#i feel like i made some wild assumptions about them 😭

[rejectedbytheempty]

one bed trope with tf141

(only it’s very realistic and entirely platonic)

price sleeps with his arms folded over his chest, hat tucked over his eyes. weirdly, it seems like he doesn’t move at all when he sleeps, and maybe you would think he was dead if not for the horrendous snoring he does.

ghost doesn’t sleep well, and he certainly doesn't like sharing beds with anyone. he’d rather sleep on the floor or just disappear for the night, coming back at the ass crack of dawn to stand ominously at your side of the bed with a cup of coffee for you.

gaz has a whole bedtime routine, especially when he has access to running water and a single person bathroom. finally gets to bed after an hour of skincare and hair care, but he smells so good you can almost forgive the fact that he almost pushed you off the bed in the middle of the night.

soap is a crazy sleeper, and that’s a fact. he’s all over the bed, one second he’s hugging you like some kind of oversized teddy bear and the next he’s somehow turned himself around and his feet are in your face. even worse, he snores almost as bad as price. no one wants to sleep with soap.

[wandagcre]

SAM & HER GF & COREFOUR IN CHRISTMAS HEADCANONS PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!

christmas with the core four as sam's girlfriend 🎄

Note: this had become a christmas special writing hhh i hope you like it nonetheless <3

whether you have a tradition or not during christmas time, you'll certainly have a lively extension of a family now that you're sam's girlfriend!

you ask sam what you should prepare and she simply says "your presence is much needed of course, then some clothes and finally, hope for the best for the sake of your sanity"

you chuckle at sam's words. it was between a lighthearted joke and reality. the 3/4 of the gang is full of expressive and loud personalities but you already met them and hung out, so you know you're in for a (good) ride 🫶🏼

but thankfully, you're already welcomed so you thought your previous worries were silly. chad goes for a special handshake, then mindy and tara for a warm hug and how are you's <3 it was genuine too

sam is already smiling at the sight of you as she puts your bags away, how you're getting along with them in christmas style. she has known the twins for so long and was ecstatic to finally continue celebrating it with her sister, and now with someone special — you.

after settling in, you're surprised that they actually cooked? not because of their skills but them combined is a hazard and their brain cells cancelling out each other. sam chimed in soon as she caught the conversation, "hey what does that say about me then! >:( i instructed them carefully when they started cooking,"

rest of the gang laughed, took no offense to your assumption. they said that you were absolutely right. in fact, tara reveals she almost did the classic switch up - salt over sugar - all because she got immersed at their in between conversations to which you join laughing at.

it's so diverse! full of everyone's favorite dishes at christmas time instead of the traditionally expected dishes. you told them that this was such a good idea and made things even more heartwarming to celebrate. they smile and chad rubs your back, "of course. we're our own little family. we do it according to our favorite picks and sharing it... in a way feels like you're sharing love, too. it makes it even more special." mindy butts in, "not bad, brother."

tara agrees and says chad definitely has his moments.

then! from your back, apparently sam sneaked in and smoothly glides another dish - your own favorite! she looks anywhere else except your eyes, "you didn't know the theme and you deserve a slot in this tradition," she murmured and tara adds, "so that's what you've been burning your hands for?" your eyes well up in affection. you press a chaste kiss to which the gang gagged at 😭

"no mistletoe for you two!" - they reprimanded you

trying eggnogs in discreet - perpetuated by the twins, specifically by chad (unknowingly made them after mindy said "go wild, surprise me") and immediately regretted her words. after things cooled down (re: woodsboro and new york mess) they decided to bring it up, the carpenter sisters weren't safe and so were you!

sam looking at the sidelines, suspiciously smiling and seemingly anticipating. you took more than a sip unknowingly, then soon as it hit your tastebuds, your face was contorted in disgust. the women started laughing. chad says "don't hate the brits!"

