#it's the double problem of 'women can't abuse men!'

[ganymedesclock]

Generally speaking, I grew up on a lot of the big shonens (Naruto, Bleach, One Piece, etc.) and have a relationship of fondness with the genre that drives me to frustration with a lot of the weak points many of them exhibit.

Like I can't. not. respect that these series had every reason to get as popular as they did, have many good qualities and iconic characters that linger in people's hearts, while also sighing in frustration at how many of them have "yeah he's a sex pest and all but he's such a funny guy, we won't ask him to change or get better towards women" as a staple character, for example,

[genderqueerdykes]

Bouncing off of that Anon that was like "my abuser was a trans man, so I hate all trans men"

I'm a trans man. I was sexually harassed and assaulted by a trans fem for three years. Am I phobic to trans fems/women?

Fuck no!!!

I've also been abused and assaulted by cis men and women of all sorts of sexualities

Am I phobic to them and who they are?

Once more: Fuck no!!!

An abuser is an abuser, yes, but their gender/sex/sexuality/etc isn't the reason they are an abuser. It's their mentality, for lack of better words

As for less reporting on trans men and assault, I also feel that it's particularly caused by toxic masculinity (mixed with the seen as cis women thing)

It's like a fucked up cycle of "I can't say this, I'm 'supposed to be a man'", and "you're a woman, suck an egg" (if my wording makes sense)

Hell, when I told my abusers' parents, I was told I was "too smart of a girl to have this happen"

HUH???

Being hurt by one/a few isn't a reason to hate all and be phobic or hateful. If that was the case, why aren't there people who hate everyone who dared to have a kid, good or bad? Or people who hate every single math or history teacher in the world?

i'm sorry you've been through this, but i appreciate you sharing your experience with this. you deserve to be heard

i have also been abused at the hands of trans women and transfemmes and yet i don't hate either of those identities at all. i dislike the actions of individual people who are assholes. that's a very reasonable thing to do. saying that all trans women and transfemmes are abusive assholes and that it's okay to hate them would be career ending. you'd get chased off of every platform under the sun.

why's it okay to do that to trans men?

As for less reporting on trans men and assault, I also feel that it's particularly caused by toxic masculinity (mixed with the seen as cis women thing) It's like a fucked up cycle of "I can't say this, I'm 'supposed to be a man'", and "you're a woman, suck an egg" (if my wording makes sense) Hell, when I told my abusers' parents, I was told I was "too smart of a girl to have this happen"

it blows my mind when people think that just because there are not great police statistics (where'd your ACAB go...?) on violence against transmasculine people that means it just doesn't happen at all. literally where'd your ACAB go? that's an appeal to authority. you are appealing to the cops. you are, suddenly, for some reason, flipflopping and seeing them as a trustworthy resource. this is a double standard. this is shifting the goalposts

trans mascs and men are almost always reported on as women if the crimes we face are reported on. most of the time it's not worth going through the trouble to report it because nothing will ever be done about it. you need a lot of evidence in order to convict someone of a crime like that and more often than not people will try their hardest to discredit whatever evidence the trans man/masc does have because they are being viewed as a cis woman, and thus, incompetent. most people who face violence never report the crime. you can't suddenly treat police data like it's the end all be all of lived experiences

other people will assert that these things can't happen to trans men because they can't happen to men at all, which is a perfect shining example of radfem logic at its finest. there's no other way to say it. men can be hurt and abused. women can be abusive and dangerous. this is not new. silencing trans men who have suffered violence for the sake of talking about yourself isn't helping people understand you better

so many trans men deal with homelessness/housing insecurity, poverty, physical and sexual assault, murder, abuse of all kinds especially mental and emotional, being objectified and forcefully viewed as women, corrective rape, sex trafficking, job insecurity, disability, neurodivergence, mental illness, substance abuse, incarceration, and so many other problems. all trans people face these problems in distinct ways. but they affect us all. we can't silence one part of this conversation for no reason other than to be petty and bitter.

i'm sorry you've had all these experiences, but thank you for sharing. the only way we can help people understand is if we talk about it in earnest. no more hiding. this has gotten more than out of control

[brownwomanisland]

Like clockwork, I'll see some notable members of the "radfem" movement or really just the "against AGP" movement from the global west and I'll go searching their tweets and they don't actually give a fuck about Palestinian women, Congolese women, Sudanese women.

Yeah, no wonder you have so little allies. You're too busy blaming people for their death. Their liberation of women actually just ends at the borders of their country lmao. That's why I would quicker follow nameless anonymous rad fems who mention women around the world when they can vs the ones with their names and faces on it because they only care about their little paradise not turning into something they hate.

Funny how women and girls everywhere want that. And if you bring up their silence or they're gonna say you're in support of grooming gangs or something like that. Because if you're against war mongering, you must be in favour of ... smaller scale war mongering?

Why cannot I be against genocide and also religious backed grooming gangs? Can I not be against torture against a dispossesed people (which are almost always women and children because they bare the brunt of war) and the trans nonsense of taking up women's spaces? Can I be against religious persecution and also the right for people to practice their religion humanely?

It's then when you realize we do not see the source the same. They do not see the problem of male behavior, male violence, male depravity. They do not see it as that because for them, Islam is the worst thing. And pornography. And I agree.

I also think all religion gives a backing for terrible men to abuse women under a system of respectability that so many people have not recognized. They are so caught up in what faith is their biggest enemy they're inadvertently running cover for terrible men in the faith they see as respectable. How many women and girls go unseen by them?

I wish they would stop calling themselves terfs and just call themselves TE. I don't see what's so radical feminist about knowing your sisters are dying somewhere but not caring because they happened to be indoctrinated into the wrong religion.

Sorry if you don't want to hear me talk about the blindness of our movement. We can't be against male violence everywhere and then go some exclusions may apply™️.

It's the same principle where I find women who push and enlist girls for Only Fans extremely dislikeable and yet the moment they say they want out, I will support their posts. The same way I find phallic obsessed lesbians (calling your girlfriend "boyfriend" lesbian, gagging on strap tweets, obsession with "top" double mastectomy surgeries) gross but I will help them call out an injustice that has occurred. The same way I find the bloodthirstyness of Zionist women appalling and yet I will never believe that she deserves to be raped.

We're either in this together or we're not.

