#i never know how to tag these things

[museaway]

I’ve been meaning to talk about this for months. The topic has likely been covered more thoroughly by someone else, but I’ve never seen a post about it cross my dash, so here we go.

A few things to keep in mind when interacting with fic writers you don’t know personally:

Reading a fic that deals with difficult subject matter or trauma does not automatically mean that the author is comfortable reading details of your trauma in their comments. Unlike fic, comments don’t come with warnings. Please be mindful of how what you say could affect someone. 

Similarly, please don’t assume an erotica writer automatically wants to hear about your, uh, physical reaction to their fic, if you get my drift. But some adore this type of feedback and tag for it specifically! Please check if it’s okay with them first. 

It can feel like you know an author if you've read a lot of their fics. You might even pick up personal information from their author’s notes, replies to your comments, or social media. But the author is a whole person separate to their work, and their personal beliefs/feelings are not necessarily reflected in their writing or social media posts. 

Some writers love it when readers drop into their DMs or send asks. Some writers are very shy or can’t comfortably interact. There is no single way to befriend a writer, if that’s your goal, and not all interactions lead to friendship. Just be friendly and respect boundaries. (This goes for anyone in fandom.)

ty for reading & take care of each other

[aversiteespabilas]

I finally watched Wish today.

I keep thinking of how hilarious it is that Disney's anniversary movie is about a Big Powerful guy who has the means to make the most amazing, wonderful ideas a reality and everyone worships him for that, when actually he's just predating on these precious ideas, keeping them from ever seeing the light, and choosing to only realize those he himself finds "tame" enough not to cause a ruckus.

Imagine having all these people at your feet who adore you, who are willing and ready to trust you with the most precious dreams, dreams they treasure, because the things they got to experience under your name have inspired them, sparked hope and joy in their hearts since they were children, and yet you decide to ditch these dreams because they might be "dangerous" for your "kingdom"? And instead you create some twisted or inane version of them? Gee... Why does that sound familiar, Disney?

Even more hilarious is how in the end, the solution Disney proposes isn't the very logical "pursue your dreams yourself or they might not be yours at all", no no. Big Powerful guy was just a bad one, but you still totally need to depend on someone to grant your dreams if they're worthy WHAT THE HECK.

This is a masterclass on how to create a fable with no lesson learned or message transmitted at all. How do you even write a story about wonder and dreams and ambition, which is the very core of what makes us human, and NOT comment on it AT ALL? I'm flabbergasted. It's a husk of a movie. So much artistry and effort and lovely animation and breathtaking colors and lighting, and yet when you peek inside it there's... nothing. I genuinely didn't think this could be possible.

[crochetedcandy]

Can you see the family resemblance?

Took a break from looking at cute opossum pics as ‘research’ for my Wilbur plushie to make a lil Chayanne egg!

Chayanne was all free form, no patterns

Philza post with patterns (X)

[that-wildwolf]

wow okay

Garrus hypothermia fic

(for the WIP title ask game)

“It’s getting really bad out here, Shepard,” Garrus mutters. His breathing pattern is even slower now than before, every breath clearly a labour, subvocals rippling with a low throaty note. Shepard looks up to see him staring at her, pupils diluted in either pain or fear or something else entirely.

She quickly looks away, hoping he can't see how distraught she is. That goddamn worst-case scenario is playing on repeat in her head, his lifeless body frozen and buried by snow never to be recovered or sent to his family, this planet being his unmarked grave for the rest of time.

She bites on her lip. It's getting really cold now, especially with the wind being as relentless as it is, and Garrus is a few minutes away from freezing to death: he's already lethargic, slower to respond, his every move clunkier and slower than normally. Shepard frowns. Give or take an hour, that's going to be her. And then no one's gonna be able to save them.

“I'm so cold,” Garrus whispers.

He's shivering. He's wearing heavy combat armor lined with additional padding and he's still visibly shivering.

“That's it, visor on.” Shepard stands on her toes to reach over to the side of his helmet and press on the release for its darkened visor. She won't be able to see his face, but maybe at least if he's more sealed inside his armor, he won't lose heat as quickly. Hopefully. “How’re you feeling?”

“I feel… cold. It's like I'm so cold that I don't feel cold anymore? Like my legs have gone numb.”

Not good.

[lovelylotusf1]

Wip Wednesday

Tagged by @1425fivefive thank you <3

I haven't really worked on anything for quite some time because life's been busy, so I'm just gonna post the tiniest something from my carcar (with a sprinkle of landoscar) lethal company au wip that's been sitting in my folder for a very long time! Under the cut because of a little description of violence.

"You sure I'm not going with you?" Lando asks as Oscar stocks up on the tools he needs.

A newly charged flashlight. His trusty walkie-talkie with the worst audio quality he’s ever heard. A ridiculously expensive lockpick to unlock doors that might have scrap behind them. The only shovel they ever bought that has been collecting dust in the supply closet, the metal in his hands comforting as he takes it out.

"I need you on the ship," he says, turning around and accepting the helmet Lando gives him in exchange for the shovel. "We're both safer if you're on the monitor keeping watch."

Like yesterday with the creatures, he wants to say but doesn't. He vehemently pushes the thought of what might have happened if Lando went into the facility with him to the back of his mind.

His bleeding body convulsing on the ground. Lando against the metal wall, limp and lifeless, neck broken by a crimson hand.

