#if they were real we would be so parasocial come on bro . me and my idolsonaocthing. my ensemble star. my project in sekai. be for real

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[fairykazu]

AITA FOR BEING COLD TO A STRANGER FOR BEING WEIRD BUT THEY ENDED UP BEING MY CRUSH I LIKED FROM MY CHILDHOOD ??? FT. SCARAMOUCHE ! cw: informal writing, ooc, modern au, plotless ?, crackpost, use of kys/kms jokes, ip address leak (NOT REAL!!! i dont condone this in real life.), brief stan war, etc note: i think scaramouche using reddit for advice is funny. i might use this for a diff character. im reposting this from my other account @kaedehararchives masterlist

scaramouche isn't the type of person to ask for advice. so why is he on the infamous site, reddit? well, he doesn't want to ask people knowing that he has weaknesses so obviously, he's here.

r/amitheasshole ∙ a year ago thehatguy aita for treating someone for being weird? i know how that title sounds but bear with me. i (M17) come from a predominantly rich family that is known internationally. when this person (GN17) came up to me, being all weird, acting like i know them. i was thinking that they were going to use me for connections / money / fame / etc. i didn't want that to slide obviously so i told them (dis)respectfully to fuck off. despite, my warning messages, they kept persistently to be friendly with me. in my personal opinion, i hate clingy people especially when we first met.

i tried my best to be civil with them and ignore / avoid them and their super weird-clingy-cringe advances. but they KEEP thinking we know each other from somewhere. it's getting annoying... and frankly, i did get a tad angry with them. so i pulled some strings and they aren't allowed to talk to me.... well in a class we share.

after typing up a post, he already had gotten a few responses. he wiped right, unlocking his phone, to see the notifications.

replies:

lesbianpirate69 you sound like an asshole

eyepatchwearernumber1 lwk loser behavior lmao thehatguy [OP] who even wears eyepatches? get off my post detectivelover69 nta they prob deserved it thehatguy [OP] thats what im saying

thank god someone agrees with me. he thought. well that was until he kept scrolling. a bunch of people calling him an asshole. typical. but the username "hydronarwhal" caught his eye. stupid reddit user. who even uses this stupid app?

hydronarwhal idk why would u be weird to someone js because they want to be friends with you thehatguy [OP] why wouldn't u be mean to someone who keeps trying to be friends with u hydronarwhal dude i think you have some issues thehatguy [OP] did u read it right? read it again for me hydronarwhal just because ur rich doesnt mean they want ur money bro thehatguy [OP] 192.1xx.x.xx

after this conversation with this guy "hydronarwhal", he had enough of this. clearly, that guy is sick in the head. blocking the account from seeing his post, he went to sleep. well, he will check the comment section after he had a well-rested night.

well, two more won't hurt.

bobaya nah thats weird. i get you on that using people for connections thehatguy [OP] finally, thank you beetlefighter101 wait ur weird asf for leaking someone's ip address thehatguy [OP] that's just the celluar data tower they're using beetlefighter101 what do they use thehatguy [OP] t-mobile hydrowhales0612 can u not? bobaya wait no, op is valid. t-mobile is ass

robinoaknumberonefan this sounds parasocial thehatguy [OP] you cannot be talking? barbaraisbetterthanrobin ROBIN CANT BEAT BARBARA'S PERFECTION robinoaknumberonefan uhh okay, albert. (albert's info) (albert's info) open full thread?

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is he an idiot for leaving his notifications on for every app? yes. he is because why did his post that he was sure no one would really see due to the flood of aita posts, get l

[notification: reddit +1] adornthenight are u sure ur giving the full story?

adornthenight are u sure ur giving the full story? thehatguy [OP] duh... why wouldnt i? adornthenight read this then www.reddit.com/r/aita/avidsnoopyfan

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u/avidsnoopyfan my side of aita for treating someone for being weird? hello! im the person in the thehatguy's post. i want to clear things up. he said that i was clingy to him and that i was someone who wanted to use him for money. i reassure you guys that isn't the case. he just looked familiar. someone i held dear to my heart. i know that's bad to project on someone you met. technically you can argue that i couldve seen him from social media but i don't really use any other than pinterest.

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[roomeight]

I’m so shocked to see all of these things Graham has done. Is there any other allegations/verified information on the other members? I don’t know if it’s right to assume anything but if the other members stay around Graham after all of this (and stuff we don’t know lol) how better are they?

Soz in advance for the long answer - my personal feeling given what journalists have documented, one in the band biography about the band begging the journalist to not publish Graham's drunken behavior, and with how twitter posts @ing Dave or Graham about the allegations were blocked well after being posted so they wouldn't show up in twitter search shortly before the Blur tour announcement/Graham's biography release, I'd wager that the band has some level of awareness of Graham's allegations, if not complete awareness. To what level of detail they know about / how much they know is up for debate. Graham stopped posting on twitter for, I think about nine months when the allegations were posted by britpopabuse on instagram, and started posting as soon as the Guardian journalists backed off, so I feel confident assuming he knew. Eleven mgmt was also emailed without response. Also, Essy saw the instagram posts of the Mexican fans hanging out with Graham at the hotel.

To that end, Dave's gf Michelle D. posted on twitter twoish years ago when britpopabuse allegations were posted that there were many "fake celeb accounts" (seemingly alluding to the finsta Graham instagram account Britpopabuse posted but not explicitly referring to that) and invited fans to email her about the allegations - many who were minors "investigating," who Michelle told that Graham was the victim of a "jilted lover." (Allegedly - this info was gleaned from the Country House Discord members) Important to remember that Michelle and Dave's livelihood comes from Blur making money and Graham being canceled threatens that. Also, Graham crafted a pretty gross narrative of Essy in his biography as "Soraya" so who is to say he didn't tell the band the same story. Again, that is my take.

