#i want the banter and the cuddling and the intimacy and the love. the goodnight phonecalls and the undeniable proof that i am loved just

[whimsysalesman]

having Big Feelings in the tags. you neednt read them, but you should go drink water and stretch your eyes

[prismaticstreams]

The nine love languages of NFs, empaths and HSPs

I’ve been thinking more about the five love languages model recently, and decided I wanted to do my own blog post elaborating and adding four extra love languages that many NFs, empaths and HSPs would relate to – creative expression, personal growth, humour and spiritual practices. As well as that, I wanted to add more nuance to the original five love languages popularised by Gary Chapman.

There is a great deal of overlap between the different love languages, and many activities could fit into more than one category. For instance, creating an artwork for someone could be a gift but also a form of creative expression. Cuddling with a partner could be a form of sensual touch as well as quality time. A handwritten letter involves words but also is a gift.

Creative expression:

Personal artistic expression (writing poetry, composing a song/music piece, or creating a visual artwork for someone)

Sharing other’s people’s music or creative works (making a playlist or mix tape for someone, sending them a song that’s very meaningful to you)

Collaborating on a creative project together (being part of a band or choir together, creating a collaborative visual artwork, writing a play with someone)

Religious and spiritual practices:

Praying with or for someone, meditating together, singing or chanting with another person

Participating in private ceremonies or rituals together (celebrating Sabbath with a partner and/or family, pagan seasonal celebrations)

Attending group or public spiritual/religious services or events with another person (going to a meditation group together, attending a church/temple/synagogue service)

Personal growth and healing:

Going to therapy, individually and together (this could include coaching, mentoring and couples therapy)

Attending a personal growth or relationship workshop together

Reading a book, watching a talk or listening to a podcast together and discussing what you are learning

Supporting one another to do inner healing work

Humour and laughter:

Telling jokes to make someone laugh, teasing, flirty banter

Sending funny memes, photos, songs or videos

Creating shared in-jokes or giving each other silly nicknames

Watching something comedic together

Original Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman:

Words and communication:

Words of affirmation (compliments, encouraging words)

Frequent texting/check ins (asking “how are you?” regularly, good morning and goodnight texts)

Handwritten letters and cards

Sharing quotes/articles with someone (usually online but could also include printing an article and sharing with with a friend, lending them a book of interest)

Gifts and financial provision:

Practical gifts (buying someone kitchenware when they move out of home for the first time)

Handmade or sentimental gifts (handmade cards, personalised scrapbooks)

Buying an experience with someone (a holiday/vacation, a hot air balloon ride, etc)

Giving money and financial support

Acts of service:

Helping people with things they need, e.g. assisting someone with illness or disability

Doing acts of service to make someone’s life easier, that are not necessary but a nice bonus (cooking for someone who is healthy and able)

One off favours or help (bringing a meal after someone has an accident)

Ongoing and regular support (driving someone to appointments on a weekly basis)

Quality time:

Spending time together in silence (being the same room doing different things, cuddling in silence)

Quality conversation (listening, asking questions, being emotionally vulnerable)

Doing enjoyable activities together (attending to a concert together, going out for a meal, playing sport with someone)

Physical touch:

Platonic affection (hugs, pats on the shoulder/arm, kisses on the cheek)

Sensual touch (non-sexual cuddles, massage, gentle caressing)

Sexual intimacy (making out, or activities involving genitals/breasts/bottom and sexual arousal)

What love languages are most important to you? Do you prefer giving and receiving in different ways? Do you prefer different love languages with friends or family versus romantic partners? Please share in the comments!

[mountswhore]

𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐲 — mason mount

summary: you were getting tired of listening to mason’s problems with his girlfriend, so you plan on confronting him. until he shows up at your door.

notes: requests are open! btw i know i use the same job in a lot of these, it just makes them meeting easier.

“She doesn’t compare to you. No one does.” + “I’ll take the couch.” + “It’s us against the world.”

for @mountswdw

It was tiring, far beyond that, actually. Hearing the same leave his mouth words over and over, the same look on his face, it enervated you. You were exhausted with having Mason appear at your door at stupid o’clock, venting to you about his ‘girlfriend’ and their issues, and all you could do was listen. You’d tried giving him advice the first few times, but he never took it. You don’t even think he took it into consideration. and girlfriend was entirely the wrong word to use, they were more friends with benefits. That’s how she saw their relationship anyway. It was exceptionally worse, because you liked him so much. You wanted to scream in his face and tell him she’s pushing him around, but you couldn’t, it would ruin your friendship.

