#if ANYONE has advice or tips they have that can help pls pls share

[skyteglad]

okay so i really, really super need advice on this because I Can't Stop and i'm going to meet friends out of state in a week and can't have this continue to go on sO.

WARNING FOR LIKE. TMI I GUESS? AND ALSO GROSS. THIS IS BODY FOCUSED REPETITIVE BEHAVIOR RELATED. if anyone can send advice i'd super appreciate it!!! i'm putting info under the cut bc it is. like. embarrassing and gross and i can't figure out what to do with it <3 also because i don't want to be responsible for icking people out who are just scrollin' thru their dash lol

okay so my trich started up REAL BAD a few months ago, and when my trich gets real bad, my dermatillomania gets WORSE. at first i started having a few lil cuts on my head, but now i have a very, very bad wound that is uh. it's noticeable if my hair isn't parted in the right way to hide it, and it is continuously opening (thanks to the aforementioned derm)

the taping your fingers method does not work for me, and try as i might me noticing i'm doing it doesn't prevent me from doing it a little while later. i'm not steady with keeping a journal and like... again, i have a week to hope it clears up and heals enough to at least not be TOO noticeable :'3

but if anyone has any advice on how to get that under control i'd super appreciate it. i've had years where i didn't have this go on badly, but i think a lot of stress from the new living environment got me and, well. whee.

[thatadhdfeel]

Anyone have any cleaning/organizational skills that Actually Work? I'm an adult living by myself in a studio apartment (disabled living bc of adhd) so my entire house is basically my bedroom. I've had friends come over multiple times to clean for me which I super appreciate but I also feel shitty about it bc it keeps getting messy again and I literally don't know how. It's like I blink and once again there's a bunch of shit on the floor. I have very limited storage space so a lot of Pro Tips I either can't do or just don't work for me. I'm getting very frustrated at myself. I just want to have my living space be clean and stay clean 😩

i think just doing small things every day can help, don’t think it’s not worth it if you’re not doing big stuff. i have chronic pain as well as my mental stuff and what i try to do is do the small stuff until i get a day with enough energy for the big stuff. if anyone has any advice pls do share. followers?

[rollercoasterwords]

wsg rae

so like basically im a trans guy pre-t and im trying to explain to my girlfriend what a tcock is, and i cant find any like. actual informational diagrams there's only porn, which is notoriously bad at teaching people about anatomy. do tou have/can you find any anatomy-ish pictures to help me explain it to her?

M asking bc u study gender pls help me

i am definitely not an hrt expert & did not have anything immediately on hand but did a bit of poking around and in my 30 min search this article from folx was the best like. medical overview i could find. there r some diagrams etc but no actual photos so! might be helpful if ur just trying 2 generally explain 2 ur gf. transreads.org is also a database of great free resources, though i haven’t spent as much time searching through their medical articles, but might be a good place 2 start searching. also found this book which is like a guide to physical transition written by a transmasculine person which looks like it may be informative & came up in keyword searches for “bottom growth” (obv i have not read it myself tho & cannot personally vouch 4 how helpful it might be etc).

in terms of searching urself if ur looking 4 medical/anatomical diagrams my biggest pieces of advice would be to choose a more academic database 2 search in (even just using google scholar instead of regular google) & pay attention to what terms/keywords ur searching. terms like bottom growth, tcock, etc r used more colloquially in trans spaces but a lot of medical journals won’t be using those terms unless they’re specifically talking abt like. the ways that trans people talk abt themselves lol bc most of these researchers r not trans. so those terms can be helpful, on the one hand, for trying to find resources created by trans people, but on the other hand may be more likely to pull up porn or just to not return many/any results if ur searching in an academic database. but also as i said i am not an expert in this subject nor am i particularly adept at finding medical diagrams so!! if anyone following this blog has any tips & trick & resources 2 share pls do…

[sept-dix]

en- when you cry

—the enhypen members & how they would comfort a crying friend/partner

heeseung 

would calmly sit there and let you cry it out first before asking you what’s wrong

has his arm around your shoulder and listens silently as you tell him everything

wouldn’t say something he doesn’t fully mean just for the sake of comforting you for the moment, would offer his sincere advice/thoughts about the situation even if it’s something you might not want to hear (bc he loves you and genuinely wants to help you)

would let you sob in his arms again after telling you what you needed to hear

jay

does a double take when he sees you tearing up and runs to your side right away

would offer comfort physically by hugging you, holding your hand, etc.

doesn’t have the words to comfort you right away so it’s like he’s transferring his love to you through physical touch

assures you that he’s going to k word everyone who contributed to your tears

jake

asks you what’s wrong with the biggest puppy eyes and the saddest expression ever

genuinely heartbroken seeing you cry his mind just goes blank

looks at you and nods and hums encouragingly as you tell him what happened

asks you a million times what he can do to make you feel better & if you request something from him he’ll do it right away with no hesitation

sunghoon

tears up watching you cry

hands you tissues and teases you as you blow your nose to lighten the mood

asks you to tell him what happened but only if you’re comfortable with sharing

tries to distract you from your problems by getting you your fav food/offering to watch your fav movie together, etc. 

sunoo

gets really surprised when he sees you tearing up, asks you “are you crying? why? what happened?” x10

tears up watching you cry part 2 except sunoo will straight up sob with you

looks at you with the most sympathetic expression in his eyes as you tell him what happened which just makes you cry harder

will talk shit about whatever made you cry to make you feel better

jungwon

heeseung part 2, lets you cry it out first before attempting to get you to talk

holds your hand as you talk him through it

starts out by offering an objective opinion about the situation before cracking and showering you with words of love and affection 

does it with a straight face though bc he’s shy & the tips of his ears turn red as he’s talking & that’s enough to make you feel a million times better already honestly

ni-ki

gets into fight mode the moment he sees your eyes getting glassy

“who made you cry???? no tell me their name now who did this?”

gets even more upset than you once you tell him about what made you upset

will tell you that you did nothing wrong / that you did great / that you were only trying to help / that these things happen to anyone / that he’s proud of you (pls pick according to the scenario u have in mind) 

a/n: i apologise for my 18 (19?) days of unannounced hiatus i didn’t mean for this to happen but alas ,,, things happen 🙁 by way of apology i offer u all this headcanon

[capricores]

🔥 MARS RETROGRADE GUIDE 🔥

— BASICS/FAQ.

what is a retrograde? a retrograde, put simply, is when a planet appears to be spinning backwards in the sky. during the times of retrograde, the energy of a planet is turned inwards. retrogrades are not usually the best time to try activating the energy of that planet. you may feel blocked, held back, or stressed around the themes relating to that planet. it will be a very internal time for that energy in your chart; wherever said planet is (as well as the planets it strongly aspects), will be pushed into introspective mode by the retrograde planet. consider the word retrograde itself; it is a time to reflect, review, reinvent, repurpose, etc. generally not the best time for starting new things, initiation, and so forth; but it is possible.

what does mars represent? a lot of people make the mistake of just associating mars with sex and lust. and although, sure, it does connect to that; it’s so much more. mars is about our motivation, it’s our energy, our pursuit of our passions and desires, drive, aggression, confrontation styles, self-expression, confidence, etc.

does it affect me differently if my natal mars is retrograde? some people believe retrograde transits affect those with natal retrograde less strongly. personally, i haven’t really noticed that entirely. i have natal saturn retrograde, and i actually usually feel ease when saturn transits retrograde; it’s like my saturn becomes “normal”. however, i have friends with natal retrograde planets who feel no ease during transit retrogrades. so again, i think it’s very dependent on your entire chart and the aspects of the planets currently. even i had quite a difficult time during the last saturn retrograde and did not feel any sort of ease. this time could be slightly easier because you’re used to having mars energy pushed internally, but at the same time, if it strongly aspects your natal mars (especially a conjunction - and even hitting your other planets), it might just makes things even more tense and amplified. but overall, i’d say you’re safe to read the same information on mars retrograde impacts as anyone else.

