#it’s not my fault if people really believe his only friends are work friends 🤷‍♀️

[persephoneflouwers]

I don't understand the aggressiveness of the last anon. Just because Harry tm is a manufactured product whose ersatz public friendships are shitbags doesn't mean he doesn't have real friends. Except we can't see them. And he must not have many (his finsta barely follows thirty accounts). The fault certainly with Harry tm which suffocates the true Harry. And that certainly doesn't mean the real Harry is like them (the Harry of 2015 isn't like them in any way)

I think one of the achievements of Harry’s team was to blend so unmistakably well Harry with Harry Styles TM. People get them confused lmao

I know for a fact he does have normal friends, always rich but at least not leech (Veltroni anon to thank). So yeah, I stand by my idea that all we see his business, even the people we see him with.

[wannabe-enigmatic]

Hi typology Tumblr 😮‍💨

It has gotten to the very sad point to where I genuinely can not type myself in any typology system so I wrote a little paragraph about me I apologize as it is all over the place but I did the best I could 🫠 if anyone is willing to help type me I’ll be more than appreciative- unfortunately I can’t offer much in return, maybe a follow and like spam? But thank you for reading this fair anyway and feel free to use anything I said in this intro to type me as well

Me: Okay so when I first meet someone- I’m very shy but polite. I give compliments if I’m trying to make friends with the person I’m talking to. Normally I like to be approached first

With acquaintances I’m myself but I dial down just a tad bit. My personality also adjust to the people I’m around with acquaintances.

With close friends I can be kinda loud but I’m very friendly.

Across all three scenarios I’m very sarcastic but I remain polite depending on how close we are.

When I’m by myself I enjoy listening to music while scrolling on Pinterest or TikTok. I do have an eye for aesthetics. I occasionally write poetry. I also can daydream when I’m alone. When I’m with others I am very practical and grounded and in the moment. When I’m with myself in in my mind. I am EXTREMELY passionate and it can sometimes come off as rudeness. I am also very sensitive and don’t take well to criticism of any kind Real life scenarios I have been in relating to me being passionate to my values- I value respecting teachers not only because they want the best for the class but because it helps the class flow better and acting out is honestly annoying so when push comes to shove I will say something like “Respectfully, shut the fuck up” but I just want the class to flow slowly

Also- I highly value respecting boundaries and my ex friend did cross one of my boundaries before so I did cuss her out on her birthday and then ghosted her but like it’s not rlly even my fault fr

Also I can get to work and be extremely serious when need be but I often procrastinate. I also really like material things. I have a fear of fatal accidents and things like getting kidnapped but I’m not a skeptical person. I also have a very playful personality with my friends. I’m also learning a foreign language and enjoy it. I also get emotional sometimes. I could see a video of a new singer living paycheck to paycheck and their video only has one like and it breaks my heart. I could see an overweight dog and my heart breaks because obesity in dogs is fatal and that poor baby wasn’t even trying to get fat. In response I get enraged with the owner/ who’s responsible. Sometimes I get mad at the person who’s also the victim because you know that artistic careers barely make anything but you chose it anyway now I’m sad for you but you brought the life upon yourself Stress- under stress I get extremely nervous however I try my best to rise to the occasion

Fear- painful / undesirable death, experiencing any traumatic event, poor quality of life

Desire- to be happy , be everyone’s favorite

1) I’m focused on defending myself more than I’m focusing on defending others but I’ll say something if I see something 🤷‍♀️

2) I value my autonomy but I will not hesitate to get other options. Following their advice tho might be a little diff

Authority- I to be in those positions. Loathe rude, stuck up, money centered , greedy, selfish authoritarians

Morals- very important. Would die on a hill for my morals. I keep an open mind to everything but my values and morals and truly do believe that they are correct

Success- in the sense of e3s I think fame, riches , etc but for me success is not living paycheck to paycheck, good social group, good career

Anger- I tend to be ready to express it but u funny way to get myself in trouble so I hold back sometimes. BIG BIG BIG EMPHASIS ON SOMETIMES

Opinions on certain things - Philosophy- very overrated. It’s glamorized thought process

Politics - the vast majority of politicians running shouldn’t be

Practicality- good to have

Intellectual- also good to have

Physically- keep yourself in shape ig 🤷‍♀️

Home and school life - Home- very tense, poverty stricken, argumentative, very chaotic

School- more relaxed, pressure on self , feeling not wanted by peers and feeling like I’m annoying

Songs I relate to - groan by daisy and the scouts, ride by Lana Del Rey, watercolor eyes by Lana Del Rey

[dearweirdme]

I think that anyone on twt these past couple of days would say it’s a toxic nightmare.

