#i wanna see aro romance repulsed rep!!!!

[arodabi]

“Just because this character is aromantic doesn’t mean they’re romance repulsed!!!!!!!!!”

Okay but like,,,,,, they could be tho,, being romance repulsed is something people are,,,,, it’s not like a negative trait,,,,,, character can be romance repulsed

[r0semaryt3a]

Some pre/during Yorknew Phantom Troupe Identity hcs + Illumi and Kurapika

I do not care if you disagree with these- my word is not law and honestly I want to hear some other headcannons so feel free to drop them down

Chrollo Lucilfer -

Ah Chrollo, my wife <3

He/him (surprising the masses after my wife joke)

Bisexual (no pref)

Monogamy - don’t even suggest otherwise it will be shot down.

“My identity? I’m a bisexual man…hmm? He/him.”

Feitan Portor

He/it

Has not and will not ever think about it (if he likes you he’ll date you he won’t label it)

It would be like pulling teeth trying to get him to answer on his identity. Like, it’s just not important to him. Why do you want to know so bad? Just call it whatever, it’s not gonna humour you with a conversation anyways.

“He.” ‘is there anything else?’ “It.” ‘And your sexuality?’ “…like you, date you. Simple.”

Phinks Magcub

He/him

Straight

Messed around once - quickly learnt he was indeed straight

These people really don’t see the prevalence in their identities so they’re all pretty blunt on answering.

“Eh? Why’d you wanna know? So what? I’m a guy. What? I like girls sure.”

Machi Komacine -

my absolute favourite

She/her

Messed around w gender for a bit; doesn’t care but will let you know “she’s a girl”

Bisexual - fem pref

Was the opposite of Phinks - thought she was lesbian then messed around and realised she was indeed bi

“Call me whatever…I’m a girl though.”

“I mean I like everyone, I think? Girls are probably better. No they are”

Woman has to double check with herself whenever asked, it’s like answering a quiz

Franklin Bordeau

He/him

Homosexual

Like one of the only ones who’d give you a straight answer if you ever asked

“I’m a man and yes, I like men.” Type of answer

Uvogin

He/him

Bi - male pref (the phantom troupe is just a bisexual chat room atp)

I Cannot decide whether I like Nobunaga or Shalnark w this guy

You’ll find out from fucking around with him. In no world is he answering you.

Pakunoda

She/her

THIS WOMAN IS LESBIAN NO DEBATE

L e s b i a n

Can imagine her being the only one of the group to just have her identity down from day dot

Definitely had a fling with Machi at some point that didn’t work out (they ended on good terms obviously. I can and will go into lengthy detail as to why I believe they had something going in the past and weren’t still together during Yorknew)

This woman is the died in the arc she first appeared in rep I needed!

“She/her honey. I like girls, that’s all that’s to it.”

Shalnark

Does not care

Pan

Literally just a colouring book, do what you want he won’t correct you (there’s nothing to correct to)

“Oh? Hmm, well I’ve never really thought about it much. It makes sense for me to be pan though, I guess!”

Nobunaga Hazama

He/they

Homosexual

He’s like that grandad that tells you about his time out in clubs and you’re sat going: “YOU? YOU did those things?”

“I’m a homosexual.”

Hisoka Morow

Call this amalgamation of a human whatever you want. As long as you can fight, you can talk to him/j

Type of guy to make a “Yours” joke

I really don’t see Hisoka caring for what people see him as. Like you wanna call him a he? Go for it. She? Sure why not! They? It? All on the table!

Another bisexual - his preference is fight me

Would 100% be down for poly, but depending on his attachment would also demand monogamy

“Why don’t we set a date and you can find out hmm~?”

Shizuku Murasaki

She/it

Straight or Aro, one or the other she’s either heavily into romance or completely repulsed and I can’t decide which I think it is.

Will blink at you for two minutes before sighing a response

“Well I don’t mind she or it I suppose.”

Kortopi

It/its

Aroace

I don’t really have that many thoughts on Kortopi so this is like all I’m giving

bonolenov

He/him

No one really has a clue on his sexuality and he doesn’t tell any of them, ever. Like he knows what he is, but he just never says it

Illumi Zoldyck

He/Him?

