#i've gotten transphobic nonsense

[icannotgetoverbirds]

BOOM! KITTY CAT! he do the monch!

i hope you’re alright from that anon, i personally would’ve had a lot of anxiety over it so kitty :) his name is dorian and he do the bite frequently

BEAUTIFUL. I WOULD GIVE MY LIFE FOR DORIAN

And yeah I'm doing pretty good! I've been online for long enough that I think I handled the situation fairly well. If they do end up coming off of anon, I don't want anyone sending them hate or w/e - I want to give them the benefit of the doubt, you know?

I mean, I didn't even know that comments like that were inappropriate until someone else explained it to me; it's sheer luck that I've never been on the other end of this interaction.

[wolfnanaki]

Hey, hope this isn't an odd use of an ask or anything (kinda new to tumblr) but after seeing you post about the game again, I just wanted to say thanks for being one of the few people actually openly defending Goodbye Volcano High a while ago.

As someone who started realizing they were trans as well around the time it was about to come out it was genuinely disheartening to see so much of the discussion surrounding it be people putting it down and trying to shill for the Garbage-ass, queerphobic knock off version.

I honestly feel like seeing some of yours and others posts from back then kept me from just completely losing my mind over the whole issue when it felt like a large portion of the rest of the internet was just completely ok pushing openly bigoted 4chan nonsense. It's a bit of a small issue, sure but I guess im just glad I'm not the only one who thought it was kinda shitty how the internet responded to this game.

Thank you so much for this wonderful message. It really means a lot. 🥹💖

I had been quietly frustrated about this issue for a while. And I guess most of all, I was sick of the... I don't know what to call it... "collective gaslighting" maybe? Where we're shown screenshots of obvious anti-trans messages and being told "this isn't transphobic at all, actually", and I had to speak out about it. Especially after seeing how much this backlash was impacting the mental health of GVH's developers. In the end, my biggest motivations were my desire to stand up for queer developers, wanting more honesty regarding this situation, and to push for accountability towards the people who have caused so much harm.

And... after all the retaliation I've gotten, from the run-of-the-mill Anons telling me to off myself, to the doxing, to Cavemanon themselves calling me a man and linking to Kiwifarms posts about me, it's been harder to deal with than I've been letting on. But I've gotten so many kind messages like yours, and hearing that I helped or inspired people makes all of it worth it.

So, seriously, thanks.

[theconstitutionisgayculture]

I'm a bi woman who works with FOUR crotchety, old Boomers. They're religious and they're Trumpers. I mind my own business and don't take my personal life to work, but these are the last people on Earth who'd kill me for being queer (ik you don't care for that word, so I apologize). Like, I just know I could walk into work tomorrow and be like, yeah, I'm totally gay, and they'd be like, doesn't matter, Kid, just do your work.

My family is pretty anti gay, and I don't think they'd accept me, so I stay in the closet, but there is 100% no way they'd disown me, let alone want me dead.

Conservative friends just love me like normal, and it's not even a question in my mind if they care about my sexual preferences.

I'm sorry for every LGB+ person who's been abused. I know they're out there, I've been friends with some of them. I even know a guy whose parents sent him to conversion therapy in high school. It's terrible to know some people hate us.

But this across the board, black and white, right wingers want you dead mentality is nonsense. It's ignorant fear mongering. Spiteful.

Worst I've seen the conservatives do is threaten to pray for me. 😂

Of course, I don't have much of a victim card to show for. There have been times I was harassed or snubbed for my sexuality, almost always by other gay women. Liberals, at that. For the most part, though, people have left me alone, and you know what? It doesn't matter. I see the way you and others get treated right here on Tumblr, and I'm appalled.

My conservative friends, family, and coworkers would never talk to me the way these cowardly Zoomer brats talk to you.

And let's just say, I'm not remaining anonymous because I'm afraid of my conservative family and friends; as a matter of fact, there are libs (some I consider friends!) following me, and I don't need the aggravation of their whole, how dare you talk to that transphobic traitor schtick.

I don't think this is even the 20th ask I've gotten from someone in the original LGBT alphabet soup saying almost these exact same things. It's so weird how Republicans and libertarians hate us and want us dead, but instead of ever trying to harm us or attack us, they just...act like normal people as long as we do the same. It's almost like maybe a lot of bad interactions between gays and the right aren't because the right can't stop from hating us, but because so many gays these days are absolutely insufferable.

You're absolutely right and you should say it.