— GENERAL & WHAT TO EXPECT.

mars in aries does NOT do well in retrograde. i personally imagine those of you that have never felt too affected by a mars retrograde, will absolutely feel this one: and it will hit hard. i’m not saying this as a way to invoke fear: everything will be fine. but the energy of this retrograde is especially heavy, considering all the planets mars is currently harshly aspecting (saturn, pluto to name the standouts). the issue here is, mars & aries are both excited energies. they are bold, brash, reactive; they are initiators. they like to act before thinking. they are full of energy, passion and aggression. the retrograde is about (over)thinking before acting, slowing down, reflecting, turning inwards (mars energy likes to stay outward; noticed; loud), etc. the concept of retrograde opposes everything mars represents; especially when mars is in it’s ruling sign of aries; who greatly reflects mars’ energy.

mars rarely stations retrograde as well; usually every two and a half years (i believe), and it very rarely does so in aries. because most of us aren’t used to this planet stationing retrograde (unlike mercury, who likes to retrograde multiple times a year), it seems to just hit harder. i also want to specifically mention the fact this mars retrograde will be squaring saturn. mars square saturn is a very difficult aspect; i am someone that has this in my natal chart and it’s quite frustrating. saturn is about restriction and caution; mars is more fearlessness and recklessness. right now, it feels like saturn is holding mars’ energy back even more than the retrograde is. it’s not allowing the uninhibited expression of the mars energy. we may feel a lot of blockages in relation to the common themes shared by mars and saturn (especially career, work, pursuit of passion; as well as responsibility, control, power - authority figures, etc).

some general things to expect, regardless of your mars placement:

headaches: unfortunately; this is going to bring a lot of headaches, literal ones (although figurative ones as well). i think general body aches are going to be common due to the fact mars is aspecting so many planets. namely the saturn aspect will probably cause a lot of full body/bones/joint/muscle soreness, and probably a lot of toothaches and similar issues. i can even see abdomen/pelvic pain flaring because the pluto aspect. make sure you’re taking very good care of your health right now and see a doctor when you need to! (i’m not hugely into medical astrology, but i do notice these type of mars and saturn transits personally coinciding with an increase in headaches, toothaches, and overall soreness- for me and friends at least)

passive aggression, irritability, unnecessary hostility, arguments over pointless things, people who tend to bottle finally exploding, high tension

strong lack of energy, motivation, drive: lethargy and exhaustion are common (but again, be careful and see a doctor if these things are extreme)

tension in workplace environments; coworker disagreements, namely issues with management (power struggles)

feeling very blocked in terms of your goals; again especially in regards to work and your passions

you may also feel very blocked in relationships/pursuing relationships

likely an increased sex drive: i think all the tension and energy turning inwards is just pushing some people to maximum overload lol

confusion regarding passions/goals/relationships/etc: because we’re doing so much reflecting on mars themes, you may start doubting your wants/goals/interests/relationships/etc (depends on the transit house/aspects) as you’re thinking about them so much. it’s not inherently bad; reflection is a great thing! just be wary of overthinking. don’t be shocked as new things come to light and you start getting the urge to change paths, methods, etc

realization of mistreatment/acting on such: this is a BIG theme and i think we clearly see it in our world right now. since mars is/will be in harsh aspect to so many other planets representing power, control & authority (saturn & pluto) as well as jupiter who represents expansion, growth & excess; a lot of us are going to start setting boundaries. we’re going to be rethinking the times we’ve been mistreated, taken advantage of, the things we’ve let slide but shouldn’t have, and so forth. we’re especially noticing those abusing excess (jupiter) amounts of power (saturn/pluto/mars) both in our lives and in the world. this is THE time to start making and setting new boundaries; putting your foot down and denying those who don’t deserve your energy any sort of access to you! it may be a bit of a painful time if we’re reflecting on moments of abuse and similar; so take care of yourselves and please stay safe!

if you’re interested in what to expect/predictions based on what house(s) mars is transiting in your chart, as well as what to expect based on your natal planets that square/opposition/conjunct or quincunx mars; i’ll be making a post about such on patreon in a few days (i’ll add the link here when it’s up!). the patreon  post also includes questions to ask yourself based on where mars is transiting for you, to help with your retrograde reflection/healing/journaling/etc! 

if you’re familiar with astrology, just note the house mars is transiting through in your chart right now will show what area of your life is especially inward and lacking motivation. that’s where you’ll especially be needing to reflect on mars-related themes such as power, drive, expression, confidence, etc (same goes for the planets it is aspecting in your natal chart).

— ADVICE.

think hard before acting; don't jump into things without lots of consideration - much like venus retrograde be cautious of starting and ending relationships on impulse (end bad relationships tho pls!!! this is a great time for that!!! i just mean this in a way of like; if your significant other gets on your nerves once in a while and you wanna leave- think it over a few times; and also don’t jump into a relationship with someone you met yesterday)

don't start arguments/confrontations unless absolutely necessary (think: will this fight really benefit me, why am i REALLY upset right now, etc). i think it’s extremely important right now to make sure we aren’t bottling and exploding on people/in situations that don’t deserve it and weren’t the main cause of our frustration

exercise, stretch; do something physical to release energy from your body, if you can! mars is a very physical planet so any sort of movement can help a lot (just again be careful as always)

be gentle on yourself! it's okay if you need more rest during these times, don't be too hard on yourself for hitting roadblocks in goals - take this time to plan, think through what you really want, figure out how you’re gonna go for it and achieve this; then act after the rx or when you have more energy

start setting more boundaries; realize who does and doesn’t deserve to be in your life. realize that self-worth and how amazing you are!

ko-fi for tips 😊

[getofy]

matchup: #1 - hq boy w/ an extroverted fem reader!

—a/n: wow im genuinely so sorry for taking so long. literally school is ruining my life and i also um,, haven’t been doing the best this past month. i really hope this makes up for it !! it’s kinda long so my bad...also this is NOT proofread lol i apologize if it sucks aaaa.

DISCLAIMER: while this is a personalized matchup, they’re still headcanons, so basically anyone can enjoy them! :]

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hello @/meremoomoo ! you are so cute and tysm for being patient about ur request. i debated who you would go well with for a while, but in the end i came up with...

SUGAWARA KŌSHI!

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#SUGA: “YOU’RE PERFECT JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!”

#Y/N: “THANK YOU KŌSHI :].”

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☆ SUGA IS PERFECT FOR YOU, AND HERE IS WHY—

PERSONALITY TYPE:

suga has a personality type of INFJ, which compliments your ENFP personality type well.

“...you may benefit from perseverance in this relationship. your sensitive, sympathetic nature may at times overtake you, leading you to make decisions that feel right but are not really the wisest option. this person, whose approach seems so cold at times, can help you to tune into your powers of objective reasoning and ensure that you are not letting emotions rule your life.” —some website i found

while INFJs are not the most compatible with ESFPs, your other personality type, wonderful things can still come out of INFJ/ESFP dynamics! 

“your differences mean that you actually have a lot to offer one another. your counterpart may inspire you to slow down and think more deeply about the meaning of things, rather than just doing what feels right in the moment. in turn, you can help them to get out of their heads and enjoy life for what it is.” —some website i found

HOW YOU GUYS MET:

sugawara and you did not start off on the right foot at first...

the two of you were in the same class and sat very close to each other so he decided that he really wanted to get to know you.

he also just really likes becoming friends w/ people lol

since you were always laughing loudly with your friends during break time, he deduced that you had a good sense of humor.

he decided that jokes seemed like the right way to get to your heart win you over!

easy enough, right?

wrong.

apparently, he had caught you on a bad day because his attempts to be friendly were not received well. at all.

poor suga.

he does his best to be kind to everybody, but at the same time, he does love to poke fun at others. he probably took one of his jokes too far or something?

or maybe you really were just having a bad day?

who knows.

anyways, after that awkward encounter, he did his best to avoid you.

it’s not that he hated you, it’s just that he thought you hated him. it sort of bummed him out because you seemed cool, but he wanted to be respectful of your feelings!

*sorry it’s not enemies to lovers, but it’s close enough i hope ?

HOW HE DISCOVERED HE LIKED YOU:

the class had finished testing early, so the teacher decided to put on a movie.

AND FOR SOME UNKNOWN REASON THE MOVIE WAS OLD YELLER?!!?!?