sam says in your defense, "you know they eat baked beans with dry sausages and bread right?" tara agrees with ease, saying that's a fair point and flips off the twins for the same surprise they did last year. adding to the chaos, you firmly say, "yeah! it offended my tastebuds. i thought this was a christmas tradition not a frat initiation!"

the core four loved your response 😭 sam included, was laughing hard and gasping for air. it was witty and the twins playfully retort that it was extreme of you to accuse!

sam couldn't stop smiling and laughing oh my god somebody help her facial muscles! it's permanently stitched to her at this point

mindy loves the banter. she nudges you and says that sam is partially getting her lick back. but mainly it was in your honor, to which she gags at because you guys are subtly so sweet already 🥹

they introduce you to some clichés, but with a twist! gingerbread house making but five of you will pick names, not revealing them and within an hour u should dedicate it to them. they're all wonky creations but decent. sam can't do much to control it anyway as they try to sabotage everyone, including yours 😭 the clean up will be tedious for sure!

you're surprised that tara decorated yours in your favorite color and how she noticed since it wasn't that obvious and yet she noticed a pattern apparently, it shows with your stuff and clothing! i think hers are perfected, standard-like creation and you see her stickman drawing attempt of two persons - apparently it's you and sam

sam points at it, "is that us? why am i smaller?" and tara grumbles. "this is for your girlfriend can you leave my masterpiece alone?"

you agree with tara who grinned widely at your approval, "be nice. i think it's an adorable touch to this homey gingerbread house!"

mindy adds knowingly, "also, sam, i hate to break it to you but you're an absolute puddle of baby around your girlfriend, that's why you're smaller - duh. your real height is not equivalent to your height there." and tara spreads her arms, exclaiming 'exactly!'

chad looks back and forth, trying to grasp the context. "oh! oh! i get it," he clasps his hands rather loudly. "you're so right for that. and you let her call you sammy?"

you giggle at sam's petulant pout at the teasing but she doesn't deny anything. "whatever," she grumbles and when you wanted to appease it with a kiss as you lean in to sam, the 3/4 are already making gagging and vomiting sounds 😭✋🏼

watching movies based on your favorite christmas themed movies! (insert an obscure movie u randomly hyperfixated or a popular one from your country) usually it was a matter of rock paper and scissors for fairness, but since you're new they gave you a special pass and played your choice of movie <3

your pick was new to them. therefore they were entranced at the plot and you enjoy the commentary and how they analyzed it, like little kids during the movie time in class. you look to your side and see that sam's eyebrows were bunched and she ate in sloth-like manner 😭

baby was so focused! it was funny how she looked like that while her arm is hooked around yours and leaned to you comfortably. sam says i can see why this is appealing to you... it's so you and unique and it matched your energy and she happily rambles - much to 3/4's surprise

not because sam is silently attentive but it's their first time to see her so open and carefree with her partner and so they have this faint, knowing smiles on their faces. they're happy that sam finally have found her person that she feels comfortable and honest with🥺

as you go to your respective rooms (obviously you're rooming with sam) mindy shouts from the hall, "please be respectful and let's keep the jolly, wholesome spirit alive! we do not need anymore virgo babies,"

tara visibly wanted to vomit and covered her ears. chad looks at his twin confused, "since when do you have beef with virgos?"

meanwhile you and sam were stuck in chuckling and was flustered. "i didn't even think of that!" you shout back to mindy who replies with sure, jan. as you and sam settle in her room, you take her hand and swung them gently, your gaze intent on sam's brown ones. "thank you for having me. i felt so loved." both of your hearts felt so full. your silly smile is unerasable and so is sam's, you find it endearing how the two of you probably look like fools together.

and sam pouts cutely at your words. "no, thank you baby for being here. it's only a first of many more to come." she retrieved something - a mistletoe - on her pocket. sam placed it above you two, and you smirk at her sly action. "let's seal it with a kiss then?" you say to which sam eagerly responds to and met your lips with no hesitation.

