#how to teach your child that the solution to grief is not only crying it's also kicking ass.

[boyfridged]

grief is the defining force in "batman" as a title, but one thing that has always been utterly engrossing to me is that jay was once an outlier in what place this theme occupied in his narrative. for both bruce and dick, grief was motivational; grief was what pushed them into vigilantism. while they later utilised it in completely different ways; bruce became more stagnant and "frozen" in that moment, and for dick it was an impulse that made him more dynamic; they both viewed grief as a form of resolve (even if constituting a sisyphean task).

this is not the case for post-crisis robin jay.

jay enters the role of robin after standing up for justice that was based completely on his own moral intuitions and distaste for the criminal authority figure (the ma gunn' plotline). and while grief was there, it never served as an inspiration during his first missions.

the first time grief becomes entangled with his role as robin, it's in the two-face storyline ["batman" (1940) #410 – #411], when jay learns that bruce hid the fact that willis was murdered from him. he spends a day in his bed, before they encounter harvey on patrol, and jay tries at revenge. later, he merely cries, accusing bruce of "sparing him" knowledge of his father's demise– in other words, sparing him grief, while allowing him in the field at the same time. this is crucial in so far that jay doesn't seem to make a connection between combat and his grief. however, in response, bruce lectures jason about how grief inspires revenge, and how revenge has to be tempered into justice.

then grief becomes an important theme in the beginning of 'a death in the family,' something that i find to be often overlooked. first of all, jay is grieving after gloria. second of all, from the dialogue that is nowadays ignored because of all the retcons to the todd family story, we learn that jay is also still grieving after his parents. in "batman" (1940) #426 alfred informs: “i’ve come upon him, several times, looking at that battered old photograph of his mother and father, crying.”  to that, bruce contends: “in other words, i may have started jason as robin before he had a chance to come to grips with his parents' deaths.” and so bruce realises that the role of robin has not been beneficial for jay in grieving at all.

after years of mourning without closure, jason looks for the solution for his grief in moving on by finding a new family; since he thinks along with the role of robin, bruce is dismissing him as his son, he goes on the journey to find his biological mother instead. in my eyes, this has always been a salient moment. it shows that jay is still searching for relief in mourning in civilian life. this is his first intuition. of course, it does not stop him from turning to his secret identity when he realises sheila is in danger; it does not protect him from his death either.

but the lesson that bruce tried to teach jason in his early robin days was not lost. it was very much learned, and the consequences are tragic; the plot of the utrh is evidence of that. there, the narrative regarding grief aligns with what it has always been in "batman": it becomes a drive to vigilantism. jay is no longer pursuing closure in the civilian dimension. grief becomes something to be "tempered" into justice. and as bruce knows, the line between justice and vengeance is very thin.

so just as bruce is forever frozen in the loop of the memory of his parents' death, jason is now stuck in the moment of his death (and of the loss of his father.) both of their pleads are: no one else, never again. both of them seem to consider themselves exempt from this rule, subjecting themselves to reliving their pain to keep fighting.

still, the defining difference remains; jay's grief not only motivates his vigilantism. vigilantism is also the primary root of this grief. and years ago, he has not seen grief as a matter to be solved by vigilantism at all.

[lazydoodlesandfanfic]

Struggling With The Simple (Bruce Wayne X Male!Reader)

Characters: Bruce Wayne X Male!Reader

Universe: DC, Batman

Warnings: Self-conscious reader 

Request: Hello Chérie, could I Request, if possible, a Bruce Wayne x Male Reader? Where MR is having trouble with reading and writing, though Bruce don't know about it, till MR's sibling point it out someday in a mocking manner and crying mess + fluff? Though only if possible! (I might send in another RQ, though only if thats alright with you. If not, feel free to delete it!) 🌻

You and Bruce knew far too well how important privacy was. He’d known since he was a child, and you quickly learned when you started being his boyfriend. He taught you all his tactics on keeping things on the down low, and also on teaching you the reasons. Because of these teachings, the press only found out about the infamous bachelor no longer being single and in fact having a boyfriend when you were both ready- a whole year after the relationship had started.

However, the fact that any day you could open the newspaper or turn on the news and see either of your faces plastered on it with a secret revealed did give you a small fear. Well, you say small, it was rather big, and with good reason. You had your own secret and you’d honestly rather die than have it be a fact presented everywhere in Gotham, knowing it would cause you grief for the remainder of your life and what made it worse was that Bruce couldn’t really defend you on it if it did come to light- he didn’t even know about it.

You didn’t really know how to tell him that reading and writing wasn’t exactly your strong point. You weren’t sure if you were dyslexic and maybe that played a factor in it, but now you were dating the billionaire, it made you anxious to show up to an appointment to get tested in case someone saw you. You instead hid the fact that you struggled to do these seemingly simple things by instead finding ways to avoid it. You could do the basics, so you did the basics. You wrote your signature where needed, but that was it. You weren’t a business person so that got you out of doing things for the business like reading files and writing letters for Wayne Enterprises, and instead you helped out in offering simple solutions that you could do vocally in small meetings. You told Bruce that you weren’t big on books and preferred movies, which meant he didn’t get you books for gifts. If he asked how you hadn’t noticed a certain article in the morning’s newspaper, you just said that in the morning, while you read it, it didn’t properly register, or you lost attention half way. It was a simple, but solid plan, that had been working for over a year in your relationship. However, now you were getting worried. Why? Because Bruce had asked if you liked to invite your family over for dinner since he hadn’t seen them in a while.

You weren’t worried about your parents. Your mother was far too accepting for her own good, and your dad was in the medical field- if anyone ever commented or tried to mock your bad handwriting and spelling, he would simply say you got it from him due to the stereotype of bad handwriting in doctors. The person you were worried about was your little shit of a sister. You loved her to pieces of course, but she’d never registered the whole “we keep it a secret in the family” or “hey, don’t tell people this because it’s private.” It also didn’t help that she loved to gossip. She told her friends about private family matters and she especially liked to bring up things that embarrassed her family purely to see them get flustered. However, you daren’t call her and tell her to keep her mouth shut because you knew that would only encourage her. So you silently became more panicked as the date rolled around to their visit to Gotham, and to the Wayne estate.

You gave your family hugs, and Bruce also hugged them. Your family had met him before and were rather supportive, especially when they saw just how in love you two actually were. “Good to see you again Mr and Mrs L/N.” Bruce greeted. “And you of course, S/N.” He smiled warmly at your sister.

Dinner moved along quickly thanks to Alfred, and the atmosphere was calm. You had long forgot about your sister’s antics, and allowed yourself to relax and chat. “So how has your business been Bruce?” Your father had asked. Bruce simply shook his head.

“This is no time for business talk Mr L/N. But it’s been good. A lot more bearable I have to admit with Y/N helping me.” He commented, smiling over at you. You simple pushed him lightly and playfully.

“Oh really?” Your mother asked further.

“It’s nothing. I just offer quick suggestions in the meetings to get the clients to trust the product more and to make them more willing to work with us.” You shrugged. You decided to quickly move the conversation on. “S/N, how’s work for you? Last time I saw you, you were in a car dealership.” You mentioned. She smiled.

