#idk why this is a problem nowdays?

[tae-shimura-is-my-wife]

I don't know why almost everyone changed their minds about this, but i love dolls having multiple versions of themselves, especially when they have different makeup and hair.

Man, imagine if Bratz, MH or EAH only had one doll of each character? They would be super hard to find afterwards! Plus, if dislike their main doll or couldn't afford her, you still have other options to buy.

And making just fashion packs wouldn't give companies that much money let's be serious.

Maybe for you collectors this is pointless, but since most of these dolls are made for children in mind...

[terraliensvent]

Hi, hi! Same anon of this post here

https://www.tumblr.com/terraliensvent/762293140076036096/its-the-first-time-for-me-posting-here-i-wanted?source=share

I kinda want to respond to this recent vent/ask:

https://www.tumblr.com/terraliensvent/762635927422140417/httpswwwtumblrcomterraliensvent7626289741396?source=share

I don't like to be hash and all but nani? Are people seriously thinking that a 16 year old is capable to just realize "oh wait I'm uncomfortable i should probably get the hell out of here."

No? It doesn't work that way?

Let's unpack this shall we; this is Xil thing all over again and I'm seriously irritated when people don't understand common sense.

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First:

No, the minor is not responsible to tell someone older, that they are uncomfortable around those kind of topics.

It should be common sense that an ADULT should never share such sensitive topics with someone younger and obviously less experienced then them.

Are people seriously thinking that someone younger is capable to understand, know and especially PROCESS that kind of emotional baggage?

NO they do not!

Minors brain are not able to process such things, that's why when minors go through emotional situations, they rely on adults knowledge and experience to understand what they are going through. Are all adults equiped in that? Nah or society nowdays wouldn't be like this but that's another story.

A child brain is still developing, venting to them such things are extremely damaging for them because they lack the ability to process them like an adult would.

You don't go to a child and be like "hey kiddo do you have a solution for my problem?"

Another thing is that an adult should always deter conversations around these topics to avoid:

• Sensitive informations getting shared

• Minors getting emotionally attached to you

• Possible emotional distress of a minor and inapprorpiate behavior with said minor (also not sexual because that exist is general emotional exploitation)

When a minor asks "are you ok? Do you want to talk about it?"

The reasonable response should be: "I'm ok, dont worry, I'm talking with someone that's helping me figuring out my current situation" or something similar, aiming to deter further indulgence on these kind of topics.

It's ok to be like "hey I'm a little under the weather" when it's light topics like idk a bad grade at school, but stop using minors as emotional trashcans for heavy topics especially when you are contemplating s*lf deletion or have serious problems like alcholism. Please seek other adults help or professional help.

Younger people are emotionals they won't be able to help even if they are your friends.

STOP. VENTING. TO. MINORS. PERIOD.

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Secondly

Minors can't understand when they are getting emotionally exploited because they are young!

Please understand that minors get attached easily, especially when they are arooun a person they like or idolize!

I'm sorry to say this, but that how grooming starts. (Not saying civ is! I'm just explaing the basics! Don't use this to spread stupid claims)

They will not understand when they are exploited because they depend on the other person, they want to help, they want to make the person they like or idolize happy if they can.

Is the adult responsibility so shut down any parasocial relationship with a minor. Be friends with them but do not involve them in your personal life, you should be the one to put boundaries because minors don't know any better.

You are very unaware and uneducated to say "I can't see them saying they are uncomfortable"

Minors will hide how they feel just to please the other person. Especially someone as popular as Civ. That's why it the adult responsibility to not go to topics like that to minors.

Civ/Gin stuff was personal yes, but it's their fault that they got to a minor, who again doesn't know any better, to vent about quite the heavy fucking topics.

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Final and third point

Civ/Gin might be 19 but you know what that means?

They are a legal adult!

You can't excuse them forever because they are under 20. They can be prosecuted now and that should be the wakeup call to stop doing these things because they can get in trouble with the law now.

It's the same with Xil, they might not know any better but they are LEGAL adults, they should start looking and learning how to behave like one, especially because these people have MASSIVE following. I'm sorry to say this but with fame it also comes responsibility, if you like it or not.

Civ/Gin now haves this our of the bag, yes it's worrisome for what can happen but it's showing be the warning light, the red light that they need help. Professional help.

If they have problems with their partner they should talk it with their partner, not a random minor. That's what a healthy relationship requires, if you have issues with your loved one you need to talk it out with said person.

I know it's hard to seek professional help, really, I know.. and it saddens me to see people struggle this much.. but it's not an excuse for behaving this way.

Civ/Gin fucked up and they shall face the consequences for their actions. We can only hope they understand that need to step down the interenet and seek help.