Mason was sat opposite you, pulling you out of sleep, just to talk to you about her. It felt as if he knew you liked him, and decided to torture you by giving you the inside scoop into their time-bomb of a relationship. You were curled up on the sofa, blanket still wrapped around you as you tried to cling onto your sleep, barely listening to him whine about how his girlfriend seemed like she didn’t care anymore. Your eyelids were so close to shutting again, but you managed to keep them open for Mason. As much as his girlfriend angered you, Mason was your friend and you had to be there for him. You wanted to.

“I think I might call it quits,” Mason sighed softly, eyes finally meeting yours after twenty minutes of squeezing them shut in anger, “I’m gonna do it.” He psyched himself up for it, attempting to steady his breathing. You were surprised the first time he said this, thinking you’d actually gotten through to him. But two days later, his Instagram story was filled with pictures of them both on a nice date. It ruined your Friday night in.

“Okay, Mase.” You whispered, standing up from your seat on the couch. You’d been sat there for so long that your exposed skin was now cold again, creating a strip of goosebumps that lined your side and legs. “You can stay here, if you want. You know where the spare bedding is.” It felt like a script at this point, repeating the same things to him as he found solace in you after an argument with his girlfriend.

“Yeah,” Mason conceded, watching with an achy heart as you shifted towards your stairs, “goodnight, Y/N.” Hearing him say your name never failed to give you butterflies, no matter how tired you were of hearing his complaints.

“Night, Mase.” Was all you said back as you reached your room, diving back into the now-cold sheets. Mason had set up his usual makeshift bed in the living room, your couch was actually comfier than most. That’s why he never hesitated to sleep on it. But his night was anything but full of sleep, despite the argument being fresh on his mind still, he was thinking about you.

Your friendship was different now than it was before. Before his girlfriend. You’d met when you were a trainee-massage therapist. Chelsea’s massage therapist had been kind enough to let you shadow him for a week, showing you the ins-and-outs of what his job was like. And you’d made friends with a few of the Chelsea boys, but ultimately caught Mason’s eye. Soon enough, you’d been offered a job alongside this massage therapist and here you were. Friendly flirting with Mason during work hours and after. Nothing came of it, you both saw it as flirty banter, and were good friends. Until his girlfriend came around.

Mason told himself he valued his friendship with you over potentially pushing it further, so tried to get over you. With Ella. Ella seemed sweet to begin with, but when Mason started coming to you for comfort, that’s when you saw how terrible their relationship was. She’d seen it differently to Mason, who felt it was more romantic than sexual. To say it stung to hear about his sexcapades with Ella, was an understatement. That’s when you began to grow tired of it, hearing about them constantly. It was the only time you’d talk really, apart from when you were having a session with him at work.

Laying there for two hours, putting himself in your shoes, it had all come together for him. He was cursing himself as he’d walked up the stairs, to give you more than just a fraction of the attention you’d gotten so used to. He’d imagined only seeing you when you complained about a boy you’d been seeing, and it dampened his mood. But thinking about you seeing another boy, that’s what made his feet move rapidly to your room. Knowing what he’d put you through for the past few months, it made him mad at himself. He’d never let someone treat him like this, so why should he treat his closest friend like this?

“Y/N,” you heard from behind you, startling you as you looked around in the dark, “are you awake?” Matching the voice to Mason’s, it calmed you down a bit. It wasn’t just a random intruder who knew your name and was considerate enough to let you know they’d broken in. “Y/N,” he repeated, his finger tracing down the arch of your back, “please wake up.”

“What’s up, Mase?” You somnolently questioned, yawning as he came into view. Your lamp was now on, illuminating his bloodshot eyes and tired smile. It was only something you’d wish to wake up to every morning. He said nothing, but pulled you into a hug. His arms a tight yet perfect fit around you, a small kiss was pressed to your shoulder as you shifted. Mason never wanted to let you go.

It was moments like this that slowly killed you inside. You and Mason had cuddled before, on one of the nights he’d come over after an argument, he’d snuggle up to you on the couch as you finished watching your movie. It would be a gentle night of intimacy, feelings locked away due to his relationship, and yet he’d still choose her. He’d always go back to Ella, so much so, it made you wonder what she had to make him crawl back each time.

