#i'm tired of this discourse but i keep seeing them in my tl

[hyperfixated-unicorn]

Another sxf vs bd fandom war in Twitter 🙄 Worse, it seems like a lot of sxf fans and bd fans can't stop being homophobic or misogynistic in their takes. Seriously, just rest this shit already and enjoy both shows.

[sevensided]

I think that the biggest problem with this fandom is that people are way too invested in what its going to be canon. This is the reason why milevens attack bylers over the possibility of mileven not being endgame and also why byler shippers can be a little annoying sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I love reading Byler meta as much as the next Byler shipper but I'm tired of reading the same arguments over and over again, lets just enjoy the ship! We don't always need to talk about the evidence that proves that Byler is real, its a wonderful ship and even if it doesn't end up being canon we can still have fun with the ship, shipping is for fun after all not only about what ends up being canon or not

I really agree with this.

I’ve mentioned elsewhere that I see a lot of activist discourse in fandom spaces, and I think this is partly where things get complicated, particularly around queer ships. Sometimes fandom members perceive the advocacy of their queer ship to be analogous with genuine activism. It’s why you see arguments about how X ship is critical because everything is heteronormative, it’ll break the mold, it’s a much needed gesture - nay, an inroad - into normalising queer relationships in mainstream media... All of these are very valid points, but I don’t always think they have room in fandom spaces, mainly because what you’re asking for requires power to change the status quo and consumers do not have power (unless you’re in a position to create your own queer shows, in which case, do it!). Yes, you can “vote with your wallet” and so forth, but until I see evidence of a television show being cancelled or a storyline being rewritten because some blogs on Tumblr cancelled their Netflix subscription, I’m not going to buy that argument anymore (and I say “anymore” because I used this argument myself for a long time).

Critically, fandom members have to ask themselves why they want a ship to be canon. Most of the time the answer is “because I enjoy it and it would be neat” which is completely valid (I fall into this category). But sometimes the answer is “I need it to be canon because I’m very invested in this show and if it does not become canon it will be like a personal attack” and this is less healthy. Fandom spaces have always been a hothouse. People get - understandably - very heated about their ships. I’ve talked before about how it’s a time sunk cost fallacy playing out in, well, a fictional relationship. People think about how much time they’ve dedicated to engaging with source material, creating new material in the form of artwork or fan fiction, and believe this entitles them to directing how the show will be run. This is not true. You need to take a step back if you even for a moment think that the work you create voluntarily amounts to any form of ownership. You can have your own headcanons and come up with AUs, and all of that is fine, but if it crosses into being antagonistic towards other fandom members or - as has happened literally thousands of times - bullying actual show runners, then I’m sorry, but you must take a break.

Having said all of that, I’m so not immune to this. I am extremely invested in the Stranger Things fandom. I love Mike Wheeler. I want so many things to happen - things that, at this point, only exist in my imagination. I want Byler to be canon so badly. But I also remember that I am a consumer and my interpretation of Byler is likely to be different from what the showrunners envisage. In that respect, I am okay with quietly creating my own work and imagining Byler as I see it, because that gives me total power over the situation. I can do whatever I want. If Byler becomes canon - and I do hold out hope and have a measure of optimism that it will be (in my opinion it would be alluded to in S4 and confirmed in S5) - I will absolutely go bonkers. If it doesn’t... I’ll keep shipping it. I will. I’ll keep writing and engaging with the source material and enjoying myself. Because at the end of the day, my sense of self worth isn’t derived from fandom. And I’m cognizant that I do not have any control over what will happen, so I’m not going to push the issue by pretending like I have any special insight into what will happen.

This is so long... I’m sorry! TL;DR I completely agree with you. I can just also see the generational/cultural elements that inspired fandom... Like, it’s not something that sprang up in a vacuum, you know? It’s so specific to a particular time and place. And as a product of that time, I’m really sensitive and appreciative of how it’s affected people differently. 