Unfortunately I don't have screenshots of all of this - well, I may - I don't feel like digging through the archives for them, being honest. Sorry. :-( I know that is like "source: trust me bro," but it is multiple years of screenshots and fandom hell that took a toll on me. I'm sure I could find them again if pressed.

If you want to see in real time the unhealthy fans/band lack of boundaries Michelle and Dave encourage, the coffee and TV fb group is probably the best place to observe. That group comes off as Dave and Michelle being generous to fans, and at first glance, yeah, kinda. The parasocial stuff/lack of boundaries between celeb and fans is a little concerning on there, IMO, having seen the positives and negatives.

I wish I had a more reassuring answer re: the rest of the band but I don't. :/ It haunts me. Damon's music meaning a lot to me and Damon also probably knowing and being complicit are two awful things I have not been able to reconcile. The only grace I'd give is I'm sure this is a massively dysfunctional, toxic group of people with their own unhealthy relationship dynamics, who've known each other their whole lives. They also probably know about the worst of each others behavior. That still doesn't excuse things, though. Even if friendship were not the case, I doubt the band would sell their cash cow for a few vocal fans online trying to surface the abuse that has happened. :/

[ryuseiphilia]

my issue(s) with the kpop community

(ignore the image i tried to make this aesthetic but this whole post is me complaining so my dearest apologies)

ok, i KNOW i'm a kpop stan myself but can we pretty please use our noggins for their intended purpose?? obvs not targeted towards ALL stans, but some of y'all jump the the wildest of conclusions very quickly.

one of the things that truly baffled me at first sight was that some internet dwellers decided to sit on zb1's gunwook for eating strawberries. literal fruits. i get it, it was nawt bro's cake but cut my homie some slack!! if the other members felt shit that he devoured eleven strawberries then they probably would've expressed that by now. i don't think zb1 wants some little internet pussies to convey their emotions for them.

another thing that got me bewildered was the whole eruption after the taeil from nct announcement. like, this paragraph is not defending that man by the slightest... however why are some of these people coming on here being like "i feel so bad for taeil stans..." and "omg ppl that spent money on taeil must be in pain :(("... girl... what about the victims??? what about the people that were actually violated??? you're saying you're sorry for someone that spent a flabbergasting amount of money on a male idol instead of firstly expressing condolences for the victims?? like, yeah, i DO feel bad for people that have spent money on taeil's merchandise... but girl there are worse things happening right now. the world isn't going to collapse because you didn't burn your taeil photocards. instead, you should try validate the real victims by not discussing such unnecessary things.

the whole seunghan thing genuinely made my jaw unhinge and drop several feet below because GIRL... people dancing casually after sending hundreds of FUNERAL WREATHS (with death threats on them) is actually batshit crazy. no, because.... mans came back just to instantly be pushed away. what? because you k-netizens couldn't handle the fact he had a life before debut and that he, i dunno, is a human??? parasocial ahh because GIRRRRRRRRRLLLLLL. yk i want to be an idol (my ass has NOT auditioned yet) but it's things like this that stop me from wanting to become one. if my twitter, instagram, tiktok, all that jazz resurfaced as an idol and especially during debut... i'd sob because people will over-analyse it all. like, just because seunghan did this does not make him horrible now!!! i know the smoking was slightly more controversial because it's unhealthy, but dating?? DATING??? i was genuinely baffled beyond my utmost belief at the sheer SHOCK. the photos.... people on weverse setting the photos as their pfps, people on twitter posting 'reminders' with the photos... why dod they have those saved??? it's not only obsessive, but kind of parasocial that you're acting like you got wrongingly cheated on by a guy who doesn't even know who you are. i really hope our GOAT seunghan comes back as a soloist or something (hopefully under good management too) because he, everything aside, spent a lot of time training to be an idol just for this to happen.

also not directly a certain idol but why do we, as kpop stans, care about an idols weight and appearance so much?? i know majority of stans are normal and not weird af but there's a minority that actually put their little nerd glasses on and their fingers up that complain like "omg (insert female idol) lowkey lookin big back these days) LIKE HUHHH??? girl please weigh yourself and tell us the result before calling someone fat. especially a random celebrity of all people. all jokes aside, i'm sure the person criticizing an idols weight would feel quite stink if someone did the same to them. so just, uh, dont??? also people that complain when idols dye their hair something different because they like a certain color on that idol are genuinely crazy. like, take a step back and relax. because.... wdym you're having cardiac arrest just because your fave left their blonde era...... i think we as fans shouldn't be so focused on the little things and just enjoy the art!! the music!! the dance!! yes, appearance comes along with it, but it isn't like their stylist is going to make them look like that ratatouille rat....

N E WAYZ if you've read this much already i really applaud you and hope you have a WONDERFUL WONDERFUL WONDERRRRRFUL day for putting up with this yapping for a whole post. my complaints might not be as many or as long as they should be, but i'm simply venting my utter frustration as best i can without getting banned off of every platform i have. so yeah. follow me for more hit posts like this one 🤫🥶😈

[tiredf-o-u-r]

So if we never got a model for positive straight relationships, what about gay ones? Diary time girlies ✨ I need to process

I’ve been trying to remember the first real gay couple I became aware of. Like long term partners…I can only think of Ellen which I never really knew much about and still don’t, or what, Dan and Phil? What did that and goddamn supernatural teach me, that gay love is something you hope and pine for but never comes to fruition? Right like I guess that whole shipping and fangirl culture probably impacted how I see relationships huh. And those relationships were all insane man it was all like teenage girls shipping men acquaintances and them leaning into it more than they ever would because wtf do you do in that situation. And then the fanfiction would be some psychotic codependent shit. Just cause like the poor whatever year old that wrote it was in just as deep shit. So if reality was straight people suck and then the dream is gays being psychologically torturous no freaking wonder I am where I am now.

