#i mean gay as in the umbrella term btw

[slightlyhopefulromantic]

forever thinking about egbert going "i think hes checking me out!" so excitedly about an old man (and then hitting that old man with a mace until he turned into a seal (and then taking said seal as a pet))

[blazingblorbos]

HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH h- hello,,

okay listen we’re 6 days into June so I need to post this somewhere before I like. explode

I LOVE BEING GAY!!! *grabbing you by the shoulders and shaking you forcefully*

I love being queer; I love being sapphic.

 Hello if you’re queer, if you’re questioning, if you’re the gayest mfer alive, or have no romantic or sexual interest in anyone, or anything & everything in between I love you so much!! (platonically ofc)

   This is your month!! THIS IS OUR MONTH!!  Be loud!  Be homo! or not!! Be all of those genders or none at all!  Please <3  Do whatever makes you happy, especially right now, it’s your time to be comfortable with yourself and who you are and you’re so cool!!!

[i-am-an-arson-enthusiast]

Here at i-am-an-arson-enthusiast, we i am dedicated to bringing you top quality content such as but not limited to: gay things, random thoughts, and even live arson that you don't even have to tune into!!

hi this is my intro post :D

Hiiii!!

here, have some basic info about me :3

name: anything goes pretty much but please use multiple names :] HOWEVER not neptune as that is reserved for @marcysbear , cass/cassie/cassiopeia is reserved for my boyyyfrieeenndddd <33 ( @mostautisticangel ) and dont call me enthu unless ur terri :] uh also you three dont necsessarily have to branch out more

OBLIGITORY QUEER SECTION!! i say that like i dont actively want this here. anyway! the labels i use are queer, bi, lesbian, gay, polyamorous, genderfluid, trans, gnc, non binary, genderqueer and arospec. arospec as in i am largely aromantic and use that as an umbrella term, however i am capable romantic attraction/ am flexible with such labels bc its all bullshit anyway.

i have audhd! i get hyperfixation and sometimes talk abt that if i so wish and my special interests are space and generally queer shit. also pls use tone tags i will think u hate me im too anxious for my own good sometimes

i am dogshit at spelling so. ignore the typos and misspellings!!

if u send me chain asks dont expect me to keep the chain going, ill answer it and say thanks but i wont actually do the thing

BOUNDIES!! GENUINE, ACTUAL BOUNDRIES!

-pls don’t send dono asks i don’t got money bc im a minor

-dont think if i have a take like "i dont like taylor swift" i am personally attacking you. you can like whatever the fuck u want idc everyone is entitled to their own opinoins. i just dont like her as a person

-DONT call me the reserved names if you arent that one person

-try to refrain from calling ppl (including me) baby/babe/bae around me it makes me want to die sometimes and i dont want to constantly be a romance repulsed little shit around u guys (this means dont use those names for anyone if i am in the conversation i cant control past that) (it also isnt a problem here i dont think ive ever seen it here its really just discord tbh)

-dont ask for my discord unless were friends or close in some way and dont get offended if i say no

-u can call me a faggot or dyke or tranny as long as you are the slur you are using

-if you have my discord and were moots you can call me a slut and a whore all u want idm :3 (bc i am a slut and a whore.) (really really sorry if you didnt want to read that btw /gen)

OH TAGS UH

i try to consistanly use them but sometimes i dont. sorry.

woah i’m using queue - i’m actually queuing a post for once instead of spam reblogging (which i mostly do sorry not sorry)

woah a real text post - me positing an actual text post for once but it’s becoming more common

cool ass art - art that i reblog (it’s all cool)

arson does half way decent art sometimes - my art. art i made. yea

boyfriend dearest - @mostautisticangel my hot and beautiful boyfriend :]

moots feel free to ask for tags <3

i will keep adding more as i remember them and make them so yea :D also i try to tag for things but i often dont add tw or cw because. idk. just havent ever done that. if you need me too you can tell me in any form and ill try my gaddamn hardest to add them. feel free to *kindly* remind me if i forgot. (as in no verbal abuse ya know. if ur scared ur probably fine)

