#i'll be a kept woman

[contagious-watermelon]

tomboy trans girls ily <3 by the law of equivalent exchange, there's got to be a masculine trans woman out there that i switched places with gender-wise. hope she's doing well

[all-chickens-are-trans]

what if i shrank to the size of a pea and you found me in the armchair. would you reach out a cupped hand so I could climb into it. would you boop my forehead carefully with a fingertip. would you put on a shirt with a breast pocket so you could carry me around and i could see everything you see, but also hide in your pocket when i've seen enough. well. would you??

[cranberrymoons]

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[how-the-feathers-have-fallen]

Me, fighting tooth and nail against my irl friends who are sw*fties: yeah well, maybe I want my sad girl music to have a 3 minute guitar solo and distorted audio after the second verse of vaguely gay lyrics have you considered that ?!

[cookinguptales]

now that I'm done imagining a jar of peanut butter, can I just say that I love that Shane and Ryan have shifted away from traditional true crime to just shootin' the shit about weird-ass mysteries?

I always liked the "let's talk about weird mysteries" aspect of buzzfeed unsolved, but being real with you, I'm uncomfortable with true crime and the culture surrounding it. like... as someone who lost a loved one to a violent (and temporarily unsolved) crime, I've seen firsthand how internet theorizing can make a traumatizing time even harder and like. it's fucking rough, man.

I get that it makes money and all (which... is a whole other can of worms) but when you view human suffering as entertainment, it's so easy to forget about the real people who will actually be affected by what's put out there on the internet.

so I'm happy that Shane and Ryan seem to be leaning a lot more into "wow, some unhinged shit happened! how fucked up is that?" on mystery files. more of this, please!!

[photon-crest-art]

Weird birds I found outside today.

[spiderz-n-circuitz]

unfollowing one of my long time moots without any hesitation because they posted a big thing about why cheating is fine 👍

[animmal]

getting a handle on mavis is kinda 😵‍💫 bc on the one hand she's an empath (literally) and is shown to generally have more emotional intelligence/maturity than dr🅰️x/nebs/rocket combined, but at the same time she apparently saw no problem at all whatsoever w kidnapping kevin 🥓 for peter 😭 which is like???? i mean maybe those two things can be true at the same time but like... How. 😭 is she an empath or is she okay w taking people against their will to give as a present to her brother ?

[skunkes]

might change talon's backstory of loss to focus more on

The Broader Family and Community he loses rather than Fridged + Forever Untouched Love...(solely bc of the untouched part. I am never going to develop his life connections much further) idk. him having been a father still currently important to me but his grief being focused more on the general family + community is more in line with him being The Same, But Opposite of me

It also makes sense wrt sharing the same brain like. You have many people who love you ➡️ you lose them and it seems like you can never finish grieving ➡️ you miss Community and Company but theres no more room in you to care for and potentially lose anybody else

[the-eclectic-wonderer]

I just finished watching S2E13 The Stan Who Came To Dinner, and there's a scene I didn't remember before in which Stan asks for Dorothy's forgiveness for all the times he cheated on her, because he wants to face his operation with a clear conscience. Which is,, yikes, of course, but also not the thing I want to talk about right now.

What surprised me is that Dorothy seems to be shocked at his revelations? It seems like she really didn't know about Stan's infidelity? I mean, the whole dialogue begins with her saying:

"I've already forgiven you for that, Stanley. Besides, in the grand scheme of things, it's not bad to wait 38 years to make your first big mistake."

I initially thought his mistake was divorcing Dorothy (since his line before this one is 'I love you, Dorothy. That sounds crazy because I walked out on you, but it's true.' ), but then he admits that the divorce wasn't his first mistake, because he's cheated on Dorothy before -- and she seems genuinely taken aback:

"I cannot believe this. I cannot believe that I am hearing this. I always assumed something like this could happen, but..."

