#i love gnc trans people /gen

[dompler]

[allenkleinofficial]

.vent

[satanfemme]

debating whether or not to tell my therapist I'm going (back) on T. cause I don't think I've ever, uhm, actually come out to him? lol. he for sure knows I'm some flavor of trans/gnc cause I'm an androgynous crossdresser who loves talking about trans politics Obviously. but I gen don't think I've ever straightforwardly explained my whole deal to him, and I always feel weird bringing up medical transition stuff to people who don't know my whole deal.

[dream-sans-mogai]

Anyway, because I'm considered a bigger creator within the mogai community and I have a responsibility to address things given my bigger audience-

Please remember that Tumblr, especially LGBT Tumblr concerning discourse and intracommunity issues, is a hyper niche, reactive, violent, sensitive community with next to zero basis in reality at large and you should not take any of its opinions as absolute fact. Especially the mogai community's opinions.

A lot of people on mogai Tumblr talk big game with very clearly fake the-whole-bus-clapped stories about the real world concerning acceptance towards mspec monos, Neopronouns and Xenogenders and it's my job as an adult and guiding voice to remind people these experiences may happen but rarely do and you absolutely should not just tell random people you use purr/purrs pronouns or your a bi gaybian or you identify as Chronosian or other things like that because it's really fucking dangerous even in hyper progressive places like new york, cali and Detroit. It can be deadly in many many small towns, including ones in progressive states. Especially dangerous in non accepting states.

I don't say this to burst your bubble or ruin your hopeful world view but many stories of acceptance are fake, even if some are true, most of the community is underage and just cause your teacher may approve of your Soniccharic identity, doesn't mean they won't tell your transphobic parents. It's scary and dangerous out here for trans and gay people rn and I won't be one of the idiots who tell you to run and frolic with your Xenogender pins Infront of increasingly hostile transphobes. I want the younger gen z trans people to survive and I won't lie to you about the reality of the battle we all are staring down concerning project 2025.

Most of the people telling these stories live in progressive states and do not tell you about the failed times or exaggerate the acceptance they supposedly received. I'm telling you from the mouth of someone who grew up in a tiny town in South Ohio with less than 1,000 people, it's still just as dangerous as it was 10 years ago. I still get followed in my home town. I still get stares in my home town. My actual home town, a place I grew up in where people knew me as the gnc dyke for a good while in my last 2 years of school. Do not spread this shit around to everyone. Nex didn't think they would become a victim, Brianna didn't think she would be one of the unlucky ones, plenty of those we've lost did not think they would die in hate crimes. I almost died in two of the hate crimes I've experienced.

You need to be really fucking careful and although I love than Neopronouns and Xenogenders are becoming more accepted by the larger LGBT community, you need to be very very VERY careful about what you do, what you wear and who you tell what because word spreads fast in suburbia and hate spreads faster. You do not want to be wearing a pin the day some white cishet magat decides he's tired of the "pedophiles" and chooses you as the first victim because you were the first he saw. Don't hide who you are but Be. Fucking. Careful.

[copepods]

YES YES YES YES YES FAT PEOPLE GNC TRANS PEOPLE YESSSS IVE FOUND MY FAVOURITE BLOG FUCK YEAH I WAS RANTING ABT HOW MUCH I HATE RIGID GENDER NORMS FORCED ON TRANS PEOPLE & MY FRIEND RECOMMENDED YOUR BLOG AND I HAVE NEVER FALLEN IN LOVE WITH ART FASTER /GEN

THANK YOUUU MNSKLJJSJSHHS

[losergendered]

!! NOT A REQUEST !!

I saw you're a total drama fan,, do you have any headcanons? I like seeing other folks headcanons ^__^ /nf

oh you KNOW I DO BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im probably gonna make a followup post like. actually making the icons but. yes here they are (its just the gen 1 cast cause. theyre the best. and also i havent seen roti or pahkitew or the reboot)

Ezekiel is a genderqueer transmasc bisexual and uses he/they!

Sadie is a biaesthetic lesbian, Katie is a transfem omni lesbian, and they're dating!

Eva is an acespec demiplatonic unlabeled sapphic! She's also Sephardic!(one of my fave random hcs is that all of team escope is jewish but from different disporas :D)

Noah is a Mizrahi gnc gay guy! (ik that sometimes people consider mizrahi to be a subterm of sephardic but im making the distinction lol)

Izzy is an Ashkenazi genderfucked abrosexual aroace demihuman xenogirl who uses any pronouns!