Minors will not get you better..

Please if you have issues seek help, there are people that are equiped and ready to help you, you're valid and loved but don't seek that validation and love to someone is not equipped to help.

I'll leave these here if needed.

You're are loved, never forget that

https://988lifeline.org/

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

Please, adults.. educate yourselves I beg of you. If not for you, for the people that lack knowledge and common sense so minors stop getting exploited.

Like I said to my previous post

Never sacrifice the safety of who's most vulnerable for your personal interest.

Especially people that have a following and are staff/moderators and all. You have power! Extreme power over people never forget such thing!

post related

everything you said here is very well put and thought out, honestly i cant think of anything to add

however i do want to include this little comment that veal left on the last post, according to them there was a power imbalance between them and civ, and i do find it believable considering civ's following and their high status in isopups (which veal had been a moderator for)

links included from anon:

https://988lifeline.org/

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

[marietheran]

October reads:

(this was a very poor month when it comes to reading so bear with me)

Revelation Space: Sci-fi, 1st part of a series, DNF at around 30%. The underlying mystery interested me but I disliked the characters (have to agree with one reviewer who said they're all "subtly psychopathic") and reading it made me anxious/nervous/uncomfortable in a bad way.

The Dragonbone Chair: Fantasy, first part of a series, DNF at around 50%. The writing style has its merits but I found myself bored. Most importantly though, the demonic Storm King and the rituals involving him creeped me out.

Poetics by Aristotle: Read for a lit class. Very hard going. Often couldn't understand a whit of what I had just read. Used an old, public domain translation, which might have constituted part of the problem.

The Clouds (Aristophanes): Ancient Greek Tragedy, compulsory reading for same lit class. I get why we only read ancient tragedies nowdays. Found nothing amusing, some things crass - and apparently it's one of the less crass ones.

Shielding the Flame: for another lit class, interview, meh. Abt. WW2 - at least one bit about rape.

A World Apart: lit class, novel/memoir about life in the Soviet GULag system during WW2. Obviously an important novel but so very not in my style. Naturalistic descriptions. Some sexual content, rapes.

The Pest: Camus actually made me believe for several years that there really was an epidemic of the black plague in 20th Oran, so idk, kudos for him? But apparently it's wholy fictional and possibly a metaphor for WW2. Novel well-written but I have my reservations. The priest Paneloux weirded me out and if this book also wasn't for lit class I wouldn't have finished it. I'd prefer if non-Christian authors didn't try to evaluate the "problem of evil" from a Christian perspective. I'm an OCD Christian and this can only feed into my various anxieties.

Several fantasy short stories which ai actually enjoyed.

[pinkiepartypopper]

It started to be rare because of cancel culture.

Thinks that never bothered anyone, where literally noone cared and nothing much harmful happened... Are now bad.

Because we live in a society that, while it tries to be open about anything, raise awareness about multiple topics like gender identity, mental health etc. and is even open to put trigger warnings as an option to accept things...

It does at the same time try to erase, blur out and censor ANYTHING that just doesn't fit anymore.

We simply don't have anything to judge anymore, so we project onto smaller problems. Because we have no sight in what actually is going on in the world.

What was hate towards E.g. Queerfolk or People with mental illnesses in the past... Is nowdays hate towards other communities that do not follow the expectations of the world.

Why are you not caring about the Wars that are going on? Why do you care for me shipping two adult siblings??? Like BITCH PLEASE

I am just trying to enjoy my stay in a world full of shit. Let me enjoy what I like.

What I do in the internet is nothing what I do in real life AND ASSUMING THAT IS LITERALLY UNNECESSARY

Idk do something else, spread awareness and go against real awful people and not random anonymous individuals. For fucks sake.

Antis act like things always were like this, like problematic ships were always rare and condemned. But this is bs, right? I remember vividly people shipping whatever they wanted and noone gave a fuck. In some fandoms problematic ships were the most popular, they were everywhere! Dare I mention BillDip? So it's really weird antis act so shocked upon seeing such ships. And what does that mean for them? That we should sentence everyone to jail or something?

[redxblueihateloveyou]

Am I the only one who doesn’t get why some (tw) are shitting on Haru and Rin separately just for the fact that they reciprocate each others feelings? Because it’s not the feelings they wanted them to reciprocate? Just curious because I'm new and recently entered the fandom. And since when miscommunication in between means that they don't deserve to be happy at the end? Because you're an idiot when it comes to love, doesn't mean you're a bad person. I came from chinese bl and it's weird to me.