(basically it’s just an incredibly depressing dog movie. like, if you’ve never seen it then just imagine the saddest movie you’ve ever seen 10x)

anyways, you ended up crying. very loudly.

sugawara was incredibly concerned for you, since you seemed to be genuinely distraught, but he didn’t say anything

eventually, the teacher caught on to your disarray and excused you from the room so you could go calm yourself down.

after some time, the teacher tells suga to go check up on you to make sure ur not dead or whatever lol (you were taking a while).

he was hesitant to do this since he knew you weren’t too fond of him, but suga decides to do it anyways since he didn’t want to be a disobedient student.

he finds you sitting on a bench with tears streaming down your face

and MAN!!

all at once, suga gets this overwhelming urge to make you feel better. but like, as in, he-never-wants-to-see-you-in-this-kind-of-state again-otherwise-he-might-breakdown kind of urse.

despite not being super close to you, he had gotten so used to your large smiles and extroverted demeanor, that watching you cry felt foreign to him.

he missed your smile.

he soon realizes that seeing you upset hurts him because he genuinely cares about your well-being.

so he decides to make it his personal mission to make you smile again.

suga takes the spot next to you voicelesslyand tries his best to talk you through your dismay.

you don’t seem to mind the company, and to his delight you don’t seem to hate him as much as he thought you did!!

suga is very grateful for this

anyways, he manages to cheer you up, and the tips of your lips turn up into a small grin—just like he wanted them to.

AND BOY OH BOY WHEN THEY DO!!

whew this man’s heart skips a BEAT baby and he is lowkey spiraling lol he’s so confused like why is this girl’s smile making me feel some type of way

he had been so focused on what you thought about him, but he had never once stopped to consider what he thought about you (until this very moment, of course).

turns out suga was incredibly fond of you

yeah, that’s how he knew.

suga brain go brr 4 pretti girl

HOW HE CONFESSES:

you two had been hanging out more frequently as of late

and getting to know you was only making suga‘s crush grow EXPONENTIALLY

after many nights spent in long contemplation, he came to the conclusion that it was time to ‘man-up’ and just rip off the band-aid that was being honest about his feelings.

he buys a single flower (tanaka’s advice) and waits by your locker

very very simple and sweet confession typa beat :(

literally SO nervous pls help . he’s scratching the back of his neck and holding the flower out to you with a slight twinge in his cheeks.

“y/n...i know you weren’t too fond of me at first, but i...i don’t know i think we’re great together! and now that we hang out and stuff i was thinking that maybe we could-“

yeah you cut the poor boy off and said yes to put him out of his misery.

literally verbally celebrates when you accept his flower. does a lil victory dance and everything.

ugh yall r so cute.

AFTER HE CONFESSES:

YOU GUYS GET TOGETHER INSTANTLY WOOOOOO

somehow the most wholesome and chaotic couple to ever exist???

you guys spend like every waking moment together it’s adorable

noya and tanaka would jokingly hit on you and suga would pretend to be actually jealous.

i hc him as being a somewhat possessive-y boyfriend so do w that what you will

total best friend kind of lover but he’s also a sweetheart and rlly romantic + respectful abt ur needs:(

y’all r super comfy w each other !!

WHAT HE LOVES ABOUT YOU:

sugawara is usually the kind of person that’s always there for other people so he appreciates the fact that you’re the same way! you guys bond over your shared therapist/mom-friend tendencies, and quickly become the support systems you so desperately needed prior to getting together.

he’s there to listen to you about your problems and vice versa.

he adores how you can meet and sometimes even exceed his energy. it’s a nice change of pace since he usually gets scolded by daichi. </3

thinks it’s cute how much you care for animals! you’ll often find him staring at you in wonder as you pet a random dog on the street lol.

MISC HEADCANONS:

will spend hours on end watching you play video games on FaceTime. after a while, he ended up buying his own console and now you guys play together!

he’s fairly competitive, and will whine whenever you destroy beat him in a game!

he’s so cute pls

one of his favorite things to do after a long day is sit and play slower paced games such as minecraft and animal crossing with you.

whether it’s about your fav historical monument or about a new show you saw, suga will listen to you talk for hours and never get bored. usually he’s always got something to add to the convo though. sometimes you guys get overly excited together and end up speaking over each other in the same way.!

is INCREDIBLE at getting you to calm down?? like, if you ever need to be put in your place, suga knows exactly what to say to do it. does this make sense? lol. you guys have big ying and yang energy sometimes i feel.

you’re his BIGGEST supporter. whenever he’s put into games, you’re always the LOUDEST one cheering him one.

it really touches him to know that you’ll always be there to root for him!! even mr.refreshing gets down sometimes, so it’s incredible to have someone as positive as you by his side constantly reassuring him.

he’s a big animal person as well so you guys like going to volunteer at shelters together!

this was actually your second date HAHA.

if a dog is within a 40 ft radius from y’all, it is almost guaranteed that you guys will sprint to go pet them.

since you’re both athletic, you guys help each other practice sports together! suga’ll throw u soft toss and help you run drills and hype u up before games. & you’ll help him work on his technique and such <33.

y’all totally gossip together wow. you said you were a bit on the meaner side of the spectrum and lowkey he doesn’t mind AT ALL. he lives for it HAHAHAHA.

he literally thinks you’re stunning so it upsets him whenever you get insecure, but he’s always got the right thing to say to cheer you up! genuinely just,,,, so good with his words. if you’re having a bad night, he’s ready to come to your rescue with a gentle smile and funny one-liner and maybe a documentary if you’re lucky enough.

in his eyes, everything about you is beautiful. your hair. your freckles. your body. your laugh. your smile. everything!! he’s going to do whatever it takes for you to love yourself in the same way he loves you.

this man so whipped smh 🙄🙄

tl;dr: suga thinks you hate him. you don’t. you start hanging out. he confesses to you by the lockers. you start dating. you are infinitely better at gaming than he is and will never let him forget it.

YOUR ANTHEMS (in no particular order):

darling by christian leave

pleasantries (with your lover) by mustard service

upside down by jack johnson

sunflower, vol.6 by harry styles

what do you like in me? by nasty cherry

MOODBOARD:

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[teawiththegods]

Hi Jessie 💞💖🐰💗💓 hope ur well! I wanted to ask advice on how to focus + understand the Iliad, bc it gets a bit hard for me to keep up with it esp when they start cataloguing their ships n stuff lol! I really would like to read the Iliad!! but I never get to finish bc its hard :/ for reference, I have the Richard lattimore (?) translation. I do not / cannot read e-books so physical books are a must! anyways, tysm 4 ur time 🥰💖💖💖

Hello, love!! Yeah The Iliad can be challenging to get through especially the first time. Personally, I’m a big fan of the Robert Fagles translation of it. I find it to be the easiest to read without sacrificing the beauty or impact of the text. 

Honestly I have found the BEST thing to do with not just Homer’s works but all the fiction that comes from Ancient Greece is to have others you can talk about them with. Or at the very least find those who have shared their thoughts already that way you have a bit of a guide and anchor to the story to understand what’s happening. I know for me being able to talk to others about our thoughts on the story also helps keep me motivated to read. 

I’m pretty sure the podcast Lets Talk About Myths Baby has covered The Iliad so you could listen to that to at least get an overview of what is happening. Tho keep in mind that the host is not a Hellenic Polytheist and approaches everything completely from a literary standpoint so the gods get treated more as characters than divine beings that actually exist. So she may say some things about them that some may find upsetting. 

Hope that helps! Also I am planning on covering The Iliad on Tea With the Gods next year so you can look out for that! 

If anyone wants to give their tips and advice pls feel free to!

[storybookprincess]

tips on surviving extended social distancing (from someone who was largely housebound for 18 months as a teenager)

listen, y’all.  covid is here.  no gettin around it.  and we are really going to need to come together as a nation (and as a planet, quite frankly) to help stop the spread & save as many lives as we can.  public health experts universally agree that social distancing is one of the absolute best ways to slow the spread of disease, so we all need to stay home and avoid large crowds as much as we possibly can in order to keep people alive.  this is not to alarm you.  rather, it should be empowering--so often, we feel there’s nothing we can do in times of crisis, but this time there is a very clear action you can take.  social distancing.  stay home as much as you can & know that by doing it, you’re literally keeping people from dying.

that being said, being stuck in your apartment/house most of the day is, to put it mildly, a tremendous pain in the ass. i know this firsthand--i largely spent ages 16 & 17 housebound due to a chronic illness that left me too ill to go anywhere most days.  i did, however, manage to keep a grip on my sanity by employing the following strategies.  they will not turn social distancing into a party.  they also will not work for everyone in the world (read: if this does not apply to you, kindly keep scrolling instead of writing an essay on why these tips do not work for your specific situation).  but they’re a few ideas to get you started thinking of ways to make the best of a bad situation.