He’s never really thought about it much, after-all aside from family it’s not like most people will live long enough for his identity to matter

Sexuality? Who knows! He sure doesn’t. Does he even like people? Who’s to say!

“What does it matter? I’m a man by all accounts, so refer to me as such.”

Kurapika Kurta

He/they

Bisexual

I don’t even really know why he’s on this list tbf.

Will give you his whole coming out story if you ask about his identity. You’ll be there a while.

This was actually really fun to sit and do-

[crazy-pages]

It’s been a hot minute since I read Worm and I don’t engage with the fandom at all, but… was there a canon ace character? I wanna say it was Tattletale but I thought that was fanon derived from her canon issue with relationships after getting powers… (there was a term for that, I have TOTALLY forgotten it, forgive me)

Yeah Tattletale / Lisa is aro-ace. In Worm there is a part where she says she can't do relationships or sex because her powers start telling her everything her potential partner wants to do with her and it repulses her. Then later, as people started to talk about it as potential aro-ace rep, Wildbow decided that would be a nice bit of rep to lean into and in Ward Lisa elaborates and says she's definitely aromantic and asexual. She blamed it on her powers when she was younger, but in retrospect being repulsed by someone's attraction to her was. You know. Not exactly an allosexual or alloromantic response.

Fanon though ... well. The shipping fandom really, really, really wants her to be a lesbian to ship her with Taylor. So what you'll see in fanon is that she experiences information overload and it's overstimulating and so her powers interfere with relationships that way. Or of course she found men's attraction unappealing, she's a lesbian silly! So really of course she just needs to find a nice caring woman who can help her manage the information overload or who she'll find appealing.

And I'm extremely tired of it by this point. At no point in either book does she express any kind of desire or interest in romance or sex, nor any sense of loss about that. It's just not part of her character, period. But there's this pretty large community in the fandom which is obsessed by fixing her life through romantic relationships, and I'm pretty done with it.

[disasterdemi]

🔥🥂💚

I just finished reading Fire Becomes Her 👀

Some components to Entice you:

The ones you can see in summaries, like bi demiromantic mc (Ingrid), other aspec rep, sapphic rep, qpr, etc (basically one of those good ol' Everyone Is Queer books 😌)

Explicit rep of a non-partnering romance-favourable aro (side character) within the first couple of chapters

Nonbinary rep

Adorably awkward queerplatonic interactions and confessions

Constructive discussions of boundaries and attraction

Proof that writers don't need to use the labels to clearly get across a character's identity so no one should be using that part of fantasy/history/sci-fi as an excuse

“something else” instead of “something more”

Ingrid still experiencing some degree of repulsion even with the person she's attracted to (#relatable)

Similar themes to Tarnished Are The Stars, like power and privilege and the nuances of born and found families

A political campaign à la RWRB

A drinkable drug that makes you firebend

Aspec characters that are Frustrated by amatonormativity

Story/writing-wise:

I'll admit at first I kept reading just because I'd decided to commit, but then next thing I knew I'd binged the whole middle section??? I think I got a lot more gripped after Alex and the Meyers campaign came in.

Predictable but in that good way where you wanna see how it all plays out (like the plot is definitely mainly there to facilitate Ingrid's character development and the themes of the story but that's not a bad thing)

It's Rosiee Thor, so the plot is about greedy politician fathers lol

I really liked a lot of the side characters actually!!! (esp Alex and Charlotte)

I wasn't sure going in what kind of fantasy it would be but it's Definitely urban fantasy

There were a couple of things I'd have liked to see expanded upon/examined more deeply but they're a bit spoilery so I'll leave them out of this post

Anywayyy aro rep my beloved 💚

~

Also I really wanna smack the people on goodreads giving this bad reviews because of the “bland romance” or because they wanted “more romance” like fuck off ok you literally missed the Whole Point

[thebleedingeffect]

Couple hours late but here’s aro questions for you

2. 4. 5. 9. 15. 16. 25. 27. 32. 35. 38. 44. 45. 50. aaaand 53. :] enjoy

Oh my gosh so many!many!! YES yes I love oversharing and talking about aro stuff ty so much for giving me the opportunity and don't worry about it ^-^!