[not-poignant]

Okay! Didn't want to have to say this but I'm going to say it!

Don't send me transphobic nonsense in your anon asks to me. Don't send your TERF thoughts to me and end your anon message with 'no hate' when you've just been hateful and invalidating. You might not be aware of this, but I'm a trans person, and this space on Tumblr and on my AO3 isn't a democracy and TERFs will not get their voices heard here. Good luck, keep trying, I love blocking bigots.

If you're transphobic and you read Underline the Black and I realise you're transphobic, I'm just going to start blocking you outright, deleting your comments. In this day and age, transphobic, hateful nonsense is everywhere, but it doesn't get to be here.

You don't have a right to have a voice here, you don't have a right to have your anonymous transphobic asks answered here, and you don't have a right to expect your comments to stay on my AO3 stories when they happen. And if, if by some chance, you have no idea you're a complete transphobe and you find your comment on Underline has been deleted? The only person you need to be angry at is yourself.

I'm trans, and I have too many trans followers to give any kind of airtime to transphobes.

Antis I will happily take on when I have something productive to add to the conversation.

There is nothing productive for me personally about giving space to transphobic views on my blog.

(And for everyone else, no this isn't currently a huge problem, but I've had about two borderline transphobic comments on Underline the Black and I've now gotten a transparently transphobic anonymous ask about it. I'm dealing with it now, and also making my stance clear. TERFs are banned in the Discord, you can expect that I maintain this view everywhere, including here and on my AO3.)

[sweetfirebird]

Hmm I have been perusing Threads, god help me, and I guess it is once again because I do not use Twitter or because I am a small fry in the genre, but authors keep bringing up issues they are having that are terrible, or are new to them. And these are just not new. Like at all. So once again the same conversations are being had. (Over and over and over again. Sigh.)

I suppose it's possible that m/m romance (not queer romance, this is people who use m/m only as a term that I have seen) is getting an influx of new readers who are pulling the same "ew actual queer characters and actual gay men writers in my m/m" bullshit, so authors are getting hit with new waves of angry comments and reviews and DMs. And some of those complaining might be new authors who don't know what a certain portion of the m/m romance world is like, so this is genuinely new to them.

But it also reminds me of the reasons I started using queer romance as a descriptor when possible instead of m/m--so that it is clear right out of the gate that more than only cis (and frequently masc) gay men would be in the story. So maybe I wouldn't get those readers and comments. Which seems to have mostly worked. A lot of writers chose queer romance over m/m romance as a term and they seem to get fewer readers but also they get queer readers. Or more open-minded readers. (They still get shit. But in that way that you kind of expect, being online and queer.)

(BUT, maybe, the cynical part of me wonders if some of the posts are legitimate complaints from gay men writers having to deal with the 'm/m is not for gay men' nonsense, and the rest are posts made to get engagement. (To be clear I do believe those writers here, but maybe not all of the responders. Or I believe the responders are supportive, but I think their surprise at the problem existing is a bit perfomative.) But that is the cynical part of me and I hope it is wrong. )

Or maybe the larger, more popular m/m romance writers are getting a sudden surge of negative comments about, as one example, bi characters as love interests. The negative comments are certainly happening. I've gotten that stuff from editors, and I have definitely noticed that any of my stories that might in any way involve someone, somewhere having a pussy are read less than the cis dude stories. But the part of me that stopped using m/m (except in bookseller categories when you have to etc) and who has read many of the summaries for the bestselling books in the genre is also like... maybe the 'cis gay male, large top, smaller bottom, fairly strict and heteronormative gender roles, sometimes omegas but not with cunts' books... kind of encourage that sort of audience.

I mean if you are only writing one kind of gay relationships in one kind of way in your books that is fine, and you have an audience, which is great! But I don't think it should be that surprising to you that most of that audience is not going to like something else.

Not that writers shouldn't complain or branch out. Not that readers shouldn't be biphobic or queerphobic or transphobic shitheads. Because jfc of course they shouldn't and they should check their entitlement. But the *certain portion* of the m/m romance audience that will openly insult gay male authors just for existing or using the term m/m (fucking hell) is in an overlapping venn diagram with the portion of the audience who get the ick from queer characters who are not cis males and relationships that are not heteronormative.

I do think some of the problem is that the genre was based on m/f romance, which is full of toxic shit and has serious problems (including white supremacy, but also sexism, homophobia, misogyny, and a weirdly horny prudishness). But I also think the writers who have been in the m/m genre for a while acting surprised that the gay writers are getting attacked or that people don't want bi characters are being a bit disingenuous. Unless you are brand new to the genre... yeah it's been like that. Queerphobia and misogyny festering beneath the surface since the beginning. If you want to combat that, cool, but of you didn't notice until now... why not?

