#i am a tinhatter

[catatonicsx]

one of my most tinhatted milex takes is that when miles mentions "the sins of Cincinnati" in cold light of the day is actually referring to the tlsp performance in cleveland. because bffr how much time has miles kane spent in Ohio.

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Aggressive shipping annoys me so much - I'm scared Luke and Nicola will stop interacting or will not want to show up in future seasons anymore.. especially Luke who gets attacked for having a girlfriend everyday. I just love their friendship and I love Polin and I don't want to lose it😭😭

*sigh* Okay. Let's talk about this. Because, honestly, I don't really like talking about this stuff. (I'd rather be talking about the characters)

I'll preface this with... I don't care what the actors are doing in their personal lives. Did I watch all of the promo tour? Yes I did - because it's fun watching them (and by them, not just Nicola and Luke) do silly things like build furniture and answer stupid questions. It's a part of the illusion.

Do I need to know what they actually do in their personal time? No, I do not. Unless they're being genuinely bad people (and neither Nicola or Luke seem like that) then I do not care.

That said -- I hear you Nonny, I feel you Nonny, I getcha Nonny <3 This is now the third fandom in which I got to witness this first hand and it's not fun, and it's a bit uncomfortable. And it is always sad to see people end up in the crossfire of the nasty side of fandom.

Nicola Coughlan is a goddamn professional when it comes to handling all of this. She is just so on top of it, and I think (and I hope) that she and Luke were/are smart enough to have had conversations where they addressed how to navigate all of this. (as much as one can navigate things like this.) I think Nicola will be just fine. It's hard to read Luke because he seems like a more inward person and I haven't not interacted with any thing he's done outside of Bridgerton and the Bridgerton press tour, so I just don't know.

I will also say this... there does seem to be a genuine friendship/bond between the two of them. I reckon it's like those stories you hear about people who've been to war together and when they return, only they really know what they went through. I can only assume that filming something that's as intense and vulnerable as a romance might give you that type of bond as well. They seem very comfortable with each other -- in a way that may transcend friendship a little. But what I think the most unfortunate thing is that people (fans) don't seem to get that that bond can be special without it having anything to do with sex or physical intimacy.

And so, if I can offer a little reassurance, they both seem professional enough that it'll be through other opportunities (or, god forbid, the show deciding their story is done) that they leave the show. I think the fictional characters will remain intact and fine.

As for the actors themselves -- whose to say. So, I guess I'll offer this -- block all the idiots you stumble across. Continue to support Nicola and Luke and the Bridgerton team in a positive and respectful way. And appreciate the stuff we got. There are always going to be the crazies out there - and unfortunately, there's not much we can do about that. But at least we can continue to have a sense of decorum in our own actions.

<3 <3

[fightingalgth8rs]

Meena you bitch I know your address, I know everywhere you go what you do, I know about your stupid friends, I know everything and if I find you threatening or harassing innocent people again on the internet bitch you are going to feel so sorry that you ever messed with this fandom. So go back to whatever hole you crawled out of and die bitch.

Oh look at me I'm so scared! Look at the wee hairs on the back of my wee hand! Look I got goosebumps! I'm shaking like a leaf!

Oh kindly fuck off darling. Take your empty f^ckn threats somewhere else. Good luck on trying to track me down! It will be as dumb as the Russians sending missiles all the way from Russia to Cuba lol! (Which we all know didn't happen cz it's a dumb idea!)

Oh and wait...

Who's harassing?

Your crawled onto our blog and YOU are the one sending threats. And I'm pretty sure that counts as harassment, bullying AND assault. So I wont be worrying about anything! Have fun inside your sick mind love!

[sam-winchesters-gay-lover]

there’s something deeply wrong with me i fear

[dtmsrpfcringe]

the definitive dictionary and almanac of Tinhattery

hi, this will be a list of the main misogynistic accounts, definitions people have questions about, accounts you should follow and abbreviations— let’s gooo!! If you’re tagged in this I probably put you on the accounts to follow section. Adding a cut here because it’s long and gonna get longer

definitions!!!!

LCB- Used to stand for letscoffeebreak, she has since changed her username to dejadestalkearmeloser.

NGO- Nightgoodomens

Ingrav, Amy- Ingravinoveritas.

tardisrose- thetardisisblueandroseistoo

Tinhatters- A group of (mostly) tumblr users who think everything in these two relationships are fake and the women are abusive and the men want to run away.

Queeranoners- same as above, my favourite way to refer to them, coined by the amazing @theeminentlyimpractical

sheenbergs- Mix for Michael and Anna’s name

sheenbergnant- the amalgamation of the four bad bitches we love

sheenant- ship name for David and Michael. (Remember kids: shipping is cool but it’s fictional!!)