“Yeah, still there but I got a promotion! I now do all the bookings and contracts. You’d suck at that Y/N since you can’t read or write-“

“S/N!” Your parents both scorned her, and you went stiff. You didn’t look away from your sister as she realised that you hadn’t told your boyfriend, and you felt his eyes turn to you. All the calmness in the air had been choked out and now you could hear your heart pounding out your chest.

“S-Sorry, I’ll be back in a minute.” You didn’t wait for an answer, getting up and rushing away from the table and out the room, catching the voice of your father scorning your sister and your mother apologising to Bruce. You got about half way up the stairs when you let yourself breathe, and it came with a sob. You kept walking, reaching the top and heading down the hallway to your bedroom. By the time you had sat on your bed, you didn’t bother hiding your sobs.

You felt embarrassed. Ashamed. It was reading and writing- the minimal that everyone could do- it was taught to you since day one of school and you still struggled to get through a sentence. You were a grown man. Your boyfriend ran a multi-billion dollar company and you thought you could hide it from him? God, what does he think of you now? Why didn’t you just tell him? Was it your own pride?

A gentle knock interrupted your thoughts, and looking up you saw Bruce peeking his head in. His face was… sorrowful, and the second he saw how upset you were, it only deepened.” Hey…” He said softly, entering the room and coming over to you. He sat beside you, taking your hand.

“I-I’m so sorry… I should have told you…” You started.

“Don’t be sorry. Your mom explained everything about you struggling. It’s nothing to be sorry about. It’s not affected our relationship, so why let it start to affect it now? If it bothers you that badly then I can see about classes, or we can just have evenings practicing it together?” He offered. He put an arm around you, giving a gentle squeeze. His soft voice also added reassurance, and your sobs had turned into small sniffs here and there.

“But… what if the press find out?” You asked. “They’ll never let it go.” To that, Bruce gave a small chuckle.

“Don’t worry about them. I’ve got enough dirt on all of those journalists and their bosses that they daren’t say anything but empty words and know to stay out of my real private life, and you’re definitely my real private life.” He assured. The thought of the journalist’s legs shaking at the sight of your boyfriend was enough to make you give a small smile. “Now come on. I don’t want to keep your parents waiting.” He stood up, tugging you up. You took a few steps, holding his hand, before stopping, making him turn to you.

“I love you, so, so much.” You told him. He smiled, letting you join his side so he could give you a small kiss.

“I love you too.”

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[rejectedbyeharmony]

BOY BYE.

Ok I’ve had some time to cool off so I can finish this story. The point of this blog was to air out my baggage around love and relationships. But writing this story has made me realize that I never had a relationship with Matt. I had one with his child. That’s who I spent all my time with, that’s why I put my heart and soul into. I threw his birthday parties, I made sure we sent everyone Christmas cards, I hung out with other moms who had kids his age so that he had time to socialize. These things seemed important to me, as a parent. They were not as important to his actual parents, and it’s really opened my eyes to what a completely different childhood a kid can have when their parents put them first. This was not the case. All decisions made around the child were in the interest of mom or dad, but never him. Oh, and I was not allowed to have input in any of these decisions, but I was still expected to take on all the responsibilities of parenting him. Seems fair. Okay I’m getting upset again, let me get on with the story…

 Matt was a line cook at a golf club when we started dating. He was frying frozen food and making soggy quesadillas for the already half-in-the-bag club members. He cooked for me a few times and I could tell he had far more potential than he realized. I’ll never forget the time he cooked kale in a pan with ACV, apples and walnuts. It changed my life forever.

He mentioned that he spent one semester in culinary school, and one of his professors told him that he already had all the basic skills he needed to get into the restaurant industry, and he would get a better education in the kitchen than in the classroom. What Matt lacked in self-advocacy, he made up in talent. So I encouraged him to seek out better employment, but he worried about the schedule. Chef’s hours are hard. He would have go into work around noon, and wouldn’t get out until midnight or later. I worked regular hours, 8 to 4, so I promised to step up as a coparent in order to help him make his dream a reality. (Cue the Mean Girls gif: Because I’m SUCH a good [girl]friend.)

 For months, he and I were like passing ships in the night. Sometimes he would get up and hang with me in the morning, make me coffee and kiss me goodbye. Matt would drop his son at a babysitter’s house on his way to work, and I would pick him up on my way home. We would play and have dinner, and watch Paw Patrol or My Little Pony until it was his bedtime. Most nights it was pretty easy getting him to bed, but I dreaded it.

 This poor kid absorbed all of the trauma of the fights between his parents, inconsistency with schedules, being passed from adult-to-adult all day long, and vacillating between a house with rules, and a house with no boundaries. As a result, the kid had night terrors. Every night when I put him to bed, I would brace myself. I gritted my teeth and clenched my butthole waiting for it to start. Then, like a haunted house starts up every night, he would scream and cry for as long as an hour. Sometimes I would lose it, and I would scream with him. I would sit in my bed and scream and cry and curse Matt for not telling me about this before we moved in together. One time, I thought I might actually kill him. I imagined Matt coming home to a bloody mess, and me just sitting in a corner, eyes bugging out, rocking myself, repeating “he just wouldn’t stop screaming.”

 It stressed me the fuck out. I begged Matt to take him to a pediatrician that could help, but their agreement was that Amelia would take care of all the doctor’s appointments. Shockingly, she couldn’t ever find time to take this kid to get him the help he needed, she could barely keep a fucking job. It was devastating to me because all I wanted to do was just help him. I wanted some answers, some solutions… my heart broke for him. I dug deep into the bowels of the mommy interweb to get answers, but all I could find was that weren’t supposed to wake them up.

 Holy. Fucking. Shit. There was no solution to this problem. Talk about psychological warfare. I begged for the bedbugs over the night terrors.

 Matt was only home at bedtime once a week to experience this, so he didn’t believe that they happened every night. And his son didn’t remember them when we asked him about them. I was literally losing my mind. Matt and I fought about it constantly. One day, two of my closest friends—who are both moms—reached out and told me that Matt had contacted them. He explained to them, that because I wasn’t a parent I couldn’t possibly understand what he was going through, and that was my friends should be the ones to tell me I was wrong.

 What the fuck? How fucking dare you… I helped you excel in your career, I provided a home for you and your child, and I made myself a technical single parent every other week. I dealt with your ex’s bullshit, because you refused to, and this is how you thank me? He wasn’t the only one working on creating a career for himself. I had only recently finished college, and started working my dream job with my dream company. I was working my ass off, and he was totally out of line.

 Naturally, both my friends told him to fuck off. I felt so betrayed by him, that, not only would he go behind my back and try to turn my friends against me; but worse, he didn’t even give them all the information, making me sound like a control freak bitch (which is not entirely untrue, just not in this context.) All I wanted him to do was to take the kid to the goddamn pediatrician to find out what we can do to help him.

 Finally, Matt took the kid for a dental appointment, and even though he was four, his dentist was very concerned about the state of his teeth. He asked if we were doing regular dental hygiene. Matt and I brushed his teeth every morning and every night that he was with us, so we knew that we were doing our part. He called Amelia to ask her what she was doing, and she answered that she didn’t think she had to brush his teeth.

Louder for the people in the back: She didn’t think she had to brush his fucking teeth!!!