Hehe welcome to the madness, perfect time to join! Yeah, tbh that's the thing in the fandom that always bugged me the most. The fact that some act like if you don't reciprocate someone's feelings, it makes you a bad person. I always found it incredibly cringy when ppl in real life for example make ppl feel guilty for not feeling the same way and make you feel like shit bc of it. I don't get why you have to apologize for that or feel bad, if you never ever gave him any hope or anything in the first place.

Nowdays it's thankfully a rare sight already in this fandom, bc most already grown and see perfectly what's truly healthy and unhealthy, it's just tbh only the same 3 accounts ppl keep sending me that are still on that, who also think that Haru is literally possessed in the last movie so I don't see the point of like arguing with ppl like this. It's just they're always getting extremely angry when Haru wants Rin as if it's his fault that he feels this way and always go about it like he is inconsiderate of Makoto's feelings. Implying that they're mad that he doesn't feel that way about Makoto, while Makoto does. I'm same as @tododeku-or-bust for example said here (idk what fandom brought this on, but just in general) also do not get what's appealing about this kind of relationships in the first place.

If they shipped it in terms of like it's mutual I'd get it, but they go on about how Rin or Haru are bad friends bc they're not in love with their best friends... like ?????? I didn't know you owe it to your friends to have romantic feelings for them.

In real life if you found out that your bestie feels that way for you while you don't reciprocate, it's a burden, that'll make you feel uncomfortable and at times guilty when you shouldn't technically feel that way. So putting on someone a burden of "I was pining for you all along", when you know they don't feel the same is giving me this feeling of cringe. So I personally do not get what's enjoyable at seeing it like that in Free. But to each their own kink lmao.

It's like... is Haru at fault for the fact that he was Ikuya's first love too? I do not get it really. Like he doesn't have to take responsibility for everyone who falls for him and he doesn't owe anyone to reciprocate their feelings. Even to Rin. Like if he didn't feel the same way for Rin, it wouldn't be his fault either. But since he does feel the same way for him, it's like... good, great, happy for them.

Like once again if someone believes that Makoto and Sousuke are unrequitedly in love with Rin and Haru, that's not rinharu fault. Haru literally never ever lead Makoto on EVER. He never ever did anything that would make Makoto believe that they're more than friends. He was always honest about everything. Like when Makoto thought that he went out to see him, but Haru just wanted to see the sunrise, he told him just that. He never encoraged anything, he refused to live with him and never wanted. I do not get why it's supposed to be his fault that he doesn't like his friend in that way. If Makoto has some unrequited feelings for him and decided to hang up on this, it's his own life choice in my opinion.

It's like saying that Onodera and Takano for example don't deserve to be together just because they unintentionally hurt each other and got separated for 10 years bc of misunderstanding. This argument is like typical Yokozawa life position aka "but I was there when he left you heartbroken for several years, that means you MUST pick me". As I've said before, that's just not how it fucking works. And just bc they couldn't explain things to each other normally, doesn't mean that they don't deserve be happy now. Being idiots is not a crime.

Or if you came from chinese bl, lets go "Guardian" for example. Zhu Hong also was on about how "why you love Shen Wei, not me, I always did everything for you and I was always there, I even wore heels bc you once said you liked those etc". Like he never asked her to do this, he never gave her any hope, he was beyond rude and open about the fact that he's not interested, he never did anything to make her think she had a chance since the beginning. Just bc she decided to dedicate her life to false hope that maybe one day something might change is not his fault. It was her choice. Why Yunlan should feel like shit bc of that I do not get personally.

I'm just buffled bc like Haru for example is the most caring about other ppl's pain person, but they call him selfish and rude bc of the way he is with Makoto at times, not even realising that it IS in fact what means being kind sometimes.. to not give someone a chance when you know you don't feel it. I was always saying this like since forever, being kind doesn't mean for example giving everyone second chances, loving everyone, wanting to be friends with anyone etc. In some situations it's not being kind, it's being stupid or even not being a good person. Once again... offering someone friendship after he openly dissed your friend and you see that he's not in any position to talk back is not kind. Or if someone cheats on you constantly, but you always forgive them it's also not you being kind. It's you being stupid. Sometimes you have to be harsh. It's for the greater good.

And like I saw several times stuff like someone under scenes where Rin has his eyes for Haru only, commenting like "oh great, look at Rin being inconsiderate of Sousuke's feelings again. Can't believe you guys find this romantic." I mean, if in their opinion Sousuke is in pain from being Rin's friend, he can end it, it's his choice. It's not Rin's fault that he thinks of him as just his friend. So thinking that Rin is an asshole bc each time he simply hangs out with Sousuke he's a selfish bitch is fucking insane. I'd feel extremely bad if my best friend was seeing it this way for example. It's like hella ugly.