So yeah I’m thinking the roster of gay relationships was like whatever parasocial nightmare dan and phil lived through, I guess like Hannah hart and Joey graceffa’s era of YouTubers like as they came out they tried to be positive. I don’t really remember any of their relationships or Tyler or anything…and I don’t even wanna talk about Shane. Who else… then the band ships I guess were more like they were really in love but it was society or outside things that got in the way. So that’s a bit of a bummer as well. That shit went so hard omg man. That’s definitely fresher in my mind, it hurts my heart to think about reading it and relating to it. Omfg remember killing stalking THAT was Different. And the IT comic that was insane tentacle porn shit. I wonder if one presents those things to someone in an attempt to repel them. Is that possible? That like I only liked all the gross violent shit because of what was happening? Real life so lit the media had to be insane to be satisfying? Or genuinely trying to disgust the straight girl? Was that my revenge? Did it work? I guess a reaction was something. It must have been during the same time, now that I really think about it. I’ll hide this here that I just witnessed someone on the internet experience happiness and I’m dead faced several feet away arms crossed watching the people gather around and celebrate. I don’t relate to you anymore…at least not now, we gotta wrap it up if y’all gonna be happy. I don’t like happy people I don’t like sad people bro you need a THERAPIST. I’m just escaping what a human did. Anyway. Who else. Did I know that one teacher was gay? Well whenever I found out that dude was serving playing straight isn’t that fucking crazy. Man he really said to us that he had a girlfriend :( that’s actually so sad in hindsight. Cause it was weird to us anyway, literally every teacher we had had at that point was in a devoted Christian marriage, thank you very much. So adult long term gf was like uh okay heretic like I at least definitely didn’t pick up on the girlfriend being an alibi. Bro that was prolly his sister or some shit I don’t remember if he ever showed us pictures and of course it could’ve been a real relationship but if I met him now… I would be surprised to hear him mention a woman, stereotypically. Around that time I had a dream that we had a substitute teacher that had visible tattoos and I was like why is this happening is that allowed why is no one breaking the door down. I wonder if that was connected to anything. I had two good English teachers in a row, and I guess they were both good like connected with me and writing and stuff. Pfft. The teachers said we like you when you’re being anybody else. If you can make us some other shit that’s not here and now we’ll like that otherwise fuck off alright kiddo. That’s actually so funny. Writing a character:we love her! But not so much when they turn out queer huh. Then it’s a handful huh. Thinking about that time and high school, I’m really sitting here like, being transgender is like so fucking something psychological about the experience. I mean everyone being fine, but literally being trapped in a body that’s progressively every day turning on you. And everyone is complaining about the same thing, so what the fuck is wrong with you that you’re making such a big deal about it, right? Nobody likes misogyny, get over it and be a feminist like the rest of us, right? Bro I also just found out about the theory that early childhood trauma causes like a spike in cortisol generally right and that causes a spike in hormones generally and that is why those kids are like early developers grow up fast. Isn’t that sinister. Oh, you’ve experienced the horrors of adulthood? Now you get to look like one too. And now that you’re aware of some truths we’re gonna expect you to be as responsible as an adult but you have the agency of a CHILD. And the rest of the facts of life, oh and especially the stuff that makes life worth living like pleasure and happiness and contentment with one’s self,

They made sure to never talk about any of that stuff. Friendships relationships. Just figure it out! It’s fine! Nothing bad ever happens! I mean what the fuck. So you get to know the bullshit because there’s nothing we can do about it so the things that we could control, let’s hold onto that as tightly as possible, just go with whatever everyone else is doing, because we might as well right? No we don’t need to sit down and assign time to sit down and ponder and think about it and really really consider what was happening? Is that it?

Imagine if they could have been like…yeah the world is fucked up and it isn’t fair that you’re in on it but I dunno here are some good fucking things? Besides playing the goddamn piano? Besides getting a husband and having kids? Those were the pay offs I had to look forward to. No wonder I wanted to exit. That sounds horrible. That’s not real. That’s not reality. They misled me. If I’m sitting here saying the truth is something that is at odds with what’s been fundamentally installed in my psyche, then someone had to fucking install it, okay? They just lied to me. That is lying. They lied about what life was like? I dunno. I’m sure they tried and all but none of that mattered to me. I was being betrayed every day. That’s inSANE bro. I don’t want to be here. It’s eerie. I was always so right. And you know what else! I fucking figured it out! I still cracked the code motherfuckers! Gotcha! You can’t stop the gay from taking root! I heard fall out boy and it was over. I typed enter on my first tumblr username and it was different from then on, I had a chance to find out some thing ANYTHING else. So I guess landing on surface level 2010s edgy into gay internet meme culture YouTube bullshit is a relatively logical place to end up.

I just really listened to XO and heard the lyrics and I feel so viscerally emotionally heartsick right now I am so fucked up on this Pete. I need to wrap this up. Love never wanted me, but I took it anyway. Holy fucking shit. I’m not the same fnfndnenenbfuckingperson anymore. I’m not. That’s so fucking relieving. I never was that person. I guess I never really was that person, who betrayed himself. There’s that.

[the1975attheirverybest]

Two weeks ago certain fandom was hating on Joe for "cheating" on her and breaking her heart. Last week everyone was hating on Matty for those god-damn rumours and those who hate in Matty were saying weird stuff like "dad, please come back, everything was a joke, we miss you🥺☹️".

If this week we find out the real reason why that relationship ended and if it's something to do with Joe, they're going to massive hate on him, again. This whole situation feels like a vicious circle.

Also, calling celebrities "mom and dad" doesn't sit right with me, also screaming crying throwing yourself against the wall, saying that you're a child of divorce because their relationship ended is so weird, like ?? Please talk to a therapist about this because I don't think is normal behavior. My relationship with my faves is kinda parasocial but not that extreme.