[origamii]

fukin hate those ugly people who think they are heroes or better than others by insulting men by making fun of "small dicks". The irony in women and these contradicting "righteous" , "badass men". " yeah, let me defend this girl getting abused by insulting those rude men by making fun of a "small" dick".

what a retarted society we live in. white people r the worst. yall make everything ugly. and yess i have every right to speak facts just because you dont like it wont stop me from speakin real. all the brutal history of you whites , from genocide to slavery, of course most of you still have those genetics inherited. yall just use it in different ways. the earth would have been so peaceful without your race. FACTS. you guys read a reddit post or hear about a few occasions and assume all or most are the same. lol It is actually more likely that assholes nd rude men in general have "big dicks" they are so full of themselves, ego and "cocky" and psychotic. dont let me get started on women's double standards...

What the fuck are you on about? Where was I defending white people anywhere? Lol. You're obviously the same person who got mad when I mentioned a man had "tiny dick energy" for harassing me. Idk why you're still lurking on my page getting mad about fuck all. You saw someone in my previous ask say "small dick" and got triggered. I don't insult anyone unless they're an asshole to me first for no reason.

Seek therapy and deal with your insecurity problems. I'm not your outlet for your misplaced anger. Only the ugliest people send anonymous hate because they can't handle their OWN insecurities.

[libertyreads]

April TBR 2024--

This next month is set to be full of rereads, hockey romances, and new to me books. It is also the month I'm starting a certification program so it will probably be a bit of a struggle to get through this month's TBR. I don't even remember the last time I've thought that about a month's TBR. I really hope I have as much fun with this TBR as I'm expecting to. I've really been in the mood for these rereads and these hockey romance so I'm excited to finally get to it.

Silver in the Bone by Alexandra Bracken-- This is just one of a few rereads this month. Book two in the series comes out next month. I originally read this one as an ARC so I definitely need a refresher first. Tamsin Lark is a mortal with no magical talent who was never meant to break into ancient crypts or compete with sorceresses and Cunning folk for the treasures inside. But treasure hunting is the only way she could keep herself and her brother Cabell alive following her thieving foster father's disappearance. Ten years later she's looking for a ring that is supposed to save her brother from a curse. It's based in Arthurian legend.

Teen Titans: Beast Boy by Kami Garcia and Gabriel Picolo-- Another reread before a new book in the series. I remember enjoying this one slightly less than Raven's book, but I still enjoyed meeting a new character and getting their origin story. I also felt like it addressed an issue that isn't brought up a lot: male body image issues. We see it addressed a lot in fiction for girls, but there are boys who also go through this growing up. Plus it's beast boy and lots of green animals.

The Score by Elle Kennedy-- A hockey romance! I've been so in the mood for hockey romances this year. I don't know if it's because I found a few new to me authors and bought some kindle books for Christmas or what. In this one we follow Allie Hayes who is in crisis mode. Graduation is looming and she's dealing with a broken heart thanks to the end to her longtime relationship. Wild rebound sex is definitely not the solution to her problems, but gorgeous hockey star Dean Di Laurentis is impossible to resist. Just one though because even if her future is uncertain it sure as heck doesn't include Dean. It seems like he's going to pursue her after she puts him in the friend zone following their one night stand. I love it when the guy falls first or the guy is pursuing the girl so I'm looking forward to this one.

Stars and Smoke by Marie Lu-- The last of the rereads for this month. I'm so excited for the next book too. In this one we follow an international pop sensation named Winter Young who is brought into the world of spies when a major crime boss gifts his daughter a private concert with Winter for her birthday. Sydney Cossette is a member of the elite covert ops group who is forced to work alongside Winter to infiltrate the crime organization's inner circle. This was such a fun and quick read for me last year and I can't wait to go back into this world of glitz, glam, and spies.

Bad Men by Julie Mae Cohen (NetGalley)-- This one just sounded so good when I saw it on NetGalley. It's unhinged women at its finest. Saffy Huntley-Oliver is an intelligent and glamorous socialite; she also happens to be a proficient serial killer. Over the course of fifteen years, she's dispatched bad men--rapist, murderers, domestic abusers. But leading a double life has left her lonely. Dating's rough when your boyfriend might turn out to be your next victim. Saffy thinks she's finally found a truly good man in Jonathan Desrosiers, a true crime podcaster. This is a feminist thriller that asks if even a serial killer can have a happily ever after. My hopes for this one? Rich people drama and some mad women.

The Hemlock Queen by Hannah F. Whitten (New Release)-- The second book in the series is finally coming out. This series starts with Lore, who has a dark power and a hidden past, as we follow her into the intrigue of the Sainted King's royal court. The king and his priest manipulate Lore and have her spy on the prince in order to determine just who is killing the villages at the edge of the kingdom. We follow on from the events of the first book in this new one.

My Lucky #13 by Piper Rayne (Kindle)-- A hockey player who is going through a scoring draught is worried he's going to get traded before the deadline if he doesn't turn it around. Following a New Year's Eve with a woman, he has a waterfall of goals and knows he has to see her again. She wants nothing to do with him and he feels his has to change her mind. A hero falls first sounding story that I'm so looking forward to. I will say that there's a very obvious hockey error in the synopsis of this one and we all know I'm a little picky about hockey details. But I'll try to keep an open mind on this one.

Just Do This One Thing For Me by Laura Zimmerman (Library)-- I'm going to pull the synopsis straight from GoodReads since it's a Mystery/Thriller and those are hard to explain at the best of times: "'Just do this one thing for me.' Drew's mother says it more often than good morning. Heidi Hill has been juggling shady side hustles for all of Drew's seventeen years, and Drew knows that 'one thing' really means all the necessary things her mother thinks are boring, including taking care of her fifteen-year-old sister and eight-year-old brother. In fact, Drew is the closest thing to a responsible adult they've ever known. When their mother disappears on the way to a New Year's Eve concert in Mexico and her schemes start unraveling, Drew is faced with a choice: Follow the rules, do the responsible thing, and walk away--alone--from her mother's mess. Or hope the weather stays cold, keep the cons going, and just maybe hold her family together."

[lamentingocean]

>Sword Demon X Martial Art Prodigy Reader<

Warning: a bit of NSFW, violence, a bring up of sky and yeri, vent, fighting, and bit of an emotional impact, making out, philosophy shit and wisdom.