1. accept that it is going to be a tremendous adjustment & there will be negative emotions associated with that

lives are going to change.  routines will be interrupted.  things are going to be vastly different for a while.  and it is completely okay to feel frightened, frustrated, upset, restless, bored, hopeless, etc etc.  identify & accept those feelings.  this is a global crisis, so if you didn’t feel anything negative about it whatsoever, i’d honestly be concerned.  be prepared to employ (or better yet, proactively employ) whatever methods you have to cope w negative feelings--journaling, meditation, relaxation strategies, talking w a friend/loved one/professional, watching cute cat videos, whatever works for you.  take good care of your mental health, but know that life is going to be hard for a while & it’s okay to feel bad.

2. to the best of your ability, maintain a routine

literally anything you read online about coping w mental illness will suggest you have some sort of structure to your day & you know what? they’re not wrong.  yes, sleeping in & having a lazy day occasionally is good for you, but try to have some sort of loose routine most days.  humans thrive on that shit.  i know lots of people resist this advice for whatever reason, but it really does help the days stop blurring together into an endless stream of blah.  wake up when you’d usually wake up.  eat when you’d usually eat.  if you’re working or studying from home, do those things when you’d normally do them.  have leisure time when you’d normally do it.  by whatever means necessary, pls try to maintain a routine.

3. relatedly, get dressed & do your same personal care routine every day

this was weirdly extremely important to me when i was homebound & sick.  for whatever reason, getting dressed & doing my makeup, even when i was just sitting at home all day, helped me feel like a human being.  i too enjoy being a sweatpants goblin on occasion, but it really will make you feel like an actual person & not a slug to keep up your same personal care practices every day.

4. socialize long distance

you will most likely have to get creative w this one, but there are SO many ways to keep in touch w friends & loved ones remotely.  play video games together from your own homes, share your screen & watch a show together, have a dinner date in which you both make or order dinner & then eat & talk via video chat, chat w online pals via discord, move your d&d game to roll20, have a virtual book club, etc etc.  i feel confident that if we all come together, we can come up w ways to stay in touch remotely.  to me, this is one of the most important ways to stay sane.  people NEED people, so pls stay in touch w pals.

5. spend your time in ways that make you feel good

this is going to look different for everyone, but think about what activities you can do from home that make you feel happy & good about yourself.  for me, that’s often writing, knitting, and cooking/baking.  sitting at home scrolling through your phone, for most people, doesn’t really making them feel awesome, so try to spend your time in ways that are actually meaningful to you.

my pro version of this tip is to make a list of these sorts of activities ahead of time.  i know when i’m grumpy & restless & bored, i often struggle to come up w ideas of what i’d like to do, so having a list on hand already is really helpful.  to get you started, some entries on mine might be: listen to a podcast, play video games, watch a new show i’ve been meaning to, create fan content of some variety, paint my nails, watch some educational videos, read some books or comics, etc.  make your own list & have fun!!!

6. wherever possible, try to find the silver lining

yes, it’s hard to find the good in being cooped up all day.  however, i just got word that my organization is mandating everyone work from home now & i’m trying to find some good in that.  for example, i get an extra half hour of sleep in the morning bc i don’t need to commute!  i don’t have to dress business casual anymore!  i can hang w my cat while i work!  i can pop down to the convenience store for coffee whenever i want!  i don’t have to sit in a windowless office all day!  i can go on the fun sites usually blocked on school wifi on quick brain breaks!  i can lie down when i don’t feel well!  etc etc.  try to find the good, however small it may be.

7. try to find things to do for others

one of the best ways to combat the slow creep of despair into your psyche is to do things to help other people.  human beings have managed to survive this long by virtue of being kind.  for example, i’m going to try to write as much as i can in the coming weeks to try to give people something to enjoy while they’re stuck inside.  i also think i’m going to bring a small treat to the nurses at the hospital when i go in for my routine treatment to thank them for their hard work in this tough time.  if we all band together & are kind to each other, we can find some light & hope in all of this.

i hope those tips end up helping you as we move forward.  this is a time of adjustment, uncertainty, and change.  it’s going to be hard & scary, but we’ll find a way through.  if anyone has additional tips, pls feel free to add on.  my thoughts & love are w all of you <3

[houseof-harry]

hey, i want to start writing but i'm nervous. I already have few ideas for imagines maybe even a short series but i'm scareddd. Partly because english is not my first language, but i just have fear to start. Do you have some tips or advice for starters? p.s. love your work!! ♥

can I just say that I was literally terrified to post my first part of what happens in Jersey. like I sat on that idea and then that part for a month and a half before I posted it. hell, every time im posting anything longer than a blurb lynds has to hype me up lmao. so I think the fear is definitely normal, and I can totally understand why you’d be apprehensive, especially if English isn’t your first language.

however I also think that no one would judge if you made any type of grammatical errors (and if they do they can fuck right off). writing might be a really helpful tool to help your confidence with your English improve!!!! im also always willing to proof read anything anyone writes if they’re interested and I will def read anyones work when it’s posted!!!! literally pls tag me I love finding new writing its literally the best feeling in the world

I think if you really want this to be something you do, that you just have to take the leap of faith and post it. like I said, def tag me to read, and make sure you use hashtags so that other people will see it too. but otherwise, if this is something you’re passionate about people will definitely be able to tell through the way you write and there will be an instant connection because of it. so just go with your heart, write what’s in your mind, and share your amazing talents w us ❤️

[rhetoricalrogue]

☄️🍵🗣💍 for Vincent pls

My tol squishy son! ❤️

☄️ Does your OC believe in fate and destiny or do they think it’s a load of garbage? Would they ever get this fortune told? What would a fortune-teller tell them about their future?

Yes, he absolutely does. There’s a reason things happen, for good or for bad. Ever the optimist, he thinks that even shitty events have a life lesson in them or “it could have been worse.”

He’d also be that guy who goes to get his fortune told and either a) gets fleeced by being super easy to read or b) gets an uncannily accurate reading without giving a single tell away. Either way, he happily pays and then gives a generous tip on top.

🍵 Are there any rumours about your OC hanging around? Nasty ones or just good humoured? Got any gossip to share about them?

Good humored: There’s a mage in practically every Circle Vincent has been in that is in love with him, he just doesn’t know it.

Nasty: He’s a talentless hack who got to the status he rose to so quickly only because of his noble birth and the monthly sum of money his parents “donate” to the Circle.

Gossip: Vincent and Rosalind have been secretly married for years, but cover it up under the guise of being just childhood friends. Any rumors that they’re involved in some secret affair with other mages (and sometimes the random Templar) were started by them to distract everyone from learning the truth about their relationship.

🗣️ What are the most painful words that can be said to your OC to utterly break them? What are the words that you could tell them to cheer them up? Maybe some advice to give them the boost they need!

“This was all your fault.” when something bad happens and someone shoves all the blame onto his shoulders, especially if something awful happens to any one of his students. A failed Harrowing guts him every time and he’ll agonize over what he could have taught differently that may have brought on a different outcome or how he could have tailored it to his apprentice’s learning methods so they could have understood it better. He has these thoughts even if he’s already bent over backwards to custom teach every single at-risk mage child to the point where he’s teaching the same spell multiple different ways. Vincent is someone who takes too much on himself and when he gets into his funks, there’s not much anyone (not even Roz) can say to pull him out, but being there for him helps a lot.

💍 Does your OC have a specific item that is priceless to them but may (or may not) be completely worthless to someone else? Is there a story behind this item or is it just because they like it so much?

Multiple somethings! Vincent, due to his status as the son of a nobleman, was granted more freedoms in the Circle, and he was talented enough as an Enchanter with a high success rate of students who no one thought would pass their Harrowings that other Circles requested his teaching methods (high success rates for apprentices meant lower rates of deaths due to possessions in Harrowings or Rites of Tranquillity on those deemed too dangerous to ever be able to control their magic.) His students didn’t have much, but one of his favorite ones gave him a little braided cord of string as a safe travels gift and he was so touched that he wore it around his wrist as a lucky token. Over the years, he collected more and more bracelets (the one Roz made for him out of braided and intricately knotted leather cords that she had woven an honest to goodness protection enchantment into when he was conscripted to fight in the Orlesian army while on loan to one of the Circles in Orlais is one he never takes off no matter what) that became a sort of symbol between himself and his students, especially those in Ostwick. If you saw a child or teenager with a little yarn or thin strip of leather bracelet, there was a good chance that they were one of Vincent’s pupils.