DT- David Tennant (Georgias husband)

MS- Michael Sheen (Anna’s boyfriend)

GT- Georgia Tennant

AL- Anna Lundberg

PR- public relations

GM- a…delegitimising way of referring to Georgia by refusing to use her last name. Instead use her maiden name. Note how they don’t refer to David as David McDonald

APAT- usually used by tinhatters (stands for Anna Plain And Tall) to refer to Anna Lundberg

PR (Tinhatter definition) - an omnipresent being forcing two rich white men who constantly champion human rights and lgbtq acceptance into a hetero relationship because they just are so oppressed and abused and not because they love their partners!

PR (actual definition) -the professional activities of an agency hired by a person, company, or other entity to shape, create, and manipulate that person/company’s public image. A public relations firm is often useful in helping a company manage its media reputation when a crisis happens, in order to attempt to minimize false information or slanderous statements which could damage reputations.

Shipping- Shipping (derived from the word relationship) is the desire by followers of a fandom for two or more people, either real-life people or fictional characters (in film, literature, television series, etc.), to be in a romanticrelationship. Shipping often takes the form of unofficial creative works, including fanfictionand fan art.

Shipping (Tinhat definition) - NO THEY HATE THEIR PARTNERS AND WANT TO FUCK EACH OTHER LOOK HE BLINKED IN HIS VICINITY THEIR PARTNERS ARE ABUSIVE I SWEAR

GREATEST HITS (posts that killed Tinhatters, feel free to submit your favourites in my inbox)

The breakdown of an anon

tassel jokes

backstreet cringe

Ingravinoveritas admitting it

Laurens amazing fuck off post that snowballed into half the fandom straight up saying fuck you to these people

HALL OF SHAME (Worst of tinhatters, again feel free to submit more)

• Taraiha’s rivals meltdown

NGO hates this fandom for…calling her out

it’s not a choice to be weird and creepy about people’s lives! (Again shipping is fine. This shit is not!!!)

it’s okay if you attack women just don’t criticise Michael Sheen (no idea what she was talking about with David) this same lady had another absolutely dog shit post I guess she removed?!

How dare women…have fun at their birthday parties?? (Part 1)

for a group constantly sexualizing David and Michaels every movement we can’t stand when a woman shows a little chest and has fun

Accounts you should follow!!!!:

@goodomenswarning - same purpose as this account, hilarious, an amazing friend

@badaziraphaletakes - calls out shitty takes in good omens as well, so much more level headed about toxicity than I am but I love talking shit with them. @thegeorgiatennantblog - best Georgia content

@fightingalgth8rs -bad bitches calling out extreme sexism

@phoen1xr0se - one of the best and I devour everything she posts

@davidtennantgenderenvy stands up for what’s right in the fandom, one of my idols and stuck up for me during a vulnerable time.

lmk more I need to add because I’m definitely missing some

THE REPEAT OFFENDERS (booo 🍅🍅):

Ingravinoveritas- one of the bigger ones, refuses to believe Georgia does anything nice for David, or that any of them actually like their partners. Can’t stop fetishizing gay male relationships to save her life. If David blinks he apparently wants to be bent over. Likes to pretend she’s not as bad as the others but has some of the wildest takes and said she felt threatened and scared for her life at someone making a Shakespearean reference. Professional victim

Nightgoodomens- a particularly nasty motherfucker. So toxic she’s quarantined. Misogynistic, ableist, um…yeah not much to say there except for the fact that apparently anything that David does that involves his wife means he’s forced into it. Would rather see them as abused puppies than accept they love their partners. Heavy on the homophobia and bi erasure since yes, fetishization isn’t allyship, it is homophobia. Everything is PR. She doesn’t know what PR means nor that David and Michael are not nearly important enough to have a 24/7 team controlling all social media and personal aspects of their lives. Neil gaiman apologist who blamed his sexual assault revelations on David’s support of trans people. Denies women flirting with each other and boils it to PR friendships??!?

Dejadestalkearmeloser- pretty much the same as nightgoodimens, flips shit when you call her out on it, I mean look at her pinned post about me and you’ll see. Also apparently I’m every account that doesn’t like her. Seems to have a problem with lesbians not liking her (wonder why lesbians don’t like the misogynistic people who only talk about the lgbtq community when it comes to fetishising mlm relationships)

Thetardisisbluesndroseistoo- flips shit at Georgia getting credit for anything, lost her shit on someone saying that Georgia has educated David on lgbtq allyship (he quite literally said himself that she does) later deleted posts when I called her out. Can’t stop laughing at that

invisibleicewands- really, really creepy about Anna, delving into her past and family to try and find…something. Body shaming. Mom shaming. The usual misogyny.

dtmsrpf- I guess a spoof on my name, belongs to one of the others on this list. The usual misogyny with a particular axe to grind against their looks and other things. Definitely a little salty.

georgiatennantunofficial (instagram)- extremely fucking gross. Body shaming and misogyny. Usual. You guys see a pattern yet?

