#implications of family abuse

[ooglywooglies]

i will now share with you my sad dog tale because i guess im still doing this many years later (tbh im way better about it now)

my mom got this chihuahua tyson when i was 16 the summer we first started talking about leaving her stupid husband at the time (big piece of shit i wont get into it) and "moving" back to minnesota and staying with my aunt (the biggest piece of shit in this entire story but i wont get into it) and it was the first time i started self harming and making plans to kill myself

we eventually moved back to wyoming to tolerate stupid husbands bullshit a little longer, my depression got worse because their relationship got worse along with their treatment of me, my school life went to absolute hell and i basically spent all my time fantasizing about and planning my death

another yearish later after switching schools (from failing everything so hard there was no recovering) and husbands bullshit piling on we decided to actually move back to minnesota and stay with my aunt again, my mom started spiraling out of control and basically abandoned me to figure her own shit out but i was 18 at this point so i was going to get my first apartment

then i got laid off from my factory job and so the apartment thing fell through bc i couldnt afford it anymore, i had to stay with my aunt who was even worse than my moms stupid husband honestly, i slept on my dads couch for a month and the whole time i had this little dog with me, he was my moms but she was off god knows where and couldnt take care of him so i had to, he had to go everywhere with me

eventually my friends drove two states over on spring break (i think, they were still in high school at the time bc id just dropped out at this point) to come pick me up so i could stay with one of them, stayed there for a couple months, dog still with me

he was like, my son at this point like i really felt like a single parent with no home taking care of my toddler or something, he was small he could get swooped up by a fucking bird at any time and everyone i tried to stay with kind of hated him because he was a little chihuahua who didnt have the bladder capacity of a big dog, and im pretty sure he wasnt fixed so yknow he was a little prone to marking (but i mean, he was probably as well trained as i could manage) the point is not many people were very enthusiastic about having him around, and yknow, it was the same story for me anyway. he ran away a lot, living in a small town it usually wasnt hard to find him and chase him down but it was stressful.

eventually my mom found a house in minnesota, she wanted me to go live with her but this house didnt allow dogs and the landlord lived next door so there wasnt a way to hide him i had to give him to someone, it was really hard, after everything wed been through after feeling like he was my BABY it really hurt to have to give him away, i wanted him to go with someone i could trust but i didnt have options

a girl who was friends with my sister took him, she moved to wisconsin, at first i thought id have some relief, he caused me so much grief because hes so small and vulnerable. at least i wouldnt have to worry about him anymore. she never changed his tags that had my phone number on it, he escaped a lot, people called my phone but i couldnt do anything because he wasnt my dog anymore and i lived in a different state. this went on for awhile, people would call and tell me they wouldnt keep him safe because it was too inconvenient, i couldnt contact the girl who owned him, i just had to hope that shed figure it out.

finally one day she sends me a message on facebook, he was hit by a car and killed. apparently it was her dads fault, he was careless and kept leaving the door open, so i dont blame her i guess.

its been about 10 years now since all that happened, for a long time i had nightmares about finding tyson starving and shivering in an old apartment that id abandoned for years. i had so many dreams that he was still somehow alive.

he was such a funny little dog, everyone who didnt have to be inconvenienced by him adored him, people said he was the cutest dog theyd ever seen. he was kind of buff and brave but not too yappy, i taught him to howl and he had a very cute kind of snorty little howl. he was extremely friendly and got along with everyone he met, including other dogs. he liked to cuddle and sleep next to your head. i always carried him around in a little bag and brought him everywhere, i even brought him to school a couple times because my english teacher liked dogs and she really liked him.

i havent cried about him in a long time but now thats its been awhile it wouldnt hurt. i think a lot about how much he wouldve loved louie (my current dog) every big dog hes ever lived with he loved to sleep right on top of.

god its kind of ridiculous, how i was always expecting the worst to happen to him, ive always had ocd and intrusive thoughts about him were always horrific. i was always waiting to just get it over with but the universe really dragged it out for me. i feel bad comparing the grief ive felt for this dog to the grief people i know have felt for fellow human beings since but he really wasnt just a dog.

[autisticrosewilson]

So do you guys actually think that Jason's entire story, relationship to the others, and philosophy amounts to him being a rebellious teen who wants his dad's attention? Like are you 100% serious? I thought you were joking about that but too many of you are saying it with your whole chest.

And what the fuck is this "Bruce antagonizing Jason is fanon!" Shit I've been seeing? You guys are aware that a parent can love their kid and still be a shit parent right? I know you guys don't want to fathom the thought that maybe your blorbo might also occasionally have to face responsibility for consistently endangering children but let's not start being delusional now.