Mason was now in bed with you, head on your chest and enjoying your warmth. He felt a lot better now, having you in his arms, giving you the attention you deserved. But this wasn’t what you wanted. You didn’t want another cuddle with a friend, you wanted him. But you knew his heart still belonged to Ella. He’d fallen asleep pretty quickly, so you’d rolled him off of you and gotten some sleep for yourself before work tomorrow. Where you’d see him.

Throughout your day, you’d caught eyes with him a few times. He’d give you a cheeky grin and sometimes even sing your name as he walked past you. You told yourself not to be hopeful for Mason’s breakup with Ella, because it had never happened before. But not once had he mentioned her to you over the course of the day. A smile had been plastered to your face as you left your office for the day, you could no longer push the hope away, Mason could finally be calling it quits with her.

Until you saw that damned white Golf. She was stood there, a smirk upon her face, Mason jogging up to her and getting into the car. Your mood flattened, making your drive home depressing and your arrival even worse. Your bed still unmade, the creases from Mason moving around in his sleep last night. His jacket was still here, hung on the door of your bedroom. The note he left on your bathroom mirror saying ‘thank you for everything you do <3’, because he knew you’d see it there. Everything in your house reminded you of him, you’d never escape the love you had for this man.

And there you were, back on your couch again. Mason was clearly sticking with Ella this time, so it was a quiet night in for you. This time last year, when Mason actually seemed to be your friend, he’d be round most nights and you’d be arguing over who’s having the last Cornetto and what to watch. But now, it’s like you’re not even his friend. You’re his therapist. You could barely pay attention to the movie you were watching, your mind relaying the scene you’d witnessed today. Seeing him curled up in your bed this morning, and then running to his girlfriends car this afternoon. You’d decided enough was enough.

“I’m gonna confront this asshole,” you mumbled to yourself, changing out of your pyjamas and into a warmer outside attire, “he either stops coming to me about his fucking relationship, or he leaves me alone.” You were psyching yourself up, something you’d mirrored Mason doing a million times before. You’d spent so much time together, you were almost the same person. Sliding into your shoes, you grabbed the door handle. You either cried or screamed at him, no in between. You yanked the handle down to open your door, almost jumping out of your skin when you saw Mason at your door.

“Mason?” You questioned whether you were seeing things or he was actually clinging onto you and weeping into your shoulder. “Why are you here? What happened?” You wanted to be angry at him, you wanted to tell him how tired you were of hearing him complain about his girlfriend nonstop, but not even the worst argument could keep you from comforting him.

“I’m sorry,” he cried, tears staining the material of your hoodie, “I never meant to treat you like this. You mean everything to me.” You brought him inside and sat him on your couch, seeing yourself where you were last night. Only this time you were more concerned. Mason had never cried in front of you, and you still hadn’t found out why.

“What’s going on?”

“I’m sorry for making it feel like I only need you when I argue with Ella.” He simply stated, his large hand wrapped quite tightly around yours. “I promise I need you all the time, you get me through everything. I’d be nowhere without you, you know that. But I’m done, we’re done. I know you saw me getting into her car earlier, but I did it. I finally finished things with her.”

You were knocked out of breath, processing what you’d just heard. After months of having to pick up the pieces, there was no more of that. And not only had he surprised you by following through with his word, he’d apologised. Your Mason was back.

“Really?” You asked, unsure of whether to believe him or not. He just nodded and opened his arms, you falling into them almost instantly. “I mean I’m sorry, but I’m kind of glad. Nobody should make you feel that unhappy, that frequently.” He responded by squeezing you tighter, his hands gently grazing your sides. You wondered if this was going to be the moment a chance would appear — an opportunity for you to tell Mason how you felt about him.

Mason pulled away from your hug, his eyes catching yours briefly before he stared down at your lips. You felt like you were in a haze, eyes half closed as you stared back at him. You were entranced by him and you hadn’t felt as relieved as you did in months. Mason took this chance to inch closer to you, feeling your breath on his face and your hand resting on his thigh. “She doesn’t compare to you. No one does.” He whispered, finally closing the gap between you both. It felt electric, something that was long overdue.

