#i love being a man!!!!! i love being a TRANS man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[poorlylaidplans]

Doing so is also directly going to help women.

One of the frustrating things I found about being raised as a man is no one would teach me what appropriate boundaries are (or distinguish between friendship, gender envy and attraction). Which ended up with me both having to constantly second guess myself and still making people uncomfortable.

Which I hated because I don't want people to be uncomfortable around me I also desperately wanted female friends at the time (being a trans egg)

I would have loved being introduced to feminism in a non-judgemental manner at the time because it would have given me a ton of tools to approach appropriate social interaction. Instead I fell, thankfully briefly, into the alt-right pipeline. Which promised answers (wrong answers) to the problems I was having.

If we can make feminism openly accessible, both in general and specifically to men, it'll make a lot of people happier.

Also please stop associating men having any emotional connection to someone as sexual attraction. Let men have friends, they really need it.

I want there to be fewer MRAs. Do you want that too? Do you want to know what helps us get there, from a feminist perspective?

You may not like my answer: acknowledge that sexism can affect men. Recognize that, although the patriarchy generally privileges men, they are also subject to restrictive gender roles that are harmful to them (shunning all things “feminine,” not showing emotions, being protectors/strong, never admitting being victims of SA/IPV, having to “earn” their manhood, etc.).

Give young men a place other than the right-wing manosphere to be heard about the issues they experience. If these grifters are telling them “only we understand how hard it is to be a man, the left hates you for your gender” and they look to the left and see “men claiming they have ‘problems’ are losers who just hate women, all men are trash,” do you think they’re going to be drawn towards or away from feminism?

Before you leave an angry response: no, this does not mean to center men instead of women in feminism, it just means including them at all. No, it is not “coddling” men to treat them with human dignity, you can and should continue to hold them (and every other gender) responsible for unpacking sexist beliefs. No, this does not mean it is every individual woman’s and feminist’s responsibility to prioritize men’s issues, it just means at the least not shutting them down when they do speak up about sexism. No, it is not “not all men-ing” to point out that “men are trash” sentiments hurt the feminist movement rather than helping it. Ask questions before you make accusations on this post, please. I have been abused by men too, I get it, this isn’t easy to hear.

[unnameablethings]

genuine serious take: there should be more m/f romances written by queer people. as a bisexual trans man I have been. at various points in my life. -a man attracted to women -a woman attracted to men -a woman attracted to women -a man attracted to men

this makes me more qualified than ANY CISHET IN THE WORLD to design the objectively most attractive and compelling m/f relationships. SPECIFICALLY being trans is also a really good way to dodge some of the pitfalls of conflating things like "submissive/receptive/passive/feminine/bottom" and "dominant/active/penetrative/masculine/top" as being sort of inherent gender roles.

There needs to be more m/f romance with delicate men being tenderly protected and cared for and powerful women being a little too aggressive and dominant. Sometimes I see the glimmerings of straight people Wanting This. like. women swooning over delicate beautiful weeping twinks or the worlds soggiest and most pathetic men, or men getting into femdom shit, but there's this sort of Gender Block which means that they can't quite picture this as a serious romantic interest. I can change this!!!! I can change them!!! I can baby bird good m/f romance to the heterosexuals. And You Can Join Me. we can turn this ship around. booktok male love interest but as a brooding morally gray bloodthirsty woman instead and her innocent but snarky sweet-faced male love interest. see the vision in your mind.

[stoopidpigeonxx]

⋆˚｡⋆୨✧୧˚ 𝑻𝒖𝒍𝒑𝒂𝒓'𝒔 𝑭𝒂𝒗𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝑳𝒊𝒕𝒕𝒍𝒆 𝑭𝒍𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓. ˚୨✧୧⋆｡˚⋆ (DAISUKE GETTING/RECIEVING HEAD.)