Oscar abruptly puts on his helmet.

Not tagging people directly because wednesday's (almost) over for some timezones. But if you see this & want to share your wips, please feel tagged!! :D

[arithechair]

Does superjail have a decent fandom over here??? I’ve seen like one person post anything superjail related in the year that I’ve been here lol

Anyways this is Lana! She’s basically my oc for every fandom i join and I’ve got tons of different versions of her pretty much everywhere

[angelmichelangelo]

i know i have a bajillion and one wips already building up in my google docs but i don’t wanna work on my big fics rn so on the off chance someone might do this: pretty please with a cherry on top send any and all fic prompts <3 ty

[aversiteespabilas]

During my psychology degree, one of my teachers explained this very simply. Generally most parents won't think of what they're doing as abuse, they'll think of it as a way to teach discipline, as something necessary, and are just lacking a referee to call them out when they cross the line. Or to even point out where the line is, cause it's VERY difficult to see it in daily life, and once you've crossed it you're blind to it. Add to that how in many cases the only frame of reference adults have for parenting is their own childhood, of which memories have been affected by time, and which context is altogether different from the present.

That is all to say: yes, loving parents can also be abusive. Normal, perfectly adjusted people can do terrible things and scar others deeply. That doesn't make the abuse okay, but it does mean that it's part of the vast array of human behavior and nobody is immune. If we want to rectify abuse we must acknowledge that abusers are people like everyone else. Yeah, I know, that's the scariest part.

Problem #1 regarding child abuse is that a lot of people seem to struggle to imagine normal, respectable-looking parents and other authority figures ever doing it despite the statistics so instead they do the stranger danger panic and completely overlook some of the greatest threats.

Problem #2 is that even when people understand, even if in an abstract way, that parents can be abusive they just... don't seem to actually register that as something that can apply to real life. It's just hypothetical to them and doesn't actually guide their ideas of how to prevent child abuse.

Problem #3 is that even after overcoming the above biases a lot of people have a very narrow image of what abusive parenting is where they imagine like... people doing violent things basically out of sadism and without provocation. They don't seem to think it's "real" abuse if the victim did something that "justifies" punitive violence, like disobeying the parents.

In fact, most people think parents have a right to do a whole lot of awful things to their children beyond just hitting them, like violating their privacy, controlling their access to information, and deciding what/when/if they eat, among other things.

[aversiteespabilas]

Opinion time!

I think "Show, Don't Tell" is highly overrated advice. Don't get me wrong, it is indeed preferrable that you put the character in situations that show their thoughts/feelings/worldview in action instead of just telling it to the audience.

BUT. This is not the ultimate problem-solver either! I feel like lately I see so much... emptiness in the telling department? Dialogue that's vague, comes from nowhere and leads nowhere? Characters just knowing or feeling things about others that feel unwarranted? Maybe it's just my own perception, but there are cases where your character really NEEDS to TELL. Sometimes a story NEEDS explanations, or an emotional speech, or huge revelations, or a story within the story, or a confession or a love declaration, and you NEED to tell that!! If you know your characters intimately, if you know your story and where you want to go, and you feel like a character needs to tell others and the audience something, then you don't need to feel constrained or afraid to do it!! Language is the medium through which human beings LIVE, it's not only logistical communication, language is EVERYTHING. Language is emotion, it's relationships, it's where dreams and hopes live and it's also how characters reach out to other characters too. Please don't take that for granted, please DO TELL. PLEASE DO TELL. Just make sure what you're telling MATTERS!

[headlamprey]

Sigh... Yeah I'm gonna try to ebeg again 😓

I think I can use someone's prime? Not sure but I might not need shipping covered? Anyways help is very much appreciated 💜

Toblerone would love u forever!!!

[iamcassian]

i was at a restaurant tonight and there was this really pretty guy (he used he/him pronouns i checked gang) and he was wearing a dress and he looked so pretty in it frfr and he was talking to his friends about how he liked dresses because they were flowy and stuff

and my mom just SCOFFED and i'm actually about to throw hands with her on this guy's behalf!!!

so i kinda went up to him and said he looked very nice in his dress and he went all smiley and shit and he said thank you and that i looked nice in mine!!!!

[mizuthe-cat]

my brain is screaming at me to do something- anything

But I am not doing anything and I need to go to sleep but it still wants me to do something productive and I don’t know what that thing is

it keeps demanding things of me I cannot do

[edgyorautistic]

deranged, delusional, and downright fuckable!

[aversiteespabilas]

This is what I keep trying to tell people and they don't ever seem to believe me!! Which is absolutely insane to me because they'll easily agree that capitalism is bad, that companies exist only to make profit and couldn't care less about quality as long as people are buying, and yet they SOMEHOW still believe name brands are making their products more expensive because they're better?? Please. When you buy big name brands, you're not paying for a product, you're paying for their advertising. Never, ever forget that.

My contempt towards a brand is directly proportional to how often they interrupt my playlists.

[tapakah0]

@somerandomdudelmao *cough-cough* *COUGH* Sorry I'm still not over this arc... *disappears*

Imagine Dragons - I Bet My Life

[aversiteespabilas]

When you realize self-care isn't about buying yourself a little treat and actually requires you to clean your house and tidy your room and take a shower and change your bed sheets and cook yourself actual meals