This annoys me also bc of the fact that Rin, the person who at the age of 12 single-handedly saved his family from falling apart after his father's death, who's an amazing friend to Sousuke and did everything to make his happy after he found out about his trauma and always checks on him first and cries about his shoulder, who in the late evenings taught Rei to swim, when everyone else gave up already xD, who was looking after Nitori during his training, who pretends to walk the same road, just because he's scared to let Gou return alone in the evenings, the most amazing son and brother, is suddenly an asshole just because Haru is in love with him, but not with Makoto. I mean, thats just... huh? Like I dont mind you ship what you want to ship, it's like to each their own crayons for real. But like dissing them and call them selfish just bc they only see their friends as friends and don't want anything more is weird to me.

As for the fact that bc of the misunderstanding they don't deserve to be happy, that's just idiotic. I mean, lets punish Wei Wuxian and Lan Zhan too just bc Lan Zhan couldn't voice his real feelings back then and bc WWX misunderstood him. Lets ship WWX with Wen Ning instead. Nezumi is cancelled, he doesn't deserve to be with Shion. He left him. Takano should stay with Yokozawa, Onodera is trash. Wu Xie is trash for wanting to be with Zhang Qiling too. It doesn't matter why he leaves, it only matters that he always does. I can't believe he doesn't see that Pangzi is there with him all along xD. What an ungrateful trash of a human being I can't even.

And anyways btw both Rin and Haru are not ideal human beings in any way (otherwise I wouldn't love them this much tbh xD). But their flaws are definitely not what for example mh shippers usually blame them for. You can argue about their other imperfections easily. Like being stupidly stubborn for example. I won't point fingers here, Haru lolz. Or literally anything else.

My point is you can find what to trash them for logically, if you wanna. Do it smartly tho. Otherwise you make your ship look bad.

And I once again say what wise person said about his relationships and about the fact that not being able with someone he loves hurt him and 'why is he doing this to himself' he answered: "it's not on him. my happiness and my pain is for me to handle". Everyone decides for themselves. This is why for example Haru was so broken about voicing this to Rin and didn't have any intentions to tell him that in the first place. Bc it's not right, if you're not sure that it's requited. Technically he has no right to blame Rin for making him fall in love with him and then leaving in the first place. It's not Rin's fault really, that he made him feel what he feels for him, it's ultimately Haru's problem. That's why he feels has no right to blame him in the first place. I mean, he doesn't know that Rin feels the same, that means saying to him "you break my heart each time you leave" and making him feel bad about it is technically wrong. That's why Haru to himself said "no, please, don't say such things to him". Everyone for himself decides who deserves your 5, 7, 800 or 10000 years of your pain. It's your decision. It's your life. If Haru feels like Rin is worth it, then you have no say in that matter really. The only reason we call Rin an idiot or Haru an idiot is because we know they feel the same, so we can. But blame someone else for not feeling what you're feeling is not right.

So like even if you feel like Makoto and Sousuke have feelings for their friends, blaming Haru and Rin for having feelings for each other and not for them is beyond weird. And there's nothing wrong with putting someone you love first, every bro/sis gets it. You can say bros before hoes all you want, but like Lan Zhan might just drop his bro for his hoe, if he was given a choice. Would it make him a bad person? The fact that Wu Xie chose to save Xiaoge before Pangzi makes his a bad person? My point is it's not all that easy.

I just feel like many ppl in this fandom are very weird about many things. Either because they do not get what it's like to go through some things or maybe they just do not get that no matter how cheesy this sounds love is not that simple. I mean, for example not all selfish is bad, sometimes like in Haru's case for example not being selfish is also bad. Bc if he finally asks for what he wants, he will make both himself AND Rin happy.

To be angry at Rin bc of the aftermath of his father's death and s1 I never had it in me, after knowing everything and how adults handled it. If some of Sousuke's fans bc of Yakusoku and the fact that Rin found his salvation in Haru bc he helped him to move forward after getting his family out of this hell alone and that Haru was the safe haven that made him happy in this moment of his life, want to trash Rin for the fact that he "neglected" Sousuke, its like your opinion. I personally do not get it. Rin doesn't owe Sousuke anything. It's not his fault again that Haru's existence helped him to feel better.

Just like not everyone will get why Haru in 1x12 was so happy about the fact that he could help Rin. To be that special somebody for someone who can "save" you in moments of your life like this, especially if you love them is an incredible feeling. And no, your bestie isn't always the person for this job, no. I don't see why people do not get that I guess, that's all. But we all have our own opinion on everything, so...

We same as you do not get it since forever, but its like it is what it is in this fandom. I personally just have another life position on stuff, so I'm very far from that point of view they have.

