#it's a damn disk horse

[macksting]

It's not the most important thing going on right now but I've been kinda having catradora brainrot the last couple days, and it helps sometimes. Whatever value there is in examining relationships in fiction and talk about normalization or whatever, I think one thing a lot of these pearl-clutchers who hate catradora with such a passion are very much missing is how very much a fuckup Adora is. I'm not saying she isn't a victim, I'm not saying Catra isn't a victim herself for that matter, I'm just saying that Adora's fucked-upedness is more socially acceptable because it's more pliant. She thinks she's without value unless she's She-Ra, and that fucks her up bad; especially since it's reinforced by Brightmoon all falling in love with her only, and I mean only, as She-Ra. Adora is a danger, a menace, and should be discarded. She must perform She-Raness constantly, and be everything they expect her to be, or else she is... unwelcome. Honestly, it's kinda like Ikari Shinji. I wouldn't bother bringing it up except I see it in real life. If one party is consistently more pliable because the way they were fucked up makes them unable to set boundaries or conditions, people love that person, but the person who is fucked up in a way that makes them angry or scared or scary is a menace, a terror, a monster. And god knows some of us could do better, and god knows I work on myself, but that inability to set boundaries, that feeling of worthlessness, that dangerous conformity... That's fucked up too. It's not better. I want to shake these pearl-clutching twits by the shoulders and yell at them "IT'S NOT BETTER." It's fiction. I'm neither condemning nor apologizing for anybody. That part's just not that fucking important. But this does mirror real life: if someone is the kind of fucked up where they're compliant and do everything you tell them to, that's not better.

[bucksboobs]

God at this point I hope Buck fists Tommy in the loft kitchen so y’all stop making this exact post every week.

[cdroloisms]

if you're still taking hot takes: a large portion of "dsmp" fanfics (sbi fics in particular) are actually just rpf fanfics about the ccs in alternate universes that claim to be about characters because that part of the fanbase views rpf as inherently immoral and thus feel the need to justify their rpf fics by slapping a /rp label on it

oh my goddd this one fr like "c!sbi is an established unit and then they adopt c!tommy into their family" is the premise of so many fics and THAT IS CC!SBI FANFIC. C!SBI DIDNT EXIST ??????? STRAIGHT UP DIDN'T EXIST . WHAT. "techno, wilbur, and philza made up the joint unit of sleepy boys inc and they adopted tommy within their ranks" is literally what happened with the streamers in real life like my god people . and when did that happen in the canon server lore ... ? LITERALLY NEVER ??

oftentimes fanfic in this fandom just borrows whatever dynamics they want from either the rpf or rp side like. "c!sbi versus c!dream" where the entire Point of it being "characters" is so that they can use their c!dream caricature evil dude (who coincidentally behaves literally nothing like c!dream)--like i'm sorry but i was here in 2020 and know what sleepytwt was like at the time, yall aint subtle (even if you're just carrying on the legacy of fandom members before you and dont actually even know the history you're writing lmao.)

[jmtorres]

you have GOT to stop telling people it's unreasonable to check whether your take is sane or extreme when extreme takes are all over the internet!!

"if your first reaction to [y] is to ask whether i think [x] you're the problem" no i've just seen plenty of ppl who think both [y] AND [x].

"[a] doesn't mean [b]!! it is bad faith to think [a] implies [b]! you're just assuming and projecting!" no i've literally seen people suggest [b] as if it were an absolutely rational and obvious extension of [a]!

like maybe x is not connected to y and a is not connected to b in YOUR personal argument but if other people are promoting that connection then it's not unreasonable to wonder if you think it and are just not saying it out loud! like the question isn't coming out of nowhere buddy, it's coming up because either you're unknowingly quoting extremists (or knowingly trying to pick and choose which parts of an extremist position you think are reasonable without understanding how the whole argument is fouled by extremist logic) or else extremists are knowingly co-opting your terminology!

i would dearly like to quote the actual examples but i don't want to have any of those actual arguments in my inbox for my own mental health. just know that while this has been genericized none of it is hypothetical

[emberfaye]

I've not been able to access Twitter much because it doesn't play nice with my phone but across the social media I use, I've only seen a small amount of people doing what I'm about to vent about so know I definitely don't think it's a majority or that it's everywhere, but it's enough of a voice to piss me off

As we know sos and js are marketing a new thing and today/the last one shown was a girl.

