#i can multitask (adhd hello) BUT

[milkbreadtoast]

twsb comeback happening at a bad time IM SORRY EVERYONE I SAID ID START ORV ASAP BUT... BUT... GYAAAAAAAA

[the-dumpster-fire-of-life]

you did a Bill Kaulitz x ADHD Reader and i was wondering if you could do the same but with Tom

(Hello! Sure I can and sorry this took a bit but I hope you enjoy!)

Tom Kaulitz x ADHD!Reader

He is like a tired mother now

He is always reminding you of things because he knows you struggle to remember some stuff

Leaves you little notes on your arms, in your clothes, bags and anything you could possibly open

There is always a sticky note saying something and your like

"Oh my god…I forgot! Thanks, Tom!"

He is teasing you a little bit like

"What would you do without me, hmm?"

It's harmless though and he actually enjoys it

Is ashamed to admit but before y'all got together and he didn't know about your ADHD he got annoyed with how you forget things

Or how impulsive you could be

But felt like shit once he was told about it and now does his best to understand and help

He is more calm compared to you, especially when you can get hyper

But he is always there to catch you when you need to take a little crash

Is always carrying stuff you forgot

Even if he tries to remember shit for you he also has a sorta bad memory so you're both standing there like

"Weren't we supposed to get something?"

"Oh, yeah. What was it again?"

"...Bill's gonna kill us."

I feel like you and him sorta have tendencies to match so you guys are very similar

You guys fit perfectly in my opinion

He is always holding your hand because he knows you get lost when you wander

He knows you struggle to pay attention or sit still and so does he with paying attention so you guys take breaks together

And by breaks I mean wandering off and putting it to the last minute

It's okay though, scramble together

Sometimes you multitask or put things off and something goes wrong and you feel a bit bad

He never wants you to feel shame or anything like that so he is reassuring you

He loves you the way you are and if anyone says any different he'll have a word

He is always hyping you up about anything

You both could just go on and on forever and wander off doing god knows what and it's the best times

He is always trying to keep you focused but gave up because not even he can

Doesn't treat you like a kid because he doesn't want you to think he thinks you're incompetent

He knows things get boring for the both of you so you both just goof off

When you struggle with motivation or completing something he'll reassure you

Will do his best to help you complete it s step at a time and both of you have a giant ass celebration when you guys do

Some may think it's not worth that much but it does

Tom is very proud of you, very much in love with you no matter if you have ADHD or not

And if you do, it doesn't change the love

[bvckleyydiaz]

hello, my loves. i thought that i would update you guys on my situation and kind of chat a little bit, i guess.

tw: talk of depression, adhd, and medication

this episode is kicking my ass, you guys. i want to write the requests that you guys have sent me. i would love nothing more than to write for this blog, but right now, writing does not bring me joy. i’m tired all the time, i have no motivation, and i really don’t feel like doing anything if i’m being honest. one of the new medications that i’m starting this week is supposed to maybe help me with my energy and the symptoms of my add until i can find a psychiatrist and get tested.

if i don’t have adhd, i do’t know what the fuck is wrong with me. i have a hard time multitasking, i hyper-fixate on the most random of shit, i lose focus easily, am distracted constantly. and it’s like what the hell is it if it isn’t what i think it is.

all of that to say, my break may be longer than i think it will be. please bare with me. i love you all so much.

tagging: @ssahotchnerr @ssamorganhotchner @greg-montgomery @luvehotch @canuck-eh @hotchs-babygirl @hotchsdoormat @montyfandomlove @strawbeerossi @criminalskies @ssaspencerreidswife @hotchnerbau @hotchnerobsessed

[foxbirdy]

Help, I'm kinda stupid (bad brain disease and chronic illness shit) and scared but I really am wanting to do field work shit. I'm almost graduated from college but feel like I learned pretty much nothing and don't feel like I'm employable at all. I am highly motivated but I just like, don't know what the future holds!! How do you be a person with a job? How do you do the difficult things you do?

Hello ♥️ before I get into this I must give a disclaimer: I am by no means an expert! I am just some guy. I can share what I've had smacked into me over the course of my adult life, but it's definitely not gospel. Take anything I say about my own lived experience with a grain of salt, because it might not necessarily be true for you! Ok. Disclaimer over, let's get into it:

1 - Anon, you are not stupid. If you almost have a degree, you are killing it! I cannot even tell you how many people I know in field work who hated getting their undergrad with the passion of a thousand suns, and scraped through it by the skin of their teeth! I know lots of people who don't have degrees at all, and have no intention of getting one! Be proud that you almost have your degree.

2 - I do not have my degree! I am still working on it. I have a couple semesters to go. Everything I have done has been in the context of being a student, or someone with some college coursework and some practical experience. My brain is also not designed for the higher education system! The ADHD that makes me miserable in university work (understimulated, unfulfilled, unfocused) is also what makes me thrive in the field (performs best in high-stress environments, prefers novelty to routine, settled by working with my hands and body, excellent multitasker, intense focus on physical project work). Do not equate your ability to be a model college student with your employability.

3 - You already have the chiefest qualification required for fieldwork, which is that you are highly motivated! I've said this before, phrased differently, but the quality that most opportunities are looking for in a candidate is sheer audacity. The willingness to do crazy shit. The belief that you can do anything if you try hard. They need someone who's motivated enough (or unhinged enough) to say things like: "Yes, I will sleep on the ground. Yes, I will eat weird food. Yes, I will hike into work every day, hauling gear. Yes, I will not go crazy if I can't access the internet for weeks at a time. No, I will not turn homicidal if I'm working, eating, and sleeping with the same eight people for months. No, I've never driven a truck and trailer, but I will learn how. No, I don't have that certification, but I will get it. No, I've never used that software, but I will figure it out." If you can a) endure difficulty with enthusiasm, and b) not be phased by unknowns, you are more than halfway there.