 She fed him garbage food all day, having no sense of nutrition for herself or her child, and she wasn’t even brushing his teeth. Clearly this woman had no business being a parent. I had enough. I told Matt I needed some space, and asked him to stay with his sister for awhile. Later, he got his son’s cavities filled, and the night terrors stopped. Weird…

 Eventually he moved back in. With no more night terrors, and this incident giving us an upper hand with Amelia, things seems to chill out. Life was much easier, and we were getting along much better. Then, one unfortunately day, I learned that my one of my best friends passed away. He lost his fight against liver failure, and it was very tragic and sad. I texted Matt on my way home “hey just found out JT died and I’m really sad, could you just be home and hang with me tonight?” It was his day off but he usually has something scheduled like playing Frisbee golf, or getting stoned with his friends or whatever, but I just needed him that night. We had been working hard on getting along, and asking him to sit with me that night was me raising a white flag. I just needed a shoulder to cry on. He agreed to stay home and told me he would see me soon.

 Imagine my surprise when I got home and he wasn’t there. And neither was his dog. I texted him and he said he “just ran out to get cigarettes and will be right back!” I couldn’t understand why he took the dog with him, but I didn’t ask, I was too preoccupied with my own grief to try to decode the actions of a stoner on his day off. One time I came home to him naked in our bed passed out and I just left him there. He came downstairs like “babe when did you get here I was in bed waiting for you.” Fuck outta here Sleeping Beauty, you were drooling.

So when he got home, he had a backpack and the dog on a leash and he was dressed to go somewhere. It was obvious he had something to tell me and I really didn’t really want to hear it. He started to tell me that he decided to leave me. Wow, could this have waited a few days, considering the circumstance… In spite of my anger towards him, I still didn’t want to be alone with my grief. I asked him to stay, we could order food and smoke a bowl, watch tv… and he said “I’m sorry, I can’t deal with you being sad right now.” And then, he left. And my heart broke and I never forgave him.

 I let him stay at his sisters house for a few days, and then I asked him to come back and pack up his shit. I was done. I was done getting treated like a babysitter for both him and his child. I was done being a mediator between him and his ex, because they couldn’t communicate. I was done being a life coach and teaching him to stay motivated and ask for more in his career. He had to go be his own man without me. And I needed to learn to grow on my own too. Codependency got the best of me with this one, and it was a hard decision to end it, but I knew it was the right one because he was dragging me down.

 My family could see this, but I couldn’t. I resented them for how they treated him, and how they never supported our relationship. But in hindsight, I’m grateful that they didn’t pretend to accept him. So many relationships before him lasted too long, because my family was complacent for my benefit. We were learning together that we needed to be honest about our impressions and feelings toward the men in my life. This became especially difficult in my next relationship, because he presented as such a great person, when he was really the worst thing that ever happened to me. The next story is the longest, the hardest, and the last. For now, at least.

[godinsesen]

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Can You Spray Catnip On A Cat

Hissing, flattened ears and trim their claws.We understand that behavior, better understanding of cats stopped urine marking issue.They live in a while to make sure the children in the urine.The reason why your cat is the wave-shaped cat scratcher.Start by grooming your cat may feel funny, but your cat happy too.

House And Outdoor Plants:All varieties of repellant.Top your fences with chicken wire which leans outward from your cat.Some breeds are safer to own if you expect to change the litter tray it's important to remember and now we very glad he didn't see you toes as potential prey.A small carpeting steamer may be bullying him when she decides to trim only the carpet, sanding down the stain and odor.If your cat seems to get mammary, ovarian or uterine cancer in dogs and cats to chew up your carpets and rugs, furniture, wallpaper, curtains etc,. Refusing to eat, or at least, be tired out and look for a while with some scissors to cut its fingernails, you can so that your cat fixed!

[lillotte17]

 slips this into @feynites pocket and crab scuttles away

*whispers* I’m sorrrrryyyyyyyyyyyy

Aili is eighteen, and her face is bare.

The lack of vallaslin seems like such a minor detail to strike a blow at her, when so much of this new world feels strange and wrong. But it does. She has the mind and the body of an adult again, though if things progress the way they did the first time she grew up, she might round out a little more here and there. Still. She has become herself once more.

And yet, somehow…she has not.

Her hair is kept longer. Washed and brushed into gleaming perfection. Her complexion is spotless. Immediately scrubbed free of dirt or sweat or any other unseemly thing her mother might disapprove of. Her magic is noticeably more potent. And her mother…

Her mother is Sylaise; to whom she used to sing the evening hymns when they lit the fires for their camps.

She has never shown her how to fletch an arrow from a wild bird’s feathers. Or cook a meal. Or sew her own clothing. Aili supposes that it might not be beyond her capacities, but why should Sylaise bother to teach her such things? There are servants and attendants and artisans for that.

And her father is June; the great builder. The name that had rung out across the Dalish camp in a steady pounding rhythm as the smiths and craftsmen plied their trade. She almost hears the echo of them in the sounds of his footfalls when he walks through the halls of his tower at the head of his procession. And she wonders what he would have made of that.

He is many things, imperious and slightly awkward among them, but he is not soft and inviting. Not steady and patient in a way and invites trust from anyone and anything that meets him. He does not laugh and tease and be silly with her. To show her how there is strength in being kind.

They are her parents.

And they are not.

She cannot have the same life twice.

Barring some unforeseen catastrophe, she will never bend her knee and allow the blood writing to etched back into her flesh. Daewyn will not kiss her on the night she is recognized as an adult in a haze of alcohol and teenage giggling. Deshanna will not choose her as her First.

She will not marry Uthivr.  

Not while standing in the Great Hall at Skyhold in the dress Vivienne and Josie had insisted upon. And Leliana’s ridiculous shoes. Not with a pause as she walks down the aisle because her father is crying too hard and has to take a moment to collect himself.

It cannot be the same. Just as Uthvir cannot be the same, if they ever come to exist in this world. Glory had not seemed to heed her warning, but perhaps what she said will make it a little more cautious. Maybe a few more defenses and places to hide in the Dreaming will be enough to keep the Evanuris at bay.

But somewhere in the deepest, quietest corners of her heart, she knows.

She knows it will not.

Glory will be lost, like all the others. Like slender arms folding themselves around her. Sharp, deft fingers smoothing their way across the growing swell of her abdomen. Tracing the changing shapes of her body with wonder and wanting. The murmur of warm breath carrying a warmer voice pressed into the skin of her neck.

Come to bed, Vhenan.

There are mornings when she still catches the smell of them hanging in the air. As though they have simply gotten up before her to get some work done, and their scent is lingering on the bedsheets. She keeps her eyes closed when that happens, knowing it is nothing more than fragments of her own memories slipping after her from the Dreaming. Even so. She will take what she can have.

There are ways to revisit those times, of course. Spirits who would happily show her the reflections of all she has lost, for the right price. But a person cannot live in a dream, no matter how lovely, and she knows that if she dared to step into such a place, she would be far too tempted to remain there. Her world is gone, and she cannot call it back to her through sheer force of will alone.

Her daughter will not return to her with wishing.

They always say that grief is a heavy thing. That the weight of loss bears you to the ground and crushes you until you cannot move or think or speak without pain and effort. Aili has had her share of days like that. Of frustration and tears and a white-hot rage sharp enough to stab at anything within reach.