[eisforeidolon]

Don’t know if relevant but found it incredibly funny. Noticed a gifset of this weekend is going around and hellers screaming cockles, where misha basically asked jensen to sit closer to him as he does with Jared, and Jensen came closer, made some jokes to allure the audience and went back to his space (I don’t know if he sat closer after that though). It is such a lol moment for me, and seeing hellers excited for this is hillourious. It feels to me like Misha and his minnions are so adamant to take the place of Jared in Jensen's life. They push for the things which comes most normally between jared and jensen.

I am always amazed at the extent to which tinhatters are able to convince themselves that actors doing things they're being paid to do means they're ~*in lurve*~. OMG, I paid them to hold hands in a photo op and THEY DID! OMG, they're being paid to banter together on stage and THEY DID! Like do you seriously not understand the concept of actors, or ...

I think full videos of the panels went up earlier this evening, but I saw clips previously which included the section of the panel you're talking about and it was so obviously a bit? Part of the reason it's so funny with J2 is that while sometimes they do pointedly do it as a joke, they can make it come off spontaneously. Not only that, but there's also a large portion of the time they don't even seem to notice they're doing it.

This was so painfully staged to warm up the audience at the beginning of the panel that it's embarrassing to compare the two. It was actually Jensen moving closer to Misha after asking why he was sitting so far away IIRC, and then them both exaggeratedly scooting across the stage. Then Jensen moves his chair back as far away as it started with such a blank look, very, 'Okay, checked that off the list, on to talking about the city'. Twue lurve!

I have pointedly said before that I don't think Jensen needs to treat Misha like he has a communicable disease just because some nutcases on the internet are going to fantasize every second they breathe the same air into an epic romance. I would also be very surprised if Jensen has heard even a fraction of the queerbait-y objectifying shit Misha has said and continues saying behind his back. It's also relevant that they're being paid to perform for an audience who are likely mostly GA fans who want to believe the whole cast are super close besties and want to see them goofing around - like they do on the gag reels!

Meanwhile, the cockless weirdos desperately want believe Jensen performing during panels with Misha means that Misha will oh-so-easily take Jared's place - and beyond! The problem is, if you compare the onstage dynamics between the three of them? I haven't ever seen a truly awkward panel between Jensen and Jared or Jared and Misha. But Jensen and Misha? Oof. It's not always terrible. But Jensen is the most reserved and least open while Misha is constantly flippant, raunchy, and overshares. It's not just that Jared is more adaptable, it's that they're genuinely an awkward personality match. Then you add the whole known issue of belligerent overstepping D/C shippers who may try to slip in an awkward bomb of a question on top of it. So in the same way that I assume you don't know what a romance actually looks like if you think D/C is one at all, let alone an epic one? If you're insisting Jensen and Misha are the ones that must be fucking given their onstage chemistry, I assume that you also don't understand chemistry is more than who you personally get off on imagining having sex.

[lightofraye]

First link.

Second link.

Per your request, I am cropping out your name. No worries.

But yeah. In the first link, it's Jared and Jensen, a fact I keep repeating over and over and over again: those two are like puppies in a pile, all over each other, physically intimate, comfortable with all kinds of touching. (Not a tinhatter here, folks, but boy, I can see why those rumors persists!)

Meanwhile, at Wales Comic Con, the second link, Danneel is being physically aggressive, shoving at Jensen repeatedly and him just turning away from her. He never once touched her.

The length of time of the panels are very similar, and yet... Wales Comic Con: not a single touch from Jensen to Danneel, and plenty of aggressive shoves from her. Jared and Jensen at IndyCon, plenty of touching, playful and affectionate, knee bumps, and so forth.

So when people say Jensen isn't comfortable with PDA, I want to laugh and go "No, that isn't his problem!"

His problem is that he's not comfortable with his blasted wife. And who can blame him, with how she treats him--publicly. Imagine how much worse she is in private. Small wonder he's rarely ever home.

There's no affection from Danneel. It's rather obvious, to those not wearing rose-colored blinders. Just control and manipulation and greed.

Anyway.

Thank you for your ask, and your share. I hope he does too.