[faakeid]

The problem was the "rumors" and "crumbs" it all create a faux narrative that ji solo would mean something for kd. I trully believe if those all "crumbs" who end up being not related to ks (like ji house), kdsist would expected stuff. BUT i remembers years ago cckaisoo done some search and majority of kd-ist had 1 bias (majority were ks stans) than bias of both of them. So honestly im not suprised by what we saw. (1)

(2) thou i must said that on twt i saw a lot of support from kdist for ji. Idk here how it went. But idk about you anon comment that ji mention exo as ex members while sperm as his group. Im too busy nowdays and while listen to ji i have seen few conteds, but it seem to me sperm is only mention im western interviews, while in sk its ex* .. but i may be wrong.

A good thing about art is that you can interpret the way you wish. So, if you want to interpret with one vision or another it’s fine since it’s art’s power to give you a sensation or thought. And JI himself mentioned how his album could be interpreted in different ways, which is positive to bring attention and interest.

And about the xo/spm drama, I feel like he’s creating his own image. He doesn’t want to show himself as xo Kai or spm Kai but only Kai. That’s why the solo album with his name is so meaningful. Other members had the opportunity to create an image of their own but Ji was one of the last one to have this privilege. So I think it’s positive how he’s pavimenting a path for himself. Although some questions he’s receiving are really off, like shielding the group at all. But that’s life.

[eileen-crys]

Hey !! Guess who's back ???? *using Brian's voice* Okay, I'm gonna ask some more.... So for the ask, 9 - 11 - 39.... if you want of course. I must confess I'm a bit sad you don't want to be a penguin..... lol But I hope you're doing okay with your homework.... 💖💜

9. If you were friends with the band who would you go to for comfort? Even though I love them all and specially John, I think I'd go to Brian, he seems he'd be the best one to listen and understand my problems and help me find a solution, idk why, I feel a sort of connection with him in that way. Specially with nowday's Bri, he's a kind and pure soul 💕

11. I’m In Love with My Car. Love it or Hate it? Love the music and Roger's voice, hate the lyrics- 😅 I hope he'll sing it live in Bologna UwU

39. Thoughts on the song 39? Absolutely a beautiful song 💕💕💕, but not my favourite of Brian's with him on lead vocals, I prefer Sail Away Sweet Sister.

Thanks for asking again ❤ I'm feeling a bit better about homework, hopefully tomorrow at school will be ok- about the penguin... I hate cold temperatures, that's the main reason I don't want to be a penguin hahah

[notbrucewayne48]

this is a long answer, so apologies in advance

recently i told my friends that i was aroace, and i explained every doubt they had about the subject, because not many know what this is nowdays.

some of them doubted my decision right after i had finished explaining, which hurt me, but i explained to them that even if i wasn't that, it was my decision and that i could change it if i felt to in the future

time passes by, and the next day, a friend confessed me that he was feeling romantically attracted to me and that he had to try asking me out

that didn't bother me because it is better to express your thoughts than leave them repressed. i kindly explained to him again the reasons why i couldn't go out with him and rejected his offer. the problem is that even after that, he kept asking over and over if i really was sure about my sexuality (and saying he was sorry if he was being rude, but it hurt me anyways).

i considered if i was being exaggerated for a long time, and if i had to have an open mind about this (though if i was lesbian probably they wouldn't have dobted my sexuality not even once)

later, i discovered that the only two friends who hadn't doubted my decision encouraged the boy who confessed his romantic feelings to me, saying (literally 2h after i came out to them) that he could win me if he tried hard enough, and that because i was asexual he had it a little bit more difficult but that he could do it. with that, they not only left me being the bad one and breaking the heart of my friend, but also they made that he persisted about questioning the value of my decision.

idk, but i feel a little betrayed. they were almost the only ones i have trusted enough to tell them that i was aroace and well, just felt really bad for a long time

in daily life, my biggest problem is that even my queer friends sometimes dont take into account my aromantic identity. they just call me asexual all the time and think i will understand or even feel romantic attraction (not always but most of the time)

i dont hate them, not even close. they are my friends, and i like them and care about them, but i dont know how to feel about this

sorry if this isn't the answer you meant to receive with your ask, but i saw your post as an opportunity to have someone else's opinion about this situation, to know if it is kind of important or im making things up in my head (i was considering to make an anonymous AITA or wibta post)

Hey apec community! What's problems that young apec folks experience on the daily?

(Asking as a young aspec myself)

[galaxyblake]

How is bellarke an important rep? like I know interracial ships are kinda important but no one gets ship for being in an interracial ship meanwhile you literally get killed nowdays for being in a same gender relationship.. like if you compare bellarke, a het rep, to cl, a gay rep the second one counts more and is less shown in tv.. there are so many interracial ships on tv already since ages but same cannot be said about gay relationships.. I'm really not trying to be rude but can you explain?

