#i can't imagine the effect these have on young kids online

[mime-rodeo]

i fucking hate it when filters change my face shape and tries to make me look more conventionally attractive. and i'm not talking about beauty filters. sometimes i want to use a filter with freckles or colored eyes or devil's horns, and it fucking makes my nose slimmer and my skin smoother and my eyes bigger. i despise it so much. why is it so hard to exist online without changing every unique aspect of yourself? why are fun things slowly being turned into insecurities?

[eraldkarma]

Ok so my hyper fixation on aphmau has sparked u again, I've decided to share my little Au with the world because my friends are getting tired of hearing about a minecraft roleplay from... oh god it's been that long? Jeez.

Anyway here is what I'm changing about the base cannon of mystreet before I throw in any crazy AUs like Ein being a decent person and living with Aph and Sylvanna during S2 of PDH or mystreet Dante getting stuck in MCD when everyone ditched him.

So I don't know I can fit my whole four years worth of brain rot in one post so we are going to start with the big blaring walking red flag himself Aaron.

What needs to change?

So so muck For starters, apparently, Aphmau needed to listen to sylvannas internet safety lectures a bit more because SHE STILL GIVES A STRANGER HER ACTUAL PHONE NUMBER!!! Sorry sorry this is a post about Aaron not how nieve aphmau is.

Anyway the guys 18 and is dating aphmau who is probably 14/15. This guy is going off to college in a year and aphmau still talks her stuffed cat and hides in a closet before her first day of high school.

Also at first I defended Aaron becouse I thought he just didn't know how old she was when they were strangers texting each other but they have a whole conversation about how nervous she is ABOUT HER FIRST DAY OF HIGH SCHOOL! Sorry again 😔 but if I was Aaron and I found out that the person I was talking to was actually a young girl who was probably fourteen or fifteen (younger actually since they've known each other and have been texting for atleast a couple months) and knowing that I am seventeen or eighteen would break it off and probably unfriend them not keep texting them about it and then start to ask them to reveal there real name.

Then there's the whole like ultima thing I know it wasn't actually written in until like season 4 of mystreet but I have a question 🤔 if darek knew what kind of life was in store for his son having the curse if he feels so bad about having to isolate his son if he knew the curse is a possibility why have him? Why risk have biological children? Or why not stop after milisasa since for some reason the curse only effects the males of a blood line. (You're telling Me the lycan family has never had an all female generation? Is the curse just dormant in females?) I'm changing that we need to change dark put him on the list right above Sylvanna but under KC.

There's also like why are you the alpha of the werewolf pack? Like I get it in highschool but after in season five? You don't know anything about the culture and Daniel ran the highschool pack for four years you don't have to be the alpha now? I genuinely think that was from Jason wanting his self insert to be the ' powerful hot alpha oc trademark do not steal'

So how an I gonna fix this?

Well we are going to start with Aaron's age, He's aphmaus age or well hes sixteen but so were Garothand Laurence. Plane and simple hes sixteen hes a softmore who was homeschooled is life becouse of his secret ultima curse. He does switch schools temporarily for S2 of PHD becouse dark was worried about how frequently Aaron was loosing control and how he still hadn't had a grasp on the curse, I'm gonna get to that hold tight.

That leads me into my next fix how Aph and Aaron met! They were put in the same online schooling class because Rachel is a bissness major, and Sylvanna is the type of mom to make you cry when she helps you study for your spelling bee (she loves her daughter but she does not have enogh patients to be a teacher.) Anyway they meet in the online class and find out they're both into the same things including a popular Online game and being lonely homeschooled kids latch onto each other, (I would imagine that Aaron went under a different name for the homeschooling program since he can't have the media tracking him down or asking questions y'know?) Then once they get to the age were they have phones reluctantly trade Instagram (aph made a separamount. Just for talking to Aaron and not posting pics because her mom follows her mian and Aaron makes his very first acount and only follows aph who goes by Shu on that account.)

Now to fix the lycann family.

Let's start with the curse, like I said makes no sense as to why Dark still had kids with Rachel biological when he Knew what his kids would go through. So the ultima curse effects all offspring male or female and it isn't usually as strong as Aaron's. In my head not being able to control there eyes was grown out of around five years old to seven years old and then there eyes stop turning red without wanting them to they still pose the danger it's just not that hard to control. It's like potty training they learn as they grow up. But for whatever reason Aaron never really grew out of the uncontrollable eyes thing, infact they were almost always red when he was young. This scared Darek who grew up on these stories about what will happen to them if the curse is ever discovered in they're family blood line, (which is why they still hide that they're werewolves.)

Aaron lived his life in solitude while millisa got to go out and experience the world she got to go the boarding schools in Germany and go with mom and dad on they're business trips while he stayed in they're house in falcon claw with either one of his parents or trusted staff. (This is not how millisa sees it BTW but we'll talk about her later.

I hope you enjoyed my brain dump.

[peaches-and-pity-points]

Tangled AU

I've never liked the isekai angle of Twisted wonderland much. I've deqveloped an alternative way of looking at things to suit my fancy.

Per the name; the player is in a tangled situation. The sole heir to a kingdom, stolen away in the dead of night as a baby and raised by the man (because twst) who took them. Maybe he was in love with the queen, spurned by her rejection and took the only child she'd ever have as penance. Maybe its closer to form and the queen took a plant he needed to keep himself young and alive indefinitely, and the child simply being around had that same effect. Something no one would notice if they weren't looking for it.

