#i avoid drama in my own fandoms like the plague

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Always fun seeing flashes of fandom drama from fandoms youre not a part of

I dont go here but I am on the sidelines watching it unfold with popcorn

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"You're going to have to."

I don't usually write meta on account of doing my best to avoid Fandom Drama like the plague and even a hint of Star Wars meta is like a siren call to Drama but. I have Thoughts about this scene and now I'm going to share them and if you're here for anti-Mace Windu thoughts this is not the post for you my friend.

Every time I see meta or reference to this scene it's used as more 'proof' that Windu was totally the worst and we shouldn't feel at all bad about him being maimed and thrown to his death which sure is a take, and on the surface I can understand why. When you don't bother to look more into that scene it does come off as Windu being a rude bitch to a child whose dad died in front of him, which is pretty uncool.

But this is a meta post and I am here to look more into this scene. I want to start with the concept of forgiveness, because when I go, I go big. I feel like a lot of the antipathy toward this scene (and by extension toward Windu) come from the fact that again, on a surface-level reading, it looks like Windu is demanding Boba's forgiveness for Jango's death, when we all know that's not how that works. That is, in fact, a concept that to most of us is viscerally offensive- our knee-jerk reaction is something more along the lines of "screw you i resent you more now" than it is "well okay that seems reasonable". Because you can't just demand somebody's forgiveness and expect it to happen. All that is is another wrong against the person you've already wronged. It's pure conceitedness and self-interest.

It's also not what Windu was trying to say to Boba in that scene. Not even remotely, in my opinion, and I'll explain why.

Think about the way the Jedi teach, particularly the way they teach philosophical concepts- they don't simply tell their students what to think, they tell them something and then make them think about themselves. Jedi are always expected to look deeper into a lesson to see what they can get out of it, this is the way Windu's lived his whole life, of course this is the way he speaks to Boba even though Boba's not a Jedi.

It's not exactly a hot take to say that Mace Windu and Boba Fett have very different ways of approaching the world. This is important to remember, though, because it guides the way that Windu interacts with Boba in this scene. When Boba swears he's never going to forgive him, Windu looks him in the eye and says, "Well, you're going to have to." And when he says that he's not saying that as some kind of ultimatum, he's saying that as a statement of fact.

What Windu is really saying to Boba in this scene isn't "forgive me 'cuz i said so". What he's saying is "your father cannot come back, and you will have to find a way to live with that so it doesn't consume you". Because what was Boba saying when he said "I'll never forgive you"? It wasn't just "I hate you", it was "I hate you, and I hate you so much that I don't care who I destroy in the process of destroying you". Sure, he expresses regret for all of the actual human beings that died because of his actions, but he follows it up with an utter refusal to acknowledge that those actions were wrong. What he was saying was "I hate you, and I hate you so much that I don't care who I destroy in the process of destroying you, even if it's myself."

Boba has done some genuinely horrible things by this point. He's put other children's lives at risk. He's crashed a star destroyer and killed who knows how many people. Maybe he didn't shoot the injured clones himself when they went in and took their hostages, but they wouldn't have died there if it weren't for him. He is directly responsible for the death of a man whose only crime was walking through the wrong door at the wrong time. He has charged headfirst down a path of death and destruction that will spread misery everywhere he goes.

And now Windu- who has just lost all of these men, lost Ponds, nearly lost his own life to Boba's actions- is looking down at this twelve-year-old boy, and he doesn't want this for him. He so badly doesn't want this for him, but he cannot make Boba's choices. All he can do is try and tell him "this path you're on is not worth it".

Because that, in my opinion, is what he means when he says "You're going to have to." He's not saying that he's entitled to anything from Boba (because he might have killed Jango in self-defense, but his motives and intentions don't change the fact that his actions hurt Boba), he's saying that Boba has to let go of that hatred before it ruins his life.

Which is exactly what it does! What happens to Boba in the end? He continues alone down his path of hate and misery, until he gets eaten by a sarlacc and enslaved by Tuskens. He had so little, and he loses even that. And it's no one's fault but his own.

But.

But. Finally, so many years after he started down that path, he does what Windu said. Finally, he lets that anger go. Finally, he gets to become what he could have been if he hadn't let himself be consumed by his rage. And that's why I liked The Book of Boba Fett, despite its flaws, because we get to see that change. After forty-odd years of strife, Boba finally gets to be a man at peace. And that's exactly what I think Windu would have wanted.

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idek if this qualifies as an unpopular opinion or not and I am not pointing out any particular bit of drama or any one person but I really think f1blr is one of the most toxic sports fanbases on tumblr :(

I like a lot of other sports and overall it feels like the fandoms either generally get along or keep to themselves

after the day I've had I'd be tempted to agree, but I don't usually find f1blr that toxic. It has its moments, and every now and then I get pretty uncomfortable on here, but the reason I stick to tumblr is that u can curate your own experience so well and simply block the negativity. 99% of my mutuals and followers are wonderful, caring people and I have a lot of fun on here.

I agree that f1 fans in general are pretty toxic on other platforms though. I don't like gatekeeping the sport from new fans, but I have noticed an influx of new fans onto tumblr recently, people who came over from twitter and tiktok who have no idea how this platform works. I think that's where the negativity stems from, because I avoid f1twt like the plague due to it being renowned for its toxicity

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@vancreux asked, "3. What’s the best thing about the show/series/books/comics/etc.? //hsr

6. What’s the worst thing about the fandom?

19. Should people get into the franchise your writing from, yes or no?"

canon questionare. || Status: Accepting

What’s the best thing about the show/series/books/comics/etc.? //hsr

The fucking story telling and how deep the lore is. Like how I would judge a series lore is 'how long would it take me to explain it to my nongamer/nonanime fan coworker?' Would it take me two days to scratch the surface then I usually say that the lore is incredibly flushed out and captivating and like Genshin, Honkai Star Rail does not disappoint. Granted I wouldn't bother, because my manager has already asked me if I liked hentai because he confused it with anime/manga so he is a lost cause and my boss is an older woman and my coworkers are gossipy small town girls that would probably get lost because the series isn't something you can give an in depth explanation of in the short amount of time they'd hear me out.

