#i am not an enfp

[lilcityelf]

Girls who are sunshine embodied and seek the darkness to feel safe in their own and boys who are gloomy and seek the sun to stop hiding their light >>>

[oiblackestsheep]

what, in your opinion, are an intp’s needs in a relationship? (coming from an infj.) love your blog, you’ve got some amazing insights 🫶

Aww, thanks INFJ anon. 🫶 I try my best to have interesting insights that bring something fresh to the table!

INTP's Needs in a Relationship

I've been in the same relationship for 8.5 years (and we actually MET ON TUMBLR BECAUSE OF THIS BLOG WHICH IS SO FUNNY AND NERDY), all of this to say, I've had a lot of time to think about my relationship needs even from the MBTI perspective as an INTP, because that was how my ENFJ and I kinda started out getting to know, like, what we each needed from each other, so, here we go!

Disclaimer: This is assuming that the INTP is already getting everything that everyone needs in a basic healthy relationship like, you know, feeling emotionally safe and being treated with respect, etc..

Intellectual stimulation: INTPs generally love understanding new things and how they work, so ideally their partner can share that interest with them in some way! They can be pretty curious people, so joining them in their quest for uncovering the "how" and "why" of everything will make them feel understood, themselves, and closer to you in the process!

Clear explanations of your feelings: Because INTPs have inferior Fe, they tend to have a habit of intellectualizing their own emotions when they talk about them, which can cause complications with understanding other people's emotions, too. Finding a way to be patient and know that even healthy INTPs might still struggle with connecting with other people's emotions (especially at first in a relationship) isn't necessarily because they don't want to, but more that it doesn't always come naturally, so they don't always know how to. If they're a healthy person, they will want to understand, just try not to take it personally while they are practicing/learning!

Alone time: This one should be pretty straight-forward lmao. They're introverted, so they like to recharge doing solo-activities, and they're intuitives, so they have their own little theoretical world full of bizarre ideas to entertain themselves with that might not always be easy to follow at first. I find that introverts in general (maybe the INxx types even moreso) like to engage in parallel play where their partner also does something quietly nearby, but still a separate activity. As an INFJ, yourself, I'm sure you can relate in your own way, so it's likely easy to give them what they need!

Humor them/hear them out: This might sound a little vague, and I guess in some ways it is, but this is mostly about their auxiliary Ne. ENTPs and ENFPs get most of the attention when it comes to high Ne, but INTPs (and INFPs, too!) place a lot of importance on it, too, which can often manifest itself in conversations like "what if __", "imagine if __", etc.. To put it bluntly, it might seem a bit... directionless, and that's because sometimes it kind of is! It's just about thinking of random possibilities that are non-serious and funny in the moment, and don't really go anywhere else outside of the current discussion or hold any larger, overarching significance. Sometimes it's less about the actual topic itself, and more about having some random fun and "playing along" that makes a world of a difference to a playful INTP (or high Ne user in general). This point got away from me a little bit which I think, in a way, is the perfect exemplification of what I was trying to say in the first place, lmao. Hope that makes sense! If your INTP ever sounds like whatever the hell I just said, just try not to disengage right away, because they probably have a point that they are struggling to reach. Put that dom Ni to work and summarize it for them, I know you can do it from experience with my own ENFJ lmao.

Anyway, uhhhhh: Every single point on this list has gotten progressively longer because my Ne loves extrapolating (and I love Ne, but sometimes its gotta CHILL you know?), so I'm gonna end it here before it gets WILDLY OUT OF CONTROL.

This was a fun question, anon!: Thanks again for reaching out, and basically giving me full range to just write multiple paragraphs about myself and my relationship!

[pandagobrr]

I am the one telling myself to shut up.

[norry-yippee]

This is what I feared-

[itspileofgoodthings]

I’m going to chaperone prom today!

[alien-insomniac-05]

Okay I think I am ENFP but social anxiety just kicks my ass

[slowdive1994]

my worst fear is that people will interpret me being excessively nice as flirting

[justapersonherelol]

MBTI

bro I don’t know what to do- I’ve been ENTP for two years and now all of a sudden I’m enfp, except for the fact that my feeling and thinking ratio is literally 50/50????? what am i. i act like enfp and think like entp. i like arguing but im a people pleaser. what am i.

[callmespooks]

INTP and Friends

How in the ever loving fuck do you make friends as an INTP? I am fully aware that being an INTP has little to do with my lack of social/ friend making skills but I need something to blame my ineptitude on. I tried blaming it on my zodiac sign. I’m a Sagittarius so that didn't work. 

I need an INTP adoption agency to hand out my resume to people willing to adopt a stray. “Looking for a shadow creature of a friend that will only text you back every other blue moon but still wants to be included in everything you do? Would you like a friend who’s just kind ~there~?”

Adopt your INTP today*

*No refunds or take backs. It’s for life.

[tbh-entp]

ok then i raise you one: how do i spot an entp?

Hellooo anon (who I should've responded to months ago),

How does one spot an entp? Truly, I think we're pretty easy to spot, albeit maybe not super super common ~5th least common, so it's not too bad.

ENTPs walk the line between the traditional definitions of introvert and extrovert. So we're not always spot-able, especially if we're drained or not too interested in the conversation around us. I just note this to say that it's not witty-town all year round. Also, when we're younger, many things that we say are misses more than hits so another note depending on your age!

ENTPs will want to discuss to understand (not to offend, though sometimes it may come off as argumentative). Truly we just like understanding things on all sides directly, and so you might hear an ENTP bouncing different angles of a problem very objectively, and very openly/comfortably agreeing or disagreeing with people.

If you notice someone who is just super charming and witty... and then you don't see them, talk to them, hear from them for months, and then suddenly they're there again and wow, still a charmer, are they flirting with you, wow they know everyone, oop they're gone again....... ya that's an ENTP

we will lose interest in things

also or not sometimes we don't lose interest in things

i just have lost interest

so sorry

[iocity]

You might not be INFP; you might just be depressed. Like girl you should be in the clubbbb

[astrobei]

haven just told me i give her extroverted vibes which threw me for the biggest loop ever HELP like she’s kind of right but in my 21 years of living literally no one has ever said that to me before

[sweetyaoigirl]

Ever since I found out Matsuda is ENFP I just couldn't help but started to like him even more ❤️ now I know why I liked him so much in the first place

[strawberrystainedd]

girl who is completely obsessed with personality quizzes because she genuinely has no clue what kind of person she is and loves finding a stupid way to figure it out

[tardistective]

top comment is “he was definitely written by a woman” and well. yeah

[velvetladybug]

lmao as an enfp i have never felt so seen/attacked watching this nct dream video

edit: would like to add that i don't always like to be around people tho,,, who knew mbti could not describe the multitudes of human existence

edit 2: what if i'm secretly reverting back to my isfp self,, i hate spontaneous plans T-T