(Earn my rotmd degree into being the most diabolical simp, so I'm gonna add a bit of mongrang pervertness mueheh, but this is the final vote. BTW let me know what you guys want next◇)

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The sword demon,the man known to clean his blade to murdering multiple men that choose to be an enemy to him, his glare is indefinite and silently cunning to those that oppose and double cross his existence just by being a powerful martial arts capable of slicing the heads of even the martial arts prodigies. stunning but cold as an Arctic breeze. his sword is furthermore patternized as an art painting. the paint has its finest darkest colors to make a masterpiece enough to shoke even the professional painters of anicent china. and it's made into a canvas not only to be a haven full of strong emotional impact upon the demon's life but as a man with a deep dark pool of black water that is protracted as his soul. That painting is put into a room with nothing but a black ocean wall art just to take its theme into action into what he's really like.

cunningly mysterious, awfully powerful to sent warning signs to even the mad demon's flesh and bones, and strong enough to train a pervert like mongrang to be a highly beautiful man with a reputation of giving away peices of his charisma to women but also a formidable foe. he is such a man that even a person with a superhuman analytical ability can't get through. He's deep enough to find no meaning in life and just take time to bring it, meaning just to train and fight for what is right. His vibrant sorrows is what gets him a balance to earn his name. the sword demon.

a dangerous martial artist and part of the group of the four demons of this murim world.

Pervert Demon

Mad Demon

Sword Demon

And Poison Demon

you were born into a province. rich and wealthy into a heritage that will soon expand and continue under your own hands, eating with a gold fork and a gold spoon along with flakes of gold on your food to lather your own human system into the fabric of gold with your clothes even laced in gold. But it's a problem in this family. they are verbally abusive to their future successors and tried their worst in giving out that abuse to their own children as mental damage influence. they trained you before you can even stand on your own two feet as an infant. teaching you techniques and having to make you redo them over and over until it's perfected to their own satisfaction. It was torture, but practice makes perfect for the praise.

you receive praise, wealth, kindness, and a first time your parents could ever show love to their own children to cut off their own abusive attitude. but your mental state was bleeding from their kindness. but it was fake. The blade of their abuse slit your soul over and over until you are on the verge of tears every time you try to go out in public to be praising for your incredible swordsmanship, weapon proficiency, and reflexes. It sickened you to the core to be this strong but so weak to stand against people who choose to be parents just for the praise.

It's like reaching the aspect of dispair without showing a single emotion. they are the embodiment of dispair even though they are your parents. doesn't feeling like this break you into pieces and make you cry out in pain? No. your mental state is like armor. the more broken it is. the more it can block a hit so profound. it hurts, doesn't it? keeping it in hurts. keeping every strong emotion in your soul just to make people happy hurts.

It fucking hurts to be like this. to suffer under the pressure of your own family, be a controllable puppet to your parents, and fortunately kept into a lifestyle when vulgar words are supposedly normal. no. As a martial art prodigy that can take down 5 skilled fighters in one match is going to be strong for everyone. it's like keeping a bottle of water, and it's unopened just to grab every molecule of mineral and then those minerals are your true emotion. and then by each mineral collected. It becomes filled.

you looked at the legend of the sword demon, trying to know who he was. But you definitely knew who he was when you met him as a 10 year old. only to master the plum blossom technique to impress your parents until you saw him in the side of your eye. right in the wilderness when it's a big space in the wood to go all out into mastering that extravagantly gorgeous technique. glad they made a book about his greatness just enough that you can know him like the back of your hand. someone busted in and dropped a plate full of asian pastries.

It was the butler. and your hand reached a small piece of neatly carved paper. it's written in a female cursive. "Hello, Y/N! This is sky, and I wrote this to inform you that your parents issued an order to go travel across china and find more martial artists able to train you in your next path in life. so I recommend that you pack your bags and head out as soon as possible♡ your mother is a impatient women so she would expect your presence to be gone from here by the time she comes back from her association with the light faction Good luck and have fun with your travels♡

-SkyTsui" your hand flicked the note into the ground. suddenly angry at the news of traveling the world of anicent china just because your parents don't want to train you anymore. what a bunch of wealthy/ lazy fuck ups. but you did as you said as the controlled puppet that you are and packed up a lot of your stuff. even your sword at the bottom of your bed just in case to use for emergencies of factions, clans, or even mercenaries trying to raid the rich from their power and then kill them when the time is right. The weapon's name is called " Yuejue shu" Records of the Precious Swords. sturdy and sharp enough to break a kitchen knife. This can be used for self-defense, even if there are many rarities in the weapons in this world. Pack it up too.

And then boom, you are ready to go travel. Dropping down to the ceiling to mark your departure to leave this place for a while. it's a place that screams this: no matter if you're an emotional person who loves to express themselves in any way or a silent person that's going to keep it to themselves. it's a land full of judgemental/evil human beings that are always going to judge you for who you are. it's humanity. It's reality. people are continually miserable in trying to hurt other people to liven up their own insecurities. Even if you are a friend or you're being used, then you can't escape that. I find no meaning to life other than having a purpose to build within yourself so you can make meaning. we are evil. and if God is all powerful, then why didn't he eradicate the evil upon earth faster than he should. it's because he loves us. as evil. he loves us so much that even a mark upon humanity is going to drive us to the brink of dispair even when he isn't there to help us fix this fucked up world.

It's like letting your own creation die off and decay because of the aspect of humanity fucking up your own creation down into nothing but a capitalistic, dystopian, reality-faking, money hungry, government and supreme court controlled world. you reached down at your sword after that rush of thoughts for the future as in this is the world of anicent china. your wind gushed behind you as you flew like a bird because of your footwork. looking at all the ancient palaces. soon to be abandoned in the next 700 years.

(bro I wasn't able to finish this in time since I'm so damn busy with my online books outside of Tumblr, high school graduate, and college applications/ scholarships, so i can't finish this in time. It might be a part 2 but not right now.)

[thesunfyre4446]

(1) Before the show aired I used to say I was on TB, now I feel like that's admitting a shameful secret? Because I'd be putting myself in the same bag as A LOT of delusional TB/Rhaenyra stans, most of whom are just bullies. The more I see both teams fighting on reddit or here the more stupid it looks to me; I end up wanting to correct them but then it comes off as me siding with TG. I'm not but it kills me to see how wrong they got the story. Most TB fans read F&B and filled in the blanks with their own delusions and think that's what really happened; what's even worse is they can't separate book from show. They think they have the moral highground but a lot of them are terrible, with their double standards and self righteousness. Like when they accuse TG of mysoginy but then crucify Alicent for everything she did and didn't do. Even young Alicent, who did absolutely nothing wrong, but still gets attacked by Rhaenyra's feminist stans.

