#i normally don't get so heated like this

[tj-crochets]

Hey y'all! The AC in my house is like half-broken and I have all the heat tolerance of a particularly sad penguin*, so I could use some advice. I am from a desert area, so I know the stay hydrated, electrolytes, loose clothes type advice, but do you have any advice for handling the heat in humid areas specifically? Also, does anyone have any recommendations for sun hats? Specific sun hats you recommend are what I'm looking for, but if you don't have a specific one an idea of what criteria I should look for would be very helpful too *I say this jokingly, idk how much heat tolerance penguins actually have. I have POTS, salt wasting syndrome, and some unknown autoimmune issue that probably involves my endocrine system? Docs are still working on it but the sum total is I cannot exist in hot temperatures

[nerdy-talks]

Seriously anon? You clearly haven't been reading or watching the same story as the rest of us.

To reiterate what everyone else has said : Dabi/Touya was a CHILD! An innocent child who only wanted to make his father proud.

Can you imagine being the center of your father's world, taught that you were born to become his successor, praised for your potential... Only to then be ignored, pushed aside, and borderline abandoned by the same man who once glorified your very existence purely because you would never be able to meet his ridiculous expectations due to something you literally had no control over?

That is mental and emotional ABUSE! It's NEGLECT!

Endeavor failed his children and his wife. Plain and simple.

Endeavor only cared about pushing his own selfish ambitions off on his kids. He kept reproducing (at least once against Rei's wishes, which constitutes as marital r*pe as someone else pointed out) until he got the "perfect hybrid" child, not because he wanted to be a father so badly... But because he wanted a kid that could surpass All Might, something Endeavor himself failed to do. That was not Touya's fault.

"Spoilt brat", you say? Oh yeahhhh, Touya was soooooo spoiled! That's why the poor child would repeatedly cry and constantly push his body past it's limit to the point of injuring/burning himself in an attempt to gain back even a fragment of his father's attention. Because he was spoiled, right? Give me a break, anon.

You are literally victim blaming an innocent child who didn't know any better while simultaneously defending an abusive grown ass man who knew exactly what he was doing.

Endeavor actively chose to abuse Shoto. Touya wasn't around during Shoto's "training". In fact, Endeavor made sure that Shoto was kept away/isolated from his siblings. Which, by the way, is also abusive and neglectful.

Endeavor chose to yell at and even physically assault Rei. In front of his kids. Again, abusive!

Sure, Rei didn't handle the situation with Touya as well as she possibly could have. But Endeavor had absolutely no right to lay his hands on Rei, nor expect her to clean up his mess/mistakes on her own. He should have been a proper man and father, took the time to help Touya process things, and guide him down another path in a loving and encouraging way. Yet he didn't, just another failure on Endeavor's part. Not Touya's... Endeavor's.

Oh, and I have to bring this up, too! You know the scene where Touya tries to attack baby Shouto? Why did he do that, hm? Because Endeavor rejected him once again, despite the fact that Touya was in tears pleading for his father's attention.

As a child, it's understandable that Touya may have thought to himself "if that baby wasn't around, then Dad would focus on me instead. If that baby wasn't born with a hybrid quirk, then Dad would acknowledge me and my power". And yeah. He acted out, which I'd argue is a pretty normal reaction coming from a distraught, attention deprived child who is desperate for the love he once had.

Touya didn't "ruin" the family. That was all Endeavor's doing. If he hadn't been so power hungry or brainwashed his children into believing that they were only worth his time and attention if they had the potential to surpass All Might... Then maybe things would have turned out differently.

Dabi/Touya said it perfectly : you reap what you sow.

So don't you dare blame a child, a VICTIM, just because you like Endeavor.

Dabi is bitter and has every right to be. His childhood was ruined by Endeavor, the one man who was supposed to love, support, nurture, and protect him above all else.

So Dabi exposing Endeavor for his transgressions is absolutely 100% justified. If a person can't even protect or support their own family, then they have no business trying to protect others.

And okay, Endeavor may be trying to make amends now... But he could never change the past or take back all of the pain, grief, suffering, and trauma that he caused Touya.

So kindly keep your asinine comments to yourself, anon. Because I suspect you are the one who is a spoiled, ignorant, entitled, cowardly little brat.