[a-larry-retrospective-blog]

Before we start

I feel like I need to make a pinned post to introduce myself before I go on further with 'crying shaking throwing up' posts. So. Here it is!

You can call me R. I'm a '96 baby, not in the sense that I'm actually a baby but in the sense "you CAN and should do the math" because I know this blog will be updated so sporadically I'm not gonna update my age. Right now I'm 28, but you could be reading this as I'm approaching my 30s.

Three things about me: I'm haunted by Sherlock Holmes and the ghost of johnlock, I'm a TS scholar in the sense that I've been listening and reading and analysing her shit since i was at the ripe age of 13 years old, and all this should lead y'all to understand that I'm both a tinhatter and a deeply skeptic person. I have trust issues AND I like making theories, is that so bad?

Now, how the fuck did I end up here?

Imagine: it's the year of our lord 2024. I've been away from the 1D fandom, and the Larry fandom even more specifically (I was a lurker) for almost ten (10) years.

I used to lurk in Larry spaces between ?I think late 2011? to 2014. You can imagine what kind of fun year was 2012 to me. (Haylor is still, to this day, my Roman empire.)

Back in the day, I was a bit gullible (not to the point of believing the reborn dolls shit, sorry), so my thoughts in the last ten years have always been "well I don't know what actually happened between them: maybe they were, maybe they weren't" because i was Young (15 to 18) and not from an english speaking country and I probably missed a lot of nuance, and i didn't have the tools to analyse that stuff critically.

I didn't even listen to their albums unless a track was sneaked into my Spotify algorithm. And even then, I didn't pay that attention to lyrics or anything.

I'm blissfully ignorant, and I know I'm happy.

Fast forward to last month: the clock app (we all know the one) recommends me a video with Love of my life (as a TS scholar I cannot shorten it for fear of confusing the two). I'm like: huh. Inch resting. Let's hear the whole song. Oh, it's about "England"? I did not know an entire country could take a plane! Welcome back Sherlock from the hit BBC serie saying he missed "London" while talking about John, I guess?

Now I'm being silly goofy, but that kind of shocked me deeply to my core. Because like, okay. You're a songwriter and you're a DramatiqueTM songwriter at that. But. You WERE the love of my LIFE when you've barely reached a quarter of your life is objectively insane. That's something that has left a mark on you. And somehow I deeply doubt it's about one of his highly public relationship with one of the "blue eyed models" that Blondie was talking about.

So I started to dig into their songwriting catalogues, and boi oh boi. My frontal lobe is fully developed (hopefully), I have little to no parasocial relationship with two guys who I haven't looked for in the last ten (10) years, I'm an adult with a job and a degree and a second one on the way, and yet my first thought reading their lyrics was "oh, you guys are still both at the fucking restaurant, huh".

And now, here I am, with a new sideblog because I can't inundate my friends' dashboards with stuff we all agreed we outgrew ten years ago. I know I made this introduction so easily recognisable my friends could see it's me from a mile away. If you end up here, sorry for the war flashbacks! I love you!

I hope you all can enjoy your stay as I rediscover old Larry stuff, find out what I've missed in the last ten years, and generally comment on the state of whatever these two are doing.

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So apparently the glee writers loved to bring in aspects of the actor’s personality and give them to the characters, as well as their personal lives and interests. What do you think they brought to Kurt and Blaine from Chris and Darren? There is some obvious stuff, well to me it is from what I’ve seen of them in interviews etc.

They brought some negative stuff for some of the other actors, but I don’t think they did so for them??

You know, it's funny - we used to say that as the show went on - Kurt became more like Chris and Blaine became less like Darren.

Kurt is the more complicated answer. When the show started, Kurt was much more Ryan Murphy -- this weird, effeminate, overly dramatic kid. Kurt became more toned down as the show went on, because Chris was (is) not an overly effeminate, dramatic guy.

They tried to bring in Kurt writing (Chris really did not want this - but there are elements of it in his character anyway). There are also smaller things -- like Kurt's penchant for twirling things, that's a Chris-ism. There are more -- but I'm kind of blanking, I'd know it if I saw it. But they're peppered in. You can sometimes tell when Chris improv'd a Kurt line, because Chris as a sharp sense of humor and a certain cadence to it that is slightly off from the rest of the writing.

Also, I do believe Kurt's independence was definitely a push from Chris, as Chris values individual independence very much.

