#incredibly important question

[fleursdesmorts]

every year people get angry when ao3 requests donations but honestly in a world where almost all spaces online are slowly being eaten by corporations which censor the content on those sites, having a fan-run fan-sponsored place where people can create gay art without fear is great

[heartslobbf]

i dont knowww there’s just something about how both nanami and touga’s warnings to utena about entering the duel called revolution are essentially ‘you can’t trust end of the world or anthy’. and theyre both genuinely well intentioned about that because they do both care about utena’s wellbeing, even if someone (touga) is too misogynistic to go about that in a Normal way. but then you have juri, and all juri does when talking to utena about whether or not she’ll enter the final duel is ask ‘what are you going to do with anthy?’ and ‘you love her, don’t you?’ like. none of the stuco ever really recognise anthy’s personhood, none of them care about her, they dislike her. but juri sees how much utena feels for anthy and she says actually, maybe the way that you feel about her is important. and she tells her to do something about that (also!! anthy and shiori parallels, huge significance for juri’s character post-ruka etc etc). what im saying here is that juri is the only character other than utena to understand, or attempt to understand, what anthy means to utena, and why that relationship is important. there is no someday together without juri and that just makes me absolutely bonkers

[shirecorn]

I can't understand a word you're saying!!!

[smokestarrules]

So knowing how vengeful ilia’s parent come across in “smile” doesn’t that make Blake telling ilia “is this what your parents would have wanted” feel kinda distasteful? Like, Blake never knew them, but ilia did. And either way based on smile it kinda seems like they wouldn’t want her to be as passive as ghira and Blake have been for all that we’ve seen of them.

Again it sometimes Blake in relation to ilia is a white savior type who shows the angry POC the “correct” way to fight for her rights. Admittedly Blake is also an in universe minority but it just doesn’t look good all around

Okay first of all Blake's not white, so jot that down lmao.

The faunus plotline has never been RWBY's best writing, I think anyone who's capable of critical thinking can admit that. But what I do think is incredibly important concerning it is how Blake is able to heal and allow herself to step out of that same mindset. She pulls herself out of Adam's version of the White Fang because she finally gains the courage to escape from his abuse.

And she's not perfect. Of course she's not. She might've known Ilia's parents a little and she might've not at all, but either way, she's trying to pull Ilia out of the deep end because she knows Ilia's not entirely gone.

[skyward-floored]

What I sat down to do: write

What I’m actually doing: debating if when in IAU Sky and Sun have triplets if it make more sense for them all to be blond and then dye their hair when they’re older or to be born with strange hair colors or if it would make sense to just have the green one be blond since he’s like regular Link but also I could do it where when they get older their hair turns blue/red/green because of their powers or—

[fluffypotatey]

You know what. It's wukong fault. If he didn't want to fake date macaque he shouldn't have given his monkeys free access to television with romcoms and soap operas.

how was he supposed to know his soap opera times would be so influential to their minds! excuse him for having a penchant for drama!

[gothteddiesdotcom]

Maybe bordering on parasocial but dear god the way that you talk about meatz truly, no joke, gives me so much hope for my future love. I’ve always loved more than my partners, been more sappy and more sentimental and felt more deeply, but the way you talk about loving them makes me hopeful that someday someone will describe me the same way and love me as deeply as you love them ☺️ lots of love for you two :))))

It’s honestly overwhelming at times how much we care about each other. I’m very lucky to have someone that inspires me to love them more every day and it’s overwhelming to process just how much I want to share my life with them. I think from the very beginning of us starting to get to know each other better knew how badly we could fall for each other. I fell in love with how they looked at me and how they cared for themselves and the world and how they inspired me to be a better person to match them. The way they love is so complete and caring and addicting and it’s something I chase every day, to be worthy of their love and the person they want to give it to. It’s absolutely crazy that I met someone I want to align myself so completely with on nsfw tumblr almost 5 years ago and even crazier that we’re two years into our crazy relationship this week.