Then it’s Touya’s fault not Rei’s for being walked over by said child, I mean that is obvious because Enji never abused or neglected him like peeps believe anyways. He was a spoilt ignorant brat, who ruined the family basically and if you think about it Enji could have been a good father to Shouto instead of abusive if Touya didn’t ruin it for Enji and the whole family!

“Enji never abused or neglected him” he literally ignored Touya and replaced him like a failed experiment.

Touya was not spoiled, he was a neglected child who just wanted his father to care about him again like he used to before his quirk began hurting him. He felt so unwanted and unloved that he began self-harming via burning himself and pulling out his hair.

And Enji showed signs of being abusive before Shoto was even born. He neglected his first three kids, was implied to have committed marital r*pe against Rei twice, and was unpleasant towards other people, including his fans.

Touya didn’t ruin Enji and the whole family, Enji did that all on his own.

[icewindandboringhorror]

........creachure

[topaztimes]

Hi this is a vent post! Continue scrolling if you'd rather not see that

[elisedonut]

Percy x Neville

I have this idea for an arranged marriage AU (okay okay I'm a sucker for them I know) with omega Percy and alpha Neville, set in a semi traditional universe

I just think it's going to be very fun because Neville is very awkward and so is Percy and the age difference + Nevilles grandma + the fact that Neville doesn't really take all the alpha/omega stuff seriously but Percy really does because I was thinking like finishing school? but for omegas so he's got all this sexist stuff and ideology drilled into him

and he doesn't really love Neville at first, he's like embarrassed to be marrying someone younger than him

but after a while he's like oh

Neville is really kind and like. Caring. And Percy's the kind of omega who is always busy mother henning everyone but doesn't look after himself and I just think Neville would be a very soft, caring alpha

also the arranged marriage makes sense because they're both light wizarding families and idk it makes sense that they'd marry

I think it could be fun. Added stuff with Nevilles parents like, I have this picture of him talking to them before the wedding and he's really stressed about marrying someone he's never met and Ginny (his best man) is yelling at him to hurry up or they'll be late. And idk I just like the thought of it.

We view omegaverse pretty differently and honestly I find that very fascinating tbh

and I think that's really cool of us ngl

Love how many directions you can take similar concepts i just always find it so cool

like about the Percy finishing omega school thing do you think there's a whole other school?? is it like Omega's Alphas and Betas all take different classes kinda thing?

like i tend to ignore the misogyny towards omegas in the same way i typically ignore the homophobia in more canon complaint fics

meaning like its only relevant when it can be used for rule of fun

I love the concept of them having very different views on whats like expected of them for being what they are

the idea of Neville having no interest in making Percy do anything that Percy might not want to do while Percy feels what is expected of him in more important then his personal feelings could lead to alot of fun scenarios

my first thought was Percy feeling like he's supposed to want Neville in his nest when he's nesting but not really liking it much because it's more stressful then anything and how he'd rather have like a friend or a family member or something and that stress not being helped at all by Neville just being like ok with it and leading to Percy feeling like a fuck up

just the amount of miscommunication this kind of situation could cause. Percy just wants to do what's expected of him what he's been taught is his responsibility and Neville just doesn't want him to feel like he has to do anything he doesn't want to

like Percy barring his neck to him as a show of submission even though it feels ridiculous to do to someone so much younger then him just for Neville to ignore it entirely because he doesn't like want Percy to feel like he has to do that but this is pre-war neville so he can't just say that so he hopes just not reacting to it will show he respects Percy

while Percy's just like so offended like "I didn't really want to be scented in the first place but the fact you denied me kinda pisses me off. What if I need the comfort in the future would he ignore me?"