2. How would you describe your identity?

I'm pretty happy and content with the label of aroace agender to describe myself! Really I'm just vibing and gender is a mystery to me so that's just part of my identity now lmao

4. Are you romance favorable, neutral, or repulsed?

Oof, this one is slightly complicated but I would say I lean slightly more on the repulsed side as I just can't see myself ever being in a straight up romantic relationship and tbh, I don't want to SJSJSJ

5. What kind of attraction do you feel?

PLATONIC!! PLATONIC, with a little dash of queer platonic to spice things up but im a big old sucker for platonic affection and love over literally any over kind of love lmao. Call me your friend or just friend terms and I'll be falling over myself

9. What made you realize you were aspec/arospec?

Okay so, funny story about that, I unironically figured out that I was aro thanks to techno. I found it out cause I kept reading queer platonic em duo stuff and every time techno talked about his love for philza but zero romance attached to it I was just like....... Oh....... another thing is that weirdly the dsmp fandom is just the only one that I've ever seen actual aspec rep IN the fandom content itself

15. What made you realize you wanted a queer platonic relationship?

I think the one thing I do like in the idea of romance is the loyalty and commitment attached to it which is how I began wanting a queer platonic relationship. That type of love that feels like home but without the romantic expectation and just creating your own definition of love with your partner is the dream for me :]

16. What confuses you about typical romantic relationships?

So many things you have absolutely no idea. I've never really understood the whole physical longing thing and having someone take up all of your thoughts and decisions to a worrying degree. I've never got wanting to act in an idealized way so that your crush might like you cause what's the point? I've never got how love confessions are this big relationship changing thing cause I just don't care and never thought of romantic love as a concern. Grade school was hell man SJSJSJ

25. Are you good at flirting? Do you flirt often?

I don't really think I flirt?? Idk if compliments can be seen as flirting as I love being nice and complimenting people but I, don't think that's flirting?? Im hopeless at this whole flirting thing just throw me to the curb

27. Do you enjoy seeing romance irl/online/in media/etc.?

Irl it's kinda impossible to avoid romance so I've just gotten really good at ignoring it in that context! But in media and online? I'll fully admit that my romance repulsion comes out really hard and I don't like seeing or reading romantic content if I can help it. God the amount of blocked shipping tags that I have in my filters SJSJJS

32. Come up with the stupidest way to ask someone out, right now!

Hey baby wanna find out how I can make this heat wave even worse?

(was that good? I have absolutely no fucking idea SJSJSJS)

35. Do you enjoy valentine's day?

For the sweets and chocolates? Yes, for the romance? Oh god no, I always end up staying completely offline for that entire day cause I get so annoyed that it's just better for me to play video games or something sjsjsj I do enjoy the red, white, and pink aesthetic though, it's cute! ^-^

38. How many arospecs do you know irl/online?

Fun fact! My wife is actually on the aro spectrum herself! :DD I love her so much she found out she was aro a bit after me and its been great lmao. All in all I believe I only know two aro people overall? Which is a crime I need to make more aro friends but making friends is so hard sjsjsj

44. Do you have an aro ring? Do you want one?

I don't have one yet but I've been thinking about getting one! :D it's just a really pretty and lovely idea so I genuinely might do it, that is if my brain allows me to wear a ring lol

45. Do you have an ace ring? Do you want one?

Gonna get both so I can give the simultaneous finger to both sex and romance SHSHSJ

50. Any arospec headcanons

YES, LIKE YOU HAVE NO IDEA. Loz wise I strongly believe oot link and hyrule warriors link to be on the aro spectrum!! ^-^ I mean, oot link literally ignored a whole ass marriage proposal so hard that I half believe the fact Ruto was interested didn't even REGISTER. hw link is so extremely funny to me cause the IDEA of him being aro and being chased by an evil sorceress is the embodiment of my poor aro meow meow. He didn't ask for this, he didn't want it, he doesn't even understand what's the big deal about romance WHY is she destroying REALITY FOR IT!!!

