#i am an old old woman....

[maudlintrash]

nine people you want to know better

how lovely to be tagged by @bonolewis !!

last song: THIS COULD NOT BE MORE EMBARRASSING BUT I JUST OPENED MY SPOTIFY AND THE LAST THING I WAS LISTENING TO WAS MAIN ATTRACTION BY JEREMY RENNER 😭😭😭😭😭

currently watching: murder she wrote!! I'm well into season 8 and when i finish it i'm going back around to the beginning...

currently reading: I just finished reading Venetia by Georgette Heyer today so I'm counting that (it was delightful. i am having Emotions about it), and I'm about to start The Unknown Ajax by... you guessed it! Georgette Heyer!

latest obsession: Iiiiiiiiiiiii can't stop sewing and thinking about sewing. other than f1 my current obsession is planning for and making costumes for carnevale next year!

I think a lot of people have done this already but I'll go the route of tagging some pals and some strangers! @toffee-and-tandoori @sssneakiest @ecoustsaintmein @its-always-silly-season @dandojpg @mcl4r3n @baku2017 @heck @gokartkid

[breeberrypies]

“Only bad witches are ugly ‧₊˚ ⋅* ‧₊

[yourgirlbl0gger]

[gonyadaldysgenesis]

i dont really understand why people are so against ridding of the concept of AGAB/ASAB altogether in the name of "well, how would we define being trans then?"

a woman is "someone who identities as a woman." there is no other definition that does not exclude people who are women.

why does it make people uncomfortable to define trans people as "someone who identifies as trans"? trying to force it into some other definition will always exclude or include someone who either does or does not identify with the label. even if we are defining transness using AGAB/ASAB to say "someone who is transitioning away from/does not identify with their AGAB/ASAB", this is already true; there are GNC binary men who were AMAB who identify as trans and bigender women who were AFAB who identify as cis.

we do not need to keep around an oppressive concept that harms thousands of people in systemic and medical fashions because it would be harder to define some words. words that are used for identification are already going to be nearly impossible to define due to the complexity of human identity.

[inkskinned]

so one of the things that's so horrifying about birth control is that you have to, like, navigate this incredibly personal choice about your body and yet also face the epitome of misogyny. like, someone in the comments will say it wasn't that bad for me, and you'll be utterly silenced. like, everyone treats birth control like something that's super dirty. like, you have no fucking information or control over this thing because certain powerful people find it icky.

first it was the oral contraceptives. you went on those young, mostly for reasons unrelated to birth control - even your dermatologist suggested them to control your acne. the list of side effects was longer than your arm, and you just stared at it, horrified.

it made you so mentally ill, but you just heard that this was adulthood. that, yes, there are of course side effects, what did you expect. one day you looked up yasmin makes me depressed because surely this was far too intense, and you discovered that over 12,000 lawsuits had been successfully filed against the brand. it remains commonly prescribed on the open market. you switched brands a few times before oral contraceptives stopped being in any way effective. your doctor just, like, shrugged and said you could try a different brand again.

and the thing is that you're a feminist. you know from your own experience that birth control can be lifesaving, and that even when used for birth control - it is necessary healthcare. you have seen it save so many people from such bad situations, yourself included. it is critical that any person has access to birth control, and you would never suggest that we just get rid of all of it.

you were a little skeeved out by the implant (heard too many bad stories about it) and figured - okay, iud. it was some of the worst pain you've ever fucking experienced, and you did it with a small number of tylenol in your system (3), like you were getting your bikini line waxed instead of something practically sewn into your body.

and what's wild is that because sometimes it isn't a painful insertion process, it is vanishingly rare to find a doctor that will actually numb the area. while your doctor was talking to you about which brand to choose, you were thinking about the other ways you've been injured in your life. you thought about how you had a suspicious mole frozen off - something so small and easy - and how they'd numbed a huge area. you thought about when you broke your wrist and didn't actually notice, because you'd thought it was a sprain.

your understanding of pain is that how the human body responds to injury doesn't always relate to the actual pain tolerance of the person - it's more about how lucky that person is physically. maybe they broke it in a perfect way. maybe they happened to get hurt in a place without a lot of nerve endings. some people can handle a broken femur but crumble under a sore tooth. there's no true way to predict how "much" something actually hurts.

in no other situation would it be appropriate for doctors to ignore pain. just because someone can break their wrist and not feel it doesn't mean no one should receive pain meds for a broken wrist. it just means that particular person was lucky about it. it should not define treatment.

in the comments of videos about IUDs, literally thousands of people report agony. blinding, nauseating, soul-crushing agony. they say things like i had 2 kids and this was the worst thing i ever experienced or i literally have a tattoo on my ribs and it felt like a tickle. this thing almost killed me or would rather run into traffic than ever feel that again.