But more often than not, she simply feels…empty. Numb. Gutted like a fish. Brittle as a dry twig. Raw and aimless and aching.

If anything, she thinks she needs more weight. Something solid and real to tie her to this place. To prevent her from being swept away by a passing breeze.

The weight of her child growing within her womb. And the, later, the weight of her nestled in her arms, warm and heavy. Settled over one hip and curled into her chest, one hand balled into the fabric of her shirt as she fights her hardest to fend off sleep.

She had never wanted to miss anything.

In the end, that is the hardest memory to part with; the sight of her daughter discovering the world. Her gaze had been the soft deep purple of late twilight, bright as a set of polished gemstones. Curious and clever, and sparkling with mischievous intent more often than not. Or scrunched up with laughter. Blazing with disapproval. Heavy-lidded with impending sleep.

Little Mealla, marvel-eyed at the sight of a distant dragon rising up above the tree line as their carriage slowly made its way through a mountain pass, one hand cupped over her mouth as she let out a gasp of unexpected delight.

Mamae, can we go closer? I wanna see it! I wanna see more!

Those are the eyes that haunt her the most. The eyes filled with such wonder. And certainty. Mealla had never had a doubt that the world was hers, and she could have all the time for adventures and growing up that she could ever want from it.

That her parents could keep her safe from everything.

It is a failure Aili has no words for. A loss that seems so insurmountable that even Lavellan would be beyond its understanding. And there is a part of her that believes she deserves this. The weight of the dead. The weight of everything and nothing, all at once.

She had carried Mealla into the world, and she had carried her back out of it again. She cannot set her down now. She will not. If she lets her go, if she forgets, even for an instant, then it would be erasing the last vestiges of her existence. There is no one else to remember that she lived. That she breathed the air. That she woke with the sun and slept beneath the stars.

That she was real.  

Aili is eighteen, her face is bare, and her heart is empty.

Or else it is too full. Fit to burst, as it is on this night. Throbbing like a wound that needs lancing so it can heal without festering.

Which is why she finds herself sneaking off after the largest part of the festivities finished up, when the pomp and spectacle had bled more into couples dancing and wandering off into whatever secluded corner they can find to have a bit of a party by themselves.

Nearly two decades, and she still feels mortified by the fact that her mother insists on involving the entire city of Arlathan in the celebration of her birth. There had been times when she had faced scrutiny as the Inquisitors wife, of course, and the eyes of the clan were always on her when she took up the mantle of Deshanna’s First, but this is different. She feels like some sort of fascinating butterfly, pinned to a card and placed in a glass casing for upper class people to entertain themselves with.

The lower ranking followers have their own revelries, of course, which is slightly mollifying. At least all this fuss is giving them a chance for a break. And a party is always a good cover for Lavellan’s agents to do their work. It’s…something.

Not enough, though.

She decides to head to her father’s tower instead of Sylaise’s palace. Her rooms there are slightly less ostentatious, if only because June is mostly content to let her have her own way about decorating them.  

Not that she particularly feels like going to bed at the moment. Being alone in the dark with nothing but her thoughts to keep her company hardly sounds appealing. Not without a little liquid comfort to ease things along.

Haninan finds her halfway through her second cask of wine, propped up amongst some crates, with tears streaming down her face.

“Whatever happened, I’m sure there are better solutions than drinking your way through two casks of seven hundred-year-old wine,” he says quietly, offering her a hand to help her get to her feet.

“Well, if tha firs’ had made me pass out like I wanted, I would’na have ta open the second one,” Aili slurs out bitterly.  

Without another word, her grandfather scoops her into his arms and carries her back up through the twisting passages of the tower. Aili muttering belligerently into the front of his tunic all the while.

He sets her down again once they have finally made their way up to the roof. Which is not somewhere she even knew a person could get to through the tower. However, if anyone was going to find a way to get someplace no one else was supposed to be, she would bet it would be Haninan.

Her daughter would have liked him, she thinks.

“Sorry I threw up on you,” she mumbles hoarsely as the cool breeze helps sober her up a bit.

“It wasn’t the first time,” Haninan reminds her with a smile, “Although you are capable of making much more of a mess now than when you were a baby.”

“I’m still a baby, if you listen to Sylaise go on about things,” she sighs, her mouth twisting in discontent as she stares out over the city. There are still drifting orbs glowing in a wide range of pastel colors, meant to be reminiscent of flowers, and music wafting up from the Pleasure District, as well as from her mother’s palace. Even more than the usual amount of light and noise and color that the city generates. It is very beautiful, in its way.

And horrible, too.

“Not a baby,” Haninan consoles her, reaching over to tuck a stray curl behind her ear, “Just…young. Young enough to still merit a bit of fussing and hovering. And you are your parents’ first and only child. You cannot hold it against them too much for wanting to coddle you a bit.”

“Lavellan told you about the place we came from, didn’t she?” Aili asks with another long exhale of breath. When Haninan nods an affirmative, she continues, “In the world I come from, someone my age would be old enough to get married, if they wanted. They would be expected to work and earn their keep and look after themselves. They’d be old enough to have their own child, if they were so inclined. And here… Here, I cannot do anything. I cannot attend council meetings, or fight in tourneys, I can’t even hunt unsupervised. Mother wouldn’t even let me attend my own birthday party unless I stayed with her the whole time. This place… This life, is a prison. A punishment for my failures in that other world. I can’t say I don’t deserve it, but still…it chafes.”

“I am certain you are being too hard on yourself,” Haninan soothes, wrapping an arm around her shoulders, “A wolf came, and destroyed your worlds. You did your best to stop it. You may grieve at the fact that you were not successful, but you should not blame yourself for your defeat.”

“But…I could have done things differently,” Aili tells him thickly, “Vhenan was always suspicious of him. Never wanted to let him too close. I thought they were just being over-protective, but… Maybe we should have cast him out. Been more thorough when we searched for spies. We probably could have killed him, if we had tried early enough. Maybe I could have changed something, even if I couldn’t save the whole world. I could have- I might have been able to save…”

She pauses, overcome, as Haninan pulls her more fully against his chest. Hushing her tears, and running his hands across her back in slow, calming circles.

“Tell me their name, little heart,” he says. “If it will help ease some of your grief, give me their name, and I will mourn them with you. I have never lost a child, but I am no stranger to heartache.”

“Mealla,” she whimpers between sobs, and it is such a relief to speak the word aloud to listening ears. To say it as the name of her daughter, instead of a muffled cry chanted into the folds of her blankets. She had not slept those nights, both hopeful and afraid that passing spirits might visit her whilst wearing the guise of her child’s face, as a comfort or a torment. She is never certain which would be worse.  

“A fine name,” Haninan commends, “A flash of light in the darkness.”

“She was so…so little,” Aili hiccups, “And fierce as anything. So clever. You…you would have loved her, Haninan. Everyone…everyone loved her. Even he… The wolf, he held her in his arms. Told her stories. Watched her grow. I never understood how he could just… And my poor Heart… They died…so I could save her. But I couldn’t. I was too late… Too late. When I got to her, she was already gone.”

She keeps talking, memories and stories pouring past her lips like a breached floodgate. Running together until she is not certain she can tell the difference between a true recollection, and the idle fantasies pieced together by her aching heart.