My favorite musicians are in their 60s and I'd never called them mom or dad.

but would I like to fuck em because they're so hot?yes🥴

Listen, i won't deny it. I'm eternally broken by her ad Joe's split. they made me believe in love. now im kinda like IF THEY DIDN'T MAKE IT THEN WHATS THE FUCKIN POINT BRO, lol. But yeah, poor joe is out with the swifties now, it's ugly for everyone haha

[transsexualhamlet]

sherlock holmes reactions part six (aka me losing my mind over the final problem)

Hi, I am once again reminding you all that I've formed a parasocial relationship with the crackhead detective 👍 This made me overly emotional for the fact that he didnt even die

But like

hhhmmmmmmmm those were certainly an interesting 14 pages

Yeah, I already made a post about how the final problem relates to yuumori's final problem and how incredibly sexy it is but yes now I'd just like to relay to you how absolutely heart brocken i am over this lol I will eventually get to reading the post hiatus stories i just. I haven't emotionally recovered from this yet

Yelling below the cut somehow this reaction feels longer than the story itself. but it's about half cracking jokes and half sobbing so be prepared

I mean, starting off strong with "well yknow since i got married my and sherlock's Very Intimate Relations had to be modified and all but we hadnt seen each other in a while so it was kind of jarring to see him crawling in my second story bedroom window clutching Wounds and closing the shutters absolutely fucking wasted losing his mind over some dude named moriarty"

We've been over this but. Oh my god why are they gay

I just like????? Imagine how fucking bizzare that would be to just see your old homie crawl into your window bleeding on your floor and asking to exit the other way in case he's followed like "hey bro can we Talk i hope you're not busy" WHAT IS HE SUPPOSED TO DO, SAY HE IS? Imagine watson just like "no dude I'm fucking busy go get killed"

But legitimately. That's certainly something. And like, I see a lot of books starting like this lmao but. Holmes's stuff usually starts off kind of easily with watson going "yeah so lately ive been Experiencing Sherlock Holmes" and spend 20 minutes on exposition with them having a Conversation but no. mans just fucking escaped a hitman and went directly to his boyfriend's house having apparently Never Before In His Goddamn Life mentioned his actual nemesis to this guy. How the FUCK has watson never heard of him before.

And how sherlock starts talking about it isn't any less funny he's just like "UHHH SO THERE'S THIS GUY. THIS ABSOLUTE MAN. AND HES REALLY IMPRESSIVE I MEAN HES LIKE SUPER FUCKING SMART AND HES LIKE DOING CRIMES????? SO I LIKE. I NOTICED AS I DO BUT HE NOTICED THAT I NOTICED AND I MIGHT HAVE MADE A LITTLE FUCKY WUCKY DUDE CAN YOU HELP ME LIKE. FLEE THE COUNTRY" and watson's like my dear sherlock What The Fuck

Im also loving how he calls moriarty a "mathematical celebrity" awhi;grih;oaewhhta;ioh;iaewh;ii;oewh;eh;rg mans just. ok lol hes a Math Celebrity that had to quit his math teacher job because EVERYONE JUST KNEW HE WAS A CRIME LORD LIKE THEY TOOK ONE LOOK AT HIM AND WENT MANS DEFINITELY HAS BODIES IN HIS BASEMENT I DONT WANT HIM TEACHING HERE

But yeah, it was interesting to see what the big deal about og moriarty was... especially since the deal simply did not deliver. There was not really a big deal. It's like reading the first chapter of a book and immediately skipping to the climax. Everything is so hyped up and clearly having been building for years and you just get like NO CONTEXT. I swear Moriarty wasn't goddamn mentioned any time before this. He's just suddenly the big guy and watson has just never fucking heard shit about this guy.

What's so funny about this whole situation is that I just. Cannot objectively know anything about Moriarty at all because sherlock just... does not go into what this dude's alleged crimes even were, other than. The fact that he like. Does them. He's just really involved in crimes. How? Why? For how long? In what way? For what purpose? NO FUCKING CLUE HE JUST. HE JUST DOES. And there's nothing to really suggest that Moriarty was honestly a really evil guy. They're all like trust me he was just. he was just really bad but show absolutely No examples of being such. The most evil thing we saw Moriarty do personally was call sherlock stupid for letting him get into the apartment. And even then he immediately followed it up with complimenting him lol

yeah, my impression of Moriarty was like. I expected him to be worse, honestly. I expected him to be like a cartoon villain because he was kind of made out to be one and then he's just honestly a really polite and refined guy?? Mans strolls the fuck into 221B like hi shawty and it is Not like yuumori obviously man's holding a gun but like. What the fuck they are just. They have never met before but They Clearly Have and it's. its so weird

Like honestly I don't dislike og moriarty. He's really what william tried to be (and fucking failed, but beside the point) but like. Dude's so powerful and for what. He just walks into the apartment with No Pretense like why sherlock holmes is that a revolver or are you just happy to see me oh my goodness you are a dolt why would you hold the gun that way. disgusting. disgraceful. dreadful. Oh my god. I love him I'm sorry

abngnahhghifeah;iewh and Why does sherlock describe him like that hes like "MANS A REALLY REFINED LIZARD /pos" HIEHIFEHW:HGIHOEWFEEW FOR WHAT. FOR W H A T

baaaaaaaaghhhhhh but likeeeee they went STRAIGHT to "you know what I'm here for" "you know how I'm going to respond" "well then" "yeah" "mhm" "damn well it really do be like that sometimes" "ur really smart by the way" "im fucking aware let's kill each other as we both Thought in our Minds" "yes lets" AHDHDHDHDFS WTF THIS IS INSANE

But damn uh. mutual destruction my beloved this is very different from sherliam but im not. im not. opposed to it tucks hair behind ear

I just. Holy shit they really went "if you destroy me I will ensure that we both go down hand in unlovable hand" "I wouldn't mind that"

Annnnd I just noticed that the actual lines for this part kind of. that kind of happened in chapter 31 when sherlock was like i would Gladly die to take down the lord of crime and william was like. hahahah yeahNO NO NO NO

