#i've been in the trenches sorry

[the-blank-crossing-os]

its tbc's two years anniversary

[dailyloopdeloop]

DAY 32: HAPPY ONE MONTH

[blondiest]

btw i dont necessarily think grad school is hell on earth always but it is hell on earth if you try to get an applied physics degree without any background in physics or engineering. like i got through the math prereqs no problem, straight A's, but by the time i reached advanced electromagnetics about halfway thru my degree it was becoming extremely clear that working full-time while trying to teach myself introductory, intermediate, and advanced physics topics all at once was a pretty bad idea, actually,

[blood-feathers]

I'd advise against eating the breadsticks, they might turn back to cigarettes in your stomach

(He swallows before responding this time.)

That's a risk I'm willing to take. These are great.

Wouldn't be the first time I've had to throw up somethin' possibly life threatenin' anyway.

(Breadstick cigarettes -- 3 asks remain)

[ithinkthiswasabadidea]

i really need someone to write an angsty or angst/comfort Ghostsoap fic from Ghost's POV, based on The Chain by Ingrid Michaelson

Ghost and Soap actually giving being a couple a go, but its hard. really hard. Soap having second thoughts and walking, Ghost thinking his Johnny is never coming back

but Johnny is a stubborn bastard and gives it one last shot, thinking that if Simon doesn't answer the door to him, then he really will let it go

and then Simon does open the door to him again

nb- you have my express permission to use this idea if you feel like it, just link me when it's done pretty please!!!!

[princetorn]

ooc . New verses? New verses.

⋆ verse — stardew valley : i didn’t get the gene that my grandfather had in spades

It’s picturesque in the valley, but life is quiet and Royce dreams of city lights and stardom. Until his big break comes, he tinkers with cars and farm machinery. If something has a motor, you can trust him to fix and improve it.

⋆ verse — far cry 5 : i can get away with anything

Really, he shouldn’t have been there when everything went to hell. Royce was meant for baseball celebrity, but an ATV crash broke his arm and killed his opportunity for scholarship. Instead, he keeps busy as a mechanic, and races along the mountain roads every chance he gets. When the cult rises to power, he falls on the side of the resistance. Royce is the just about the best getaway driver you could hope for.

[homo-house]

thinking it'd be really funny if alastor's mom died when he was young killed by a gunshot wound of some sort so he has a bambi past

[wondrouswendy]

Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: Control (Video Game) Rating: Explicit Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Relationships: Casper Darling/Zachariah Trench Additional Tags: Explicit Sexual Content, Anal Sex, Workplace Relationship, Established Relationship, Boss/Employee Relationship, Slice of Life, Pre-Canon, Canon Compliant, Porn With Plot, Humor, Egregious violation of Bureau safety procedures and protocol, Semi-Public Sex Summary: With Ahti leaving the Oldest House to go on vacation, Director Zachariah Trench picks up the slack and handles a list of chores left behind by the janitor.

The idea for this oneshot came from a conversation in the Oceanview discord a few months ago. People were speculating on whether the previous Directors helped around the Oldest House in the same ways Jesse helps Ahti. Of course I had to defend Trench’s honor and show him being a good janitor’s assistant (with an extra splash of some Trench/Darling smut to boot). Also let’s be real. Trench would look fucking hot in anything, but I think he’d look especially hot in dirty coveralls. If you click through, thanks for reading!!

[buckleydiazmp4]

ugh. once again. shut the fuck up

[remyfire]

I totally get not caring for a particular character or ship or something. We all have our own tastes. What I don’t understand is why some people feel the need to be total assholes towards those who do like a character or ship that they can’t stand.

On the flip side, some people do need to grow a thicker skin and accept the fact that not everyone likes their favorite character or ship or whatever.

This is one of those asks where unfortunately I’m not able to tell if you’re sending it to me in good faith or bad faith, which is a shame. I’m hoping it’s good faith, so I’d like to answer seriously and trust that you’ll take it that way also.

Let me start by saying that I don't believe anyone is under the impression that everyone should like their favorite character or ship. We're all adults here. We all know that preferences exist. It's a matter of how we choose to honor and respect those preferences.