“Mase,” you breathed, whining at the sudden loss of contact, he’d pulled away from the kiss to smile at you, “it’s been so hard watching and listening to her hurt you.” Mason held you close, his newfound confidence after kissing you had you speechless as you looked at him. “But I’d never leave you to deal with it alone.”

“It’s us against the world, it always has been.” He admitted, your legs swung over his lap as he held you tight. The night had ended exactly how you’d hoped, Mason in your arms and no more listening to him whine about Ella. It was the perfect end to your shitty day. But it was getting late, Mason was even yawning as he looked at the time on his phone.

You stood up, shaking off your coat and hanging it on the banister, as well as placing your shoes back onto the shoe rack. Sleep was calling your name at this point, and you didn’t want anything more than to cuddle up to Mason as you slept.

“I’ll take the couch.” Mason stated, reaching into the living room cupboard to grab the blankets out. But you’d grabbed his arm and pulled him up, his face towering over yours. Your eyes met once again, and this time you initiated the kiss. It was brief, and enough to show you still meant what you said.

“Don’t be silly,” your voice was soft, hand linking his as you led him up to your room. Bed still unmade, exactly how he left it this morning. He’d given you one last look, his usual cheeky smile on his face as he grabbed the backs of your thighs and lifted you over his shoulder, carrying you to your bed.

He was above you, and although you were both in the moment, it played out romantically. Mason smoothed his palm over the sides of your face, moving the stray hairs and taking in your beauty. You were effortless with how you looked, and still the most beautiful girl he’d seen. The way he looked at you, it was as if he’d been doing it for years. And he has, but you’d never know that.

[yanderewriter]

Yandere alphabet : Hwa-Jin Na, from “True Education”

Affection : How do they show their love and affection ? How intense would it get ?

In the beginning, he would seem normal, acting playful and teasing you, exchanging friendly banter, some physical affection too. Nothing scandalous, a pat on the head, an arm around your shoulders, hugs, maybe as your (romantic or platonic) relationship progresses, and he has gotten you used to his oddities, then e would escalate it. He would squeeze you tighter and for longer when he hugged you, smelling your hair when he felt he could get away with it, making sure to always be near you (or at least have you in his line of sight), usually he’d be touching you in some way because this man cannot keep his hands to himself. He’d probably favour an arm around the shoulders as both a protective and possessive gesture, showcasing that you’re together even if you aren’t (he also likes how it makes it easy to pull you into his chest and hide you away from the world). He could get intense if he feels threatened in any way, or is getting impatient with how little progress he’s making with you (though he doesn’t allow himself to slip up often). He would 100% stalk you, to make sure you’re safe (sometimes, he almost wishes some thugs would try something so he could swoop in and be your hero. Especially if you don’t agree with his methods, he could show off to you on adults), to make sure no one hits on you (if they do, he’ll interrupt, pretending to be in the neighbourhood, and remember the person for a later “chat”), to know your adress, likes and dislikes, to use with gifts

Blood : How messy are they willing to get when it comes to their Darling ?

I mean, he beats bullies and absolutely destroys abusive adults in canon, so he’s definitely not afraid to fight anyone he feels is a threat to you or your relationship. As a yandere, he would be capable of torture and murder, but he wouldn’t jump straight to it. If someone is interested in you but hasn’t made a move, he’ll just scare them with a warning. If he knows you’ll turn them down (so not really a threat), he’ll just observe from afar in case they react badly to the rejection. But if anyone tries to hurt you/steal you away from him, or worse yet, succeeds, he will go ballistic on them, and that’s when he would kill.

Cruelty : How would they treat their Darling once abducted ? Would they mock them ?

Honestly, he’d be a little shit about it. Very excited, like a kid at Christmas, which will translate to physical affection, more agressive and intimate since he doesn’t need to hold back anymore. Will cuddle you, pressing your bodies flush together like he’s trying to fuse with you, smelling your hair, peppering your face in kisses, forcing you to kiss him back... He may taunt you some, an extension to the teasing and banter you used to share, but unless he’s actually angry at you, it won’t be too mean/meant to hurt (if he is angry, he would dispense the same “tough love/care” that he does in canon. You may be his Darling, but he’s the boss). He is a disciplinarian, and can probably come off a bit gloating or infantilizing. He’s really just happy to finally have you home, safe and with him

Darling : Aside from abduction, would they do anything against their Darling’s will ?