Your father home schooled you; taught you everything you know. He restricted your interactions with the outside world and any online activity. But he knew best. He loved you after all, he just wanted to keep you safe. He told you your mother died giving birth to you, that's why he's so protective. You grew up in a cottage, far away from society. The world was dangerous, he warned. You shouldn't trust anyone but him, especially other men! Anyone else might want to hurt you or steal you away.

Magic existed in fairy tails and nothing more, that's what he told you as you did all the cooking and all the chores. Then, one day, you woke up in a coffin to a cat weasel trying to strip you.

The place you come from? These people have never heard of it. Are you sure its real? Of course! Your father wouldn't have lied to you about that. You must have come from another world. You don't have any magic inherent to you, but my! You're a beast-master/tamer! Fear not, this fruity headmage will probably look for a way to send you home! Maybe! After all, the mirror said there's no where you belong!

And its right. You were stolen away from your actual family as an infant. You don't belong there anymore. You don't know them, and they don't know you're even alive. Your father kidnapped you as a baby for his own selfish purposes. You don't belong there. Its not a home or a place of love. Its a prison.

Thus the game's events unfold. Perhaps there's an epilouge of sorts, where you're seen on TV by your birth parents and your "father". You look so much like the queen, there's no doubt you're their child. The headmage is in for such a surprise when this royal couple appear in his office, demanding to see the prefect. They must be mistaken! The prefect isn't even from this world! But, ah... Their child was kidnapped as a baby, weren't they? W- Well, they don't even have magic? What's this? The queen too, is a beast-master/tamer? Oh, w- well... Oh. They-- They know the prefect's blood type, of any and all birth marks and that they may or may not be a girl (depending on the player)? That's disconcerning! Time to meet with them!

I can't imagine it goes smoothly... "You're our kid, actually and the man who raised you is really a monster and kidnapped you as a baby." Yikes. Tough break, prefect. You don't leave with them like they want you to, but they give you space to process this shit. Sharing this development with your friends is mostly fruitless. They offer you support and comfort, but there's not much they can really do for you.

A few nights later, and as Grim is getting snuggly in bed with his hench-human, they suddenly get up. They don't respond to anything he says and they nearly run him over when he gets in front of them! Then, they even go outside barefoot/in just their socks and sleep clothes! Really, its a good thing the school grounds are crawling with your stalkers-- Er, I mean, your friends! One of them catches you on your apparent way to the gates, and carry your ass back to their dorm for safe keeping.

When you wake up, you're wrapped snuggly in bed with Grim. Its just that its a housewarden's bed. After explaining to you what happened, everyone is wracking their brains on who would want to potentially kidnap you. Its strange. You don't remember anything out of the ordinary happening before going to bed. Just that... Well, you could have sworn you'd heard the lullaby your dad used to sing to you as a kid as you fell asleep. But that couldn't be related... Right?

[titan-god-helios]

can we stop using euphemisms to describe fat bodies please. "cuddly body" just say fat. "chubby" just say fat. "teddy bear-like" just say fat. "heavy" just say fat. "big-boned" just say fat. "well-fed" just say fat. "large" just say fat. "shorter than their weight" just say fat. "they've got a bit of a belly" just say fat. "lean challenged" (yes this is a thing i have seen used) JUST SAY FAT.

the more we use euphemisms to describe fat people and fat bodies, the more taboo being fat becomes and the more stigmatised it becomes. the use of euphemisms and dancing around saying plainly and simply that i was (and still am) fat harmed my relationship to my body so much in the past. i started to see the descriptor 'fat' as a morally and generally bad thing to be, when it really is just a descriptor with no moral weight or inherent goodness/badness.

and adding on to that, fatphobia in general doesn't make sense to me. it's the same basic principle of all discrimination - ostracise someone for something they can't control. discrimination by extension ALSO just doesn't make sense to me. if i was to put it into the context of something everyone can see as normal regardless of race or heritage or orientation or weight or whatever, like for example having brown hair, it just sounds silly. imagine living in a world where people treated people with darker hair like they treat fat people.

"look at her hair! it's so dark, she's let herself go." "oh my goodness his hair's almost black - he'll die any time soon, surely." "ugh my hair looks too dark today, i wish i could make it lighter, its so disgusting like this." "wow! his hair's so dark, i bet you he's so sad and chronically online lmao." "their hair is so brown, i bet you they have the tiniest dick known to mankind." "you know, you can get that dark shade lighter in two months flat if you really try hard enough - it'll come right off!" "ewwwww that's disgusting - look how dark their hair is. that's so repulsive."

it sounds stupid, no ?? and thats not even touching on people who can't lose weight due to general body type or a medical problem or because it's a side effect of their important medicine or whatever it is. personally, i've been fat as a relatively young kid all the way till now, and that's WITH me doing a shit ton of sports as a kid and eating well too, as well as relatively regular exercise and still eating well now. i don't lose weight easily, and i'm tempted to say that i *can't* lose weight. and as long as i'm healthy, i don't actually care too much about that. because being fat is just a natural state of the self for me, and for many others. i don't need to "fix" it, because being fat does NOT indicate me or anyone else being unhealthy (unless its sudden and there have been 0 changes to your lifestyle recently, then of course go see a doctor about it but otherwise a person's weight is in no way an indicator of their actual health) and that's that.

anyway fat isnt a bad word destigmatise the word fat please weight does NOT equal to or indicate health in the slightest stop targeting fat men and calling them incels or chronically online or making small-dick jokes - it not only hurts the fat guys themselves but (fat) trans guys and intersex people too and stop being mean to fat people

[atla-confessions]