4 - Put yourself out there! Drag yourself out of your comfort zone, within reason. Apply to things you think you have no chance of getting! Apply to things that scare you a little! Do research. Figure out what you want to do, and start where you can. Ask for help - it will make you connections! The worst that anyone can say to you is "no," and that isn't so bad. Sometimes it's easy, and sometimes you have to work at a coffee shop for a few months in-between jobs. Sometimes you'll have to wait for weeks to get more information on travel, and sometimes you have to pack your bags and get in your car within 72 hours. Go with the water cycle, move with the ups and downs. Be confident, be adaptable, have audacity, and nail your resume to the door of anything that looks cool. Godspeed and good luck out there!

[feelin-kinda-cocky-bmc]

Calling all BMC Writers!

Hello fellow BMC nerds :>

If this project hasn't shown up to you yet or if you're not in the Discord server, then you probably haven't heard about this project I'm working on: Feelin' Kinda Cocky!

Feelin' Kinda Cocky is a Be More Chill dating sim/visual novel where you play as Michael, and romance one of four love interests at Middleborough high (not including secret routes and possible polyamorous routes).

This game has been in production for two years now, but is stuck in the writing phase. I just recently completed Rich's route and have just started Dustin's. Not to mention, I have a bit of early-game material for Jake and Jeremy. Between school, extracurriculars, and taking care of my mental health, it has taken me a long time to write. However, I was recently prescribed ADHD meds, which will tackle my executive dysfunction. That, combined with a lofty New Years resolution, I'm aiming to get all of the writing done before the end of 2023. ...Especially because the artists for this game have been extremely patient with me, and I want them to be able to contribute sooner rather than later. Although I might have one or both of 'em draw some stuff to make the Tumblr page look nicer-

So that's why I'm here! To looks for some likeminded writers in the BMC fandom, which I know there are many on Tumblr lmao- If you're interested in helping out, there's two options right now:

The FKC Community Idea Drop:

The FKC Community Idea Drop is a Google Doc for you to just drop your ideas down. Are there any post-Squip ideas/drabbles/scenarios/dynamics you've ever wanted to see fully realized? Well throw 'em on the doc! If your idea makes it into the game, you'll be credited by whichever name you put on the doc, because I don't believe in stealing ideas. This is a non-committal way to contribute to the game at whatever pace or frequency you want. Feel free to just go wild with whatever you wanna put on there!

Link here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/134HD8ZxBILGacL5Zg165A-mU0IX3HbQqynKuyCqctIE/edit?usp=sharing

2. Joining the FKC team

Everyone who has joined the team so far (two artists and a writer) has joined completely voluntarily, purely in an effort to bring this idea to life. I feel like this is a given, but I want to make it clear that this is not a paid job for anyone involved, including myself. Just like Be Less Single, Feelin' Kinda Cocky will be published on a website and/or on Steam for free, meaning I will make absolutely no money off this game. I just want to make a fan-game with the help of my fellow fandom nerds lol

As a writer, I'm hoping we can work collaboratively to come up with storylines, route events, and dynamics between the ships. Whether you want to work on all the routes, or just focus on one ship, I'd love to work with you! I am currently one person attempting to plan out and write four separate routes, all with three different endings if you don't include secret routes, which I will write myself regardless.

I will also say, if you want to multitask (for example, be an artist or a programmer while also being a writer), go ahead.

For the writing (and the game as a whole), I want to make it clear that I care a great deal about positive representation. And I don't mean just making cute little scenes of our favorite ships (though that is absolutely apart of the game); I mean accurately depicting things like trauma, mental illness, neurodivergency, queer experiences, relationships and friendships, so on and so forth. Not only because all the things I listed are important to me, but because they're extremely important to a lot of other people, especially within this fandom.

Now, if there are any other ways you'd want to contribute to Feelin' Kinda Cocky's development, let me know! And if you have any questions at all, my inbox is always open, and so is the Discord server (linked on this Tumblr page)!

Thank you to everyone who's been with the development so far! Hopefully, this turns out awesome when it's done :)

[shizucheese]

Hello...

I feel like I need to put some kind of intro here before I start filling this blog with fandom-related shower thoughts and snippets of my writing or whatever.

So hello, my name is Shizune. I'm a twitch streamer that mostly plays Final Fantasy games but sometimes other stuff too. Come check me out on Sundays starting at 4:30 central time and Wednesdays and Thursdays starting at 7:30 central time.

I'm currently playing FFXVI and I have so many feelings for that game right now. Once I'm done with that I'll be diving back into streaming FFXIV (we left off with the post-Titan content before XVI came out). I've been playing FFXIV since ARR and am streaming it on a fresh character, doing everything at minimum item level (I will definitely need help when I hit level 50, 60, etc. content when I start doing Alliance raids ;w;). I'm going to Fanfest at the end of this month and am hella excited.

I also write. Mostly I write original fiction, primarily high fantasy and urban fantasy, but I got into The Magnus Archives this past October, have since listened to it twice, and am now super hyper fixated on the relationship between John and Martin (probably because I'm demiromantic and somewhere on the ace spectrum and the fact that John is canonically asexual means that his relationship with Martin is purely based on romantic attraction and I just....ugh), so now I have 3 different TMA fanfiction continuities I'm working on that all take place after Mag200. Part of my master plan is to eventually post some of my work on AO3 and then I'll use this blog to post previews and update announcements. Keep your eyes peeled! I also just in general listen to a lot of podcasts, especially D&D (and some non-D&D) actual play campaigns and horror podcasts. According to multiple people I know I consume podcasts at an impressive rate, but I have ADHD and if I'm not listening to *something*, preferably with a narrative, then I'll go crazy. I love anime but don't marathon it quite on the same level that I marathon podcasts at because with podcasts I can multitask while with anime I want to actually watch it and fully appreciate not only the narrative but the animation. I think that pretty much covers the important stuff. I tend to be really awful about posting on social media but hopefully this time it clicks and I can stay on top of it...