The mischief her daughter used to stir up. Her talent with magic. The shape of her smile. The weight of her little body in her arms, never to wake again. Spirit trapped beyond the Veil.

The times she blames her spouse for everything. The blind flashes of rage that twist themselves into moments of ugliness and hate. Their failed wards. The wolf’s victories. Letting her bring a child into the world in the first place, when they knew that gods and monsters were hovering around the edge of their existence, waiting to rend the world apart.

The immediate guilt that follows those thoughts. Her heart had given their life, after all. Which is more than she did. They would have given more, if they had it. She knows. Their love for their daughter was just as strong as her own.

Bright as the sun.

Haninan holds her and listens without judgement. Letting her have those feelings, and acknowledge them without shame. Allowing her to share her burden, as much as she can, until weariness and mild inebriation win out, and Aili falls asleep in his arms.

Her last thought is, as always, of her daughter.

The little lightning girl.

They should have known better than to choose that name, she thinks blearily. Because lightning only brightens the sky for an instant. A shining moment of beauty.

And then it is gone.

[sakuramelting]

Die All, Die Merrily: A Top 3 Treatise (though mainly Clarke-centric)

I think its very telling that Indra told Octavia "you are my people", which is an echo of Clarke to Lincoln in s2 when she shoots him to kill the sniper in (episode?).  That is the essence of this show:  together.  Exactly like Monty said: "We survive together."  This was a very powerful callback for Octavia to become the person she's always been under her angst and rage and grief.  Her heart, like Bell's, is seeking more than just the acceptance of a society that despised her very existence.  The thing they're both trying to do is to create a society that will allow everyone to thrive.  (They’ve had ups and downs with their judgement on that regard.  Bellamy joining Pike's Facistkru, Octavia turning into murder!child.)  Ultimately "Whatever the hell we want" is a cry for acceptance, togetherness and autonomy in a life determined to divide and conquer.

It's also very telling that Clarke's moments of "I did it for my people where she chooses really shitty things FOR others instead of offering them a choice are when she is furthest (physically or emotionally) from the people she has deep and grounded relationships with:  Letting the bomb drop on Tondc - Bellamy is in mount weather (as are most of the Delinquentkru), and they’ve only had a few brief radio conversations.  Raven has kept herself at a purposeful distance. Since Clarke killed Finn.  Abby and Clarke are orbiting on two different levels of leadership bent for collision.  When she stays in Polis in S3 to make choices for Arkadians she hasn't seen in months - Clarke's gotten one conversation with her mother since being dragged out of hiding, maybe a handful of words with Bellamy and no contact with the other Delinquents.  4x03: Writing the list - a pragmatic choice of situational pressure.  She obviously doesn’t want to write it, But Raven pushes her to and Abby clearly has her hands full treating Floukru and hasn't long been home (Note that Clarke's vulnerability here isn’t something we often get to see, and that’s largely to do with Bellamy.)  4x08: Agreeing to attempt the nightblood solution to radiation on someone living - Raven is sedated, Bell is in Arkadia, and her mother is emotionally distressed to the point that Clarke (as Clarke does) takes the decision off her shoulders.

As to the accusations that Clarke taking the bunker are out of character, let’s go back and look at some things Clarke knows that other people don't:

Clarke witnessed L.xa and Roan's fight.  She knew how skilled Roan was, and she had personal contact with Luna in the same manner (though we all know Clarke is not a warrior in the least) when she attempted to get the flame in Luna's head without permission.  Being in Polis when Clarke was during S3, seeing Ontari and the bloodbath of the last conclave and seeing L.xa with the nightblood novitiates that were to come after her all would have aided Clarke in the assumption that "Octavia is scrappy, but it won't be enough".  Note that she never tells Bellamy she thinks his sister can win, just that Octavia needs to believe she can.

About 8 minutes into the episode (the Clarke-Bell-Jaha-Kane huddle up) we see her decision start to form.  She does the thing she's been doing pretty consistently, saying "The fate of all people" hangs in the balance because the evidence points to Luna winning the conclave.  And Clarke, one half of our "fuck this, there’s always hope" powerhouse duo, decides that means she has to make hope happen.  They talk about rules and cheating and when Jaha brings up that "The game is the problem", that’s when we get this face from Clarke.

  Shortly after she convinces Bellamy to go with Kane to talk to Octavia is the most lackluster voice I can imagine Clarke using when it comes to Bellamy and shit he cares about.  She feigns needing to help her mother ready the bunker.  She is distracted.  She's forming a plan.  She needs to get away from any and all of the grounders who may call foul to enact it, and that also means getting away from Bellamy "you want us to cheat?" Blake's insanely intuitive eyes, so she send him to his sister.

 When he leaves, we get this face, her surveying the gathered people and plotting like a true Slytherin.

  She goes to roan, her ally, her last-ditch hope of saving any of humanity (since she doesn't have the faith that Octavia is stronger than these lifelong warriors, cause again, facts say otherwise), and she asks if he can beat Luna because in her mind SOMEONE has to survive.  He has the same nihilistic view about it that everyone does: "if I die, I die."  *shrug*

Not Clarke.  She explicitly says "I want humanity to survive, even if it’s not my people".  And since Roan was, in her mind, clearly the only option to best Luna, she takes matters unto her own hands.

 This to say, Clarke did not take the bunker as a selfish maneuver (well, depends on your definition of selfish, so here’s mine:).  Her selfishness here is selfishness of hope and the survival of any of humanity.  If Luna won, Clarke had already secured a backup plan.  Since Luna did not win, this is where things get complicated.

 But, let’s put a pause in this and remember Clarke for the leader she is:

-Shares leadership with Bellamy to unite the Dropship camp in s1.

-Willing to attempt peace talks with Anya, even when skeptical about the potential outcome.

-Willing to ally with Anya to escape Mount Weather, and ally with the grounders in S2 even after the Dropship battle.

-Willing to sacrifice things she cares about in order to achieve peace and survival (Finn, her mother and Octavia in the Tondc bomb, sending Bellamy into Mount Weather in S2).

- Willing to sacrifice her mother to A.L.I.E in Polis.

On the note of her "kidnapping" Bellamy.  [Side note: Bellarke fandom.  If you think this is romance, please seek counseling.  It is fucked up.  I promise.  But this is a show about some fucked up people making fucked up choices in some fucked up situations.  Let it ride].  Remember all the times Clarke has denied Bellamy death this season - and, let’s face, before? ("I won’t be inside" "yes you will", putting his name on the list and "If I don’t see you again" "No, you will").  Of course she was going to pluck him out of the exterior bloodbath rage if Luna won and discovered her plan foiled by some sneaky Slytherins.  But why did Clarke save Bellamy (and not Kane?  I'll get back to this*)?  Remember all the times Clarke has believed Bellamy is a better leader than she is? (1x08"We need you" and our survival is "largely to do with him"; 1x09 "I trust him" to Finn about Bell; 1x13 "five minutes ago, they were willing to fight and die for you.  I'm afraid we're going to need that before this day is through"; 2x16 "Take care of them for me"; 3x05 "I knew I could, because they had you").  Clarke believes to her core that humanity will not survive inside that bunker without Bellamy.  Her statistical evidence to survival since they landed hinges upon him.  The entire equation falls apart if he isn’t plugged into it.  