so it's either true that every single person who reports severe pain is exaggerating. or it's true that it's far more likely you will experience pain, rather than "just a pinch." and yet - there's nothing fucking been done about it. it kind of feels like a shrug is layered on top of everything - since technically it's elective, isn't it kind of your fault for agreeing to select it? stop being fearmongering. stop being defensive.

you fucking needed yours. you are almost weirdly protective of it. yours was so important for your physical and mental health. it helped you off hormonal birth control and even started helping some of your symptoms. it still fucking hurt for no fucking reason.

once while recovering from surgery, they offered you like 15 days of vicodin. you only took 2 of them. you've been offered oxy for tonsillitis. you turned down opioids while recovering from your wisdom tooth extraction. everything else has the option. you fucking drove yourself home after it, shocked and quietly weeping, feeling like something very bad had just happened. the nurse that held your hand during the experience looked down at you, tears in her eyes, and said - i know. this is cruelty in action.

and it's fucked up because the conversation is never just "hey, so the way we are doing this is fucking barbaric and doctors should be required to offer serious pain meds" - it's usually something around the lines of "well, it didn't kill you, did it?"

you just found out that removing that little bitch will hurt just as bad. a little pinch like how oral contraceptives have "some" serious symptoms. like your life and pain are expendable or not really important. like maybe we are all hysterical about it?

hysteria comes from the latin word for uterus, which is great!

you stand here at a crossroads. like - this thing is so important. did they really have to make it so fucking dangerous. and why is it that if you make a complaint, you're told - i didn't even want you to have this in the first place. we're told be careful what you wish for. we're told that it's our fault for wanting something so illict; we could simply choose not to need medication. that maybe if we don't like the scraps, we should get ready to starve.

we have been saying for so long - "i'm not asking you to remove the option, i'm asking you to reconsider the risk." this entire time we hear: well, this is what you wanted, isn't it?

[holyblanchett]

I feel like we as a collective moved on from this look far too soon.

[wusnus]

Grandma Yuri

[thinking-emoji]

the fact that "don't cry, craft" is genuinely some of the best life advice i've ever heard

[lady-raziel]

every new therapist I gotta spend at least one full session recapping the entirety of unus annus cus they’ll be like “okay tell me about the last time in your life where you felt happy for an extended period of time” and then I have to lore dump the whole of a dead YouTube channel so they don’t immediately inpatient treatment me when I say “it was probably when I made that meme about two guys getting run over by a masochism trolley on the piss death channel”

[radioroxx]

art block kicking my ass so i am fighting for my life to hand this. to yall. ur welcome.

[flipflopmasterr]

Save me toxic old woman Yuri, save me

[galactichoneybee92]

Not to sound like a boomer on main, because I love my phone- I do. But I really miss the day when I could hang out in public without having to hear everyone else's phones. I don't care if there are babies crying (because babies cry sometimes) or if other people are having conversations (because that's what people come to cafes and such to do) but hearing tinny little phone sounds blasting out loud out of their speakers drives me insane. I'm only in my 30's, why are you making me complain about how things were "back in my day" like I'm 80? Public phone noise is prematurely aging me. Send help.

[sorryiliketoscreenshot]

[tallymali]

being a het-presenting bisexual is weird bc ive grown up on the queer internet and was exposed to the simple stuff like “enforced gender roles are bad actually” since i was rly young. but ive also been in a relationship with a man (then boy, we’re the same age) since i was rly young so i pretty must just register as Standard Straight Woman to people who dont know me that well. this has exposed me to so many weird parts of straight culture and honestly the most baffling one is when straight women ask how i got a good man. how have i been with this man for over 10 years since we were kids and he has never been awful to me? i dont know. i met him and he was a nice person and he just never stopped being a nice person? i dont take the credit for that? i didnt find some cheat code to force this guy to be nice and override his Terrible Male Nature? he wakes up and chooses to be nice to people regardless of my presence? if your boyfriend sucks its not bc you’re doing anything wrong, its not your job to force a grown adult to act right good lord

[thisdoesnthaveend]

Harlivy in Harley Quinn (2021) #43

[hotvintagepoll]

Propaganda

Terry (The Wizard of Oz, The Women)— Such an incredible actress, she deserved so many more roles than she got, and sadly wasn’t even credited with her real name in [one of her] major motion picture[s]. She oozes charisma and has incredible chemistry with Judy Garland. (Disclaimer, I do not think she’s hot, I think she’s a very good girl)

This is round 1 of the tournament. Terry earned inclusion because she fit the parameters set in the submission form (ie movie leading lady with star quality and a career between 1910-1970), but is unfortunately prevented from continuing in the bracket due to being a Cairn terrier. Apologies to Ms. Terry and we hope she understands.

All other polls in this bracket can be found here. Please reblog with further support of this beloved canine icon of the screen.

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