I can't understand this community, I can't fathom being an adult that spends hours yelling and moping about fictitious romances making blog after blog and post after post I kind of want to name some of the biggest dunces here but I'd rather not since I don't want to deal with blogs the digital equivalent of mosquitos, I seriously can't imagine being an adult that willingly regurgitates the same exact talking points over and over to make a ship look favorable to villainous, I seriously cannot imagine making a dozen or so blogs to annoy or harass someone over a fictional ship, I seriously cannot imagine developing a "pick me" attitude just to mock others for whatever they ship Kataang and Zutara shippers are a bizarre bunch in this sea of projecting adults clinging so desperately to kids' romances, all this talk about rape discords, harassment, accusing each other of being PRO-COLONIZATION AND SLAVERY is so utterly stupid that I've convinced myself that many of the ZK and KA shippers bitching at each other must be nothing more but a few individuals running multiple blogs, and I think the activity of some of those blogs might add up since they're pleasuring themselves to their ships around the same time oone rational could dedicate enough energy to talk about "SOUTHERN RAIDERS" "EMBER ISLAND PLAYERS" "GENOCIDE OF AANG'S PEOPLE" and the intermixing of made-up cultures and take themselves seriously, I'm not in a good spot mentally and I've come to terms that burying myself in online culture is only self-destruction, I would argue that many of those shippers sit in a similar boat because honestly how could anyone give this much of a shit over literal nothingness? Zutara is not the end-all-be-all Feminist ship that would've changed how unfair human cultures and society are, Zutara shippers were robbed of nothing because it's an animated story that is relatively hurtful to people who's culture served as an inspiration to two American writers Kataang offers even less, it's the basic "the hero gets the girl" story that largely manifested because the grown men behind this orientalist show were.. mad, over teenagers shipping teenagers that don't exist, Kataang shippers are searching so desperately for a ship that I can't say much about over they look cute I guess, there's a sort of dog mentality with them they were just snap at anything Zutara related I want Zutara and Kataang shippers to stop for a moment, to not type anything witty or snarky or angrily at each other, do you think ATLA would've been a better ship if your preferred ship went along how YOU imagine it going it in your head or are you just trying to escape reality and the fact you'll only grow older by clinging on to a television show made for young children? ATLA is not a serious commentary on anything, if it made some commentary then it was by accident, these characters are horribly flat and their motives and behavior wholly depends on what the plot needs them to act as, this isn't to say that fiction has no impact on people's views, their ideals or even morals, because there are more casual viewers than those that try to disect every facet of a show, an episode, or promotional material In a sort of ironic way, by not opening their eyes to the stupidity of their ship wars, Zutara and Kataang shippers have allowed themselves to be influenced by these characters in a very childish, self-defeating way, by being so obsessed with teenage characters they've effectively reverted to those teenagers, always going back and fourth without making progress because unline a 'character' noone has a story progression, noone has to grow unless they want to, these shippers are willing to let them embarrass themselves infront of an audience of a small circle and those that merely wanted to just interact and engage with the fandom in a casual way

To the Mod running this blog, I am sorry for this word vomit but I wanted to express my thoughts and the second-hand shame I feel whenever I look at this circus of a community, it'll always be bizarre how dedicated people will become to fiction as adults when as children all ATLA is, was just a show you'd tune in to, nothing more, this is borderline delusion and fandom enables it, I can no longer enjoy ATLA as an adult and I have to wonder if the staff (writers, voice actors, editors) feel the same

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[layzeal]

hey, as a mature person of the right age (not a minor), how do you feel about teenagers reading books like mdzs? i was surprised to know an acquaintance who have watched cql then read the novel and manhua. She was the one who introduced me into cql, which i didn't watch since i dont like watching in general, i prefer reading. i have recently found the manhua then read the novel and briefly watched the show, i was surprised since she recc it to me a few years ago. thats when i realized that she must have been 12?? 13? if i guess right at that time. she even asked me if i read about Incense Burner, which i did skim since I'm still not comfy enough to read it, it feels like violating the couple i adore so much by witnessing such affectionate acts. I was just surprised, it didn't really sinked into me that people that young read sensitive topics as their introduction to various issues reflected in books. A lot of people, who are certainly old enough to read such material is still not mature and somehow manage to contract the whole story to their dialogue. She does know I like JC, he is so pathetic ( affectionate and condescending). And i really aint stopping her, i just wanna vent so pls feel free to ignore.

oof, so my initial reaction is definitely that... 12/13 is way too young to be reading mdzs :/ not even just because of the explicit sex scenes, but the story overall is not something i'd reccomend to to someone who is essentially a child

however, as someone who was also a 13 year old who interacted with content that was not suitable for me (in my case, horror and staged/drawn gore) i can understand the appeal. that's an age where pretty much everyone starts wanting to get away from the more kiddies stuff and interacting with more adult content, which they're likely not prepared to see. there's a whole generation of internet kids born in the 90s who can tell all sort of stories about that

so while it is not something she should have been reading, saying "hey you shouldn't read that" is likely to have the opposite effect you know? teenages will lie and search for content they're not supposed to see whether we like it or not, so... i guess, the only thing to do is talk to her and be like "hey, i know these stories sound really good and interesting. they are! but maybe it's best to wait a few more years, just so you can truly appreciate its content beyond the romance, since most of it might be too boring for you just now"

and... well, it wouldn't be a lie. i can't imagine a 13 year old having a good time reading through nie mingjue's empathy arc, or the guanyin temple. for as good as wangxian's romantic scenes are, they are also a very small part of the novel, and i think it's a disservice to the story if you skim the more political aspects and side-stories just to read the romance. it's not a good habit to develop when interacting with media yk? and best to not start doing so when young

you can try introducing her to more age-appropriate compelling material too. for as much as we clown on YA books, they ARE an important step for teenagers to start interacting with longer and more complex stories, even if they're not "good". you can start by reccomending the really good ones like The Hunger Games, and then asking what sort of thing interests her. there are also lots of asian media like mangas and webtoons to choose from too, and are more fitting for her age!

