#inactromantic and inactsexual

[aroworlds]

[image description: three pixel art text banners of the word "aroace" in a blockish, pixel-style text, coloured in three different three or five stripe aromantic and asexual pride flags. Identities: aroflux (pink to green gradient) and aceflux (red to purple gradient), initia/inactromantic (black/light grey/lime green/dark pink/dark grey) and initia/inactsexual (black/light grey/purple/red/dark grey), partfictoromantic (dark grey/dark green/grey/green/dark grey with grey-outlined pink circle) and partfictosexual (dark grey/dark purple/grey/purple/dark grey with grey-outlined pink circle).

For each banner set,  “aro” is coloured in the corresponding aromantic spectrum flag and “ace” in the corresponding asexual spectrum flag. Banners are shown in two versions: one on a black background with a white frame, the other with a transparent background.]

Aro and Ace Pixel Art Text Banners

Flags: Aroflux and Aceflux, Initia/Inactromantic and Initia/Inactsexual, Partfictoromantic and Partfictosexual.

All banners/stickers are available for free personal or non-commercial use with credit to one of my accounts. They are not available for commercial use.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive.

[acore-ballt]

If I could may I get the Loquisexual / Loquiromantic / Loquiattractional / Inactsexual / Inactromantic flags for the acore pile ? ^_^ Of course you don’t have to all of them if it’s too much trouble, I don’t mind ! :D

Loquisexual - ( https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Loquisexual )

Loquiromantic - ( https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Loquiromantic )

Loquiattractional - ( https://www.reddit.com/r/XenogendersAndMore/comments/155bgax/loquiattractional/?rdt=53965 )

Inactsexual - ( https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Inactsexual )

Inactromantic - ( https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Inactromantic )

[io-archival]

[PT: (inact-/inacto-/initia-)romantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship, but doesn’t want or is repulsed by actions associated with romantic attraction

(inact-/inacto-/initia-)sexual: someone who experiences sexual attraction and wants a sexual relationship, but doesn’t want or is repulsed by actions associated with sexual attraction /end PT]

inactoromantic | inactosexual

(inact-/inacto-/initia-)romantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship, but doesn’t want or is repulsed by actions associated with romantic attraction

(inact-/inacto-/initia-)sexual: someone who experiences sexual attraction and wants a sexual relationship, but doesn’t want or is repulsed by actions associated with sexual attraction

alternate inactoromantic and inactosexual flags for anon! they use black, dark grey, and light grey to represent varying levels of repulsion and attraction/desire, green/purple to represent aspec identity, and pink/red to represent attraction!

flag id: the flag on the left has 5 stripes. in order, they are black, light grey, light green, pink, and dark grey. the flag on the right has 5 stripes. in order, they are black, light grey, bright purple, red, and dark grey. end id.

dni transcript here

[thewolfofthestars]

Very happy and excited to announce that I made a new picrew! This picrew will allow you to create personalized pride flags!

This picrew is free for everyone to use and edit as they so desire. You don’t have to credit me for it. My one rule is that this is not to be used for any commercial purpose whatsoever.

Here’s how it works:

The top row is for sexuality flags. The left side has flags for many different identities, and the right side is for asexual spectrum identities in particular. If you don’t identify as being on the ace spectrum, you don’t have to include a flag on the right–the flag you select on the left will cover the entire top row. This is true for all of the flags in this picrew.

The heart in the middle is for romantic orientations. The left side has lots of different flags for romantic orientations, and the right side has flags for aromantic spectrum identities. If you don’t experience split attraction, you don’t have to include this heart.

The bottom row is for gender identity flags. The left side has flags for many different genders, and the right has more obscure or specific genders, as well as a few other miscellaneously queer options.

The semicircle at the top is for pronouns. This part is also optional.

I’ve tried to include many different flags, but of course there’s lots out there that I don’t know and haven’t included. If you have a flag you’d like added to the picrew, feel free to let me know!