[not-poignant]

Would you be willing to talk about the idea of 'psychopaths in real life'? I know you've written them but because there's so much messy pop culture around the idea of a psychopath I've never been sure of what about the idea of them is real. Are some people simply born wanting to hurt people? Or is it the result of early major trauma, or innate? I've met a lot of very cruel people but I think I'd say they probably weren't like that with select groups of people (their friends or family) rather than people they viewed as targets/unimportant/sinners/etc... Probably? I suppose I think of them more as emotionally sadistic than as fundamentally incapable of empathy. But maybe I just haven't met the right people, or known them well enough. Just an invitation to share your thoughts on the subject, if you're willing.

Are some people simply born wanting to hurt people? Or is it the result of early major trauma, or innate?

If you had an answer to this, anon, you'd have an answer to one of the greatest mysteries of psychology and sociology. The truth is, we just don't know for sure. There's a lot of good evidence on both sides, depending on who you're studying, which strongly suggests that sometimes it might be the first, sometimes it might be the second, and sometimes it's both.

But the reality is we don't know.

Scientists really, really want to find ways of detecting folks like this before some of them turn to extremely violent or cruel crimes, so obviously finding out the causative genetic and/or social factors is extremely important to them. It would save a lot of money re: governments for a start, so this is an area that's had bursts of funding over the years. But the reality is we're not really a great deal closer to figuring it out.

We do know that some folks genuinely seem to have had no social causative factors, and others folks genuinely seem to have been shaped by their upbringing. If you want to go into this there are hundreds of books and articles on the subject, and you'll very quickly see that no one is in agreement and we still have no solid early detection systems.

I've met a lot of very cruel people but I think I'd say they probably weren't like that with select groups of people (their friends or family) rather than people they viewed as targets/unimportant/sinners/etc… Probably?

The fact is, unless you were with them 24/7 you don't know how they were behaving with friends and family. In fact, this is how certain priests and cops get away with so much of what they do. There are priests who have been kind and compassionate to entire congregations and then gone on to rape 30/40 children in cruel ways that have led to many suicides, who feel zero shame or remorse and who very obviously just wanted access to children in a job that would give them community trust without having to earn it. That kindness and compassion is a performance to secure what you want.

Secondly, perhaps they were good with friends and family, so was Gacy. Many folks like this understand that they need to strategically set up networks of people who believe you to be kind etc. Being a psychopath doesn't mean you're stupid (although some are, varying intelligence levels exist), often these folks understand that to get away with doing what they truly want to do, there needs to be a cloak of 'I'm fine and normal and nice' around them. The ones who don't understand this tend to go to jail very quickly (or die very quickly due to the circumstances around their behaviours - being a psychopath is not a safe thing to be if you can't pair it with an ability to be selective).

But maybe I just haven't met the right people, or known them well enough.

I'm not going to talk about specific details of my past but I will say it's likely that you just haven't met someone on this level and/or have but are just not in their target zone because they might just be in the periphery of your experience.

Folks like Crielle exist in the world, for example, and sadly it's often more people than you'd expect. But some of those people are also incredibly intelligent and manipulative. They often operate on a level different to most of us.

[ant1quar1an]

How many inbox asks/requests do you have?

That answer would be 42, including the UDBverse blog

i've gotten this ask before and while we don't personally care, i'd also suggest being careful who you ask this to because it can put a lot of pressure on some people and send people spiraling into a bad headspace (or further into it) because it makes them feel either guilty, not enough, etc

be careful and also aware of other people's emotionssss because not all people will respond the sameee and it's very important to make sure people are okay with the questions you are asking

[cowboyclassical]

This blog is my secret diary and i dont want to tell this to anyone else lest i seem self aggrandizing but i just got to use my stupid un-rewarding retail job christmas sales incentive check to put some money toward a cause that I did some research about and care about and that's really cool

I really hated working Christmas under new management in my dead end job but doing so gave me a new gratitude for it. Like yeah my job sucks but it gives me resources and those resources allowed me to create further goodness

Isnt that what its all about

[parsekian]

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[frogatz]

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