And honestly I have to say I appreciate any series that can have such a large cast of characters and I don't absolutely despise at least one major/playable character with a burning passion.

What’s the worst thing about the fandom?

I think this has been said but I think it is a consequence of a fandom growing and that being it attracts toxic people that can't be nice. Now outside of something that happened months ago in the Genshin fandom I have mostly managed to not have my dash flooded with mostly ooc posts complaining about the fandom, series or the creator or some unexplained fucking drama again like I have seen in past fandoms but in all reality I am getting way more liberal with the block button than I used to be and avoid Twitter like the plague.

Should people get into the franchise your writing from, yes or no?"

//EEEEEEEEEEEH, that depends. I enjoy the corner of the fandom I write in but it all depends. For those happy to be liberal with the block button and picky about who you keep as mutuals and stay away from twitter (by what I'm told) than yeah but it is definitely a 'you have to curate your own experience' thing.

Also it just kind of depends on mentality. If someone is going into any fandom looking for the problems specifically you are going to be miserable, if you want to be everyone's friend you won't be and will probably be miserable, if you go into it expecting to be happy acting like it's high school, again you'll be miserable. If you are going into it looking for genuine friends and you don't have a probably removing people that ruin the fun then yes. Because by what I have seen unlike a fandom I used to be in alot of the good people that haven't gotten sick of whatever toxic shit is going on and left the fandom altogether.

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Dear lord, I had to block a lot of people today.

Mostly just people saying that GO fans are annoying. One book fan saying that the TV show fans are the worst people alive (mind spitting your venom elsewhere?)

While I know people are entitled to their own opinions, I was a little shocked by the reminder that some people outside of this fandom can be a little emotionally draining (hating things that are "cringe", finding non problematic things problematic, thinking it's gross for people over thirty to be shipped, etc).

Anyway, I love my fellow GO fans (aside from the ones who think TV show fans are the worst). You guys have been very kind and fun to be around. And while I'm sure there are bad eggs out there (just mentioned a couple times that I found some), overall, this is the most peaceful fandom I've ever been a part of.

I'm not really sure what's so "annoying" about us anyway. Our overwhelming love for a wholesome ship? Our appreciation for a great story? The fact that we let "cringe" exist in peace (yes, I know I post cringe and I'm happy that no one here minds cause it's dumb to hate on cringe)? Is it just a "this is new and popular so I'll hate it" sort of thing?

If anyone has some fandom drama to share with me, I'm all ears. Cause I must have been doing a pretty good job avoiding it if it's such a problem. I wouldn't say that any fandom I've been a part of was overwhelmingly toxic while I participated in it, but let me tell you, some of them had a reputation or became horrid long after I left. The last fandom I was a part of, again, wasn't what I'd call insane levels of toxic, but it became unpleasant to participate in over time. I started finding that I was walking on eggshells once I got further into it, and there was definitely a lot of harassment over stupid things (shipping wars, for one). In fact, I was so relieved when I entered the GOs fandom and found that I didn't have to overthink every little thing I posted.

And then there are the infamously horrible fandoms which... yeah... If you know, you know.

If you think GO fans are annoying, I want your life because it seems pretty peaceful. I also want to know what fandoms and/or spaces you've been hanging out in cause they must be pretty delightful if GOs is bad in comparison.

I'm being sarcastic, obviously. They're probably spaces where people nitpick on things that don't matter. In other words, the types of people I avoid like the plague.

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I keep seeing the whole "staff is pedophilic and transphobic" stuff floating around, but every Google document I've read on it only showcases fandom drama and argues why so-and-so fandom/ship that a staff member was a part of or reblogged is terrible/evil/bad/etc., rather than showing anything demonstrable of actual IRL pedophilic actions and transphobic attitudes. While I think we can all agree that the author of HP is awful, I don't think someone shipping characters from the books actually counts as them being transphobic or a TERF in any way. And note, I'm saying that as a trans person; I'm not interested in petty flamewars and faux fandom activism. Someone being a part of one fandom over another does not really change my life in any observable way, and I'm a little sick of people implying it does or using it as a cudgel to bash other people and accuse them of things that might not be true. I need real, actual transphobic rhetoric and not just ... Draco and Hermione ship art ... to believe that someone is actively, maliciously against trans people. In the same way, avoiding Harry Potter like the plague does not actually make you a perfect little angel of gender activism who's actively working towards trans rights and equality. Sorry, but not sorry! No one in either scenario is doing jack shit! Go to a fucking protest, donate actual money or goods to a trans person in need, and support trans-owned projects and businesses if you want to claim you've done actionable change, because I'm sick of arm chair activists who don't actually do shit but then act as though their word and online harassment campaigns are single-handedly saving lives everywhere. You're not helping anyone.

The way staff handled target harassment of one of their members was probably overly-harsh, but I was also on this hellsite when Tumblr ruined one woman's entire career in ecology because of baseless accusations of zoophilia(iirc), so I'm also not exactly sympathetic to the deleted after witnessing what that stuff can do to someone's career. Something something fuck around and find out. I'm especially not super sympathetic given now my dash is just fucking covered in "if you have ever liked [long list of seemingly fucking random fandoms and fictional ships] you're an evil, no-good person in your core who probably wants to vandalize buildings and kidnap children!!!! But we all already knew that because we're the Elect good pure beans who have never touched those Evil Fandoms isn't that right followers :)" type commentaries because of it.