However, do be aware that picrew has an upper limit on how many options I can include, so if I don’t have any more space then I may not be able to add it in, unfortunately :( currently there is still space for flags for all of the parts; if that changes at any point, I will edit this post to let y'all know. Also, it will take be a little while to get a new flag added in, so please do be patient.

These are the currently available options, in order of appearance:

Top Left–rainbow pride, alternate rainbow (black and brown stripes), another alternate rainbow (pink and turquoise stripes), lesbian, gay male, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, asexual, quoisexual, abrosexual, ceterosexual, heterosexual, queer, questioning, trixic, toric

[MORE!] sapphic, achillean, diamoric, Sappho lesbian, demisexual, gray asexual, enbian, jaspian, gynesexual, androsexual, multispec, oriented aroace, angled aroace, aroace, iridian, opalian, unlabeled, homoflexible, heteroflexible, mspec lesbian

[MORE+] mspec gay, bi lesbian, bi gay, pan lesbian, pan gay, polysexual lesbian, polysexual gay, omni lesbian, omni gay

Top Right–asexual, gray ace, demisexual, aceflux, abrosexual, quoisexual, reciprosexual, lithosexual, apothisexual, nebulasexual, acespec questioning, inactsexual, cupiosexual, fraysexual, aegosexual/autochorissexual, placiosexual, lamvanosexual, oriented aroace

[MORE!] angled aroace, aroace, malasexual, acevague

Heart Left–rainbow pride, alternate rainbow (black and brown stripes), another alternate rainbow (pink and turquoise stripes), lesbian, gay male, biromantic, panromantic, polyromantic, omniromantic, aromantic, quoiromantic, abroromantic, ceteroromantic, heteroromantic, queer, questioning, trixic, toric

[MORE] queerplatonic, sapphic, achillean, diamoric, Sappho lesbian, gray aromantic, enbian, jaspian, gyneromantic, androromantic, multispec, oriented aroace, angled aroace, aroace, iridian, opalian, unlabeled, homoflexible, heteroflexible

[MORE+] mspec lesbian, mspec gay, bi lesbian, bi gay, pan lesbian, pan gay, polyromantic lesbian, polyromantic gay, omni lesbian, omni gay

Heart Right–aromantic, gray aro, demiromantic, aroflux, abroromantic, quoiromantic, recipromantic, lithromantic/lithoromantic, apothiromantic, nebularomantic, arospec questioning, queerplatonic, polyamorous, inactromantic, idemromantic, cupioromantic, frayromantic, aegoromantic/autochorisromantic

[MORE!] placioromantic, lamvanoromantic, oriented aroace, angled aroace, aroace, malaromantic, arovague

Bottom Left–cisgender, transgender, transfeminine, transmasculine, nonbinary, genderqueer, agender, neutrois, genderflux, genderfluid, demigirl, demiboy, deminonbinary, bigender, quoigender, aporagender, gender questioning, fluidflux

[MORE!] girlflux, boyflux, rainbow pride, multiflux, abinary, greygender, gendervague, pangender, unlabeled, butch, femme, futch

Bottom Right–nonbinary, trigender, polygender, maverique, genderfae, genderfaun, xirl, xoy, xenogender, neurogender, egogender/charagender, systemgender, intersex, polyamorous, drag pride, kink pride, queer chevron, alternate polyamorous (infinity heart)

[MORE!] androgyne, gender non-conforming, lunarian, solarian, stellarian, singularian, aurorian, autigender, parsgender, genderfaer, genderfaunet, genderflor, genderqueer, genderfluid, nebulagender, leather pride, catgender, snarlgender

[MORE+] dragongender, pupgender, demifluid/demigenderfluid, agenderfluix, aesthetigender, ambiamorous, vaguegirl, vagueboy, vaguefluid, vagueflux, foggender, foggirl, fogboy, fogfluid, gendernimius, paramegender, butch, femme