Hwa-Jin as a yandere (my version, at least) would force physical affection and intimacy. He wants to be with you all the time, so he’ll cuddle you every night, kiss you and make you kiss back, make you seat in his lap (especially if he’s doing something else like reading or work, it relaxes him), make you give him kisses for good morning/goodbye/welcome home/goodnight, and if you’ve been bratty he will hand feed you. He’ll let you choose whether to join him for a shower/bath most of the time, though. He would coerce you into sex by pleasuring you until you’re begging for more of his touch

Exposed : How much of their heart do they bare to their Darling ? How vulnerable are they when it comes to their Darling ?

Pre-kidnapping, he would be friendly, but take a while to actually be vulnerable with you. He would definitely get you to bare yourself to him a fair amount before he would know, love and trust you enough to break his façade. Post-kidnapping, the façade comes back up until he knows that you’re truly in love with him and won’t escape, either because you don’t want to or because you can’t. He knows you’re not happy with your situation, he’s not delusional or gullible enough to let his guard down. He doesn’t want to give you something you can use to escape or hurt him with, he refuses to lose you or let you manipulate him. However, he may reveal select pieces of information in order to manipulate you into feeling bad for him. He figures it’ll be easier to make you fall in love with him if you see him as a person, and feel guilty enough to stop fighting him and let him in. Although once he’s certain you love him, he will be more open with you than he has ever been with anyone else. Of course, that just means he’s expecting the same in return, and he has ways of getting what he wants from you...

Fight : How would they feel if their Darling fought back ?

Honestly, he would love it, and it would amuse him in the same way that watching a kitten hiss at you is amusing and adorable. Don’t get me wrong, he would still love just the same if you were good and obedient, but he would love having a reason to “discipline” you. He’s all about teaching valuable lessons, after all, like that you need to obey him, that you can’t escape and shouldn’t try to, that you belong to him, that he’s keeping you safe and you should thank him for it, and more importantly, that you should love him the way he loves you. He loves teaching his little Darling lessons, and he’ll do it over and over again, as many times as he needs to before it finally sinks in

Game : Is this a game to them ? How much would they enjoy watching teir Darling try to escape ?

Yes, it’s a game, of cat and mouse. He’s truly and completely in love with you, of course, but he’s very playful with a heaping dose of sadism. He loves being your protector and provider, but he also loves being the predator, the big bad wolf stalking and chasing you, only to inevitably catch you in the end, where he’ll drag you home and devour you. With that being said, if you ever actually came too close to escaping or to leaving for good, he would only barely hold onto that cool predatory veneer. He loves you, after all, and if he feels like the love of his life is slipping away from him, he��ll go feral on anything/anyone unfortunate enough to be in his way

Hell : What would be their Darling’s worst experience with them ?

As mentioned above, probably if you managed to escape. He would go rogue without you, and he would leave a trail of mangled corpses on his way back to you. He would also go after your loved ones, threatening them and roughing them up to get you to come back to him. He would be particularly vicious to anyone who’s helped you escape/hide in any way

Ideals : What kind of future do they have in mind for/with their Darling ?

One of my personal hcs for Hwa-Jin is that he would want a family with his Darling someday. Ideally, you’d love him back so your relationship would be more natural and healthy (and that way you wouldn’t escape with the kids). He would love to marry you (has already started planning out a place to go where you won’t be recognized and a fake ID for when that happens), and be able to live normally with you, go out in broad daylight, share his life with you properly. In the meantime, well... a man can dream

Jealousy : Do they get jealous ? Do they lash out or find a way to cope ?

He’s always jealous whenever you pay attention to anyone that isn’t him, even if it’s nowhere near romantic, or if it’s only a second. He’s like a child that way, selfish and demanding. He will probably come interrupt the exchange, stick by your side and playfully try to get you to leave with him during the build-up of his jealousy. If you can’t, or won’t, leave immediately, he would just act in ways that suggest you’re together without looking out of place to you (arm around the shoulders, kisses on the cheek, playful quips, etc). If you’re already in a relationship, he’d do the same while showcasing to your partner that he’s trying to steal you away (he knows they won’t be able to keep you from him even if they do manage to make you see the truth), being very passive agressive and competitive with them for your affection. He would try to show you he’s the better choice (he knows you better, can protect you, loves you the most, etc). He would only really lash out after having established some of his yandere tendencies (like you’re together and he’s eased you into his possessiveness so he feels okay with showing it, you’re captive but he has let you out for a special occasion...), in which case the “rival” may end up bruised and maybe bloody, if he feels threatened enough, and you’ll be swiftly whisked back to your shared home

Kisses : How do they act around or with their Darling ?