Justin is a flamboric cupiospec arospec gay guy!

Beth is a nonbinary weirdgirlpunk bi lesbian who uses they/she!

Owen is. well i'll be so real with you i dont really care about him (IM SORRY OWEN FANS. I JUST DIDNT LIKE HIS JOKES VERY MUCH. his friendship w noah was cute tho) but like. literally i interpret him as canonically bisexual. like he was literally so in love with justin like that wasnt even subtext that just. was a fact

Geoff i also lowkey dont care about (SORRY) but i also find him bisexual. hes so in love with bridgette and hes so in love with brody. two hands <3

Bridgette doesn't label her sexuality, but has had feelings for multiple genders before!

DJ is questioning his sexuality, but thinks that he's somewhere on the aroace spectrum! He also considers himself a cisgender demiboy!

Leshawna is a bipan girl, and her girlboyfriend, Harold, is a bigender transfem genderqueer genderfluid bisexual boygirl!

Lindsay is a bi straight lesbian, and her partner, Tyler, is a cusper straight lesbian transfem boy who switches between identifying as a cishet man and a trans butch lesbian and uses he/she pronouns! (also this is because i like both headcanons for her lmao)

Trent is an ace bisexual with an aesthetic lean towards girls and a romantic lean towards boys! He leans more towards the cis man side of the gender spectrum, but likes to get a little funky with it u know. like he listens to arctic monkeys. u know.

Gwen is a bi lesbian/shadowlesbian trans girl who defaults to she/her, but doesn't mind neopronouns! Also gwourtney is real to me

Cody is a bisexual trans guy!

Sierra is an intersex trisfem paradoxibinary arospec bordersexual first-quarter/third-quarter neaptide mspec lesbian who prefers she/her, but also likes they/them and neos!

Duncan is a bisexual guy with a preference for girls! also i am still a duncney believer. who else still part of duncney nation in 2023.

Blaineley is an aphrodite bi lesbian and shes dating ME SHES DATING ME SHES MY WIFE ILY MS STACEY ANDREWS OHALLORAN. i actually made a whole oc to ship her with lmao. i guess i can include that um shes dating jules who's a lesbian and is my oc <3

Heather is a bisexual girl with a preference for girls and she's dating Alejandro, who is also bisexual! their romance was cute argue with the wall

Courtney is a bisexual girl and she's also a cit <3

Chris and Chef are both gay men and are married! gay wrongs

uhh random other hcs i have for non gen 1 chcs are bi trans girl kitty, bi straight emma, uh that little swagless kid from rr who competed with his dad uh hes a trans boy, jo is a butch bisexual girlboy & is dating brick, a gnc bisexual man, scott is bisexual and dating courtney, sam is a nonbinary bigender transfem straight lesbian who uses all pronouns & is dating dakota who is a bi trans girl, um that one dude who had the name reveal is ofc trans, svetlana is a transgender bi lesbian, vito is hypersexual and bi, uh my hcs for mal are. long so keep an eye out for a mogai-headcanons post in a few months, shawn (?? is that his name) is a transhet guy and is dating jasmine (??? i do not know these chcs at ALL) who is bisexual.

[izzyk-15]

Thank you for informing those hobbies less pick me queer

(Everything under isn’t directed to the author of the post I reblogged btw)

Not a lesbian mostly a gaygirl/turigirl but I use a lil the lesboy label since I feel queer attraction to women even if I have a stronger preference for male and masc aligned.

But I really hate the whole " Non men loving Non men" that none only exclude Multigender/genderfluid, bigender(male aligned+any other alignment), butch, gnc, trans, cusper and intersex but that also inforce the terf ideology and transandrophobia in the community.

People(specifically Gen Z and millennials;I’m genZ btw) cis queer are the biggest yapper about terms who doesn’t even concern them,they really never research on lesbians/queers history,old terms or talks to older queer.

"Non binary lesbian are valid"

"Genderfluid lesbian are valid"

"I love lesbian with weird gender"

Only to exclud and harass any lesbian who aren’t fem/female aligned

Racist/Transphobe/Homophobe won’t forget you bc you are one of the "good" queer like you say,they saw queer/trans they will go after us all.