[MORE 2+] futch, spacalian, novarian, nebularian, cometian, phoenixian, pistolian, galaxian, meteorian, penumbrian, siderealian, universian, celestian, constellian, dawnian, duskian, daenixian

[MORE 3+] duenixian, equinoxian, hafian, solstian, twilightian, umbrian, wanian, waxian, atmospherian

Pronouns–she/her, he/him, they/them, she/they, he/they, he/she, ey/em, fae/faer, ze/zir, xe/xir, ze/hir, xe/hir, nounself, any/all, he/she/they, it/its, none, ???, she/it, he/it, they/it, kit/kits, xe/xer, xe/xim, xey/xem, dei/deim, ask for pronouns, nya/nyan, she/he, xe/xem, ae/aer, co/cos, cy/cyp, cy/cym, voi/vil, lyx/lyx, ro/ros, ri/rin, cy/cyber, ce/cir, bug/bugs, they/bug, ne/nym, she/neos, he/neos, they/neos, ne/nem, e/em, ve/vers

*brackets indicate that the flags in that section have overflowed into the next item in the list–they’ll be found in the options labeled “MORE”.

Plans for the Future:

-fun patterns! The patterns I have planned so far are bubbles, triangles, stars, paw prints, honeycomb, and bowling alley carpet. If any of you are particularly interested in seeing one of these patterns, feel free to let me know–I’ll move it to the top of the list. And I’m open to more suggestions about patterns, as well!

-of course, I’m always open to more flags and pronouns being added, too. At the moment all panels have open slots for new additions. Shoot me a message if you have a suggestion!

[mickeys-malarkey]

I know you added them in the tags but I feel the need to include them in text just because we get excluded from stuff WAY too often: demiromantics and frayromantics exist, too.

Anyways, we definitely need to just go ahead and start explaining a-spec labels side-by-side with their opposites.

Litho/akoisexuals and akoi/lithromantics who lose their attraction if they find out it's reciprocated? Meet reciprosexuals and recipromantics who can only feel attraction if they know the person is attracted to them first.

Bellussexuals and bellusromantics who like sexual/romantic-coded things but feel no attraction and don't desire such relationships? Meet inactsexuals and inactromantics who feel attraction and desire those kinds of relationships despite being sex/romance-repulsed.

Acespikes and arospikes who are usually ace/aro but occasionally experience random spikes of allosexuality/alloromanticism? Meet ace-jumps and aro-jumps who are usually allo but occasionally experience random spikes of asexuality/aromanticism.

You know what’s weird?

How demisexual is the most well-known acespec identity, but fraysexual is practically unheard of.

A demisexual, as many reading this may already know, is someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction until they have an emotional bond with the person. Basically, they need to get to know the person first before sexual attraction kicks in.

Fraysexual, meanwhile, is the opposite of demisexual. Someone who is fraysexual experiences sexual attraction to someone they don’t know, but once they get to know the person, the sexual attraction goes away.

It makes sense for fraysexual and demisexual to be mentioned side by side. The problem is, fraysexuality just isn’t known. So people making educational posts and articles about demisexuality don’t even realize there’s an opposite of it to mention. Meaning more people are learning about demisexuals while fraysexuals remain unknown.

It makes me wonder. How many people have come across the word “demisexual,” thought “that sounds like me but in reverse,” and moved on, not even realizing there’s a term for that? 

And how did demisexual end up as well known as it is? My guess is the term existed before fraysexual but I’m surprised fraysexual didn’t jump up in popularity once it was coined. Or maybe there’s just more demis in the world than frays. Regardless, there needs to be more fraysexual awareness. Fraysexuals deserve love, validation, and awareness too.

So here’s to everyone coming across this term for the first time, happy to have discovered that there is an “opposite to demisexual.” Fraysexuals are just as valid as demisexuals, and vice versa.

(As an additional side note: If you ever find yourself wondering, “is there a term for ___ but reversed?,” there probably is. Sometimes you just gotta dig for it.)