Almost immediately there was a "I hope this isn't a het romance" "oh no it really is a girl" "but I wanted it to be queer!"

And like yes. Sometimes people shoehorn a romance in but like????

Three male characters to one female character. But you're the one immediately focused on a het romance.

Not to mention like I hate how we know nothing about anything but as soon as a woman shows up it's a problem and they are inventing reasons why they'll still love it despite a female character.

And then also like women can be queer!!! Adding a woman doesn't immediately take away from queerness??

And it's so exhausting.

[jupiterjunebug]

Gonna be real gang. Half of these "this could have been more time for a women match" posts feel less like the op gives a fuck abt women wrestling and more like theyre scared to make a subjective opinion post so had to couch it in a second opinion they know is popular.

And by half i mean almost all, really, but I'll give benefit of the doubt and assuming some people just have a skewed idea of cause and effect

[dappy-dappernette]

Just a heads up this person is a Nazi :(

https://www.tumblr.com/militaryfashionista/740314002285084672?source=share (their blog theme and content- it's sorta telling if you wanna check)

Yep, just found out from a friend today :')

[windlion]

all right why are we acting like the sky is falling at tumblr again?

[reikunrei]

i mean this with peace and love. and it’s 100% bc i’m sick and therefore have no patience for bullshit. but why is the stranger things fandom so goddamn annoying. godbless you all need to shut up

[dogesterone]

oof ok yeah actually i see what this is all about nvm

[alethiometry]

the way that assassin’s creed has gone from

“i have lived my life as best i could, not knowing its purpose, but drawn forward like a moth to a distant moon. and here at last i discover a strange truth: that i am only a conduit for a message that eludes my understanding. who are we, who have been so blessed to share our stories like this? to speak across centuries? maybe you will answer all the questions i have asked. maybe you will be the one to make all this suffering worth something in the end.”

and

“i realize now that it will take time, that the road ahead is long and shrouded in darkness. it is a road that will not always take me where i wish to go, and i doubt i will live to see its end, but i will travel down it nonetheless. for at my side walks hope.”

to...... whatever the fuck we are meant to believe went on in eivor’s head during the final chapter because we saw so little of it on screen and had approximately zero emotional/narrative buildup (and no darby’s tweets do not count, if he wanted people to pick up on certain things then he should have written them into the last chapter instead of chatting in the access the animus discord or whatever. it’s giving i marlene king clearing up pretty little liars plotholes via post-show interviews lmao)

[queercatboyrights]

seeing a post on ur dash only to find the reblogs have been turned off already is like driving past a horrendous train wreck next to the highway where you can see the surviving passengers in all their misery and pain yet you are unable to actively do anything to help so you just keep driving down the highway minding your own business

[windandwater]

the fucking. catharsis of engaging with media where everything's fucked up but still kinda funny when you're fucked up but still around. I'm thinking of OFMD but it's not the only one that has me like "yeah people will just drop dead like that" where before it would have had me pretty upset.

I've never been through a heartbreak (hi, asexuality, would love to have it in queer shows occasionally, anyway) but the grief parallels are pretty 1:1 and like. I'm making opposite choices. I'm not being reckless. I'm not trying to get everyone including myself killed. by choice, you understand?

do I understand the impulse? I look at people who still have their parents, who are fighting with their dads, and just fucking hate them sometimes. the ability I have to not go apeshit is hard fucking won. two months ago I was standing at the edge of the ocean wishing I could go into it and not come out and I remembered that caring about people is more important than never being in pain but I did that shit. I was there. I stood on the edge of that cliff in my own mind and I turned and walked away but I was there.

I have a bigger support network. I have more people to care about in a lot of different ways, I don't think I'm unlovable, I am not the same. I've latched onto my family like a barnacle and they've latched back. we are getting through it together. but. yeah, that's what it's like in your head. and if that was the only person you had. yeah, that's what you'd do.

I think this website gets too preoccupied with passing moral judgments on characters. it's a story. it doesn't have to be right, or wrong. what's important is that it's true. this story is true.