I’ve written so many different responses to this most of them very angry but I’m going to try and keep this short and…nice ish because I am TIRED of answering questions like this and you seem like you’re just ignorant and not an asshole. 

Firstly, the sad and horrible fact of the matter is both LGBT+ and poc are killed EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Do not come and tell me that poc aren’t killed for being in interracial relationships because it happens and it happens a hell of a lot more often then it should. People of color, like LGBT+ people are killed for existing and racism, like homophobia, is still a HUGE FCKING PROBLEM. I really can’t believe you said it doesn’t happen though…thats…

Secondly, WHY IS DIVERSITY A BAD THING. Yes, OF COURSE there should be more rep for LGBT+ people, OF COURSE, I will never say otherwise. But don’t act like seeing characters of color is somehow this terrible thing? I don’t know these numbers exactly, different sites have said different things and I’m sorry I’m not an omniscient human who can go and count all of the people, but 40% of the USA’s population is non white and 4% of people identify as LGBT+ (that is obviously not counting closeted persons) and so it is not shocking to see more poc on TV.

Now (idk if this is this year or last) ABOUT 33% of characters on tv are non white and 16% are LGBT+ So yeah, there are about half as many but looking at the demographic in the US, because that is where most shows take place, it is not a surprise. Do LGBT+ characters need to be front and center more? Yes. Do they need to have more happy endings? Yes. Do they need to have more shows with main LGBT+ characters? Yes. But the same goes for poc. There are gross tropes for both and the bad treatment irl and in media needs to stop all together. 

Lastly, ships/characters are important to different people for different reasons. I’m not going to try and convince you to think Bellarke is important rep because for you it may not be but that doesn’t mean you can just act like it doesn’t matter because to a lot of people, including myself, it is very important and I haven’t seen a ship on TV like it. You have different morals, different values, you have a different life and you don’t have to be represented by something I am represented by. Hell, you can like ships for the hell of it and that’s okay too! You don’t always need to have a 6 page essay on why something is important to you.

All in all people need to stop comparing representation like somehow race and sexuality/sexual identity are interchangeable things when they aren’t. Like what you like and let others like what they like and before you say that something doesn’t happen or something is less important, please just…don’t…just don’t say that shit. 

[sasqyanotes]

Home is where the heart is

Midnight, after checkout some stuff from indonesian e-commerce. Idk it’s a secret or something but this is what i feel rn, i mean when i was adult, i mean now. First i want to tell you that i never live with my parent since maybe when i was five yo. I live with them when i was in school holiday you now that’s just around two weeks. Me and my young sister live with our nenek. That’s makes us loves our nenek more than our parent idk but me and my sister always thinking our nenek first than anything else.

I know then why our parents board out us to our nenek. Cause an economic problem and social environment was not support. 2018 maybe or 2019 my dad told Ocit that case, and ocit told me to blessed more. I’m not close enough with my parents. All i know is my parent just support me by matery and what i ask oh i never ask but my parent gave it to me. My parent always give the best and support us alot by matery instead by our side to face our problem together. That’s why we both be an independent person who force to face our problem by self.

I remember how my friends all of them for the very first register their junior high school, come to school with their parent. And me? all handle by self. School and life stuff all done by self. Until now, that makes me wonted to handle everything by my self. Even when i was sick, come to hospital, check up, with my super weak body, hard to walk but i should cause i was sick. My young sister did the same, sometimes i accompanied her.

When i was young, home for me is not a place nor a person. Because i don’t feel like i have that. Now, i feel like i love my parents so much, my nenek and kakek so much too, my family is always my first priority. I feel like home is wherever my family are, that’s my home. This afternoon i was lay up in a living room, figure out the windows and the door and a rambutan trees in front of my home. I feel peace for sure. I never feel so blessed about home before like nowdays.

It’s so random not structured. But I know for sure my past shape me be an independent, wise, and blessed. I know why my parents choose to make a way this and that for me also to make a good decision. I know i lost something, but i find everything. Grow up was so scared when you walk alone. But i’m not really alone tbh. I’m blessed i’m a typical of an obedient child. I do everything by rules.