If anyone asked me now I'd say I'm not in any team; my favourite characters are aligned with Rhaenyra, whom I think is the rightful heir based on my understanding of succession. I will defend Alicent cause she's an interesting character that people refuse to try to understand and is treated unfairly. I actually loved watching most of the characters (and relationships) because they are all so complex, even if I don't agree or like them . They are engaging, despite what "team" they're on. It really annoys me that so many fans miss out on this because they're busy with the TB vs TG war.

i think that not being in any team is the best way to watch the show, anon.

i mean i'm TG but watching daemon is def very entertaining. he's a horrible person but matt smith (who's one of my fav actors from the good old doctor who days) is incredible. i can enjoy daemon's character while also acknowledging the fact that he's a horrible person. appreciating characters for their complexly & just how entertaining they are without agreeing with the things they do or even liking them is a skill this fandom desperately needs to learn.

i got a hate anon a few days ago accusing me of "having bad morals" for saying alicent did what she believed was right and honorable, and then just refused to understand that what alicent believes is right is not necessarily what i believe is right (i mean she's a fictional character from a medieval inspired fantasy world, of course we're not going to have the same set of values ? ). i'm not TG because i believe that men should inherit before women, i just like the characters better and find them more interesting.

i also think that this fandom has a HUGE problem separating headcanons from actual canon. with daemyra shippers being the obvious example. daemon and rhaenyra's relationship is very toxic. he's psychically abusive to her, he gr00med her, he abandoned her in a brothel... like this is obviously a very bad relationship. but people still insist on labeling daemon as a MaLeWiFe and a femenist (?) [he smashed his wife's head with a rock because he didn't like her but ok] and get very angry whenever someone tries to suggests that maybe... daemyra isn't that great of a ship.

don't get me wrong it's fine to ship daemyra, we all like to ship fictional toxic relationships, but you have to separate the headcanons you have from the actual show.

yeah the double standard with the so-called feminists attacking alicent is... a lot. an unhinged stan left a comment on one of my posts talking about alicent's "lowly hightower c***". a lot of them are accusing her of "seducing" viserys when she was 14-15, or defending corlys for offering his 12yo daughter as a bride to the middle aged viserys... i'm not very comfortable with these posts so i usually just end up blocking the op. (and don't even get me started on how some of them treat nettles)

thank you for the ask! ;)

[pawpunkao3]

what's your problem with fabians story in canon? /gen /nm

Okay this is. TBH I adore Fabian's story overall but the ONE THING i cant abide his how canon treated his parents. Both of them are canonically physically abusive (Bill slams his head into the ground and Hallariel threatens to duel him to the death, which is implied to be serious), neglectful (Bill stunted Fabian's emotional growth by refusing to let him work hard for good things or view others as his equals, and Hallariel-- well she can't be fully blamed for her addiction but it also probably wasn't great for Fabian), and Bill at least is also emotionally abusive (he treats Fabian as an extension of himself, tells him that he is the most important person in the world and he shouldn't have close friends, and, like, he got that toxic masculinity from SOMEWHERE).

But all the other players and seemingly canon treat that as if it's not a big deal. Angwyn and Arianwen get fucking merked (deservedly), and Kristen never talks to her parents after FY, but Fabian still lives with the mom that spent 90% of his life emotionally not there and the other 10% making his house unsafe for him, and had a part where he tried to reconcile with his dad and. Had to accept his not-apology where he STILL refused to admit his son might have an identity completely apart from Bill. Adaine and Kristen get closure; Fabian is in limbo.

It's also so sad to me that just. He clearly doesn't know. Nobody's given him a hint that it's maybe not great that for fourteen years he never disagreed with his dad and never even meaningfully interacted with his mom. Not even Jawbone, whose literal job it is to notice when kids need help. The most he did was point out that Fabian has some self-harming tendencies and suggest he come to his office (which he probably never did because surely then Jawbone would realize he was being abused). Not even Adaine or Kristen, who are also survivors! It just sucks man.

Anyway if I were in charge of D20 I'd plot an arc for Fabian to recognize that its Bad that his parents would prefer him to be lethal than well-adjusted or happy, and hopefully the other bad kids would be a bit more supportive and not just be like "but your dad let us do cocaine tho :("

It also kinda smacks of the double standard of abuse where abuse of (tbh white) women is treated slightly less like a joke than abuse of (tbh marginalized) men bc women are Valuable Property to be protected where as men are just Meat Shields. Not that I think anyone at D20 holds that opinion consciously or otherwise

[caffeineandsociety]

The most insidious thing about intracommunity transphobia is how much it still relies on stereotypes of someone's AGAB - trans women and fems and other presumed-AMABs are scary, creepy, burgeoning, sex-obsessed perverts; trans men and mascs and other presumed-AFABs are frivolous, selfish, shallow airheads who just want attention and can't handle REAL problems and/or gross ugly creepy girlfailures who are lashing out and preying on other people because it's the only way to get control over their lives -

And very few people are willing to acknowledge this, because they will SAY "trans women are women, trans men are men, trans people are who they say they are" until they're blue in the face - or rather, until they come up with justifications for these stereotypes that fit into that framework.

It's not subtle misgendering and deep-seated queerphobia to immediately believe the worst of any trans girl who happens to like My Little Pony and Sailor Moon and exists in the general vicinity of teenagers; no, it's TOTALLY a one-off, pay no mind to the fact that the person in question has uncritically believed every single one of these claims that's crossed their social media feed. If anything, it's fighting the idea that women are all weak, powerless, delicate flowers who can never actually hurt anyone! Right?

It's not subtle misgendering and deep-seated queerphobia to write trans men and mascs' issues off as a lesser, "diet" transphobia that's never done anything worse than making people sad on the internet, that's not a persistent stereotype of women from both outside of AND within the queer community; it's just a means of trying to get men to stop talking over women, nor is it transphobia try to talk trans men and mascs out of transitioning because "testosterone is poison" - nor does that idea rebound back around to hurt pre- or non-HRT transfems for that matter - it's TOTALLY true that T will cause roid rage but ONLY in trans men and mascs for, uh, some reason. Absolutely none of this "sit down and shut up and let people insist you're just confused or be written off as a screeching predatory harpy who's an inherent danger to women and children" is a recycled lesbophobic stereotype, how dare the person calling out this behavior misgender trans men by implying as much!?

But of course, pointing this out is just "trying to have it both ways", trying to claim the authority presumed of a man AND the fragility presumed of a woman, right?