[officialtayley]

It’s crazy that some people in the fandom dislike you and Kels for shipping two people who were actually in a fucking relationship.

I feel like it’s the same people who spent years denying they were together even when it was painfully obvious and then when they confirmed it came out with the whole “I just wanted to respect their privacy” as though it was some great invasion of their privacy to use a bit of critical thinking and put the pieces together that they’ve given us.

i used to be very aggressive back in the day so i can understand why i'm disliked 😭

but yeah, it was all those people who denied it 24/7 and would call us every name under the sun over it. even that big acc w 12k followers........ all of us ruined crystal clear for them back then because we made it about tayley (they tweeted about this on their ult and i've never forgotten)

and then also certain fans made the most awful assumptions about us and wild ass claims that weren't even true at all, but if we denied it we were liars, so it was truly awful back then tbh, mostly in 2019-2021 is when the twitter stans were the worst about us tbh. very glad that's pretty much over. but it made me very happy to just have the few pmore fan friends i have and i don't really seek any others out unless it happens naturally

[forcebookish]

seriously thank you for saying that cuz if I have to read the word "manipulate" one more time I'm gonna scream 😭 I mean there is obviously some of that going on (the boston/top one being the most obvious) but they take every normal interaction and act like there is some big elaborate scheme. I mean top and mew couldn't even date/get to know eachother in peace cuz it was like some wild insane concept to the fandom lmao.

you wanna know the craziest thing about that post, anon? it was about sand. and not his actually manipulative shit with giving ray the recording and lying about not caring that ray is in love with mew, but this:

there were links in the original post (which i don't know where to find again nor would i share) that i didn't click on so i don't know how baseless their initial assumption was that gmmtv "pressured" the writers into "woobifying" sand or what the other thing linked was that made them change their minds, because i got too annoyed just skimming it. (AND someone who either i blocked or they blocked me, idr, was tagged/had contributed to the idea, so obviously they were talking nonsense lol i'd seen enough.)

but after seeing how sand acts when he's actually lying and being manipulative, these people had the gall to say that when he is in the heat of the moment, desperate and worried about this person he cares for who basically just blew up his life and was going to drive under the influence - not only because of something that sand did (which he now obviously regrets and feels guilty about - another thing that this post didn't acknowledge) but because in the end, as always, ray cares more about mew than sand.

sand shared that recording out of anger, both at top and ray, and now he's facing the consequences. now he's learned that he didn't get what he wanted out of it and he hurt ray more than he'd intended. he's frustrated. he's scared. he's not fucking thinking about how he can squirrel his way out of getting 'in trouble' (?) for the audio, because he's already facing the trouble right now, he's thinking about how he can prevent ray from killing himself and/or someone else through vehicular manslaughter.

it's so insulting to first as an actor that they would think that this moment, these lines, and these emotions aren't genuine but simply to cover his ass. to "woobify" himself. and these are their favorite characters? their favorite actors? seriously, what the fuck?

also, the conclusion of the post was that "everyone is an asshole," which is especially baffling because... how do you oversimplify and overcomplicate something at the same time? they're just twenty-two year old queer dudes going through some of the highest highs and lowest lows of their lives, they're not criminal masterminds who turn off their feelings and weave webs of lies to get their way. some of them are worse than others, at least one of them is truly just an asshole (we know who i mean by now lol), but they're people with emotions who fuck up.

they're just boys. they're just dumb boys.

thanks for dropping in, anon💕 i wasn't planning to get into it, but i'm glad i did because woof.