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Question tag

Rules: answer the questions at the bottom, then make up 10 of your own for the next person to answer. Thanks for tagging me 😘 @puer-of-the-abyss 1. Describe your personality as a literary genre. Comedy and drama, Idk 2. Which qualities would you like to develop? I want to develop quality that help me notice all problems of people who are significant to me. I always wanna help them but I don't pay enough attention sometimes. I'm unhappy about this quality of mine. Also I want to gain some experience to know how to help them. 3. What’s the strangest object you own and why? Drumsticks and pink plastic shovel... (from people who lived on my dorm room before me) 4. Something tender about someone you love. Me to every person that I love: your sense of humor saves my day ;) 5. Business cards and name tags are suddenly replaced by flowers. Which one do you choose and why? I didn't understand this 6. Did the devil make hell or did hell make the devil? Who knows 👀, maybe God created hell, idk 7. What do you want to happen to your body after you die? Cremation, and I want my relative to go to the sea and to scatter the remains. 8. Someone appears in your dreams and says you have forgotten something. Who are they, and what have you forgotten? Emm, it's too personal... 9. What’s the most important thing in your life? My family 10. The fictional setting you would understand more, where you’d be more at ease (not the easier or safer one). The walking dead world, I've watched all the seasons — I would definitely slay. 🤣😂👊🏻 I'm tagging @volcanicbae , @elpantalones, @itsthekiks , @nemiworshipper , @byuko , @cinnamon-toast-cronch My not so original questions: 1. Are there any songs that you're listening on repeat nowdays? 2. What do you think about eternal life? Would you like living forever? 3. Do you think everyone need to study philosophy? If yes, why? 4. How often do you take photos on your phone? 5. Have you ever been abroad? Could you advise some cool countries to visit? 6. How much hours of sleep do you have each night? 7. Do you love your hometown? Why or why not? 8. Do you like movies and (or) tv shows? 9. Have you ever had a panic attack? 10. Do you have a goal in life?

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Ok so I've been stalking your blog for the past couple of hrs after seeing your TadaAi posts (I'm drowning in the period drama that is this ship) and I find you ship Tododeku and rinharu (god i can't stand bakudeku and makoharu) and seems like we share a lot of our views on fandom and ships probably because we're older (I'm 22). Followed and looking forward to your input in the future!

Also you might've given me the motivation to finish watching Free! XD

Hehe yay, please, we need more ppl in our “house of oldies”, make yourself at home lol. And we share a lot of ships?! Even better <3

I knooow, I can’t believe we’ve got a gay “master who fell in love with his servant” ship in the anime, just what I needed for my idiotic collection lmao

But also these two have too much going on between them, so much wasted potential in my opinion, it’d be so interesting to explore (but sadly no xD), they were still the only interesting thing for me lolz. I love complicated morons, who became the victims of a huge unrequited requited love misunderstanding, bc they’re insecure morons lmao and they just have 2 of my fav ships vibes, so it’s probably mostly this haha. 

Oh, I’m inputting *wink wink*, can’t wait to finish the vid, I’m having too much fun with it. I’ve just literally spent several minutes trying to get whether I’ve put Tadashi’s sexy mole in the right distance from his eye in the “him moaning on the table” manip lolz. What can I say... I picked the best hobby, with all the support I’m getting with my vids, I’m living a dream xD

You know, I think I’ve said it before, but when it comes to bakudeku, I at least understand what ppl hope to see there and why, but like.. it’s just not happenning. Also imagining Bakugou lovingly hugging Midoriya is just so OOC I start laughing all the time. And whatever ppl say, in any ship whether they’re enemies or rivals or anything, if you can’t imagine them being tender with each other, smth is not right in my opinion. Also once again, who needs idiotic bleating Midoriya, idk. I’m just tired of the endless “die, deku/out of my way” yelling, I like watching Bakugou going to parties and amusement parks and doing silly stuff, too. Like I’ve said before, pride won’t ever let him change the way he behaves with Midoriya, even when they’re doing “great”. If he was the one, it wouldn’t have mattered, no matter how tough you are, and it wouldn’t take that long. I also don’t think they’re that kind of relationship, like they move each other for sure, sometimes, yeah (not always in a good way tho), but be together in a relationships? Can’t imagine that. Like not all rivals have the rivals to lovers dynamic, no matter what ppl say. But I get the shipping, bc 1stly these two are playing too huge of a role in each other’s lives, 2ndly Midoriya is obsessed with him and Bakugou obsessed with him too (just in a bad way lmao) and 3rd ppl want that “enemies to lovers” dynamic, since many love it (me included, when it done right and progresses right), so they’re trying to write that “to lovers” bridge, that just doesn’t fit here in my opinion, simply bc Bakugou won’t be soft with Midoriya, like ever in a way, you’d want, and I don’t think it’s possible for them to go there.