[souls-and-petrification]

Hello again! It’s been a while. The story I have may be changed and will actually have focus on ideas I have. There’s a lot I have to work on.

For now this will just be my idea page and any updates on comics I work on in the future.

Anyways here’s something I’ve made

It’s a sorta joke character me and a friend made, ADHD Hivemind.

Literally what it says. Have ADHD and be a hivemind. Boom.

The joke was that they can control anyone similar to fresh but they can do so all at once, but not. Because of ADHD they can’t multitask, which means they can only talk through one body at a time. EX. Error, ink, and geno were all control but they would only speak through geno because they can’t do all at once.

Anogher is that each infected, host, whatever only have like…1 gigabyte of memory. So they have to hop between the infected to remember things. Ex. Ink may have knowledge of where error is but not know what he can do. Geno has knowledge of what he can do but not know where he is. So on and so forth.

I apologize if that’s confusing, I’ll make some comics in the future about it.

Oh, P.S those “wings” are not real, just their scarf that can change shape to trick their prey.

[hiveplague]

Swapisle au

hello so if your reading this your atleast some what intrested apolgizes  there will be spelling and grammer misteaks and cusswords Clementine (swapisle the skele bros big sister ) this is a au i made the main theme of this au is just generlly CHAOTIC GREMLINS clementine tends to go by any pronouns she/her he/him they/them they are genderfluid and demisexual there au underground theme is more enchanted there house is actually a lovley cottage and there brother (whos nickname is tea) is part of the royal gaurd tho he just watches over his post simlar to underswap papyrus  a funfact is clementine is generally more confrontive but not confrontive at a same time they have there momments for example there was one time they gave alphas a verbal beat down for attacking the human when they first met  they more care about others then themself in this au magic is alittle differnt aswell now lets talk about tea he is generall fine with most things hes pan lmao and he is the royal judge simlar to classic sans role however he is abit more observent and drops hints to his sister more often however the fun thing is that all siblings reamber the resets but clementine acts all nice and happy but when they break down they break down its.... diffuclate to say the least now to headcannons BECAUSE BOY I HAVE ALOT ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| 🌟 tea actually has insomnia the poor soul and he also has a unhealthy love for black tea and honey the only reason clementine is against it is because the amount they consume per day is more then water tho tea has water in it its not enough to have the correct amout per day and the caffine is over doing it 🌟tea most of the time is like classic threw the  genocide runs they dont do anything however his sister is a differnt story but we will get to her headcannons after tea 🌟tea littrly has found clementine on the roof in a onsie and was so confused and concerned this had happened when they were really young 🌟tea dose know of the other aus since he worked as a scinetiest with his gaster witch will have headcannons here aswell 🌟 tea appearance is way diffrent then his sister he has patches of brownish lack dots all over his bones along with hints of a hibiscus color dits aswell the hibiscus dits and brownish black dots are on his face aswell they look like freckles and his eyelights are a lovely hbiscus color mixed with green it looks like a field of flowers in a way 🌟 tea is 8′6 🌟 he wears tank tops most often and often steel toed boots he tends to also wear a hoodie around his waist thats a gold color that has black snake patern on it 🌟 hes the younger sibling just tall ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| 🌟 now for there gaster whos nickname i have dubed him  apoco he has insomnia aswell but also ADD or ADHD but the more chill version of it that makes you have no energy and multitask on every little thing  🌟 apoco actually made tea and clementine and  gaurd threw using abit of his dust in a machine tho if there were more skeleton monsters they couldve combinded there magic to create tea and apoco but both of these process are dangerous 🌟 hes actually a good father belive it or not and the core accident didnt happen well it did but he didnt fall into the core tho he no longer works as the royal scinestist  🌟he apperenice is a mix of teas and clementine who is sometime called bee by her father for her love of the tiny things his eyes ocsinally change color not as bad as clementine or bee  🌟 he WILL throw hands with you in the genocide rout no queastion asked  🌟 HE IS TALL OML his height is 10′8  tho tea is catching up to him then theres just poor tea the poor woman lol 🌟 he has brittle bones they break easy and get hurt easy so he has to be careful because hurt bones are a PAIN to deal with  🌟 he can sing funny enough tea has described his singing to others simlar to a sirens  🌟 this fancy mf wears a trench coat that has sun and star patterns on it along with potion like symbols on it  ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| 🌟now we have clementines whos nicknames are bee  freezy  rain and a few more 🌟 she got the bad end of the stick of the genes in apocos side her bones are brittle as fuck like his  and scoliosis she also cant move her hips at all and will have to get them rebroken to connect them with the right parts to be able to move them and she got the mental end of the stick she has paranoid schizophrenia and ADHD Bipolar and a few more that will be updated over time she also has anxiety and depression tho she is geting medicine for these things 🌟her appearance is generally like swap sans but she has light rose quartz pink dots with olive and mint green spots that look simlar to mini   daffodil flowers there is also a occasionally purple and blueish and purple lavender daffodil marks her eye lights change there most often her natural color of a lovley blueish green it looks like a ring and the colors are flooding into eachother her  outer eyelight part are a greyish blue and the inside is a vibrant olive green tho her eye lights change alot of colors  when angry they tend to be brown and gold she also has the rose quartz colored dots along with the olive and mint green and purple and gold dots an dlittle daffodil like markings on her face like freckles and markings 🌟she loves animals and with her ADHD she tends to be hyper 24/7 and has random crashes she forgets alot of times and she will blurt out random things or because her ADHD she will copy random noises and make them her room is full of weighted plushies and blankets and many many plushies such as snake octopus dragons and bees also has cats and birds hidden in there 🌟her height is 5′5 when it comes to the family tho she climbs to get most things shes alittle gremlin lol her brother and father often have a tough time keeping up with her energy  🌟 she cooks really well she tends to have a more southern way of cooking and it taste amazing and she dosent know how to do portions when she cooks she cooks for everyone so yes i can imagine her randomly bringing foods for the star sanses and bad sanses secretly and droping it off  🌟her outfit is a turtle neck that ranges from colors and fluffy winter boots  she wears gloves purely she dislikes people she dosent know liking her she also has a black scarf  that she will wrap around her face when she gets a episode and HATES dislikes people seeing any part of her body she also dose wear glasses occasionally even tho shes as blind as a bat she only wears then occasionally  simply the cold clouds glasses like a bitch so she often uses her hands or hearing to find where things are and is really good at it 🌟her personality is chaotic she has moments where she acts chaotic and makes violent jokes and shit 🌟she would defiantly be friends with lust and horror and outer and farmer 🌟she loves growing her own herbs and making jam and tea from flowers she drinks tea but not as much as her brother 🌟her hands are really shaky at times and she will panic because she sometimes hears things that arnt there not vioces like error but things she gets scared very easily so expect her to jump and let out alittle squeak if you come up behinde her  🌟 she hates being alone but also likes it its more she hates silence she also deffinatlly people saying shes a people pleaser since the first half of her life she had spent faking a personality that the specific person wanted instead of using the personality that was hers she often falls into this habit again and just calls her self fake even tho this was implented on her by a specific person from the au  she crys easily when yelled and she will say sorry for everything 🌟she actually has snaped in a genocide route and killed the human before   🌟 she uses a weapon that rang it can be a staff at some points with double sided crystal points at each side or a full on great sword or daggers she also can use a bow 🌟she despises aphlys  for trying to hurt her brother at one point because she was mad she fucking whooped alphys ass she also refuses to join the royal gaurd  🌟 she much prefers to be the undergrounds and snowdens local baker and  cafe worker  🌟 she runs a caffe called ‘Hidden Academy’ its witched and magic themed theres paintings on the wall of a magical hidden forest and dragons griffions flying on the walls and on one side of the cafe is ocean themed with sea serpents in the water along with sirens singing on rocks and then the roof is a night sky with glowing stars and comets  🌟 shes generally chill about the work outfit but most employs get to choose the color of a witch hat they want they can decorate the hat and there uniform is color themed to match the outfit 🌟 her outfit is olive green mixed with purple and she has little crysal and herb symbols on her witch hat with a viel hanging from the hat to cover her face she can see threw the viel dw  🌟she loves upbeat music but music in generally  🌟 she can travel threw aus her magic concludes of being able to freeze stuff and lightning along with bone and gaster blaster magic  🌟 she can and will shock you a tiny bit if you piss her off 🌟 this little shit can be vicous she is very competive in battle  🌟 her love language is pychical touch gifts and she loves hearing words of affirmative she needs  loves to know shes doing a good job 🌟 deffinatlly the little spoon but will switch to big spoon at times  🌟shes allways cold but her bodys allways warm like a heater so she will snuggle a person whos warm or warm things 🌟clementine birthday is march 26 ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||| 🌟now for the sans of this au his nickname is gaurd or more simply called plague 🌟he looks simlar to clementine and tea but his colors are more vibrant and instead of droplet or daffodil markings he has star markings that also look simlar to roses and his eye lights are a ocean blue tho they sometimes change to light blue 🌟 he is the second oldest and shortest clementine holds that title both sulkingly and proudly lol 🌟you actually can die in a battle with him and if he sees you try and fight his siblings oh dear goodness pray for yourself 🌟he tends to use a sword or daggers more then his bone attacks

