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inkskinned · 5 months ago

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the thing about some men is that they want you to remember, at all times, that you are underneath them. that with one word or look or "joke", you will stay beneath them. that even "exceptions" to the rule are not true exceptions - the commonly cited statistic that one in eight men believe they could win against serena williams.

women's gymnastics is often not seen as real gymnastics. whatever the fuck non-euclidian horrors rhythmic gymnasts are capable of, it's often tamped down as being not a sport. some of the most dominant athletes in the world are women. nobody watches women's soccer. despite years of dancing and being built like a fucking brick, men always assume they're faster and stronger than i am. you wouldn't like what happens when they are incorrect. once while drunk at a guy's house i won a held-plank challenge by a solid minute. the party was over after that - he became exceedingly violent.

what i mean is that you can be perfect, and they still think you're ... lacking, somehow. i hope you understand i'm trying to express a neutral statement when i say: taylor swift was the possibly the most patriarchy-palatable, straight-down-the-line woman we could churn out. she is white, conventionally attractive, usually pretty mild in personality. say what you will about her (and you should, she's a billionaire, she can handle it), but a few things seem to be true about her: 1. she can write a damn catchy song, and 2. the eras tour truly was a massive commercial success and was also genuinely an impressive feat of human athleticism and performance.

i don't know if she deserves the title of "woman of the year," i'm not debating that in this post. what i am saying is that she was named Woman of The Year, and then an untalented man got onstage at the golden globes and made fun of her for attending her boyfriend's football games. what i am saying is that this woman altered local economies - and her dating life is still being made into a "harmless" punchline. the camera panned, greedy, over to her downing a full glass of champagne. congratulations taylor! you are woman of the year! but you are a woman. even her.

fuck, man. write better material.

a guy gets onstage at a college graduation and despite the fact like half the crowd is made up of women, he spends a significant proportion of it warning these people - who spent possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars on their education - that they were lied to. that the "real" meaning of femininity is motherhood. that they shouldn't rest on the laurels of that education-they-paid-for but instead throw it away to kneel at a man's heel. imagine that. sweating in your godawful polyester gown (that you also had to pay for!), fresh out of 4 years of pushing yourself ever-harder: and some guy you've never met - who knows nothing about you - he reminds you this "win" is a pyrrhic one at best. you really shouldn't consider yourself that extraordinary. you're still a woman, even after years of study.

god forbid you are not a pretty woman, but if you are pretty, you must be dumb. god forbid you are not ablebodied or white or cis or straight or good at swallowing. you must be beneath a man, or else they are not a man. the equation for masculinity seems to just be: that which is not a woman or womanly (god forbid). anything "feminine" is thereby anathema. to engage in "feminine" things such as therapy, getting a hug from a friend, or crying - it is giving up ones manhood. therefore women need to be put in their place to ensure that masculinity is protected.

this is something i have struggled to explain to terfs - they are not doing the work of feminism, but rather the patriarchy. by asserting that women and men must be (on some secret level) oppositional and in conflict, they also assume that being a woman is akin to being another species. but bigotry does not stem from observational truths or clarity - that is what makes it bigotry. there was nothing in my childhood that made me fundamentally different from my brother. we are treated differently nonetheless. to assert there is some biological drive that enforces my gender role is to assert that women have a gendered role. men do not see women as equal to them not because of biological reality - but instead because the core tenant of the patriarchy is that women aren't full, realized people.

we are told from a very young age to excuse misbehavior as a single man's choice - not all men. it is not all men, just that one guy. all women are gold-digging bitches who belong in the kitchen - but if a man is mean, bigoted, or violent to you, it's just that particular guy, and that means nothing about men-as-a-whole. it is only one guy who got mad when you gently rejected him. it is only one guy who warns her this trophy is heavy, are you sure you can hold it? it is only one guy who smashes her face into the cake. it is only one guy talking into a mic about hating our bodily autonomy.

i have just found that they often wait until the moment we actually seem to be upstaging them. you sit in a meeting where you're presenting your own findings and he says get me a coffee? or you run to the end of the marathon and are about to finish first and he pushes your kids out in front of you. you win the chess game and they make some comment akin to well, you're ugly away. we can be the billionaire and get the dream life and finally fucking do it and yet! still! they have this strange, visceral urge to say well actually, if you think you're so great -

it's not one just one guy. it's one in eight.