• Harassing Mogai won’t stop homophobia/Transphobia

• Policing other’s identities is harmful and queerphobic.

• Acting like being queer was a strict jail alignments is harmful.

• Harassing people under the trans umbrella for using labels who suits their identity is harmful.

• Bullying mogai queer into using an identity they don’t feel uncomfortable using bc you don’t want to understand or is confused about their identity is harmful.

• None forgot the #lgbwithoutthet cis queer started to appear good in front of cishetallo perisex people and it’s extremely disappointing to know a lot of you are capable of throwing trans people under the bus to save your own ass.

• Wasting your time debating on others identity instead of talking about how the world litteraly slowly crambling and people are litteraly dying right

-Queer children in India getting r@ped to "fixe" them

-The high mortality rate of trans women specifically POC trans women since debut 2020

-The facts there’s still homophobic attack this year

-The genocides happening right now

-The facts the afab people/people with uterus are literally losing their right to speak and their body autonomy

-The rate of suicide of Trans/Queer kids getting higher and higher

-and so much more

is pathetic and disgusting,you all need to be better.

Lesboy and Male Lesbian Infographic - repost from my friend thelesbianbakugou

Since his account got terminated a few years ago, me and thelesbianbakugou decided to replatform this lil info sheet! There's one on mspec lesbians too but we just have to find it

Sadly we don't have access to the original image credits, if you know who made some of the images, please let us know and we'll credit them here!

tags for reach woo! @mogai-place @mogai-sunflowers @neopronouns @genderqueerdykes @ghosttypebeat @our-lesboy-experience @transonlyspace @mogai-faggot @enbermoonlish

[thepantyreckless]

An army of lovers cannot lose.

Civil rights are an ongoing struggle that we are guaranteed to never see the full fruition of...

Anti-sodomy laws were only outlawed in the US in 2004, not even 20 years ago. Marriage was ratified like 7 years ago. My mom was born before interracial marriage was legalized.

We absolutely are going backwards legally today, and the fight for civil rights did not end with gay marriage. Trans and GNC people had more legal rights 20 years ago than they do now (though broad social acceptance/awareness/support was lower)

But also... Like, a statistic that absolutely changed my perspective on the world was that out of US Millennials, only about 2.5% identified as LGBTQ, in Gen-Z, 11%!

1 in 10

Social/moral/censorship laws are tools for a powerful minority to enforce behavior, but ultimately become moot when the disparity between laws and social enforcement change. There are two ways to change a law: bureaucracy and social refusal.

If we have a country where 1 in 10 people are queer, 1 in 10 people are not going to be enforcing anti lgbtq laws. Allies of those people will not be enforcing those laws.

Had an amazing conversation with my family's pastor in Texas, where a law was passed that they are legally mandated to report children who are experiencing gender dysphoria. He and hundreds of other pastors signed a letter to the governor that they will refuse to comply because they would be endangering and denying care to someone in a spiritual crisis.

Legally we're going backwards but socially we are so much more supported than we were 20 years ago, and the more that we (people with even the slightest amount of power) talk and exist and ask questions publicly and build relationships and love and love and love, the closer we come to an ideal world.

When I am afraid, I tell myself: An army of lovers cannot lose. An army of lovers cannot lose. An army of lovers cannot lose.

[pissditching]

I've noticed something in the discussion around Gerard Way and trans identity that I am officially fed the fuck up with. While talking about Gerard's outfits from the second leg of the tour, people love to use use the line "clothes ≠ gender" as a gotcha for those of us who are keen to the fact that they aren't cis. This pisses me off for three main reason plus a fourth mini reason that's more of a history blurb than anything else.

Before we start anything, Gerard has been out as not cis for the better part of 8(!) years now. To not acknowledge that is doing them a disservice. Some of you have purposely chosen to ignore that fact. Right out the gate that's fucked up. Ok now we can proceed.

First off, you're right. Clothes do not, in fact, equal gender. I know this, and it sounds like you'd like me to believe that you know this. So forgive me for being a little confused when you go on anon after they're photographed wearing what you dub to be "masculine clothing" (i.e. anything that's not a skirt/dress with heels) and tell me I'm an idiot for implying that they aren't a cisgender man.