This is just a personal rant, but as an out trans person who was openly queer and homeless for five years, who's actually affected by and faces real-life transphobia pretty fucking regularly, this drives me nuts. It's fucking fandom wank and it has literally zero moral judgement values whatsoever attached to it by virtue of its existence. People are just using it as an excuse to sit on their ass and claim they've 'helped fight against transphobia,' when in reality they're too terrified to step away from their computers and work to tackle the actual physical injustices trans people regularly have to wrestle with. Unfortunately, some of us--like me!--don't get the option to just hide behind a screen and pretend that if only we could eradicate all Harry Potter fans from the universe, we could magically rid the world of transphobes.

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Where do I even BEGIN with this.

I wasn’t aware that there was drama going on in the Dinluke tag. You wanna know why?

Because I avoid it like the plague.

Because despite Dinluke being my favorite ship, I’m intensely uncomfortable on the tumblr tag. And what’s left to say but that? I can list all of the reasons and tell you why, but the people causing the problem are just gonna tell me to ignore it and that it’s not a big deal, or blame me for spreading negativity.

And I felt bad before, because I really believed that. I felt bad for spreading negativity in the fandom. I wrote a shorter post about the same issue and I didn’t tag it as Dinluke because I didn’t want to spread negativity. But I’ve come to realize that I’m not sure there’s any reason to worry about the feelings of people who don’t care about the feelings of anyone else.

Y’all realize that many people, especially queer men, no longer feel comfortable here, right? And do you understand that that is entirely your doing? Probably not, because y’all care more about your fetishes than you do real people.

Dinluke is no longer a tag for queer Star Wars fans to share their love for a pairing. Dinluke is just a place for y’all to treat queer men like s3x objects. Oh, and then you blame THEM for feeling uncomfortable and unwelcome in the tag. I’m tired of y’all trying to gaslight queer men in to thinking that they’re in the wrong for not wanting their community to be fetishized. You’re flooding the tag with this shit and we want no part of it. Make your own discord or something, since y’all seem to be so good at that, and post your stuff there. We’re so fed up with it.

And no I’m not adding a keep reading break before any of that, because after all if it bothers you so much then you can just ignore it

All I have left to say is that for the time being I will not be posting Dinluke art. And I already made that decision a while ago, which is why I haven’t posted any in months. I’m not creating content to be consumed by these people. Because even my shitty little doodles are too good for this dumpster fire. I will not contribute to the Dinluke tag anymore. I know some people want to try making a new tag, and if that takes off then I might reconsider, but until or unless that happens I don’t think I’ll be posting Dinluke.

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I would love to see the nerd essay on why you hate Nuzlockes :)

well, if it's requested...

this is ABSOLUTELY a "just me" thing but like. if there's something I don't particularly care for but am mostly ambivalent about, and that thing becomes unavoidably popular, I'm going to fucking loathe it. this is unfortunately my nature and it's the reason behind why I hate many of the things I do. (well, not exclusively for this reason. but still.)

and that's where nuzlockes come in. while there's absolutely nothing inherently wrong with em, they've been an absolute plague of the pkmn fandom for over a decade. since they hit the scene, they've been unavoidable.

at first it started with a comic. and people wanted to do it too, and make their own comic. which was fine. but soon, doing just a normal comic wasn't enough, because there were so many people doing comics that comics had to start being ~unique~ (this usually ended up being grimdark without any irony). I even vividly remember one that, for whatever reason, had a fucking sex scene. off-screen. played off as half-humorous. while the pokemon watched. now i do think sex scenes can be good, but it's a comic about playing pokemon.

on the record, i never ever looked anything up about nuzlockes. this shit was just endemic to the places i hung out, as it is was to the fandom in general. apparently part of being into nuzlockes is having to talk about nuzlockes. which is how liking stuff usually works, but it's inconveniencing ME, so I don't like it.

in the places I hung out at the time, there was this whole "pokebro" culture on nuzlockes too. a good chunk of people played nuzlockes cuz it made you "bond" with your pokemon more. they added a rule, that you had to nickname your nuzlocke mons, y'know, to make their possible death "more impactful" or something. now I'm all for personifying bits of data. so fucking guilty here too. but c'mon. it didn't help that these people dialed the drama about it up to ten, too, holding memorials for their fallen mons and such.

i actually tried a nuzlocke at this time, cuz "maybe I'm just being a hater" and it was very much not fun for me. first of all, in contrast to the "pokebro" people above, knowing that these mons could be only temporary, i "bonded" with them less. Also, even with the best strategy and well balanced team, RNG could at any time randomly punish me, and the only way to avoid that is grind n overlevel til everything is a curbstomp. Neither of those sound like good times!

at this point, there was a vibe around the entire fandom that, well, if you're replaying a pokemon game and you're not doing a nuzlocke, well it just wasn't as Good as a nuzlocke. even if you were doing something different like a mystery egg run, or a solo run, or whatever, it was inferior. god forbid you play normally, what are you, some sort of coward?

now all of this was like late 4th gen / early 5th gen. so streaming was a niche hobby at the time. but then Twitch came to town and streaming became an actual thing. and for the people who were just playing the game (instead of shiny hunting or wifi battles or whatever), they were literally all doing nuzlockes. I've basically stopped going on twitch but up until the day I did, that was always a problem. you literally could not find someone playing the game normally. and god forbid, other types of playthroughs? unthinkable.

remember before how i mentioned when everyone was doing a comic, people tried to get unique about it? happened here too. well EVERYONE'S watched a nuzlocke, so how about a ~randomizer nuzlocke~? or, now with 6th gen here, they absolutely lost their shit. not even nuzlockes anymore, they were wonderlockes! oh that's not creative enough anymore, so now we're doing wedlockes! because what nuzlockes need is forced heterosexuality. fuck it let's throw them together we're doing wonder wedlockes! we can't just have a few arbitrary rules, we need a whole book of them.