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i think. thats it. if u follow me and u didnt like this post dw im gonna screen u anyway <3

thank you for reading all of that i know it’s long. your cool so here’s a cookie 🍪 also here have this

~~~~~ blinky time ~~~~~

holding up these blinkies to ward off ppl who dont like gaybians

credit to @jeweledviolets @v-4-l-0-n and @theprideful :)

[utterdrip]

btw if i ever refer to astarion as gay i mean it in the umbrella term of being queer. bc he is so obviously pansexual

[whotfishazel]

THIS IS OUR HOME FELLOW GAYS

Btw by gay I mean it as an umbrella term for the LGBTQIA+ community :D

[partywithponies]

What's radinclus? I've only heard about it in fucked up contexts like people seeing pedophiles as marginalized in the same way as LGBT+ folk and deserving of support, but I don't know if that's misinfo? (Genuine question, not trying to start shit btw)

Yeah that's misinfo! It basically means I don't police other queer people's identities, be a boygirl, be a lesboy, be a bi lesbian, be a pan gay, use neopronouns, be a therian, be autigender, use a hyperspecific micro-label, use only vague umbrella terms like "queer" or "trans" with no further elaboration, it's literally none of my business. Other flavours of queer people are not our enemy, and other queer people's identities are not the reason bigots don't like us. Turning us against each other is just a distraction.

[chaos-in-one]

People don't focus on "mspec gays" because gay is an umbrella term. I'm not calling myself a "mono lesbian" just because randoms on tumblr think lesbians can be attracted to men.

Gay is also an orientation, I was talking about the orientation, not the umbrella term. Also cool, no one cares. Please get off my account if you want to be an ass about mspec lesbians & lesboys. I definitely don't want that near me, especially since I'm multigender & genderfluid myself and am very close to several people who are mspec lesbians although I myself am a mono lesbian. I don't want people who want to kick me or any of them out of the community near me. Also, btw, not all mspec lesbians are attracted to men. Mspec just means attracted to more than one gender. Nonbinary genders exist.

Anyways please go out and talk to lgbtq people irl I promise you none of this shitty discourse matters in the real world nearly as much. No one in irl lgbtq spaces I've been in give a single fuck who uses what label. I've seen girls who where mspec and labeled as lesbian and no one batted an eye. Very few people irl actually care about this shit.

[snugglyporos]

This is probably going to sound like a really weird question, but since it's June, are any of the Poros under the lgbtq+ umbrella?

// Well I see you've decided to offer me a landmine for breakfast today, thanks for that.

I joke, I joke, it's more that this question is very complicated because of how poros are? And how poro society is? So let me see if I can explain this.

Things like 'gender' and 'sexuality' are often constructs of the society we live in; they're human things. Poros... do not have sexuality by their nature. Poros do not have sexual organs, and in my formulation, do not even use proper nouns or names in their language unless a poro decides to do it. Which means that there's a lot less concrete stuff in terms of how it all would work?

Poros do not really understand the human issues with accepting lgbtq+ stuff; poros love poros, poros love humans, poros love snax, poros love lots of things, and it's not a problem. So why would it be a problem for a human to love another human? The complex morality and sexuality problems that come into play in the minds of humans do not even occur to poros. If a poro wishes to love another poro, and that poros is receptive, then there is no issue. But then, poros are mostly love, so it's hard to explain hard lines that exist in other cultures.

The other thing is that, well, poros just kinda are. Here's what I mean. I mostly use he/him as the pronouns of most of the poros, simply because it's easier; but you might be familiar with Punky, who is very clearly a she/her. The thing is, there are lots of ways that in our own society, this could create some issues, or lines of fault. We would ask questions like 'were they born female, thus cis? were they born male, and thus now trans?' ect.

But Poros do not exist like this. Punky is Punky, she is she, and thus she is so, and the poros do not mind or question this. Punky is Punky, and that's as much as poros think to question it.

To put it like this: lets say the Poro King, who has thus far been always identified as male, decided that in reality, they felt that they were female. That they were always that way, and that they wished to be the Poro Queen and identified as such.

The poros would have no issue with this, but more to the point, the Poro King would then be the Poro Queen without any indication that they were ever anything but.