20 OC Questions

[danielnelsen]

seeing all the bria 2.0 drama is just..A Lot good lord. really didnt think id be living through this kinda thing again

TLDR: self care is important. distance urself from things that hurt u. if u stay on tumblr, this isnt the only drama you’ll ever go through. please look after urself

thinking abt how much the 2014/15 fandom drama absolutely traumatised me and still affects me to this day (sometimes i get panic attacks when i get an ask. i love and appreciate everyone who sends me stuff but i just freak out sometimes and..anyone who was in the fandom back in those days will probably understand why).......like, pls everyone who is affected by this: look after urselves.

[for context bc a lot of ppl werent here back then: bria was someone in the fandom who sent copious amounts of anon hate, made hate blogs against specific users, sent people violent sexual asks, and all the while publicly sucked up to everyone. there was other stuff but this isnt an essay and also it’s horrible to remember]

please please please: if this is affecting ur emotions and general wellbeing, you have to talk to someone about it. if u were friends before and now feel betrayed, that’s legitimate stress and can lead to lasting emotional damage. same with anyone who was negatively impacted while she was around; cyberbullying and harassment can also affect u for a v long time. it’s always best to talk to someone offline, but if you cant then finding someone online can also be helpful.

some tips below

limit ur exposure. dont completely submerge urself in the drama. u need to focus on some good things otherwise youll get overwhelmed. practice some self care.

im serious. this sounds like crappy cliched advice, but go outside; for a walk or something. read a book. watch a light comedy tv show. listen to ur favourite music. hang out w friends who dont know abt this stuff and just enjoy ur time w them. u need to have fun activities that are completely unrelated to the fandom.

feel the emotions, but dont act on them. it’s v important not to suppress ur emotions, but feeling them doesnt mean getting physically angry or upset. be angry. be upset. hell, cry; that’s completely fine and actually helpful. but while ur feeling them, sit back and observe them. think abt how ur feeling and what ur thoughts are. if ur thoughts are negative, question them. challenge them. dont try to control ur thoughts and emotions, but recognise them. it’s hard and takes a lot of practice, but it really helps w staying on top of ur emotions and not letting them get too out of hand.

take a break if u need to. even when ppl are laughing abt the drama, it’s still not a healthy attitude and being around it can still hurt u. laughing w everyone else is just gonna keep reminding u of what has happened. it’s not safe to keep engaging w what is hurting u, unless ur in a controlled environment (eg, w a therapist; not on tumblr). turn off tumblr notifications on ur phone. leave all the drama behind, even if just for a few hours. give urself some peace

like..again, more cliched advice, but look after ur body. this is a stressful experience and looking after ur body helps ur mind. eat well, drink plenty of water, try to keep ur sleep schedule consistent, and get in a little light exercise if u can.

idc if it seems like im overreacting. ppl are talking abt how she made them feel scared to interact w certain ppl and that’s a really terrible situation to have been through.

but, even if things look bad rn, you will be ok. i promise xx

idk how helpful this is, but if u think it could help ppl then feel free to share it

[jjpocketbook]

How to Use Instagram Filters in Paid Social Media Campaigns

One billion – that’s how many people use Instagram each month.

With such a huge, highly engaged audience, you can bet the competition between brands is tough. This is why small details can make all the difference, and Instagram filters could play a part in making your social media campaigns more successful.

What are Instagram Filters?

Everywhere you look, marketing advice says you need high-quality images to succeed on platforms like Instagram. But what if you’re not a professional photographer?

This is where Instagram filters can be a game-changer for your marketing and particularly your paid social media campaigns—they can make your images look as sleek as if they’d been professionally shot.

Here’s an example of an unfiltered image vs. its filtered twin:

Not only do Instagram filters make things look cleaner, but they also allow you to edit your image with one click. Where most editors make you alter contrast, saturation, and so forth individually, Instagram lets you pick a pre-set filter that suits your image—though you can tweak them if you’d like.

While these filters have been around since 2011, they’ve taken off in recent years. With the added capabilities of augmented reality (AR) technology—which adds imaginary images to those of the real world—they can significantly impact your social media campaigns.

Why Should You Use Instagram Filters in Your Paid Posts?

Social media platforms are competitive, and standing out from the crowd isn’t easy. If you’re going to get the best cost per click with your paid social media campaigns, then your brand needs to grab attention and drive engagement.

When you run an Instagram ad, you don’t have much real estate to work with, so you’ve got to find ways to draw your audience in with the limited space you have.

If you can combine innovative use of filters with creative images and excellent text, then you could achieve exceptional results— as Opel did with their “Opel Adam” campaign. In just two weeks, the campaign achieved a 2.5x increase in registrations and significantly lowered Opel’s cost per registration.

It’s possible to achieve the same results for your business, but you’ve got to make the most of the tools available to you.

If only 18% of Instagram posts use a filter, this means you’ve got an opportunity to make your content stand out over the other 82%. Research shows that AR filters have an average dwell time of 75 seconds, which is four times that of even video content—so using it can make a huge difference.

Social media platforms crave engagement, and if your advertisements give them that, you may find you reach more people for less—and Instagram filters are one of the best tools to help you achieve this.

How to Use Instagram Filters for Your Paid Campaigns

Turning your posts into paid campaigns through the Instagram app couldn’t be easier. All you need is a business or creator account, and then you can get set up with your paid ads.

Click the profile icon in the bottom right-hand corner.

Select promotions.

Choose a post to promote. Instagram will prompt you to use your top post, but you can select any of your previous posts to promote.

Select where to send people— your profile, website, or direct messages.

Define your audience. The easiest option is to choose “automatic,” which targets people similar to your followers, but you can create your own.

Choose your budget, setting your daily cost and how long you want the campaign to run for.

Review and publish.

  To create a promotion through the app, you need to have already created your post or story. Luckily, Instagram makes it exceedingly easy to snap an image on the go, add a great filter, and promote it within seconds.

Tips for Picking the Right Instagram Filter for Your Campaign 

The right Instagram filter might be a quick way to give your images the professional touch, but the wrong filter can have the opposite effect. When you’re choosing your filter, keep these three points in mind:

Your images reflect your brand

Consistency works well on social media

Don’t go filter crazy

Your images help define your brand, so the filters you choose matter. Your filters should reflect the mood of the product or service you’re promoting, and you need to stay consistent with this.  

A great example of this is JetBlue’s Instagram account. You can easily spot how consistency has allowed them to develop their own simple yet effective style by using similar image styles, colors, and more.

While the right filter can make things look amazing, “over filtering” can have the opposite effect. You don’t want to alter things so much that they look surreal. Instagram filters are optimized to please, so it’s often worth sticking to the tried and tested rather than over-editing.

If you’re looking for inspiration, Canva studied the most popular filters, and Clarendon, Gingham, and Juno came out on top.

Instagram Filters for Posts

Adding filters to your Instagram posts couldn’t be easier. In five simple steps, you can post amazing images that grab your audience’s attention.

Click the + button at the center of your home screen.

Select the image you want to use from your library, or select “photo” or “video” to create a new one. Click next.

Choose your filter from the list at the bottom of the screen. Remember, you can add more by clicking manage at the end of the reel.

Add your caption, tag people in your posts, post your location, and choose other social platforms you would like to post to.

Hit share.

Instagram Filters for Stories 

Instagram stories allow you to post photos and videos that vanish after 24 hours. One-third of the most viewed Instagram stories are created by businesses, so they are an excellent way to make your posts go further.

The process of posting stories with filters is just as simple as with posts, but you’ll notice a lot more options when it comes to AR filters.

For a live video or image:

Select your profile icon.

Hit the + button in the top left-hand corner.

Select “story” from the pop-up menu.

Use your camera to take live video or images, or select an existing one from your library by clicking on the image in the bottom left-hand corner.

Choose between your front-facing and rear-facing camera if you’re taking a live image.

Select your filter from the reel at the bottom.

Tap the center button to take a picture or hold the button to take a video.

Use the editing buttons in the top right-hand corner to add extra filters, overlay text, or download to your library.