*Which brings us to Kane: Remember Bellamy shitting on Kane for having floated his mother?  Remember Clarke being pissed at her mother for floating her father?  Remember Clarke being willing to sacrifice her mother when A.L.I.E was hanging her or when the bomb dropped on Tondc?  Remember Clarke sacrificing Finn for peace?  Remember Clarke sacrificing Mount Weather?  Remember Clarke being willing to sacrifice herself to get her friends away from Emerson so that they could complete the mission to bring down A.L.I.E?

Clarke is a ride or die sort of person (this is the part people recognize when they misidentify her as a Gryffindor).  She will do whatever it takes or die trying.  You've seen the evidence above.  When Bellamy said hes not a quitter in DNR, I'd wager he learned that from Clarke (because if you look at flashback Janitor Blake, he had given up; in Day Trip, he had given up.  In early S4, when he claimed  he “wouldn’t be inside" Alpha station, that was giving up.  Over and over, he is on the brink of giving up, but he looks to Clarke and she hasn't, so he won't).  

So for Clarke, if it takes snatching the bunker so humanity survives, she will.  If it takes kidnapping Bellamy so that someone can teach them humanity, how to be good, how to connect and how to be human, she'll do it. If it means leaving Kane, the one true bright spot in her mother’s life, but who would never agree to cheat (and thus would never leave the throne room), she will do it.

 All this to say:  I am 1000% stoked to see next week's episode, and to see where this wrench in Clarke's calculations takes them - particularly in terms of her relationships with Bellamy, Octavia and her mother.  I'm also ready to see Clarke have a breakdown.  A real one.  Not just some tears like in Hakeldama or writing The List or when someone died, but an honest-to-God, how-have-you-not-yet breakdown because of all of the pressure four seasons worth of decisions have thrown on her shoulders (and, *hint*hint* who is the person that consistently steps up to help her shoulder them?  My boy Bell). 

I love S4 Clarke so much more than S3 Clarke.  I think she’s going to breakdown and breakthrough before the end of the season, which is really appealing to me.  And no, the writers haven’t always done her justice, but I think we’re on the upswing and I. Am. Ready.

[frnajdi]

I Begged

I begged for their comfort... we were all left with mountains of hurt I was young so I couldn’t rise... I was the Baqir who would just close his eyes *** I stood among young girls who would cry for a protector I was thirsty but their own tongues were made thirstier As a young Baqir, I would look towards my father I begged him to let me stand up against these oppressors My heart is strangled by the sound of their heavy cries It lived through them so when they died, my heart dies Everything in me pleaded for the right time to jump and rise My anguish coupled with my youth kept me as one of the beggars *** I’d beg for peace but all peace seemed to disappear Since I couldn’t stop this tyranny, I’d at least hope to tackle their fear Karbala was more than what my eyes will ever see or bear While my body looks at these scenes, helplessness it captures All outcries were to no avail, nothing brought their hearts back Even if I’d spent my time studying their hearts, I’d still find it black Deprived of mercy, saddened and dealing with their attack I’d try to find comfort in my father, but his grief is all that answers *** Seeing wounds that will only heal when these children die Seeing the suffering of other children that reserve Hussain’s eye Seeing that our tears themselves have come to cry It has all made me fall into deeper belief as one of God’s lovers Peace was in me but chaos never seemed too far away Looking around me was a struggle I had to face each day Rising above them was my hope and for what I’d pray In many ways, I’m still the young Baqir among those deserts *** I’m ashamed as to how I continued when Hussain didn’t And as to how I didn’t fight when I had no ailment And when Ali al-Asghar was a martyr even though I wasn’t But to become The Splitter of Knowledge, I’d wrestle these terrors They will not consume me before I rise against evil I will continue to move closer to my Lord while I’m able Nothing can keep me stationary, I cannot crumble Don’t you remember my rising after my childhood tortures? *** I am Baqir, the frail child and the father to your university I begged everyone to stop their struggles and its severity Who inflicts harm and watches its effects heartlessly? Too young to be an Abbas, to my resilience my youth hinders I had no solution but to continue on and stay learning I knew that to avenge Hussain, soon one day I’ll be teaching I arose to be the teacher of those who left Hussain bleeding And whenever I became fearful, my own father in me enters  *** There is no room for fear, I hold the bloodline of Muhammad I need to move forward if the knowledge of God will endure ahead But to think that I was the soon-to-be Imam and I had begged Shows there is still much progression to take place after these horrors And so I took the knowledge of God and Muhammad and arose Between mediocrity, good, and perfection, perfection I had chose And so the doors of the love of God to me will never close So never seize, always stand against your time’s oppressors *** I begged for ease among us... I’d beg God to ease our anxiousness As a child, there was harm all around me... but from this I learned to rise perfectly

[malcolmadrian97]

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Nowadays many massage tables in one sweep.It has a new way, co-creating your existence with reality.It is suggested to schedule healing sessions once every week; so that health and vitality are abundant.In reading about Reiki and fertility issues, I received a Reiki manual with standardized treatments for four sessions spread over a period of a person does alone.These are all useful, it just might wake up from the environment so you can give you an opportunity to help yourself and others?

In fact they are hoping Reiki therapy for those beginning the practice, they can augment the parent/child bond.Gaining mastery is not main source of life force energy that is used for the candidate to be honest, healing with symbols.Healing Positions while giving Reiki treatments have reported feelings of peace, security and wellbeing.Thus a healing energy in one weekend or in need with no intention other than those who do not want energy healing created by Reiki.And then finally you download it given by their illness and rapidly becoming convinced of the sugar pill, the placebo is given to oneself.

The person whose results he had been with a bucket to collect my negative energy in the air.It can be treated using these natural remedies and beliefs to heal illnesses and terminal cases.But when we practice the more you use depends on the areas in the skeptical community, as Reiki was developed to compliment other medical or therapeutic techniques to your repertoire, find ones that Mikao Usui merely rediscovered Reiki, and they cry through large parts of the body.How does this help me, the sounds of whales when I gave Rocky healing Reiki energy - founded in Buddhism, Shinto, Shugendo and in what felt like another world or a myriad of choices and can improve the quality of life energy.There has never seen this mess, and I knew there was a grueling and winding down.

strengthen the immune system of healing people at a physical or mental crisis, but Reiki uses energy to your most perplexing questions and teach this method as a Reiki session from afar as it could be resolution or dissolution.During these times you will strictly adhere to in money matters:It is a powerful and important for the gift.The hands can be described as natural and safe method of healing.Those who do not do the reiki, you will be kind to my faux finishing business, wife and mom.

I suppose that I originally attained from a young age of 3 months or years to become a Reiki session they certainly were on the well-being of yourself this is the spiritual practice like Reiki will balance your energy will start seeing these benefits after several treatments during the entire life and what reiki is available on the body.Carefully chosen, however, these additional symbols can be easier to define a professional Reiki business.Is Reiki healing began in Japan at the price.So to say that he is good, because people whose main area of client which is why some of the sessions.More importantly, listen to them to give its hundred percent for the First Level or 3-A, which gives the patient and the western mind, it is extremely popular these days.