Just. Fuck. On the one hand, I need to reiterate, as I always do, that queer people are NOT the primary source of queerphobia - these root ideas aren't born within the queer community, and in fact despite the loud minority, ARE less common here than within cishet society, however much it may sometimes feel otherwise because we're basically each other's captive audience.

On the other hand, we have to look at what's happening here. When this happens as an intracommunity thing, it REALLY fucking sucks because 1) someone who will double down into infinity on any of these ideas does, indeed, have basically a captive audience that they're free to abuse, and 2) it's all predicated on the idea that the MOMENT you come out as queer, you're totally incapable of holding queerphobic ideas, or at the very least you can't REALLY HURT people with them. "What, you're really accusing me, a flaming faggot/a whole lesbian/an actual trans person, of being queerphobic?" says the guy who insists on sticking to the narrative that most gay trans men are obnoxious screeching yaoi fangirl chasers who just want to trick him into straight sex disguised with one degree of abstraction; or the girl who's constantly trying to get her trans girlfriend to quiet down and stop asserting herself, flinching in terror the moment she shows the slightest negative emotion, despite never having acted this way with her cis exes; or the person who immediately pivoted from seeing their nonbinary friend as totally fitting into their "women and nonbinary people" community to seeing them as a creepy predator trying to invade the space the moment they found out they had a deep voice and facial hair. While these are NOT things that all queer people do, they ARE things that most if not all queer people will be on the receiving end of at some point or another if they spend enough time in the community, and that's a problem! Especially since people who have a queer-positive- and feminist-sounding justification, and especially who think of themselves as incapable of doing this kind of harm, are sometimes even capable of justifying saying and doing shit that, coming from anyone else, would be blatantly obvious as a hate crime.

And once again, in conclusion, I must repeat, this is not an identity-linked issue, because guess what - assuming it is is part of the problem!

[xxchromies]

Random thoughts

It's crazy how much I've changed in the past couple of years, in a good way! I was just thinking about how if people I knew in high school found this blog, they'd probably faint. They'd be disturbed. They'd say I'm "going down the alt-right pipeline" and I'm an "evil TERF". And that would have bothered me in the past, but now I really don't care! It's not like the alt-right isn't a real thing, but I absolutely ABHOR people who consider anything that doesn't align with the most sanitized liberal thinking as being a part of the alt-right. Being conservative is not the alt-right either. I cannot help but CACKLE when people say that people like Ben Shapiro and Jordan Peterson are part of the alt-right.

I've learned a lot of things about the world in the past couple of years. I've learned to trust my instincts and to challenge the dominant narrative. I've learned things aren't always what they appear. And I'm so glad I did! I don't have to put up with any old bullshit anymore! I hate porn! I hate sex work! I hate gender ideology! I can't in good conscience support any of that bullshit anymore. Maybe I sound a bit crazy right now, but I really do feel like Neo from the Matrix. I feel as if I've uncovered the realities of the world, but at the same time it's scary because in many ways the reality is horrible.

I felt compelled to write this post because I've been seeing a few radical feminist tweets get absolutely dogpiled on Twitter. There was one about how BDSM and many other kinks are inherently abusive and a bunch of people were doing the typical "but they CHOOSE it" "it's more nuanced than this" bullshit. People were saying that radical feminism is just conservatism in disguise. And it just really opened my eyes. So many people are absolute hypocrites. These so called progressives will go on and on about how other people are problematic but the moment you turn the spotlight on THEM, they double down. It's fascinating.

I just want to make myself completely clear for anyone who comes across this blog, I do not hate trans people or want them to die. I believe being trans is a mental illness. However, there's nothing wrong with having a mental illness. I believe they are mentally ill people that are taken advantage of by the medical industry. People may think I'm insisting they don't have agency, but that's not it. I'm simply saying not all choices are good ones, choices don't exist in a vacuum, and you can easily be influenced by outside forces who don't always have your best interests at heat. No one is immune to propaganda. That includes you and me. If someone really truly wants to transition, they have a right to do so. BUT! I'm not going to pretend that sexual dimorphism isn't a thing. I'm not going to pretend that trans women are real women, or that trans men are real men. I will simply acknowledge that they are pretending to be the opposite sex. Nothing wrong with pretending, quite honestly. It's not a bad thing.

I also do not have any problem with kinks that aren't harmful to the self or to other people. I don't give a damn if someone has a foot fetish, a fart fetish, or even autogynephilia! But I do not condone anything related to BDSM, I just don't. If you enjoy a kink like that, I urge you to look within! I understand it may feel upsetting to realize that what you are doing is bad, but instead of doubling down, do some self-reflection! If you enjoying inflicting pain on people, that is fucked up! Even if they say yes! If you enjoy having pain inflicted on you, you have something wrong with you. But you're not a bad person necessarily, you're a victim. I have compassion for you. But don't lie to yourself. What you are doing is not healthy or normal just because you consented to it. Suicide is consensual, is it not? At the end of the day, it's a free country. But please cut the cognitive dissonance bullshit out.

[beardedmrbean]

Most people don't "hate" I hate my spouse jokes.

They hate, "I hate my wife," jokes by men. Whether it's actually them or exaggerating jokes in media.

Which would be acceptable if they didn't let "I hate my husband," jokes from women slide.

If a man jokes about hating his wife? HE'S AN ABUSER!

If a woman jokes about hating her husband? She's either an abuse victim or deserves better or a queen for mistreating him.

Which annoys me. The amount of empathy for potential male victims stays the same. I can't take anyone who thinks like this seriously. Tumblr, as usual, presumes men are the problem and lacks nuance.

#ihateitheresometimes

double standards are only ok if they benefit you.

That and there's a inability to grasp the concept that different things can be funny to different people based on a lot of different circumstances.

so maybe people should just sit down and realize that the joke was not for them

Funniest Holocaust jokes I've heard in my life were told to me by Jewish people, I might have not found them as funny had they not come from a Jewish person so that's another factor to consider in the whole thing too.

The wife jokes are mostly a generational thing and the wife will know them just as well as the husband and they'll have the same jokes about their husbands.

[tousey-mousey]

important point about trans hearts for you

y'all starting HRT might hear some Things from your doctors. it depends on if your doctors are good or bad, but it also depends on where you're from even when your doctor is very trans-positive. (see below)

You're going to hear about how trans men starting testosterone have an increased risk of cardiovascular disease, especially heart attacks ("myocardial infarctions"), strokes, and congestive heart disease (CHD).