Hit “send to” and select where to share your story.

Bonus Instagram Filter Tip

If you’re scrolling through Instagram and see a filter you like, you can save it to use on your own stories.

Go to the profile of the person with the filter you like.

Click the smiley face emoji to see all their filters.

You can save it by clicking the down arrow or try it on.

When you’re trying on the filter, click the drop-down menu.

From here, you can save the effect or send it immediately as a story.

The next time you send a story, the filter will be ready for you to use.

Instagram Filters for Faces

When you created your first story pin, you likely noticed there are a lot of things you can do to your face with AR.

AR allows you to add computer-generated effects over the live image you see on your camera. For example, if you want to see what you look like wearing sunglasses, there’s an AR filter for that. The sunglasses appear on your face and follow you as you move.

There are endless Instagram filters with AR, which gives you more options to engage your audience. However, as with any Instagram filters, it’s essential to find the ones that suit your brand.

Some companies have had great success with AR filters on Instagram, such as this one by Ray-ban. But if you’re going to use these filters, then you’ve got to make sure you stay on-brand.

To create a story with AR filters, simply follow these steps:

Select your profile icon.

Hit the + button in the top left-hand corner.

Select “story” from the pop-up menu.

Choose between front- and rear-facing camera.

Slide between the filters at the bottom and watch as your face is brought to life with AR.

For more effects, slide to the end of the reel and select “browse effects.”

Choose a filter.

Click the middle button to take a photo, hold to take a video.

Click send and then select where to share.

Other Instagram Features to Help Your Paid Campaign

One of the reasons Instagram is so popular with advertisers is because it gives you lots of tools to give your paid campaign extra oomph. The beautiful thing about it is it’s so easy for anyone to add filters, gifs, text, and music to their images.

While a recent study found that images without text overlay generally perform better than those with text, marketing is all about finding the message that engages your audience, so it’s worth experimenting to find the formula that works for you.

These Instagram features give you added options when it comes to reaching and engaging your target audience.

Adding Gifs

Gifs provide a great middle-ground between static images and video. They were talked about as a big marketing trend, and while AR has taken over somewhat, they’re still a handy tool for your paid Instagram campaigns.

A gif is a quick and easy way to add something extra to your story, and once again, Instagram makes it exceptionally easy to do:

Select your profile icon.

Hit the + button in the top left-hand corner.

Select “story” from the pop-up menu.

Choose between front and rear-facing cameras or open your library via the icon in the bottom left-hand corner.

Take a picture, or choose an image from your library.

Choose the square smiley face at the top of the screen.

Select gifs, or use the search bar to find a specific gif.

Make your gif bigger or smaller by pinching in or out with two fingers and drag it into position.

Select “send” to and choose who you want to see your story.

Adding Text

Instagram might be a very visual platform, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t use for text. The right use of text can help give your posts and stories context, grabbing people’s attention and linking the image to your brand.

Text is a vital part of Instagram because this is where you make use of one of the most important features: hashtags.

Hashtags not only help people find your posts, but they also boost engagement and allow you to zero in on what’s popular in your industry. The statistics show that Instagram posts with even just one hashtag can see an increase in engagement of 12.6%. So with only a little extra text, you can give your campaigns a better chance of success.

You can also use text overlay on your stories. You’re in control of your text’s font, color, and look, which means you have another way of giving your images a professional look.

To add text overlay to your stories, simply:

Select your profile icon.

Hit the + button in the top left-hand corner.

Select “story” from the pop-up menu.

Select your image or video.

Click the “Aa” in the top right-hand corner.

Type your text.

Choose your font, color, and effects, using the tools at the top of the screen.

Hit “done.”

Select “send to” and choose your audience.

Adding Music

Music has always played an important part in advertising. Music helps make advertisements more memorable, evokes emotion, builds the story, and accentuates the brand, so it can be an essential tool.

While some people will use Instagram with the sound off, Instagram makes it so easy to add features such as music that you don’t lose anything by using them.

Again, make sure whatever you choose fits your brand and is going to engage your audience.

Here’s how you can add music to your Instagram stories:

Select your profile icon.

Hit the + button in the top left-hand corner.

Select “story” from the pop-up menu.

Choose between front and rear-facing cameras or open your library via the icon in the bottom left-hand corner.

Take a picture or choose an image from your library.

Choose the square smiley face at the top of the screen.

Click the music icon.

Choose your song.

Edit which part of the song you want to showcase, clip duration, and how you want to credit the song.

Click “done.”

Move the music sticker, making it bigger or smaller to suit your image.

Hit “send to” and select your audience.

Instagram Filter Features Within Other Photography Apps

You might be thinking, “I want my Instagram posts to stand out, so why would I use the most common filters such as Clarendon?” While many brands find success with Instagram’s filters, you have other options if you choose to go that route.

To help you with this, there are lots of photography apps that have curated Instagram filters you can pay for or give you the ability to create your own, including:

VSCO

Afterlight

A Color Story

Tezza

Spark AR

You may have to invest some time in finding or creating the perfect Instagram filter, but once it’s saved to your Instagram account, you can add it to all your posts and stories in seconds.

Conclusion

The right Instagram filter can immediately improve your images and give your brand an identity. When you’re running paid media campaigns, you want to give your images and videos every chance of standing out from the crowd, and filters can help you achieve this.

Instagram makes it incredibly easy to add this extra element to your posts. Turn your images into posts that people want to engage with and share, then watch how they may improve your paid social media campaigns.

What’s the go-to Instagram filter for your brand?

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[veganhumor]

Any tips on how to survive Thanksgiving with a omnivorous family? I can just imagine the turkey and the life they could have had IF NO ONE HAD MURDERED THEM

Aww yeah I feel you. Unfortunately, the best course of actions is to not think about it if you can avoid it. (I say this assuming that you don’t want to start a vegan debate with your family in the middle of the get-together.) I get through holidays by willfully not thinking about it bc otherwise, I’d be in the same boat as you. 

If anyone has actual helpful advice (cause my advice is kinda weak), pls don’t hesitate to share.

[ask-svt-hearteu]

Written Scenario Requests and Moodboard Requests are now OPEN!

Admin: Hello everyone!!! THANK YOU SO SO MUCH FOR 2K FOLLOWERS!!!! We’re all screaming and after finally clearing all our old written requests and the dates from our 1k follower special, we will now open written requests again as well as open moodboard requests! Please keep in mind we will be adhering to our rules and guidelines for requests and will be listing moodboard request rules below. Also note that since all of us are in school, we may not get requests up right away, so if we get a lot we may choose to close them again until further notice, it all depends. Thank you all for your love and support again! <3

Moodboard requests:

either one member, ship or unit at a time

preferably tell us a color theme (like red, blue, black, etc.)

up to two colors per moodboard

or

tell us a theme

it can be something like “boyfriend aesthetic” or “inspired by the Jun soulmate au” or “based off svt’s song don’t listen in secret” or something like “autumn Soonyoung” as examples

Here’s an example moodboard: “Minghao couple nature aesthetic” 

“‘You said you like the sun, but when you go outside you find shade. You said you like the rain, but when it rains you use an umbrella. That’s why when you said you like me, I was afraid.’ The8 told me that.” -Junhui 

ALSO… If you guys wanna read it, here are some things the admin have to say^~^

Admin Soph: I'm honestly so proud of how far this blog has come. Went from a follower to an admin real fast  😂. No but really. I was freaking nervous when I sent in an application. I wanted to be a part of this blog to strengthen my writing skills (and love for Seventeen) and get to know the amazing people behind it. But I also didn't know whether I would be able to give you guys content that you all will like and deserve. AND I HONESTLY DONT KNOW WHY IM EVEN HERE HAHA.

And I just want to appreciate every single one of you. You guys are literally the sweetest bbys ♥️ ♥️ . My heart always warms up when we receive an ask and it’s for the admins asking whether we're okay and taking care of ourselves. I just want to cuddle you all in warm blankets and take care of you. And I'm saying this now if you guys ever have any problem and feel like talking to someone.Or if you just want to be friends. We're always here~ 

And on that note. To all the mutuals that I have had the chance to talk to. Y'all are amazing. I don't understand why you guys are still talking to me tbh. That's why you're all precious to me ohmygod 💞 💞 . Also, I'm sorry if I don’t reply much. IM A VERY INTROVERTED PERSON AND I ALWAYS MAKE SITUATIONS AWKWARD AHAHA. But if you guys want to talk to me about something, I’ll drop everything and talk to you. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU DESERVE LOVE AND I SHALL GIVE YOU LOVE IF YOU NEED IT  💞 💞 .