53. What is the best part about being aro?

The relief of knowing that I don't have to force myself to find or force myself to pretend that I feel romantic love. The relief that I can be my genuine self and be happy in the different forms of love that bring me happiness instead of what society expects of me. The fact that I have a name to explain what I've been experiencing my entire life and the fact that people reflect my thoughts have brought me more comfort than you can imagine. It's the relief of knowing I don't have to act or sell myself for a nonexistent partner and instead pursue the queer love that I've always dreamed of. It's the fascination of exploring the very foundation of love and how I interpret it by having a complete absence of romantic love but so much love for other things. For me being aro is comfort, acceptance, and living with the fact that you are not lesser for not experiencing something that a large amount of people, it's finding happiness in that absence as it allows you to instead fill that space with what you choose to love. It's carving out a little space for that queer love whenever it arrives and it fits perfectly within all the other things you've given love to, so much so that you never even think of how you may be different or may never experience something that everyone else cause you're so incredibly happy with what you have! That you could never think or want anything else, that's what being aro is for me and I've been much happier with my identity ever since I realized that ^-^

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Aro-spec & my parents don't know much about the community. I'm trying to educate them some without having constant direct conversations about it because it's exhausting & I still live with them & I don't wanna out myself (know I'm queer but nothing else) I'm thinking of leaving pamphlets around I tell them I got from my meetups back when. We do share books sometimes, so any idea if a book with more subtle rep I can explain gently or with explicit, using the language, direct rep would be better?

Jughead 2015 run from Archie comics is centered around an ace character who is completely disinterested in romance. So it’s not named that he’s aro, but a lot of how he acts and the situations he finds himself in are very relatable for aro people. Such as having obvious romance repulsion or accidentally agreeing to a romantic date with someone and panicking, 

If comics don’t work, Elatsoe by Darcie Little Badger is very similar, it’s  about another ace character who can be read as aro, but while she’s also completely disinterested in romance, you mostly see it in her occasionally mentioning how much she isn’t interested at all in dating/marriage type things and has no romantic interests throughout the story. 

For a book with very direct rep, that can be a good place to learn about aromanticism, Loveless by Alice Oseman is about an aroace character figuring out she’s aroace and coming to terms with that, and it’s heavily focused on her aro side. So them reading that may help them get a better understanding of what it means to be aro too. 

If you’re looking for a good character who may not have been consciously written as aro, but reads as extremely aro, Bertie in the Jeeves books by PG Wodehouse comes across as aro in a lot of them. The basic premise is that he keeps accidentally finding himself engaged to women and him and his valet have to figure out how to get him out of it without hurting the woman’s feelings. There’s a couple where he does at first seem to be attracted to the girl (though that drops very quickly), but especially the later ones he just has no interest in all that marriage business at all, and he’s extremely uncomfortable/disinterested when he’s in romantic situations and finds things like kissing to be a chore. The Jeeves books also do not have to be read in order.

All of these books are really good books too, I’d recommend them to anyone.

So yeah hopefully something here helps. Good luck, Anon!

I’ll ask followers too if anyone has any good book recs that might work for Anon’s purposes, please do share!

[arovibes]

Yeah, I just love going to tiktok to get validation for my identity and seeing it be swamped by a different identity. Literally my favorite thing.

Like I get it, ace and aro are very similar, and a lot of people are both. But why is it when people are aroace, its really only the ace identity that gets any love?? Like, I'm aromantic greysexual and I vibe much harder with being aromantic (cause im cynical) than being greysexual.

Like I just want like aro tumblrs into tiktoks or youtube videos. Like give me romance repulsed tiktoks over and over again. I ain't romance repulsed but I'll fucking take it at this point.

Like I just want to see people single cause they dont like romantic relationships, not because they mostly hate the sex part and talk about hating the sex part.