[bisluthq]

Taylor obviously writes autobiographically a lot and is inspired by her own life but I really hate the idea that she can’t take a scenario and write it and it has to be about some specific guy and something that legit happened to her because she’s said since like pre debut she makes a lot of things up. As is normal and expected because she’s a writer yk? //

I 100% agree. People taking her lyrics as definite fact leads to a lot of people making wild assumptions but passing them off as concrete fact (e.g., she lost her virginity at Jake's sisters' house, etc). Speaking of which, I have noticed people are like especially presumptuous about her and Jake (and also her and Joe) I guess because despite their being SO much music written about it, they weren't very public so people feel the need to draw their own conclusions (in both scenarios tbf). Like it very frequently veers off into fanfic territory (almost approaching like Haylor levels, though thank God never Kaylor levels😭)

I just find it a disservice to her art?? Like she’s obviously got hyper confessional songs - it’d be delulu to deny that - but a lot of what she writes is fictionalized and metaphorical and some of it is straight up made up. Even in her made up songs, she obviously draws on personal experiences and things family and friends have gone through because that’s what good writing requires - otherwise you’re not gonna write anything especially believable or emotional. But not every fucking song is a play by play. Also, most of her songs - obviously she has entirely self-written ones - have co-writers. What that means is while the idea may be hers, and the bulk of the lyrics are hers, obviously her co-writers contribute ideas and images. I don’t understand why we’d discredit her and her collaborators’ creativity in favor of making it seem like dudes fuck songs into Taylor.

[narcpocalypse]

I wasn't going to respond to this post initially but I feel like it's important that I do. I don't want to cause unnecessary drama but I would like to address this

You honestly proved my point here by saying what you said, specifically that this is a universal mental health experience. Though, I completely agree.

Let me explain.

I have PTSD, Autism and other disorders that are comorbid with NPD. I have such specific trauma from being Autistic that I feel like my whole life I've been seen as a weirdo or assumed to be shitty because of my awkwardness. This trauma caused me to develop an unhealthy defense mechanism of feeling the need to prove myself constantly. It completely broke my ego and the way I view myself is distorted. The highs and lows are nothing like BPD or CPTSD as in these moments I don't fear abandonment, but I fear myself. The fear can consume you to the point where you do act out and unintentionally hurt others because rose colored glasses make you believe it's right until you take them off. Having to battle that deep insecurity to make sure you don't hurt others not only drives you crazy, but drives everyone else crazy and it causes a loop until you take action to change.

You're probably thinking, "so many people experience that too". True. Completely true. Exactly. But why do you absolutely need to point that out? Why is it necessary to have a comparison? You're making the assumption that I am saying this is ONLY a narcissistic experience which that'd be whack as hell

This is where my point is proven. You're reading my post about experiences I've had as a mentally ill person, but assume in bad faith just because I mentioned my NPD. That is why I made the post in the first place. It's just a different way of experiencing a trauma we share

Other folks are treated very similarly like u mentioned, but if they were to mention their specific disorder within said experience you wouldn't say anything, right? Unless you'd have the same attitude towards someone else (which tbh I don't understand bc everyone has unique experiences w this so being open about what disorder it stems from is fine)

If I removed the word narcissist, what would it change?

The stigma doesn't come from our unwillingness to change. The stigma comes from people associating us with abusers that have an unwillingness to change. And then you call us out for victim blaming when we're just spreading awareness on outdated terminology, not invalidating your abuse

I want you to think about your own words for a second. Think about your hypocrisy.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder doesn't equal abuse in any way, that's basically every mental illness, disorder, disability, ot lack there of. Anyone can be abusive. Some asshole (not you) just decided one day to use our disorder to label an abusers self centeredness and everyone just ran with it like it didn't hurt anyone.