again, there's nothing inherently wrong with any ot this. but i think it's incredibly dumb. y'all's can make up rules about how you need randomly obtained wondertrade zigzagoons and ralts from fans of known pedophile thekingnappy, and how they have to be heterosexually paired off, and how if one dies the other does too for some reason, but you can't use any of that brain power to think of literally any other way to play?

and this is about when I dropped out from the Pokemon fandom to my own little corner of shiny giveaway blogs before my computer died and i had to stop doing that as well. and i absolutely refuse to interact with the general pokemon fandom these days because it is just absolutely insufferable. and I'm happier as such.

but I know Nuzlockes are still unbearably prevalent. there are people out there who have huge fanbases and make profits off of doing nuzlocke videos. and because it's by far the most popular way to play Pokemon beyond just playing it normally, there are many people who don't even know that there are sooo many other ways to possibly play! and the cycle remains unbroken and the loop will continue

i am a spiteful little beast tho. a while back (8-10 yrs ago) i was working on a custom Emerald romhack and I put a few notably difficult battles early on to literally prevent the romhack from being nuzlocked. never finished it, unfortunately, but que sera sera! wish I had. that'd have been amazing. I'd even put up a sign saying fuck nuzlockes if I were to finish it. LOL

ghrrrrhhhhghhhhh I've had that brewing for such a long time it was good to get out

(yes, I know it's Not That Deep, but don't pretend like accidentally stepping into a murky puddle in your favorite shoes wouldn't put a damper on your day.)

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I miss when people just created content for media that they enjoyed, none of this fandom nonsense. Like, if there weren't so many puritanical assholes roaming about fandom would be quite fun. Now I just think fandom in general was a mistake, what with the way they seem to inevitably slide into toxicity, it's why I avoid both the Star Wars and Dragon Age fandoms like the plague.

I get it that people have opinion and have the things they don't like and like. That's totally their rights to have certain stance.

But fandom war and dispute nowadays has reaching a dangerous point!

Look at how many pathetic people who are attacking actors/actress on Twitter over their ship? My friend explained the hate that Adam Driver got and it was disgusting

Yes because the whole drama about Rey and Kylo ship.

WHY SOME OF YOU ARE BULLYING PRODUCTION PEOPLE ON TWITTER OVER YOUR DAMN SHIP?! YOU WANT TO BULLY SOMEONE? BULLY PEOPLE LIKE MITCH MCCONNELL OR BEN SHAPIRO

There's also an incident in DA community over ship and art. It was ugly and people in the community get hurt! It was horrible!

I hate Bioware and Gaider but I never goes after them personally even though I fucking despise Gaider bullshit. If I ever have the chance to talk with them about their shitty takes of Dragon Age lore and politics, I know not to tell them to kill themselves or doxx them!!

I just make my analysis and critics publicly then be done with it without telling someone in Bioware that she should abort her son

( yes it happened because chuds can't accept that Anders is bisexual?)

Also game of thrones shipping war. I haven't seen a war so exhausting like Jonsa vs Jonerys before. God it was terrifying...

All fandom will eventually have their own toxicity and all big fandom WILL become toxic at some point. It's just the natural progression. But the degree of toxicity varies from fandom to fandom... Like TES is generally less toxic than Dragon Age or Warhammer 40k

You have to own two accounts nowadays one for all of your indulgence over ship, fandom, fanfic and fan art (which eventually you'll get hate at some point) and then a more general account as a safe place when fandom get ugly

People wanted to do the right think about their fandom or ships, but sometimes these people who wanted to do the right thing did it with the wrong way...

Some eventually become the bad guy.

Yes the person who wouldn't stop calling me abusive and stalking me for shipping fucking Blackbeard and Izzy you are the bad guy

The internet has made it easy for others to feel like they have to be involved in other's people business all the damn time.

My advice for you? Don't share personal info and stop giving a fuck about randos online, create your own safe space with fandom account and keep private account separate. Doxxing is rampant nowadays...

If someone sent you hate? See them as nothing but an icon and alphabet. So you'll be emotionally detached from them.

Don't take it personally and just delete the ask or comment. Don't feed the troll

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:: random things about boyfriend yoongi

↳ ♡ NOTE I saw this format floating around the fandom and thought it was cool and sweet (just like our honey boy so here it goes) 😊  includes an sfw and nsfw bit, both can be read independently.

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First off, Yoongi is laid-back and casually sexy the way we know him. But he also has spikes of energy where he actually gets a little clingy. Any opportunity he will use to hold hands or jump around like a madman with his gummy smile because he got excited about something that you never could predict would make him so happy. He truly is an epiphany.

He’s your most eager personal chef but funnily enough a little unsettled by onions so you end up helping him. Yoongi hates to be crying in the kitchen because of some evil little vegetable but hey, perfect time and place to spend half an hour huddled together cooking or baking. And Yoongi is secretly longing for a cheesy scene, he finds it romantic when you wipe the tears from his face.

His way of speaking to you is a mix of mumbly Korean, high-pitched pouty cat speak, and old-school English slang phrases that he learned somewhere on social media or award shows back in 2018. Most of the time he takes things seriously but is up for some joking anyway. He is sure to giggle every now and then which is really adorable of him. Yoongi is also the person who gets every nuance of your humor and reacts to it.

After being single, you really have to get used to someone waddling around the house. Like— oh, he’s there! And it’s none other than him! Since Yoongi isn’t noisy when he concentrates on his laptop, it really stands out when he morphs from his unmovable rock-like being to a slow rolling stone headed towards the kitchen from time to time. You have to blink every time. And how could you not look up, he’s walking by with his cutest oversized sweaters and striped fluffy socks.