[weskie]

Thank you for tagging me @judasiskariot

How many works do you have on AO3? - 41. 10 of them are for Wesker, the rest are for Homelander

2. What’s your total AO3 word count? -349,864 words. Some of that comes from a hidden/unpublished work though.

3. What fandoms do you write for?  -The Boys and Resident Evil

4. What are your top 5 fics by kudos?  Tender Threads, Satisfy Me, One Big Wet Spot, Say Please, Give and Take. All of these are Homie fics

5. Do you respond to comments? -I try my best to get around to it as much as I can. Sometimes I just stare at them lovingly and reply in my head and forget to actually reply ajsdfhkll but I do read all of them

6. What is the fic you wrote with the angstiest ending? -I never actually posted it, but it was a sad ass fic about my oc for the boys and homie. I don't like writing main character death, but I got inspired by gen v and had to get it out of my head

7. What’s the fic you wrote with the happiest ending? -Envy for my homie stuff, and A New Dawn for my wesker stuff

8. Do you get hate on fics? - I've never gotten hate on any of my wesker fics, but I've gotten some nasty anons over my homelander stuff. particularly some transphobic nonsense about my oc and the fact he's paired with homie, which is wack to be transphobic

9. Do you write smut? -Religiously lol

10. Do you write crossovers?   -I haven't, but maybe one day

11. Have you ever had a fic stolen?  - Not that I'm aware of

12. Have you ever had a fic translated? - No, but I've had a German friend help verify the accuracy of some dialogue translations for one

13. Have you ever co-written a fic before?  - Nope

 14. What’s your all-time favorite ship? -I don't really have one, but I'd say my oc x homie. I wanna make an oc to pair with wesker and they'd probably end up pretty close in terms of favorites lol.

15. What’s a WIP you want to finish but doubt you ever will? - I have so many for both fandoms I write for.

16. What are your writing strengths? - I have no idea lol

17. What are your writing weaknesses? -Girl all of them lmaO

18. Thoughts on writing dialogue in another language in fic? - I think it can be hit or miss, but, if you make clear what was said for readers who don't understand, it can definitely work!

19. First fandom you wrote for?  -Ehhh... I wanna say Alien? I wrote for Fassbender's David but took it down after an irl friend mocked me mercilessly for it (fuck you alexa)

20. Favorite fic you’ve written? -adsfhjkl; you can't ask me to choose like this. I have a lot of love for pretty much everything I've written.

open tags, participate if you want <3

[sburbian-sage]

Hey, speaking of Dames... I have a Dame in my current session, a Dame of Light. He's a guy. And he kinda sucks. One of those conservative conspiracy theory types.

He has, shall we say, some OPINIONS on transgender people. We can mostly put up with it though- I'm agender, which is technically trans, and he's not tried to kill me for it or anything (gotten into heated arguments about it sure, but it's not gotten violent).

The issue of course is that he's totally convinced the game is trying to "turn him trans", and that's why he's been assigned Dame.

I've tried to tell him that the game just bugs out and gives supposedly gender-restricted classes out to just anyone sometimes, but...

Well, I think deep down, he's actually just fucking trans. I think he's using the game assigning him Dame as an excuse. "Oh no, I HAVE to act girly or it'll mess with my ARC levels!" that kinda thing.

Well, that all sounds fine, right? Just let him delude himself into thinking he's being forced into this, he'll (or rather, she'll, by then) probably come out of it a better person.

But like... I do have some concerns.

Firstly, he might just be right? Like, Sburb is not above doing fucked up shit to get people to mature. Forcibly transing a transphobe's gender doesn't feel like it's typical style, but like... how would I know, right?

This presents a problem. Maturity tends to go away at the end of a session. Is he gonna load into a new session, and just have a fuckton of trauma immediately from the game making him think he was trans, when he actually wasn't/isn't anymore/once more thinks he isn't?

Secondly, I consider myself a gender abolitionist. I try to be chill about it, I don't hassle people over having genders or anything, but when people ask why I'm agender, I will bring out my arguments about why I think the concept of gender is stupid. I'm sure there're people who'd find what I have to say upsetting. Is Sburb gonna decide one day that I'm a problem, and try and force a gender on me or something? I would assume not, but if it really doesn't care, why are classes ever gender biased at all?