Percy getting kinda agitated because Neville's not following the correct like gifting procedure when his grandmother isn't like looking like for Christmas he gives Percy like a stationary set and it's nice sure and Percy does like it and if it had been from anyone else he'd even be really happy but it wasn't from anyone it was from his Alpha. his future one technically but its the same thing

it's not like food or an item meant for his nest so he's just kinda like :/ about it regardless like it feels like an insult to him even more so when Neville happily says that if his grandmother asks that they can just say he got Percy chocolate (or whatever) as expected which makes it even worse because like Neville like obviously knows

he knows what's expected of him and he just doesn't do it unless his grandmother is currently breathing down his neck

in other words they don't understand each other at all in the early stages and keep hurting each others feelings without meaning to

like Im sure Neville's also feeling offended by some repeated actions (like how Percy continues to bare his neck when meeting with him despite Neville trying so hard to show he respects him more then that and it feels insulting that he expects so little out of him though he's also kinda used to people not expecting much of him so its complicated feels all around

and like what ever is expected to be given to Alphas being something specific in the same way it is for Omegas leading to from his side it to feel so impersonal? Like Percy didn't even try to get something hed like)

like just both sides being so convinced they are doing the right thing and just making everything more complicated then it needs to be kjflksd

Like once they actually start actually talking they'll be able to connect more and realize they could love each other and meet in the middle

So yeah i think this does sound like so fun very cute concept i like arranged marriage scenarios just so much room for fun

[kikuism]

look at this brown butter. she's luscious

[dimonds456]

Aight, what you see above is an article that's getting passed around by proshippers. I'm making my own post separate from theirs to discuss the contents of this article and why I believe everyone *should* read it, while also I don't believe the article is correct.

The article was written by a Japanese artist who had been harassed for "proshipping" online, even though they themself did not partake in anything more than aging up 15-year-old characters to 19. As far as they claim, that was it (though the artwork itself is not provided).

Someone had DMed them, asking if they were a proshipper, or a "problematic shipper", to which they shrugged and went "I guess so?" and then that person-referred to as A- started spreading it to all their friends that A was a proshipper and to avoid them, leading to soft blocks, harassment, ect.

Something I'd like to point out that is correct about this article is the meaning of "proshipper." It doesn't mean "problematic ships." Instead, "pro" is the prefix, not an abbreviation. The meaning is in reference to someone who is unbothered by any specific type of ship, and/or supports the creation of problematic ships. This difference is, I feel, important, not because the definition is changed, but because how people view that definition changes substantially.

Keep that in mind.

Something else of note here is the cultural difference. The artist is from Japan, and according to them, Japan allows ships of any kind. Japan, as a country, is proship, which creates vast and varied artistic expressions. Any and everything is allowed.

And, according to worldpopulationreview.com, the age of consent in Japan is 13 (though articles are saying they're rethinking this law).

Again, I recommend reading the article for yourself to fully understand the artist's point of view, but I'd like to break down where the author was wrong about many things. A lot of them stem from cultural differences and are normalized, so you can't really blame them, but it's good to keep in mind when interacting with proshippers from all over the world.

Something they're right about is harassment. I don't think people should be being harassed for stuff like this. Blocked? Yes.

The first thing they got wrong was the general assumption that fiction doesn't affect reality, or that antis cannot tell the difference between fiction and reality. This (at least for a lot of us) isn't true. Using myself as an example, it's clear to me that fiction and reality are two different worlds.

However, to say that fiction doesn't affect reality is false. Both worlds influence each other. If an adult starts dating a 13-year-old in fiction, younger audience members who watch that will see that relationship play out. Depending on how it's portrayed, this can either help or harm that audience member. If this relationship is deemed bad in that piece of media, then the younger members of that audience will remember that, vs if they say it's okay, THAT'S where you've crossed into proship territory that is actively harmful towards your audience.

I am a firm believer that anything should be allowed in fiction, as long as the author is respectful, responsible, and considers the ramifications of their work towards a real audience. So like, having a relationship between a 19-year-old and a 13-year-old should be allowed to be portrayed, as long as it isn't positive. By not allowing these stories to be told at all, that's leaning into some book burning shit.

What the author did, aging up 15-year-olds to 19, is not inherently bad, especially since they say it wasn't sexual in nature (but again, the art itself is never presented).

The second thing they get wrong is calling us a minority. I don't believe there were any studies done on this, but I don't think the majority of Americans go around talking about shipping children with adults? Again, it's a cultural difference that was influenced on this specific artist BY other proshippers. It's a biased view from both sides. I do not believe any studies have officially been done on this subject, so you cannot call us a minority. But, we can't call you a minority, either. I'm not sure how many there are on either side.