Unfortunately, there were some negative things that did filter through for Chris/Kurt, mostly in the last few seasons. They started commenting on his looks more (which Naya confirmed Chris felt uncomfortable with). They also make a lot of jokes about Kurt liking old people -- and part of that stems from Chris having older friends/enjoying older people, but I've always wondered if Walter stemmed (every so slightly - there are definitely other factors going on here) from the fact that Chris's partner Will is a good deal older than him. (I mean, not that much older, but Will is older than I am!)

Of course, The Hurt Locker episodes were commentary on itself, and part of that commentary was Chris (and possibly Darren)'s wanting to not be linked together. Also, I've always wondered about the line from Isabelle about 'Chris' and 'Darren' not wanting to sit together. And I always wondered if it was commentary on Chris not wanting to be public with Darren because of the tinhatters.

Darren/Blaine is a little bit harder to define in some ways. The character just was incredibly under developed in the first few seasons, and especially in Season 2, Darren brought a lot more of himself to the role? the voice change is the big one - Darren changed Blaine's voice, and once he settled on it, he never looked back.

I don't know how much they wrote Darren into Blaine, though. There were little nods here and there -- The glitter rock vampire stuff is all Darren, and probably improvised. Blaine put on pink sunglasses in season 2, which was a nod to Darren (at the time). But I don't know that they took too much of Darren's life and put it in the show.

I think, ultimately, that Darren had one of the better relationships with the creators/writers/etc of the show, and thus was not given the same treatment that those on the outs with them often got, unfortunately.

Jane Lynch once said - you could always tell who was in and who was out with Ryan Murphy based on how the character was treated. And I do think she was pretty accurate on that one.

[fightingalgth8rs]

Am I late to the party, did Georgia literally started trolling tinhatters?

It does begin to seem like it, doesn't it. But it's really hard to tell

[thegeorgiatennantblog]

I look at what's happening in the GO fandom and I have flashbacks. Where does this sudden influx of rpf creeps come from? I thought that in 2024 everyone would already understand how to behave and that something like this would be unacceptable, but here we are, it's probably a canon event in every fandom. It's good that at least this madness won't last for another 15 years like J2.

Sorry to tell you nonnie but I thought by 2025 (yk the fake year. the science fiction future year. yeah that year) homophobia and misogyny would be gone, we would've ended war and world poverty and prolly have a fossil-fuel-free world but there you have it.

[pauls1967moustache]

4 and 6 for the McLennon Day asks please!

4. What’s the one fact/quote/event that you struggle to believe actually happened?

i dunno i'm not a very avid tinhatter in general, but as i've mentioned before i will believe anything that i think is funny/cunty/insane. i guess the youtube comments section type stuff is what i tend to write off, like paul going to liverpool after john died and driving around with a taxi driver reminiscing or whatever that story is.

6. What’s your favourite part of the story of how they met?

i just love how from an objective point of view they were both very lame teenage boys who saw the other one and was like "holy fuck this is the guy of all time". literally like: me (down bad) to my soulmate i just met (also down bad): you're not down bad. and neither am i. you look like elvis fr.

brother, you have myopia!!!

[thealogie]

DISCLAIMER: im not a tinhatter, i agree with your takes particularly in the last ask but i am curious so

thoughts on when celebs actually do communicate thru code? like wasn't it proved britney was communicating to her fanbase thru code during her conservatorship? i literally can't think of any other example bc this one was so extreme and wild, but lmao in light of the tags on your last ask i was curious

I think that's a great example of an exception that illustrates my point. Because think about the real life circumstances surrounding britney that would make it reasonable to think she (or anyone in her situation) would be sending coded messages through the only means available to her. She was under a conservatorship, meaning other people had legal control over not just her finances but over her personal life choices. She had not talked publicly/in the media freely and without supervision in years. So, yeah, it was reasonable to think she was doing that. Even then, i would think someone was having issues if they were like "britney is monitoring my blog specifically and sending me personally coded messages despite no evidence"

So yeah I'm not talking about that, or about Taylor Swift who literally says "I'm gonna drop hints in my posts about my art," i'm talking about the very well documented/often studied phenomenon of people reading codes/patterns into very normal celebrity social media posts and thinking (a) this is meant to communicate to a small group of "true believers/understanders" (i.e., average person would absolutely not read it that way and no media outlet would report it that way) and/or (b) celebrity is actually secretly responding to or reacting to my posts even though they've never acknowledged my existence.