Thirdly... IS HE FUCKING UP HIS ARC LEVELS IF HE DOESN'T ACT LIKE A GIRL??? I had assumed of course not, that the game doesn't give a fuck if Dame's "act girly" or whatever. But... why does the Dame class get assigned to girls more often? He's the Dame, and he's saying that's how this shit works, and it's not like I've ever rolled Dame, so is he actually right??? If I roll Dame one day, will I need to act girly for the stats?????

"Maturity goes away at the end of a session"? I don't know what you mean by that. Putting aside issues I'll get to in the next paragraph, the game doesn't mindwipe you or anything once you're done with a session. "Losing maturity" typically refers to the metaphorical slump in your soul that comes naturally when the game yoinks all your stats (and your powers and your items and your everything) when you begin a new session, which will naturally make anyone feel worse. Or like all that personal development they went through doesn't mean anything because now you gotta do it again. It's a figure of speech, not a literal construct, and you get used to it eventually.

That nitpick aside, no, SBURB doesn't forcetrans anyone. Another mistake is being made here, SBURB only assigns a meaningful title the first time. I was a native Sage of Mind because I needed that, all those years ago, and here I am now. Literally everything after that was purely randomly generated nonsense. Nonsense I had to "play the role" for, but nonsense nonetheless. If SBURB decided that you being agender was an issue, it would have done that in your first session. And I'm assuming it didn't, because the game is never that direct about stuff like that. If you're trans or genderqueer or whatever, any effect this has on your "maturity arc" is incidental at best. Some people have talked about how "SBURB made me realize I was trans", but that's flowery language, they went on their self discovery lovequest while playing the game and maybe they got some special insights they wouldn't have if they weren't a replayer. I couldn't imagine what that "special insight" is though, unless it's referring to the replayernet. Most people tend to realize they're queer through online communities, the replayernet is the only online community now (split into several sub-communities but still), and as we all know everyone who has ever touched a computer is gay and all the funniest shitposters are trans.

Now the elephant in the room. It is true that the game does sometimes bug out and give gender-restricted classes to people of the wrong gender. There's some debate that the "gender-restricted classes" just have a heavy gender bias but it's ultimately random (the dearth of female Knights supports this), but for all intents and purposes let's imagine that they ARE gender-locked. Dame is a female class, and it going towards this guy is a bug. However... Because SBURB does take data from your mind, it does mean that if you identify as female and your body isn't, the game registers you as female, and will assign classes accordingly. The "gender restriction bug" is extremely consistent in that manner. To the point where, let's not kid ourselves, it's not a fucking bug. Not to say that "every time you encounter this bug it's because the game knows", only that the game does recognize player gender, even if the player themselves is unaware. We're currently at a crossroads where it could be a sincere bug, or a sincere closet case, and there's not enough information to tell. If you're Weird and determined to get to the bottom of this transvestigation, you might want to check what gender their dreamself is. "Wrong gender dreamself" happens for the same reason "wrong gender class" does, but if BOTH happen then it's probably not a bug.

And no, the game doesn't count "acting girly" as part of the Dame's roleplay coefficient, that's stupid. The game hands out RP for acting as your title, not acting as your title's gender. I can't tell you why they made Dames a female class, because I didn't design the game, but it's probably an aesthetic flourish. Same reason why Princes are a predominately male class, it's called Prince, and Prince is the male form, ergo it's a male class. Except when it's not, but it's still called the Prince. If you're dead set on transvestigating, making up this obvious lie and then bemoaning the fact that "oh no, I have to act like a girl now or else the game will kill me, I hate that I have to act like a girl now but I have no choice" is either some MAJORLY sussy pantomiming, or he's cis and just very, very sexist.

My final note is that if you determine he's cis and don't want to hear him complaining about WOKE SKAIA'S plan to FORCIBLY TRANSITION these MINOR PLAYERS (with the brains of adults), think provocation might "pierce the veil and help bring her home", or just want to be very funny in a way that makes them not want to talk to you for a while, try busting out the classic "it's obvious that you're a woman because you're acting hysterical about this" line. Tactical Misogyny is a foolproof idea with no possible recourse or downsides.