Kths & Jjk’s are fighting to the death & it’s such a shame - ofc anyone that loves Tae is so sad at the sabotage he has faced & also that the majority of the fandom has moved on so quickly to 3D.

It’s up to us to keep streaming & try to achieve what we can for that gorgeous, talented man.

But that’s not Jungkook’s fault- he wants to get his work out on the world stage & ofc he’s going to take advantage of the huge push he’s getting from Hybe - why wouldn’t he?

Jungkook is hugely marketable & he’s said he wants to be a huge pop star - he’s already taken off like a rocket & I fully expect him to have more bb #1 & probably a Grammy at some point.

During Layover, it became extremely obvious that the majority of Taekookers are Jk bias - numbers don’t lie & Tae, while he’s done so well, could have done so much better.

And now, large numbers of Taekookers are stopping being Taekookers.

But from what I’ve seen, it’s not because they blame Jungkook for Tae’s lack of promotion etc. That’s down to Hybe & no one else.

Sadly, it’s become obvious that Tk just aren’t together anymore.

Because what man would completely ignore his bf’s debut, never like or comment on his tiktok dance challenges or post a single thing for him, while constantly talking about & praising another man & having a holiday with him?

Unless you believe Jungkook is a total selfish dick (I don’t think he is) that behaviour just doesn’t make sense.

And let’s be honest, the whole ‘silent support’ & ‘BH won’t let him support’ rubbish that Taekookers use to self soothe…. That just sounds ridiculous.

Jungkook has told us he does what he wants & makes his own decisions- why would we believe that he can’t drop a like on a tiktok?

Personally, I tried really hard to believe Tk are still together.

But things change, relationships fail & we have no idea what their lives are like.

So yeah, I’m really sad about it (sounds a bit stupid when it’s people I’ll never know🤷‍♀️) & my heart hasn’t wanted to face the truth for months 😢

But they’ll probably remain friendly- 10 years + in the same group will mean there’s always a connection.

Hi anon!

So, this seems to be a hot topic again after Jk's short live. And I kinda get it.. maybe... but I also don't.

The thing that I get is that people are obviously confused about the total lack of Jk doing anything concerning Tae's debut. I also expected him to do something, nothing big, but something... and he didn't. So I get the disappointed and confused part a bit.

What I don't get is the negative conclusions around it. If anything Tae and Jk have been showing us their closeness this year. You think they broke up... but when would that have been? The Dream premiere was very clear, them at Yoongi's show together was all good, Tae supporting Jk at Inkigayo.. all good. So I absolutely don't think they broke up inbetween somewhere. I also don't think Jk doesn't care for Tae.. even if they are only friends... they are obviously very close and Jk loves Tae a lot. I also don't think Jk is selfish and their relationship is onesided/lopsided. Tae himself said Jk will do whatever he asks almost. If you look at Tae and Jk's interactions... Jk loves Tae just as much as Tae loves him. Which bring me to Tae's behavior. Nothing in Tae's character or behavior makes me think he would let Jk use him or let him walk over him like that. Basically... I just have trust in their characters I think. I think they genuinely love each other.

SO what could be the reason for Jk not doing something? I think the clue may lie in his recent live. He was clearly talking pr-strategy when he mentioned not having done a live to make anticipation stronger. He might have also been advised again anything Tae. I know I'm gonna get shit for this, but my reason for thinking so is that Jk not posting anything Tae also doesn't make sense if you think of them as only members or friends.

I know some make this out to be that Jk doesn't want to encourage Tkkrs. If Tae and Jk aren't together as we think and are just close friends... Tkkrs won't be much of a factor in Jk's decisions. Tae as a friend would matter way more to him than a bunch of shippers being wrong.

I don't know what the deal is exactly, but I am quite sure it isn't that Jk doesn't support or love Tae.

[annamelia-art]

Reflecting on this;

I have been in an abusive relationship in the past. My ex was emotionally, psychologically and (sort of) financially abusive. It left me a broken shell of a person, and it took me more than six years to be able to trust another person again.