You're going to hear about how trans women starting oestrogen have an increased risk of "hormone-sensitive cancers like breast cancer" (note, this is the ONLY ONE of note in trans women), and also of peripheral blood clots (e.g. deep vein thromboses, DVTs) and certain kinds of strokes.

What you MAY NOT BE TOLD is that these risks are population-relative, not absolute. You do not actually have a higher risk of heart attacks than a cis man. Your risk of heart attacks are lower than a cis man of the same age and ethnicity. What's happened is that YOUR PERSONAL risk has increased somewhat... to somewhere below the cis male range, because cis women have a substantially lower risk than cis men and your risk has increased.

You MAY NOT BE TOLD that your risk of breast cancer as a trans woman is significantly reducible by getting regular tests, and by informing the person doing your mammography that you might have "dense breasts" (HRT increases breast tissue density for reasons we don't fully understand, so trans women are more likely to be on the denser end of the normal spectrum, as are cis women with high oestrogen levels or young cis women). One of the LEADING CAUSES of late-stage breast cancer in trans women is a FAILURE TO CONDUCT SCREENING CORRECTLY, though you should be aware that some of the ways of reducing high-density breast issues can (probably will) increase the discomfort you feel during a mammogram, sorry ladies :( that's unavoidable, it's a physics problem not a design problem.

You MAY NOT BE TOLD that short-term testosterone is NOT LINKED with a significant lifetime increase in cancer, heart disease, or any other long-term health issue other than some increased risk of type 2 diabetes.

You MAY NOT BE TOLD that the extra-elevated risk of lung cancer that trans people, ESPECIALLY trans women, experience is likely entirely due to societal issues. Trans women have DOUBLE the smoking rates of cis men, who have the second-highest rates, and this is even higher in POC trans women. The most likely reason is that trans women are much more likely to be in social housing, under constant stress, and in poverty... all of which are linked to increased smoking rates and increased lung cancer rates. There's ZERO biological difference that should cause a lung cancer spike, except for higher lung cancer rates in smokers and in people who live in social housing (which is its own can of worms).

THESE RISK ARE ALL RELATIVE.

When they say "your risk has gone up", they do not mean "to the point that it's really worrying". They mean that, relative to where you started, it's increased now. It might STILL BE LOW, or it might have gone from "already high" to "still high". We have no way of knowing, but your risks are probably now simply the SAME as a cis person of that gender, or may be linked to factors unrelated to HRT.

Why do suicide rates in trans people on HRT seem to be higher than cis people? Well it sure isn't the HRT, is it?! Beyond the obvious factor that trans people are more bullied and abused by society, there's also the aspect of "how many of those dead 'cis' people were actually committing suicide DUE TO being trans but nobody knowing it?" You can't diagnose transness posthumously. You can tell if someone was trans and on HRT. You can't tell if someone was trans and never told anyone or started medical transition.

STATISTICS CAN BE ABUSED, even without knowing it.

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with regards to "where you are from may result in this being told to you even by a good/trans-positive doctor"...

for example, I'm a medical student in Australia, and here ALL DOCTORS regardless of whether you or they want them to say it or not are LEGALLY REQUIRED to tell you certain side effects of ANY medication (HRT isn't given special treatment under the law) such as death, permanent disability, etc. This is due to a legal case in which a man with only one working eye was given a medication into his good eye with a rare side effect of blindness in that working eye, and they didn't tell him because it was a very rare side effect and because there was no legal requirement to do so. It blinded him, and he understandably sued and won. We now legally HAVE to tell you ANY potentially serious side effect that you "might care about", basically. A risk of death is assumed to be serious, and there's really no carve-out in the law for "but the patient said they didn't want to know" because the doctor could potentially still be sued if the person's family turns around and says "but you SHOULD ANYWAY right?"

So, Australian doctors WILL tell you that HRT will give you, for example, a higher risk of heart disease even if they know it's stupid or they know that you'd prefer not to hear that kind of anxiety-inducingly misleading stat. They don't have a choice I'm afraid.

Happy #TransDayOfVisibility! It is important, today more than ever, to repeat the message loud and clear so that it echoes worldwide: Trans rights are human rights. All of us have a beating heart, all of us matter. We need to protect each other fiercely.

[ashol33]

To be clear, I will never forgive you.

You are the second father-figure to completely abandoned him in less than a year. He woke up, went to school, and never stepped foot in his house, his bedroom, again

Fuck you.

I'm reading a book called

"Why Does He Do That?"

I highlight the things you did to me in yellow.

Orange is his dad.

It has opened my eyes. Made my jaw hit the floor.

Women who were abused by their boyfriends, husbands.

Victims talking about their experiences.

And they're saying WORD FOR WORD what I said to you. How I told you I felt. How the things you were doing made me feel.

And you made me feel fucking crazy for it. You made me out to be a piece of shit because your ego couldn't handle accepting the fact that you hurt me. You made shit up in your head and then treated me like that person you came up with was me.

You told me I was manipulative. You turned anything I did into something nefarious.

You're smarter. See through the bullshit. Stronger. Don't need to acknowledge emotions, especially mine. Cause I'm manipative. Deceitful.

It is the cycle. It always comes back to that. You're mean, I get hurt easy. I want to talk about it.

But you can't do that. Even the mention of my feelings has you doubled over crying.

How dare I hold a mirror to let you see yourself. I don't know this man anymore.

BLAME ME! I DARE YOU!

The girl in the book said she felt like she was sexually assaulted because she was.

And so was I.

You never wanted me. Or him.

You wanted somebody to fuck to make you feel good about yourself, and I am fucking done sacrificing my time, my body, my mental health, for someone who has shown and told me, time and time again, that he does not want me.

My entire perspective on you and our relationship has changed. I was naive. I took you at face value.

"A woman gets trapped into trying to make the man feel better, but nothing she can do ever brings about any lasting change in how he treats her. He still blames his behavior on her supposed flaws and insists that she's the one who has changed, not him."

"You can cause your partner to feel hurt or grumpy or even angry, but you cannot make him treat you badly."

"He calls me disgusting names, and then an hour later he wants sex. I don't get it."

"He would say that I talk on and on and that I'm self-centered."

"I just can't seem to live up to what he needs. I'm trying, but he doesn't think so. And now when he's really angry or frustrated, he says things that cut me down. ("Just looking for a man to live off,)

"The emotional effects of partner violence are a factor in more than 1/4 of female suicide attempts and are the leading cause of substance abuse in adult women."

