#i am Happy abt this

[smoosnoom]

hi moon ! i've never sent a photo through an ask but i thought i would bc i haven't sent an ask in a while and i thought u'd wanna see one of the kitties that live round my house !

i was trying to see if she wanted to play w the flower hehe she just kept rubbing against it ^_^ but yeah i hope u have a good day/night and i hope the snoopy shirt u got for donating is cute n comfy:]

[erabu-san]

They also dear to me

[hinamie]

quick itfs sketch page

[sparrowchute]

chat how are we feeling

[tapestryundone]

dont feel like waiting til morning to post this. im obsessed with them

[dkettchen]

she would've told them unlike her canon! version who decided not to be an ally smh

[dizzybizz]

"this is regrettably the best kiss of your life, you understand?"

[saeiken]

the anime announcement has me so excited abt wha again :>

[swordmaid]

early morning ✨☀️

gale x ylqinvrae commission for @/justlookingatstuffandthings over on insta. thank you so much for working with me 🫶💗

[mossy-aro]

ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.

when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead instead’ it's not because I don’t think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!

that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.

but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if that’s where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!

joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. it’s not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.

and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! it’s good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, that’s not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we can’t change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.

tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.

[suntails]

governance

[satans-knitwear]

Topless outdoor coffee mornings anyone??

Treat me ~ Tip Me ~ More of me

[erabu-san]

I enjoyed every second of this quest

[This art has platonic intention. Thank you for not tag ship!]

[hinamie]

spiraling

[t8oo]

got a lil fiat model for christmas

[housecow]

From 210 to 310 between 2022 and 2024? That's 100 lbs. of fat in two years. No one has ever said anything, not even a "hey, I've noticed you gained a bunch of weight, is everything OK"???? . You balloon from a "she could stand to lose a few pounds" just over the line fat girl to head turning, "don't-see-this-everyday" gigantic - there's no way people you know haven't taken notice and aren't at least whispering "what the hell happened" or "wow, she's really letting herself go." (I would be very curious what your bf or hook-ups from early 2022 would say if they saw you now).

i. love this ask 🥺 idk though, i’ve gone up and down in weight quite a bit—i bet they’re just thinking it’s time for me to get back down to ~220 or so… doubt that’ll happen 🤭

people are also just. fat in TX 🫣 i see people fatter than me almost every day!! being cute and smart w tits like mine make ppl less inclined to say smthn i think lmfao

but also i only ever messed around w feeders 🤷‍♀️ i think they’d all be happy asf with where i am now, maybe a bit upset it wasn’t them that made me blow up