But I was also toxic. I was also abusive towards him. I said things that were cruel, that I knew would hurt him in the worst way, in the places where he was most vulnerable. I'm not proud of that. I'm ashamed. I've apologised for my part in it, but can that be enough? He did me permanent damage. Have I done permanent damage to him? I still talk to him sometimes, but I've never asked, probably because I'm afraid of the answer.

I'm still not sure whether he clearly understands how much he harmed me, that he sees how our codependency and toxicity was abusive. Is it weird, to not know if my abuser understands that he abused me?

There was never any physical abuse. There was coercion of a sort, into a "poly" relationship that I now understand was not what that is meant to be, and that with the benefit of hindsight I should never have agreed to - I'm distinctly monogamous and so was our relationship, at least until he met her - but I didn't understand how to be myself without him.

We'd been a couple since we were both 18, barely even adults, brains not even in their final form. I'm still unpicking the terrible habits I developed during that time, my own fault, not his, although he probably didn't help.

I was already traumatised when we met, being undiagnosed neurodivergent, with undiagnosed mental health problems (depression and anxiety), and the product of a broken home (my dad is not exactly the poster child for fidelity and is likely at the root of my abandonment issues), with basically no real friends and hardly any life experience. I had never had any kind of romantic relationship (I had my first kiss at 18, a few weeks before we met, with someone in my social circle, who I then spent the rest of the summer hiding from because I felt too weird about it). He also had mental health problems, mainly depression.

With all that background, it's easy to see how we fell into patterns of unhealthy behaviour. I'm a people pleaser, so I was always determined to see myself as the root of any issue. I always apologised, whether it had been my fault or not, and eventually that became the expected outcome of any disagreement - especially because of two additional things; I can be really hot headed and lose my temper quickly, and when I get emotional, I cry. Because he was able to remain calm, he was always able to appear to be more reasonable, even if he had been in the wrong, or had instigated the disagreement, so I was always the one who ended up apologising.

He also started to undermine my confidence in myself and my abilities, and I don't know whether this was conscious or not. I'd like to believe he didn't mean to do it, but I've never asked. He used to call me "silly" or "cute" and if I offered up information he would sometimes discount it unless he had checked it himself. If I made mistakes, he would, rather than encouraging me to try again, effectively pat me on the head and tell me the equivalent of 'at least you tried'. Eventually I started to believe I was stupid, and to doubt my own intelligence and capability.

The worst was the way I ended up worked up over money, and in this I fully and completely participated in my own abuse.

When I first moved away from home I had absolutely zero idea how to budget or manage money, and for that I can only blame, I guess my parents? I can't learn if I'm not taught, and no one taught me 🤷‍♀️ In my first semester at university, so in about twelve weeks, I spent all of the student loan for the semester, plus all of my overdraft. By the end of the year, I had nothing. It really scared me. I almost ended up trapped at uni for Christmas but my mum being the amazing being she is, drove across the Pennines through the snow in the dark to come and get me.

After that, I became terrified to check my bank balance. I just tried not to spend money. But, being as I probably have some combination of ADHD/autism (I'm on the waiting list 🤷‍♀️) the impulse purchases happened. They just do. I just about made it through university.

After Uni I moved in with my ex and eventually we both ended up gainfully employed. We were engaged by this point, although actual marriage was never really on the horizon. We did decide to open a joint bank account though, to make bills easier, and in our wisdom decided to pay both our salaries into it. It was his idea, but I saw a fabulous opportunity - I could give up responsibility for having to Worry About The Money. I acknowledge that was unfair of me to do. I passed over all of the responsibility. It never occurred to me that I was also giving up all of the control.

It started with small things. I would rely on him to know how much money we had left in our account (because I was terrified of looking), so I would check with him if we had enough for a takeout night. When we went grocery shopping I would rely on him to set the budget, because he knew how much we were working with (although I tended to do a lot of the cooking). But over time it became me asking for permission to spend money, any money, that we had earned equally. I felt like I had to ask permission to buy clothes, stationery, books, hobby items. Quite often he would suggest, 'maybe next month'. I ended up taking out small amounts of cash and going to charity shops instead, rather than buying new clothes, which meant I ended up with a massive amount of clothes, most of which didn't fit well.

After our relationship died (quite dramatically, and taking at least one other down with it) I was even more afraid of The Money. I still am sometimes. It took me years, probably eight or nine of them, before I was comfortable using a cash machine without that feeling of dread pooling in my stomach. He didn't give me the fear, but he never did anything to help me deal with it. He patted me on the head and took The Money away, like I wasn't capable of coping with it. He made the fear worse, by making it something even more unknowable. By making it something I needed permission to understand.