that age is... complicated, and you truly can't control what sort of thing they'll interact with. sometimes, they will end up seeing something upsetting and having to understand by themselves where their boundaries are. as long as they're not interacting with material that's too heavy and MOST IMPORTANTLY not being close to adults online who are aware she's a minor and still talk to her about these materials, it should be fine. 13 year olds will be 13 year olds, ya know

[dixiedingo]

I wanna talk about this because it's a real problem effecting mostly southern states, but I don't know where to start for empiracle data to make this for a video so I'll just talk here.

Tw: CSA

A lot of you might've noticed that the further south you go down, the lower the age of consent.

That's cause when your life expectancy was lower, it was normal to want a "young wife" because then she can just pop out 10 little Jimmies so you'd have at least like 5 that'll make it to 18. Maybe 3.

But! I think we've grown past that and actually there's a lot of southern culture surrounding our weird age of consent that no one talks about. I'm going to talk about some of my experiences.

The age of consent in my state, South Carolina, is 16. And as a kid, heard all the time about 16 year olds with college-aged boyfriends, and the adults around me made it sound like, "oh its just an act of rebellion."

It was not abnormal to hear about a 16 or 17 year old at school dating someone from the college campuses. We have laws protecting relationships like this called Romeo and Juliet laws, where as long as they met when they were both minors they're allowed to date. But this can have serious consequences as you'd imagine (it had to be between 14-18 I think, a la Romeo and Juliet .-.)

Me, personally, at 16, I thought because I was the age of consent I can date. So I would talk to older men for validation and unfortunately they took advantage of that. But I didn't tell anyone because again, I didn't think anything would happen. The age of consent is 16, I consented, therefore I'm silly.

The WORST case that happened to a friend was right before we graduated, she knocked up by her 35 year old boyfriend. She left to go live with him after giving birth and walking across the stage.

There are so many kids around here who are 16 who live in states where the age of consent is as low as 14 and 15 and they think they can just flirt with adults now. If you're reading this and you happen to be one of those kids:

No the fuck you can't.

You will hurt yourself. Do not flirt with adults. I don't care what the age of consent is in your state. Online, it's 18, and for good reason. Your brain is not developed enough to handle those consequences.

What snapped me out of it and made me realize I was being abused was when I was 17. I met someone on here who was 22 and we had a relationship that was short of romantic. We'd sext and talk about stuff like that, but he also would comfort me when I was getting verbally abused. He told me he loved me. Then he ghosted me for years because he became a teachers aid and realized how close in age his students were with me.

Looking back, I'm angry I can't remember his blog name or anything because I would call that man out so fucking fast. Alex, if you're reading this somehow, you're a pig, and I hope someone finds out what kind of person you really are <3

But this post wasn't about me and my trauma. It's about a wider, more bigger problem: systemic grooming is real and there are kids who are CONVINCED because they are the age of consent that gives them the right to act like an adult before they're ready.

[triplexdoublex]

Hi earlier I think I saw a anon on here saying how Colson and Megan need to be careful with what they do bc how mean kids are and colson admitted in the past that Casie had to put someone in thier place for saying something mean or maybe it was a different account lol anyways I just wanted to add that this diddnt just go away bc even in the documentary Casie herself said that even to this day kids will go up to her and are like why is ur dad so sad, why is he so depressed, why does he dress like this or do these weird things being very judgmental so I could only imagine what they say about Megan and how she acts and what they do as a couple. Like Megan has this mentality that oh my kids don't use the internet they are to young to see what I'm doing right now so it's ok, or oh it's ok bc my kids go to a hippie school with other celebritiy kids in their school but Colson has a whole 13 yr old daughter who as far as we know is in a public school, most definitely has a phone and has kids always picking on her dad and is constantly defending him. They both need to consider the impact this is having on Casie who is the one probably always defending them. Megan even thoe she admitted in a interview years back said "I don't want a daughter bc then I woudint be queen B anymore, im used to getting all of the males attention" needs to understand that there is a 13 yr old who even thoe she loves her dad very much she can't run away or hide from the couples own consequences and is the one that actually deals with the publics opions of it. Casie is all over colsons page and music videos and movies and I know she loves him but at the same time imagine the impact this has on Casies and Megans relationship when she's having to defend her dad's fiance for letting her dad pretend to do coke off of her. Like even if she doesn't follow colson on social media I'm sure she somehow hears about it from the other kids

Yeah I really do feel bad for Casie in all of this. I know she said on Life in Pink that she likes Megan and blah blah blah but it felt so forced to me and not just from her but from the others saying it too. It was so awkward like ‘let’s just have a section in this documentary where everyone talks about how much they like Megan’ it didn’t come off genuine at all. And yes even if they try to keep her from seeing things online or even if she’s smart enough to shield herself from it, I’m sure her classmates and peers are still seeing it and teasing her about it, kids are brutal at that age. Imagine how embarrassed you’d be at 13 if your dad and ‘stepmom’ posted pics on social media for the world to see of your Dad having your ‘stepmom’ on a leash in fucking bondage gear! I swear sometimes they just do shit for attention and don’t think about how it’s gonna effect their kids 🤦🏻‍♀️

[rictingg]

How the internet changed the media landscape

The internet has been a huge part of people's lives since the 2000's and it made a big impact especially to mainstream media. People nowadays especially young ones are always on their phones using the internet to watch videos online, share memes and have freedom to post or comment anything that comes to their mind. The internet allowed people to become publishers and now it came to the point that every single person using the internet or social media is a contributing node to the network and this is destorying the ability of individuals to tell what is real from what is fake. This phenomena affected news media since nowadays its very difficult to make a mass media statement since you have to get a bunch of people in the system to agree with your statement for them to share it.