Secondly, the concept that clothes don't equal gender in only true to us very recently. If you think that Gerard Way, a 45 year old ex-Catholic Gen-X'er who grew up in an wildly conservative suburb of north New Jersey doesn't have a different relationship between clothing and gender than you, a 14-to-20-something year old who hasn't closed tiktok in three days and averages 0.3 minutes of critical thinking per week, then you're extremely delusional and self-centered. People are socialized in entirely different ways. As humans, our experiences are not in any way universal. What doesn't mean anything to you means everything to someone else. Maybe you don't equate femininity with skirts and dresses, but I guarantee you a 45 year old who has openly struggled with gender identity their entire life does in some capacity. This is not a bad thing.

Thirdly is that in your attempt to sound as woke and morally upright as possible, you're unintentionally (or intentionally, seeing as a considerable number of you are terfs,) discrediting and invalidating the way someone experiences gender euphoria because you personally don't get it. Gerard Way has only ever said "I don't use labels" in response to people implying that they're cishet. If your first reaction to seeing someone who could even potentially identify under the transfem umbrella experiencing visible gender euphoria in a dress is to say "oh well clothes don't equal gender, so I'm going to assume that he's a man in a dress until he explicitly outs himself", then congratulations! You're transphobic. Because that's the thing. When you use the rhetoric of clothes ≠ gender in that context, it becomes crystal clear you don't actually care about trans people. You just want to sound like the smartest person in the room. And you're willing to throw GNC trans people under the bus in order to achieve that goal.

I think people have forgotten big time that "don't assume my gender" originally meant "don't assume I'm cis", because now the way people interpret the rhetoric (don't assume my gender, clothes ≠ gender, I don't use labels, etc.,) and use it to prove a point only use it as if to say "it's inherently wrong and creepy to identify and acknowledge when people aren't cis. Cis is the default and the only safe assumption. Anything else is offensive and crossing a major boundary" and you can tell it's because they view transness as an insult to someone's character. We have to, collectively, stop viewing transness as an allegation you either have to beat or bear with. Alongside that, we have to stop assuming cisness.

[lunie-lune]

Some funky personal Amphibia headcanons/rambles because I feel like it

(Most people will be chill about this and recognize a personal opinion as a personal opinion, but for the vocal minority who won't-- allow me to clarify that these are just what I think and are not intended as erasure of other people's headcanons, or as personal attacks on anyone with different headcanons. I respect your right to disagree, but I'm not gonna bother with anyone who thinks it would be valid to say their own personal ideas are "better" and/or should take precedence over anyone else's.)

- I generally see Marcy as trans, GNC, and aroace! In the case of any times where I present her with a romantic ship, I'd say she's panromantic, still asexual. Or at least, aroace with one or two exceptions.

- I see Sasha as cis, GNC, and sapphic (both in terms of attraction and romance!)

- I see Anne as trans, femme, and bisexual / homoromantic!

(I just really love the idea of a GNC cheerleader and a feminine jock, because they're both so valid and so cool /g)

- Marcy has many stuffed animals and you goddamn bet she used to sleep with all of them. She named every single one, gave them personalities, and talked to them when she needed to sort out her thoughts.

- Anne and Marcy could each sit on one of Sasha's shoulders and she wouldn't even break a sweat in standing up and walking around with them.

- Sasha has numerous scars all over her body from all the training and life-threatening situations she's gotten into since arriving in Amphibia. She remembers how she got every single one, and will gladly tell stories about all of them-- all except for the scar she got from Anne at Toad Tower.

- Anne wholeheartedly and unabashedly loves things generally considered 'basic' and will absolutely fight someone to the death if they try giving her flak for it.

- Marcy will rant for hours about how much she loves gen fic, family focused fic, and queerplatonic rep in fandom, Anne reads X Reader stuff and has no grasp on the specifics of fandom, and Sasha doesn't even know what the hell an 'Archive of Our Own' is

- Speaking of which, in the case of Marcanne/Sashannarcy not being a thing, she and Anne are queerplatonic partners because I goddamn love their dynamic-- like. Anne being platonically loving and doting over Marcy and vice versa??? Mom friend deadass???? I am absolutely flirting with me dear

- Sasha knows general pop culture pretty well, but anything beyond that, she is clueless. Anne and Marcy rant about their respective favorite fictional franchises, and Sasha just goes no thoughts, head empty.