He cannot hide things that normal people would try to keep secret — because of their own discomfort, but he is good at blocking out things that serve your comfort. I’ll explain what I mean. If you have been keeping up with Yoongi postponing the reveal of his surgery until it was successful, you know what I mean. In short, Yoongi is pretty much an automatic filter for things that disturb you. Knowing the right time and place to inform you is the key. As is disregarding things that don’t concern you as a couple, unnecessary drama and opinions. He’s really good at that without ever trying to sugar-coat the important things because he remains a frank and honest soul.

Yoongi has an easier time giving random presents for simple occasions rather than making a big deal out of traditional festivities. So, big celebrations are often kept simple — unless the rest of BTS is there advocating their ‘a little party never killed nobody’ motto — while Yoongi focuses on getting you something attentive or useful every other day pretty much. He’s still a frugal type, you know him. It’s more about inexpensive things that catch his eye because he heard you likes this or that type of snack or want this or that sofa cushion. 

There’s always something new and surprising in the fridge and it’s hardly ever empty because Yoongs takes care of the groceries, really thinking it through. Just personal chef things. Being Yoongi’s partner must be the most destressing thing. He takes responsibility for the worldly things, the ironing clothes and the trash cans. He himself thinks that’s the easiest shit ever and is ready to put time into it (he sees the merit, it drives him) while thinking your side — the sheer act of being in love with him, being there for him — must be hard. Which it isn’t. 

Yoongi thinks emotions and relationships are tough and complicated while daily life runs smoothly at the snap of a finger. You think maintenance is a drudgery while love is not the maze your boyfriend assumes it is. Deep down Yoongi thinks he’s unlovable and a bad person, that’s why he believes he doesn’t have the burden but you have. That your affection then blazes past the barriers in Yoongi’s esteem is something that he finds incredible. It catches him off guard there, you burst the bubbles of the flaws he falsely imagines he has.

You bet your ARMY bomb you’re watching cat videos together.

Guess who’s the first person to hear all of Yoongi’s upcoming hit tracks? Even Namjoon gets the first sample ten minutes later. You gotta be really advanced at keeping secrets and avoiding accidental leaks with your phone or something.

Yoongi hesitates with the analogy because it’s a little funny and you’re evidently not a steaming liquid made of beans, but he claims you really are like his daily americano. Makes his every morning better. 

Now, in all seriousness. What means the most to him is that you take him how he is and are stable company. Yoongi is afraid of betrayal and stupid games so he has to be sure to have a safe bet going. I think that’s why he fancies marriage, it’s a sign of commitment and some degree of permanence to him. And yes, he is a bit jealous in nature since he’s easily invested in someone with a purity of feeling, almost in a naive way. Yoongi easily idolizes his partner and puts a lot of energy into a bond. He wants to protect that, take the risk, and he has watched for someone who radiates genuine trust and faith. He is sure to have found it in you without any illusions and he is right. Loyalty, loyalty, loyalty.

Playing the piano for dinner or date night is a must, he practices constantly to advance to a great standard. He secretly finds a lot of satisfaction in you cooing at his skills and melodies. Those ten bony fingers gliding over the keys with such a technicality and focus, and a passion that makes you hold your breath, it’s great to watch.

Did you see that one coming? He will compose and produce a designated mixtape only for you personally. Yes, with a little self-filmed, self-cut music video for the title track. 

Now those things never see the light of day, they’re all for you. But what about your couple life once it touches the social realm? As one might expect, Yoongi is very ‘eyes turn narrow’ with people who bring disharmony to your dynamic and the relationship in general. In fact, he is grumpy and disappointed, and should someone give him a reason, distinctly brutal. If someone even attempts to test you or plays manipulative games, Yoongi is relentlessly turning them from the inside out with his words that never miss the mark. They’re efficient. As I said, he hates playing annoying games, he’ll do any shortcut and be Yoongi.

I guarantee you can lean back and will never the fazed by stupid people and time wasters again. No need to lose face. Yoongi does the dirty work and is the best possible defender to have on your side. He handles that. Invasive opinions and useless phrases he will shove right up some trashtalker’s ass and leave. Let’s squarely say he is unafraid to be a armchair critic of your and his haters and doesn’t want any of that nuisance to disturb what you have together. He cuts very quick and makes sure not to get tangled up in trouble.

Yoongi will also debunk a whole bunch of weirdos on weverse asking about your private love while he’s at it. Prepare for some very entertaining snide remarks. Oh my god, so many entitled people will be pissed off. Many will also celebrate him for stepping up. What’s actually important to Yoongi is that nobody taints what is like a treasure to him.

It won’t be hard to overlook that Yoongi is very proud of you as well. He looks confident and revering when he hangs out with the group and you’re somewhere close by, even just doing something trivial.

He’s also pretty touchy, sometimes publically to demonstrate something, but mostly in the relative calm and safety of a hotel room. When the lights are out, all barriers crash, the utter romantic takes over. His favorite types of kisses besides those onto his hands are when you kiss his lashes. And yep. Yoongs is such a cozy little spoon. A very curled up one with cute shooky pajamas on most likely.

Talk about clothes. Believe it or not, Yoongi’s fashion goes through a significant change due to the relationship. He knows that you are touchy and thinks about what kinds of flannels are the biggest cuddle magnet, after all. And oh wonder, he will also show some level of skin when he accidentally hears your praises for his arms and legs and collar bones and glowy skin while talking to a close friend of yours. So, look forward to that in summer (he still dislikes the winter cold and wraps himself into scarves twice his size, mind you) though it’s still for your eyes only, he covers up when going out. Truth be told, he enjoys when you casually touch his skin. Especially the arms. Which hold up the firmament to you, and your world, too, and guard it.