🌟he loves fuzzy things just like clementine but is a walking heater 🌟he is often found at clementines cafe/diner 🌟 hes pretty chill and tends to be entergetic but not as bad as the classic papyrus  🌟 he is in the royal gaurd actually  🌟 hes the second in command of the royal gaurd 🌟 he wears gloves and his outfit is a guard uniform with a cape and hood with a snake mark on it  🌟 the outfit is more of a black turtle neck that has no sleves and blueish black pants and boots 🌟hes height is 6′6

[malandi]

adhd tips for online class 🥰

Have a passion project on the side you can go back to any time

Momentum is very important to us. When i feel myself slowing down while working on my responsibilities, i get my momentum back up by doing something im interested in.

Usually when im getting bored or distracted, i go on social media which kills my momentum even more.

But when i do something im interested in which is also productive, i can kill my boredom while maintaining my momentum. When i feel im in the zone, i return to my responsibilities.

more tips under the cut 💋

I highlighted in a way that makes reading comfortable for me. Tell me if it isnt effective for you so i may edit.

The key to working with adhd is momentum

I made the mistake of forcing myself to focus even when i lost momentum / got distracted or disinterested.

We cannot beat our adhd, we can only adapt to it.

If we get ourselves interested enough in something, our hyperfocus will do the rest. If we feel our focus waning, we redirect that focus but maintain our precious energy. See some ways i achieve this.

Fidget toys and take breaks while watching videos

Watching videos is one of my biggest problems with online school. I have an attention span of 3 minutes if i try really hard. While watching, fidgeting with something helps me focus.

Divide videos into how long your attention span lasts. Make sure you dont strain yourself. Take breaks equal to half of the time of those divisions between those divisions but dont leave your spot and dont open social media.

For example, i watch 3 minutes then take a one minute break. For that one minute break i set a timer, then i doodle, write down notes, stretch, sing, something like that. Then i go back to watching.