Like is this too much to ask for?? Like, they have they're lives and I want them to vibe with what identity they wanna vibe with, but cynical bitches like me don't get no heartless rep and I am SAD

[epitheterasedgen]

self-indulgent aro HCs because I can (tw: romance talk + salt below the cut)

ok I know on my rp blog Percy is romance-repulsed but tbh that’s just self-projection; realistically she’s in The Oblivious Gang (TM) who wouldn’t recognize romance if it slapped her across the face. one of the reasons Eros loves her so much is because he finds it endlessly funny to flirt with her, as she takes everything literally and has no idea what he means, ever

speaking of The Oblivious Gang (TM) JELLO GAVE ME OBLIVIOUS ARO GIO RIGHTS AND NOBODY CAN TAKE THOSE AWAY FROM ME. tbh I have had oblivious aro Gio vibes from him since day 1 but I never said anything bc of his original player’s statement but now nobody can say anything because Jello agrees with me

Howie is the hates romance gang. #&^! romance. all his worker bees hate romance. this post made by the SHUT UP AND DO YOUR #&$*!ING JOB GANG

(if I see one more person self-ship with Howie I will destroy a building. I know Howie would not want me destroying buildings but I swear if one more person erases the only canon aro rep we have—)

Molly is the only normal aro in the family and it takes her forever to realize she even is aro, she just isn’t all that interested in romance and kinda just.... never dates anyone? ofc she’s just baby rn so like it’s not even relevant yet, but once she’s in high school a few ppl ask her out and she’s just like no thanks, and then she continues to turn down every offer she gets until she’s late into her 20s and realizes “hm I don’t think I ever want to get married actually” and then doesn't.

(highkey, I literally only realized I had this HC after SO many people were asking for HCs about how the EAM fam would react to Molly dating/getting married and once I got past my initial “I wanna strangle you for even asking that” I was like.... actually I can’t even imagine her in that situation??? I just Do Not see Molly ever having an interest in romance.)

bonus:

I don’t wanna label Indus as fully “aromantic” because I don’t think it fits him; I mean ((vaguely motions to Mera)) but I think he's gotta fall somewhere on the spectrum (the aro spectrum; I mean he’s also autistic but that’s beside the point) because I don’t think he fully.... understands romance? like Mera’s 100% alloromantic, has all the daydreams/normal crush type stuff/loves romance-coded activities, but I don’t think Indus experiences his attraction in the same way. if Mera asked him to buy her flowers he’d be like “yes of course! :D” but he wouldn’t like, know WHY if that makes sense

[trendercraft]

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- when i disassociate or start having delusions, which happens a lot, i dont like having pronouns other than it/its used for me or being called human. call me an angel or a video game character if you need something along those lines.

- im also invisibly disabled n struggle with chronic pain. i consider myself a spoonie bc of this.

- i reclaim both the f slur n the d slur. binary ppl stay mad im mlm + wlw n i do what i want. i trigger tag use of both, including in urls from rbs.

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- im literally a creeper kinnie. im also an enderman. and miku. among other non-minecraft things. if u talk to me abt kin stuff ill go crazy go stupid.

- creepers are aro rep bc my aro ass says so.

- i am a designated official mogai hell freak. lead clown of the mogais here to say that gender..... is like silly putty. *shuffles my genders around until they play in a good order*

- im not romance repulsed n im in a romantic relationship w an absolute angel (@transwormonastring uwu) who i have queerplatonic feelings 4!

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[spdrvyn]

i know i'm not involved in this post but i do have some things i wanna point out because oh boy do i have a lot to say about the hero x villain tag LMAO

first of all, i 100% agree with the sexual undertones bit. as an ace person, it's so frustrating to see most of the content to be sexual to some degree (i don't mind suggestive stuff but that's my cup of tea not yours). also most of the content i see on asexual heroes and villains is so?? hmmm???