That one anon.. you're welcome boo. NSFW under the cut. Minors DNI. (I'm on a smut writing spree)

Characters/fandom: Mouthwashing, Daisuke

Content: J*mmy mention ew, oral (both receiving and giving) Daisuke is a trans man, him being gentle with it (we love our boy), its for both fem/male reader cuz dick-havers need love <3

Giving.

-he is the GENTLEST boy ever. Soft kisses on your clit/tip, no biting whatsoever, gentle strokes, he's so soft with it. He doesn't want to hurt you, or make you uncomfortable, so he takes it with caution.

-Love my boy, but he is inexperienced. This kinda ties into the gentle part; he doesn't know how to be rough.

-if you're a girl, he's mainly focusing around your clit (Jimmy taught him about it, much to his discomfort). He knows it feels good according to your movements and noises. He likes hearing you moan his name, it gives him a lil' power boost.

-if you're a dude, BE GENTLE WITH HIM!! >:( don't shove his head down onto your cock while he's taking it, that'll make him choke. Let him do it at his own pace. He'll make you feel good the best he can, but that doesn't mean he'll deepthroat you. He can't do that.

-Loves you stroking his hair/praising him while he's doing it. Or just words of affirmation. This is kinda specific, but I feel like if you praise him, he wiggles his ass a bit like he's wagging his tail. Its fucking adorable and I love him.

-his favorite position to do it in is one where you're both laying down, with him on his stomach and your knees above his head. That way he can get a pillow under him and give himself a bit of stimulation, until its his turn.

Receiving.

-I headcannon he's a trans man, maybe about 1-2 years on T, so we welcome t-clit, my beloved. (I go so fucking feral for it y'all don't even know)

-Suuuper sensitive. Like, really. One lick of his lil' hard-on and he's spasming and whining. So you kinda have to be gentle with him in fear of overstimulating the poor boy.

-He'll probably mindlessly tug at your hair or grind against your face because it feels too good, he loses control of his body a bit. He isn't much for face riding, since he's worried he'll crush you, but he can use those hips if he feels like it. (And he does.)

-Babbles when he comes. I headcannon this for a lot of men, but I really mean it when it comes to Daisuke. Not just meaningless dirty talk, I'm talking BABBLING. You cant understand what this dude is saying.

-Very verbal/loud. He has to bury his face in a pillow, poor guy, because he's so loud and he's worried he'll wake everybody up. He cant help it!

[voidmamma]

Being a trans lesbian is like being trans or a lesbian on hard mode.

Everything in you screams you're a woman, but somehow you're also queer. You try and ignore the queerness or dismiss it as fetishizing lesbians, but it doesn't go away. Being a trans lesbian makes me want to kms:

"now you're a girl, you must like men right?"

"so you're a cross-dressing man who likes women, just like all straight men. only difference is your kink is fucking women while pretending to be a woman"

"I love trans women, but I'd never date one"

"you're invading spaces intended for queer women"

"you'll never really know what it's like to be with a woman, as a woman"

"you don't look like a lesbian"

"Isn't having sex as a trans lesbian just like straight sex?"

"if lesbians refuse to have sex with trans women, we get called transphobic"

"real lesbians will never want to fuck you or date you"

"your identity and lived experience is totally invalid"

[scythegirl13]

man i thought people were cool with lesbians in the queer spaces

nope! we will never not get curbed stopped for not liking men and not allowing them in our community

take ur fake stolen achievements to the bullshit store, not here sweetheart.

and not to mention, yall love harping on lesbians for being “TERFy” (????) when were the space that accepts most trans people in the queer community DU-DU-DUMBASS MISOGYNY

queer people on this site really make me feel like a confused straight guy at pride. the discourse here could kill a man