- Not a headcanon but I haven't stopped thinking about Sasha giving Anne that little twirl in one of the flashbacks. I JUST WANT THEM TO BALLROOM DANCE TOGETHER GOD DAMN IT

- On that note, Sasha tries teaching Marcy and Anne ballroom dancing at one point after their adventures in Amphibia are over. Keyword being 'tries.' Marcy keeps trailing off to do her own thing and Anne thinks it's too boring and stuffy to take seriously. (She and Sasha eventually have a try at dancing together anyways, and neither of them can think straight at all)

[parasprite]

can i say something? this isn't really directed at you, it's just something that's been on my mind lately: if you act like ''this site'' is a homogenised hivemind you will constantly be enraged by hypocrisy that doesn't actually exist

i'm gonna go out on a limb and say i think the trans people who openly celebrate boydykes and girlfags on this site are not the same as the (i'm assuming usually cis) people sending bad faith anon messages to trans lesbians with beards, gay men who call their partner wife, etc etc. like. i could be wrong (feel free to correct me /gen) and it could just be because i'm in my own circle of mutuals but i've never seen an individual celebrate boydykes and girlfags, and then turn around and cry about trans and gnc people who don't fit a mould.

this site has a lot of people all with varying different opinions both based and cringe. they're not all one hypocritical person, it's a massive sometimes conflicting group. i promise you that a heck of a lot of people on here DO genuinely and unconditionally love boydykes and girlfags and all gnc and trans people without holding any kind of caveats, myself included... i Am a gnc boydyke girlfag trans person. n so are a lot of my mutuals. so like... yeah idk.

everyone on this site like "we LOVE weird genders give me weird genders I love boydykes and girlfags" and then a transfem person with a beard will call herself a lesbian. or a bigender person will identify with being gay in both directions. or a gay man calls his partner his wife. or a butch lesbian connects too closely to manhood for your comfort (or a butch exists, in general). or someone just has a weird and contradictory relationship between their gender, sexuality, and sex in a way that you don't understand

and then you all shit bricks and start sobbing and wailing.

[punksrespectpronouns]

Sydney’s been a bit too relatable these past couple of episodes.

I have something to say about the recent camp here & there episodes. (bit of a long and personal post, be forewarned).

Sydney has always been relatable to me. I mean come on he's a gnc trans man who loves mushrooms and worms and just wants to be reclaimed by nature, that checks all my boxes. Add the chronic illness and casual existential despair, and I might as well be Sydney.

But the last couple of episodes, with their religious themes, and being a burden- has hit a little close to home. I’m equally intrigued and taken aback by the direction it’s taken.

Sydney echoes a familiar refrain. A queer person coming from traumatic circumstances (of course none of it his fault), but he “needs more support than a sane person can give”.

I can’t help but think of all the times I, as a chronically ill person, have been viewed as a leech on other people's resources. Needing more support than other people… but always being seen as an inconvenience for requiring that.

To quote Trash Magic comparing chronically ill people to raccoons...

"yet another affinity we share: The first results for squirrels and raccoons is not how they live but how to get rid of them. The same thing happens when I research borderline personality disorder, or chronic illness. How to cope with us, how to care for us while we deprive you of your energy. How to get rid of us."

It's all feeling a bit too familiar. Particularly with the current insensitive response to covid being to just let it run its course, and that it's okay if it only affects vulnerable people or disabled people. I feel like me and Sydney are in a similar situation (without the eldritch elements, unfortunately).

There’s nothing worse than living in a society that doesn’t prioritize mental health care or address its systematic causes. And so you end up reaching out to people who you know don’t have the capacity to help you but you have no other choice.

Turning systemic and uncontrollable causes into personal failing. Great scam on behalf of the mental healthcare system /s.

Whilst being told by people that just because you ask for help and it’s too much doesn’t mean you were wrong for asking.

But lacking any support, how are you supposed to not feel like that. For example, my family isn't an option for support bc they're mormon and toxic in their intolerance of my identity. But when you're shut down anytime you reach out for help it's hard to not believe that it's you that is the problem.

So you try to have fewer needs and deal with it yourself so you're not labelled "too much" until your mental health gets bad enough you can't ignore it and you end up in that same place. All while being viewed as a burden for having needs you can't control with no other options.

I know this likely wasn't the intended focal point of these recent episodes. I am very excited for the finale and to see what happens. I'm just at my wit's end at hearing these narratives and needed to vent my frustration a bit. Thanks for listening /gen.