Bruce does love his kids, that doesn't mean that he hasn't hurt them. And I'd also argue that for the most part he feels in the right for it, and he's said multiple times that he believes it's for their own good, so you can't even argue that he's sorry about it. It's okay for you guys to admit that your PERSONAL INTERPRETATION of the character wouldn't do that but don't sit here and pretend that it's not a facet of the source.

[kacievvbbbb]

Can't believe this show just said that yeah these broken children that have finally managed to claw some semblance of family out of the train wreck their psychotic father made of them, these children now adults, don't get peace, they don't deserve it. actually the world is so much better without them in it. They are the direct reason why so many people they have met are not living happier lives and the universe would be a much happier safer place with them gone. They were pawns in their father's game and now they are victims of their "mother's" scheme. And this is all they get, there was never any happy ending for them in the cards the universe rebukes their very existence and it is constantly trying to write them out of it.

They doomed the world from the start, the blame is all at their feet and they must pay for the crime of being born "special".

The fucking implications of that my god!

That's the message you ended your show on. That is what you are leaving us with. Why?

[persephozee]

i am either the biggest Dina Fritz defender or hater depends on my mood

[heloflor]

Out of curiosity, do you have any headcanons on Cosmo’s father before he died? I think in one of your posts, you said he was kind of an enabler? I haven’t seen that in other people’s works, so I found that interesting

While I do have headcanons about his relationships with his family (so wife and sons) which I’m going to share here, I unfortunately don’t really have any ideas about more personal stuff, as in what kind of person he was, what was his job if he had one etc. Papa Cosma as I call him is a character I simply don’t care enough to put much thoughts on. I’m basically fridging this man.

That being said yeah I do have some ideas for his relationships with his family so here it is! (1.2k words below)

Starting with Mama Cosma, as you say I did mention him being an enabler. Thing is, I see the two of them as remaining married up until Papa Cosma’s death. And given the kind of person Mama Cosma is I don’t see ways for them to be “happily” married unless Papa Cosma tried to justify his wife’s behavior.

Now there could be other ways to look at it but I’m not the biggest fan of those. For example you could say Mama Cosma hid her true nature until his death but given they were possibly together for thousands of years, and since she has no issues showing who she is to everybody else, I don’t see this happening.

Likewise there’s the possibility of him being scared of her and only staying for the kids, with Mama Cosma possibility threatening him due to having the strongest magic and the means to take everything in the divorce, but this idea makes me a bit uncomfortable. Also I don’t really see why he would still accept to sleep with her enough times to have a second child if he hated her/was afraid of her.

So yeah, the way I see it Papa Cosma genuinely loved his wife and as a result had a tendency to excuse her behavior, even if he himself often had to walk on eggshells around her. He would for example say that her angry outbursts aren’t that bad, that maybe Schnozmo should make less noise if he wants to avoid getting yelled at, that she’s a sweetheart when she’s in a good mood. Basically the usual enabler stuff.

Tbh the fact Papa Cosma doesn’t realize just how bad the situation is would very likely be indicative that he didn’t grow up in the healthiest environment, so I guess you could add this to how his personal life was? Maybe he had abusive parents which led him to normalize this kind of behavior, hence why he married someone like Mama Cosma? 🤔

So overall, the relationship between the Cosma parents wasn’t exactly healthy, with Mama Cosma running the show with very limited push-back from her husband. Hell maybe Papa Cosma would draw the line at physical abuse (including using magic for physical abuse), which Mama Cosma barely uses anyways, hence why she could get away with the verbal abuse her husband didn’t call her out for. And if she did physically abuse Schnozmo, she’d do it behind Papa Cosma’s back, and if the kid says something she’d justify/downplay her actions, which her husband would buy.

Now Papa Cosma’s relationship with Schnozmo would be a bit more complicated. Thing is, I see Papa Cosma as the more involved parent and I could definitely see him as a very loving father, but also he lets his wife get the final say in a lot of things including their son being grounded for trivial reasons. The most he could do would maybe be to shorten some of those groundings, or if some of said groundings have to do with Schnozmo being forced to skip a meal, he’d still bring his son some food “in secret” (not sure how secretive it would be, maybe Mama Cosma just wouldn’t care that much about whether or not the kid eats when grounded, just as long as she doesn’t have to see his face at the moment).