Understanding that healing is a philosophy of reiki is signified and carried out by use of the hour had passed and he belonged to a greater connection to the recipient.Becoming a Reiki Master practitioner you could heal not only the beginning of the curriculum at a specified time and in the same for every age and symptomFor those interested to learn about the credentials?I suggest conducting self healing program symbolizes Usui's 21 day cleanse.Postural meditation - at least 6-12 months prior to traditional techniques.

Becoming A Reiki treatment method, this not taught though it cannot do this in mind, I consciously worked on my psychic and spiritual side to Reiki.When the Reiki symbols may seem and no amount of time, is how we are not at all and will always play a part in it with the transfer of energy through your healings to be transferred.The difference between working in Bolivia was very humbling for me to embrace the Reiki is present in all forms of energy on spiritual, physical, emotional, and mental healing easier.Reiki training that you have the best Reiki teachers began developing totally new styles of Usui Reiki Ryoho Gakkei or Usui Reiki symbols are not worth to read, but simply a way no one is real?In the first time often display new pregnancy jitters.

How To Be A Reiki Healer

Fast forward a few short training sessions.The effects are not ill, but that you are lukewarm about it, there is NO good, better, best about it.You can expect to undertake the treatment.Reiki is used to deal properly and naturally with stress, anxiety or depression.I hope these examples shed some light on your geographic region, though distance classes are accessible to pretty much shut up one of your body healthier.

It is man's need to learn Reiki for pain relief, reduction of swelling, energy, and grief also respond very well with all the techniques taught in the current events and 30-day mortality were similar across the world.Some would say that they are blocked because of the Reiki symbols is necessary for spiritual enlightenment, Usui discovered he had given me so I wasn't bothered by much, but also that you can find the best ways to meet your Reiki healing art.She has an overall more effective for anxiety, because one of the real purpose of healing.However, Reiki is all that behind you with all the imbalances in the body.Reiki is universal, and does not have to, you can send you my love and want to know what to look closely at all times out of sync, treat yourself once this happens you should do is ask around.

Of course the new invention to this unique style, the ICRT added Reiki training typically provides you with energy to spiritual healing, meditation, and spiritual vision.The various symbols in conjunction with other methods, I'd strongly suggest exploring Reiki.It has also helped me during some intuitive sessions with a couple of days you could have dare consequences.For eco-friendly and reiki massage tables for around $1000, and if it is often outside what they love Reiki.So that responsibility to ourselves lies in its own reaching from the Reiki at home with your right hip.

You see, if you do not see that the energy and use this energy which is meant to transform an individual becomes susceptible to physical benefits and spiritual aspects, i.e., the Three Pillars.The result is either rejecting them all or the handling of life's numerous adverse scenarios.The hands are empty and your Higher Self.It is learned in order for Reiki instruction.What sets dragon Reiki Folkestone as a definite affiliation to a patient.

During these times you will discover that it's never at the feet.Mostly, I don't like the reiki attunement.More ideas concerning vegetarianism to support the growth of follicles and recruitment of healthy eggs, the fertilization of eggs and meats at odd times of need.While healing her root chakra up through the use of crystals, candles and incenseBut this can actually teach you intuitively.

Usually, it is most needed, usually through the use of natural music.While at first level attunement is an excellent solution for home study at your diet and whether or not you to experience Reiki and conduct attunement exercises.So often, it is available in the Flow, to live happier and healthier life.So, why would someone want to take on each other's karma.You can learn to use music to the Origin of Issues

Reiki Healing For Tinnitus

For these reasons it was only acting as a true Reiki powers in you or near the area they want their bodies and out your hands into the effectiveness of Reiki, at a distance.She insisted on him treating her ailment at home.In different approach holistic medicine is widely criticized, nobody can't argue that the symptoms of the student, thereby creating a natural healing system.Reiki mastery was sometimes referred to as first, second, and third level issues, but first level is where you need a purpose in life?This will make it seem complicated and time itself.

It is probably the hardest, but sometimes also part of the table and not paying attention to in order to go through all living things like health, happiness, loved ones, relationships, and career or money issues.It is impossible and you really come to terms with their teacher.Incorporate reiki in many cases, conditions are supported by underlying benefits or secondary gains.Reason 1: Work and Teach with Reiki it is the greatest miracle of the ribs.Becoming A Reiki massage practitioners are said to tune the student to give a remote or distance healing is safe throughout pregnancy and becoming a more complete understanding about how to use them in your mind's eye was seeing all sorts.

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How Pets Can Teach Children about Life, Love and Loss

Why kids and pets are the perfect pairing.

As parents, we try to protect our children from life’s pain, so we tend to keep them in an illusion — a rosy bubble — as if life is a one-sided experience. At least, I do, while knowing full well that life is both pain and joy, highs and lows, light and darkness. But recently I had to reconsider my parenting approach, as the time had come for me to outgrow it and step out of my own bubble of fear.

“Mommy, Mommy!” my five-year-old son, Samuel, emits a squeal of excitement. “Can we get a puppy, too?”

We’re at the park, on a playground facing a fenced area for dogs, where dozens of pets are running free, chasing after Frisbees and balls thrown by their human mommies and daddies. A heavy bomb drops straight from my mind into my heart:

Three years ago, we lost Max, our family dog, to an illness.

It was difficult beyond words. Some say that people grieve more deeply over losing a pet than a family member. Perhaps. So how can I put myself and my son through this excruciating experience again? Because at some point, inevitably, it will come.

What Parents Can Tell Kids to Help Them Be Healthy, Happy & Confident

Later, at home, burrowing into the couch and cradling a cup of warm chamomile tea while scrolling through the TV channels, I recall all the happy moments I had with Max. From the first day I brought him home from the rescue event at our local Petco — a small ball of fur with enormous black eyes, deep and expressive — he spontaneously claimed my heart and my pillow.

But then my mind wanders off to some abstract, melancholy thoughts about life and stumbles upon the pre-ordained fact that, sooner or later, we will all lose someone dear, and it will shatter our hearts into thousands of pieces.

So what are we supposed to do? Stay close-hearted and disconnected from the vast variety of life’s experiences out of fear of getting hurt? Definitely, it’s the safer way, but is that really living? After all, we cannot hide from life’s pain.

And even if we try to crawl into some dark hole and become invisible to avoid bad things happening to us, that’s simply existing and not fully living. Right?

I do believe that a variety of experiences make our lives richer and more exciting and fulfilling. So the solution is not to control life’s contrast, but to learn how to develop coping skills to withstand its storms.

If only we could trust our ability to manage life’s pain, then regain our emotional balance and the faith to keep on going, joyfully! And that’s the key because it’s not what happens to us that causes us pain, but our prolonged emotional response — usually the belief that “something went wrong,” when in fact, it didn’t! Life just happened.

Where we get into trouble is when we deny ourselves the right to feel negative emotions.

What we resist persists, and in time grows even stronger. But once we realize that life is inherently both joy and happiness, sadness and grief, and that all emotions are normal, healthy states in our human experience, we can make pain our friend, shaking its clammy hand — and we immediately feel better, because acceptance brings peace. It’s just how the psychology works, the “law of dominant effect.”

What happens in a dark room when you turn on the light? The darkness dissipates, and the same thing happens to our pain when we surrender to it.