[qinwenzheng]

cannot even say wta is in its straight era because technically it is not but the vibes are so weird. not necessarily bad. but weird. i think it's because there is no balance. what do i mean by that? i don't even know. am i rewriting history in my head? maybe. i think the "old era" of like...serena/maria/caro/angie/aga/ana/vika were so...not necessarily messy but so different? the rotations were better somehow. you could group them together easily and they played each other more often.

but now i feel like im lying!!! like aryna/iga, aryna/elena, elena/iga in theory have a similar sort of dynamic that can translate from on court to off but i cannot make it work...coco's rotational abilities are interesting to me because there is potential. i think jess is so....straight married boring and maria fell off the face of the earth. even tho i still think they're fun mirrors of each other meaning...it's a flop fest. you understand me etc. iga is just like....you can't even have messy (fake!!!!!) fun with her psychologist or whatever. that video of her inviting jasmine over for pierogies for CHRISTMAS like girl...i was thinking. and then NAOMI who i thought was the centre of the wta universe is like...where are you? iga/naomi is still interesting to me but their lives SEEM so opposite that i find it hard to like. just ignore the fact that naomi has an entire baby. even tho rpf is FAKE fake fake. and just using them as pre-tense for stories. like i get that i am not really a tinhatter in any sense of it. but idk. i think that's part of why m/m rpf is more popular because it's like. easier to forget about the rest of their lives where with women it is still so much more centred? idk. maybe i've lost my marbles. who else even is there. i know i wrote a dreamwidth post with all my potential pairings i'd write but...that is under lock and key. aryna is def, imo, the most rotatable because she is the most extroverted and in everyone else's business. i thought emma had so much potential but now i'm like...mhm. karo is like. ok dyke but also ? mhm. doubles is so...i could make it work but the effort vs. reward of writing it stresses me out too much. bianca is my favourite "no homo" "im not lesbian just to clear that up" remix but she's so isolated from the tour that it's hard to make it work. absolutely NOBODY cared about emma/bianca even though i still think it works and is interesting. jannik/carlos does nothing for me i'm so sorry. holger/anyone i can be into. i keep starting and deleting a very dumb and indulgent denis/domi fic where domi decides to coach denis and it is a mess that's kind of successful except it ends up with a v weird sexual dynamic ¯_(ツ)_/¯. if i am being honest i am still thinking about dyke novak. sorry. other pairings i just...idk. i don't even think the current crop of players are boring but there's just less content and they feel more media trained/resistant to saying anything interesting? but then i read transcripts and watch interviews and i don't know if that's true. even in trophy speeches...it's like i see. i think i still just have brain blockage of how f/f is perceived vs. m/m and i'm not...trying to be like well you must read/write f/f to be a good person because that's...stupid. it is just...i do not care about men nearly as much as i do women in any facet! it is not on purpose! or to prove anything or out of any sense of ~activism. i just cannot find men that interesting and i do not want to come across as standing on a soapbox or whatever. but idk. the difference is interesting to me? i felt like it was SO easy to come up with random tidbits of ideas/stories/pwp vague ideas for the like....2012-2018 era and now i'm stuck half the time and everything feels so repetitive. maybe there's just less...grounded in reality and the season is so jumpy without consistency (not of results but just of repetitive match ups or like...they are in the same place. and talk to each other off court) or whatever. i thought the olympics was going to be ripe with rpf happenings but no! it was just this weird "qinwen isn't friendly" bullshit. tho i guess that did result in one v good fic so there's that. idk. i have no point here.

already on AO3 pairings (* indicates ive written them already, from only this season, restricted from dec 2023 to now)

jannik/carlos (192)

roger/rafa (46)

holger/casper* (39)

daniil/stefanos (34)

karen/andrey (16)

novak/rafa (15)

grigor/andrey* (12)

daniil/andrey (11)

novak/andy (10)

flavio/ben(12)

jannik/sonego (8)

stefanos/zverev (7)

hubert/iga (6)

carlos/ferrero (6)

nikola/mate (5)

fritz/zverev (5)

jess/maria* (4)

iga/qinwen* (4)

draper/jannik (4)

novak/roger (3)

aryna/iga* (3)

karo/iga (3)

andrey/zverev (2)

daniil/daria (3)

paula/aryna* (2)

holger/jannik (2)

elena/aryna* (2)

carlos/novak

grigor/hubert

novak/holger* (2)

emma/bianca* (2)

iga/elena* (1)

qinwen/li na* (1)

naomi/iga*

maria/serena

jannik/carlos is soooo dominant it's crazy...good for them etc. the gap between m/m and f/f is wiiiiild but not really surprising. other pairings i've written but before this year angie/andrea, caro/serena, caro/alizé, caro/kristina, borna/donna.

potential pairings (that i would write, probably)

iga/bianca

novak/denis

aryna/jess

madi/sloane

jess/madi

coco/iga

jasmine/iga

donna/maria (technically already wrote this but)

elena/qinwen

holger/denis (spider man meme basically)

retirement fic still has a hold on me...which is so dumb but it does. but it never hits the way i want it to. maria/serena/caro/angie and any iteration of them....you have my attention. there's other pairings that i'd never write but think are interesting. jess/taylor, emma/qinwen is like...i can see the vision and i deeply respect it but i cannot make it work. reading it, hell yes. idk. i am back at a point where writing feels very useless and too self-indulgent and the payoff isn't really worth it but. who knows. off-season is a great time to make shit up.