[velvetvexations]

anti-transmasculine discourse makes me feel so gaslit and crazy. right now there’s a wave of “DIY t is so easy to get you just have to talk to any man at the gym” and when clocky pre-guys are like “I think it’s a little bad faith to suggest that outing myself to a random man at the gym is a sound solution to hormone bans and I think that would put me in danger” they’re like “pussy. it’s so funny how tboys are scared of cis men when most cis men are just cool himbos who would never hurt you. tboys are scared of cis men because they never go outside and are latent terfs.” and all of this after we are constantly told we are pulling a “not all men” if we say some men need reproductive healthcare or talk about feeling isolated when people we have known for years start treating us like predators the second we come out. also the constant implication that terfism is not at all about hatred of men until trans men are scared of cis men, then our trepidation is because of our secret terfism. the goalposts are constantly being moved. trans seperatism is necessary because men are all very dangerous and also cis guys are also all perfect angels who we definitely have no real life experiences of receiving violence from. I feel like these people are literally just getting a kick out of playing a game of “stop hitting yourself” with people they view as physically and intellectually inferior and just aesthetically cringey. I don’t know how to take it anymore.

I know how tiring it all is. To be honest it's really been hitting me lately and really ramping up my depression. Everything feels so bleak and pointless.

I love you though, anon. <3 There's still light left, we just have to keep trying really hard to find it and spread it around the best we can.

[ramblinscramblin]

May I request scout and demo (and maybe heavy if you want) with a ftm reader??? It can be any scenario NSFW, sfw idc. I'm hungry and I need food 😭 (you don't gotta do this btw just a little thought ♥️)

-‼️

→With a FTM reader!

Genre: slice of life, fluff! Male reader!

Characters: Scout, Demo, Heavy

Of COURSE I will write this. Relationship left pretty ambiguous. Hope you enjoy! Thank you again for the ask!

Scout

Scout definitely doesn’t realize without you spelling it out for him, no matter how “feminine” you may present.

Asks A LOT of questions, borders on invasive, but is just genuinely pretty confused and intrigued about it.

“So… wait, you were born a chick, but now you’re a guy? How’s dat work?”

“Scout, we have been over this. Literally ten times,” you say, exasperated.

After the initial long and honestly exhausting conversation, the two of you feel closer for it. He’s secretly sentimental as hell, so he appreciates you telling him so much, like it genuinely makes him feel so trusted.

When you come out to him, the support is not instant, as he tends to show these kinds of things in really covert ways, he doesn’t want anyone knowing he has a big heart.

But the second someone says something out of line that is when his support is the most apparent. Always corrects someone when they misgender you, but if they continue after he corrects them? Buddy, it’s over.

You tell scout you appreciate it, but you can stand up for yourself. He’s not really having it though, too hot headed to let it go.

Genuinely forgets your trans at time.

“Why don’t you ever use the urinals? S’weird,” the commented once as you left the bathroom together.

“Scout.”

“What?” He blinked at you dumbly for a few seconds, before realization dawns on him “oh shit! Dats right, sorry.”

He’s trying his best.

Demoman

Demo is part of team “not really my business so it doesn’t affect me”

As in it doesn’t really affect the way that he feels about you, or the way he treats you.

Doesn’t ask any questions unless it’s clear to him it’s something you’d like to talk about.

Depending on closeness he may even feel confident in making some jokes about it. Only if you find them funny though, absolutely wouldn’t do it if made you upset/uncomfortable.

Is big into giving you male experiences that you may have missed out on, mostly cliché and stereotypical things, some of which you have probably definitely done before.

“Demo, I think we’re a little too old to be playing trains right now,” you say, holding a train in your hand.

“Fine then, I’ll just clean it up then,” Demo said with a huff.

You stop him “well… I didn’t say that.”

Let’s you speak for yourself in most settings, but if you ever express your discomfort in a situation he won’t hesitate to remove you from it/remove the person causing this discomfort.

Doesn’t make a huge scene, will take the blame for you saying it’s him who’s got a problem.

Demo supports you when you need it, encourages you through your medical transition if you choose to do so/if you haven’t already.

Alternatively, reassures you that you’re not less of a man for not having surgeries or using HRT if you choose not to.

I honestly believe that Demo has been around a lot of queer people, he’s the world’s best trans ally.

