#i love talking about asexuality

[thickness-protection-program]

something that helped you embrace your sexuality? been struggling lately to let myself be who I am

Oof yeah self realization at least for me was a long time coming. But coming to terms with my personal asexuality has been one of the best things to happen to my mind. I'm sex neutral and what helped me embrace that is, I don't view myself as a sexual body. I am just a body that has the capability of performing sexuality. I know a byproduct of the sexual liberation in the LGBT community is unfortunately acephobia (but we ain't going nowhere gotdammit!) but sexual liberation also includes the right to not choose sex and if you ask me that is sooo beautiful. Also if you remember the clear distinction between sexuality, romance, and libido that'll help tremendously. Just bc I am not sexually attracted to you does not mean I wouldn't date you, does not mean I don't find you physically attractive, does not mean I don't wanna seeing you naked, does not mean we can't sin in the back of a car from time to time. I'm rambling bc I'm pretty passionate about respecting aces and aros but long story short it's ok to struggle with your identity, but whoever you are can't be invalidated by a person who's never been inside your brain. Idk if you're aro/ace anon but the sentiment still stands for just any identity in general

[sunbloomdew]

do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely

like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day

[mrtequilasunset]

Listen man, you guys can't be like "you guys need to be normal about asexuality" and then turn around and get weirdly judgemental when you find out someone doesn't have sex by choice. Like that's weird that some of you do that.

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

[kaijugroupy]

ok but hear me out. how fun and crazy would it actually be if we talked about asexuality as a spectrum more?

consider this? aces who like sex but don't like being touched themselves? aces liking and getting off on pain stimulation but not pleasure stimulation? Aces who don't like getting off but like sex? Aces who use a one to ten scale to gauge sexual ability but never fully make it to ten. Aces who are happy at a level seven, or four, or two. Aces who like some aspects of sex but not all. Aces who get bored in the middle of sex and stop. Aces who are super into over the clothes stimulation. Aces with boundaries.

[pumpkinrootbeer]

last two episodes like

Charlie made a deal with Alastor VINEBOOM Alastor verbally confirmed asexual in the show VINEBOOM Vaggie has wings VINEBOOM Alastor could see himself getting attached to all of them VINEBOOM Vox is hard for Alastor??? Vineboom??? Pentious kissed then died VINEBOOM Lucifer is here VINEBOOM Alastor is missing VINEBOOM Adam is dead VINEBOOM Vox is still abnormal about Alastor VINEBOOM Alastor is back and desperate to get out of his deal VINEBOOM PENTIOUS GOT REDEEMED AND LILITH IS IN HEAVEN VINEBOOM VINEBOOM VINEBOOM

[stiffyck]

Saw a post that made me furious yesterday so if people STILL don't understand this:

Aspec people are queer.

And no, it's not our love that makes us queer, it's our LACK of certain types of love that make us queer.

There is of course aspec people who are queer both because of their love and their lack of love, but being aspec is queer because of the lack of love.

Saying "but aspecs love too! Their love is also important! Aro and ace people have love and their love is also important!" is not the support you think it is for a lot of aspec people.

My love for my mother isn't what makes me queer. My love for my friends isn't what makes me queer. It's my lack or romantic love that makes me queer. Yea love is important to me, especially platonic love, but that is not what makes me queer.

And let's not forget about loveless aros.

For the love of god stop going "but aros love too!" just so you can relate to us somehow or just so you can include us. We don't need love to be included.

And because some people are going to take this as a personal attack: no, there is nothing wrong with being gay. There is nothing wrong with love is love. Love is important to a lot of people and I am not saying love is bad.

Happy pride everyone

[httyd-art-requests]

Happy 100th dragon post! 🎉

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[kewpiekills]

it blows my mind that you and so many other wonderful smut artists arr asexual..... ur goated!!!!!!!!!!! and ur not even grttin high off your own supply!! thats crazy 2 me. keep living ur life i think you should be allowed to kill whoever you want

i mean i do definitely jerk off to my own stuff, but not all of it is necessarily what i’m into, i’m not sex repulsed if that makes any sense! and there are so many more fetishes i find so so cool and interesting but do not sexually interest me that i’d love to draw someday…

sex and erotica is a very complex thing to draw so it’s such a fun challenge to take on as an artist. as someone who takes on nsfw commissions it’s always such an honor to make art about people’s most secret and personal desires, it’s such a bit responsibility but i love shouldering it!!

[parksrway]

multiple times now I've seen people genuinely claim that the solution to aphobia is for asexual and aromantic people to stop talking about their asexuality and aromanticism. if you think like this you need to be put in a meat grinder like actually

[my-lonely-thoughts]

Aroace culture is finding out as an adult that sex and romance is not just an over exaggerated concept but a very real thing people like/do 😵‍💫

[dreamsy990]

some of the less nice thoughts about being aroace

extras below the cut

sketch

closeups on my favorite panels

bonus: adios

[knifearo]

aspecs: i've been thinking a lot lately about the "ace people can still have sex in a relationship/aro people can still be in romantic relationships" sentiment and the logistics of being aspec in relationships in general. obviously, the predominant sentiment is that you should be able to have a relationship where the other person will be happy without having sex/being romantic with you. if you feel comfortable sharing in tags/replies/reblogs/asks/whatever, though, i'd really like to hear people's experiences with sex/romance in relationships as an ace/aro person. have you found it generally possible to have a relationship with an allo person when you're ace and don't want to engage in sex? what are people's experiences being aro and being in relationships (labeled romantic or otherwise) with alloros? reblogging for reach is appreciated and any related experiences you feel comfortable sharing are completely welcome <2

[unityrain24]

hate when people refer to sex as "the bedroom." also hate how "slept/sleeping together" is a way to say "had/having sex together." why do you hate romance. why do you hate platonic. why must everything be about sex. did you really have to use platonic/romantic/nuetral terms and make them about sex. can't you just use sexual terms for sexual things.

[iheartmoons]

i do believe that the queer community overlooks the incredible pain/hurt that comes with being aromantic