Pre-kidnapping, like a playful high-energy puppy. He’s a friendly, reliable figure, flirtatious, though he knows where your boundaries are and knows when to push them and when to be “respectable.” Post-kidnapping, same except he doesn’t hold himself back anymore. He’ll flirt with you constantly and act like it’s cute, like those couples that flirt even after they’ve gotten together, instead of a kidnapper and his victim. He also acts more dominant, since you’re not on equal footing anymore, and because of this, I can see him being a bit infantilizing at times (that teacher/daddy authority kicking in ayy)

Love letters : How would they go about courting or approaching their Darling ?

He would approach you as friendly figure, but would still put himself as a mentor/more knowledgeable person, to have you depend on and confide in him. He’ll present himself as an eccentric, so that you won’t think anything of his more questionable actions. He would court you in a seemingly normal way, with gifts, attention, dates, acts of service, flirtatious remarks and words of appreciation, spending time with you and physical affection. He would figure out your preferred love language and cater to it. Of course, all his knowledge comes from stalking you in real life and digging up every bit of info he can find on you. He’ll even endear himself to your loved ones, so he’ll be able to count on them to approach (and, when you get together) you

Mask : Are their true colours drastically different from the way they act around everyone else ?

Not drastically, because I’m pretty sure everyone in the series has, at some point, seriously pondered whether or not this man would commit murder. Because he definitely could, and he’s not afraid to get violent. Though, with his attitude and the pay off from his methods, most people likely feel reassured, and would think anyone accusing him of murder/torture/kidnapping/rape/etc of lying or exaggerating like they did in the beginning. So I guess they would still be shocked if they found out

Naughty : How would they punish their Darling ?

I think Hwa-Jin would like infantilizing and sexual punishments. First of all, he makes you thank him after every punishment, ask if you understand why you needed to be punished and make you repeat the lesson he “gave” while you were being punished. He loves spanking, makes you count the hits and say “thank you, Sir” after each one, if you mess up or resist, he starts over. Loves overstimulation and edging with orgasm denial, to turn you into a whining, begging, desperate mess. If you can get pregnant, and have really set him off, he will come inside and plug you up as punishment. As for non-sexual punishment, this mans once forced your hands into mittens that prevented you from doing anything, so you had to rely on him (aka beg and bribe with kisses, then thank him) for every little thing (he cut up your food into small bites and hand fed you with a sadistic glee - also this idea comes from an AizawaxReader fic that was amazing but i forgot the name). Another time, he made you write “I love Sir and I am grateful for everything he does for me” 50 times

Oppression : How many rights would they take away from their Darling ?

Your right to privacy, to start. This man will be touching you any time he can get away with it. Your right to your body, because even though he can make you beg for his touch, he’s still coercing you into being intimate, and if you can get pregnant, when he decides to start a family with you, he’ll get you off birth control. He will also put a tracker in you, and as mentioned above, he’ll put mittens on you and make you depend on him for everything so no autonomy for you ig

Patience : How patient are they with their Darling ?

Definitely more than he is with the bullies he disciplines every day. He won’t let you disrespect or manipulate him, and while he finds it cute and amazing if you fight back, if you keep attacking him, he’ll get tired and put his foot down. And you really don’t want him to catch you hurting yourself in any way. Other than that, he’s used to temper tantrums from spoiled brats and violent bullies that drive people to suicide, so you’d probably be tame in comparison. He would be pretty chill

Quit : If their Darling dies, leaves, or successfully escapes, would they ever be able to move on ?

No. You’re the love of his life, the only person he’s bared himself to, the one he wants to spend the rest of his days with, have a family with, he has so many plans for the two of you... If you were together and you break up, that would be the incident that makes him snap and “turn” yandere. If you escape, he will track you down and do everything to get you back, even if it takes years (though it probably won’t, if he can he’ll use your loved ones as leverage to make you come back). If you die, he will be devastated. That would definitely be a sobering experience. He’ll be angry at you, at himself, at everything and everyone in the world. He would blame himself for not seeing it coming and not being able to protect you. He will mourn you, and bc I personally don’t like yanderes that go through Darlings and just get over them or grow to hate them/hurt them, he will stay in mourning (also you won’t die by his hand bc of this)

Regret : Would they ever feel guilty about abducting their Darling ? Would they ever let their Darling go ?