Pros and Cons of Creating Content

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The medium is the message

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Welcome to the internet

"Anything that brain of yours can think can be found. We got mountains of contents Some better, some worst"

"Could I interest you with everything all of the time?"

"Boredom is a Crime"

These are some of the lyrics of Bo Burnham's song. The internet has the ability to manipulate our views and emotions on certain things or topics that we read online. It can change our mood without even us realizing. The internet is designed that way that even kids nowadays could borrow or have their own devices and can search anything they want in the internet, and the majority of those parents don't even know how to control what their kids can view online

How to destroy the limiting beliefs of society

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[goingtolebanon]

honestly it makes me really sad that babies and toddlers are being pacified with tablets and phones nowadays. i hate to sound like a boomer but shoving a device in your child's face when they're crying is so fucking impersonal and it's teaching them to pacify themselves with screen time. those loud sounds and bright colours are something they're going to become accustomed to at a young age and it's going to be very hard for them to handle situations where they don't have access to a device, like school.

i've had social media since i was 11 and have been using sites like YouTube since i was young and i can already feel the effects on my attention span. i can't imagine what it's like to grow up with someone shoving cocomelon in your face whenever you're making too much noise for them. we literally see toddlers showing signs of withdrawal when devices are taken away from them because their brains are so used to the overstimulation that it feels empty without it.

kids need to be able to develop an imagination and creativity that isn't reliant on having a device. i'm not just saying this, this is an important step in childhood development. if you want your child to be able to wait patiently or behave well in a fancy restaurant, you need to wean them off of their tablet and find other ways they can entertain themselves or remain calm that aren't disruptive to other people and that aren't reliant on a single device. the public library is free. many public libraries even have durable board books. you can buy portable board games at the dollar tree, you can buy a set of crayons and a notebook for quite cheap. if your child is old enough, you can have a conversation with them and include them in it. children of any age can play with toys and make up stories with them, especially if you play with them.

idk i know everyone already says this but i don't often see people providing possible solutions to the problem. i don't know how much this will help people, but for the love of god, at least until your child is being pressured by every other kid around them and begging you for screen time, try and keep them away from that shit. i do feel that it's damaging on a certain level and i think we're going to start to see those effects quite soon. i know having a kid is hard. i know having work is hard. i know the pandemic is hard. but please treat your child like a person. you would never shove a youtube video in your friend's face if they were crying

also keep your kid off of social media until they're in high school for the love of god. if i see another kid accidentally sexualising themselves online because they're copying the videos adults make i'm going to scream. not to mention the negative psychological effects

[ask-keeby]

Fan

Hi! I use to visit your blog all the time as a teenager and it was always this secret guilty pleasure for me since instead of religiously being obsessed with sonic like most kids, It was Kirby for me and this was one of my main escapes. I constantly checked up on this blog and other Kirby role-players like Ask Great King Dedede, it was such a habit of mine that during school I pulled up your blog on one of the school computers and quickly panic closed it at ultra light speed when I realized what I was doing. I think you can probably imagine how classmates at that age would react if they knew you frequented a blog about homo-erotic puffballs that morphed genders and became pregnant... Still though as silly as it might sound I feel like your blog was a really important tool that helped me explore some inner feelings at that confusing phase and I really appreciate everything you've done here. Even if you aren't as active as you use to be, it still really warms my heart to see this blog and story-line continued in some capacity where-as most of the other Kirby blogs I use to visit are all barren.

Anyhow though your artstyle really inspired me to start exploring digital art as well and It's led me to pursue animation as a career. I loved your story telling from the silly "anon magic" that lead to some pretty funny scenarios, to the serious comics that you painted gorgeously. I almost created my own Kirby blog to roleplay as NOVA but I was just too shy, in real life and In the online space, to openly participate in the community. Just watching you do your thing was A-ok for me. There's so much more I want to say like how I was even there to watch a couple of your really old live streams where you played some game that I can't remember for the life of me, It was like one of those 2d indie horror games that youtubers like Pewdiepie use to play and I think it started off in an art museum? Regardless all I just wanted to say thank you and this community for existing. Peace

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((omg ;v; I just wanna say, I really enjoyed reading this! It still boggles my mind that people have been following this account since they were young! It doesn't feel like the account is that old, but in reality, it is lol

And don't worry, my account feels like a guilty pleasure to myself |D

As weird as it probably sounds, my blog actually helped me learn more about trans people, as well as learning how to write a gay couple as just any other couple with ups and downs. Although the drama I wrote was well out of the ordinary lol I was never good at writing stories in school (or any sort of creative writing lol), but I felt like I got to write freely and draw what I wanted without the fear of getting a bad grade. I got my fair share of judgement but people enjoyed what I put out, and that kept me going c:

I'm glad my art inspired you to get into digital art and pursue animation though! I can't explain how much that means to me! I never intended for my art to be an inspiration, but it really makes me happy that it had that effect ;v; I wish you all the best in your future career!