Also I wanted to point out "they frequently seek therapy to validate their narcissism rather than treat it" is such a WILD take like yes people do go to therapy to get a diagnosis? And the reason it gets untreated is bc there's literally no treatment for us. It's only stigma. I've been told I'm not a narcissist bc I'm not abusive so I couldn't even get treatment if I tried. I'm in recovery on my own because I don't want to hurt others. I wish I had resources to make the process easier. That perspective is just rooted in ignorance, blaming the disordered person instead of the system

Idk what "demanding recognition for it" means either like. Yeah I would like to be seen as a good person and validated for putting in effort damn 😭 I'm not gonna beg for forgiveness like a sopping wet pathetic yt Republican

Anyway I'm just trying to exist. You don't have to like or understand my disorder to just leave us alone. If you rlly stick to believing in narc abuse that's ur prerogative but don't go out of your way to make posts like this. You're just wasting ur energy on something you're ultimately gonna disagree with

Being a Narcissist means you've most likely faced people assuming the worst of you 24/7. Unintentionally or intentionally. I have done fucked up shit and it's okay to wonder about me repeating past cycles bc I'm not excempt HOWEVER. It's like EVERYTHING I do makes people question my morality now. It's like I'm expected to fuck up eventually. It feels so suffocating and like a ticking time bomb. It genuinely makes me believe it to be true. Like my destiny is failure :(

[sparklycardigan]

Another ask related to tags you wrote yesterday, haha! You were talking about how both Rory and Jess seem to have limited emotional intelligence (despite their formidable book smarts!) and the way Rory shuts her feelings in metaphorical boxes and Jess just shoves the whole mess onto the top shelf (I LOVE those analogies and they made me laugh so much!), and it's SO true! 😂😭. My poor disaster nerds! But anyway, the purpose of this ask is to note that it's interesting to me how Jess seems much more emotionally mature in Season 6 and the Revival (giving sound advice to both Rory AND Luke and talking Luke through his relationship issues, no less!), and I'm wondering how much of that has to do with his writing. Like maybe he found that writing was a good way to work through a lot of his thoughts and feelings- like when you see it externally in black-and-white, it can be easier to organize and see connections, the way you'd analyze somebody else's literature (which Jess was already used to doing, with all his copious annotating).

And that brings a whole new dimension to his advice that Rory write a book specifically about herself and her mom. Because not only is it a "cool story" and something she feels passionate about, but it forces her to look at her life in a way that Rory is usually all too reluctant to do.

I feel like I should start paying you at this point, your asks are like therapy for me. It took me a bit of time to answer this in a way that I would like because I feel extremely connected to that particular part of both of their personalities which makes the following the only appropriate way to start the expected rambling session: Today On Yet Another Episode Of Me Projecting On Gilmore Girls Characters.

First of all, I'm really glad you find my tags somewhat enjoyable, I have a lot of fun writing them so this feels like a nice addition to that experience. Also, I'm immensely grateful to you for sending this ask because it tackles something that I've been writing about recently. I've been thinking about the way different sorts of media affect me and what is it exactly that I gain from each of those art forms respectively, so I tried to put my thoughts in "metaphorical boxes" if you will, and it's not working that well, but there are a few connections I was able to pick up on, so I'm going to highlight some of them here, in relation to Jess and Rory of course because projecting on them is a personality trait for me apparently. Let's again split this into paragraphs, that's how I function the best:

1. Literati & Books

2. Jess Mariano & Writing A Book Of His Own

1. Reading books unfortunately doesn't automatically amount to possession of greatly desired emotional intelligence despite the basic and logical assumption, even if the person approaches the material with devotion or is shown to be analysing particular characters and their stories in depth. I think that for Jess, books have always been more about escapism (which is something you don't have to be conscious of for it to be true). Something he found comfort in, more like a distraction from his personal reality than a chance to deal with himself and I feel like this is correct for a lot of people ("I live in two worlds. One is a world of books." immediately comes to mind, it definitely goes for Rory too). There's reason why the "Earnest has only lovely things to say about you" scene is shot in a way that it's shot in. It just screams romanticism, I can't help but think of the Thoreau quote used in Dead Poets Society, the "I went to the woods because I wanted to live deliberately" one. That's why Jess and Rory's place is completely cut off from the rest of the town, all natural and wild and free. It's at the same time anywhere and nowhere (there are no traces of either Stars Hollow or New York resembling qualities surrounding them, this is where their worlds collide, this is where they can be themselves). It could be anywhere in the world and it wouldn't make a difference. It's no wonder that's where they are shown to have detailed conversations about books first, books are a form of escapism for both of them, especially when they don't feel like dealing with their own feelings, because what better way to get away from your own problems than to think about the problems of fictional people? (yes, it's messed up and illogical, but it's what people do, speaking in a "running away from things" wider sense now) I'm happy you find the analogy I used fitting, I thought it works for them quite well (+ it's a tiny bit entertaining to think about it in that manner). Rory is somebody who relies heavily on plans and schedules, it makes sense for her to try to divide her emotions and put them in boxes and try to arrange them so they fit her personal preferences. Amy March connection again!!!!!!Quote: "I believe we have some power over who we love, it isn't something that just happens to a person." to which Laurie replies: "I think the poets might disagree." which leads me to Jess. I think he's pretty well aware that he can't control what he's feeling in any way and he absolutely despises it. And that's on him "shoving the emotional annoying madness along with the books he has no intention of rereading way up high on the highest shelf" (I just love it when I quote myself🥰). There's quite a bit of denial involved with Rory, she probably knows deep down that she can't do much about the nature of her emotions. The point is: they are both emotionally unintelligent, just in a different way (which is exactly what makes them clash at times).

*This whole paragraph is just further proof that I need to write that Literati/Amy & Laurie post as soon as I possibly can.

Small addition: the first Literati kiss also happens in a place that cuts them off from the rest of the world AND it's also surrounded by nature. I just think that the romanticism of it all. And of course the Pride and Prejudice of it all (okay, time to write that post).

2. And here we are, post-development Jess at last. I agree with you one hundred percent on this one because the wish to understand myself and my emotions a little better is exactly what got me writing in the first place and now, I'm a s6 Jess myself, fortunately for me (and everyone around me probably). There's this wonderful quality to writing that makes the majority of things much more understandable than they seem to be before they get to meet the everlasting friend that is paper (technology what?) and I think that's exactly what happened to Jess. I also think him to be extremely big on words (internally). It's probably buzzing in that head of his (and let's face it: there's probably a lot of background music added to the mix too), either way it's insanely loud for him most of the time. Offering a bit of that loudness (that's essentially himself) to something visible must have been a tremendous relief for him (and he does look a lot more relaxed in a physical sense s6 forward too, kudos to Milo for that). I love the way you word it: "seeing it externally in black and white", that's exactly it!!!!! Actually seeing it as something existent, not something that he made up or something that he couldn't understand, surely made it easier to think about it objectively. Almost like observing himself as a fictional character? Maybe his mind processed the writing like it would any other book? It would undoubtedly be a familiar route for him. Suppose he didn't even know how much he was letting out when he first started working on it (which seems likely). Maybe he realized later on, after publishing it, closer to the revival timeline, how beneficial the whole thing was for him. The possibilities are endless, that's the beauty of all of this after all.

[breninarthur]

I apologise for responding in Welsh to you, you didn't say you weren't fluent, but clearly I shouldn't have assumed. Full reply under the cut!

Looks like you got it, but I'll translate it word for word just in case: "Sorry, but hiraeth doesn't mean that 😭 #i completely understand the sentiment #really i do #but hiraeth is a mix of longing and homesickness #it just feels MORE than that to us #the english words don't have the emotion and pure feeling in them #but still"

So when you say that I see hiraeth as "only homesickness" — I don't. If you were to translate the word homesick into Welsh, you would use some form of hiraeth. You would probably do the same the other way around. But hiraeth has much more cultural weight in the Welsh language. It's just... difficult to explain. It's homesickness, longing, yearning, nostalgia... idk, it just is what it is. It can cover some of what you said! The grief, the sadness... but the rage and scorn paragraphs just genuinely don't apply. Not that hiraeth can't be angry, it's just not a catch-all term for patriotism or anger in the face of prejudice and anti-Welsh hate.