Eventually my attention span increases that i can make it past 3 minutes. Sometimes 5 minutes, sometimes 10. The goal here is to build up momentum. If you feel yourself focusing beyond the time you set for yourself, dont stop! Only stop when you notice yourself getting distracted.

Video calls and company while working

When someone can hold you accountable, your productivity might increase. This personally works for me. The other person's momentum affects my momentum. Social factors such as courtesy also forces me to focus on the task. Other people interacting with me also keeps me entertained without losing focus on what im doing.

Schedule study / productivity sessions with friends through calls. I find chat isnt as effective. Typing on a phone screen makes it too easy to multitask on your phone, as opposed to keeping your phone screen off while talking only thru call.

If someone at home is also working, working in the same space will create a serious environment with engagement and without as many distractions.

Making detailed instructions for things you want to do

I know most of us make schedules. But leaving very detailed instructions on what we have to do will stop us from overthinking -> overwhelming ourselves -> losing the will to do it

Example:

10:00 am - do my therapists homework

Find a private spot. Likely bed in the corner

Open email she sent me

Copy paste instructions in my writing app

Turn off wifi

Begin!

Reading tips

Read out loud!

Divide your readings into sections (my watching video tip applies here)

Walk around while reading

Highlight the as you read so you dont get lost if youre reading on a screen

Take notes but dont be strict with them, doodle if you feel like it

Sorry if my English isnt so good!

What works for me may not work for you. Dont be upset if it didnt work.

We are different people who work in different ways 🥰

Hello adhd community ❤️

[runeterrankhaleesi]

hi! can i please get a matchup for league or valorant? i'd like to be matched with a guy, i'm a 5'3 nonbinary person who leans more towards being more masc, and some of my main interests are art and dance. i’m also chinese and trying to relearn some of my heritage/ the language! i would prefer to date someone else who’s also a person of color/not white so we could like share cultures and traditions and just relate to each other more. generally i think i’m a pretty funny person, i have a dry sense of humor usually and i also laugh at a lot of things.

i also have adhd so sometimes i’m all over the place but usually focus my energy on multitasking almost everyday. i’m pretty snarky/sassy and have a lot to say. usually though i go through some depressive episodes since i have bipolar/depression and i also have been through some stuff in the past that was traumatizing/unfair so i’ve been recovering from it for a few years. i would say that i’m pretty hardened by life and i know that life isn’t always fair and it’s just something i’ve come to accept. i think to me it would be super important that my s/o has been through some similar hardships as me, or at least is able to understand what i’m going through and support me especially since in the past i’ve had people do more harm than good.

i guess i would say my type are other people who are also hiding some sadness so we can like, mutually support each other, or people that are like the opposite of me that can lift me up. i can also be a bit impulsive sometimes and outspoken, and i’m also really stubborn and do what i think is the right thing to do. I would say i’m a pretty smart person when it comes to survival or whatever because i’m usually paranoid about things so i just follow my gut instincts. i love animals a lot, especially cats, and i also love spicy food, so much to the point my friends sometimes call me a masochist as a joke lmao. always drenching my food in hot sauce. generally i also am a pretty loud person, i’m clumsy and i bump into things and i have trouble keeping quiet. lastly, i’m also really really affectionate with my s/o, i would cling to them like a koala whenever possible. I looooove physical affection and i’m also touchstarved as HELL. thank you so much for doing this!

[A/N: Hello darling! Me and my matchmaker made your LMMU request for LoL because you gave us so much information that we found that you were perfect for one of the champions so we hope you like this. Thank you!]

I pair you with...

AKSHAN!

Why? Because...

Akshan aims to be "a jack of all trades" so he does everything he can to learn a little bit about everything, and that includes learning about art, dance, culture and etc. He would bring books back home to read during his free time, he'd also bring a couple of books for you if the topic is something you like or it's something he thinks you'll be interested in.

He grew up as an orphan in the streets of Marwi, Shurima. His only family is his late mentor, Shadya. Naturally, he grew curious and went to try and find his parents while looking for the killer of Shadya. It's a shame that he can't tell you anything about his family since all he knew was how to be a sentinel of light. But he would tell you anything about the history, culture, and traditions of Shurima and would bring you to every festival the country holds. You'd exchange jokes and laugh the whole time (Akshan has more of a "bad pun" type of humor).

And just like you, Akshan has gone through quite a lot, especially his near-death experience as a kid. He could never forget that and he could never ever forget how his mentor, Shadya, used the Absolver to resurrect him. Not to mention, the recent events of the Ruination has left him tired, depressed, and scarred. You'd help out each other through the trauma you've felt in your lives and comfort each other through tough times.

Even though you're smart and have great survival insticts, Akshan always makes sure to look out for you. He knows that you can take care of yourself but it wouldn't hurt to be careful, he doesn't want to lose another special person in his life. He's already lost one-his only parent figure-because of a mistake he made.

Since you both like animals, it didn't take long for you two to adopt a pet-a cat. Snuggling and petting the cat after a long day just takes off the stress and weight you've been carrying all day.

He's also a fan of spicy foods. What do you expect, he grew up in Shurima! You'd hold mini competitions and see who has the better and higher spice tolerance. It's funny since both of you are on the same level, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.

Don't worry, he doesn't mind you being loud. He thinks it makes you more fun, friendly, and easy to hang out with. You're not boring like Lucian who's face is always brooding, unless Senna's there.

Definitely calls you "koala bear" because you cling to him like a koala would to a tree. Finds it cute that you can't go on a day without getting a kiss or some type of affection from him. And loves the fact that you welcome him home with open arms. The thought of going home to you is what keeps him going during missions, thinking that it'll all be over soon and he could finally cuddle you and smother you in kisses.