BUT SERIOUSLY THO IM LOSING MY MIND OVER HOW SHERLOCK SAYS THIS WHOLE THING TO WATSON AND HES LIKE DAMN SHAWTY HES LIKE THE REASON FOR HALF THE CRIME IN THIS CITY BUT HES SO NICE THO??? LIKE I EXPECTED HIM TO BE TOUGH AND EVERTHING NO HES JUST SOME POLITE PROPER UNDERSTANDABLE MAN WHO JUST HAPPENS TO BE VERY DIABOLICAL shawty is having a Crisis

And then watson is like wowww that was cool you wanna spend the night and sherlock is like "UNFORTUNATELY BESTIE I AM BEING FUCKING TRACKED DOWN ID LIKE YOU TO NOT DIE WITH ME"

This bit gave me a Moment Moment because oh my god. Then watson is like "no shut up i'm coming with you i don't care" and i just had to Take A Minute because THEY SWITCHED PLACES AAH SHERLOCK IS TRYING TO KEEP WATSON SAFE NOW AND WATSON IS NOW MORE RECKLESS BC OF HIM AND. AHHHH

Completely random but. How sherlock still refers to 221B as "our rooms" to watson even though watson hasn't lived their in years........ shawty i am emotional.........

SO THEY GODDAMN FLEE THE COUNTRY TOGETHER BC WATSON SAYS THEY HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER AND SHERLOCK HAS A MOMENT WHERE HE'S LIKE YEAH NEVERMIND PLEASE GO HOME WATSON AND WATSON IS JUST LIKE. NO. AND HSERLOCK IS LIKE. DAMN OK I HAVE NEVER HEARD YOU SAY THAT BEFORE

But. Ok as funny as this is. They have this fucking Conversation on the train to switzerland where sherlock is like "I have not lived in vain" and watson is like "YOURE NOT DYING" and hes like "i have not lived in vain. like i said. this will not be a bad way to die" UHHHHHH DAMN SHAWTY

hhhhhh and it just Gets. it. it. it Gets. These fuckers get to switzerland and they stay in a hotel and then leave for reichenbach but watson gets this goddamn letter telling him that hes needed at the hotel to basically save this lady's life. And he doesn't. Like. he doesn't even want to go he's like FUCK IT SHE CAN DIE IM NOT LEAVING YOU but sherlock convinces him to go fULLY KNOWING THE LETTER WAS FUCKING FAKED BY MORIARTY JUST AS A PLOY TO GET HIM ALONE

AND THEN HE JUST. WENT ANYWAY AND WATSON HAD TO WATCH HIM JUST LIKE GODDAMN WALK OFF INTO THE SUNSET LIKE "LITTLE DID I KNOW THIS WOULD BE THE LAST TIME I WOULD SEE HIM BUT IT JUST. IT HAD THAT VIBE YKNOW"

God I just. Wow sherlock really did that huh. He really went and did that. And I went over it in the post about this compared to yuumori but it just RUINED me how watson just. Never saw what happened and there's just so little information about it that all they have is these assumptions and pieces that just suggest that these guys met up, walked up to the goddamn waterfall having a nice civil conversation about how talented and smart they both were at this and how they revealed their methods to each other and complimented them because of course they did

And they just sat up there talking to each other so long and Moriarty legit waited politely or even possibly was the one that suggested he write a letter to watson in which sherlock just went "damn lol moriarty's pretty nice actually anyway uhhhh sorry watson ily ✌" and just like. left it up there in his damn cigarette box

But just like. damn the insinuation that moriarty just sat there and watched while he wrote that entire goddamn letter, sealed it up, and then got up and went alright buddy let's go but it makes no goddamn sense if they wanted to actually kill each other and assure they themselves would survive I could name like 23 different ways they could have managed it so easily and they Didn't. they were really set on mutual destruction huh. There's no way they were even trying to do anything but Die Together at that point and that's Something huh

It absolutely baffles me how they could say that these guys had plummetted like, holding each other tho. Like. ok lol but How Do You Even Know

It was certainly a ride. But the fact that Watson had to actively try to think like Sherlock to figure out what happened in the scene was just. The cherry on top. Especially after they'd consciously started to switch roles in this i just. Damn.

In conclusion uhhhhhhhh gay people real I suppose

[dropintomanga]

Mangaka Are Flawed People Like You and I

If Shonen Jump is considered to be the “World’s Most Popular Manga,” then you can bet that the creators behind the magazine’s landmark series are some of the most popular people in the world today.

Of course, with the attention Shonen Jump series get, there always comes the chance of a big problem that gets exposed. 

And recently, this was the case as Nobuhiko Watsuki, creator of Rurouni Kenshin, had a big exhibition for the series in Japan. This comes off his conviction of having child pornography in his possession and not having to be in jail for an indefinite period of time (compared to what he would face in the West). What got many fans talking was the fact that 14 notable mangaka with ties to Shueisha wrote congratulatory messages for Watsuki and causing (mostly Western) fans of those mangaka to have conflicting feelings over their favorite creators for celebrating someone who’s a convicted pedophile.

Eiichiro Oda, Masashi Kishimoto, Hideaki Sorachi, Yusei Matsui, Takeshi Obata, Hiroyuki Takei are just some of the familiar names many manga fans will recognize that praised Watsuki. Seeing Sorachi’s name does worry me a bit since I know he’s done jokes about lolicons and such. I think what it comes down to is how close-knit mangaka are with each other. The manga industry is extremely rough and insular. There’s little room for social interaction outside of work, so it’s usually your co-workers that you talk to the most at times. I know Oda was an assistant under Watsuki before creating One Piece, so there’s also the senpai-kouhai relationship in play here as well.

This doesn’t excuse Watsuki for what he did. I’m not sure if he’s truly apologetic for his actions. I did hear that one of the major reasons that Watsuki was let off the hook was because Shueisha felt that they had to honor the contract they made with Warner Bros. regarding the upcoming Rurouni Kenshin movie based on the Jinchu Arc. It sounds like some warped sense of honor needed to be preserved over a very serious issue that needs more attention.