Now I would say to go ahead and make your NOVA blog, since the community is very welcome and open, but it's pretty much dead now on tumblr |'D I would have liked to have seen what you would have done with it. Who knows, it may revive again in the future or start fresh elsewhere c:

As for the game, it was called Ib! I'm honestly surprised you even remember those ancient streams lol

Anyway, thank you so much for the kind message~ ;v; Stuff like this really make me feel like the effort I put into this blog was really worth something. I feel I should also thank the people who pulled me into this community years ago lol But yes, have a good rest of your life, and as I said, good luck with your future career~ ))

[blackgirlnotes]

Faux Activism and Exclusionary Practices.

Before I even begin this week's text post, I have to make it abundantly clear: All Black Lives must matter to you if you are going to be an "activist" or a social justice warrior. That said, let's have a conversation about what and why this new wave of activism in the black community is not inclusive nor real.

1. OUTRAGE

The outrage over the unnecessary killings and highly preventable deaths of black men and women is one hundred percent real and warranted. However, as I have noticed in my personal social media timelines, many people are unknowingly (or purposefully) excluding the names of trans people and non-binary people. This is abhorrent and frankly disgusting. Black people exist in every facet of life: from being a cis-woman who has a loving husband to being a trans man who lives with his life gay, cis-partner. Every version of the black experience is valid and worthy of protection and acceptance. Women and LGBTQIA+ folx have a hard time already existing in a straight, white, male dominated world. Imagine tacking on the fact that they are black. Now they experience two to three different forms of discrimination for things they didn't decide nor have the ability to change. If you are outraged at the injustices inflicted upon our people for generations, then you MUST also include your gender non-conforming friends and their experiences as well. Do not practice and exclusionary version of "Black Lives Matter." At that point, you are a hypocrite and liar because you, yourself do not see the value in the non-traditional (for lack of a better term) black life.

2. SILENCE

For the first week of protests and surge of political dismantling, we saw the names of nearly every black man who had died as a result of unjust policing and a corrupt government. Rarely did we see popular activists or celebrities mention the names of Breonna Taylor, Sandra Bland, or Atatiana Jefferson. Rarely did we see the same outpour of grief and support for the women also impacted by the world we live in. Never, in that first week, did I see a video or post about how to help locate the thousands of lost black girls snatched from inner cities. Last time I checked, the human mind is capable of focusing on more than one tragedy at a time. To not share the same loudness when it comes to the plight of the black woman is to be silent. As we have learned over the last few weeks: silence is deafening. It doesn't surprise me that our people don't make nearly as much noise behind the oppression and destruction of the black woman. This is the same community that had a generation raises young girls to "dress appropriately when there are men in the house," you know...the house the men are VISITING and you are STAYING in. The same group of people who deem black women ghetto for having multiple partners and children from said partners but praises men because "it must be so hard taking care of all those kids...as a man." The same delegation of humans who will bash a darkskin woman in order to praise a lightskin or non-black woman. Let me digress. The treatment of black women is so ingrained in to our psyche that we, as women, catch ourselves subconsciously giving in to these misogynistic practices. When my step mother tells me I should cover up because I live in a house with men, when my job tells me the uncomfortable advances from male customers is normal and I should just ignore it, or when the first lady of my church deems my knee length skirt too short simply because the old, perverted men in the sanctuary can't stop staring. It is done from a place of "protection" in their eyes but it stems from something deeper. To destroy the black woman is to destroy the black man, essentially. Every black man comes from a black woman. Before you try arguing in terms of "mixed kids with white mothers," learn basic genetics: the mixed boy with a black dad and white mom has a black grandma. His father's mother, and her mother and so forth, are all black. Do not be silent when Black women are oppressed, slain and abused. Be as loud as you are when George and Trayvon were taken from us. Be as loud as you are when your sport's team loses. Do not allow the black woman's life to be lost without at least trying to protect it.

3. PETITIONS AND DONATIONS

Yes, signing your name on petitions and opening your purse to the many sites created to help protesters is a great way to help make change but it isn't the only way nor is it the most effective. Stop bashing people who do not see the value in signing an online petition amd start suggesting other ways to be active in this fight. Organize something in your neighborhood, attend a protest, help localize the situations going on if none of the tragedies apply to your town. Educate yourself and a friend. There are many other ways to protest and be active in the community other than donating money you may not have or signing a petition because twitter user funyunslover48 told you to. This is a direct message to those demonizing others for not signing petitions online or donating online. Its not the end of the world if the petition with 400,000 signatures doesn't get signed by Sandy because Sandy has signed ten other ones today and doesn't feel like she has to sign another. I will say, as a counter, if you haven't signed at least one petition or donated anywhere of you could, then you are definitely not helping and you need to find some links and sign some ink. Period.

4. ORGANIZING

My only statement for this is to look at living, civil rights activist. Revisit history a bit and do what you can to try and rally our people together as a whole. We need, as a collective, to have leaders in the community who are bringing us together from all sides. Paris, London, Tokyo, and parts of New Zealand have all had BLM protests in accordance with the ones happening in every state in America. We must unite ourselves somehow so that the true message of what we're fighting for, globally, is not lost nor is it misconstrued. This is my only suggestion for this section.

In all, the practices that have been going on for the last two weeks have been positive and good mostly. However, there is always room for improvement and there needs to be room for those who we have been constantly ostracizing. Now is the time for black people of all sexualities, genders, ages, and backgrounds to come together and fight for ourselves. We cannot say that our lives matter if we exclude our women and LGBTQIA+ family. We are united by our shared experiences and culture, please do not let who someone shares a bed with at night deter you from that fact.