[duckprintspress]

Hi there! Prospective applicant with a question that I hope hasn't already been asked. I know the FAQ say it doesn't matter what types of fanworks we've created, but since the upcoming anthologies are strictly wlw or mlm, does the story sample ship-type need to match the anthology we're applying to? (Apparently all my wlw fic is either flash or much too long with no good stand-alone chunks in the 1000-2000 word range.)

Hi hi!

Nope, neither what you write "most often" nor which type of ship you put in your submissions has to match the sample. You can submit any writing sample within the guidelines we've provided (which is to say, basically anything 1k to 2k long that doesn't include explicit sex, though if you have something with a similar vibe to that which you think the anthologies are going for, that does tend to work a little better/help us gauge better). Any ship, any fandom, any male/female/other configuration, even gen...as long as when we visit your account, we see the minimum requirements, you're good. And for the submission, it doesn't even need to be something you've posted. Some people submit their original work. Some people even chose to write pieces specifically for their application - one (who was accepted!) - wrote the first 2k of the story they wanted to put into the anthology and applied with that.

Basically, we're flexible. :D

We know many people write mlm because of the biases in casting in a lot of media, and these people would LOVE to wlw given the chance - that's what we're here for, to create the spaces to tell the kinds of stories WE want to tell.

Also as a side note...there's nothing "strict" about how we're viewing wlw/mlm. We're also not restricting people to either a sexual OR romantic definition of "love." mlm and wlw should not be read as intended to exclude asexual or aromantic people and different types of relationships, as well as encompassing genderqueer identities. Characters, just like real people, don't fall into neat boxes. We love it messy. Yes, the anthologies are aimed at audiences who prefer one or the other, and some of those individuals may prefer certain types of stories to other types of stories. But, this is why every story in our anthologies is tagged. People can always skip one if it's not the kind of dynamic that interests them. That same dynamic will surely be why someone else buys the book - these kinds of stories are so rarely told!

Obviously, there are sensitivity issues involved in an approach like this, but we've got a lot of genderqueer people involved in the Press (including myself, I'm AFAB aroace enby, but like, I'm married to a woman, and I'm totally fine if that means people refer to me as wlw...my wife is wlw...) and we will do our best to handle these matters with the sensitivity they require. We love genderswirly and genderqueer characters, and we're generally taking an approach of "if the character would be comfortable/okay with being referred to as wlw/mlm then it'll probably be okay." (This can obviously get complicated in historical settings, where those terms don't exist, but...yeah. It's choppy waters but we'll all navigate them together!) People who are really uncomfortable with genders outside "cis-male" and "cis-female" aren't going to be comfortable with our Press anyway, so we're not attempting to cater to people who think gender is as simple as two boxes that everyone can fit in. We embrace the huge diversity of how people relate to the intersection of their gender and their sexuality, and we encourage all our applicants to do the same. We think as long as people remember that there is not ONE genderqueer/trans/GNC/enby/etc. experience, that there are so so many ways that people navigate and label their identities, that it'll be great and we can get some really interesting stories in the anthologies.

So yeah. All of this is a really long-winded explanation that you may or may not have needed, but I think is important to state, for why we really don't view these anthologies as "strictly" anything. :D Well, other than strictly masquerade stories, anyway. :D

Hope this helps!

-unforth

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

so i saw your dysphoria post but the one thing i don't get is why people, such as yourself (not an attack!), define physical dysphoria as discomfort you feel with your body when it clashes with your gender identity. why can't it just be discomfort with your body because of its sex? asking because i don't wanna have a gender identity, like not in an "i'm nonbinary or agender" sort of way, i just think the social construct of gender is silly and just go by my sex, and i wear/act/feel however i want. it's more practical and less stressful imho. i do however feel discomfort with my sex characteristics. like i accept my reality, but i still want to be the opposite sex. i just don't want to identify as trans, nonbinary nor cis, i just don't care for that, it (gender) is just a bunch of stereotypes to me, so why isn't there a simpler definition of physical dysphoria? why is there an assumption everyone is subscribed to the concepts and rules of gender and gender identity? :/

Hi there!

See, physical gender dysphoria which caused discomfort/distress with your sex specifically because of gender identity. Like people can feel uncomfy with their sex for many reasons, but gender dysphoria is discomfort with your sex specifically because of gender, that’s why it’s defined that way.