[ami-dreaming]

it was high time for a rebrand, so... reintroduction!

hello! my name is ami, or @ami-dreaming. i've been on this hellsite for wayyy longer than i ever thought, but i haven't really ever posted or reblogged...ever (except for really, really bad poetry from back in high school). but i can't seem to leave, so why not revamp?

what to expect:

lots of reblogging!

fandom stuff??? cuz why not??? i'm not scared???

if i ever write oc/fanfic stuff that i think is better than garbage, then that may go here. but no promises :\

if i'm feeling courageous, original work! poetry (i swear it's gotten better), maybe a short story once in a while, maybe short prompts for stuff i'm working on, who knows!

DISCLAIMER: some of the content i post may have 18+ themes, strong language or suggestive content. there will be a header listing this, but read at your own risk!

SECONDARY DISCLAIMER: this blog is a safe space. and by that, i mean if anyone following/reblogging starts spewing homophobic/transphobic, sexist, racist, classist or other hateful nonsense, i will (un)kindly ask you to get the fuck off my blog :)(maybe reevaluate some life stuff as well, babes).

tags!

To be added when I start tagging :)

that seems to be it! hope you all have fun here!

[vampyroslesboss]

Ok, so let me get this straight.

You (seemingly?) support the LGBTQ+ community, but you don't support trans people? Like, you yourself are a lesbian (I believe from your blog?), but you wouldn't support a trans lesbian?

Because I can't wrap my head around this, I'm trying to understand how you can believe this, so can you explain? I'm trying to rationalize your beliefs

Thank you for being respectful and open to the conversation. So I am a lesbian, and by that I go with the definition of a biological female attracted to other females. According to most queer theorists (and trust me I've gotten this a lot a lot a lot) by excluding males -and this would include trans women since they are biologically male- I am being a bigot and transphobic, because I'm"reducing people to their genitals". But it's my sexual orientation, it's not something I can change or decide, and being told repeatedly that I MUST consider dating/having sex with a group of people I don't feel physiologically attracted to is coercion. If people do this with heterosexuality is called conversion therapy. Hopefully you haven't come across this discourse, but there are people saying this, and saying you have to deconstruct your ideas of desire EVEN if it's due to trauma. No is no. You don't have to give justifications for sexual boundaries ever. Nobody should try to convince you. Nobody is entitled to sex.

If you are an adult and you decide to transition I'm not going to stop you or think you deserve less or you're inferior than me. We all should have the same rights and be treated equally despite our differences. But this doesn't mean we're not different. And different isn't bad. Doesn't mean inferior. So a trans "lesbian" is just nonsense to me since they are biologically male. Date away absolutely anyone you want, but I'm a lesbian and I'm just not into it. And there's a lot of lesbians that feel this way and don't feel they can bring it up because they are immediately canceled, called violent, bigots etc. We can't even have the conversation because it's violence. Why when their identities feel invalidated that's violence, but when we feel ours do, we must be silent? Why are their feelings and voices more important than ours?

I know a lot of queer theorists believe that biology isn't real but I disagree. If I can respect their opinion I feel mine should be respected as well.

I'm not claiming I have ALL the answers because this is a very complex issue, so I'm open to change my mind on a lot of things. I did in the past and I'm still learning. But I know this coercion is wrong.

[automatismoateo]