And this was so strange to me, because I always sort of assumed she did know. She even caught him one time! In S7E8-9 The Monkey Show, she recounts this episode about Stan:

"[...] I rehearsed my speech and I made arrangements to meet him at a coffee shop. I got there five minutes early and caught him necking with a waitress."

So... she does know (of at least one time)? But then, why didn't she say anything?

I feel like there's three possible answers:

She really doesn't know. She thought the incident with the waitress was a one-time occurrence, and she's believed him all throughout their marriage when he said he was 'going at a convention' or 'working late' or whatever excuse he used to cover his actions.

She's lying to him in the S2E13 scene -- and she's lied to him all throughout their marriage. She does know about his affairs, and never confronted him because she wanted to keep their marriage and their family together more than she hated his guts; she didn't want to rock the boat, so to say. What shocks her in the S2E13 scene is that he's admitting this stuff out loud, with plenty of details.

She lied to herself all throughout their marriage. As trustful of him as Dorothy can be (and as trustful of him as she was in her youth, especially), she's also a smart cookie, and Stan's not really the sharpest tool in the shed. It's hard for me to believe that she never figured out that he was cheating on her, especially after catching him with that waitress; it's easier to think that she forced herself to believe his gaslighting, as part of her efforts to be a good wife to him. When Stan (sort of...) comes clean, she's shocked because it's sinking in, in real time, that she was right.

I'm not sure which option is more likely; I feel like it's probably a mix of the three. At the beginning of their marriage she likely didn't think it possible and believed everything he told her; once she caught him with the waitress, she had a sort of transition phase where she tried to believe he was faithful to her even though she knew the truth, deep down, and then by the end of her marriage she was over it, and simply chose not to let him have it. She's shocked in S2E13 because she can't believe he's admitting this stuff out loud, but she doesn't seem as shocked (and angry) as she would be if she was just finding it out in the moment, imho.

I also feel like her knowing about his infidelity doesn't change the meaning of the first mistake line, because, well... he's always come back before. He's come back to hurt her again and again, but he has come back -- and then she gets a phone call, and suddenly, for the first time, he's not coming back anymore. It's the one time that's so devastatingly painful it eclipses everything that came before -- no wonder she counts it as his first mistake.

[cowboyskeletons]

anyone ask for a gothcleats inscryption au? no? too late

[musical-chick-13]

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[radicallicious]

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[quietblissxx]

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[sasukeibu]

crying wheres that list of influential horror recommendations... a lot of them u could find online... i need GOOD horror i cant live like this any more

Also there was this other list of short stories by indie authors/authors of colour and it was sooo good. cry.

[lovingherwasgay]

the girl in the video is an idiot BUT so are the girls in the replies that are like "what? you expect me to be afraid just because I'm a woman? it's not healthy to live afraid of something happening to you!"

yes. you are more likely to be seen as an easy target for mugging, rape, kidnapping or murder if you're a woman. especially if you're young, small and pretty. it's a horrible reality we live in, but the solution is NOT just to have optimism and go out anyway with no precautions because 'it's an unhealthy mindset to have'. it's unhealthier to be dead.

if men are afraid of being alone at night in dangerous places, it's because they fear getting mugged. at worst, they fear being hurt/killed during the mugging because the robber was armed. girls HOPE if something bad happens it's just a mugging, and they don't rape or kidnap you just to dump your body in a ditch.

if you think you're being an empowered feminist with this whole "If I had been born with a dick no one would care that I do those things but since I’m a #girl I’m supposed to be inherently afraid of the world" think again. because yes, you will as a woman face problems that men don't. (or as an afab. genuinely sorry trans men if it makes you disphoric but if predators see you as a woman they will treat you as such).

you're not helping women by essentially erasing the very real statistical imbalance in how many girls are harassed, groped, stalked, raped, kidnapped, sold, prostituted, murdered, in comparison to men. by talking about it like it's female paranoia and not a real issue, like you only need to grow a pair and be brave because it's in your head and "the world can't stop you from living your life freely!".