Imma write something for Jun too. Because I’ve been with this baby boy for a very long time. I love him so so much 💖 . There are times where I want to fight him. And there are times where I just want to bubble wrap him and protect him. Literally makes me go through different emotions in one day. But mostly it’s the feeling of happiness. Jun is a big reason as to why I'm slowly loving myself. With him being a funny confident dude, I found out that I can be like that too. And ever since I did, I have been feeling nothing but happiness and I want to thank him for that. I hope I will be able to meet him someday and tell him what a wonderful human being he is.

Now to the amazing and beautiful admins. Imma write something for each one of you but first and foremost I just want to say that ya’ll are precious to me. I might not talk a lot and barely reply in the gc (iM SOWI I WILL CHANGE THAT I PROMISE HAHA). But know that you guys have a very special place in my heart. And that's beside Seventeen. Been only a few months and I'm very thankful that I met yall. You guys are like my family at this point and I wanna keep it at that even after this blog.

Now onto Jess. My fave Joshua stan no joke. LOOKS LIKE AN ANGEL AND HAS A VOICE OF AN ANGEL I SWEAR SHE’S PERFECT FOR JOSHUA FIGHT ME. Literally the sweetest human being. Even though she’s older than me, I want to protect her ohmygod. I love Jess very much. You guys don’t even know. She is very nice. I don’t know how she is able to keep that image tbh. She is also very VERY HARDWORKING. I want to freaking start a petition for Jess to rest. It amazes me how she copes with all this school work and with this blog. And man if you ever need someone to coo about Joshua, Jess is that person. She is so whipped in love with Shua. And with Jun second on her bias list and with Joshua on mine, we both basically die because of Junshua. 

Meagan is next!! Meagan is literally the definition of aesthetic . Literally from her fashion style and her freaking bullet journal. And her bias is aesthetic himself asdfghjk. And also her writing style. I adore her writing very much. And I literally asked her for writing advice HAHA. She is a very soft-hearted person. And a very good person to ask advice from. Like I would definitely go to her if I ever have a problem. sHE IS ALSO VERY PRETTY????? LIKE HER INSTAGRAM MAKES ME QUESTION MYSELF. LIKE SHE IS SO DAMN PRETTY I DONT UNDERSTAND HAHA. Also how she is able to converse with everyone amazes me. Overall an amazing older sister for me  💖 I love ya Meagan~

And lastly my fellow youngling Seri. I just want to point this out now. If anyone dares to fight Seri, I’ll be there. This person right here is very precious. And I will fight to keep it at that. You can tell that I love her very much. She is near my age so it’s very comforting for me to have someone close to my age. Also her love for Soonyoung is the cutest thing. Whenever she and Meagan talk bout Soonyoung and being whipped for Soonyoung I just can't. So adorable. She is also very beautiful. He makeup skills are on point. Like please teach me, I'm a potato HAHAH. And can we just talk about how cute her name is? Seri is so goddamn adorable. Just like her.

Amazing that even though we live in different timezones, we will always find time for each other. I love these peeps very much. And I'm thankful for Seventeen for helping me find them.

Pretty long but oh well. This happens when you make the quietest person talk HAHA. But seriously, you guys mean everything to me at this point. Like I feel safe knowing that I have 3 angels watching over me. And I just want you guys to know that I also have your back. Hope our friendship will strengthen as years go by  💖 💖. And to our dear followers, please stay sweet. We’ll always love you. And Seventeen loves you guys too. Let’s make more memories together~

Admin Meagan: Tbh, when I applied to become an admin for this blog I really didn't think I would actually be picked. But look at me now AHAHAHA. I'm so so glad that I became an admin for this blog because it combines two things I love. Writing and seventeen.

I don't think you guys know how much I enjoy writing something and seeing how much people liked it as well. Especially when you guys send us direct compliments in our ask box. I don't think you guys know how much we coo in our admin group chat about the sweet stuff y'all send to us sometimes 💓

To the mutuals I've made from this blog, thank you so much for talking to me. I'm a pretty social person and I enjoy talking to anyone so thank you for that. And I enjoy the stuff y'all reblog as well AHAHAHAHA you guys are amazing and tenks for being a friend.

Honestly, Seventeen has undeniably made me happy. From listening to their songs when I'm mad to calm down to being an emotional wreck during Diamond Edge. I truly care about the boys and this blog made me love them even more. Also, I want to give a little shout out to my ethereal star, Kwon Soonyoung for literally brightening up my day all the time ✨

Thank you for being my ult bias and being extremely cute. You mean a lot to me for sure. Onto our beloved admins, firstly Jess. Y'all don't know how amazing she is. She's immensely smart and so caring. In these past few months of being friends, she's definitely a kind-hearted person and it really shows through. From listening to my past boy drama (like literally, I sent her voice messages and it was like 1-2am for her I'm,,,) to her giving advice to me. She's truly a gem and like an older sister <3 Also guys, she's really pretty!!! Even though she denies it :p and also a good singer!

Next is, Seri!!! Firstly, Seri is exceptionally funny, I swear the things she says sometimes in the group chat is hilarious. Also, she's sooooo good at makeup y'all and hella stunning as well. I always go to her for tips and we always share our makeup of the day with each other AHAHAHAHA. Seri is so kind and such an amazing support system and you can literally talk to her about anything AHAHAHAHAHA. I truly appreciate her being a friend <3 and the fact she stans hosh as well hehe

And to our maknae! Sophia but we always call her Soph. The best Jun stan I've met in my life. A creative little fellow and she also dances!! And also gives me tips for dance because I'm literally a stick AHAHAHAH She's so cute as well!! And such a caring bean <333 Also she likes attacking the rest of us with pictures of our biases 😂 Need a span of Joshua?? Soph is always ready lmao

Y'all mean a lot to me and I can't believe the amount of support I've gotten from all of you for a lot of things. From picking outfits to fangirling with me during my concert. I honestly don't mind opening up to y'all which I don't often do at all. I really like how you guys are always there and whenever one of us is down or have some tea to spill, everyone is on board AHAHAHAHA.

I seriously love all the admins so much because they are friends that I cherish quite a lot. I cannot wait for the day we all can meet somewhere and just hang out together and just have fun, heh 💓 We really need to start skyping with each other and pls one day come to Malaysia!!! I'm gonna bring you guys around for good food and photoshoots!! (I take really good pictures if I say so myself, if you wanna see them. Message me for my Instagram AHAHAHAHA)

Most importantly, thank you to literally everyone who've read our work and enjoyed it, to those who reblog and heart our stuff; thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️ And to our readers I've personally talked to personally, y'all are really cool and tenks for talking to this nerd lmao. I can't wait to see this blog grow even more and to experience new things with seventeen and you guys. Love y'all 

Admin Seri: first THANK YOU, for making it this far >< 

Wow, well I’m speechless, honestly I’m not even sure what to say, so i apologize in advance how unorganized this ESSAY is about to be. 

First, i’ve always been curious on writing scenarios like this, and i definitely think I was good enough. So any thoughts of running a blog was like, jumping off a cliff, it was best to keep it out of mind. Me and Jess, met through an online groupchat that I seriously never thought would lead to this. Funny thing, I was on vacation,  when I joined, one-two weeks after Jess made the blog. With all of my curiosity of what it was like, I was kind of bored and wanted to give it a shot. Legit I expected like 500 followers after like, a year? NEVER did i think we’d have 2000 after 5 months. like WHAT. 

To Seventeen, the talented, amazing dorks, where my vocabulary is not big enough to describe them. aside from the fact I love, adore, and admire them very much, (if i stayed here and talked about  they are a team with a lovely team backing them up. CARATSSSSSS ;))) without Seventeen, there would be no blog, and with no blog, i wouldn’t have met the three other amazing admins, other tumblr mutuals, and our amazing readers ^~^ .  