💝~Happy Valentines Day!~💝

[You were matched together by @mellonzinho]

[inkykeiji]

hi clari!! touya nii’s been on my mind sm lately and i keep wondering how he’d handle reader if she had adhd. like one of my longest hyperfixations has been taylor swift and i just have to listen to her all the time (i annoy my friends sm with this and i think he’d get annoyed too lmaoo). or when i get overstimulated i snap so easily and i’ll immediately regret it or i just completely shut down. but how would he be about it, would he let her be on meds? if she’s being moody would he be a little more understanding or would he punish her behavior regardless of the reason? or what about when she’s being impulsive and hyper?

i hope ur having a good day and taking care of yourself!! <3

hello bb!!! <333

he’d definitely listen to her ramble on and on and on about her current hyperfixation, with the appropriately placed mhmm or uh-huh or totally, baby peppered throughout the conversation. he wouldn’t necessarily be annoyed tbh, he’d find it cute 90% of the time; he loves seeing his baby happy and excited, and if that means she has to talk his ear off about whatever she’s currently fixated on, then so be it! he usually doesn’t mind. you can’t expect him to be paying full attention—he’s most likely doing something else as she cutely babbles on, but he’s an expert multitasker, and he gets the gist of the conversation regardless. he also knows that, more than anything, she just can’t help it and she literally needs to get the excitement, interest, and thoughts expressed, out of her head and vocalized into the air, made tangible in a way, and he doesn’t mind being her outlet for that!

the other 10% of the time he may just be too exhausted, too exasperated, returning from a long, frustrating day at work with excess fury weighing heavy on his shoulders and additional irritation crushing on his chest, and it’s on those days he’s more likely to get annoyed. he still attempts to tolerate it, but he’s more likely to snap or be a litter harsher when he’s in a sour mood.

if she were to snap at him due to overstimulation, he’d be firm right back at her. it’s understandable that she might feel on edge due to too much going on in the environment, but to him, that is still never an excuse to snap at niichan. and he’d tell her so, every single time it happens, expecting a prompt and precious apology immediately. in addition to this, though, he would try his best to work with her to ‘correct this behaviour’, finding strategies together to help her deal/cope with those emotions in a healthier way (he himself would benefit from such strategies as well, although we all know he’d never use them, because in his mind there’s absolutely nothing wrong with him; he’s perfect). he’d also begin to pick up on the telltale signs that it’s building up within her, noting the way her expressions morph, the way her mannerisms change, the way her tone shifts—touya is nothing if not extremely perceptive, especially when it comes to his princess—thus enabling him to remove her from whatever it is that’s upsetting her to prevent any sort of overstimulated outburst before it happens.

he would absolutely allow her to be on meds if that’s what she wanted or if that’s what she felt like she needed!!! like i said in the ask before this one, he only wants (what he considers to be) the best for her, and if she can live fuller and navigate life better with the aid of medication, he is perfectly okay with that (and he’s absolutely on top of her taking it everyday, too).

when it comes to being moody, he pretty much acts exactly the same as he would with her snapping due to overstimulation. he does understand that it isn’t entirely her fault, but he also believes that this also isn’t an excuse to get off without any sort of punishment or scolding, and that it is still her responsibility to figure out how to best behave (what a hypocrite, eh?), which he will, again, help her with in any way he can. he doesn’t mind figuring out effective coping strategies and methods with her, and he’s willing to work through them with her—anything to keep her as obedient as possible, of course—enticing her with his praise and pride to succeed in them, to keep practicing them, because she wants to be the best for her niichan, doesn’t she? he only loves her so much, and it isn’t nice when she acts out, is it?

with hyper behaviour, he’d act exactly the same as he does with the hyperfixations, and he might even join in if he’s high enough. on these days they’d truly have a lot of fun. he has no issue helping her get that energy out, and he can think of several sfw and nsfw ways to do it <3 but when it comes to impulsivity, that’s where he draws the line. because that can become very dangerous. this is where he’d be the most strict, harsh, mean. it would be difficult for her to be impulsive with money, because he controls all of it, and it would be difficult for her to be impulsive with behaviour, since she’s almost always trapped beneath his—or natsuo’s—extremely watchful eyes. however, on the days where she manages to be extra crafty, on the days where her impulses are nearly bursting through her veins and out her pores, that’s when she’s really gonna get it, no ifs ands or buts about it, no second chances or i’m sorrys, no excuses whatsoever.

aw lovely!!! thank you so much hehe <3 i hope this answers your questions!! please enjoy your day <33

[hjertetssunnegalskap1]

Hello, Tumblr people. It’s a new year and I’m having a very navel-gazing moment. Btw is navel-gazing an international expression? It basically means that I’m self-obsessed. Still, maybe my experiences can give someone else an aha-moment?

I don’t think I’ve talked a lot about it here, but I’ve been through a process these last years where I’ve learned some new things about myself. I’ve always known that I have some “struggles,” but it has taken me decades to figure out why, and how to deal with it. I mean, I don’t have all the answers yet, but I’m getting there. 

I’ve had struggles with overeating, feeling depressed, anxious, unfocused and forgetful, burned out, feeling dumb and socially awkward. I’ve been quite wobbly and insecure in relationships, too. And the thing is, I have finally figured out that I have ADHD. In danger of hanging everything on one explanation, I feel like a lot clicks into place, now that I know this.

Also, the irony is, that I’m a psychologist and well over 40, and hmmm.... how didn’t I figure this out before? I could probably say a lot about that, but I suppose I went under the radar because I was a girl that did well at school. And I’ve always thought that “this is just how I am,” and that it’s about my temperament/ attatchment style/ possible trauma reactions. And I’m not saying that those factors aren’t part of "my whole package”, but they don’t erase these things: 

1. Since I was a tiny kid, I’ve always gotten this “flow” feeling whenever I’m doing something I love to do. I’m hyperfocused and can be very productive over long periods of time. When I’m like this, I forget everything else, and it can be hard to snap out of it and notice other things around me. I also can’t hear a word if you try to talk to me when I’m like this. Seriously. Not a word.