BTS will know about how excited he is about you because he often boasts about for how long you’ve been living together by now. We all know this is Yoongi’s favorite way of bragging and it further shows that loyalty, dedication and longevity is the spice to his every meal.

Yoongi is probably going to quit the bottle because you naturally make him feel at ease and upbeat. In fact, he simply forgets about his wine. I don’t have to convince you that Yoongi will be very immersed in any interaction with you whether that be watching movies or discussing his latest tracks. 

Those discussions come with extra back massages for him because he spends a lot of hours in his chair. Especially around the neck, it’s no secret that this is in every cat’s top 3 favorite massaging areas. Yoongi is gonna make some really raspy, sleepy sounds and just melt in your hands. He’s gonna sleep like a baby afterwards every time. Sometimes, he says funny and cute things while he dozes. He looks very content.

Say goodbye to the 21st century adulting annoyances in your life because Yoongi has a grip on those without a word. Those six specific chores that always plague you take him only a dozen minutes and he is eager, the forms to fill out are already sent off, the list of people to e-mail is weeded through. The taxes are paid, the bank account is full, the meals are on the table, garnished to perfection. Roof over the head, and it’s a sturdy one, Yoongi bought a sound haven house to inhabit a lot of happiness for two. 

He’s probably the only person who doesn’t see it as a loss of dignity if you want to hold on tight to him during a dentist visit as a grown ass mf. Why all of this? Yoongi cannot not strive to feel needed in his actions. He wouldn’t like himself if he couldn’t contribute something reliable and useful. That you find things worthy of your time is priority. You complement each other, what you think is a waste of energy makes him work and strive and vice versa. That way, in the end all things are taken care of.

Giving is more important than taking in Yoongi’s world. He thinks of everything because he considers it an offense to have you in a pile of duties, that is, if you don’t like ‘em. It’s his form of dedicating his efforts and showing respect. He doesn’t need much in return. The things he expects if at all don’t feel like a duty: Much like he doesn’t consider doing those acts of services for you likewise.

Work horse he is, he needs something on his daily to-do plan. Which includes making you feel unbothered by the occasions of an incoming strict world when it’s getting to you. You’re supposed to do what you feel like doing just like him and not slave away at fifty deeds. That you torture yourself with daily life hassle is the thing he dislikes seeing the most. He enjoys doing these things so he’s happy to get going.

What’s not a daily life hassle: Holly is a big fan of yours. Instant friendship. Just wanted you to know.

He always knows how to preoccupy himself and finds something to improve. Getting on your nerves, and that’s no surprise, is the last thing Yoongi will ever do. In fact, you sometimes have to search for his napping spot because he got lost somewhere in the house. 

He either sleeps or works, his philosophy is simple. If you need him, he does appear seemingly out of nowhere. And, he spends as much time with you as you enjoy, not always prioritizing his producing unless it’s urgent or he’s on an inspiration streak. Which is great anyway, you can sit next to him listening. It’s the right balance of work and play.

Yoongi is not above blatantly showing off. Actually, he goes for an act of stunning pretty often. You know how cats parade around whatever they just caught. He wants to impress you with assets and accolades and appraisals, the boy can’t help it. That you only lightly nod at most of it with a little smile will confuse him but he will get the point later on. You wanna signal Yoongi that you anchor your love for him not in shifting numbers and chunky metal pieces. 

That you don’t confuse his signs of outward worth and fame with the core of the guy you find the sweetest in the world is very important to him. He will take some time to see through that because he’s used to being loved through status and its symbols by people close and afar. 

The way you throw yourself at him to give a big smooch in random situations — especially when he doesn’t feel great about himself— rather than only when he say gets a new car is sending him a message. Again, he has to grow into that. He will retreat at the beginning because he feels worthless of your affection on days where he doesn’t feel big and bold and successful. But since he sees you jumping on him because you need only his kind and squishy presence and see him as no different than usual because he’s always Yoongi underneath, your boyfriend will change his mind about it sooner or later. He learns that your presence makes him feel like a billion dollars yourself.

You don’t wallow in the regrets of other people missing the point of Yoongi and instead focus on always understanding him rather than enabling Yoongi into wrong directions. And there are many of those, his mental health can tell you a thing or two about it. He begins to get that you really know what you’re doing and are in it for the real him which makes him feel really loved far underneath all surfaces and images. You accept his fame and admire his work with music which is what he’s truly doing it for but also don’t forget that the most vulnerable Yoongi is the one that you’re there for and not a facade.

NSFW

I know you’re curious. That Yoongi’s sexual style is more than just interesting goes without saying. To give you an idea. Anything steamy with Yoongi means him taking his time. You know, for making it quality. Yoongi wants to grow into the right balance of activity and staying relaxed. He is good at keeping cool and bringing some focus to the madness. He wants to figure out how to be more casual instead of tense and overly preoccupied which he’ll be at the start of the relationship. But the fast learner he is, his nervousness fades way faster than you think. 

Yoongi is extremely afraid that he can’t please you or starts to become awkward slash clueless so he darts to the opposite of the spectrum and overperforms, even plays a character. You have enough cool yourself to tell him what to do in the pace that works best. That he stays centered in his body is important for you to teach him. When he gets grounded and juggling his confidence is out of the equation, he fucks the best.

His favorite position besides giving oral — with you on your back — will be doggy style. Man, we gotta talk about that. Slow to upper moderate pace, nothing too all over the place. Yoongi moans very slowly, too, all drawn out. Get ready for a frequent session of some anal to unwind. You heard that right. First, Yoongi will get the two of you into the right rhythm with his hands at the sides of your waist, then, ride it out in slow mo with his right hand properly stimulating you from the front. 