Some fans have said, “Thank god Tite Kubo or Yoshihiro Togashi didn’t write anything for Watsuki.” The thing is they can’t assume those creators are righteous just because they didn’t say anything. Fans seem so desperate for heroes because they feel like the whole world is full of awful people. To be fair, the inability of societal institutions to actually help people and encourage that help can give someone a legit reason to be angry.

But treating creators like they’re pure and holy gods that will never do any wrong isn’t the way to channel that frustration. Creators aren’t your friends. They will mess up. Think about it this way - why do you think are there are hierarchal levels of friendship? For starters, you can’t just bombard new potential friends with heavy details about your personal life. Not everyone’s going to get you. There’s probably some people you want in your life that make you forget your vulnerabilities for a bit, so you want different types of friends for your varied needs. Creators usually feel more connected among other creators due to shared experiences. The creator/fan relationship is parasocial at best.

I read this blog post from Steven Savage, author of Fan to Pro and many other notable books about fandom, about the desire for heroes in our world and he said it best.

“We hate real heroes, so we often seek false heroes. We find some person who has the right pose, the right words, and follow them instead. We worship the fakers, the actors, the deceivers, and the grifters.

Fake heroes are clean. They present the way we want, act the way we want, say the things we want. There’s no moral ambiguity – unless you look at their actions.

Fake heroes often have money and fame, and the right looks. They have all the worldly things we want, and we decide that’s heroism. The image is there – as long as you don’t ask how they got there.

Fake heroes don’t have any apparent ambiguity because they lie about it or cover it up. Fake heroes are an act, and we don’t have to deal with moral complications because we buy into it. Fake heroes are so much easier.

Fake heroes fit all we expect. They’re the right age, right sexual preference, right skin tone, etc. Fake heroes are a confidence game that looks just enough like us that we’re confident in believing in them.

We so prefer fake heroes in America. They’re so much easier, and the internet and media will help us find them or turn them out for us.”

I know it sounds like I’m suggesting that mangaka are “fake heroes.” In some ways, they are. We, the people, are the ones who place them as heroic by nature. It’s not entirely our fault as most media and word-of-mouth marketing sing their praises. I’m not saying that we should stop having role models, but I wish people were more reflective about who they should really revere.

I sometimes feel like fans love parasocial relationships a bit too much. I wonder now if it’s because they have no cognitive framework of what proper boundaries are. This can be a huge issue at times especially when you feel lonely and socially isolated. When I think about how people fall into extremism and/or start to do things that hurt other people, I think about that lack of emphasis on enforcing boundaries in a healthy way.

I do think some of the mangaka did feel uncomfortable in writing to support Watsuki. They probably had no choice since ethics and capitalism (especially geek capitalism) never mix well. People who think they’re always “right” don’t really preach ethics unless it directly benefits their reputation.

I already voiced my thoughts about Watsuki before in this 2017 post. I’ll say this as final words - so many things (the brands you like, the famous people you like, the nerd media you like, etc.) will have always some kind of dirty psychological stain on it. Over the past few years, some powerful folks who explicitly say they’re inclusive and diverse turn out to be the ones who aren’t. Someone on Twitter recently asked what if every manga creator has some kind of belief system that doesn’t fall in our line with our beliefs. Do we start to justify pirating their work just to prove our moral superiority?

I’m not sure how to feel about that because you can’t remove every little thing in your life that you don’t agree with. It’s impossible. It’s also a terrible way to live because we need some level of disagreement in order to become better people. We will all mess up and say/do the wrong thing over and over again. I know some “experts” say to cut out toxic people in your life, but if they’re not being abusive/troll-ish and genuinely wish to see you well, then I think you need to stand by them because those folks are the heroes we truly need, not an influential figure who uses their clout to only benefit themselves.

If you want a great post about how to separate art from the artist, this is my favorite post on how to do so.

[hvlfwygod]

Edison Major Finally Posted, Try Not To Freak Out

(by Violet Houghton)

Okay, take a deep breath and grab your tin foil hats, because for the first time in months we have an update on the mysterious case of a missing Kiwi influencer.

Edison Major (@majored), or as I like to call him, that cute morning motivation guy, posted on his Instagram story today. Yeah, that’s right, the day has finally come! Too bad his cryptic return left us with more question than answers.

We’re still in the dark about why he abruptly stopped posting. As many fans have pointed out, he had a bunch of work lined up, too, and it seems like he didn’t even cancel, just outright bailed on everyone. Yikes. What happened that would cause Ed to go ghost? Unfortunately, we might never find out, though it looks like many of our fears have been confirmed: it was nothing good. He made it pretty clear in his post that whatever went on, he’s not planning on talking about it, so we’ll just have to be content with speculating.

For those of you not willing to go check Insta right now, or reading this after September 21, here’s the post:

Hah! Do you think he knows about the clones? (If you don’t know what that means, I made a detailed post, downloaded videos, and complied tweets about the most buckwild internet conspiracy of 2021— read it here.)

Ed always has had a surprisingly widespread audience. There are plenty of gym bros who’ve turned to him for inspiration, advice, and... whatever it is gym bros are into. But sweet Ed also has just as many fans who have fallen for his good vibes, body positive message, and let’s be real, he’s not hard to look at. His very public friendships with celebrities (like fellow Kiwi surfer and model Iosefa Costello) only brought more eyes to his page from many corners of social media.

So of course there was plenty of chatter when he vanished. There’s a lot of theories, some that make me think we as a society are reading too much fanfiction. These are the three I think are the most likely:

1. He got hurt. Occam's razor, people. There could have been a bad accident and he needed a long time to recover. Internet detectives think he was in a car accident in January, not long after the North Dakota Incident and a slew of possible sightings all throughout the American midwest. But that doesn’t explain the months of silence before that, plus we’re not even sure if any of those sightings were actually him. If this is true, this has to have happened in late 2020.

