inherent from opressive groups, is the same right they have to take offense when you alienate and demean them, even when yours is justified. In all there's just a huge lack of content or people that focuses on deconstructing sexism, misoginy and the patriachy from square one that is targeted to men who haven't properlly been introduced to these concepts, while the alt right is filled with the snake poison vendors ready to take on that demographic to pull them further to their side.

I highly recommend to everyone this video by shanspeare. The focus of it is about matt rife and all but I believe it brings a lot to light how the enviroment is set for men to fall down the pipeline.

i love it wehen someone says some shit like "listen i almost wnet down the alt right pipeline and the reaosn is that Society treats Men too Badly" like amiguito it seems like you agree with a core tenet of andrew tate and jordan peterson's ideology im not sure it was as "almost" as you seem to think

[dukeofthomas]

Here's my controversial opinion; if you're trying to write Bruce as a non-abusive, good parent, you should also write him respecting his kids' privacy, boundaries, and not stalking&surveying them.

[oceanwithouthermoon]

ive come to realise that i dont actually hate kubokai, i just hate the way people write them

[saturnniidae]

Modern au with a strong theme of Hiccup coping with his leg better than all the people around him and it's low key pissing him off

[listen-to-the-inner-walrus]

Sometimes I see posts on this site and I'm like oh okay, you guys don't actually believe in redemption and don't understand how it works at all. Cool. Okay.

[valdrinors-writing]

OC HALLOWEEN CHALLENGE 2024 - DAY SIX - ROLESWAP AU

Luna Derbyshire as The Emissary of the Gods Amber Talbot as the Constant Companion

[nanamimizz]

if u tell any of the companions from bg3 that you are scared of the dark they all have boners from the knowledge

[good-beanswrites]

And here's one with Weak for Fuuta and Amane, for anon! I've recently been going crazy over some ideas from posts about Fuuta and food and he and Amane's relationship, and they came together perfectly with the prompt -- thank you for the request 👀👀👀

“Can you be quiet for one minute?” 

Fuuta spun around from where he’d been complaining loudly about the food, with his mouth full of it, to find Amane glaring from beside him.

“I’ll do whatever the hell I want,” he said through bites. He paused to swallow, though. And take a sip of his drink. And then forgot was he was talking about anyway.

Amane returned to mouthing a blessing over her food. The annoyance in her expression melted away to serenity as she brought her hands together. Fuuta watched as she drew herself up. Then she ate calmly. He could have crumbled in shame, right then, at the thought of this tiny kid holding up better than himself. 

She, too, had experienced the punishments that came with their verdict. Restraints pulled so tight it’s hard to breathe. Long nights of maddening voices and watchful eyes. The smaller meal portions leading to shaky limbs. Fuuta spent every meal inhaling as much as he could as soon as he could -- and here Amane sat as if she had a perfectly content stomach. Through everything, she maintained her strong gaze and commanding voice.

Fuuta reminded himself she did have a few advantages over him. She still had all her eyes and ribs intact, for one. It was difficult to give someone a convincing stinkeye with only one eye.

While he continued shoveling down his meal, he noticed her separating things on her plate. The meat in the corner went completely untouched. 

The aforementioned treatment had made him irritable -- more irritable than usual, that is -- and he jabbed his utensils at her. “Hey, we talked about this. Eat your fucking meat. I’ve been eating my vegetables, yeah?” Not that he wanted to. He would have eaten just about anything they put in front of him if it kept the gnawing hunger at bay.

“It’s against my beliefs,” she said simply. 

“I thought suicide was, too.”

She raised her chin. “I’ve known plenty who have fasted and become stronger for it. This is nothing drastic.”

Fuuta grit his teeth. He’d witnessed his fair share of internet-goers who acted cruel about another’s religion. He wasn’t about to join them in being some piece of shit who forced her to do something that was against her code. But there was no way he was going to sit around and watch her starve herself, either.

He couldn’t blame Amane for how harshly she’d refused help from the others -- they coddled her, encouraging her with sweet talk, or tried an insufferable stern parental tone. Fuuta wasn’t cut out for any of those methods, anyway. What he did know how to do, however, was make threats. 

Even if Amane didn’t fear death, he knew there was one situation she would do absolutely anything to avoid. 

“Oi, if you get any weaker, Shidou’s gonna step in.” Her frown twitched. “He’s already harassed me and Mahiru about our meals. He saw my hand shake one time and hasn't stopped hounding me about it since. The minute he can tell you’re not eating enough, he’ll be all over you. And let me tell you, you’re not very subtle about it.” 

The final statement came out with more bite than intended. Maybe he was bitter that she was at least more subtle than him. Maybe he thought it was fucked up the way she, too, had grown visibly weaker. Maybe he was just hungry and tired of talking. He attacked another mouthful of food. 

Amane was searching her plate as if the answer could be found there. There was a long silence as she contemplated. Fuuta had thought he’d won until she shook her head. “No. I can’t.”

He rolled his eyes and head in an over dramatic show of exasperation. “So stubborn!”  When he was done chewing, he picked up his plate. “Fine.” He gathered up all that was left, dumping it onto hers with a flick. 