#posting my drafts #i want to stress im a taylor swift enjoyer. sorry.#also if someone wants to venmo me for the radfem hate i get daily i need like 60 bucks #someone stole my taylor swift official merch quarter zip :(#the point im specifically making in the tswift paragraphs i hope is clear which is like.#taylor is not threatening their ideas of masculinity or femininity. she is incredibly milquetoast. i mean i love her #but there's nothing about her that challenges the status quo. EXCEPT for her success.#and that's what pisses so many men off: the success.#so if THE VISION of white heteropatriarchy STILL is being treated this way.....#what do you think is happening to minority populations??#i just feel like be annoyed w/her about real things but being weird about her dating someone is like #soooooooooooooooooooooo fucking annoying. like ya know????#[said with the knowledge i need you to be soooo normal about how you interpret this entire piece and also these tags]

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supercalime · 7 months ago

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Just thought about sharing this frame right here

Do with it what you will

#the split second before the lips touch are always my favorite part to analyze like a psycho #sorry about the motion blur #this was a bitch to screenshot but I had to #for science #also can you tell that I really like Tommy and buck together and want them to be endgame?#I’ll hide the next bit in the tags cause some shippers are scary:#I don’t really want buddie to happen #im not against it but there is something about eddies actor #that makes me feel like he’s one of those bros is fine with gay people but not near him #and this is purely my own impression #I don’t think he said or done anything to give that impression #you know how there are certain actors who simply refuse to kiss men because of fragile masculinity #because I’m straight bro #anyway #Back to Tommy and buck #I really like them together and they better have at least one kiss as intense as buck had with other partners in the past #not just a peck like last week to get diversity points #ya know #shmexy kisses #lety rambles #tuck #bucktommy #evan buckley #tommy kinard #911 #911 abc #oliver stark #lou ferrigno jr

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codacheetah · 5 months ago

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The start of the Loop segment of the Siffrin & friends twitter QNA, and the message that flipped Loop's answers from silly to dodgy and blatantly upset.

Loopchat from speaking to Loop 20+ times.

Certified Loop dysphoria post

#isat loop #isat spoilers #i was gonna make a whole semisilly post abt how i think the public perception of loop as 'cunty' is kind of funny #(has bought into it before)#but to be honest it just made me start thinking more abt how loop perceives themself.#loop telling siffrin not to die too early so they have more time to go :( at siffrin's drawing. or well i guess it'd be :#man.#it does....interest me #siffrin seems to not be particularly dysphoric in like a gender sense. expresses interest in body craft but thinks #(You dont mind inhabiting this meat prison for the time being.) as well so #but by becoming a star loop kind of. simultaneously loses the freedom to Change the way they want to. no guarantee bodycraft works on stars #and loses the comfort of inhabiting their own body #congrats on the new body loop! sorry about the dysphoria #for as much as it's fun to poke at loop for being very obvious once you Know #it does. resonate something with me i guess that of all things this is one of the few things that loop isn't very good at deflecting about.#(in the sense of cutting the conversation short before it becomes capital o Obvious they are upset anyways)#i'm aware they were already transgender before becoming a star. but very transgender of you loop #oh! i guess i can say on the topic of cunty loop #it's kind of funny. like im not immune to drawing Cute Loops or making them silly and dramatic and flirty #and i think the thread of Drama they show on top of their not-typically-masculine (ig???) demeanor and flirting with siffrin #makes the perception of them as like. there has to be a better word than cunty but. cunty. somewhat understandable #once more the loop has deceived you. i mean i do think the drama is a little bit real they are a hashtag theater kid #but they have deceived you. you have fallen into their spiderweb of believing they are anything other than the world's most miserable beast #with your help we can crowdfund enough silver coins to buy loop a dysphoria hoodie. if we hit our stretch goal it can have a print on it

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blinday · 10 months ago

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It is lovely to me how Zelda in the games showcases how the feminine power works. The game's protagonist is Link, but Zelda is in the title. We play ad Link, but everything we do is somehow related to Zelda. She is the meaning behind every step, and the reason Link grows, because he wants to save her. And in turn, Zelda takes care of Link, of the kingdom.

She is strong without needing to wield a sword, independent without refusing to be helped, a warrior that fights in ways more complex than physical. Link is the main character, he makes the decisions on what happens through the adventure, but Zelda is the soul. There wouldn't be an adventure without her.

#that's a relationship parallel I think #how partners need to trust each other #bc men and women are NOT the same. and that's beautiful #both are important and beautiful and valid #idk i just love the differences between masculinity and femininity. its so wonderful. we were sculpted into something to be loved #moron on a screen #sorry im just rambling now #link #zelda #the legend of zelda #botw #loz totk #loz botw #loz oot #i might have drawn parallels between Zelda and the Virgin Mary. im not sorry they're both being microwaved in my head

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lesbians4armand · 1 year ago

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tommy is so girlcoded. female hysteria as a man. eldest daughter trauma. weird psychosexual relationship with father/father figures and parallels. manipulated for his appearance and sexuality. its a thought

#this isn’t feminising him necessarily it’s about the themes #this is exactly why men don’t understand him the way a girl can #i do hate the male icon sigma alpha thing projected onto him because you’re missing the point entirely #STILL thinking about that deleted scene with the s/a parallel #and the things we know about his childhood adds to it #its so fascinating how so many people completely missed the point #not only seeing him as a good example of masculinity but as an example of masculinity at all when at the core his themes are so -#- traditionally feminine at the core. He is the ophelia the wife who lost a husband the girl interrupted #he is his mothers daughter.#im fucking. ah #peaky blinders is a show for girls and girl adjacents sorry not sorry #thinking about ‘everyone’s a whore’#its certainly an addition #tommy shelby #peaky blinders

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weareweirdpeople · 4 months ago

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sorry I can't work right now, I actually have to take a nap with my stuffed animals and pillows or dream of a world where I can just sit and play and be taken care of like a little puppy all day, im not actually sorry.