Heavy

Heavy, like Scout has a lot of questions when you come out. Isn’t nearly as invasive and holds back anything that he thinks may make you uncomfortable.

It doesn’t change how he views you, thinks of you as man no matter what.

Really appreciates that he’s someone you trust enough to tell, even if he doesn’t fully get it, he understands that it can be a nerve wracking thing to talk about.

Recommends medic if you want to have any surgeries done, respectfully you decline. Fearing for the rest of your organs well being.

Heavy does a lot of reading to ensure he gets things right, but only brings up your transness if you do.

Loves hearing about your trans experience if you tell him about it, will listen intently taking mental notes.

Doesn’t feel the need to protect you, you’re a grown man who handled himself perfectly fine without him. But, like Demo, if he feels you getting a little out of your depth all he really has to do is come stand behind you.

Gender affirming nicknames, always. I feel like Heavy is big into nicknames some of his favorite for you is “big man” “guy” “handsome” if he’s feeling bold.

“How is the big man today,” he asked coming up to you one day.

You chuckle a little bit “it really should be me asking you that.”

Being with Heavy is a testosterone booster, just enjoy being masculine together.

OOOOO I LOVED WRITING THIS SO MUCH. I may revisit this idea later and add more of the mercs, for now I have more asks to get to! Thanks so much for the ask! (*ﾟ▽ﾟ*)

[transfaguette]

#...... shrugs?#like. im a trans man#i am happy about that!#however due to peoples loved experiences i understand rhat they may be universally scared or upset with men#as someone who used to be a woman and now is pwrceptibly a faggot. i fucking get it?#luke you dont have to apologize for being a man. to me this feels#qlmost guilt trippy? like awww an abuse victim told me i make them uncomfortsble :(#ok sorry man but maybe its cause theyre. an abuse victim#again. shrugs.

This isn't about abuse victims? This is about like, people in general people uncomfortable with transmasculinity and taking that out on the trans men around them. making them feel like they would be better off as a girl. Like yknow, transphobia. Maybe you've not encountered that scenario and thats awesome if that's the case, but this isn't about guilt tripping theoretical abuse survivors. its about transphobia.

hey guys we can all agree its like, incredibly sad and fucked up when a trans man feels like he has to apologize for being a man, right. like even jokingly. it’s very concerning that people have created an environment where a trans person is expected to be apologetic about their identity, right.

[clueless-romantics]

BAXTER

so, about the fish man that I love. I wanted to do a short analysis of him before we get him in the full series.

this will be full of season two predictions, shipping, headcanons, and backstory ideas.

DEATH

first, we'll start with his death. ironic, right?

anyways, we know that Baxter was supposed to have died on the Titanic, but since Viv didn't want to be Insensitive, she changed it to a vague ship that sunk in the 1910s. since he is an anglerfish, which lives on the sea floor, we can infer that he probably didn't make it out of the ship, and sunk to the bottom of the sea with it. thats all we know right now, and I will give ideas to expand on that and give him some character.

he might have a fear of not having enough air, or a fear of sinking or being pulled down.

he absolutely hates the movie "Titanic," and complains about how inaccurate it is to everyone (fun hc)

LIFE

we know nothing about his life, other than he was some sort of scientist. I like to imagine that he was a heartless scientist who disregarded everyone else's lives, and experimented on people.

A reason why he could be so short is that he believed his life to be more important, or 'higher' than everyone else. that is why he is short, as hell usually makes you look like things you hate, therefore he would hate being viewed as lesser, or smaller than others, and now quite literally.

we do not know how old he is, but I would assume based on looks that he is 25-30, somewhere around that range.