My born-again brother has become openly homophobic via /r/atheism

My born-again brother has become openly homophobic I apologize, this is going to be rather long. So not long after the pandemic started, my older brother (I'm 27, he's 35), who had recently gotten out of a bad, toxic marriage, started going to the nearby church in our hometown. It happens to be a southern baptist church, and a lot of its congregation are homophobic (I know, because some of them are members of our family). Fast forward to today. My brother has within the last few days started sharing blatantly homophobic and transphobic stuff on facebook. He has also gotten sharply more provocative and uncompromising in what he says on there. Before this, pretty much everything he posted and shared pertained to typical evangelist stuff about accepting Jesus, etc. I guess over the years I've been afraid of this very thing happening. So I've kept an eye on his page, but generally kept my distance in regard to actually communicating with him. We talked from time to time, but I had already felt like his newfound religious zeal drove a wedge between us. But, since I'm gay, I held out hope that on this one topic he might keep a mind of his own and diverge from his church's view. Well, that's gone out the window. Multiple family members commented against his bigotry, and my dad is pissed at him and has tried talking him out of it, to no avail. I myself unfriended him. Of course my brother has all the classic responses ready to fire, about how he's saying these things "out of love" and "out of concern" for gay people's souls LMAO. He literally said "it'd be hateful not to warn them." I have no words for that. And while I guess it's been a few years coming, and I've been slowly saying goodbye in my own way, now I truly feel grief about losing my brother to this. I almost called out of work today because I feel sick. In my early teenage years my brother was my stronghold. Most of my lifelong interests, particularly in music and nintendo games and fantasy stories, I owe to him. We struggled, sometimes together and sometimes apart, through our parents' divorce. I would never have imagined we'd be at the point where he's calling homosexuality satanic. It's like a knife in my gut and a far cry from the big brother I grew up with. As much as I'd like to hope someday he'll get over this obsession (as he has from other obsessions he's had in the past), at this point it's been years, he's married to a woman he met at the church, and they have kids together now. I don't think I'll ever get him back. And I'm having a very hard time moving on and fully accepting that. He lives with our mom, so I feel like I can't go there anymore. I grew up in that house, and I hate the fact that if I go visit my mom I'll have to deal with him. To be completely honest I don't want to see him at all or give him the chance to state his case to me, because I know it will just be evangelist biblically-literal nonsense. I get very emotional when confronted, to the point of crying, and I know I would lash out, which I'd rather not give my energy to. My own acceptance of my sexuality was a difficult, years-long struggle in and of itself, and I refuse to give voice to anything or anyone that questions its validity. If you read all that, thanks I guess, I'm not specifically looking for advice or anything like that, though I'm not opposed to it either. I just wanted to put it all into words and maybe connect with anyone who might have experienced something similar as a queer person. Please enjoy your Thursday. Submitted May 09, 2024 at 08:02AM by halcyon_apricity (From Reddit https://ift.tt/8i6H4eu)

[nydescynt]

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Anyways. If y'all undo the Live button UI nonsense & make good faith moves on fixing some of the rest of this, I am absolutely down to sign up for ad-free again, and even this badge silliness. But I'm not going to keep paying for the privilege of my user experience getting worse.

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[dumpsterfirekitchen]

so TLDR but I left my old state for their homophobic transphobic nonsense and had to ditch my old place for barely more than I paid for it so long story short I'm just renting instead at my new place, but I find ways to make it my own even though I can't repair and modify all the things here. I got a bunch of random purple and space stuff (my version of redecorating) and I think the most Fancy Expensive Thing I've ever gotten as far as household items go is these plates. They're really durable though. So I splurged bc I expect them to be around for a while....I think sometimes it's worth it to spend the extra if you have it for a good quality thing right? anyway the food here is some short cake I made (i know people ususally put strawberries and whip cream on it but i have like 4 enormous mangos in my fridge so we're using mangos....mangoes? whatever you didnt come here to learn grammar). i didn't make the biscuit today though I made it like weeks ago and the one thing you need to know about me is I WILL FREEZE ANYTHING. I DONT CARE IF YOU SAY I CANT I WILL TRY IT ANYWAY AND SEE FOR MYSELF. these freeze pretty well. no I do not know how the fuck I made it, I'll make more soon and see if I can remember though

[tired-fandom-ndn]

question from a fellow native person- what fandoms have you had to leave, if ur comfortable saying? ive never had an outright bad (i mean some are bad but u know never BAD bad) experience within a fandom regarding anti-indigenous behavior and just want to be aware of which ones have this sort of problem

Mmm.

The biggest ones are fandoms for media centered around the supernatural tbh. Anything with ghosts, monsters, spirits, etc tends to get really racist really fast just because people use our sacred spirits and stories and aspects of our cultures for their plots. Supernatural and Teen Wolf are especially awful about this because the shows themselves do use our spirits, namely w-ndigoag and sk-nwalkers, in canon with no regard for how actual Native people feel. I'm at the point where I don't even read fics for those fandoms because most of them will appropriate from us at some point.

(On that same note, there's a lot of supernatural media that I will NEVER touch because I know it pulls this shit. I've been told over and over that Until Dawn is great but I cannot handle the casual racism it perpetuates with its use of Anishinaabe spirits.)

The other huge one, that a lot of people don't think about but what was terrible for me personally, is Harry Potter. I started pulling away from the fandom even before Rowling decided to go full transphobe on main and that was because of the very violent racism present in her canon for North America. It's gotten to the point where that canon has infected the whole fandom and I cannot feel safe in a fandom that uses my culture as aesthetics, that doesn't question the presence of an animikii in Fantastic Beasts, and that refuses to think critically about how their acceptance of the North America canon and use of it in fandom is contributing to the appropriation and commodification of Native cultures and spirituality. It pains me on a really fundamental level because Harry Potter has been one of my special interests for almost 20 years but I cannot stomach the fandom or any fan content anymore.