2. Personal tragedy Very much in the same vein as the previous option. It’s possible something terrible happened and our guy Ed needed time. I believe this less because someone else getting hurt shouldn’t have caused him to bail on everyone in his life.

3. It’s all for publicity This is icky to think about, but it’s possible this was all a stunt to drum up attention. I don’t really believe it, mostly because I think his absence lasted way too long for it to keep the public’s focus. Then again, here I am writing about it, so who knows. 

Regardless of what happened I have to say I missed seeing his face. It’s so silly and parasocial of me, I know, but I’m happy he’s at least in one piece. I’m looking forward to seeing that cute smile and his “authentic happy self,” as Ed put it. So while I’m wildly curious... I’ll respect his privacy.

Don’t think that means I’m not going to be reading all your comments and tweets, though. I’ll just keep all my burning questions out of his DMs.

[mc-slowwalker]

bro I was watching a vod the other day and I checked and I was literally getting ads every ten minutes it was terrible and there were so many too

nah capsicums and bell peppers are the same thing I was just wondering where the term “bell peppers” comes from cause it’s kind of random ig

I tend not to watch a lot of ranboos streams cause I’m always asleep 😔✌️ puffy’s stream was so fun! I just listened to it while I was walking and it was great!! ahhahaha them talking about writing fanfictions was so funny. I feel like a vast majority of people who read percy jackson in middle school wrote some kind of fanfiction about it, me included. well in that case quantum physics would literally be the explanation for ghosts so boom. aliens tho are 100% real.

also!! so much content recently!! the streams, the photos!! omg the photos, those were great. mans looked great in his c!dream cosplay. I feel like I was one of the few people that understood the pose he was sitting in very easily. sapnap leaves for a few days and dream has no idea what to do lmao. genuinely can’t believe he’s streamed so much but I’m not complaining. but brooo he’ll be alone on his bday :((( I am parasocially upset. I’m obviously not actually mad or anything but it’s funny cause I barely even notice when it’s my birthday but dream being alone on his birthday? absolutely unacceptable. but it’s okay cause dream’s literally gonna be going to karl’s before the 12th as well. karlnap streams are fun tho 🥰 so was dream’s no mic stream! I love watching him parkour so much

hoping this all means that lore’s picking up again and c!dream gets out of the prison

also sorry for just like disappearing for a few days idk

Honestly I’ve had to start watching yt reuploads because the ads are so bad. I feel kinda bad but also otherwise I’d be using ad block so they wouldn’t get money anyways

I mean they’re kinda bell shaped and they’re peppers, I’ve never really heard anyone call them capsicums before? We can both agree that they’re gross though

I feel like books like pjo, harry potter, and warrior cats and etc were just pre-adult personality tests if that makes any sense. Us humans do love our categories and groups huh

We have been getting a lot of content recently,,, at the expense of quackity…. quackity my beloved please come back I watched a chess game for you and chess actively makes me angry. Also dream, dream this is our birthday now and the fact that sapnap isn’t with you for our birthday?? Unacceptable. Communist birthday. And not only are they not with dream for his hirthday they’re not here for any of quackity’s birthday! Personally I’m a qwt birthday meet up truther not because it’ll happen but because it would be funny. Dream’s stream was no mic for awhile until he got bored but!! He mentioned ADHD casually! Which just makes me happy

Sam is back from vacation so I bet prison stuff’ll start picking back up soon enough. Hopefully.

Also dw about disappearing I know you got classes and I’ll have classes soon so my social battery will be fucked

[missrosienorris]

The Election that is Bad, Part 3

CW: lots of politics, mentions of ableism, a hint of racism and abusive behaviour, also a little corona at the end

Statement of potential privileges and biases: Translucently white. Finnish, and thus less directly affected by US elections, although I’d argue the whole world should be concerned about them. AFAB enby. Probably a gray ace with no gender preference, but frankly I’m not quite sure wtf I am. Rather far left but haven’t found an appropriate ideological label. University educated. Middle class. Young-ish (is 30 still young?) My mental health is ass.

So, I’ve already made a few posts about the US presidential election and the shit it’s stirring up, which is why I’m now giving the series a name. In this post I’m going to lengthily bitch about some arguments between Biden and Sanders supporters that I’m currently seeing a lot, and I’m already planning another post that’ll be a more personal rant about how I’ve had to make a purge in my parasocial relationships because so so so many of the people I follow have morphed into dicks during this election season (or perhaps revealed themselves to be dicks, I can’t assess which one from afar).

In this post I won’t be discussing Biden or Sanders themselves or their policies all that much, but I will summarize where my allegiances lie here for the record, not that my opinion is likely to surprise anyone who’s read any of my stuff before:

I think Biden’s policies suck, albeit not as much as Trump’s but that’s a low bar to clear. I think he’s a neoliberal and a sleazeball, I don’t like his incoherent speaking style or his proneness to temper tantrums and were I American, I’m not sure I could bring myself to vote for him in the general even for harm reduction purposes (but to make it crystal clear, I would never vote Trump either, it would be third party or blank in that case). I think he will lose to Trump if he is the nominee.

I have a soft spot for Sanders despite being way to the left of him, he’s a socdem at best and I’ve never voted for a socdem in my life. However, in a US context, he would be a major step to the left, his policies are alright, and he’s way more coherent than Biden. Some people on the left flanks say he’s too nice and that’s probably true, socdems tend to be like that, but my lizard brain finds the niceness endearing even though I think it’s politically not ideal. I would vote for him in a heartbeat and I have given him money (funneled through a clothing vendor, so yeah I’m a foreign interference Russian bot). I think his chances to beat Trump would be better than Biden’s. Not great, mind you, Trump has quite an advantage going into the general and I’m not sure he’s beatable, although I sure hope he is.

Alright, now then, onto my long-ass rant about bad political arguments.