#how do i tag this #my brain is silly #non human #alter human #I am not human #I am silly little puppy #sorry i dont make the rules #I am puppy #I am dog #The masculine urge to be taken care of like a puppy #The desire to be taken care of like a puppy #Come on guys can't your see im just a puppy #I can't do math and school work #I just need love and comfort and care #Can't you tell???#idk what to tag this as #Idk im a puppy

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erisolkat · 3 months ago

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god i hate everyone

#who thought it would be cute to immediately start ribbing me about how hairy and bald and ugly im gonna be when i go on t #one. im taking minoxidil. two. i wanna be hairy. and three. im not transitioning to attract you guys im transitioning to attract other trans #people! other trans guys find it hot come on!#like ok so dads brother is out here rn right #so first mom tells me hes gonna ask me questions about being trans. ok fine.#second she starts going on about how i had to be emotionally vulnerable with like 3 different therapists for this. whatever.#then when i start participating in the conversation she immediately asks “so how are you feeling about losing all your hair”#THEN she has the audacity to say to my uncle “yeah its sort of a gamble hes either gonna end up hairy like the italian side or fairly #baby smooth like yall“ when she fucking KNOWS that im dysphoric about my lack of body hair #and this happens every time! and its out of nowhere constantly!#all the while the cis men in the room are fucking bullying me with all this toxic masculinity bullshit!#sometimes i just wish i had never come out is all im saying #kept this a secret until i became an adult yknow. yeah i would have to do everything myself but it wouldn't be like this #just because i told you that you could call me a fag doesnt mean youre suddenly allowed to do microagressions constantly #shes tickled to fucking death with calling my future bottom growth my “teenie weenie” what the fuck! what the fuck!!!#and meanwhile every time i try to say words or make a joke my dad and grandpa jump on the fucking opportunity to correct me! or cut me off!#sorry im fucking exhausted i barely slept at all the night before last and got i think maybe 7 hours of sleep at most last night #and i just got out of therapy which always wears me out

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tianshiisdead · 9 months ago

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Japan shaves just about everything. He doesn't think more hair=more manly. He infact has a whole different idea of what is manly compared to western countries or most countries in general. He also likes flowers and floral patterns.

everything?!

#ask #anon #hetalia #hws japan #sorry anon! live your truth but i can’t see it 😅 i know you probably meant like… his face/body but #like i agree he wouldn’t think more hair = more manly but… honestly #I don’t really see him deviating much from japanese masculinity. personally #east asian men don’t really shave their whole bod tbh (thats MENA men - wrong orient)#like i think foreigners get the wrong impression because we’re kind of less hair-ful in general than a lot of ppl. particularily white ppl #but its not really done… if anything japan is the most likely to leave facial hair haha considering how its more acceptable in japan #than in china or korea #of course #my view of japan is biased as a fellow easian #I was a little wary to depict the full extent of your ask (sorry anon) and thats bc #of how easian masculinity in general is problematized and fetishized in the west?#like the idea of ~smooth japan kind of speaks to the whole wawah hairless babyface femme easians~~ trope that is so common #and it brings me pause when it comes to japan because tbh japan is probably the east asian country with masculinity that is #historically speaking #the most ‘coherant’ to the west #<- again Im speaking as another easian so i recognize my bias but #anyways sorry about that! ik this likely isnt what u were expecting 🙇‍♂️

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amouthfulofopals · 6 months ago

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I think there is kinda something to be said about how tumblr will go "oh yeah we love and accept trans men! but don't forget, the trans man reading this, to feel constantly guilty over your identity, always triple check everything you do in case you're offending someone halfway across the planet whom you will never meet, never forget you were Born A Woman and therefore Privileged (???), never project yourself onto things unless the majority approve of it, and also we're going to use neurodivergent and transmasc in derogatory ways"

like you're not slick. we know you don't really like us. just because we're men (or masc aligned) doesn't mean you get to take out your frustration with masculinity on us.