[cdroloisms]

can stupid c!inniters hop off my friend's dicks for once

[farshores]

just, ugh, i already got a headache this doesnt make it any better

thing that just peeves me off alongside the huge consent issue is like???? you can just hire a freelance va??? there's plenty who do more adult work lol

[frogeyedape]

So, wow on the AFAB identifying as transfem discourse.

It's ironic how one of the objectors is like "yes I'm transfem but not a woman" is freaking out over a not-woman AFAB person using transfem too. Like...how is saying "I'm not a woman and I'm transfem" in any way saying "transfem means not fully a woman"? Transfem is inclusive of any trans people who self-identify as transfem, whether they're a transwoman who is a binary woman or a transwoman who is fluidly a nonbinary woman and nonbinary man or a transman who transes masculinity by making it more feminine or whatever

Being trans isn't about *what* your AGAB was. It's about whether your AGAB *changed*

The "trans" part's etymology: "word-forming element meaning "across, beyond, through, on the other side of; go beyond," from Latin trans (prep.) "across, over, beyond," perhaps originally present participle of a verb *trare-, meaning "to cross," from PIE *tra-, variant of root *tere- (2) "cross over, pass through, overcome" " from:

So say I'm AFAB. Assigned "girl." And what does girl mean? "A girl/woman can do/be anything" was a popular encouraging slogan in my youth, but it battled against all the misogyny of the time that put "girl" and "woman" in very tidy, small boxes. If I was assigned small-box-girl at birth and later stepped out of that box, across its boundary, might I not be transing my gender just a little? Still, I wasn't identifying as trans when I was a girl. I didn't know the word. [Tldr: i wasn't trans then cuz I didn't identify as trans then. Merely stepping outside of the small defining boxes of gender does not necessarily a trans person make.]

I was later Assigned Tomboy (hello secret 3rd cis gender where they still consider you a girl but like bad at being a girl)--Assigned Tomboy After Birth, shall we say ATAB? Does tomboy have one singular definition that encompasses all tomboys' experiences while excluding every non-tomboys' experiences? Is there a neat and tidy tomboy box that so many tomboys fall out of? I didn't fit in that concept either. [Tldr: my assigned gender changed before I even really started to grapple with what my actual gender identity was. Ain't that fucked? And no, I wasn't trans yet then, either]

I grew up, tried to step into the shoes of Woman, the adult version of my young Girl and Tomboy selves, and found Woman to be null and void. That's not me. And yet to be called Girl still when I am an adult is infuriating. I am not a child. Do not infantilize me. I am not now a girl. I am also not a woman. [Tldr: I was an AFAB person self identifying as not a woman. Still hadn't quite cottoned on to being trans, but it was definitely a part of the journey]

I rejected womanhood, studied gender and sex and bimodal distributions and decided fuck the binary and yeah fuck bimodal too, there's more than 2 ends the genders are spread between. [Tldr: I was officially calling myself trans. Just trans.]

My gender is largely null (agender), but also fluid (it irks me when I try on transfem clothing that my friends who think of me as not-a-woman see as kowtowing to cis feminity when I'm wearing a dress not as a cis woman but as a trans person who is acting unusually transfem--or, it's not unusual, I like pretty dresses, they just don't see it as much so they freak out. Just. I'm wearing the damn dress in a trans way, ok). I'm generally more masc leaning--butchy vibes without actually being butch. But I'm transfem sometimes, or just a little bit all the time, too. How is it transmisogyny to recognize the transness of my expressed femininity?

But I honestly think that's not the point of the objection. The objection is (using quotes here to represent speech, not actual direct quotes) "AFAB person calling themself transfem is transmisogyny because this not-woman is saying transfem [meaning transwoman] means 'not fully a woman.'" But. Transfem=/=transwoman. But the transfem [meaning transwoman] interpretation is like, beneath the conscious level of awareness, because it only applies to transfem *sometimes,* and the objector just...isn't seeing that. And is understandably upset at a perceived injustice. But like. It's pretty clear that there's a logical disconnect. And I think it's the implicit distinct definitions of transfem[feminine in a trans way but not necessarily a woman vs transfem[meaning transwoman] at work.

And I'd talk to the person directly but they've been receiving both well meaning and distinctly unfriendly feedback already and I don't want to add to the dogpile. I think we basically agree, even if the terminology is getting in the way: transfem belongs to trans people identifying as transfem, regardless of their current gender or AGAB. Trans that femininity! Yes!