2. I am quite creative. I get a lot of ideas! Also, I like to create things, like stories, art, and stuff like that. Sometimes I get too many ideas and too little time to follow them up, though. Still, I suppose I prefer getting many ideas to not getting any.

3. I’m easily distracted, and can struggle to focus, especially on mundane tasks, but sometimes this also happens when I do stuff I love (mostly because of anxiety, because I fear to disappoint, see point 5). This is probably part of why  I forget things all the time. I try to armour myself with lists and alarms but I still forget things on a daily basis. Thank heavens that we have a code to our front door and not lock or keys.

4. Because of my interests (reading, psychology, history, stories, + +), I’ve become good at picking up what’s important in a text, or underlying messages when someone talk too me. When I’m focused, I can even be quite intuitive.  I’m especially good at connecting dots and seeing the whole picture (not so much the details). However, at other times, especially when I’m stressed, I’m bad at listening. I can also totally misread cues or not pick up details in conversations.

5. I feel a lot. On the positive side, that means I love my friends and family to pieces, and I get excited and happy about the smallest things. I empathise with others a lot. My family love how excited I get about everything, even when we’re watching a movie, or something. However, I also get easily frustrated, worried or hurt, too. Sometimes, my feelings become too much and I have picked up a ton of not-so-good strategies to handle it. Like avoidance. Smoking (not anymore, thank fuck). Escapism. Overeating. Sex. Procrastination. Luckily, I have some better strategies, too, like drawing, listening to music, talking to someone.

6. I struggle with relationships. People in my life probably don’t know how important they are to me, because I struggle to keep in touch and do stuff that maintain these relationships. I feel like I have a lot more to say about this, but I’ll have to come back to it.  

7.  Even if I see myself as fairly intelligent and with a capacity to plan and think forward, I often act impulsively. A good thing about impulsivity is the fact that I get easily enthusiastic about new things and ideas. However, I also forget about possible consequenses to my actions. I say yes to a lot of things, for instance. This is also linked to the fact that I want to be good, and I want to help others when I can. I’m also very optimistic about what I can manage to do. I just... when I get overwhelmed for some reason, I often struggle to follow through.

8. I do not multitask, although I frequently try to. Because of all of my ideas. I struggle to prioritize, choose and make desisjons, especially under stress. Too many options and/ or the thoughts of all the possible outcomes overwhelm me. 

9. Organizing. Sigh. This is a HUGE shame for me. I feel like I’ve always struggled to establish daily routines and keep a tidy home, something “everybody else” seem to manage just fine. It might be a paradox that I love to make lists, but rarely manage to follow those lists. Wait, of course, that’s quite logical. I need the outer structure, but struggle to follow it because it’s too much at once. I shouldn’t make lists that are longer than three bullet points. LOL, and here I am.

10. What is time management? I just... yeah, I don’t know where to start. Sometimes I’m a time pessimist, sometimes a time optimist. I try to compencate by setting clocks earlier etc. Also, I have this one thing I’m basically never late to, believe it or not: Appointments with my patients.

11. Which reminds me: I have some compensating strategies that take a lot of my energy. For instance, I give myself deadlines before the real deadline and sometimes that helps me get things done in time. Because I don’t want to bother people, I have a tendency to say I’m sorry for things I probably don’t need to apologise for. I am working hard to be more honest and tell people when I struggle, but my knee-jerk reaction is to say everything is fine. I try to hide it when I have forgotten something. I use self-irony so much it becomes quite self deprecating and damn, that’s a habit I struggle to quit. Well. These are some of the things I can think of. 

12. All of this can be quite tiring, and this is probably partly how I ended up getting burned out at work.  I try to see both good and bad sides to all of these things, and I think I’m starting to see that this is something I can live with. Most of it has made me feel  like a failure and a bad person and my self image is not... good. My self critical thoughts lead to anxiety, which in turn leads to more avoidance, procrastination etc. 

This is a circle I’m trying to break.

Luckily, I have also started to use medicine that helps me focus, and the meds also help me with my energy levels. Things are slowly getting better. The difference is unbelievable, to be honest, and I can’t believe how I managed without them (well, I managed on buckets of coffee and everything stimulating I could face, hah). I also have someone to talk to, now, which is very helpful. I’m slowly starting to figure out what I can manage. 

Does some of this sound familiar? Well, if so, don’t be afraid to check out what it’s all about. I’ll never regret it, that’s for sure. 

[ravenlesslangblr]

I have a question about learning French. I have ADHD and can't sit down and cram vocabulary or grammar rules into my head, it's just not possible. If I read Harry Potter in French without any knowledge of the language, would I learn anything? Would I be able to speak the laguage?

Hello! Thank you for asking! 

I definitely struggle with attention and staying on my task as well. (I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD per se but I have another mental health issue with loads of comorbidities and ADHD might be one)

I don’t think that just reading Harry Potter can really help you speak the language. But it’s probably a good place to start, especially if you’ve read Harry Potter before and know it. I personally have Half-Blood Prince in French and I could read it pretty early on (like 2nd year of learning).

Other ADHD friendly methods of learning:

Learn on the go (while walking or commuting), Quizlet (for vocab) on your phone is perfect for this!

https://www.newsinslowfrench.com/ - it’s only about 3 minutes long and definitely gets your ear trained, there’s also a transcript you can follow

I posted about this one recently - it helps me personally to multitask. Put on a podcast or a song you like that you can jam to, an educational video or something else that will keep you somewhat interested and then do your task. For some reason, overwhelming my brain a little keeps me on the task and I don’t wander off so easily. But it’s probably not for everyone, I personally think I’m really high-functional. But it’s worth a try!