RELATIONSHIPS

we dont know much about Baxter at all in any of these, as I have stated, but in the sneak peak we know he had a negative past with sir pentious. since we know sir pentious is an inventor, not a scientist, therefore he cannot create biological life. one of my theories is that sir pentious made the egg bois with Baxter's help and betrayed baxter, while taking the egg bois with them. I also personally headcanon they dated, but that might not be true, and isn't really backed up by anything.

now, onto who I think owns his soul. I believe vox would be his owner, as vox has a proven history of working with sea creatures, and it is a very popular theory. I think he has two reasons to be at the hotel. one, obvious one, for studying redemption. he is a scientist, why wouldn't he want to do that? the second, being he was spying for vox. my reasoning? there are two reasons I think could be true.

vox hired Baxter because sea creature AND the fact vox knew sir pentious and Baxter had a rivalry, so vox would take advantage of that and give Baxter the chance to upstage his enemy.

two, baxter knew sir pentious failed at being a spy so that's why he accepted the job, so more intent on Baxter s side for this.

MISC.

baxter is still a scientist in hell, obviously. so I'd imagine in his 100+ years of being in hell, he probably has his own lab. we don't know a lot about him, still, which leaves a lot for the imagination. which, brings me to my next part, headcanons!!

HEADCANONS!

Baxter is trans (only female anglerfish have the esca)

Baxter wears glasses but only for protection during science experiments, because anglerfish have excellent vision, so he wouldn't be low vision.

EXCELLENT vocabulary

he avoids alcohol and smoking like the plague, as he is very health conscious and doesn't like husk at first because of it

the only person in the hotel he can actually bear talking to (besides niffty) is cherri. they both have a past with sir pentious, and he would probably think she is the most self actualized out of all the guests, (he doesn't think Vaggie is the most because he dislikes how violent and protective she is)

THAT CONCLUDES MY POINTS ABOUT HIM!

FEEL FREE TO ADD YOUR OWN IN THE COMMENTS AND REPOSTS

[cr33p-a-z01d]

rant about mcr under the cut so if you don't wanna see me be a hater scroll past

jesus fucking christ I'm pissed off at them right now. cause like what the fuck do you mean you're having alice cooper open for you in philly??? the openly transphobic old guy??? like what the fuck?? mcr is literally the "in the face of extermination say fuck you" band and they're having a transphobe open for them?? it feel like a fucking slap in the face, especially as a young trans guy. I hope they drop him or he fucking dies before the philly show or smth I'm being so serious I am praying on his downfall

listen mcr is my favorite band and I'll love them no matter what but good lord man.

these fucking ticket prices too bro. I know they can't do much about the resellers or the scalpers but idk can't bands turn dynamic pricing off? correct me if I'm wrong about that btw.

also why are they doing ONLY STADIUMS?? in like 5 or 6 six states (not including toronto). and only in north america? I live In america and I'm pissed off they aren't going out of the country. what is the point of a tour if your not trying to let as many fans see you as possible? and that comes back to the high prices and only a few dates. what is the point of touring if your not trying to let as many people see you as possible?

am I going to try and get tickets anyways? yes. am I going to be mad about this in a few hours? probably not, I just had to rant for a few minutes

[limerence-leftovers]

Personal ramblings because I am MAD.

I can’t have children. Back in 2016, my husband and I suffered a miscarriage that nearly took my life. I’m one of the women you’ve probably read about here of late where missed miscarriages are concerned. I nearly died and had to have an emergency D&E thanks to a blood clot the size of a cantaloupe taking shape in my uterus. Yes, you read that correctly. A cantaloupe. The nurses and my surgeon were shocked. I feel incredibly lucky however because it happened during a time where I didn’t have to worry about receiving the surgery or not. And the staff who took care of me were incredibly kind.

I live in Texas. This election has hit me very deeply.

Moving forward, I have good friends with children and I’ve been able to be a part of their lives. Two of which are in their younger years, and another is a teenager. It makes my heart unfathomably happy to get to be around them, to hear their laughter, listen to their stories I can barely understand because they’re 4 and 5 years old 😂🥰, and help the teenager just by being someone they can speak with freely.

They’re our found family. We’re all having Christmas and Thanksgiving together since none of us have close ties to our family. We’re all either LGBTQIA+, POC, or we’ve cut our family out due to abuse.

