#i could explain this better but not quite sure how to LMAO jts still early
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skeletxr · 2 years ago
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#rambling in the tags about smthn i dont want ppl to misinterpret#but as much as aromanticism is valid and everything#i think we should start talking about the fine line and overlays of aro specs and ppl who have avoidant/disorganized attachment styles#for 10 years i thought i was aro#or demiromantic or something bc i didnt think i had much capability of loving nor was i interested in it#but no now im realizing no i want to be romantic i want it so bad i want affection i want all of that#i just have a fearful avoidant attachment style so its difficult for me to really REALIZE and accept my feelings#all the while being terrified of being abandoned and forgotten about and unloved#had no clue what attacment styles were until a few months ago and im like oh thats why i feel that way. it makes more sense#than saying im aro#not saying its impossible to have a dismissive or fearful avoidant attachment AND be aro.#i 100% believe my mom is aro but she is also dismissive avoidant. shess okay without love and affection in her life#she feels too suffocated when love is too much#bht no sir not i not my fearful avoidant ass.#and i think its important to educate people on that esp if they feel like arospec isnt an identity they feel comfy with#bc its like? but AM i really that??#i could explain this better but not quite sure how to LMAO jts still early#just felt like rambking about that. arospecs u are soooo valid#anyone questioning if theyre arospec look up attachment styles. its rreally helped me out#text
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