There's other fandoms I've pulled away from because of the use of w-ndigoag in fan content, namely Hannibal and Hazbin Hotel. I'll still read things for them, but I don't really participate in the fandoms themselves anymore, especially because I've received so much terrible shit for talking about this stuff before.

I don't fucking touch the Dragon Age fandom anymore. I'll read a handful of fics for my specific ships and grind my teeth through the games, but in general, if fan content isn't being made by indigenous creators, then I'm not fucking interested. I've been burned too much by fetishistic, dehumanizing, and other racist nonsense to ever feel comfortable in DA spaces.

The Riordanverse fandom (and canon) was ruined for me pretty thoroughly because of the canon depictions of Piper and the fandom's refusal to acknowledge that those depictions are racist.

I tried to get into the Twilight fandom during the "renaissance" but the rampant white feminism and refusal to acknowledge the racism in any meaningful way was just too much. It wasn't worth dealing with that crap just to play with the vaguely interesting concepts in canon.

That's all I can think of off the top of my head but I know there's more lmao

[katakarambles]

Today's a hard day. Can't keep myself busy really. Tried several hobbies I really enjoy and ... nothing. It's no fun at all and I can't focus on it.

So I'm on Reddit instead and stumbled upon some

"I'm not against LGBT but...

all this flag and label nonsense has gotten almost as ridiculous as veganism" comments with some light transphobia on top as seasoning. So now I'm discussing with some transphobes and people who don't have anything against queer people. Which is actually yay for me.

I've learned to walk away when such discussions aren't interesting to me anymore. So I get to try and be useful and tell them what we're actually like, I get to read some entertaining nonsense and when I lose interest I'll just go. This actually manages to keep me busy.

[dalishbarmitzvah]

first off, this is a FANTASTIC post that hits basically every thought i'd had and then draws it out to a brilliant conclusion

second: imo, by using modern LGBT+ standard terminology, awkwardly stuffed into a world that has always used its own words to talk about this stuff, it robs this storyline of a lot of potential to change the minds and hearts of people who view all of it as "woke nonsense". i really believe that if they'd gone more the route you lay out here rather than suddenly having people in thedas have all gotten PFLAG brochures delivered after tresspasser, we'd be seeing a lot less people rabidly hating on taash, and the game in general, for being, uh, infected with "woke mind virus", and at least some more people saying "oh wow, i think i was wrong about trans people, i've been a huge asshole and i need to stop".

they could have easily done the whole storyline without the modern nomenclature - using new thedas-specific terms, or historical ones that modern trans folks recognize as describing experiences they identify with today. if the concern was that they didn't want anyone to miss it or be confused, well... i want to know what's so bad about the theoretical person who plays that all through and then later talks about it to someone who tells them "yeah, uh, you got that taash is trans though, right?".

i remember the debates around krem on here back when inquisition came out, and i'm sad the lesson they learned was "hit people over the head with forced allyship" and not "just don't give people the option to be outwardly transphobic". there were people who became more trans-friendly because of krem - because the way he was presented let them come around a lot more naturally. but ignorant transphobes today are just going to skip taash's personal quest, avoid taking them anywhere, and whine on reddit about how wokeism took their concept art qunari leather mommy away from them.

taash's story will probably connect with and help some people (especially younger people) on their "gender journey" (ugh), but it's not going to prompt anyone who's already made up their mind to rethink their bigotry, and it's honestly unlikely to even crack any eggs. and i think that's sloppy writing, and a tragically missed couple of opportunities.

Anarcharisms, LGBT+ characters and cultures and How I'd Write Taash's Storyline

Taash was one of my favourite characters in DATV. As somsone who is genderqueer, genderfluid and still exploring all that, I also really appreciated their story. In our world today, its vital that stories about non-binary and trans characters are told to wider audiences. However, once again, the softening of Thedas; its culture and its people, led to kinda shitty writing.

So lets get it out of the way: it feels anachranistic when Taash says 'non-binary'. This isn't to say that you can never use modern LGBT+ vocabulary in a fantasy world; fantasy worlds are fantasy and you can do whatever you want with that. But Dragon Age has never used these terms before; words like gay, non-binary, trans; they haven't existed in the Dragon Age universe. Instead, Dragon Age in the past has opted for explorations via in-world cultures such as the Qun having a specific word; aqun-athlok.