[just-graysexual]

Hello, I’m starting to think that I am asexual or graysexual. I thought I was bisexual because I believe both sexes are aesthetically pleasing to look at but I very rarely think about having sex with those people. I just left my significant other’s house after a make out session that he was more into than me. The whole time, I was thinking how weird this was and how I was a bit uncomfortable even though I like him and trust him completely. I’ve also had sex dreams so that’s another confusing factor. I’d really like advice from someone on the spectrum who could help me. I’m very confused and a bit upset because I’ve always wanted a relationship, just not a super sexual one. I also very much want kids one day. Please help me figure this out. Thanks.

Hey Anon, 

Don’t you worry. I know it’s really confusing and feels like a lot, but everything is fine and everyone is going to be fine. It most certainly sounds like you are on the ace spectrum somewhere and possibly on the aromantic spectrum too. It sounds like you have a great understanding of your feelings and your attractions, this is amazing; keep up the great work! The more you work on it the better understanding you will have. I promise, everything will fall into place eventually.

It’s perfectly fine to identify on the ace and aromantic spectrum, but still desire a relationship and want to be with someone. There is nothing wrong with wanting a romantic relationship. It’s also perfectly fine to desire a relationship that you want and think would be beneficial towards you. You can desire a relationship and close bond with a person, all without wanting a sexual relationship. Not wanting a sexual relationship does not take away or make the relationship any less valuable.

It’s totally fine that while during the make out session with your boyfriend you felt uncomfortable. It’s okay. It’s understandable that you didn’t feel right mainly because you were not into it. It’s okay to love, trust, and care about someone and want to be with them, but are not big on romantic actions like making out. Just because you were not into it does not mean you don’t care, love, or trust him any less. There are many people who are not big on kissing. Kissing does nothing for some people. You are most certainly not alone here. And there are many other ways to show affection than just kissing. 

Don’t feel bad about not enjoying the make out session. Kissing is clearly not something that you are into and that’s okay. There is nothing that you need to feel bad about. It’s okay to make out with your boyfriend, even if you are not into it, but to make him happy and please him. As long as you are okay doing it. Do not ever feel pressure or that you have to make out with your boyfriend. If you are comfortable enough to make out with your boyfriend to make him happy, then that’s okay. If you are uncomfortable then you don’t have to kiss him that intimately. 

Try talking to you boyfriend. Explain to him how you feel. You don’t have to tell him you don’t care kissing/making out, but that maybe you prefer a different approach. That you would rather kiss in a different way. Something that is more meaningful and passionate instead of running on emotion and feelings that make outs can come from. You prefer a close intimate bond, something that shows that you two care deeply about each other. 

Sex dreams are extremely confusing, especially when consciously you know you are not really into sex, but it’s quite normal to have a sex dream. Dreams don’t necessarily mean anything at all. A dream is just your brain processing information that happened throughout the day, your thoughts, or other things from your past and present. As you brain process these things it creates an image and you get a dream, which usually has something to do with what you have thought about or experienced that day or days before. Sex dreams can happen for several reasons. We are constantly bombarded with sexual things daily so it makes sense that every once in a while we have a sex dream. And other things can factor in this as well such as hormones, or menstruation, during these times people are more sexual so a sex dream is common.

Don’t you worry, there are many people, including aces, who have sex dreams even though they know for a fact that they don’t want sex or don’t care for sex. It happens. It does not have to mean anything. Sex dreams are not important or anything to worry about. Having a sex dream will never take away from your orientation or change how you identify. You can still be ace and have sex dreams.

It’s also super cool to not be sexual or want sex, but still want kids someday. There is nothing wrong with be ace and wanting kids. Many aces already have kids (biological and adopted). Being ace cannot prevent from having kids or what it takes to have kids. You can have sex with your printer for the sole purpose of having children one day. That’s perfectly fine. If you want kids then that is totally cool. You have every right to want children. It’s okay to be ace and want kids.