I mean, they might not have the mustache, I guess. But all the rest of the things, the crown and boots and cape, would still be there. Would still be the biggest and most snuggly poro. Would still be filled with the most love!

But so far I have mostly been talking about trans issues (and poros absolutely believe in trans rights btw), but that's because it's really hard to explain to poros the concept of dividing 'heterosexual' love and 'homosexual' love. Poros are poros, love each other, and do not think anything of sexuality because poros do not have sexual organs.

Thus, if two male identifying poros were filled with love, snuggled, and their wool created a new baby poro, this would not be strange to any of the poros. Furthermore, if Punky or another female identifying poro did this, this also would not cause any issues to the poros.

In fact, the hardest part of poros understanding lgbtq issues is that, well, you would have to explain that m/f, m/m, and f/f, are all different things to humans. Because they aren't to poros. Poros think love is love, and that's the extent that they think about it.

I think the easiest way to explain this is that poros are too simple to have the sort of dynamics that make lgbtq+ things exist in our human societies, because poros do not have concepts of sex and gender in the same way humans do. So it's hard to explain pride about, say, lesbians or gay men, because poros would not consider this to be strange or even different from any other kind of love. Because again, poros are mostly love, and love is love, so all the distinctions do not make sense to them.

Keep in mind, poros would 100% humans identifying however they like. But it's basically impossible to place the concept of how we see sex and gender onto poros, because in my understanding of poros, poros lack both sex and gender as a concept. Poros are poros, in the poro's mind, they identify however they like, they love whomever they want to love, and that's that.

Arguably, you would have a harder time explaining to poros that to humans, some kinds of love are bad, or that some humans think certain people shouldn't be allowed to love certain others, because that would be so alien to poros as to be considered evil in and of itself.

I've probably not made much of this clear? But it's not an easy question to answer because I consider poros to almost have alien-like society entirely separate from human understanding of societies.

[flem17ng]

do you use “gay” as an umbrella term for queer?

I personally do, and a few times i’ve referred to someone as “gay” meaning “queer” and not necessarily mlm or wlw specifically (and have then been corrected along the lines of “no im not gay im bi ect”) (which i respect btw!!)

so i was wondering if anyone else uses it as an umbrella term

[kidkintsugi]

so theres this guy that i think might have feelings for me but i cant recipocrate?

this is really stressful to me!

hes not the guy who recently found out my gender is transed btw

this guy lives about an hour away from my hometown and 2 hours away from the place i stay at for uni. i met him at a pride parade 2 years ago and ever since weve been hanging out sometimes? not regularily bc of the distance but just enough, im happy and hes happy ig no pressure

we spent a lot of time together last summer. we took a lot of train rides together, met up for more pride parades, visited museums etc. it was EXTREMELY cool and i hope to do the same again this year!

but hes been getting kind of flirty over the course of it.

i usually dont mind flirting, it doesnt even really register to me as romantic because im a bit dense (LMAO) and i flirt with my friends all the time because we all know its just for shits and giggles? at least i hope so.

so then he invited me for his birthday last year. of course i wanna visit a friend for his birthday so i went. i was one of the only guest there because a lot of people declined last minute??? which is SUPER rude and i got super mad over that but thats not what this is about.

he keeps getting closer. i laugh it off he laughs too. he keeps going out with 2 other people that came to visit for "smoke breaks", he comes back in saying that "they thought we looked like a couple the way we look at eachother ahaha"

somethings off? hes been saying this a lot to me, saying that others think we are a thing and then asking me if "we arent one or are we?". I always answer with a laugh and an "obviously not". and also i dont really know what it means to 'look at eachother' like that because a) no eye contact and b) no prolonged staring on my part, thats all his doing

up to this point i always thought it was a joke obviously but god damn that night?

that night he got genuinely upset. he seemed really jealous when i was talking about other guys i was hanging out with. "haha why dont you spend time like that with me?" "why dont you call me x?" "why arent we doing y together?" all the time.

