#it continues to be frustrating to me

[shadowmaat]

Mawwidge

I'm more or less resigned to the vast majority of popular, women-led fantasy featuring some kind of romantic element. It's tedious, but it seems to be baked in and I can usually put up with it for the sake of a good story.

That said, there's something particularly malignant about the subgenre of "strong, independent lady adventurer who don't need no man" inescapably falling in love.

Oh sure, you think you're strong and independent, but look how much happier you are with a man by your side!

I do get some of the appeal, from a storytelling standpoint. Many of us love stories like the 1999 version of the Mummy, but ye gods! It isn't quite as bad as the Hallmark movies where the successful businesswoman gives up everything for life in the country with some local dude, but there's a similar vibe.

The problem, as always, is less to do with the romance itself than with the sheer inescapability of it. It's so overwhelmingly present that finding books where romance isn't an element is rare, so the majority winds up playing into the societal mandate/expectation that women aren't really "complete" unless they're married or otherwise romantically involved. And the whole "strong, independent" thing, even unintentionally, is there to undermine the belief that someone can have a happy life without a steady romance. All you lady adventurers will eventually realize that you're better off with a man by your side for your future adventures.

At least the queer community has been allowed to flourish more openly in genre fic, so we can get M/M and F/F pairings as a treat (and the occasional triad or other arrangement). I'd like to see more of that, in fact. But I'd also really REALLY appreciate more stories with strictly platonic relationships. After all, "platonic" doesn't mean "unloving."

[stellaluna33]

The Jess episodes in Season 6 are SO gratifying (for those of us who, like Rory, would say, "I KNEW you could do something like this! I KNEW it, I knew it!") but at the same time SO FRUSTRATING, because everything about the way they were written suggests that they were making deliberate comparisons between Jess and Logan- comparisons in which Logan doesn't come off particularly well. Like they went to great pains to imply that: Jess knew Rory better than Logan (the birthday subplot), was better FOR her, was more mature, loyal, freaking noble, etc. etc... And then they just... never went anywhere with it! Logan jumps off a cliff and Rory feels guilty, and... The whole plotline gets dropped and they never talk about it again! It really freaking seemed like they were making a point, but WHAT WAS THE FREAKING POINT??? *flips a table!*

[tinyfantasminha]

Anyway. Any last words you wanna say to me before I drink bleach

I SHOULD HAVE NEVER GOT TEMPTED BY ANOTHER MAN BEFORE JACK'S BIRTHDAY 😭😭😭 NEVER AGAIN NEVER AGAINNN

NOT THE GAMER!!! GO AWAY I DONJT WANT YOU HERE

[uncanny-tranny]

Just a reminder that trans people, you aren't betraying anybody by transitioning. You aren't disappointing women, or men, or whomever because you have decided to transition. This is a personal decision, and if somebody put so much stake into your gender that they feel betrayed by you when they were wrong, that is (frankly) not your problem.

You aren't betraying anybody.

[thestarsarecool]

"Coming out of The Beatles, I'd kind of got burned by being told I was too overbearing. So I really backed off too far in the early days of Wings. Having to be diplomatic and say 'Um, perhaps we should do this' doesn't work either. You have chaos and confusion. Eventually somebody says: 'Why don't you tell us what you want?' and I'd think, 'I just got a bollocking for doing that!' There was a bit of that in early Wings which caused difficulties."

— Paul McCartney, The Word, October 2005

[art-from-the-juice-box]

gen loss dump part 2 :]

i have a gen loss playlist so the last two was me hitting randomize and drawing a pic based on the song before it finished. the second one technically isn’t that cause charlie’s inferno isn’t on apple music cause they hate me so it’s way more of the song out of spite because they wouldn’t give it to me.

[qui-gg]

Paco and Payjay feat @nutakuro gjinkas as usual

Plus im learning to animate

[greater-than-the-sword]

It's frustrating to be mellowing out as I age while everyone else seems to be radicalizing

[moltensmusings]

So I know people hate Kipperlilly and that's valid, but the tragedy of her existing as she is especially after the most recent episode actually makes me feel so bad for her. I hope the rat grinders get redemption.

Kipperlilly has wanted to succeed for so long, she had irrational hatred for her peers because she wanted success and glory and was unremarkable in her life. She was jealous and trying and thought that her unremarkable existence could be overshadowed if she simply was the best. But everything she did to get success only further cemented her into being forgettable. She gets so angry over this and as someone who was an irrationally angry teenager I get it so much.

And she was aware of this. She regularly visited Jawbone and we can't pretend it wasn't because she was selfaware of her own shortcomings. She knew her anger was messed up and I just know she was trying to figure out some way to get rid of it. Because being that angry all the time is horrible. She was probably frustrated and just wanted to cope. And jawbone helped. He wasn't perfect but he helped and that's why this girl from freshman to sophomore year kept returning.

She was self aware enough for his subtle questions to help her calm down. And yet an adult in her life was made aware of her mental health problems and chose to exploit them. Things she confided to a trusted adult got turned back on her leading to her and her party becoming tools, or dying if they refused.