#like we talk a lot about how trans women are held to very high standards. which is true.#but also the guys get a lot of shit and people just kind of gloss over it because we're not women #i know im probably gonna get shit for this take #but ill be honest. im tired. ive been feeling shitty about myself lately and a lot of it has been social media influenced #im tired of the internet trying to guilt trip me for being trans. because that's what it is. being constantly made feel like im intruding #or taking away from others just for existing. or that im inherently annoying irrational or misogynistic.#when ironically as a trans man i still face a lot of misogyny myself #people want an enemy so badly huh #and i know it's probably weird seeing someone accept masculinity when you rejected it. but it doesn't give you a reason to treat us poorly.#im sorry it hurts. i really am. but hurting and guilting others isn't the way to cope.#trans #transgender #disk horse #transmasc #scarlet flower blooms

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petz5 · 2 years ago

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grabs him by the scruff of his neck like a kitten

#ranma 1/2 #not putting this in my art tag i just wanted to post Something #U EVER THINK ABT HOW HIS MASSIVE EGO IS TOTALLY FOR SHOW #like def the result of genma telling him hes the best martial artist in the world one moment then that he's a disappointment the next #and how ranmas secretly terrified ppl will notice hes only good at one thing and then will see how worthless he rlly is and abandon him #(im not saying hes worthless i just mean from his perspective)#and thats why he has a total breakdown in the moxibustion arc bc hes CONVINCED if he cant do martial arts then no one will want him around #its also why its so important that even tho she cant think of anything else he's good at akane still tells him to stay or at least #let her go with him #bc she values him bc hes a person and she enjoys spending time w him. its not abt what he can bring to the table or whatever #what he brings to the table is his kindness and humor and care for others around him!!#anyway that arc doesnt cure his ego by a longshot but it did open the door for him to trust akane way more and share his insecurities #the other half (lol) of this convo could totally be abt desperately trying to live up to being a Manly Masculine Man #but 99% of the time he expresses genuine confidence in himself and not just his abilities its in girl form #i already made a post abt that a while ago #ANYWAY SORRY FOR THE FUCKING ESSAY

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eclown4hire · 2 years ago

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collecting kuro wip's like trading cards at this point

#u guys dont understand. i have to draw masculine men so beautifyul and bashful or i will expire #i need to compliment kuro and tell him jokes that he giiggles at. its real dire guys.#sorry #hiding this in the tags.#uni is stressing me out so im opening out about how much i want to kiss him breathless and (i am pulled off stage by a comically sized cane #enstars #my art #kuro kiryu #ensemble stars

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zhalar · 1 year ago

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people really look at stede and think he would get better mentally and be more compelling as a character/human being within universe if he was More Masculine are you Insane ?

#(LIGHTHEARTED)#that man liked to pick FLOWERS and was RIDICULED FOR THIS #I JUST THINK HE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO RECLAIM THOSE INTERESTS AND THIS DEPTH OF HIMSELF & BE CELEBRATED FOR EM ! !#like. idk. sorry this is a vague catty post outta nowhere i justtt I DONT KNOWWWW i like it when hes frilly and foppy and feminine. awwgh.#what the hellll. what kinda fucked up mr. bonnet senior shit was that 'i hope he becomes like a REAL manly man' sentiment b4 s2 started :-/#särmäs sermons #stede cant be anything but himself and the himself that he is is the type of captain who has a mum-vibe to him and likes fancy fabrics #there's more someone wiser than me could say abt this matter but im not going to bother trying to #i'll enjoy fanworks of all sortsa spectrums in regards to his character dont get me wrong but ive just like. noticed. how much i prefer #him as a more feminine kind of guy. SHRUGS. is this me poking at a hornets nest lol i hope not #also. cuz anxiety eats my brain. i love you masculinity i love you queer masculinity i love you men. this isnt a favoritism issue for me #im just thinkin my thots <3 #ofmd

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bgbrry · 2 months ago

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i wish there was a way to mute "jonathan sims in a skirt" as a concept but alas i apparently remain the only hater here.

#perhaps this is projection but jon leans so much on structure and rigidity and rules and what is right and wrong #even if often misguided #and as a man that often means relying on superficial masculine attributes to establish a normality or comfort in a situation #ie how jon lowers his voice in s1 to establish a sense of authority #i really do not think he as a character even makes sense to be gender non conforming other than there are a lot of gnc people in the fandom #who god bless their soul dont exactly get the deal with jon as a character #“omg hes such a pathetic wet cat of a man” okay. WHY #also i feel that it kinda underplays gender non conformity as something non consequential #when we know the entities can use bigotry against its victims (ie francis)#i also think being “straight passing” and not obviously neurodivergent does lead to an odd outside observer feeling that is present in both #Martin and Jon #tldr i look straight so im gonna make jon look boring too sorry #i could write a lot more on this but in general the way fanon interpretation prevails in podcast art sucks #guys they're millenials in 2015. they would not wear that #oiar is a different conversation they work nights in 2024 they would wear absolutely anything

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toshitophchan · 1 year ago

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