He wouldn’t kidnap his Darling unless he felt like he had to (like you breaking up with him, moving away, you somehow getting a partner or getting engaged/married to them or planning to, etc), since he would prefer a normal relationship. That means that, while he’s not delusional enough not to see how what he’s doing is wrong, he’s too far gone gone to care beyond not getting caught. So he wouldn’t really regret or let his Darling go (unless he’s 100% certain they love him back and he can move someplace else with a fake ID to love them openly and start a family, but he’s hard to convince)

Stigma : What brought about this side of them (childhood, curiosity, etc) ?

(Ok I don’t have fastpass on Webtoon so I don’t know if Hwa-Jin’s backstory has been revealed, but I don’t it so I’m completely inventing here) A bit of everything : with his job, he’s seen the worst of people, he’s seen good people get hurt and die because of the actions of others and he wants to protect those good people. And you come into his life, make him feel in a way he’s never felt before. Intrigued and, after stalking you due to his curiosity, in love. Not just love, but a bone-deep, all-consuming love, that worsen his jealousy and protectiveness to the point where he can’t hold back anymore (and after a while, he doesn’t want to)

Tears : How do they feel about seeing their Darling scream, cry, and/or isolate themselves ?

He’s used to outbursts, so he would handle them in a teacher/paternal way. He’ll let you tire yourself out, hold you close, rub circles on your back, pet your head, dry your tears. He will get you something for your sore throat, get some fluids in you, make sure you stay healthy throughout your breakdown. He wouldn’t let you out of his sight enough for you to properly isolate yourself. He doesn’t like it, obviously, and he would comfort you, but he’s used to kids so, unless you were being sincere (not trying to guilt him into something) and it was seriously affecting you, he probably wouldn’t relent

Unique : Would they do anything different from the classic yandere ?

I feel like I don’t know the yandere archetype well enough to know if he is different and how much, sorry

Vice : What weakness can their Darling exploit in order to escape ?

Not many, honestly. I am tempted to say none, because this man would be extremely difficult to trick. He knows people well, knows how they react when cornered with no way out, and most of all he knows you. Because he wants a life and family with you, wants to bare himself to you and has resolved to do it if/when you loved him back, he would be waiting for that moment while being extremely paranoid. He doesn’t want to make a mistake and lose you, so he would constantly be on his guard

Wit’s end : Would they ever hurt their Darling ?

Aside from coerced intimacy and physical punishments, no. He wouldn’t beat his Darling, either. To him, there is a difference between punishments and domestic violence (his punishments are also way less violent than his canon ones, because he’s in love with you and doesn’t want to be “a real abusive husband”) and he hates abusers (he’s not compeltely delusional, but enough that he doesn’t think of himself and his actions as comparable to that)

Xoanon : How much would they revere or worship their Darling ? To what length would they go to win their Darling over ?

He would worship you in his own way : physical intimacy, trusting you with his heart once he feels he can trust you, if you don’t fight him he will spoil you honestly. He would exploit everything he knows about you (which is to say, everything) to win you over, from your preferred love language(s) to allowing some input on small things (like dinner, what movie you’re watching, etc) or manipulating you into empathizing with him. Although he worships you in his way, he wouldn’t put himself beneath you, really, but rather thinks of himself as the only one good enough for you

Yearn : How long do they pine after their Darling before they snap ?

He would only snap if his relationship with you was threatened (partner, breakup, moving away, etc) and he is quite patient to get what he wants, so he could be with you without snapping for a long time. It honestly depends on the circumstances

Zenith : Would they ever break their Darling ?

He wouldn’t break you, no. He loves you, he loves you for who you are, he doesn’t want a mindless doll. That’s why, despite the punishments, he won’t go too far with them, and will be pretty lax outside of them. The lessons are a game, like the chase, like everything. None of it is supposed to break you, and he will take care of you to ensure that never happens. He’s very attentive to your physical and mental state, and would see the signs so he’d be able to stop before doing actual damage