A fire ignited in her gaze. She shoved the dish away. “I’m not some weak child to be pitied.”

“Wha–? It’s not pity!”

“You think I’m weak.”

“I think you’re hungry!”

“You don’t know anything!”

Mikoto passed by, chuckling as they raised their voices. “Look at you two hotheaded kids. Do I need to break it up?”

“Go away!” they chorused.

“Alright, sheesh…” He kept walking, leaving the pair to stew in silence. 

Fuuta didn’t have it in him to fight today. He was tired. He ached all over. If she wasn’t going to appreciate his help, so be it. He was starting to get used to his good intentions being taken the wrong way. It looked like he was just the weak one, after all. He grabbed his empty plate and stood to leave.

“Fuuta.” Amane took a deep breath. “I am hungry.” She gestured for him to come back. Then she moved the meat from her plate onto his.

He eyed the offering, hoping his expression didn’t betray how desperately he wanted to scoff it down. “I’m not some asshole who’s gonna take your food.”

“You’re not taking it. I’m giving it. I would have thrown it out otherwise.” Amane picked up some of the vegetables. “In return, I will eat this. We both must stay strong for the ordeals ahead.”

After a moment of hesitation, Fuuta sat back down. He took a bite. Neither said a proper thank you. Neither needed one.

He glanced to Amane with a smirk. “Good. This way, we’ll both keep that geezer Shidou away.”

It was only for a moment, but for the first time since the second trial began, Fuuta could have sworn her lips slipped into a small smile. 

[subconsciousmysteries]

Men are absolutely losing it because women are seeing through their bullshit and I'm here to watch their collective narcissistic meltdown

[postillfastill]

Not supporting a two state solution to the palestinian genocide is not somehow fucking hateful. Wanting the israel state to not exist is not hateful no more than it is for an indigenous person to wish any other colonial state not exist. I don't want america or canada to exist because their existence was founded on the mass slaughter displacement and hundreds of years of subjugation of the othered population, and would not be ABLE to exist without that subjugation, not because it made white people move here. Wishing the state body that enabled the slaughter of ones people didn't exist isn't hateful to the settler population, it's a fucking pipe dream coping mechanism of indigenous peoples all over the world. I wish my people in mexico weren't wholebody erased! I wish my people in the states weren't forced from their homes into pathetic reservations! Hell, I wish my people in ireland weren't fucked by britain at every turn!

I wish the united states didnt exist! I wish new zealand didn't exist, i wish australia and south africa and rhodesia and brazil and any other state thats formation relied on the murder and subjugation of an othered population didn't exist! Because 'state' is not synonymous with 'people' you FUCKING moron! When people clutch at their pearls because palestinians and other indigenous activists wish israel et al didn't exist, they are seeing it from their skewed, racist perspective. To them, a state not existing means the physical land and the people plants and animals on it be razed to the ground, because that's what they're used to doing to others to maintain this 'state'. To indigenous populations who have lived on land for thousands of years without this 'state', we know what a state actually is; a government body of legislation and control that didnt just come from nowhere. That is what we mean by Land Back, what we mean by calling for a nation to not exist. Dismantle the states, return land taken to surviving peoples displaced from it, relinquish legislative control over the othered people. It doesn't mean fucking settler genocide, you sound like fucking rhodesians or those racist afrikaaners trying to convince ppl theyre getting white genocided bc apartheid ended.

You assume an end to your state means an end to your life because you're projecting as a racist, fascist nationalist. Sorreee.

[hwanswerland]

maybe an unpopular opinion but one thing i really truly dislike is grown men being called boys. no they are not "boys", they are grown ass men that can and should be held accountable for their actions. not some 10 year old child

[marathedemonoverlord]

So just finished Lesson 17.... I'm sort of indifferent to the story but maybe now we're actually getting plot?

Kinda obsessed with Raphael and the cliffhanger left off makes me think we're getting content but we'll see. They might throw filler at us again this started strong but I'm getting unethused as it goes on (still gonna play it but the interest is dying are we going to address Nightbringer or drag it out for 3 Seasons so we NEVER go back to the future?)

Also I do feel bad for Solomon because I don't mean to neglect you Babes plot and my job as an attendant is forcing me back into the Stockholm Syndrome with them again I swear LOL (ಥ ͜ʖಥ)

[brown-little-robin]

what if I stuck an actual carnival in Clown World

[bitterseaproduction]

Me: Has 6+ WIPs across various fandoms that require attention.

Also me: What if Luke was taken hostage instead of killed? What if Daemon’s scheme was then to get him back or kidnap Aemond in return? What if the back-up plan was still lil’ Jaehaerys, but to grab him, and Helaena and Jaehaera were there too, so they got a three for one deal? What then?

[fondcrimes]

I can already see how the male centered characterization of the “loneliness epidemic” is perpetuating more harm against as well as assigning blame to women who are dealing with the same fucking issues. the only difference is that entitled men who might struggle with mental health or alienation are trying to kill people about it while women (specifically those who are doubly marginalized as well as alienated) kill themselves and quietly fade into the background. it’s just very bleak

[takasgf]

when the character that you see as your safe person and protector is characterized by fanon as agressive and demeaning in the context of a romantic relationship 💔💔💔