My found family means everything to me. We’ve all been there for one another. And we also all play D&D together, cook together, I help meal prep, we give each other rides when we need them, we’ve helped one another with home supplies, gas money when we have it, etc.

I’m so fucking terrified for my family. One of them is a female veteran who was sexually abused in the military. Another is a Hispanic male in the health care industry working in behavioral therapy for abused children. Our son, as we all call him, only turned 21 this year, a black man who I’d die to protect without hesitation. He’s our fucking baby boy and I’m so angry, hurt, upset, and scared for him. He’s the first person I thought of when all this shit started, especially with the text messages which were sent out. Fortunately he didn’t get one.

These are people and they’re real. They’re not the enemy.

They’re my family.

This is why we’re cutting people who voted for Trump out of our lives. If you voted for Trump, you voted to harm my family. I may just be one person, yes. But know that I hate you. I hate you. I fucking hate you.

And I’m not alone.

We all hope you live the lives you deserve, pigs. And when you realize what you’ve done, when you need an abortion, when your child is trans, when you fall in love with a POC and learn the terror they live in on the daily basis, know this:

You voted for Donald Trump. You did this to yourself. And you may find compassion from others.

You will receive none from me.

[dragonstailbutch]

I NEED my trans brothers, especially the younger, to start criticaly, actually critically analyze media, not just harping on unseen mean trans women's posts, but also look at their own community and the media they connect with.

Wtf do you mean when you look at a media from 1910 that has a butch woman playing the role of a woman romancing and being romanced by a man is a trans man. wtf do you mean a young boy who's having issues with being masculine and learns to live with not showing and even thriving as someone who isn't masculine is a trans man.

How do you look at a woman dressing as a man and people think she's a man so the romance her and then the movie ends by showing that the woman is a woman by being romance by another man and go "this is transmasc rep"? Do you think trans women are insane for seeing a man dressing as a woman and it being played off as a joke and going "that's awful, this isn't transfem rep, this is transmisogony/transphobic"?

for the love of God, stop looking at things through Fandom Analysis and actually attempt to SEE the media, disconnect it from how you think it relates to you and analyze how it relates to its subject(s), ntm don't use Fandom Analysis for news media and real people's lives/posts

[nonbinarymlm]

I really agree with your warning that any kind of spiritual space, and also some secular spaces, can fall into benevolent sexism. It’s a good warning, and worth noting that simply because a space says positive things about women does not necessarily means it supports women.

I also want to address your questions. Obviously there are similarities between common forms of misandry and benevolent sexism, but that doesn’t make them the same thing at all. I think they can be compatible, but are definitely not the same thing. Also, yeah, female separatism can’t actually save any demographic.

Traditional sexists believe in benevolent sexism. They’re not misandrists at all. They believe men are dangerous and aggressive, but not that men are bad. They see men as like warriors or soldiers, and believe men that follow gender roles and engage in heterosexual relationships are noble warriors with soft spots for women. If this puts men in an unhealthy position emotionally and makes men more likely to be violent with one another, then they might say that’s the sacrifice men might make for poor, helpless women. The trope of a good woman saving and healing a violent man comes in very nearly here. They don’t necessarily ignore the negative effects of patriarchy on men, but rather often use it as proof for their own beliefs that patriarchy can’t target women and view the negative effects of patriarchy on men as noble sacrifices.

Benevolent sexism plays into gender roles, and people who believe in gender roles think both men and women who play into gender roles are good. They don’t think men are evil necessarily, if they do think there’s anything evil in the nature of men they think it can be dealt with by gender roles so that men can be good. So this belief set is somewhat compatible with misandry, but not at all the same thing and many openly male supremacist men believe in forms of it.

There MUST be good men in order to justify benevolent sexism, because the whole idea behind it is a paternalistic one of women as pure, helpless beings that need men to protect and care for them. That’s why I specify in my original post that any women who has gotten into bio essentialist misandry and female separatism must believe at the very least there are exceptions to this misandry.