So, at the time I’m writing this, it sure looks like Biden will be the Democratic nominee, the race isn’t called yet but it’s looking pretty hopeless for the Sanders campaign. Consequently, the Bidenists are looking for everyone to rally around Biden and the Berners are pissed and/or discouraged and many of them are considering not voting or voting third party (and I guess some are considering voting Trump, but I genuinely think that group is real small and I’m ignoring them because fuck anyone who would do that).

Now, there are arguments for both of these stances that I find understandable. Like, I get the Bidenist argument that Trump is worse and therefore a vote for Biden is harm reduction, and I get the concern for the supreme court. I’m not convinced by these arguments, but I get them. On the flip side, I'm very sympathetic to the arguments that Biden is corrupt and awful, and that while Trump may be worse in the short term, voting for Biden will tell the Democratic party that they can keep putting up shitty status quo nominees and progressives will just take it, and thus the party won’t change and more people will be hurt by that in the long run. This is probably the position I’d take if I were in the US, as stated above.

Either way, these types of arguments from either side are pretty reasonable, but they’re not really the ones I’m hearing the most, at least not on the ol’ internet. What I’m hearing is a lot of crap, and I’m now going to list said crap and bitch about it.

1. Biden has dementia and keeping him in the race is elder abuse.

I want to get this real oof one out of the way first, because I drag Biden a bunch and will continue to do so, but this I don’t like. Yeah, the guy is incoherent when he speaks and lashes out a lot, but we shouldn’t be armchair diagnosing him or accusing anyone of abuse without proper evidence of that. I think it’s fair to criticize him for the way he behaves and to point out that Trump will definitely use that against him, but leave health assessments to professionals. Also, I get that a presidential candidate must be scrutinized more than the general public, but some of the stuff y'all are writing about people with cognitive disabilities is like super ableist and not cool. Don’t call people soup brains, for example, that’s trash behaviour.

2. Not voting in the general/voting third party is a vote for Trump.

Hey fuck off, no it’s fucking not. A vote for Trump is a vote for Trump. I get voting strategically, I really do, but the people who choose not to vote strategically are not voting for Trump. Doesn’t matter what the reason is, if you don’t vote for Trump you don’t vote for Trump and are not to blame for Trump. It’s unbelievably shitty to accuse people of being equal to Trump supporters if they don’t line up behind a particular other candidate.

3. Sanders supporters who won’t vote for Biden in the general are making that choice out of pettiness and/or childishness.

This is some ad hominem bullshit and also kinda contrary to the whole “unite the party behind Biden” thing, you don’t typically woo voters by calling them pissbabies. Especially young people don’t tend to respond well to frumpy people condescendingly telling them to grow up. Also it’s usually not true. Most people I know of that aren’t voting for Biden have well rounded reasons why, typically that they think voting for Biden would make things worse in the end. And unless someone tells you why they’re not voting for Biden, you don’t really know their reasons, so assuming “petty and childish” reflects more on you than it does on them.

4. Anyone who WOULD vote for Biden in the general is either a not a real progressive or a “low information” voter.

Shut up about that. Trump is a nightmare and many feel that four more years of him would be so disastrous that they’d rather take four years of Biden as the lesser of two evils. Being super scared of Trump and going the harm reduction route is not a sign that you’re uninformed or not progressive enough, I may disagree with it but not for that reason. The “low information” thing also seems to be directed at minorities a lot, which is kinda gross. Talk about voter suppression and try to reach out to people, absolutely, but sort of implying that minorities are ignorant is not a good look to have.

5. I was for Warren and now I’m for Biden because Sanders supporters are abusive.

I don’t have as strong an opinion on this one as the other ones, I just feel like it’s a super weird take to jump from supporting (relatively) progressive policies to supporting whatever it is Biden’s got going on because some of the Bernie crowd are kinda dicks (which I’m not denying by the way, I’ve seen them, I just feel like policy is more important). As I stated above, I’m not about to start accusing anyone of being a fake progressive or whatever, I’m just saying it’s a little weird and if there are any Warrenites out there who would like to explain it to me that would be swell. Preferably explain it civilly, since many of the #WarrenToBiden types I’ve seen have been surprisingly abusive themselves considering their stance on the whole Bernie bro thing.

6. Not voting for Biden in the general is a sign that you’re privileged and aren’t that affected by the vote, and that you don’t really care if minorities suffer another four years of Trump. Or the converse, voting for Biden in the general is a sign that you’re privileged and aren’t that affected by a continuation of the status quo, and that you don’t care if minorities suffer in the long run.

This argument can just fuck off whatever side it comes from. It’s another ad hominem attack and super reductive, both the people rallying behind Biden and the #NeverBiden people are a diverse bunch. Some are privileged, some are not, and this generalization helps no one. Especially cringe is when someone who is decidedly not part of a minority of any kind makes this argument, which I’m seeing A LOT of. I’m all for identity politics, but this ain’t it.

7. Sanders has said he will support Biden if Biden is the nominee, so you should too.

Why? Sanders isn’t flippin’ Jesus, it’s completely possible to support him and still disagree with him on occasion. I’m not quite satisfied with his explanations considering his record on guns, for example, nor do I think he should co-opt the term “democratic socialist” when he’s really just a socdem (although it is admittedly very funny to see conservative Americans freaking out over the mention of socialism). It’s not weird to not be a sycophant, personality cults are not a good thing.

You know, I’ll probably come up with like 100 more bad arguments I’ve seen floating around once i press the “Post” button, but it’s 3 AM and this post is already dragging even by my standards so maybe I’ll release another one of these at a later date. Until then, please wash your hands, stay safe if you belong to a risk group, and if you don’t belong to a risk group, don’t be a fuckface and hoard the supplies they need or endanger them by not following recommendations to limit the spread. I’ve had a probably-just-a-cold this week and you bet your ass I haven’t left my apartment even once just in case it wasn’t just a cold and I ended up murdering a grandma. Just don’t be pricks.