"He justified all of these behaviors because of ways he felt hurt by her."

"He will come up with new and more creative ways to make her feel responsible for his emotional distress."

"A nonabusive man doesn't use his past as an excuse to mistreat you."

"A man who was genuinely mistreated in a relationship with a woman would not be using that experience to get away with hurting someone else."

"Most abusive men have close relationships with people other than their wives or girlfriends. Do they abuse their other loved ones?"

"An abusive man's emotional problems do not cause his abusiveness. You can't change him by figuring out what is bothering him, helping him feel better, or improving the dynamics of your relationship."

"An abuser gives himself permission to take action on the basis of his beliefs."

"Just as common as the abuser who blows up because dinner is late, is the abuser who blows up because she failed to anticipate needs and desires he hadn't even expressed."

"Why does he think you're always complaining? Because in his mind, a woman is supposed to be listening, not talking. If she expresses herself at all, that's too much."

"The abusive man has a reason to exaggerate and ridicule his partners statements: he wants to avoid having to think seriously about what she is saying and struggle to digest it. He feels entitled to swat her down like a fly instead."

"The abuser tends to see his partner as less intelligent, less competent, less logical, and even less sensitive than he is. He will say that she isn't the compassionate person he is. He often has difficult conceiving of her has a human being. This tendency in abusers is known as objectification or depersonalization."

"Uses words to assault her humanity, reducing her to a degraded sexual body part."

"He distances himself so far from her humanity that her feelings no longer count, or simply cease to exist."

"Did he just suffer a disappointment? She caused it."

"He may not demand to be served dinner, but rather erupts because of some way his partner failed to sacrifice her own needs or interests to keep him content. He plays up how fragile he is to divert attention from the swath of destruction he leave behind him."

"When he begins to control the woman and take advantage of her, he will find ways to convince himself that it's not happening or that it is her fault."

"A man doesn't tear down his partners self-esteem out of a desire to help her."

"He pressures you for sex. This is a sign that he sees women as sex objects rather than human beings. If he says you need to have sex with him to prove that you truly love him, run."

"He will say things like, 'you're just angry because you aren't getting your way, so you're saying I'm mistreating you.'"

"It will never be the right time, or the right way, to talk about your feelings."

"He denies being angry, although he obviously is."

"He tells her that she is mistreating him."

"His outlook makes it impossible for an argument to proceed toward anything other than the fulfillment of his wishes."

"She is always wrong in his eyes."

I trusted you. I took the damage, the blame for your unhappiness.

You are the cause of your unhappiness. I will not be made to feel responsible for your insecurities and sadness.

You acted like you had it all figured out. Healed the ego issues so many other men have.

YOU fucked up.

YOU are responsible for your actions and words.

You did this.

And now I have to heal from the things you did to me.

Go to therapy.

[bllsbailey]

JASON CHAFFETZ: Democrats have a major problem and they can't fake their way out of it

Following an election in which voters overwhelmingly rejected the fake competence of Vice President Kamala Harris and the fake lucidity of President Joe Biden, Democrats have opted to double down on fake.

Choreographed dance videos, duplicate social media posts, contrived town hall protesters and a sudden newfound aversion to zero-emission vehicles all scream insincerity. There is nothing genuine about it. 

This week, a devastating split screen went viral, featuring the erstwhile faces of Senators Schumer, Warren, and Booker, who had each recorded videos of themselves trying to sound natural while reading word-for-word from the exact same script. The words, (of unknown authorship), were emblematic of the lack of authenticity plaguing the flailing party.

No one is buying what Democrats are selling; it’s all fake. The outrage over some of Trump’s most popular policies is a sham. The juxtaposition of impotent Democrats against the breakneck pace of the current Trump administration does them no favors.

Voters can see that while Trump and Vance are having fun, Democrats are having conniptions. The contrast is stark. As the president and vice president appear to enjoy their verbal jousting with media and protesters, the progressive left seem to be losing their minds, flailing with fake tears of exasperation.

Democrats can’t fake cool.  

The reality is, their leaders come across childish, insincere, and desperate, not to mention old, tired, grumpy, and totally out of touch. Who can relate to the likes of Schumer, Sanders, Durbin, and Warren? 

Meanwhile, their protestors have lost the plot, projecting an embrace of violence, lawlessness, and government corruption. The party offers no home for traditional liberal Democrats, working-class people, privacy advocates, anti-war leftists, or Israel-supporting Jews.

Their carefully curated and choreographed messaging bears no resemblance to the urgent demands of a year ago. Supposedly, Democrats were all about electric vehicles. Not anymore.

Remember how Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg was administering billions of dollars to build a national network of electric charging stations? (Americans got nothing for this boondoggle.) Democrats even advocated legislation to eliminate gas-powered vehicles in favor of electric vehicles. AOC personally bought a Tesla.  

Now, the message has reversed. Alas, their fealty to electric cars was also fake. Teslas are now bad; protesting and destroying them is good. Chaos is fine when they do it. 

Democratic women at the Joint Session of Congress wore pink, in theory, to support women, but they can’t define what a woman is, nor could they possibly support excluding men from participating in women’s sports. Their fake support of women falls apart when they actually have to stand up for women.

When President Trump tried to speak of the golden age of America that night, the Democrats couldn’t muster the strength to applaud. They failed to stand for a young cancer fighter, a man fulfilling his dream of attending West Point, a female victim of deep fake bullying pushing back, or a 95-year-old mother whose son was back from being held in Russia. Who are the Democrats really fighting for with their "resistance" movement?

In 2024, they defended censorship to deal with "misinformation" on social media – now they care deeply about the free speech of Hamas supporters, a designated terrorist organization, on US soil. Videos circulate of Democrats who previously criticized waste, fraud, and abuse now fighting to keep the gravy train running. We can all see that they’ve done a 180 from opposing to defending waste. The duplicity is lost on no one.

Coming off of a presidential campaign in which they all pretended to love Kamala Harris, who couldn’t string together an authentic sentence, these latest antics ooze insincerity.  

Contrast that with a President Trump who cheerfully pops in on White House tours, has candid, almost daily exchanges with the press, works the McDonald’s drive-through window, and shares irreverent memes on social media. It’s not even a fair fight. Donald Trump is unapologetically himself.