[mrswinnie04]

Midnight Rants

This is me being angsty because listening to Chase Atlantic at 10 o'clock at night is my version of bad decisions in terms of writing and contemplating Tinhatter business. I digress.

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Since entering the J2 community circa January 2023, I have fallen so deeply in love with the relationship Jensen and Jared have for one another. It's beautiful. Powerful. And no matter if they're together physically, or not, their relationship seems to be a vast ocean of love and adoration. Anyone watching previous cons/interviews close enough can see the amount of love the two have for one another, whether that be platonic or romantic. And I think this love---this feeling of mutual trust and respect---will stay with them forever. After death. Into the next life (if you believe in that sort of thing).

I want to begin this little post by stating the fact that I do NOT know the true extent of J2's situation (ie. how the bearding works, loving one another, and the extent of things they do for their relationship). I don't know if the two boys are truly happy in their situation (ie. the bearding and not being able to be public), or, if they make their lives work with the way it is and are satisfied enough to continue on.

Before I continue, I just want to say that I am still fairly new to the tinhatter/SPN community, and I don't think I started reading about the "bearding" situation until a month ago. While it is still new to me, something deep in my heart felt for the words/theories people were writing about on Tumblr/Twitter. Hell, take a look at the panels from the past 15 years and tell me those boys' relationship just doesn't strike something deep in your heart? Make you the least bit curious as to how far that love for one another goes? I've read Speak the Truth and countless striking posts/blogs about the extent PR will go or how things just don't connect in terms of SM postings from the wives, the boys, and others around them. To say a part of me isn't convinced would be a lie. Nevertheless, I wanted to reiterate the fact that I'm new to this tinhatter community because while 80% of me believes so deeply in J2 "bearding", another part of me occasionally doubts it. But I think that's okay, because this "if?" or "how?" on J2's "bearding" theories will never deter the fact that I will always stand by the notion that Jensen and Jared's love and adoration for each other would cross oceans. Nothing will ever change that. Nothing.

However, the reason I wanted to write this post today has to do with the "bearding" theories I've been reading about... Ironic, huh? I've been more and more convinced about it everyday.

The idea of J2 being in "bearded relationships" is something that often keeps me awake. It's the "hiding in plain sight" that sometimes breaks my heart a little, even though I know the boys will always find their way back to one another. (Again, I just want to reiterate that I am still VERY new to the tinhatter community, but am just jotting down some things I think about occasionally).

I completely understand, as of reading several blogs lately, that if J2 are bearding, it's because they had to (ie. homophobic society/industry, PR, etc...). It was to protect themselves. One another. To keep their lives for themselves. Nevertheless, I think a part of me will always find their situation to be a little tragic. Heartbreaking, in its own way. And a part of me thinks that they do too.

I don't know... I might be rambling right now, but I think there is a tragedy to loving someone so much but never being able to love them like others can love their spouses. There is a tragedy to having to force yourself not to reach for them in public. To hold them close. To do things that others can with their significant others. It's all like a glass cage---a see but don't touch kind of thing.

It breaks my heart that this whole bearding thing will always force J2 to look back over their shoulders at other another as PR and other stuff tugs them by the hand, away from one another. As weddings were had and families were grown, a part of my heart breaks at the thought of Jensen and Jared constantly looking over their shoulder at one another, wanting nothing more than to run towards each other.

I read something recently, it was a post depicting photos of Jared and Jensen on each of their wedding days, both of them groomsmen. Both of them at the front of what could possibly be the most heartbreaking day of their lives. I mean, can you imagine standing there, watching as the love of your life marries someone else and you have to stand there, watching the whole thing? Can you imagine standing at the altar with people cooing at you in admiration at the tears in your eyes, but those tears aren't for joy? They aren't for your bride?

Weddings are supposed to be the happiest days of peoples' lives yet imagine crying because the man you love stands to your left instead on the altar with you?