it feels super forced (the character literally just blurting out that they're ace and its so wehh, those weird ace stereotypes like ooo garlic bread and cake) and there's normally dialogue that's like "i don't like dating" when they don't specify that they're aro either which i find to be really harmful because not all ace people are aro and not all aro people are ace. (ALSO WHERE IS THE OTHER ACE/AROSPEC REP I'VE ONLY SEEN SEX/ROMANCE REPULSED ONES SO FAR RRRRGHHH)

second of all, i'd really like to see more psychologically fucked up shit in the tag. i notice almost all of the conflicts are pretty one-to-two dimensional and it's just like where is the spice bro ... i want a hero that has SEVERE trauma and identity issues, i want a hero that doesn't even know who they are because they've been people pleasing their entire life, i want a hero that can't even be comforted by the villain or anybody else because they don't know their own feelings and don't know how to FEEL comforted.

in short, i feel like the angsty themes feel so repetitive and i'd like a small change of pace in terms of pain is all! anyways yeah this is super irrelevant also i did not proofread so sorry for typos reeheehee

okay but what if I want to hear about your beef with the hero x villain tag because....I also have beef 👀👀

for you, ginger, i absolutely will talk about it. okay so my beef…!!! Ψ(`_´ # )↝

the tag (hero x villain) is so diluted with rather mediocre, sexual content… there’s nothing new to it at all. like, i’ve been in this community for two years and there’s no creative content! a lot of the one-dimensional pieces that have sexual undertones get a shit ton of attention, and it’s immensely frustrating to see [as not only a person that’s been on this side of tumblr for so long, but also as an aroace person…] especially when considering the fact that those dynamics have been done a million times before!! i’m sick of the pieces where the villain and the hero are subtly flirting with each other the whole time… sigh.

what’s your beef, ginger? i’d love to know :0

[kyanitedragon]

I hope you two don’t mind, but I thought your tags were really good:

#anon i see ur also aro so i dont wanna speak over u #but like #idk i thought ppl were just over-reacting to rep for so long #a character shares your identity? whatever #what does that even do for anyone? #and then i saw a sliver of myself reflected somewhere else and i sobbed for so long #i didnt even realize how much i needed that #and now the few more slivers i see get ripped apart #and written over bc its not shipping compatible #and idk maybe im a whiny little baby but one day i wanna be able to feel represented again #without people trying their hardest to deny things

As well as @kidrat’s reply:

[ID: A tumblr reply from @KidRat that reads “Honestly for aros [with] romance repulsion, canonical aros are the only characters that are *safe* to project onto and are a relief from seeing every other character ever getting paired up. so to then come to fandom and see people erasing aro characters, that doesn't only remove [representation], it tramples over the small safe moments to *breathe* that canonical aromanticism affords us.” END ID]

Aroace tryna understand y it’s bad to ship aro characters here..

I’m not saying it’s OKAY to in majority of context bc like as u said almost entirely they r doing it w/out giving a shit abt how actual aro ppl view/feel abt the situation

But I still believe in the scenario they r respectful n listen to the aro folks they absolutely can

Again tryna grasp this T-T

for me, i do not get to see myself represented often. I can actually count on like one hand how many popular canon aro characters there are, and on the whole, none of their identities are respected. people constantly try to weasel their way out of actually writing aro characters, or they just ignore or deny their identity outright. fandom spaces (hell creative spaces in general) are at best not welcoming to aros, and at worst actively hostile towards us. So when the first question brought up when a character gets canonically confirmed as aro is “okay cool but can i ship them???” or “that’s nice but how can i still write about my fave ship that involves them??” i want to fucking scream. its a slap to the face and it shows that people really do not give a shit about aros. you say stuff like that and all i hear is “my fictional ship is so much more important than representing a marginalized minority identity” so instead of me just sitting here and saying “yes you can totally ship aro characters, as long as you’re respectful!!!” i’m saying “can you stop and think why you want to shove an aro character into a romantic relationship at the first chance you get?? maybe you have some arophobia you haven’t worked on?? maybe since we live in an amatonormative world, you’re letting that influence your views??” because that question being the first thing out of peoples mouths when they see a character they like confirmed as aro? it makes me feel like shit. it shows me that my most important identity is just an obstacle to everyone. “how can I avoid writing an aro character actually being aro? how do I take an alloromantic characterization and dress it up in enough aspec terminology to get it past the mean aros who don't like when I erase identities?”