There are absolutely instances where a thicker skin should be grown. I can think of a number of situations where that can happen, such as if people are having a civil discussion about things they disagree about, but because one of the parties feels uncomfortable, they start throwing pretty rough accusations or virtue signaling to try and make the conversation end as quickly as possible. I get it. It can feel super icky and squirmy if someone has a different viewpoint from ours. Sometimes it’s really hard just to say, “Hey, I feel a little cornered. I wanna check in that we’re both still feeling okay about this, and if we’re not, then I’d like to agree to disagree. We can just leave it here with mutual respect, all right?”

But there’re also times where it really doesn’t come down to someone being overly sensitive. It comes down to downright meanness and rudeness.

Let’s be honest. There is a very high probability that you and I both know what’s being talked about. I don’t have to spell it out. So let’s be frank with each other. If you go through one of these tags, post after post of insightful, creative, loving, funny, interesting commentary, and not a single rude or mean thing to be said. The other one, a similar situation, but interspersed with just outright rude, mean, and intentionally inflammatory comments that absolutely did not need to be put in the tag at all. There seems to be this belief that certain characters or ships are disliked with an equal amount of vehemence, like two warring factions. This is clearly not accurate.

This isn’t a situation where someone just needs to grow a thicker skin. If there is a ship/character tag that is completely left alone by the people who don’t care for it versus a ship/character tag that keeps getting rudeness filtered in every so often, this doesn’t mean that the latter group of enjoyers should just…not experience annoyance about it nor withhold expressing that annoyance. And again, there is a distinct difference between civil discussion/disagreement/opposing opinions and intentionally inflammatory statements. I like to believe that people can generally tell the difference between them and react accordingly.

Everyone is free to express their own thoughts on this platform as long as they’re not against TOS. We all know this and we all respect this. This applies also to how we choose to use tags. There is a generally understood etiquette that if you’re saying something just outright mean about a character or a ship, you don’t put it in that specific tag. This is not a requirement. No one is asserting that it is. It’s just a polite courtesy because we recognize that tags are used by the people who browse those characters/ships because they enjoy them, so we don’t typically like to rain on their parade.

But this also means that if someone says something rude—if someone walks into somebody’s sandbox and kicks sand in their eyes—then they have no room to whine if that person stands up and complains about it, and they really have no excuse for doubling down with EXTRA rudeness either. If someone tells us not to tease an animal, and we do it twenty times in a row anyway, then ultimately we are responsible for the fact that we were bitten.

Notably, I am saying this about all people involved in a fandom. Including those who are intentionally inflammatory in the tags of posts where they really did not need to commentate. There's a way to say, "I'm surprised by this and I really don't understand how we got here," without implying that anyone who disagrees is lacking in taste. Again, differing preferences. Respecting them. Standing up and walking away from the keyboard if we experience a big and overwhelming emotion in our chest so we can ensure that we don't just kick a hornet's nest for the sake of feeling personally superior. So anyway! After that big long ramble, I’m happy to say that I agree with you. I just also believe in people’s right to express annoyance—especially if it’s untagged and on their own blog—when someone shows up and, again, kicks the sand around. And hell, for all I know, maybe you agree with that too and I made some assumptions about this ask out of habit due to some particularly awful anon asks that I’ve gotten recently. But I’d really, really like it if there was less sandkicking all around because, y’all, I really like it here. I love all of these characters and ships so fucking much. You only have to glance at my AO3 page to see that. And I’d really like to keep having fun with you all instead of flinching every time Tumblr yet again recommends me a super intentionally inflammatory post in a tag that I follow.

[samsrowena]

not me casually checking in on my old best friend on facebook and being absolutely JUMPSCARED by pictures of her with j2 because she went to the spn con that was here a few months ago

[grayscale-kaleidoscope]

When I go to some of the more affluent facilities, sometimes the staff are very wide-eyed and fervent when they tell me "This patient has covid."

And every single time, I just feel like that one It's Always Sunny meme... "Everybody's got covid bitch, let's get you an N95"

[christensen]

I'm so pissed off, i just saw someone on twitter calling out Snow fangirls and naming people stanning characters like him ("hot" but evil) "the anakin effect" as if liking anakin has been a mainstream phenomenon for longer than a month.