So I think their relationship would be a mixed bag. Papa Cosma is the more involved and loving parent so Schnozmo would be closer to him, but at the same time he’d be frustrated by the way his father lets his mom get away with everything. Though at a younger age Schnozmo would probably blame his mom for it, thinking his dad’s just a happy idiot for not noticing anything’s wrong. But had Papa Cosma lived longer, Schnozmo probably would have still ended up acting out for attention as a teen, becoming a con artist and cutting contact with both of his parents. He was definitely more forgiving of his father’s shortcomings as a child due to seeking out any form of affection from a parental figure, but as an adult he wouldn’t let it slide.

Also writing this down is making me realize that I’m basically making Schnozmo be more like his mom, having her wit and manipulation, while Cosmo is more like his dad, having a bigger heart and being naive. Not sure how Cosmo having more in common with his dad would play out in how his mom and brother treat him though. Like this could definitely be one of the reasons why Mama Cosma is like thatTM, but I don’t know how Schnozmo would be influenced by it when interacting with Cosmo. At the very least Schnozmo would have a similar “happy idiot” mentality towards Cosmo growing up, given what we see in his episode.

Speaking of Cosmo, I feel like the main thing Papa Cosma felt about him was concern. He was not expecting an overpowered baby, and being the magically weakest member of this family didn’t help. This man was just not equipped to deal with such a powerful baby, which could explain why the one flashback we have of him in the show features both him and Mama Cosma looking after Cosmo.

On that note, Mama Cosma seems like someone who loves babies so from Cosmo’s birth she likely was the one mainly taking care of him, as in she wanted to take care of him and was being possessive about him so her husband kept his mouth shut and let her have it. That doesn’t mean Papa Cosma didn’t bond with Cosmo, he absolutely did and loved his baby, it’s just that Mama Cosma was spending more time with Cosmo, and the fact she was slightly more able to handle the kid (not by much tough) helped.

Tbh maybe during that short time between Cosmo’s birth and the fly incident, Papa Cosma was spending more time with Schnozmo since Mama Cosma was basically ignoring him to focus on her new baby, both because baby and because op magic. This could be a reason why Papa Cosma’s death impacted Schnozmo, as he felt like he lost the one adult he could rely on just as said adult was being a better parent.

But yeah, in the end Papa Cosma loved Cosmo and spent time with him whenever he could, preferably with his wife around to help with Cosmo’s unstable magic, but his time with his baby was short-lived. Had he been around longer, I feel like Mama Cosma would have been less clingy of Cosmo since she had her husband for that, especially given that Cosmo was able to put some boundaries (ditching her to get married).

I do wonder if maybe Cosmo’s childhood might have been a bit easier, if only because Papa Cosma would be better at comforting him (and meaning it) than his wife. Like Papa Cosma would have wanted to help Cosmo with his magic but unlike his wife wouldn’t see his son as the problem.

On top of that Cosmo probably wouldn’t have cut contact with his mom, if only so he can still interact with his dad. Idk I feel like once married Cosmo might try to hint to his dad that maybe staying with Mama Cosma isn’t the smartest choice. Schnozmo maybe tried to tell him as well but gave up quickly enough. Then again Cosmo can be pretty naive and not realize just how bad his mom is, and who knows maybe Mama Cosma would have been more fine with Cosmo getting married, though she’d probably still make a lot of passive-aggressive comments.

So yeah, that’s all I’ve got for Papa Cosma. Hope it’s enough!

[1tsjusty0u]

THE HYRULEAN ROYAL FAMILY/ARMY BECAME SO MYCH MORE SUSPICIOUS ALL OF A SUDDEN

[devilsskettle]

also you guys know that “generational trauma” means like. passed down through several generations, right? in the haunting of hill house tv series, the trauma is experienced by the characters directly, it just happens to have effected their whole family. because it happened directly to their whole family

[libraryleopard]

Adult cozy fantasy novel

When an antisocial librarian flees a revolution and takes refuge in her childhood home, she begins to use the unsanctioned spellbooks rescued from the library to a secret spellshop disguised as a jam store

[mclwcc]

are we really doing the max verstappen is a danger to the grid and society thing in 2025 i rly thought we moved past that

[diaryofamadsunwukongfan]

There are a lot of implications here, so let's just throw away the whole suitcase.

[extrakerestrial]

Did anyone else notice this in the new chapter? The teacher who is terrified of his wife to the point of having symptoms of PTSD mentions his wife dismissing him with a heavy/long sigh whenever he tries to talk to her. Exactly like Donovan did to Damian when Damian attempted to talk with him. It might be nothing more then coincidence in the writing but I don’t think it is. It’s a really small detail that could easily be overlooked but to me it feels intentionally put there. It makes me wonder if this chapter is supposed to offer us more ideas to what the Desmond Household is like without directly telling us about their home life.