Over the course of the last month, I think I've sort of come up with my own theories about J2 timeline/what has happened throughout the past 15 years, but I think what breaks my heart the most sometimes is the fact that both boys have to live a life separate of one another. And I don't mean they can't hang-out or see each other (because obviously they've still done that regardless of PR and other barriers... slay, boys, Slay!), but it's the fact that their years together have been spent loving one another behind closed doors. Having to play up an imagine. Having to scramble to convince the public otherwise. Having to deal with the mental, emotional, and physical strain of it all, but all for love. It breaks my heart that the boys have had to love away from what one may consider normal, not that the word "normal" is anywhere close to a standard definition of an individual's sense of normalcy, because quite frankly, love is flexible. Fluid. It comes in all shapes and forms. It comes with all sorts of expression.

I'm rambling again. I digress.

The point is, as I've contemplated the idea of J2 bearding, I've felt that there is a sense of tragedy to loving someone so much that you'd sacrifice being with them 100% in order to protect them. To protect yourself. That you'd sacrifice holding them, embracing them, calling them "yours" in order to make sure that no harm (physically, mentally, professionally, etc...) ever came to them. To yourself. It takes courage. It takes such a divine sort of love--so unconditional and selfless--to sacrifice that for someone. And, amidst my ramble on heartbreak, I have so much more admiration, love, and respect for Jensen and Jared.

But, you know what? Again, I don't know what their true situation is like. As convinced as I've become, I don't know if J2 are really in bearded relationships (but, again, that will never change my mind on the fact that J2 love each other unconditionally). Regardless, this post is not to make a sob-story out of J2, but just to sort of jot down somethings I've thought about as I've entered the SPN community.

And, you know what? Even if J2 are in bearded relationships, for all we know, they could be very well content with the situation, because love transcends all walls and barriers. Maybe they aren't as saddened by the idea as I am. And this post is not, in anyway, me judging them and their decisions. It's just a little jot of things I've felt/thought about after reading some tinhatter blogs/theories.

At the end of the day, I don't know what Jared and Jensen are feeling or thinking. I'm not them and I'm not their friend. All I can say is that I believe in their love. I believe in it with all my heart and I won't stop believing in it. Watching unconditional love grow is beautiful. It inspires. It creates. It transcends.

Go J2! Hell yeah!

[eisforeidolon]

I am sorry but I just need to vent about misha being an absolute creep. I am so goddamn tired of him constantly trying to insert himself into jensen and danneel's relationship saying danneel is his girlfriend or in the recent purgatory 8 con, his wife. It's so disrespectful towards their marriage, kids and family. I understand it may be a joke but there's a limit and misha always seems to cross that. It's like he's in love with the idea of having a threesome with the ackles. He always has something or the else to say about danneel sexually which is honestly creepy to me. And I've noticed how that makes jensen so uncomfortable, like dude that's his wife back off. He has done this soo many times over the years. Ughhh I strongly dislike him, idk how the others stand him after he makes such crass jokes. And the fans who ship the 3 together are soo toxic and delulu like which sane couple would want to include such a problematic person like misha into their relationship and make it an unhealthy environment for their children to grow up in. I'm sorry for the vent, I'm just very disgusted by him😶

No apologies necessary, because I agree, it's just so fucking weird.

We know the the Ackles primarily (if not exclusively) only hang out together with Misha around work-related events. On the one side, while Danneel has made some vague noises about being a fan of Misha/Castiel, and Jensen does talk about him as a friend? Most of Jensen's comments about him are dunking on him for being awkward, for saying shit he can't back up, and just generally ribbing him for the weird shit he gets himself into and what a strange guy he is. Then on the other side you have Misha frequently making these very sexual and/or suggestive quote unquote jokes about both of them. Like, I'd still think it was odd if they were all publicly sharing that kind of sexualized banter back and forth on a regular basis, but they aren't. It's always Misha starting it and often Misha doing it alone, metaphorically behind their backs. Which is a huge part of what makes it so creepy, because it makes him come off more like some weird invasive fan failing at boundaries who they have to publicly be nice to because ~*SPN fambily*~ rather than it being an understandable friendship that genuinely exists between them.

Which is bad enough, but you can't separate his behavior from the context of the fandom he's pointedly doing it for. The loud majority of people still buying his crap (ops/autos/merch) and potentially following any future projects he might have? Are hellers/cockles shippers. Who only really care about him in terms of fantasizing about him and Jensen together (and pointedly include Danneel to contrast themselves against the wife haters in the extreme J2 tinhatter camp). Which takes the whole thing from just awkward creepy into a very calculated, opportunistic user kind of creepy.

I'm not sure there's anyone or anything Misha wouldn't "joke" about being intimate with if he thought he could make a buck off it. He's shown over and over he has no integrity and blatantly lacks respect for other people if throwing them under the bus (or talking about them as a sex object) will play well with his audience.