it gets later, we drank a bit (i really dont drink a lot i dont like the taste of alcohol) and he keeps leaning onto me, holding my arm when someone outside was approaching the door saying that "hes a bit scared :(" things like that. recording me singing, touching me when laughing, i can always blame it on the alcohol but with all the things that have been happening its really glaring isnt it?

its time for me to leave because its getting late and at this point we were alone except for his little brother who jokingly kept implying that "me and the guy should kiss because were both gay" which i. also laughed off and declined wholeheartedly lmao. something was definitely off and i needed to get out?

the car parks. i give his little brother a handshake to get him off me because he was really clingy (but also funny as hell oh my god) and head for the car.

"hey, no goodbye for me? :("

i wasnt planning to not say goodbye i was just. in a rush to get his brother off me lol.

so he comes closer and gives me a hug, fully aware that i dont like hugs a lot and takes me into his arms! really close! uh oh.

i move my face and look down because hes REALLY close and i am uncomfortable at this point.

he was so close to my face that my dad thought we were gonna kiss.

i head for the car and wave one last time before telling my dad about what happened and he also agrees that he definitely has a little crush.

the thing is? i dont feel the same bro

i like him as a friend, as i said i enjoyed my time in summer with him endlessly and i like spending time with him in general but feelings are so hard

i am autistic and i have been using the label aromantic as an umbrella term for my attraction for quite a long time now.

its not that i am 100% against the idea of a relationship, but i just dont understand romantic feelings (i dont think i have ever had a crush on someone that isnt a celebrity or a fictional character), i think im just as happy on my own, (pathetic warning:) i feel like im just gonna end up hurting someone and/or being hurt AND i just cant believe that anyone feels that way for me because i think of myself as unlikeable.

all of these mean: yeah! relationships are cool in theory but i dont really get feelings! autism is playing a role here too im sure of it but what am i gonna do about that lol

either way, i really dont want him to get the wrong idea.

because of my new touchy friends ive been feeling really weird and anxious about topics like these. on some days i get stomach troubles and terrible anxiety thinking about being held or touched again.

i also feel like i cant just tell him off because it would ruin our friendship. again, hes a good friend to me.

either way i feel like this ones gonna hurt

[r--g--b]

scientists in fictional media: an analysis

[ashleyeveerson]

Idk if it’s a personal thing or not, but lately i’ve grown picky-er with lgbtq rep?

Like I remember being a teenanger and FREAKING OUT at the slightest hint of queerness. Just a mention of the creator in an interview, a hint that two characters “might” be a couple…

God, I was letting myself be queerbaited over and over again. I still remember reading my first openly queer book about two girls falling in love and crying over seeing my feelings reflected in an ACTUAL FISICAL book. It was prof that gay people did exist outside of the little bubble that was the internet. And it was awful rep, like both girls die in the end, it was highly sexualised (they were teens) and their relationship was toxic… and still I ate it up.

Not because it was good, but because it was something. And I do hope that none of the young people who are just now figuring out their sexuality have to experience that feeling. But for those of us who have been here for a while we know what it feels to gasp at ANYTHING in hopes of seeing yourself reflected in media.

So now that I have experienced EXCELLENT queer media like Heartstopper, Cerulean Sea, Our Flag Means Death or The Owl House. I find it SOOOO hard to go back to that kind of media I used to eat up when I was younger.

Younger me would have flipped her shit out just by being able to read a book with an openly queer relationship… but present me can only stare at it’s pages and think: *I deserve to read something better, bc I know that something better that this CAN exist and DOES exist*

[transbianlilith]

Dumbass phobic mspec “lesbians/gays” & their supporters fuck off, don’t interact with my posts or my blog at all, & block me.

[lunarrumor]

arson is gay culture

[juwon-ah-moved]

idk if this is controversial but i wish only gays could watch the Hot Kissing Scenes in gay shows lol i don't trust the rest of y'all not to be weird about it

[nanamis-bigtie]

i'm so used to hcing zoro as bi i get lowkey offended whenever i see gay edits with him or dudebros doing the straightening thing 😂