Benevolent sexism is essentially the positive aspects of female gender roles that paint women and their roles in a positive light. It’s tied in with beliefs that women must be controlled and keep to their roles, which keep them wonderful and positive according to this ideology. It has certainly been systemic in history, justifying laws meant to protect the goodness of women that only control women. I suspect laws preventing women from opening bank accounts were justified with it, keeping women away from that dirty, stressful, complicated money. I think it’s likely systemic, or at least very widespread, today.

Much of the rhetoric that argues against bodily autonomy for AFAB people is based in benevolent sexism about how good AFAB bodies are. It’s often framed as “protecting” AFAB from corruption and people trying to lead them astray. I say AFAB here, because this rhetoric is often used by TERFs against trans masculine people. TERFs obviously believe positive things about AFAB people, but they translate that into AFAB people needing to be “protected” from our own medical autonomy. Unchanged, perisex AFAB bodies are portrayed as magical and divine. Similar arguments are used to justify restricting abortion. That’s at least potentially systemic.

This isn’t necessarily systemic, but benevolent sexism is actually compatible with misogyny as well as misandry, as long as it’s misogyny aimed at people stepping out of their roles and being “corrupted” rather than all women. Benevolent sexism is actually often used to dismiss the negative effects of sexist ideologies on women. Everyone from tradwives to TERFs to sexist politicians will say that they love women and view women as good and pure and wondrous so they couldn’t possibly be sexist and doing things that harm women. It’s also used as bait for women. I’ve definitely heard tradwives say things like how feminists see women as forever victims where they see women as strong (in their own way) mothers.

Anyway. I wanted to clarify some things but this went on way too long. Basically, benevolent sexism is the positive portrayal of women and female gender roles used to justify sexist gender roles and paternalism. Like most forms of sexism, it can also be used against trans people of all stripes. Unlike most forms of sexism, it’s often more appealing to women and can wheedle into feminist and queer and progressive spaces.

TL;DR benevolent sexism is somewhat systemic and it’s compatible with, but not the same as, both misogyny and misandry as long as that misogyny and misandry recognizes exceptions

We need to bring back the term “benevolent sexism” into widespread use for real. It’s a major mechanism in how bioessentialist Girlboss Radfems can be turned into bioessentialist conservative Tradwives.

[animentality]

Tbh I think it's still legit if you read and like Blue Lock for being so gay (at least subtextually), despite being misogynistic Kaneshiro seems to have sympathy for queer people to a certain degree. Besides the gay sidekick, As The Gods Will also has some other queer side characters (a lesbian, a trans girl, a few more hinted gay boys and a non-binary villain according to my memory) even though not all of them are well-written, the good ones are good. Specifically my most favorite is the gay sidekick Ushimitsu, he's actually a pretty well-rounded character with very strong role as a co-lead in ATGW 2, I never feel like he was disrespected in the story (rather I think he's obviously Kaneshiro's favorite), sure he's got an open ending that can be seen as tragic but it's actually in line of the whole theme of the story and I respect Kaneshiro to commit to writing it rather than just give a copout happy ending and it also proves his gay feelings as real & deep despite heartbreaking.

Now I wish Kaneshiro can have that same energy in writing Bachira as he's in a similar position to Ushimitsu in ATGW but somehow poor bee boy got pushed aside in bllk after U20 arc (probably in favor of more popular Isagi ship with Rin or Kaiser 🙃), I hope he makes good on the promise that Bachira will be a key character later in the series and this time since nobody will die in Bllk I hope Bachisagi will get a deserved happy ending.

well that's the thing, anon.