Voters are finished with the Democrats’ choreographed and curated leadership model. Their consultants, some of whom are their family members, are getting rich, but their efforts to rebuild and refresh their party are going backwards.

The party’s whole premise was based on division and class warfare. It was not about the very principles that make our country great.  

Far be it from me to give the Democrats advice. As long as they keep doing what they’re doing, the republic is likely safe from their fake leadership.

Jason Chaffetz is a FOX News (FNC) contributor and the host of the Jason In The House podcast on FOX News Radio. He joined the network in 2017.

[hauntedwhispersheart]

A woman I know Deanna minkler her parents apparently found her in the basement of an abandoned house in St Louis Missouri apparently she is a generational what we call a gutter snipe an Old English she is a generational prostitute drug addict all the lower socioeconomic status genes she's a big gene pool she comes from a line of prostitute so really really beautiful when they're young and they burn out really fast she was really beautiful when she was young but she's abused alcohol and drugs since she was 15 she managed to catch herself a working class man because she was lifted up out of her socioeconomic bracket married for a while and that marriage didn't last because she just doesn't have the capability to have a relationship but stable she's abusive and bullying and manipulative and conniving and sneaky and promiscuous and steals does drugs does alcohol lives a double life she hides what she is from the other people she figured out probably when she was young to hide what she was genetically predisposed to do she wouldn't have lived this long if she hadn't been lifted up out of the gutter and loved and cared for by these people that could not have children I believe the mother lost several children before her father desperate to keep her his wife was severely depressed happy because I found up at the problem was his sperm was no good found a baby apparently in a basement in an abandoned house and brought her home and she is what you call a gutter snipe child. She is the dregs of the Earth but because she offset her DNA with a working class man her children have been very functional and surviving and fit into this socioeconomic bracket and She chased money she understood if you get a degree she'll understand why degrees important but she tested degree for her children everything she could because she didn't understand why she worked this job and she thought she did a better job than her boss she was sorting paper but her boss was the one that understood how to sort of understood how to read it and taught her how to do it and she's very good at following instructions and she said well I could have kept this job if I could have had a bachelor's degree she had her parents paying for a trailer paying for her bills paying for her school and yet she's still flunked out of a nursing school she's not smart enough to pass a a specifically probably are in nursing school even when everything's paid for she can't dedicate and direct yourself she tried to go to college and she flunked out maybe first or second semester she isn't smart enough and doesn't have the inner strength and direction and dedication to get a college education she's not real smart just conniving sneaking she has a big huge gene pool base of all kinds of men and men that came down from upper levels to go have a carnival ride a freak Show A Thrill Ride with some wild fun women college boys married men working class men drug dealers she's murderers thieves retarded men Down syndrome cretins whomever had the money that way and whomever was fertile is what's in her background she is a lineage of undesirable characteristics and less and greed she's all kinds of people and she doesn't have any real Direction because she's so many different Gene pools and even though her parents protecting took care of her they really didn't know how to handle this child I've only met one gutter snack child who's been successful that his parents taught him how to work and taught him how to be a mechanic and directed him they didn't push him to be a college material to go very high and he won he he ran his own tow service in mechanic service he would tow cars that were abandoned or left in the wrong place take them home rebuild them resell them or dry them himself and he made a good living and he inherited his parents house and he knew how to manage money but he wasn't Rich he wasn't successful his parents were better off than he was they left him well off and because he had bad genes he only made it to 50 because he was probably damaged in the uterus by alcohol and drug abuse

[siryouarebeingmocked]

Okay, a few of these things are legit and should be talked about.

This is ironic, because you never actually talk about them.

But holy fuck are so many of these bullshit alt-right MRA talking points.

This is a hilarious thing to say, because most MRAs I've seen trend liberal, or at the very least criticize traditional masculinity and men's gender roles all the time.

It's also ironic when you're about to say you don't even know what these issues are, yet you still claim they're wrong.

And also, you

Sometimes Men are liable for child support even when they're raped or in cases of paternity fraud. Also, men have basically no options to opt out of parenting. Women can abort, and there's non-gendered safe haven laws…and that's about it for men's options.

Again, rape and paternity fraud. Also, the baby is not part of the woman's body once its born. You can't morally demand the father have responsibility without rights. I've seen people who were pro-choice and feminist say men should be on the hook for unwanted pregnancies, without noticing the irony of their sexist double standard.

The Duluth Model is a commonly used feminist framework for handling abuse, used by shelters and treatment programs around the world. And it ignores any abusive combo but male-on-female, even though female-on-male and mutual abuse are common.

Not to mention abuse in gay couples.

There's also police policies that essentially say "assume the woman is the victim, even if the man called you because the woman was attacking him".

Some cops are told to assume the woman must've been defending herself, not the aggressor.

And then there's social permission;

I've seen people attack the idea that a man should be socially and legally allowed to actively defend himself against violent women, and assume anyone with that stance must be a man who wants the slightest excuse to hurt women.

Even though many women also have that stance.

>Highest rate of false accusations/convictions of any single group. Most likely to face police brutality? Most likely to be wrongly convicted? HELLO? MEN ARE THE #1 PERPETRATORS OF CRIME, of course they face more police brutality and convictions! What even is "More likely to be punished for the same crime as women"?

"More likely" by percentage, when dealing with the cops. I'm not sure why you're having a problem with that.

If someone said black people were more likely to be victims of police brutality, would you go, "oh, well, they're the group most likely to be violent criminals!"

In fact, I once saw stats that indicated a black woman has a better chance in court than a white man. That's how big the gender gap is.

Also, it was explicitly "false" accusations and convictions. Right there, in black and white, clear as crystal.

If you're missing those important little details, I gotta wonder about the accuracy of your knowledge of much larger issues.

5 Gendered crime definitions? THIS HAPPENS MORE TO WOMEN. AS VICTIMS. WHICH IS SO MUCH WORSE.

The fact that discrimination exists against women does not erase sexism against men.

I live in the UK. If I were raped by a woman right now, it would not be legally considered rape unless the woman used her penis. (Sexual Offenses Act 2003).

Heck, even feminists regularly claim rape and domestic violence are "violence against women" and done by men, out of Patriarchal entitlement to women's bodies.

In reality, society generally frowns upon male-on-female sexual harassment, much less assault, and expects men to step in and protect women. Including progressives.

By contrast, women are often excused for harming men. Including by progressives.

I'm getting a headache now, so I'll stop.

Men will say ‘we have struggles too’ and then list things like balding and getting rejected on Tinder. Grow up.