#is there such a thing?

[writing-for-life]

Fandom is like celebrating a holiday…

Our individual fandoms are a bit like celebrating holidays—everyone who chooses they want to celebrate that particular holiday can and should (those that don’t aren’t in the same fandom, or they might like the thing enough—they’re just not actively taking part).

And everyone can have their own way of celebrating. Throw their own party (aka our individual blogs).

For some people, these parties have a motto. For others, they are pretty broad.

For some, they’re a private affair. Others invite everyone round and say, “Even if I haven’t invited you personally, you’re welcome. Bring your +1, people. Or even two or three…”

But the important thing is: They’re the party of the person who throws it (their blog). So serious stuff aside, *they* get to decide how they run it. What they talk about. The food they serve. The music they listen to (aka topics, headcanons, ships, what have you). They unfortunately can even be the worst bigots, in which case you might want to leave and never invite them to your own parties (aka don’t engage/block). If they commit crimes at their party or are abusive, you call the police (aka report). But you don’t have to call the police just because someone has different opinions about food. That’s just going overboard, and the police don’t like it either.

Where were we? It’s their party. You can bring your own music or food (aka topics, headcanons etc), which some hosts might consider awesome, while others might consider it rude. But you can’t force them to listen to it, eat it, or feed it to their guests at their own party.

It might come across as odd to bring meatballs to a party for vegans (aka talk about your ship on a blog that doesn’t ship, or vice versa). Some might be okay with your meatball consumption at their house because they know you’re not vegan. Others might not be okay with any meat in their house and show you the door for it. And very occasionally, you might run across a lapsing vegan who wants to try a bite—stranger things have happened.

However, they also can’t make you eat *their* food if you don’t like it. In which case you can either decide not to hang around and get food somewhere else instead, or you can decide to hang around and say, “Ah well, I won’t starve if I don’t eat at this party, the people are still pretty nice and I like it here right now. I have enough food at home I can eat later.” Or you might even try a bit of their food and see how you like it.

If you diss someone’s music at their own party (aka rant on *their* blog post), they might be a good sport about it, but don’t be surprised if they show you the door when you overdo it.

But hey, you can always throw your own party. And at that party, you can even say you thought someone else’s party had shit music or disgusting food (aka have a rant on your *own* blog). Do you have to do that? No, but you can. They might not invite you around again if they hear it. Other people might also decide that you’re bitching too much for their liking, but that’s okay. Witches and bitches are as much of a thing as Prince Charming and every other character trope. Everyone will eventually find and surround themselves with people they’re comfortable around. Awesome.

Well, not quite. There is a conversation to be had around holidays that some people would like to partake in, but they don’t feel safe to do so for a multitude of reasons (aka fandom is not a safe space for everyone in the same way). And we can all think about how to make *all* parties more welcoming to people who are new to these holiday traditions, or who’ve maybe made bad experiences with other holiday celebrations before. But that’s a different conversation.

So long story short: If you show up at someone’s party uninvited, they might welcome you, or they might not. Just don’t try to forcefeed meatballs to vegans at their own house.

Sometimes, it’s just a better idea to eat the balls (no innuendo intended, or is there? 🤣) at your own party…

[carrotblr]

ch 165 flag bearer vs. ch 310 blessed

[hawkmothdiemotte]

I think there can be any academia and the difference is colour

[kotonni]

I actually think Onyankopon x Levi content would fix me right now

[whumprecs]

is there any such thing as a whump comic? mainstream, indie, web, i've never seen one.

You know what, I would've sworn that there was, and that I had seen it cross my dash more than once, but I have been trying to find it since you sent this ask and I have come up with nothing.

So I am casting the requested into the whump community - anyone know of a whump comic?

[criminalmindsfanantic]

but fr please ask 🥹

Every single fic update there is an author trying frantically to find the right balance between a nonchalant aside of "leave a comment if you enjoyed =)" and clinging desperately to the coat tails of a random stranger, dragging along behind them on the street wailing "Please, please! I have to know what you thought! I'm desperate to talk to people about this! Ask me about the alliterative repetition! Ask me about the symbolism!"

[talisidekick]

A while back my pharmacist saw my deadname on my profile and accidentially called it out, he corrected and deleted my deadname from the system so only my preferred name shows up now. There was a crowd of people behind me, so as he hands over the pills he apologized, in equal tone and volume as when he called my deadname and lied saying it's been a long day and he didn't mean to call out -his own- name. I quietly told him it was fine and he didn't need to do that for my sake.

His response: "No, it's my name now."

I went to the pharmacist yesterday, his nametag is my deadname. He informed me he's immigrating and in the process he's changed his first name to my deadname to have an English sounding name. That's why he's now able to get a reprint of his nametag to be my deadname. And repeated, with the intense seriousness of someone who is going to die on this hill: "It's mine now. Not yours. I'm taking." His tone indicated that decision is final.

Bro literally deadnamed me once, and has committed to flat out stealing my deadname. It's his now. Legally. Officially. I over heard his co-workers call him by the name.

[grntaire]

HELLLLLL YEAH!!!!!!!

[calocera]

my pet mold spore

[willgrahamscock]

not now kitten, daddy's about to have a mental breakdown from seeing the prices at the grocery store

[macdenlover]

it came to my realization that 99% of my fandom related headaches would be cured if everyone understood this

[telebeast]

unoriginal joke

[koobiie]

shoutout to everyone who wants to infodump but cant string together coherent thoughts to form sentences and instead just look at you like this

[truetgirl]

Car Trunk vs Car Boot: A clear win for US English, trunk was already a thing in which you stored items, frequently for transport.

Crisps vs Chips: I gotta admit, the Brits have this one. They're thin slices of potato that have been made crispy. No chipping of any materials involved.

Car Park vs Parking Lot: Equally matched. What's a car park? A place to park cars. What's a parking lot? An otherwise empty lot where you can park.

Elevator vs Lift: Both equally fail to address that the damn thing also goes down.

[roach-works]

speculative fiction writers i am going to give you a really urgent piece of advice: don't say numbers. don't give your readers any numbers. how heavy is the sword? lots. how old is that city? plenty. how big is the fort? massive. how fast is the spaceship? not very, it's secondhand.

the minute you say a number your readers can check your math and you cannot do math better than your most autistic critic. i guarantee. don't let your readers do any math. when did something happen? awhile ago. how many bullets can that gun fire? trick question, it shoots lasers, and it shoots em HARD.

you are lying to people for fun. if you let them do math at you the lie collapses and it's no fun anymore.