Try delving into some French learner podcasts (I personally don’t know any but I want to get into them, too! I might make a post on them)

Once you get into grammar, don’t cram. Come up with an example sentence for each. A sentence that you know you will remember (you can even try finding an example in your Harry Potter book!)

Types of grammar exercises: Unscrambling, building sentences from words, this or that, true or false (They’re usually quicker and more fun than just filling in the gaps which overwhelm you and then your mind wanders off)

You’ll be getting a lot of input but make sure you get some output too. Write down words you’ve heard and say them out loud, learn the pronunciation. Write down short summaries/later on say them about what you’ve read/listened to. 

I hope that this is helpful enough! Bonne chance avec apprendre la Français!

[soulisslippery]

I think I may have ADHD considering that I can relate to maybe at least 90% of this.

-Whenever I heat something up in the microwave, in the back of my head lurks something like "I can go to the bathroom before it finishes."

-I daydream a LOT. And I mean a WHOLE LOT. I get sucked up in my own fantasies then sometimes forget if something was actually reality or a daydream.

-I don't necessarily feel lonely all the time but I'll want someone to talk to but end up staying in my room all the time.

-I get overwhelmed by a bunch of choices, but I don't necessarily freak out. A good example of this is me and my career choices, I'm a junior in highschool and I have too many interests so I don't know what I want to do yet and it's kind of giving me anxiety.

-I'll purposely listen to instructions but I'll forget them about 5 seconds later.

-One thing I can do, however is multitask. I'm a queen at multitasking.

-i suck at purposely trying to remember things, so in the end ill try to repeat them in my head over again.

-whats appreciation?

-i have anxiety about wondering if everyone hates me or if they don't and I still won't believe myself or others if they say they don't hate me because I literally can't accept it. I feel as if people talk bad about me behind my back, my brain creates false realities that screw with me. I know it's not true but I really don't know so I'm just very confused. Tbh I just wanna be loved by someone who isn't family or a friend.

-if I have a best friend I'll get really fixated on trying to be someone that I'm not so I'll be interesting, so that my previous anxiety (what I have listed in the one above) doesn't get the best of me. I do that regardless of if I know if they like me or not (as a friend).

-for the "putting too much into things and getting disappointed when it's not reciprocated" thing I actually have a failsafe that I made for myself. I relate this one more to getting too excited and getting disappointed when what I want to happen doesn't come true. I basically tell myself it ain't gonna happen from the beginning so if it doesn't happen the blow isn't as big, but if it does happen it means more joy.

-ah yes. What if I don't live up to people's expectations? Hello anxiety.

-my emotions can do a whole 180 in probably about 1-2 seconds. Yippee......

-yeah. Sometimes I feel like crying and screaming prolly bc of some underlying anxiety that I forgot about that's haunting me.

Most of this stuff doesn't help since I worry about many things with myself and then how I present myself to others. What's more is that I bottle up my feelings and let them out when I'm in my room, my so-called safe haven. I probably have a whole bunch more that I can add on to this but I'm tired and can't think.

[clumsybookworm18]

Hihi!!! For the ask thing you posted earlier...mine are related, I guess...11 and 20? Are you listening to music right now, and what's your fav song at the moment? :P

Hello hello!! 😁

11. Are you listening to music right now?

Hon I’m always listening to music (hence my constant daydreaming)!!! If I’m not listening to some music, then I’m listening to an audiobook or a podcast for sure! My headphones are my crutches and I always have them on. It’s an unhealthy codependency I tell ya’ 😂 I think the only time I don’t is when I’m reading and/or studying cause my ADHD brain sucks at multitasking 🙃😭

20. What’s your favorite song at the moment?

Uuffff do I have to pick just one? 👀😂

If I had to pick it would be when the party’s over by Billie Eilish (What can I say I love angst ¯\_(ツ)_/¯). Buuuuut I’m also hooked with Naomi Scott’s Speechless (the movie version not the studio one). Absolute banger!!!

When I’m hooked on some songs I just make a playlist and listen to them on a loop until I get tired of ‘em!

[mikrckosmcs-a-blog]

          hello   my   cloud   babies,   i   know   i   haven’t   been   doing   replies   /   making   starters   /   responding   to   IMs   and   overall   just   slacking   on   my   activity   ...   bUT   i’ve   offered   you   somewhat   of   an  insight   into   what’s   been   going   on   behind   the   scenes   below.

          i’ve   never   been   good   at   multitasking   (   fuck   you,   ADHD   )   so   i’m   still   trying   to   learn   how   to   balance   writing,   working,   and   socializing   in   an   efficient   manner   which   has   nevertheless   led   to   me   neglecting   all   of   y’all.   i   haven’t   really   been   doing   anything   except   working   all   day   and   going   home   to   eat   then   sleep.   i   only   ever   see   yu   (   the   guy   i’ve   mentioned   before   )   because   i   don’t   have   very   many   friends   and   the   one   best   friend   i   do   have   moved   four   hours   away   recently,   this   realization   has   led   me   to   become   incredibly   aware   of   my   loneliness.   i   can’t   drive   and   there’s   no   public   transportation   in   my   area   so   i’m   literally   stuck   at   home   unless   i   can   call   a   ride   but   that   costs   money   and   isn’t   worth   it.   however,   the   weather   is   getting   better   and   my   21st   birthday   is   next   month   so   hopefully   i’ll   be   back   to   being   somewhat   normal.   anyway,   instead   of   moving   blogs   again   i’m   going   to   just   drop   all   plots   i   have   going   since   i’ve    practically   lost   muse   for   all   of   them   but   please   don’t   feel   discouraged   because   more   than   likely   i’ll   want   to   get   something   new   going   !   thank   you   for   reading   this   and   know   that   i’ll   be   okay   soon   ♡