By habit, he will add some lube here and there but not use insanely dripping amounts so everything gets messy or he can’t touch you without sliding off anymore. Just enough to slide well. Yoongi is so good at this I swear, it’ll be your favorite thing to relax. He has the restraint and technique to pull it off rather than pulling out, huh. Yoongi is gonna stay inside you for ages. It feels like he’s massaging every spot for some extra time. It’s amazing to slack off your muscles, cool off, and get many a gentle but fulfilling orgasm. 

He’s not gonna put you through the hassle of dealing with an anal creampie cleanup so he keeps it wrapped, and mostly focuses on your movements altogether while keeping his own climax smooth and more relieving rather than something that relentlessly knocks him out in one go. Yoongi is good at observing and doesn’t feel the need to chase a violent high which is why he is so great at sex. Fucking with Yoongi leaves a wholesome feeling and you never feel ashamed or guilty, or a sense of being dirty and ruined. 

He enjoys having sex to make you feel really good and works his hands on you very respectfully. His goal is to have you wet and pulsing after a long while of getting you there, and putting you to a good night’s sleep. He’d feel terrible if he left you sore or disturbed. He is really passionate, especially with his kisses or when you ask him to slide into very deeply, but Yoongi being brash and controlling is an image out of sight.

Besides giving you the number one heavenly assfucks, Yoongi also likes to work his tongue as we know, and he’ll work it all over. Few body parts of yours have not made contact with that glorious mouth and I say that in the best of ways. You can instruct him to do whatever, Yoongi obliges with radiant joy. And here again, he takes minutes upon minutes. Kissing and kissing and licking and maybe even teasing once or twice to make you smile. You know, a little signature wink. Honoring your skin and every shape is not something that Yoongi has to talk about, he will physically show it and I swear it’ll finally get into your head with every little move, Yoongi has totally surrendered his tongue to your body and worships it.

[hello-nichya-here]

I’ve almost completely stopped engaging with ATLA stans on here because 99% of the fandom is such an unbearably obnoxious cesspool that it almost ruined my enjoyment of the show.

This is sadly not the first time I hear this. This fandom has a very serious and long-lasting problem of people just not knowing how to mind their own damn business.

Not only do they not follow the basic logic of "Don't like, don't read", they actively go looking for fics and metas that will piss them off. They harrass people, send death threats, insist on starting a fight, make shit up, and even give shit to the ACTORS for mundane stuff like "How dare they support this ship instead of my OTP?" and even worse, talking about the show. Imagine being mad at someone for talking about their job.

Even on AO3, a site that gives you the option of just not letting any comment that you didn't personally approve be posted in your work, or just not allow comments at all, and with a staff that will actually take threats seriously and ban the people who send them, it's STILL hard to just fucking enjoy things in this fandom because EVERYTHING just has to turn into a fucking war.

Pretty much the only place where I can talk to other fans without having to worry about unnecessary drama are private chats and discords. I avoid places like twitter and especially reddit like the plague, because holy shit, people being assholes is already the norm there.

[shinymixedbag]

how do you manage avoiding fandoms? i often get caught up in them, and especially for given i sometimes see takes that i believe are so wrong and in general sometimes feel guilty for the way i view things bc the majority views it a different way.

I feel you. Feeling flabbergasted everytime I saw fans reacting to new chapters was routine. It always made me wonder if I read the same thing they did.

Everyone processes things differently and I understand that. They’re also entitled to their own opinions, but it becomes a problem when people feel the need to go and vomit it out on their social media page because others will see it and whether they agree with it or not, these things really start wearing down on you and plant seeds of doubt in your mind—Am I in the wrong? Is it wrong to like this one character? Am I being insensitive by defending the said character? Is there something wrong with me because I think people are blowing things out of proportion?

Trust me, I’ve been there. I believe it’s beyond tragic when a person grows to hate something love. Hate. Not grow indifferent or bored, but actually hate. It very nearly happened to me with Given. I knew that if i paid attention to all the bullshit—like anons telling me about the drama on twitter and tiktok and facebook everytime a new chapter released and having people contact me telling me to “post an apology” for making it seem like what happned between Akihiko and Haruki was sexual assault... Uh, yeah that happened.—I’d end up hating Given. It got so bad, I physically felt pain everytime I saw ppl talk about Given or post screencaps or GIFSets or cute lil edits. I couldn’t stand it. And I ran away, I even got off tumblr for a long time (even though Given fandom on Tumblr is very tame.)

I had to resort to drastic measures 😅 I stopped responding to anon asks that rub me the wrong way, I blocked anons, I kinda stopped logging in to tumblr for a long time. I hardly scroll through my tumblr feed anymore, I stay away from channels that discuss Given on various discord servers I am on. I don’t fangirl over Given with anyone except a handful of people. I don’t read comments about new releases except the ones the team receives on tumblr...And I’m not on twitter/FB/tiktok/youtube...So, yeah. That’s how I avoid the fandom. Like the plague.

Lastly, I know there are lots of people who understand this is just a story and deal with it in very healthy way. I’m not looking down on those lovely people just because they’re part of the fandom.

[puppy-phum]

@mdzsnet​ event: getting to know the members

"Be righteous" - the motto of Gusu Lan Sect

my info below the cut~

vish • 98 liner • finland

the donghua was my first introduction to the world of mdzs, tho it never quite stuck with me despite the amazing visuals. then the drama begun and the same story got introduced to me again - and totally swept me away. i've poured all of my love into this world ever since, and the fandom has started to feel like home ♥ you can find my edits from my blog #countaspieceofme, my fics from ao3 VishCount, and i am also active on twt @/vishcount, tho that account is reserved mostly for bts/army purposes

for this post i chose the Three Lans bc:

despite of spending over a year already in jc's head while writing him in my fics, i am mostly like them (which surprised even myself)

lwj is probably closest to me with his resting bitch face and constipated emotions (we conceal, we do not feel)

lxc comes close second with his wish for peace while avoiding conflicts like plague and having a smile for every situation (i pretend i do not see it)

lsz again reminds me of my own childishness and curiosity and probably shows the me i aspire to be (free and content with myself)

i love different types of personality tests etc. and made a series for enneagram types with the untamed characters [x]. from those, my type is mxy (4) but also lxc (9) with wings in lwj (1) and lsz (5) if we trust my own interpretations

my three favorite colors are blue, purple, and green which makes me adore both the lan and jiang clan designs from outfits to places

[crazy-loca-blog]

Hi there! I got this anon and love it so much, I'm spreading it throughout the fandom - with a few minor changes!