I feel bad for liking blue lock because it has such a misogynistic creator but it's hard not to cling to something so obviously queer friendly.

like honestly.

there's definitely Japanese media that's queer neutral or queer friendly but blue lock actually feels like it's always on the verge of just being properly queer.

it's not fanservice like free or yuri on ice. it legitimately feels as close to canon as it can get without changing genres. and I think the creator having queer characters in the past gives him some street cred.

i know what homophobia in a manga looks like. it's that awful rapist character from one punch man. this hyper masculine but also hyper feminine muscly man who sexually assaults other men.

it's tokyo ghoul having its only queer characters being pedophiles, rapists, and sex addicts/victims who get sexually assaulted until they're "corrected."

it's having no subtext at all and only ever using gay men as a one off joke and gay women as a fetish.

at least blue lock does seem to respect its characters enough that it takes their hinted at sexualities seriously.

it really doesn't go for the obvious "ewwwwww we're both guys" jokes. it's kept very ambiguous. it's subtle (except when it's not, lol).

the only character who really fits the usual offensive gay anime representation tropes is Shidou, but even him I wouldn't count as bad rep (as the closest to canonically gay character, aside from Bachira).

Shidou might be super flamboyant but he also gets to have the coolest fucking moments in the series. he's not just some pervert, he's a badass. he doesn't just flounder around like some useless weird loser who only exists to be the butt of a joke.

he loves to fight and play soccer and feel alive. he has the coolest aura in the series and everyone is constantly in awe of the ridiculous things he can do.

he's a proper villain, who's out of pocket and insane, but who's also intensely lovable and silly. and honestly portrayed pretty sympathetically. for all his faults, he can be very kind.

there's a lot of depth to him, and honestly, I think Blue Lock is pretty good at not doing anything to suggest oh hahaha homosexuality exists. isn't that funny

plus I think Bachira is canonically gay. we know he's canonically in love with Isagi.

kunigami and aiku are actually confirmed bisexual too.

Shidou and Sae were also highly suspect during u20, to the point where even homophobes cant deny they have something weird going on.

so to me... that's a lot of queer characters who are taken seriously and actually have characters outside of being a joke or a gag. they feel like real people. they have distinct personalities.

the bar is in hell, but it's more than most manga/anime manage.

so I have to give Kaneshiro credit. he's doing as much as he can, without overstepping the boundary I'm sure kodansha has set for him.

it's just a shame he's a sexist. also, I hope Kaneshiro grows a pair.

just have bachisagi get married in the last chapter you pussy.

let Shidou officiate!!!

[velvetvexations]

There's a post going around about how it doesn't help bring men to the left to treat being a man as an ontological evil. Lots of people were recommending bell hooks and it made me so happy because this is what trans men have been saying since forever.

But then my dash was full of people complaining about "that post that says if women were nicer misogyny wouldn't exist." I've seen "if you can't take a little teasing about your privilege you're weak" which just reminds me of mean girl behavior. If they had ever been bullied you think they'd realise how quickly "just teasing" can turn into downright cruelty, even if the target "deserves" it (which I'm sure the bullies thought they did!) I've seen "men are celebrated everywhere" not disabled men, not men of color, not trans men, and even the average cis white dude isn't going to feel celebrated for his manhood, because he's probably not the "alpha" other men say he should be. He's going to be defensive if that's dismissed because of "cis white man" and actually meeting him where he's at will get him to understand quicker than just telling him he's weak (I've had this explained to me by actual feminist activists).

And NONE of that is is saying women should just lay down and take intentional bigotry. But borderline radfem keyboard warriors don't want nuance, they want to be angry.

It makes me want to crawl in a hole again.

I will drag you out of that hole, anon. You're a man and it's awesome you're man. I love you. <3

[forgiveness-in-the-misery]

Post finale I keep thinking about all the posts I was seeing before about Oz being a feminist and loving women

…like please fucking tell me y’all taking that back right? The dude pinned his boss murdering sex workers on an innocent girl who was then assaulted and tortured in Akrham for a man’s crime, he sees his own mother as a trophy to possess and control and isolate.

Like just because the dude has a sex worker he regularly hires to pretend she’s his mommy and is nice to trans sex workers doesn’t mean he respects or even likes women.