[pegasusknightsonly]

being a hater

"dimilix is yuri to me" so you think they're girls? like i agree about dimitri but felix hates women so much i don't really get this as a read of his character, blions already has a misogynistic repressed woman you could explore in Ingrid. "no i mean the relationship is yuri" but you've just said they're not girls. so it's not yuri. "no it's just that kind of emotional relationship is yuri-" you think having emotions is inherently feminine? did you black out and wake up thinking it's still the early 2000s?? "no i mean its guy yuri because it plays with yuri tropes and dynamics" so you've just never read any yaoi? you've never read a single yaoi manga?? you think the kind of regurgitated flattened slash fiction tropes have any relation to the sweet milk of mother yaoi??? ok. good to know 👍 it's still not yuri

[notachair]

... tell me if I should add a read more...

I do feel like a lot of the online discussion (not only tho?) around nonbinary have made it out to be its own 3rd gender of sorts, removed from the binaries/a ("perfectly vague") mix (*sigh* gender vs expression expectation is a whole thing here too now). Crucially, the association of what it means often feels like its own third rigid box by now (where pronouns=box often, at the same time, seen more they/x lately), so much that I had forgotten that I understood it as an umbrella term of experiences which bases itself on not being STUCK to A binary (?), like back in 2016 or something. A box that (personally) makes it feel like, if you don't feel wholly separate from a binary or both of them (at all times), then nonbinary doesn't fit as well as it could.

So that current perception (at least from how it changed online for me who never previously identified with it), paints how I've tried to label myself. Which is a mess btw, I've been in the trenches and still lie with my legs underneath the murky waters, but at least not currently trying to keep my head above the waters (double metaphor use... or not). And there are other terms ofc that try to describe or not describe experiences, but when it comes to this poll, I get ??? about whether it bases itself on the umbrella term or the third box term (I think the latter).

This is a me poll though hah, feeling outside the binaries but also not all the way removed enough to not in some way fall into a binary, where it feels disingenuous to say I don't at all at any point feel connected to a binary? A both and a neither. Both "binary" and "nonbinary" having preconcieved notions (within the third gender box) that I don't fit, and thus I don't feel nonbinary enough, yet I'm not binary (nevermind, if I find that I feel at moments connected to both binaries, which is both binary but also not because it's not kept within a singular binary). I evade definition within the third box model. I feel more uncertain about the first option, cause I feel like it can be understood in a lot more different ways again, cause, too related to the binary in what way? More in an agender way or a "it feels too defined by how it (as if its only one thing) exists related to the binaries" way, where the boarders of it doesn't feel fluid enough. Or a, "I evade definition" kind of colour splatter, "I jump between colours too much these lables feels too tied to the binary". Idk. Deeply personally ofc, and those microlabels and the use of multiple labels can be quite helpful here. So that's the option I feel more uncertain about choosing for myself.

Idk what the poll's intention is either (to sense what kind of not binary not nonbinary folks experience? To try look closer at the in betweens? The whys of why someone not binary wouldn't define themselves as nonbinary? Ect.?), but I did get excited seeing a poll that felt related to my own experience. I wonder then in return (within the umbrella term), all the experiences within folks who consider themselves nonbinary, how much or how much not our experiences differ. Which I believe is a mixed bag regardless, from the personal experiences I've already seen expressed. Cause I do see ppl describe their relation to and definition of being nobinary (often more personal) differently. Yet I've personally not felt connected (enough) to their experiences and the one term (which is not to say it's completely unfamiliar, idk get worried about essentialising my own experiences lol also -> end of paragraph). Yet, again, I do pick the third (sometimes nonbinary) option on assessments if it's available, and feel too strongly on not being tied to a and a singular binary that I don't wanna pick either if it's a binary (for several reasons), even if one feels closer or more familiar atm. And would probably be the easiest to relay irl outside playing the pronouns game (& w expression), and like, I would say I consider myself under the nonbinary umbrella.

I chose option 4 btw (also the notes are fun)

[whimsicalcotton]

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