Like, I'm sorry, but it's not rigidly homesickness specifically for Wales. It usually is, because the Welsh language is pretty specific to Wales! But if I move to Sweden, then move back, I can absolutely feel hiraeth for Sweden 😅 Because it's not just about land, it's about home, and home can mean a lot of things.

It's difficult not to read some of your reply as assumptions about me. I "have no trouble from the English"? You mention in your original post English people telling Welsh people to "stop speaking that foreign muck"... who do you think that happens to? I remember being pelted with stones as a kid by young English holidaymakers who called me a sheep-shagger. I love and am grateful that I speak Welsh, but I promise you it doesn't make life perfect. Listen, we're both Welsh, I'm sure we go through a lot of the same shit.

I am originally from North Wales (not there anymore - dw i'n hiraethu amdano!), and went to a Welsh-medium school, yes. But for you to see a native speaker tell you what a word means and respond with "you've just never experienced it then" is... wild.

To go through your post... I never had to learn Welsh as a second language, no, but the generations before me were still punished for it, my own grandmother was caned for it. And I grieve for others, moreso after moving to the south.

My accent's been made fun of, my pronunciations corrected, the stereotype affects us all. I feel incredible sadness about both the lack of education about our history, beliefs, and traditions, and the lack of knowledge available in general about them. I don't quite believe that hiraeth as a word should be restricted exactly to Welsh people, but of course I get mad when people misuse it and treat it as an aesthetic – which is most the time non-Welsh people use it! Really, they just have no need for it, they've got their own words, right? It's odd. And like when people say it means a longing for a pre-colonised Wales... yikes.

I've seen a lot of that type of stuff, and to be honest, that's probably why I responded to you the way I did; a knee-jerk reaction. Though I never intended to make you angry or insult you. Honestly, I never really intended anything at all. I just responded without thinking, I don't think I even expected a reply. So I'm sorry for upsetting you. It's a topic we both care about, which is nice, really. But maybe I should learn to ignore things I disagree with 🤷

Listen listen listen listen LISTEN

If you are not WELSH you CANNOT use the word ‘Hiraeth’. I am Welsh, and I am telling you that the fact that non-Welsh people are taking this word, throwing it around like it’s nothing and turning it into some fucking aesthetic is deeply offensive and incredibly disrespectful.

Hiraeth does not have an English translation because it is not meant for English people.

The English were the ones who colonised us, stamped all over our culture, beat our language out of us and Hiraeth is a type of grief, scorn, rage and longing for the Wales that could have been.

Hiraeth is the grief we feel when we have to learn our own language instead of speaking it naturally because generations before us were punished for speaking Welsh.

Hiraeth is the rage we feel when we leave Wales and have our accents made fun of, when we are ‘corrected’ on our pronunciations of English words, when we are stereotyped as being ‘uneducated working class scum’.

Hiraeth is the sadness we feel when we realise that we know very little about our own history, our own pantheon, our own traditions.

And finally, Hiraeth is the scorn we feel in the modern day when yet again, someone is trying to take something of ours away from us and appropriate it into their aesthetic.

Hiraeth burns like a fire in all of us whether we want it to or not.

Hiraeth is for those Welsh children who were minding their own business only to have their English classmates bully it out of them. It’s for the Welsh speakers who get told by the English - IN THEIR OWN FUCKING COUNTRY - to “stop speaking that foreign muck”. Hiraeth is for the Welsh people who have been conditioned to be so ashamed of their nationality and culture that they mask it all with an English accent to fit in and avoid conflict. Hiraeth is for people like me, who had to learn what should have been their mother-tongue.

If you think you can use ‘Hiraeth’ without being Welsh, without growing up in Wales and experiencing this… I can very confidently and not very politely advise you to fuck yourself bloody.