Based on what you told me, it sounds like there is a good chance that you are asexual, graysexual or somewhere else on the spectrum. Considering you rarely ever think about anything sexual with people you are aesthetically attracted too and don’t really care to have a sexual relationship. If you want, you can also check out inactsexual, bellussexual, or akoisexual. Incatsexual is where you want a relationship, but are repulsed or don’t care for the actions that come with a certain relationship. Bellussexual, which is considered the opposite of inactasexual, is where you are okay with sexual actions, but don’t want a sexual relationship.  Akoisexual is where you feel attraction, but don’t want it reciprocated, not interested, or the feelings fade once you enter a relationship. 

I also think you should explore your romantic orientation as well. This would probably be easier for you to figure out. Try working on your romantic attraction. I think there is a chance you could be on the aromantic spectrum too considering you said that you were not really into the make out session that happened. Try looking into cupioromantic, inactromantic, bellusromantic, or akoiromantic. Cupioromantic is where you don’t feel romantic attraction, but still desire a romantic relationship. Inactromantic is where you want a romantic relationship, but don’t care for or like the actions associated with that attraction. Bellussromantic is where you are okay with romantic actions, but don’t want a romantic relationship. Akoiromantic is where you can feel romantic attraction, but are not interested, don’t want it reciprocated, or the feelings fade once you enter the relationship.

Poke around and see what you can find. See what can fit for you and what can’t. Try some things out. And just because you are acespec or arospec does not mean you cannot have a wonderful, loving, and meaningful relationship or kids. You can still have all of these things.

You hang in there, Anon. You are doing an amazing job. You know you are aesthetically attracted to both sexes, now it’s just figuring out your romantic and sexual attractions to help figure out your orientations. Try working on your romantic attraction and romantic orientation first. Then try working on your sexual attraction and orientation. Based on what you told me it does sound like you are on the asexual spectrum. Asexual, graysexual, or another ace orientation can work for you and anyone of them would be valid for you to identify as. The final decision is always yours so go with whatever makes you the most comfortable. If you need any help, have any more questions, or would like me to clarify or elaborate on anything feel free to message me anytime.

[aroworlds]

[image description: six different cartoon-style bunting graphics, featuring six pride flags hanging from a brown rope. The flags are rectangular, finishing in a chevron shape, and have rows of brown stitching across the top of the flag and along the bottom of the chevron. First image in each set shows the flags with the topmost stripes facing the left; second image shows the three right-hand flags flipped, so all topmost edges face away from the centre of the bunting.

The first flag on each banner is an aromantic spectrum identity and alternates with the corresponding asexual spectrum pride flag. Banners in descending order: alithromantic and alithsexual, demiromantic and demisexual, duraromantic and durasexual, frayromantic and fraysexual, inactromantic / initiaromantic and inactsexual / initiasexual, lusiromantic and lusisexual.]

Aromantic and Asexual Bunting

Flags: Alithromantic and Alithsexual, Demiromantic and Demisexual, Duraromantic and Durasexual, Frayromantic and Fraysexual, Inactromantic / Initiaromantic and Inactsexual / Initiasexual, Lusiromantic and Lusisexual.

Free to use with credit to one of my accounts. Original files are available to download from my Aro Worlds Patreon or my Aro Arrows WordPress site.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive​​.

[neopronouns]

inactoromantic | inactosexual

(inact-/inacto-/initia-)romantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship, but doesn’t want or is repulsed by actions associated with romantic attraction

(inact-/inacto-/initia-)sexual: someone who experiences sexual attraction and wants a sexual relationship, but doesn’t want or is repulsed by actions associated with sexual attraction

alternate inactoromantic and inactosexual flags for anon! they use black, dark grey, and light grey to represent varying levels of repulsion and attraction/desire, green/purple to represent aspec identity, and pink/red to represent attraction!

flag id: the flag on the left has 5 stripes. in order, they are black, light grey, light green, pink, and dark grey. the flag on the right has 5 stripes. in order, they are black, light grey, bright purple, red, and dark grey. end id.

dni transcript here