Tododeku on the other hand, 1stly they also play too huge of a role in each other’s lives, 2ndly Midoriya is obsessed with him too and Todoroki is lovingly obsessed with him in return, 3rdly they are also rivals to lovers, and I have no problem imagining the second part, it won’t be OOC, 4thly Midoriya when he’s with Todoroki is my fav Midoriya, he’s happy, he is cocooned and he’s badass af (and like when he told Endeavor to fuck off or yelled at Todoroki “the fuck are u doing?” xD are still the best), 5thly Midoriya forgets about Bakugou, when he’s with Todoroki a lot and it’s just funny to me, 6thly they healed each other so nicely, I can’t not be into that, 7thly when they’re together I have like 0 worries, idk I’m like “he will catch him” anyways haha, Bakudeku just don’t give me this vibe. It’s like yeah, they won’t let each other die, but it’s always this chaos of “out of my way”, “I don’t want your help” and “let me punch you before I punch the villain” that I’m just “oh for god’s sake, pls bring in Kirishima and Todoroki so we could just go home, it could’ve been solved in 2 minutes” lmao. Etc, etc.

Tododeku just have too many winning points over bakudeku for me, same with kiribaku over bakudeku, even tho I 100% get bakudeku as a ship ofc. Also idk whether things would be different if Todoroki wouldn’t exist in the equation, but the moment I saw that s2 scene where Bakugou started yelling and Todoroki just ignored him and was like “was Midoriya always this good?”, there was no going back to me XD. Like they both obviously see that Midoriya is wonderful, but only one reacted to that in a way that I wanted. And I’m a sucker for the ships who don’t give a fuck and like “yeah, I find him amazing and everyone should know that”. Todoroki is also one of those guys, who if you give them the much needed love, they’ll return it tenfold with a forever devotion. And all of my fav ships are like that: Yullen, Rinharu, Mikayuu, Wangxian, Akakuro, etc. They’re like “well, I ain’t an idiot to let someone this precious go”, you know lol

On the other hand, when it comes to Kirishima, Bakugou can do all kind of ridiculous thing I wouldn’t imagine he would do to keep him or make him happy, you know. Kirishima is also the only one, who can put his arm around Bakugou without it being cut off, so I don’t make the rules here lol.

So it’s not like I can’t stand bakudeku, more of like can’t imagine this work, to me it’s easier to imagine todobaku in a relationships, but not bakudeku lolz.

But when it comes to makoharu, I just have a huge problem with it and I will never get it. Bc they don’t bring anything good in each other like AT ALL, I don’t even understand what kind of relationships this is from their shipper point of view; they give each other nothing, and one of them is totally in love with someone else and wants a future with him. And that someone also head over heals with him and also wants a future with him. And I hate how 99,9 % of mh fans don’t give a fuck about Haru or Rin whatsoever and just ignore their character’s everything. Bc Makoto. I’m also like if you love him so much, the fuck would you want him to be with Haru anyways, dude doesn’t reciprocate, like at all. I’m at confusion, like name good points of this ship and what good can they do for each other characteristically. There is none, it’s like a damn swamp. Like usually I can give my notp some points, but this is like... they’re both no good for each other... like... why would anyone even want this idk. Don’t tell me “for the childhood friends” one-sided dynamic, like why won’t you also ship Shion with Safu then, like even he seemed more invested in that, than Haru in makoharu lol.

Even if you think of them from the point of view of “the two who are always walking together” ships, that are everywhere nowdays (even tho since Haru moved to Tokyo, he was always with Asahi instead), but even if... those kind of ships are usually at least make each happy and are enough for each other. Haru on the other hand, when he doesn’t have Rin, he is walking with Makoto like a ghost, not even caring if he’s talking next to him AND he’s getting ennoyed by him. Like explain, how someone’s shipping them romantically. It’s been showed like 20 times, that with Rin, but without Makoto, he can be perfectly happy, without Rin tho, he never is.

Also someone explain, what exactly is the point of splitting up two characters, who are happy together, make each other the best versions of themselves and want to be together whole-heartedly? Like I know many start shipping smth, bc the relationships are better in the other pairing, for example, but this is like... definitely not the case here. Like what exactly is missing in rinharu, that makoharu has? Lack of progression and mutual inspiration?

So yes, if you’re into rinharu, totally finish Free! They’re like doing sooo incredible and holy shit they’re inspiring, I mean, look, they’re now the tokyo olympics ambassadors, like how many of yall gay ships reached that? you can’t miss out on them, and also they’re so hilariously romantic, they literally made a wish to swim with each other since they were 13 and did everything to get each other there, I’m.. you’re lying, if you didn’t cry watching them as chibies making wishes on a star and watching them now. One of the most wonderful development in my opinion. Like who would’ve thought back in s1, that we’ll get Haru yelling on top of Rin about how he made him want a future with him, def not me lmao and now all the olympics boyfriends fanfiction are true, I mean, idk what to say anymore. I miss them so much, I can’t wait for the movie :D