#i feel this is like discourse within discourse

[transfemme-shelterdog]

i know it’s frustrating and heartbreaking to see bigotry within our own community, but i feel like it’s really important to remember that despite the discourse and infighting, we are not each other’s worst enemies. trans women are not more likely to be transandrophobic than anyone else. trans women are not the biggest source of transandrophobia by a *long* shot. anyone who advocates for trans men by saying that trans women are our enemies is not an ally of mine.

Our? I'm a trans woman. Just because I defend transmacs and call out trans radfems doesn't make me a man.

Also, given what I've seen on here, and the fact that I was literally cancelled by several sizable friend groups of transfems for defending trans men, that's not a good sign.

Does every transfem hate transmascs? Of course not.

Has the vast majority of people who defend transandrophobic rhetoric been transfem given what I've seen on here, and other platforms as well as in real life? Yep.

I know of very few people who aren't transmasc who aren't transandrophobic, and I am in a shit load of trans spaces (well, I was, until I had the audacity to say that maybe we shouldn't shit transmascs)

Never said transfems are "our enemies" (I mean, they do say that you're your own worst enemy), just that the vast majority of bigotry is coming from my own side, and I gave my speculation as to why.

[cosmics-beings]

I personally think that TFP made people care MORE about the abuse Starscream went through. I "blame" it for people not shipping Megatron and Starscream as much or going after megastar shippers because of the abuse. I think some shows make it funny, but Prime def didn't because people can't ship megatron and starscream without people mentioning the abuse. or at least fans don't make fun of it

I agree to an extent, my personal opinion tho is that prime did make it funny. Because it's used in mostly humorous undertones in tfp or at the very least, written in ways where it's made to seem that starscream 'deserves' it? like it is never actually tied to his trauma or how he acts, and the other characters just don't give him grace/nuance. i do agree tho that i think tfp has changed how some fans view starscreams' abuse, and even if it isn't a ton, i think it's enough to actually start conversation. because as many people as i've seen take it seriously, i've also seen people mock him for it, because i personally do not think tfp does a great job at handling his abuse. especially with how he interacts with other characters and how he is never seen as a victim. the way tfp has him, ESPECIALLY in predcaons rising he imo is seen as worse than megatron and the other cons.

now, moving on to megastar. i'm gonna state this - i get why people don't like megatstar and im not gonna fault anyone for not liking it. like, i ship it (it is my transformers otp- and i will not stop shipping it!) but i do realize why people don't like it. but i guess for me, i ship it in a way that addresses a lot of the abuse and makes it comfortable for me to ship it because clearly, on this blog, it's obvious i hate the abuse starscream goes through. that said yeah i dont mind if people, especially starscream fans don't ship it. and i don't really engage with a lot of megastar content because personally, i don't like how there is a lot of abuse in the ship. this also isn't me saying my view is better or right compared to others, i just don't like engaging with the vast majority of megastar content because a lot of it is heavily abusive.

my issue is when 1.) those people are very hateful to the shippers nad harass them and 2.) don't like megatstar on the basis of it being abusive and then go and ship other equally abusive ships.

i like megaop, but when i see people turn their nose to megatstar but ship megaop, that's strange to me, because how megaop is presented it is also toxic and abusive in many canons - on both ends. TFP is a very great example of it- if the orion pax episode was not enough, the fact that megatstar in tfp, but in multiple contuinities will purposely hurt people optimus loves just because he knows impacts him, are abusers tactics. abusers will hurt people they know their partners love. never mind the fact that there is physical abuse on both ends, even if they are fighting.

and there is still, again, depending on the contiuinity, a power imbalance. megatron was a slave in some versions to start off with, and confided a lot in optimus about wanting liberation and freedom. optimus listened and learned under him and then betrayed him at the very end, becoming a prime and taking the position and liberty that megatron needed. that immediately put optimus at a place of privilege and power over megatron, and put him in the same level/caste of people who enslaved him. and more than often optimus never actually realizes this. it may not seem like abuse to a lot of others but the dynamics of slavery/privileged person to me, are kind of uncomfortable. and never mind the fact that they both try to kill each other, they both beat each other, they both hurt those close to one another. they do terrible things to each other. maybe the idea is that 'they can fight back against each other fairly, so it's not abuse' or their friends, to lovers, to enemies dynamic is too strong for people to call it abusive. but i mean yeah that's my issue.

if you're not gonna ship megastar because of the abuse, that's fine. but maybe leave megastar shippers alone i guess, stay out of the tags, and if you ship other abusive ships but preach about how problematic megastar is im looking at you sideways!