Here is a list of black-led LGBT organizations that you can glean information from or donate to (list curated by Eugene Lee Yang of the Try Guys):

TGI Justice Project

The Okra Project

Anti-Violence Project

SNaPCO

Black Trans Travel Fund

The Transgender District

Black Aids Institute

Marsha P. Johnson Institute

Brave Space Alliance

Voix Noire

- nellmaria

(please excues any typos. this has yet to be edited.)

[marlyjade]

Case and point.

Children provided with proper sex Ed can actually identify sexual advances. I know this because I got a good sex Ed from my mother who worked in social services at the time. It was easy for me to stay away from certain people because I recognized that if I was alone then I may be in danger. And I'm autistic with expression blindness... You'd think I wouldn't get this but no. That caution has saved my butt a few times.

And god damnit aside from grooming, please for the love of God teach your kids how to properly avoid creeps in the wild. When I was a kid, I was taught the identifiers, but the more interaction a child has with a suspicious person, the more likely they will be in danger. It's not just go to a public place and call the cops, it's alert anyone and stay in view of the public until help comes.

The ownus is also on the Adults to make sure that the KID IS WATCHED. You may not be a baby sitter but take your eyes off of that kid and they could be gone.

At least teach young children what advances look like. Caution them to not just run away, but where to go and what to do after.

Usually, if in a store, I recommend telling them to go to customer service or the cashier. That way they aren't alone with someone who can't help and the front end tends to be filled with people.

If they aren't in a store, make sure they run into one. Fast. Stores have phones, surveillance, as well as (hopefully) people. Predators don't want to cause a scene, usually these crimes are done with little to no outside witnesses. Bystander effect be damned. Have them rush to anyone who works there.

Tell them how to describe the situation calmly. "I apologize but I hope it's okay if I stay here for a bit. There was a person in the store/outside the store who was making me feel uncomfortable/I think he was following me around/ might be dangerous. If it's possible, can I stay here until I contact my parents for a ride?"

If they can't get a ride, have them ask if they can stay in the front until the guy is gone. There's a chance he might leave but make sure the kid knows not to leave alone.

Usually workeers will say yes, even if you aren't a minor. They will keep an eye on you while working. That being said we're not a daycare service, but it's important for people to be safe.

Be sure to describe the guy if you can. Or have a picture. Feel free to run towards us. Any physical description would help "The man had [colored] hair, he was tall. He was [race], wearing a [any accessory or shirt you can remember]."

If we see him, security might be called or we will drive him out of the store. If something actually did happen or he shows behavior that is suspicious, we will contact the police. This includes if he claims to be a parent or relative. Obviously the kid or adult wouldn't lie about being in danger as a prank... hopefully.

And for service workers out there DO NOT BE AFRAID TO HELP! We've had a creep or two at the store going after the female staff. If it happens to us, imagine how bad it is for a kid. If it's a kid, and you are customer service, it's most likely ok to take them behind the desk before the situation is handled. Make sure to have the kid tell their parents to come inside the store to get them if they come.

And while this may seem like it has nothing to do with sex Ed, it absolutely does. Teaching a kid how to properly avoid becoming a victim is part of sex Ed. They may be able to identify it, but what happens if they do? They can't just say no, they have to know who to go to and how to be safe. I know it isn't related to grooming, but it's related to CSA, which, while rare to random victims, isn't something that doesn't happen. When it does, everyone regrets it.

Teaching kids how to identify an advance, be it the old free candy trick, or anything else, online or in person, is part of sex Ed.

That's why we have Code Adam and Amber Alerts. Those were named after child victims of kidnapping... And we're found dead... Gruesomely murdered. Take this seriously. They weren't groomed but they sure as hell weren't safe.

genuinely so fucking tired of people leveraging the "groomer" argument against people who support sex ed because scientific literature over decades shows that comprehensive sex education starting around kindergarten actually prevents children from being sexually abused and groomed because it teaches children the correct words for their body parts and also teaches them concepts of privacy, personal space, bodily autonomy, the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touching, and the fact that sex is something that only adults do. children with this knowledge are not only better equipped to identify abuse and predatory behavior and communicate that its happening to a trusted adult, but also prevent it from happening in the first place by recognizing when something is happening that shouldn't.

sex education does not sexualize children, it prevents children from being sexualized. anyone who is against early foundational sex education and claims they are doing it to protect children is a fucking liar.

[maneaterwithtail]

The politics are the cough. the disease is flooding to chase the trend of personal brand building. Events and confusing communities and arguably the arrangement of the direct market itself. No simplicity and lots of expense with shakeup one after the other.

And some transparently business or out of story disrupting existing (in humans versus mutants)

Starting Marvel, as an example, is harder than figuring out where to come in on the Fate series. I mention this because Comics are often compared to manga and yet however convoluted in silly may get for the most part you buy one collection, or let's not kid ourselves pirate, or wait until an animated adaptation comes out realize that it's pretty much faithful, go back to the core comic and so long as you start from the beginning you can follow to the end. Even if it's based off of a visual novel chances are everything will progress from beginning to end. It's usually when that models messed up with that something becomes destructive and difficult to follow or deal.

Unlike with manga where if you're having trouble following where to start with, like the Fate series, you can at least enjoy the latest Nasu verse offering. especially if you can turn your brain off and just engage with one example. Or if you don't want to deal with that you can just go to an entirely different property from a similar publisher that scratches a similar itch.

Like the premise of America Chavez buts I think she did it wrong? Well it's not like you can just switch over to Champions because that's a mess as well along with Miles Morales Spider-Man and ms. Marvel or spider woman.

it's expensive, patchy, filled with all sorts of weird continuity that you end up having to buy just to start. As such only the dedicated fanbase could possibly tolerate it but that also is exclusive in the sense that it's so to them with a history that it feels kind of off-putting.