Hmm “opposite” sex Isn’t A Thing really, like male and female are not opposites. 

.....Yknow, if you’ve wanted to be the opposite sex, you can like, be that, right? Like you can Literally just be like “I’m a girl/guy” and bam you’re that gender! No HRT or surgery you can literally just be whatever gender you want to be.

If you don’t want to identify as trans, nonbinary, or cis, good for you, that’s awesome! /gen. Some of us do, though.

See, gender is...not stereotypes. Gender isn’t defined by hobbies or the clothes you like or how you behave, it is what you honestly identify as and it is an internal sense—see, gender dysphoria proves that!

I’m a trans guy. When people call me a girl, I feel the same discomfort that dysphoria is defined by—clash with how I am perceived and my actual identity. 

I dress pretty masculine, I’m pretty shy. I don’t really like sports or other “manly” things. I don’t really fit toxic masculinity, I’m pretty emotional and love my friends.

I still know, I’m a guy. Because I just know, the same way my trans and nonbinary siblings know.

Gender isn’t stereotypes—trans people are who they are because of their gender, cis people are cis because of their gender. Girls and boys and nonbinary people can dress however they like and behave however they like and have whatever hobbies they like, they aren’t their gender because of stereotypes, they are their gender because they know.

Gender dysphoria is because of clash with gender identity and physical sex. You yourself are saying, you experience discomfort with your physical sex but it’s not because of gender, right? 

Then you do not get to define gender dysphoria. Full stop.

Trans/nonbinary people are the ones who experience dysphoria because of clash with gender and sex, it is our lived experience, it is not simple and it is complicated and it is ours to define. 

The assumption is there because gender is how people are oppressed and it is how oppression takes place in the real world and how that oppression can be discussed.

Women, trans and cis, are oppressed by misogyny. Because of their gender, because they are women. Trans people a face discrimination for breaking the very rules of gender by being ourselves, this is because we are trans, because of our gender. Gnc people face hatred because they aren’t behaving the way their gender is “supposed” to behave, because they are breaking the “rules” of gender.

And without labelling the genders of people, there is no way to discuss this oppression. And a lot of this assumption is due to a cisnormative society. 

I hope I could explain it, feel free to ask any further questions you have!

[mellow-is-liveblogging]

I have never felt a deeper regret than when I made a Pucci fanchild for shits and giggles and then got attached. her name is Leila Montero, her other dad's trans and all she got from Pucci was a heightened chance to get arthritis. she's supposed to go along with mine and my friends' other next gen ocs: Jovanni Joestar, Matteo Brando, Knives and Theo Zeppeli and i love their overall dynamic

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Theo: damn girl ur dad looks gnc as fuck

Leila:

Leila: he was a priest.

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Matteo: aren't you tired of being nice. don't you just want to go apeshitt

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Matteo: are there any catholics here?

Leila: I am, what's up?

Matteo: how do I reach heaven through violence

Leila:

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Jovanni: every single fucking time we let Knives drive they try to hit people on purpose

Theo: and everytime we kiss i swear i could fly

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Theo: my therapist will hear about this

[ask-a-trendy-trans]

Apologies for interacting, but I am genuinely curious as to why you proudly label yourself as a "trender".

You are a transgender person; you're not pretending to be trans and/or being trans because "it's a trend/trendy" (because it isn't at all)...you're simply a transgender person and that's something you can, of course, take pride in!! /srs

There is no positive to referring to yourself as a "trans-trender"...I don't understand what good doing that does for you. Why would you use a term on yourself that has been infamously used to shame trans people who are gnc? A word used to purposely trigger gender dysphoria in trans people who don't pass as cis? To hurt non-binary people? To mock the transgender community as a group of confused cis men and women? It is a word used by transphobes because they think "it [being transgender] is just a phase/trend" or "that trans person isn't actually transgender, they're just hopping on the trans trend". Why would you continue to spread that word by using it as a self-identifier? What good does that do for anyone? /gen

(I avoided using pronouns in this message as you have so many I'm not sure which you'd like me to use.)

— @vidar-is-een-ontdekkingsreiziger

@vidar-is-een-ontdekkingsreiziger ,

For the same reason I love the non human/voidpunk aesthetic despite being considered less than or different from humans because of my autism and my lack of attraction. Because I find power and comfort in taking things that were used to hurt me so that they can’t anymore. That’s the point of reclaimation!