Now kipperlilly isn't faultless. She's killed people, she's antagonistic and cruel, but her being a victim and a teenager just trying to get help makes me so incredibly sad for what she's become.

[ejsuperstar]

frustrated by a "non political" server im in, paraphrased conversation i saw

Free Palestine. If you think any other way. Unfollow me. I don't want you here.

[rthwrms]

lately when im doing things that are hard or difficult for me ive been thinking "i wish i was better at this" during or after finishing said difficult or hard task. or "i wish this was more fun" "i wish i could just do this thing" or similar neg thought spirals

ive been following it up with an "and i'm learning how to do that as we speak"

[allastoredeer]

I dunno why when it's radiostatic then I'm either indifferent or sometimes, rarely as it is, even like top!Alastor but when it's radioapple then even a thought about top!Alastor and bottom!Lucifer makes me wanna to gouge my eyes out haha

Samsies, Anon XD When it comes to radiostatic, I don't mind top!Alastor. I've actually like it on a few occasions of Alastor domming Vox. It's delicious. It's exquisite. Very yummy.

I think its the fandom-wide depiction of top!Alastor and bottom!Lucifer that turns me off from that dynamic. With Vox, Alastor gets to be more himself. He's not turned into this super suave alpha male dude (probs because Vox already fits that bill LMAO). Alastor gets to keep his fun and silly characteristics. I've seen more fan art of Alastor in a dress in radiostatic than radioapple, and I would like to thank the radiostatic community for contributing to my health. Thank you for putting my pookie in a dress, he looks amazing and beautiful just like he should.

And Vox gets to be his silly self too. He's still a boyfail. He's a mess. He's suave and charming, but obsessive and goofy at the same time. They match each other's freak.

From what I've seen, radiostatic typically feels closer to their canon counterparts than a lot of radioapple, which might be why I've been so drawn to radiostatic lately.

Their dynamic is so much more complicated and interesting than a lot of radioapple too, which is INSANE because Lucifer is literally the King of Hell, a prideful son of bitch, and an insecure, depressed mess who's been shown to despise Sinners. Alastor is a silly, girlpop, murderous Overlord who's rise to power is a mystery to EVERYONE (that should've been also impossible considering the assumption that he killed the other Overlords), he had an immediate dislike towards Lucifer that was never explained or expanded on, AND he's slowly been driven to (more) insanity because someone owns his soul, and that someone could very well be Lilith, Lucifer's ex-wife. THESE TWO ARE SUCH TASTY, COMPLICATED CHARACTERS AND RADIOAPPLE SHOULD BE THE TASTIEST OF SHIPS.

And yet, they're starting to feel like the oatmeal of ships. Bland and boring.

Don't get me wrong, I DO like radioapple. I do. I promise. I wouldn't be writing radioapple fanfic if I didn't. But it is hard to find enjoyment in the ship when most of what I see turns the characters into tropes and caricatures that strip them of all their tastiest qualities.

[rainy-day-wizard]

yknow i've met a lot of cool people in the twt and blue sky spiderbit community and i and they make some really cool stuff,,,, but man, sometimes it gets really tiring seeing so many people write cellbit as this tough and muscular dominating guy whos taller and roier as the shorter one who's always blushing and getting flustered when flirted with and stuff,,,

and like it's not everyone and it's usually not this extreme in a singular fic or art but it happens often enough that i feel kinda,,, :/

i don't wanna say anything for a few reasons, 1 it's even very present in stuff by the more popular people in the fandom, some people i really respect

and it's not even like an aggressive point but i still feel like it could upset people even though i'm of course not naming names. and yknow people can write what they want but but it's just. really tiring

i had another draft here that came off a lot more frustrated and acusitory because i was feeling shit and kept seeing this type of thing,,,

idk i'm just kinda sad still seeing all of this, but whatever it really doesn't matter at all it's fanfiction about cubitos from a mc smp that's been over for months so whatever,

maybe i'll delete this later idk i don't want to upset anyone or make them feel shitty for anything more just tired of this pattern i've been seeing and still often see.

[saturnvs]

equine therapy starts again today for the first time since … october? nervous 🫠

[motleyfam]

i juat want you to know that "settle our bones" pulled me out of not only a depressive episode but a creative block too!! can't wait to read the next installments if you plan to continue the series 🫶

I’m so glad it was able to inspire you! That’s so awesome to hear ❤️🥺

[vividstardustrevolution]

"What if Kotoko got worse?" Well, what if she got better? What if she could learn to see the humanity in others and actually protect people without hurting others? What if instead of committing herself so much to her ideals of justice that she doesn't know who she is without them, she allowed herself to be a person that doesn't have to constantly be saving people in order to be worth something? What if Kotoko could make friends with the other prisoners instead of looking down on them and pushing them away at every turn? What if she went back to law school and stopped being a vigilante?

What if Kotoko could get better?