I kinda think this has attitude has some rather uncomfortable undertones that just weren't thought through: being non-binary, genderqueer, genderfluid, these things have always existed. But implying the need for modern vocabulary about them, reinforces the idea that LGBT+ identities are 'modern', 'current' that they never could have existed before these words were coined. The fact that Dragon Age didn't use the word gay but does non-binary it just...makes me feel a little bit like they thought they could ask us to imagine gay people in a world before the term gay was invented, but didn't have that same idea to show us how non-binary people could exist before we had modern terms for them.

Dragon Age has also in the past hinted at nuanced ideas of how various cultures might see gender and gender identity. The Qun for example, based on what both Iron Bull and Sten say, appears to see gender identiy as tied to your 'role' or 'job'. Meanwhile, Tevinter has Maevaris, who has thrived and inhereted a seat in the magisterum while still being trans but seems to experience some prejudice from conservative magisters.

This game wacks nuance out the window and opts instead for a softening of everything (see my post here for more on that). So despite Taash's storyline supposedly being about exploring their multi-cultural heritage, there isn't actually a lot of space for exploring any culture at all in Thedas throughout this game.

But here's my pitch on how I'd fix it:

Firstly, I'd make it so that there was a specific word that Tevinter had for being non-binary that the Qun doesn't. Much like how it pans out in the game, Taash could meet with shadow dragons, realise this and explore it, and find it fits. They would still use they/them pronouns and state as such.

But then, when Taash came to tell their mum, I'd have Taash's mum say that she always thought that Taash might be aqun-athlok because they fight. This would push forward that idea of gender-identiy in the Qun being completely different to how Southern Thedas sees it, with it largerly being attached to your job.

Taash would then explain no, they are [insert Tevinter Word Here]. At which point, the point of contention would come from the fact that Taash has adopted a Tevinter word and identity. This would mirror the way conservatives in some countries across the world see/frame LGBT+ issues as a western concept. Taash's mum would have a problem with this especially because Tevinter and the Qun have been at war for centuries (something you'd be hard pressed to realise in this game despite the fact that it feels like it really should have come up at some point but I digress). This would then tie this plotline with Taash's exploration of their heritage and culture and what it means to be qunari.

I'd also make it so that theres no neat 'they' in qunlat. This would again mirror how some languages are more gendered and thus non-binary people have that to deal with. This again would link to a real world issue, but would feel like it was exploring cultural issues in thedas, not softening anything. Taash's mum would be upset that there was no way to refer to Taash in their shared tongue that she currently knew of.

Finally, instead of having the scene where Isabela teaches us how to be a good ally which feels...well. Written poorly? More tell than show? I'd scrape that, and instead have us meet a very cool non-binary qunari who is actually from the Qun and follows the Qun. Taash could connect with them, and see that Qunari DO have a non-binary identiy (maybe they use neo-prounouns that work in Qunlat) that its okay to be qunari and be non-binary and that people have done it before them and will do it after them.

These are tiny changes, but it would make the culture in Thedas feel so much more vibrant and real, and explore how things actually function in the world, you know? It would make gender-identity tie in deeply with this world we've set up and known for years, and it wouldn't feel anarchanistic.

[n7punk]

I honestly do not understand how anyone can spend even 0.2 seconds on your page and think its a good idea to start throwing around accusations of pedophilia or any sort transphobic nonsense. I just don't get troll culture. Sorry you have to deal with that, your fics continue to make my days a little brighter. Even though i suspect knifepoint is going to hurt (then heal) my soul.

i literally write smut of characters with similar experiences to mine who are around my age (i say around, because i have written M-E rated fics with catradora ranging from the ages of 18 to 25, which i fall within, though most commonly i write them as 21 or 23). this also goes back to that post i rb'd ages ago about "throwing out the baby with the bathwater", where things like this make me feel like i have to discuss my own trauma that i never want to talk about in order to defend my writing. im not defending myself to those people (they're unreasonable & i dont care what they think because clearly they don't think at all) but rather to the actually reasonable people who will healthily question when something like this is brought up. as soon as they look at the actual facts and argument it falls apart, but i digress.

the terf didn't actually do anything, that's what weirded me out. i just found them on my followers list when i was going back to try and clear out some people (sidenote, tumblr's so broken the followers list just stops loading at a certain point for me). i've never personally gotten a transphobic response/ask before so it was just so weird to know one had been following me for so long, and.... what? following so many other people that they never saw my trans posts? seeing but ignoring them because they like me "aside from that"? quietly seething with hatred? literally no clue. and god did scrolling through their blog (so i could block the terfs they were reblogging from too) was definitely just. bad.