When did Casey know she was in love with Ethan? When did she know she wanted to be his wife?

When did Ethan know he was in love with her? And when did he know he wanted to get married?

I love this question @jerzwriter! Should I write an essay on this? You can bet I will! Especially because it's Saturday night and I can't go to bed yet. So get ready, because this is long! 😂

Casey realized she was in love when Ethan was in the Amazon. In my HC, Casey had her own internal struggles, and she was as confused as Ethan, but not for the same reasons. She had admired Ethan and his work for so long, that she saw herself frequently wondering if maybe what she was feeling was some type of weird infatuation, or if this was a professional crush that she was taking too far. And she felt this way for months! (In fact, the other day I was telling how “Catch Me” by Demi Lovato is exactly how Casey was feeling in book 1, chapter 17).

Things changed when Ethan left without saying goodbye. She was missing him way too much. She could hide it at work, but as soon as she closed her bedroom door, she was a mess. She was mad, sad, and hurt, but above all, words could not express how heartbroken she felt. It took her a heart-to-heart with her brother to realize (and accept) she had, in fact, fallen in love and that she had probably been in love for a long time.

In the case of Ethan, he realized his speech on love being a neurochemical response was not working while in the Amazon. No matter how hard he tried, he couldn't stop thinking of Casey. And he was so mad at himself! He had left for a reason, and things weren't going as planned. "Not feeling" used to be easy, he couldn't understand why it wasn't working this time.

So, when he returned to Boston, he had kind of given up. He knew he was feeling things, but he couldn't explain what it was because he had never felt that way before. That's when he decided “to get to know the real Casey”, in a last attempt to find a rational explanation for everything that was happening to him.

Seeing how Casey got so involved with all the Louise drama, respecting his family's past without judging, and genuinely caring about him, sealed the deal for him. He couldn't fight it anymore. By the time of the softball game, he already knew his feelings were deeper than he expected, and that he had no control over them, that's why he kissed her after the game (I HC this is the first time they kiss in book 2, because I'm that evil 😈).

Marriage? Whenever they were asked about it, they both avoided the topic like the plague! Everything was actually Ethan's idea, and it was a complete surprise for Casey, she never saw it coming. Even if she was never opposed to the idea of getting married, it wasn’t a priority in her life, not even before Ethan. She knew Ethan was her soulmate, and the person she wanted to share her life with, and she didn't need a ring on her finger to prove it. So, it's safe to say she knew she wanted to be his wife when he proposed.

For Ethan, the idea crossed his mind for the first time after they moved in together. They had been official for 8 months, but anyone could have said they had been together for years (I mean, where is the lie here?). Everything about their relationship felt like they were meant to be. He had this strange (but comforting) feeling of “home” when she was around, and he could see himself growing old with Casey. Also, he'd be lying if he said he didn't enjoy people calling Casey “Mrs. Ramsey” whenever they had a reservation at a restaurant o a hotel. It sounded nice! But he got scared. Casey had turned his world upside down many times, but he knew it was too soon. He didn't want to make the same mistakes as his parents, either. So he decided to wait. But he was already a goner. Eight months after the first time he pictured a “forever” with Casey, he was looking for a ring.

[ao3feed-inheritancecycle]

Forsworn Enemies

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/kI3cnor

by Nikradical

The dragon riders are untouchable. Living monuments of immortality and prestige. Until one by one, there are whispers. Rumors spread like dragonfire over the plains. Civil unrest by the downtrodden, fear of a shade hidden in Alagaesia. And worse? The riders are unprepared to fight their own. The Forsworn rise like a plague. Corrupting the decisions of nobles and riders alike. As honorable as they may think they are, some dragon riders were willing to do anything in their power to achieve their goals. Even if it meant turning on their own.

Story takes place before and during the fall of the riders. As close to canon as I could manage on my own research. Follows Radi and his dragon, Maelorum. A 650+ year old elf whose contributions and compendiums to the dragon riders outshine the truth he believes. That humans are undeserving of the dragon rider bond. Senick, a young human magician calls that belief into question. Will Radi and Maelorum fight and die as broken heroes of The Order, or outlive the heroes and be felled by the hope for a new era without The Forsworn?

(Did my best to keep characters in-character. Mostly OCs with cameos and mentions to avoid self-indulgence. :P Tons of references, though!)

Words: 3506, Chapters: 1/?, Language: English

Fandoms: The Inheritance Cycle - Christopher Paolini

Rating: Mature

Warnings: Graphic Depictions Of Violence

Categories: Gen

Characters: Original Male Character(s), Original Female Character(s), Oromis Thrándurin, Kialandí (Inheritance Cycle), Evandar (Inheritance Cycle), Brom (Inheritance Cycle), Morzan, Vrael (Inheritance Cycle)

Additional Tags: Tragedy, Du Fyrn Skulblaka, Dragon Riders, Racism (against Humans), Angst, Psychological Drama, Unreliable Narrator, The Forsworn - Freeform, Canon Compliant, The Banishing of the Names, the Varden - Freeform

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/kI3cnor