[asterythm]

I'm honestly a bit confused on the problem with making fandom related blm art (as long as its not tagged blm and provides links to supporting blm). Could you please explain?

please realize before you read any of this that i am speaking as an nbpoc person who has been mostly off tumblr for the past few days, with the exception of occasional nighttime reblog sprees after my productivity blocker extension times out. i have been doing my absolute best to educate myself as well as possible so as to be the best ally i can be, but i am nevertheless imperfect and i very well may say something wrong. above all, please keep in mind that the voices that really need to be heard and raised up right now are the voices belonging to our bipoc friends, not my own.

also, i’m real tired -- im not saying this to seek pity or make this conversation about myself, just to ask you to forgive any spelling errors/grammar errors/run-on sentences. thanks. ill also definitely be putting a tl;dr at the end, because I can already tell this post is gonna get longggg.

that said, i appreciate that you’re actively seeking to learn, so i'll do my best to explain what i've gleaned based on what bipoc fanders have been saying. for starters, @/hazelmagix put one major issue very succinctly in her post on the matter (tw for swearing, but this is really the Big One):

in addition to the above Big Issue (ie. needing to bring Real Experiences That Real People Are Facing down to the same level as works of fiction), i believe that one of the specific issues that the tss fandom is facing right now came about after @/bleepblopbloop56 drew a lovely piece of art involving a black, trans roman that originally (to the best of my knowledge) had nothing to do with blm. if you’re a part of the fandom and you’ve been on tumblr at all these past few days, you’ve likely seen the results of that, but i don’t know how many people are aware of the full story right now so just bear with me here:

what happened was that some people outside the fandom (mostly bipoc!!!) came across the piece and voiced their discomfort about it (some kindly, but many not-so-kindly), presumably because they thought that the artist was drawing Real Person Thomas Sanders as black, as opposed to a fictional character who is often portrayed in all manner of diverse interpretations. eventually, it got to the point where the artist felt pressured to take their piece down. 

(for clarification, i don’t think it’s ever okay to harass creators to that point, but that’s a whole ‘nother matter entirely. the point is, it was mostly people outside the fandom.)

anyway, the situation ended up sparking outrage after someone else made a post pointing the issue out under the assumption that the attacks had stemmed from racism and transphobia within the fandom (not true). in response, people (predominantly white people, if i’m not mistaken) began to draw art of black trans roman. which would be great on its own, except it didn’t take long for folks to start attaching it to the black lives matter movement. which was less great (see above screenshot). the least great part of all is that so much of it stemmed from spite at the people who had originally been voicing their discomfort about the art -- the same people, mind you, who are not a part of the fandom at all.

not only was this effort misdirected, it was also hurtful because people (again, majorly white) were now using black skin tone and even the blm movement itself as a form of spite. the focus was not on explaining the situation to the original poc outside the fandom -- it was on using art and fandom to appear “woke”, and in the process, ignoring the black voices who were saying they were uncomfortable. and i want to make it explicitly clear that i’m not accusing those who have been drawing bipoc sides of having bad intentions; just that almost all of it has been extremely performative. in using blm for fanart in this way, fanders are taking a real-world issue and turning it into a tool to further our own fandom issue, and that is absolutely not okay. and even when it’s not being utilized for discourse, it can still be extremely insensitive to put real-world struggles side by side with fiction.

my original post about adding resources to fanart was never meant to imply that adding links automatically makes it okay, either. again, i haven’t been on tumblr often and so i had no idea what actual bipoc fanders’ stance on the issue was, and i didn’t want to speak over anyone. what i was trying to say was that if the fandom is going to be so keen on pushing blm, the absolute least that we can do is to actually take the time to educate ourselves on the movement and contribute in other ways as well -- such as signing petitions, donating, et cetera. otherwise, not only is the content performative and potentially hurtful, it’s just plain meaningless.

tl;dr -- 

black lives matter is not a trend for white and nbpoc people to take advantage of so that they can appear “woke”. 

putting fictional fandoms side by side with real life can display an unwillingness to acknowledge the real-world impacts of current events unless presented in a way that specifically appeals to you.

above all, listen to black voices.

(oh, and also: in the interest of raising up bipoc fanders, some wonderful blogs to start with might be @skyscrapersanddandelions, @mxnte​​, @lamp-calm-sanders, and @aleiimm​. however, do not go asking these lovely folks to explain something to you/to provide you further resources. it is not their responsibility to personally educate you. i’m only linking them so that you may support them and -- i really can’t say this enough -- listen to what they have to say.)