[mxtxfanatic]

Ngl, I’m actually pretty uncomfortable reading my old posts defending the goodness of the common people and their right to defend themselves—as persecuted groups or as individuals—from hierarchical tyranny, given how easily in this current irl moment a not-insignificant amount of people have fallen into supporting an active genocide, because I cannot separate this from how much pushback I got (and still sometimes get) for being consistent in my politics

[glitchy-haha]

Listen know the year just started like a day ago and I said that I would try to not rant as much this year but I hope everyone who even remotely uses the terms "Fandom police/Fanpol/Fancop" and "Acab includes fandom police" unironically in 2025 and beyond that please fuck off and block this account one time because I have a lot to say to you bitches and I would personally rather not embrace rage this year

[ihopethatyoureasleep]

wait yall actually believe that either one of the winchester siblings had a harder/worse childhood than the other and that they weren't both abused and neglected in different ways

[prancingpedris]

Not to wade into Discourse (TM) but the number of club legends that have been pushed out of their clubs in recent years through absolutely no fault of their own just has me so jaded and cynical about the idea of players sticking with a club in general but especially because they 'love' it or 'would be hated by the fans if they left.' While I WANT that to be the case football now is purely a business. While it's more to us as fans this is their job, they are not a family, and they will leave if they get a better offer. It's not a comment on their character if they do imo.

[butwhatifidothis]

Things that the Completely Innocent Edelstan Server have done that warrants absolutely no self-reflection:

Calling a woman "nominally bi" for liking mlm ships over wlw ones in one specific fandom:

Calling someone a pedo and alt-right:

Calling an open asexual woman a homophobic Christian who hates lesbians:

Saying literally anyone who "shows disrespect" towards Dorothea, a fictional woman who isn't real, must hate women:

Imagining "AU's" of horrific real-life events for a gotcha for fandom arguments, while accusing "Mooners" of being Holocaust deniers:

Calling a (hypothetical) black woman wrong for preferring Dimitri over Edelgard, because Dimitri is "representative of deities worshipped by white supremacists" - I say hypothetical black woman because the woman in question isn't black. Also blatantly admitting to trying to stalk someone to find out their race and gender:

Insisting that a female user is actually some other male redditor pretending to be a woman:

Accusing a user of being an incestual necrophiliac:

Saying that Rhea fans overlook her being a groomer:

Casually joking about killing a real, breathing woman:

And remember, if anyone tries to say that maybe the server should back off and stop doing stuff like this?

The server has done nothing wrong. Everyone else started everything. So there is no reason for them to be civil towards the people they have spread such rancid accusations about, for months, if not years. Revealing what they've been saying in their discord about people is wrong, because everything they've said in the discord was fair to say - they shouldn't know what's said about them. And what was said about them wasn't why they responded to the discord; it's all because they hate Edelgard, and no other reason.

Like I said before: completely hinged behavior, nothing to see here i promise

[rioblitzle]

i guess im not too involved in the zelda fandom cause seeing a post about rabid totk defenders is wild to me. from my perspective people were singing that game's praises for 2 months total before it fell to the "popular game bad actually" criticism wave and i don't think i've seen anyone say positive things about totk since then lmfao

[himbopunk]

anyways potential headcanon ideas aside i do think like. to me the idea of 'it does feel violating sometimes but the fact of the matter is this is the other guys body as much as yours at this point, you have to learn to walk a balance of both being aware and responsible for what other guy does and also separating yourself from it to feel normal to any degree. your body is both yours and his, it belongs to you except for when it doesnt, but you both are always culpable for the actions taken with it' is not the vibe that people are running with w lucanis and spite never occurred to me cuz its the reality people do live with and its one thats familiar to me. is this making any sense

[tothequeerphenomena]

Mouthwashing fandom normally: Full of children (Me included) and people who do the "holier than thou" type shit

Mouthwashing fandom when you disagree with someone's ship:

i cannot tell what the tone of this is help

[welcometoteyvat]

been half typing up too many complaining posts lately I need to actually finish a fic and then i'll have something with actual substance to post

[aroaessidhe]

2024 reads / storygraph

Exit Plans for Teenage Freaks

YA contemporary + a little sff

follows a boy who suddenly finds himself able to teleport when he walks through doors, often against his will

and has to figure that out while dealing with a new crush, the end of high school and the queer club, and figuring out whether he definitely wants to train to be an ASL interpreter like his father

[tokencisgirl]

i'm not sure if i really want more online friends outside of the people already inside my circle atp honestly because tldr; Discourse

[rollercoasterwords]

reading the first edition of whipping girl (2007) and getting to the last ch where serano talks abt her current observations on queer activism and then makes predictions abt what the future might look like

well she certainly was right wasn't she!!!

[nicespam1]

once in a while i think about the steven peedee connie friendship trio that never was

[pyrobassist]

every time i open any random non-radfem blog i immediately stumble upon dozens of posts about girl dick and het "queer" sex and kinks and cock and balls-