But also, I don't think that really matters. Continuing my topic from before with fiction affecting reality, if someone in that audience can get hurt because of your story, then it doesn't matter if the majority don't. It's still harmful and can affect reality- THIS reality- in negative ways. By drawing proship art and saying it doesn't matter because it's fiction, you're helping to normalize this art for ACTUAL predators. It doesn't matter how many proshippers there are, this is STILL harmful.

Something else I noticed, but I cannot point specifically to this article as evidence for, but it may be influencing the author, is the idea of in-fandom vs outside-fandom. The author mentions this a couple times, though usually in reference to the cultural differences between Japan and America.

The author is outside the US fandom, and so doesn't fully understand its inner workings or why so many of us are anti-proship "purest"s. I don't know how else to explain this besides going up to your grandparents and asking them if they think proshipping is okay.

Upon hearing the actual definition- being unbothered or perpetuating any type of relationship between two or more characters in fiction- they might go "yeah I agree with that," because that does sound nice on paper. Freedom of expression.

But what antis have come to realize is that fiction DOES affect reality, and if you were to ask your grandparents if they thing a child should be in a relationship with an adult, they'd probably go "no."

This is purely because they don't understand the culture of being online, and the several, several subcultures that came to be. We know what proshippers are and what they represent, but someone outside fandom space wouldn't.

And now, to any proshippers reading this: first of all, thank you for hearing me out, lol. But then, I ask you to please re-evaluate why you're a proshipper. Is it for the freedom of expression idea, do you just not give a shit, or do you genuinely enjoy seeing kids and adults together? Maybe something else? I'm not going to tell you how to feel about that- you can come to your own conclusion- but I do ask that you re-examine that idea.

If the author is SOMEHOW reading this, first of all, thank you too. My goal here was not to harass you in any way, but to point out the core of why this article doesn't really work. I'm sure in Japan things are vastly different, and that's not your fault, OP. And although I don't stand by what A did to you, I do ask that you think again. Stuff like this does affect reality, even in small ways (but when it comes to p*dos, it can be FAR more harmful than good).

Proshippers help normalize unhealthy behaviors that can seriously hurt children for the rest of their lives. Do proships exist in reality? ...Yes. Not between fictional characters, but those characters can influence people in real life to go "oh yeah the incest ship was okay in this anime, which means it's fine if I'm like that, too." It's not fine. It's not okay.

Again, I'm not here to harass you, and ultimately it's up to you whether you choose to listen. I'm sorry for the harassment at all, that should not have occurred.

Back to my general audience, though, yeah. Again, read the article for yourself (which I do still highly recommend). It gives a good glimpse into the minds and ideas of some proshippers out there. I don't think OP is a bad person, just misinformed. And I believe the same of a lot of proshippers out there. We can't change their minds, but we can make sure misinfo like what is in the article is debunked, and spread correct information regarding the subject.

Some sources:

Again, read the article, do some thinking (on BOTH sides), and have a good one, guys.

[cantankerouscatfish]

bro wtf, this is late May weathers. get outta here.

[dredshirtroberts]

i am allowed to both be delighted and content with the way my evening went and how lovely it was to be around friends, and also be really upset over the fact that i cannot do much without intense and great pain.

[eats-the-stars]

I feel like there are roughly two kinds of "painfully weird kid" that you can be during your K-12 school years. the first is your "I am trying so hard to be normal but I just cannot seem to hit the mark. there's just something wrong with me and I don't know how to fix it" and the second is the category I was in, which is your "everyone around me is so incredibly weird but they obviously can't help it so I will just have to accept this."

[there-will-be-a-way]

I really do have a special talent of apparently being very approachable. When I was walking through the ward, I saw a person waving and smiling at me behind the glass door. I only saw him once before, briefly. He asked me if I wanna go outside to smoke and have a chat. I had just came back from smoking and had ergotherapy in like 2 minutes but if someone offers me to chat, who am I to turn it down? So we went downstairs and now we're friends and I'll bring him nail polish tomorrow 😅

[icewindandboringhorror]

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[elytrafemme]

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[annieisyourfavourite]

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[ybcpatrick]

are you there god? it's me kell.......................... yeah, it's that wrestler again.