First to Soph, I- just know she is adorable, that’s all, the cutest freaking Jun stan ever. she’s only a feel months younger than me but i feel like im a grandma with all the energy she has because she’s on a dance team and how tired I am all the time. i’m thankful i get to wake up to her spam of pictures also :’)  honestly rip to her storage, :’) let’s keep together lovely! US MAKNAES SHOULD STICK TOGETHER!!! ;) our own lil maknae line leggoooo ;) <3

Meagan my fellow hosh stan, oh my god she is actually my aesthetic, from bullet journaling SHE IS AMAZING, to makeup I LOVE TALKING ABOUT MAKEUP (someone who can actually deal with that because my obsession is bad hehe) she’s gorgeous and i feel blessed to find a friend like her, (not because of her connections in Malaysia or something COUGH) im jp ;) she’s just someone i can always ask an honest opinion from, and im thankful for that <3

Then Jess, I’m trying not to tear up right now and I honestly don’t ever cry unless I’m watching a TV show, honestly. she’s been here from me through and through and our friendship feels a lot longer than five months. I already know our friendship will last even when we one day will sadly have to end the blog :’), and i’m ready to meet because im planing this trip already like LETS GO LET KOREAN BBQ bc proud foodie right here, hell any of the admins. this is gonna sound so mushy oh god but i feel i’ve grown and learned so much from her and she never makes me feel stupid for asking a question. moving on, GUYS OUR CONVERSATIONS ARE ACTUALLY GREAT LIKE AFJFOLAENGV on of the more memorable ones is when she introduced me to that song, YES JESS YOU KNOW. and most importantly, thank you for being my mom and just being there for me , because im truely thankful for that <3

TO OUR FOLLOWERS, there’s 2000 of you guys WHAT, welcome to our craziness and thanks for sticking around! I’d love to get to know you guys so don’t be scared to message me @bloatedboo !! i’m not great with words but know every single one of you guys are in my heart whether i know your name or not. <3

Admin Jess: Brace yourselves, I have lots to say😂.

First off, if you had asked me if I had expected to hit 100 followers let alone the 2,000 followers we have now when I first started this, I would have laughed. It is a bit of a crazy number to wrap our heads around, but I’m insanely grateful and I might actually start crying. This whole thing started off as simply a hobby, something I could use to vent my love for the 13 boys that have my heart, but it became so much more after a while. It almost didn’t happen too, just like our beloved soulmate series, everything came down to being in the right place at the right time and having everything line up perfectly before the hard work and passion kicked in haha. I’ll state my thanks here so that I can get it out in words rather than tears. I won’t get too much into how when I started this blog with Seri, I was not in a very happy place. But that’s not the important part. The thing is I met incredible people through this blog and learned many things. I learned how to not let every criticism and mean comment get to me, and rather to learn to grow and try to do the best I can. Nothing brightens my day more than hearing I made people smile, there’s nothing else I’d rather do with my time:) ahem now for my thanks (and yes I’m going to thank Seventeen bc I’m hella extra)

Seventeen have made me v v happy and continue to do so to this day. While I may declare my love and hatred (jokingly) and say I’m unstanning, I really love all 13 boys with all my heart. All the admin have talked about it, but when we’re writing for them or answering asks, they don’t seem like just idols to us. They’re friends who love each other, real genuine people who are beautiful inside and out. I’d like to thank them for just being them, for bringing a smile to my face whenever I feel down. Honestly so sappy and cringe but true nevertheless. I love Svt a whole lot <3

Joshua, EXCUSE ME AS I GET HELLA EMOTIONAL I CAN’T JUST WRITE TWO SENTENCES ABOUT THIS GUY;&:9;$2. So I’ll try to keep it short. Joshua, I am the most grateful to him for his undying love for his friends, for his hard work at always being the best person possible, and for genuinely making me smile. He’s the kind of person I want to be, someone who is kind-hearted and tries his very best at everything he does and ilhssm.

I can feel myself tearing up woohee this is going great. I’d like to thank the many internet friends and mutuals I met, through this blog. Initially I had simply wanted people to fangirl with svt about and I got so so much more. There is a moment I remember distinctly 2 weeks ago, I had been really stressed about my slew of tests and I had maybe gotten 20 hours of sleep in the entire week and had told my friends in real life but also my internet friends (you know who you are and ily) and I was bombarded with messages of support from everyone in the morning and I dead af kid you not sat and cried because how did I deserve such amazing support and friends. People who had never seen me before were genuinely concerned about my health and mentality and nothing nothing made me cry more than just the sheer amount of support I got. I had mentioned in our admin chat how I regretted not doing enough due to exams and my bb’s legit were screaming at me to sleep and that it’s ok and everything will be ok if I didn’t answer everything right away and just focused on me and it’s prob one of the moments in my life that I felt the most support and love ever. and so that takes me to my few final thanks….

Soph, okie hands down my favorite Jun stan I’m sorry everyone, I love Soph lots omfg. She’s so talented!!! I’m living for the day where she kills me with her dancing just as Junhui does to all of us, I can’t imagine how hard it must be to learn svt and bts choreo and run this blog lmao. Soph, I love how you hype Josh with me and how we all suffer together when we send svt pictures and honestly thank you thank you thank you so so much for being not only an admin but a valuable friend.

Meagan, I can always count on her to send me pictures of Joshua on Instagram and I love her lots too. I love how despite living 16 hours apart, we can still have conversations about boy drama (no not svt lmao svt wouldn’t do us dirty like boys irl) and fangirl about Josh and svt and just everything. She’s incredibly talented too, her writing and she’s so pretty I die. Meagan, I love how I can say something and count on you to talk about it, it’s beautiful and fun, thank you so so much admin and friend.

And finally, I’d like to thank Seri. Seri has been with me on this rollercoaster of a ride since the very beginning. I found it incredible how the two of us just *clicked* ya know? She’s the type of friend who says one thing and two hours later, she and I are both dying from laughter on the ground in stitches. I’ve never genuinely laughed more than some convos I’ve had with her. I’m also surprised she has yet to hear me screaming at her from across the country, I’m pretty sure I’m loud enough that she could hear me. She’ll prob forever be my aegi whether she likes it or not and while I honestly don’t know how much longer I’ll stan svt, I do hope that our friendship can far outlast our time together here on the blog (plus I swear imma buy her plane tickets somehow so we can go to an svt concert together or disneyland before I die). I’ve ranted to her lots and I complain to her lots but she never tells me I’m annoying and for that, I’m also thankful XD. I think I have learned quite a lot from her, including how to have thicker skin and I love her so so so much. Seri, thank you for everything lovely, let’s continue growing as friends and people together ^~^

Final remarks, I think what has always drawn me to svt is just the sheer comradery and love they have for each other. It’s undeniable they’re family to one another. I had always been somewhat jealous of their adorable friendships and funny chemistry. But as I look back on it now, I found my own sort of svt, in the people, friends, and stories I interact with everyday here, and for that I can only say thank you.

[fairydusts]

Can you please give me advice on how to clean my skin? I suffer from acne and I have small blemishes from it, how can I get rid of them?

i think the best thing would be visiting a dermatologist!! i’ve always had nearly clear skin, so i don’t think i’m the best one to give advice on that. and not to sound cliche, but i do think having a healthy diet (a lot of veggies, fruits, water), washing ur face twice, and exfoliating once or twice a week can help. if anyone has any tips, pls share it w this anon!!

[hexiewrites]

fellow writers: help???

okay: as some of you know, I’ve been writing this space pirates au thing that is honestly starting to spiral RAPIDLY out of hand. i’m talking 30k-no-signs-of-slowing-down spiral, with subplots and overarching problems and background characters demanding fully fleshed out stories out of hand.

and my outline is.... suffering.

so I was wondering, for fellow writers who have written longer fics, major AUs, or even their own novels / etc, do you have any tips for planning and outlining this? how do you outline? DO you outline? 

I mean, I’m trying here, but I’m not super organized at the best of times and I don’t want to mess anything up if anyone has any great suggestions on how to... not.

I’m tagging everyone I can think of off the top of my head who writes - even if you only write shorter things I’d love to have your advice on your planning/outlining processes! (if I didn’t tag you but you have advice: PLS SHARE IT ANYWAYS)

<3 thanks in advance, beautiful individuals!

@olivieblake @provocative-envy @flintwoodandco @mxrcusflint @petuniaevans @ff-sunset-oasis @dramione84 @colubrina @shayalonnie @littlemulattokitten @turbulenthandholding @oliverwvvd @ladyleanam @hexrmionegranger