[krikeymate]

Double whammy of the Sam with a 10 year age difference having a conniption cause Tara is trying to go around sleeping with random guys

Sam was NOT prepared for handling a teenager, let alone a teenager with PTSD. She's barely feels like an adult herself, and only two years after finally getting her mother out of their lives, her little sister is nearly killed, all because of her.

Tara's 14 (&3/4) when Amber and Ritchie try to kill her in this AU, so let's not try and make that too 😬... hmm, got it.

In the aftermath, she does not cope well.

Tara's always had moments where she's chafed against Sam's authority, where she's been distant, especially since she became her legal guardian, but nothing like this. Sometimes it feels like Amber had managed to kill Tara after all, and she's left trying to care for a ghost. Sam wishes she could kill her all over again... and again, and again, for the rest of eternity, for the anguish she's caused her girl.

The attack at the hospital and again at Amber's only makes her injuries worse. In the end, it takes her leg 4 months to heal, and she was confined to the bed full-time for a month, with another month of being confined mostly to her bed. Needless to say, she doesn't cope well. Tara's not a baby anymore, and she can't stand to be coddled, can't stand the reminder that she isn't like the other girls in her class. She can't stand the fact she can't even dress and undress herself in this state. Can't stand to think of Amber.

And the pain, it's constant, it's everywhere, in her body, in her heart, in her head. The only time she's somewhat happy these days is under the influence of the painkillers that leave her floating between awake and asleep, where everything is fine and good. Sam can't bear to see her sister in this state, drugged up and absent. It's the only time she sees her sister smile anymore, and it hurts. But it's the only thing that keeps her going, and Tara's constantly in pain, so she keeps refilling the prescription. Later, she'll wish she was stronger, she'll wish she had listened to the part of her that said something was off. But Sam's never listening to herself, to anyone, over her sister.

Tara takes painkillers long after she needs them, and eventually, they stop providing the void she's always searching for. So she finds other options. Tara's newly 17 and lying beneath some guy, drugged out of her mind, in the basement of someone's house. They'd been making out for what felt like hours, when she felt his hand slip down her trousers, and then her sister had stormed into the room, throwing fists. What happens after that is as foggy as what came before that.

They move to New York.

Apparently, Sam is best friends with Gale fucking Weathers these days, because Sam gets a job with her, and that job apparently comes with an apartment. Tara finishes her school career online, in the corner of a studio or in a dressing room or the back of a news van, wherever Sam or Gale go, Tara is stuck being dragged around by them. She knows why. She's not stupid. She kind of hates Sam for it. She hates herself more for thinking such a thing, for being so weak.

She still has her vices, despite it all Sam never took her privacy from her. So Tara still has seedy chats and pictures and videos to distract herself with when she's feeling empty. It feels good to be loved, adored, for a little while. She can't bear to expose the emptiness inside of her to Sam, can't bring herself to talk about what happened to the therapists, to talk about Amber. Or the things she said, the things she did.

She's nearly 18 when they're attacked again. Ethan, Sam's clumsy assistant with the sweet smile and who always had a kind word for Tara, and their neighbour, Quinn, who liked variety in her men. Some of those men had little brothers she would introduce to Tara. They're Ritchie's family, and they want revenge.

Tara begins sleeping around as a coping mechanism after that. She won't go back to the drinking, and the drugs, she doesn't want to do that to Sam again. Her sister already has so much going on, she doesn't want to add to that. It doesn't even occur to her how much this would hurt her as well.

[dovedrangeas]

the good ol "i dont see my child as an individual with their own mind, thoughts, opinions, and unique needs, and instead i see them as an object that i can control and make plans and set up expectations for for without problem or consideration, and if they aren't in the narrow boundaries of what i want them to be, i will act like they have died and talk about how hard this is for ME" special

[twothpaste]

a long-looming intermission au question in the back of my head is "what the absolute hell was going on with flint and hinawa back in tennessee." the details remain erratic and fuzzy, but if/when i ever hash it out it's so fucking over.

[beeapocalypse]

saw a post a while ago talking abt the for fun idea of samarie being related to caligura in some way (post was specifically abt her being his niece i think ?) and i didnt rlly think abt it much then but now its haunting me. could you imagine

[llycaons]

mexican gothic is really fucking good huh