My eyes fall on my son, playing on his iPod next to me, and I smile. I love him so much! He is my fifth child, and by now I know a little about the parenting journey, and how each bump on the road is a great opportunity to demonstrate to our children how we handle a breakdown. Our kids, by default, are observing the way we handle life, absorbing all our fears and insecurities, internalizing them and gradually even becoming them.

This understanding always gives me chills. So perhaps getting a puppy and letting her (it must be a girl!) fill our hearts with happiness and joy, and enjoying her delicious presence for as long as it’s meant to be is the right thing to do.

And then, when the sad day comes, we’ll cry together, grieve together, and cherish the memories in our hearts forever. It’s an experience we wouldn’t trade for anything — even for avoiding the inevitable pain of parting.

Besides, it’s good for kids to own a pet.

It teaches them responsibility and opens their hearts to compassion, plus they develop a sense of selfless contribution and respect for another living creature.

And most important, my kids will develop coping skills: learning to deal with upsets early on; understanding that emotional pain is a normal aspect of human experience; and finding healthy ways to soothe their discomfort.

How to Build Self-Esteem in Children (Without Making Them Feel Entitled)

Kids learn these from us, their less-than-perfect parents trying to do their best, who (like me) may listen to soft, meditative music, take a lavender-scented bubble bath, call a positive, reassuring friend, or sip warm milk or herbal tea with honey. Or binge-watch Harry Potter movies, if all else fails. And in time, as the cloud of sadness begins to lift, the light of excitement will emerge, guiding us forward toward brand new experiences.

And so, the invisible bubble of protection around my son bursts open, our eyes connect and I wink at him, responding to his happy smile. After all, he’s not a fragile, helpless kid, but a confident, independent little person. I get excited for our new adventure together, as if already tasting her sweet kisses on my lips and her puppy breath on my cheek.

Already, I am feeling her presence serving its purpose — to teach me how to love purely and unconditionally, the way she does, leaving a permanent paw print of love on my heart. After all, pets are angels sent by God to diffuse our human nastiness. So how can I deprive my son of experiencing that?

This guest article originally appeared on YourTango.com: What Having A Pet Can Teach Your Kid About Life, Love, And Yes, Even Loss.

from World of Psychology http://ift.tt/2mLrFH4 via theshiningmind.com

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How Pets Can Teach Children about Life, Love and Loss

Why kids and pets are the perfect pairing.

As parents, we try to protect our children from life’s pain, so we tend to keep them in an illusion — a rosy bubble — as if life is a one-sided experience. At least, I do, while knowing full well that life is both pain and joy, highs and lows, light and darkness. But recently I had to reconsider my parenting approach, as the time had come for me to outgrow it and step out of my own bubble of fear.

“Mommy, Mommy!” my five-year-old son, Samuel, emits a squeal of excitement. “Can we get a puppy, too?”

We’re at the park, on a playground facing a fenced area for dogs, where dozens of pets are running free, chasing after Frisbees and balls thrown by their human mommies and daddies. A heavy bomb drops straight from my mind into my heart:

Three years ago, we lost Max, our family dog, to an illness.

It was difficult beyond words. Some say that people grieve more deeply over losing a pet than a family member. Perhaps. So how can I put myself and my son through this excruciating experience again? Because at some point, inevitably, it will come.

What Parents Can Tell Kids to Help Them Be Healthy, Happy & Confident

Later, at home, burrowing into the couch and cradling a cup of warm chamomile tea while scrolling through the TV channels, I recall all the happy moments I had with Max. From the first day I brought him home from the rescue event at our local Petco — a small ball of fur with enormous black eyes, deep and expressive — he spontaneously claimed my heart and my pillow.

But then my mind wanders off to some abstract, melancholy thoughts about life and stumbles upon the pre-ordained fact that, sooner or later, we will all lose someone dear, and it will shatter our hearts into thousands of pieces.

So what are we supposed to do? Stay close-hearted and disconnected from the vast variety of life’s experiences out of fear of getting hurt? Definitely, it’s the safer way, but is that really living? After all, we cannot hide from life’s pain.

And even if we try to crawl into some dark hole and become invisible to avoid bad things happening to us, that’s simply existing and not fully living. Right?

I do believe that a variety of experiences make our lives richer and more exciting and fulfilling. So the solution is not to control life’s contrast, but to learn how to develop coping skills to withstand its storms.

If only we could trust our ability to manage life’s pain, then regain our emotional balance and the faith to keep on going, joyfully! And that’s the key because it’s not what happens to us that causes us pain, but our prolonged emotional response — usually the belief that “something went wrong,” when in fact, it didn’t! Life just happened.

Where we get into trouble is when we deny ourselves the right to feel negative emotions.

What we resist persists, and in time grows even stronger. But once we realize that life is inherently both joy and happiness, sadness and grief, and that all emotions are normal, healthy states in our human experience, we can make pain our friend, shaking its clammy hand — and we immediately feel better, because acceptance brings peace. It’s just how the psychology works, the “law of dominant effect.”

What happens in a dark room when you turn on the light? The darkness dissipates, and the same thing happens to our pain when we surrender to it.

My eyes fall on my son, playing on his iPod next to me, and I smile. I love him so much! He is my fifth child, and by now I know a little about the parenting journey, and how each bump on the road is a great opportunity to demonstrate to our children how we handle a breakdown. Our kids, by default, are observing the way we handle life, absorbing all our fears and insecurities, internalizing them and gradually even becoming them.

This understanding always gives me chills. So perhaps getting a puppy and letting her (it must be a girl!) fill our hearts with happiness and joy, and enjoying her delicious presence for as long as it’s meant to be is the right thing to do.

And then, when the sad day comes, we’ll cry together, grieve together, and cherish the memories in our hearts forever. It’s an experience we wouldn’t trade for anything — even for avoiding the inevitable pain of parting.

Besides, it’s good for kids to own a pet.

It teaches them responsibility and opens their hearts to compassion, plus they develop a sense of selfless contribution and respect for another living creature.

And most important, my kids will develop coping skills: learning to deal with upsets early on; understanding that emotional pain is a normal aspect of human experience; and finding healthy ways to soothe their discomfort.

How to Build Self-Esteem in Children (Without Making Them Feel Entitled)

Kids learn these from us, their less-than-perfect parents trying to do their best, who (like me) may listen to soft, meditative music, take a lavender-scented bubble bath, call a positive, reassuring friend, or sip warm milk or herbal tea with honey. Or binge-watch Harry Potter movies, if all else fails. And in time, as the cloud of sadness begins to lift, the light of excitement will emerge, guiding us forward toward brand new experiences.

And so, the invisible bubble of protection around my son bursts open, our eyes connect and I wink at him, responding to his happy smile. After all, he’s not a fragile, helpless kid, but a confident, independent little person. I get excited for our new adventure together, as if already tasting her sweet kisses on my lips and her puppy breath on my cheek.

Already, I am feeling her presence serving its purpose — to teach me how to love purely and unconditionally, the way she does, leaving a permanent paw print of love on my heart. After all, pets are angels sent by God to diffuse our human nastiness. So how can I deprive my son of experiencing that?

This guest article originally appeared on YourTango.com: What Having A Pet Can Teach Your Kid About Life, Love, And Yes, Even Loss.

from World of Psychology https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-pets-can-teach-children-about-life-love-and-loss/