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When I first married my husband and we set up joint finances I started to slip back into the permission seeking behaviour, except the first time I did it he looked at me like I'd grown a second head. "What are you asking me for? It's your money...?"

These days I'm the one that manages our household budget.

[roccinan]

Okay so first of all hi!

Second, I have something I HAVE to point out.

So in Ep 2, THAT EP,

When they show that whole Berlermo sequence everyone's going nuts about?

Which I would also like to point out btw, that it's so cute and I want to go Berlermo!!! But also let's not foget Martín is very touchy with everyone (he kinda touches foreheads and hugs and jumps on a lot of other people not only Andrés. Which also, you know how there's that stereotype that we latinos are like easy and slutty? I believe that comes from the fact that we are much more touchy-feely than other cultures and sometimes it comes across as amorous, and flirty and stuff like that🤷‍♀️).

And apart from that (at least in the part of latinoamerica where I'm from) that whole thing they do in that scene can be seen also as shows of affection between close bffs (that's the kind of excilarated dumb shit I myself have done with my bff, including the jumping on cause he's like a full head taller than most people so he's always carrying people around). So yes I adore those Berlermo scenes but for me they are not THAT MUCH indicative of anything as everyone else seems to think🤷‍♀️ (like yes, obviously the whole Martín being in love with Andrés and the 'soulmates' bit gives that scene a certain undertone, obviously, there's no arguing that. But if they were to be just two totally heterosexual best friends, that scene wouldn't seem weird or out of place either, just two bffs celebrating. Which gives Andrés like plausible deniability or whatever, dude's in fucking denial I won't argue that).

But that's not my point, so whatever. What I came to ramble about is this (also excuse the low quality pics, it's the best I could do):

In that scene we first see this:

Then we see this:

Then this:

Followed by this:

And finally this:

And this:

Now, you can't tell me that's not kinda like a parallel. It's a parallel, which is all good and fine (as I said. Normal shows of affection between bffs).

EXCEPT THAT BECAUSE OF YOU NO!

Why? Well, I'll tell ya why. Fucking Pagotá, that's why.

And that's entirely your fault.

So obviously, with that lil parallel my brain went😏😏😏, and now I'm in the process of writting another Pagotá fic which I don't even know if I'll finish (am like 1500 words in already😑).

All this to say, thanks a lot Rocinan. This is your fault and I hate you♥️.

Hi hi!! Always happy to scream about s5 (AND PAGOTA!!) together.

re: the first point: I love it too, and the way it was framed was so moving, like honestly such a fantastic parallel with "the love of a man" and "the love of a plan," and the fact that the plan worked definitely means requited romance in this lifetime or not, the undeniable love between them was real :') that ep gifted us with so much so much asdfasdf For me, it was the narrative framing that made my heart sing for this ep.

But you're right about Martin! As lovely as those moments are, now that you've pointed out how commonplace their body language is in Latinoamerica, the posturing(?) alone doesn't mean they're more than friends or fucking or anything (yet lmao). (But I think we can say that the framing of it was very pro-berlermo haha!) And it's always nice when "heterosexual best friends" are comfortable enough to casually touch each other like that without going no homo! every 5 seconds. I think that's a very lovely thing you have :)

(haha, the touchy-feely vibe is kind of the opposite of my culture (and a few other East Asian cultures), where even in het dramas, a forehead touch means this couple is official, married, and probably having sex that same night. So all the berlermo touchy-feeelyness this volume honestly blew me away!)

NOW, the main point of your ask asdasdfs OMG I literally had the exact same thought when watching it. I could not believe my eyes, they really paralleled the berlermo hugs with Pagota ones. tbh, I was mentally bracing myself for berlermo parallels with another ship, but was rewarded with Pagota instead. The whole Palermo-Bogota friendship had so much depth this overall season, and it just kept getting better. After berlermo, I'd say Bogota is now definitely who I'd want Martin to end up with. And Pagota endgame actually works?? Even in the finale, they were standing side-by-side.

so anyway, YOU'RE WELCOME, and love you too. I accept all blame uwu Pagota superiority!!

And I can't believe you're already 1500 words into a new Pagota fic!! That's so fast, and I cannot wait to read it! (Also remember when I promised you a Pagota fic too? I'll get on that after secret santa! This volume brought us so much new Pagota content!)