I like the comicsgate comics I have heard of. I can also understand why we try to move away from that. Such as very obvious p*** tracing. And so on. Yes supposed diversity has basically led to a similar story of we're here now we're going to f*** the status quo too strongly relating to the audience or the author's pandering.

But it's not just they're going to have a trans person in an announcement. Which is a pretty major character trait I imagine that they want to talk about that or include it in the announcement.

the discontinuity does not help you build upsetting characters characterization and Circumstance. This is what I mean you're following themes story and events building to something then a new author will come in and he or she will wreck all that up so that they can go in an entirely different direction. Okay maybe you don't like the homosexual overtones of Eddie Brock and Venom. Maybe you want to stick it to all the slash shippers on Tumblr. But they've been the people who been following the comic and there's been a multi-year build up with sleeper, Eddie Brock and Venom's son.

going no now Eddy has a son he doesn't know about. oh and he was in the car that killed a child and him and Venom hate each other? Basically says f*** that other story we're going back to this story because I liked it better when I was young and I like it this way. And this kind of hostility is constant with every Changing of the Guard which can happen almost every two to three years. This keeps happening right when things are starting to get good or conclusion is reached. this undermines any death any major event or twist especially when it's in the headlines as if it's going to be meaningful

we can't even engaged in the illusion that someone has a plan charting something out when it feels like it's always fly by the seat of the pants the slightest whim can blow off the direction. We know in our conscious nothing that happens matters or at the very least when things end and we don't move on to something else then realize that there was a change but it seems seamless. Or at the very least it's a damn good seem that makes a very likeable and unique and distinct quilt. Again comparing and contrasting with manga

basically constantly ragging on the Politics as if that's what's causing the problem as opposed to Poor practices is off. yeah the customer service is definitely a no-go. But let's not kid ourselves Fanboys started it

I can straight up say that if you had a book that was straight up gay. like it starred the gay couple that once was Rescued by Captain America including his childhood hero And they were joined by the gender-bending exiled courtesan. you know those girls that always hang around in the background of Thor comics and everybody talks about winching and all that stuff? What if we actually focus on one of them and we threw in some mythological deviant queerness with the idea that men who practiced a certain form of Witchcraft had to be ladies. Now in practice this often meant anything from cross-dressing to performing ceremonies with a freaking dildo. But this is Comics so instead I can just go with the idea that after he uses magic so much he can turn or does turn into a lady. At first it's inadvertent but then he Masters the power so much that can transform into any lady. So he can go from weak little nerdy witch man to a Vanir (super durable pretty strong) or she giant.

It gets even more so when apparently he can change not just to a generic woman but any specific one. so he can literally clone an individual lady alive or dead. If she's dead you can act as a vessel for her soul so effectively while he might be booted deep within he can resurrect anyone's female loved one. Until changes back. The Twist is that while he won a beauty contest to be one of Odin's many many side pieces due to the politics and sociology of the time and the setup Odin didn't like admitting that they were both men or equals. Now the crossdressing courtesan isnt necessarily the nicest person. In fact the number one thing that characterizes him is that he hates the alpha male warrior culture or at least what he perceives of the negatives of it of Asgard. But that doesn't necessarily mean that he provides a good alternative. This will be a total retcon. not only would this make Odin effectively bisexual -although it's long since established that it seems like he's banged about so much he has had a child with everyone but his wife- but the idea that Loki and Thor grew up exposed to this weird gender-bending courtesan who tried to compete with the affections of their Queen Mother just so that that way he could get ahead and hated showing the absolute loyalty and Devotion to Asgard seeking glory in battle and death as opposed to conniving Gatling favor and trolling for booty while having to serve drinks for the Warriors that came by and were celebrated in the castle Hall.

Probably make up all sorts of relationships with other lesser-known Danny's that haven't been as much part of Marvel Thor but are important or at least well-known for the tradition. I would also shamelessly ripoff @gumon and her take on Norse mythology. With giants that just naturally produce children whether male or female. anyway ignoring all the continuity just so I could bring in the mythology that I want I would have it so that he was ultimately exiled because he got set up on a failure assignment. He got assigned to the Blue Mountain the traveling planet or set of rocks now that was the home of one of the Warriors Three the blue guy well the guy who wears blue and looks kind of like Angus Khan

The entire point of this is to get a different eye view of the Marvel Universe. What was it like to be one of those disposable pin-up girls. What is the gay population in gay culture and gay people been doing and light of the world that's been invaded from the ground been in a Perpetual fight with remnants of terrorists from World War II. And of course how they've been in for you property and making their lives and how are they responding to the fact that New York finally recognizes their marriage and of course life in the Twilight years as a gay couple that's constantly facing mortality. Also with the usual hey I'm an immortal mystical being who's having to relearn how to be human after having lived a life with a God's but neither being loyal to them nor a particular loyal to my own people. Along with the issues of the shapeshifter gender Dynamics and identity and all other sort of things. Pretty damn gay book. But I read it

Kids like imitating what they see so ripping the idea that someone's going to take some of the more iconic X-Men looks and style themselves after them when they know that their mutant doesn't seem wrong. I like the idea that we're going to open with someone who manages an online community for mutants. I like the idea of Trailblazer I like the ladies thick and I like the fact that she has a more utility power that she's going to have to work with and around hopefully being clever though that backpack does run the risk of becoming the Omnitrix and having the solution for every problem that you need.

Basically I like the children of the atom a bit more than the whole lineup of the new Warriors. I think people really should give the characters a chance so if you're turned off by yet another set of incest siblings in Marvel ya no problem or argument here.